7 TIPS FOR CREATING GOOD RELATIONSHIPS AMONGST OFFSPRING


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  1. DON’T TRY TO CREATE A COMPETITIVE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN OFFSPRING.

OFFSPRING SHOULD COOPERATE WITH ONE ANOTHER AND HELP EACH OTHER OUT IN TIMES OF NEED SO DON’T COMPARE THE EXCELLENT ACHIEVEMENTS OF ONE WITH THE NOT SO GOOD ACHIEVEMENTS OF THE OTHER AND MOTIVATE THE AVERAGE ACHIEVER TO DO BETTER.

EACH WILL HAVE THEIR OWN STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES AND YOU SHOULD NOT CREATE A FEELING OF INADEQUACY IN THE WEAKER OFFSPRING.

  1. AVOID STEREOTYPING ONE OFFSPRING WITH GENERALIZED LABELS SUCH AS YOU ARE THE BEAUTIFUL ONE OR THE ATHLETIC ONE OR THE SMART ONE OR THE PERFECT ONE.

DON’T PUT BAD LABELS ON YOUR OFFSPRING SUCH AS YOU ARE THE STUPID ONE OR THE SPOILED ONE OR THE BADLY BEHAVED ONE OR THE CARELESS ONE OR THE CLUMSY ONE OR THE MESSY ONE ETC.

REALIZE THAT THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE IN DOING STUPID AND MESSY AND BAD BEHAVIORS ONCE IN A WHILE WHICH SHOULD NOT BE CONSIDERED TO BE THINGS THAT ARE GOING ON ALL THE TIME.

YOU SHOULD REMIND YOUR OFFSPRING THAT YOU LOVE THEM BUT ARE JUSTIFIED IN GETTING ANGRY OR UPSET WHEN THEY MISBEHAVE OR DO SOMETHING WRONG AND YOU ARE ANGRY AT THE WRONG AND/OR BAD BEHAVIOR AND NOT ANGRY AT THEM PERSONALLY.

  1. COMPLIMENT YOUR CHILDREN ON GOOD ACHIEVEMENTS OR GOOD BEHAVIOR BUT MATCH UP THE COMPLIMENT WITH THE IMPORTANCE OF THE ACHIEVEMENT.

DON’T GIVE EXCESSIVE PRAISE FOR JUST PUTTING CLOTHES AWAY IN THE CLOSET AND DON’T IGNORE WORTHY ACHIEVEMENTS SUCH AS GETTING GOOD GRADES WHICH YOU COULD EVEN REWARD WITH MONEY BECAUSE GOOD ACHIEVEMENT IN SCHOOL WILL TRANSLATE INTO A GOOD PAYING JOB IF IT IS NOT A LIBERAL ARTS SUBJECT.

  1. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR OFFSPRING EXPECIALLY IF THERE IS SOMETHING NEW WHICH YOU CAN TEACH THEM.

DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME AND THEIRS TALKING ABOUT TRIVIAL EVENTS IN YOUR LIVES OR UNIMPORTANT THINGS OR MINUTE DETAILS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED TO EVERYONE THAT DAY.

ENCOURAGE THEM TO EDUCATE THEMSELVES ON THE INTERNET INSTEAD OF SPENDING HOURS PLAYING MINDLESS GAMES AND CHATTING OR USING TOO MUCH TIME WITH FRIENDS ON THE INTERNET.

  1. DON’T GET INVOLVED WITH OFFSPRING IN AN OFFSPRING ARGUMENT UNLESS ONE IS EXERTING PHYSICAL VIOLENCE ON THE OTHER.

FOR FIGHTING USE LOUD DISAPPROVAL OR A SHOUT TO TRY AND STOP THE FIGHTING BEFORE YOU PERSONALLY DO GET PHYSICALLY INVOLVED.

WHEN FIGHTING EXISTS THERE IS FREQUENTLY A NEED FOR PARENTS TO JUSTIFY THAT ONE OFFSPRING SHOULD NOT BE BLAMED BUT THAT IT WAS THE GUILTY ONE WHO STARTED THE FIGHTING.

BE CAREFUL HERE BECAUSE IN THE EXTREMES OF PASSION AN OFFSPRING WILL FREQUENTLY BLAME ANOTHER AND NOT THEMSELVES EVEN THOUGH THEY MAY HAVE STARTED OR MOTIVATED THE FIGHTING IN THE FIRST PLACE BY HITTING OR PUSHING FIRST OR BY TAKING AWAY AN OBJECT FROM THE OTHER OFFSPRING.

  1. MOTIVATE OFFSPRING TO SHARE ACTIVITIES AND MORE IMPORTANTLY TO TAKE POSSESSION OF A TOY OR OBJECT FOR SOME TIME AND THEN SHARE THE TOY OR OBJECT BY GIVING AWAY POSSESSION FOR SOME ALMOST EQUAL TIME OR MUTUALLY SHARING A VALUED TOY OR OBJECT AT THE SAME TIME.

WHEN TAKING TURNS YOU WILL SEE ONE OFFSPRING LOOKING AT THE OTHER ONE PLAY WITH THE TOY OR OBJECT AND THIS WILL TEACH THE VIRTUE OF PATIENCE AND WAITING A WHILE FOR YOUR TURN TO COME NEXT.

THIS WILL TEACH THEM THAT IMMEDIATE GRATIFICATION IS NOT ALWAYS POSSIBLE AND THAT THE SELFISH APPROACH TO LIFE IS NOT THE RIGHT ONE.

COMPROMISING IS NOT AN EASY SKILL TO LEARN BUT IT ALWAYS INCLUDES A DECISION BASED ON TIME AND AN OBJECT AND/OR SUBJECT.

SHARING PARENTS ATTENTION AND SHARING OBJECTS ARE THE PRIMARY SKILLS NECESSARY TO HAVE GOOD HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.

  1. DON’T PICK A FAVORITE OFFSPRING WITH WHICH YOU SPEND THE MOST TIME WITH OR THE MOST MONEY ON.

EVEN THOUGH IT IS HUMAN TO LOVE ONE OFFSPRING MORE THAN ANOTHER BECAUSE OF AN ABUNDANCE OF BEHAVIORS OR CHARACTERISTICS WHICH YOU PERSONALLY LIKE YOU SHOULD TRY NOT TO SHOW FAVORTISM BLATANTLY BECAUSE YOUR OFFSPRING ARE GOING TO BE SMART ENOUGH TO REALIZE THAT THEY ARE NOT THE FAVORITE OFFSPRING NO MATTER HOW EQUALLY YOU TRY TO TREAT BOTH OR MORE THAN TWO OFFSPRING.

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