THE TRUTH ABOUT SCOLDING***

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Scold: v. to communicate punishment for a bad and/or wrong behavior(s) frequently with anger and/or being judgmental and sometimes with threats of punishment

Many parents frequently scold offspring. They have made a usually impulsive judgment that the offspring have done something bad and/or wrong and express their disapproval in a rather angry punishing tone of voice.

Sometimes the scolding is accompanied with threats of punishment to create a little fear so that the behavior is not repeated again another time. For very young offspring threatened punishment may be a spanking for very serious offenses such as fighting, stealing, and lying if isolation techniques don’t work but for older ones threatening to withdraw a privilege is a perfectly acceptable threat.

Unfortunately this scolding behavior is sometimes used on adults and teenagers with undesirable consequences because many adults and teenagers don’t want to be treated like a child and criticized in an angry tone of voice which frequently leads to arguments and defensive actions for such unjust treatment.

If you are smart then you will limit your scolding to young offspring once in a while when they really deserve a punishing angry tone of voice for doing something really very bad and/or wrong.

Judgmental anger expressed verbally is not only highly aggressive bordering on violence but it is a form of punishment which adults and teenagers frequently rebel against. If you add to your anger and threaten an adult with punishment then it will only make the reaction more rebellious and angry. Don’t scold adults and teenagers but try to frequently discuss disagreements and problems without an angry tone of voice.

 

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THE 4 MAJOR SOURCES OF UNHAPPINESS!!!

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A bad job, bad finances, bad relationships, and bad attitude are the major sources of unhappiness.

If you have a bad job then change to another location or employer and if you are still unhappy then learn new skills and knowledge and get a better job.

If you have bad finances then learn to budget what little money you have or train for or get a job which pays more.

If you are in a bad relationship then you can always break it off or get a divorce or you can learn better social skills and try again.  Lying and adultery will ruin most relationships. TOO MUCH arguing, complaining, blaming, stubbornness, criticizing, greed, unfriendliness, gluttony, pride, vengefulness, promiscuousness, workaholism, gossiping, and a bad attitude will cause relationship problems so learn to change those bad social habits.

Physical abuse and severe addictions will ruin most relationships but the above characteristics in excess and sometimes in medium amounts will cause much emotional distress which should be avoided if you want a good relationship.

If you have a bad attitude then learn to make the necessary adjustments. Don’t hold grudges, don’t worry so much, don’t dwell on past mistakes and problems or bad experiences, don’t stress yourself out on trivial things, don’t be jealous or envious of others, stop making excuses for your failings, don’t be so pessimistic, don’t live in fear, don’t believe in tricks, magic pills, or instant solutions to make life better, and don’t live in the past.

For bad relationships you can search my free blogs and find advice for dating, parenting, marriage, selfmotivation, and communicating effectively or read my evergreen truth books LOVEALL,   MODERN PARENTING, and GOOD MODERN BEHAVIORS.

For help on budgeting your money wisely read my evergreen truth book HOW TO SAVE MONEY. It is really about radically changing your life to a thrifty one by budgeting and saving up money to buy the things which you really need or want without going into stupid debt and paying or wasting money on outrageous interest rates on credit card debt.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT SEIZING***

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Seize: v. to get control of and/or possession of suddenly and forcibly

Yank a toy from an offspring, quickly pick up a young toddler dangerously headed for a pool, and reposes a car with a driver behind the wheel are all examples of seizing something suddenly and forcibly.

Search and seizure is a phrase used in police work where some possession such as illegal drugs or a weapon or a criminal is suddenly taken or arrested or seized.

A machine with moving parts can also seize and stop working because a moving part becomes immobilized or frozen.

The phrases “seize the moment” and “seize the day” are also used to convey the message that you are taking control of the moment or day or trying to intensely control the activities of the moment or day. You can suddenly seize the moment but it is questionable whether you can seize an entire day so that phrase is not really very accurate in describing what you are doing during the whole day.

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SHARING 22 BEAUTIFUL WATERFALLS BIG AND SMALL!!!

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SHARING 52 BEAUTIFUL WATERFALLS BIG AND SMALL!!!

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This photo was shot during a research trip to Scotland in October 2014.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT SELFMOTIVATION***

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Selfmotivation: n. motivated by one’s (desire(s) and/or emotion(s)) and/or (need(s) and/or belief(s)) and/or past experience(s) which activate and/or prevent one’s behavior(s) and/or the force(s) and brain which activates you to pursue an old and/or new goal(s)

Selfmotivation is the result of your desires, emotions, needs, beliefs, and past experiences which all relatively impulsively guide you into doing a behavior or not doing it. Selfmotivation is also the force and brain which activates you to achieve your old and/or new goal(s).

Selfmotivation is unique in every individual because each one has differences in the kind and intensity of the desires, emotions, needs, beliefs, and past experiences. Most humans share common desires, emotions, needs, beliefs, and least of all past experiences so there is much variation from one to another human and there are relatively large differences in the emotional attachment to the common desires, needs, beliefs, and past experiences.

External motivating factors trigger many of our behaviors but individual reactions to these external motivators differ widely from person to person in many cases.

Quite a few, especially the poor and some very rich, are motivated by the lottery and gambling in general. Others aware of the odds against winning have no interest at all in gambling and are not motivated.

We are all motivated to eat but what we eat varies widely from one to another person. Most of us are motivated to work but the kind of job that we work in varies widely and shapes our view of the world to a large extent.

How we behave is determined by a relatively complex mix of external and internal motivators which will never be subject to mathematical formulation because the badly defined variables are simply too great in number and vagueness to be codified mathematically. Statistical norms and big data can be studied extensively in an attempt to predict human behavior or find out what motivates a human but there will never be 100% accuracy in the predictions or a certainty of what a human will do next even when confronted with the same stimuli.

Media brainwashing, indoctrination, advertising, and education is an attempt to control selfmotivation and it works in a general sense to tame the human beast and keep society interacting relatively orderly and peaceably.

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32 SMART THINGS GREAT LEADERS SAY FREQUENTLY!!!

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Leaders should be short, sincere, and to the point in their communications but each of these phrases can be embellished with added words when it seems the appropriate thing to do.

 

Leaders offer earned or justified praise to their workers which is a very good motivational tool. You can personalize praise and adjust it to a sports fan by using phrases such as home run and touchdown but it is not very appropriate for female employees:

Congratulations!

Thank you

Great job

Nice work

You earned it

You outdid yourself

I’ll remember this forever

I’m proud of you

I couldn’t do it better

It’s new but I like it

You’re the best at that

 

Leaders admit when they’re wrong or made a mistake. When both are responsible for the failure they share the blame:

I’m sorry

I’m wrong; your right

I apologize

My fault, sorry

Let’s learn from this

We’ll do it right next time

 

Leaders affirm that they are a source of help if needed:

You can count on me

I’ll try my best

I’m here to help

I’ll help if needed

It’s my pleasure

I’ll support you

Let’s check your data

 

Leaders remind a worker of his or her importance:

I’m listening

I believe in you

Back me up

I need you

You come highly recommended

Make a suggestion

 

Leaders delay a conversation for latter when pressed for time or when no immediate answer is possible:

Let’s table that topic for now!

We’ll get back to this later!

Let’s discuss this further at a later time!

 

 

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