Daily Archives: March 9, 2013

YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT TO START BONDING WITH A POTENTIAL NEW FRIEND OR DATE

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Righta: adj. just and/or legal

Subset: n. thing

THERE IS GROWING SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE THAT SHOWING OR REVEALING SOME OF YOUR IMPERFECTIONS TO POTENTIAL NEW FRIENDS OR DATES IS NOT CATASTROPHIC BUT IN FACT WILL HELP THE BONDING OR RELATIONSHIP TO GROW STRONGER.

POPULAR MYTH COMMUNICATES THAT BEING AS PERFECT AS YOU CAN IS THE RIGHTA SUBSET TO DO WHEN YOU ARE STARTING A RELATIONSHIP.

THE TRUTH IS THAT PERFECTION FRIGHTENS PEOPLE BECAUSE THEY THEMSELVES FEEL IMPERFECT AND THIS CREATES INCREASED BONDING DISTANCE BETWEEN HUMANS.

IF YOU REVEAL YOUR SMALL WEAKNESSES DURING A CONVERSATION YOU CREATE THE FEELING THAT YOU ARE ONLY HUMAN AND HAVE WEAKNESSES THAT EVERYONE HAS TOO.

COMMUNICATING THAT YOU HAD A SMALL PROBLEM IN YOUR LIFE AND FOUND A SOLUTION IS COMFORTING TO A POTENTIAL FRIEND OR DATE BECAUSE THEY KNOW THAT YOU ARE A HUMAN WHO CAN SOLVE YOUR OWN PROBLEMS SUCCESSFULLY.

IF YOU MENTION THAT YOU HAD A ROMANTIC AFFAIR WHICH DIDN’T SUCCEED BECAUSE YOU DISCOVERED LATER THAT YOU REALLY DIDN’T HAVE ENOUGH COMMON INTERESTS TO MAINTAIN THE RELATIONSHIP LONGER THEN THIS WILL CREATE THE START OF A COMMON BOND SINCE YOUR NEW DATE MAY HAVE HAD SIMILAR EXPERIENCES WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX AND WILL EMPATHIZE WITH YOU.

A REASON YOU MAY FEEL CLOSER TO YOUR DATE IS THAT YOU HAVE REVEALED A SECRET TO YOUR DATE WHICH YOU USUALLY WOULD NOT HAVE DONE.

YOU HAVE INVESTED MORE OF YOUR TRUE SELF IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND YOU WILL PROBABLY FEEL CLOSER FOR IT.

TRUTHFULLY SHARING THE GOOD AND BAD EXPERIENCES IN YOUR LIFE CREATES THE POSSIBILITY OF GREATER BONDING BECAUSE HONESTY OR TRUTHFULNESS IS THE BOND WHICH BRINGS AND MAINTAINS HUMANS CLOSE TOGETHER IN A RELATIONSHIP.

IF THE BAD EXPERIENCE IN YOUR LIFE IS A VERY STRESSFUL ONE AND YOU HAVE NOT FOUND A SOLUTION TO IT THEN IT IS BEST NOT TO GREATLY FRIGHTEN YOUR POTENTIAL NEW DATE OR FRIEND BY REVEALING IT.

THEY MAY FEEL THAT YOU ARE TRAPPED WITH A PROBLEM WHICH YOU HAVE NO SOLUTION TO AND WILL PROBABLY NOT FIND A SOLUTION TO IN THE LONG DURATION AND YOU WILL FRIGHTEN THEM AWAY.

GRADUALLY INTRODUCE YOUR BAD BEHAVIORS AND EXPERIENCES AS THE RELATIONSHIP PROGRESSES SINCE YOU DON’T WANT TO APPLY SHOCK TREATMENT AND FRIGHTEN AWAY YOUR LATEST HUMAN INTEREST.

REVEAL MOSTLY YOUR GOOD EXPERIENCES AND SUCCESSES IN LIFE BUT DON’T BE AFRAID TO REVEAL A FEW OF YOUR SMALL BAD EXPERIENCES AND SMALL FAILURES IN LIFE ALSO AND YOU WILL ACCELERATE THE POTENTIAL BONDING OR RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!