MYTH: Fall madly in love, get married, and live happily ever after.
TRUTH: Learn enough useful skills to get a good paying job or career which computer software or robots will not replace in 10 to 20 years, fall madly in love, get married, and live happily ever after.
That is the modern myth that many young women and men still believe in and it is not the truth in far too many real life situations. Historically marriage heavily depended on a female dowry (money) which was a realization of the fact that having a family is an expensive responsible undertaking and that it requires much money to make a successful long duration relationship with offspring.
Today social brainwashing has made having fun and being attractive center stage as prerequisites to a relationship with the opposite sex with catastrophic results. Family life is disintegrating for many as more and more adults remain single for a very long time. Many divorced women with children are forced to go on welfare to support their single parent families and lifestyles.
TRUTH: The main reason males are afraid of marital commitment is because they have a gut feeling that it is too expensive for most to manage successfully.
Yes, there are still some couples who find financial security and true love at the same time which is the ideal romantic situation but there are far too many who don’t realize that money should not be ignored as a necessary foundation for a strong and lasting relationship with offspring.
If you are a woman and are not very attractive physically and without a job the only relationships which you can realistically expect are dysfunctional ones with other males.
Face the reality or facts of modern living and relationships. If you don’t have a good paying job then all you have to give is companionship and sex. The novelty of a new sexual partner soon wears off and the economically poor relationship breaks up and you are trapped in a hedonistic set of disappointing serial relationships which can even be called a serial hedonistic lifestyle.
Dirt poor and screwing your brains out with anyone who will have you sexually. Those are the modern facts of life for most young adults.
TRUTH: Whether you are a man or woman educate yourself with desirable skills and get a good paying job or career which will not become obsolete in the near future. Then start seriously looking for a lasting marital relationship.
In the meantime be satisfied with the fact that you will probably have many short duration relationships with the opposite sex with or without sex and have to be satisfied with a rarely good and frequently bad time with the opposite sex and not much else.
A marriage frequently needs compatible personalities and looks but more important it needs a good amount of money to keep it going for the long duration, especially if you have offspring. Ignore this historical and modern reality at your peril.
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