MYTH: Fall madly in love, get married, and live happily ever after.
TRUTH: Learn enough skills to get a good paying job or career, fall madly in love, get married, and live happily ever after if your personalities are compatible.
That is the modern myth that many women and men still believe in and it is not the truth in far too many real life situations. Historically marriage heavily depended on a female dowry (money) which was a realization of the fact that having a family is an expensive responsible undertaking and that it requires much money to make a successful long duration relationship with offspring.
Today having fun and being attractive has taken center stage as prerequisites to a relationship with the opposite sex with catastrophic results. Family life is disintegrating for many as more and more adults remain single for a very long time. Many divorced women with children whom a male has abandoned largely for financial reasons are forced to go on welfare to support their single parent families and lifestyles.
Yes, there are still some couples who find financial security and true love at the same time which is the ideal romantic situation but there are far too many who don’t realize that money should not be ignored as a necessary foundation for a strong and lasting relationship.
If you are a woman and are not very attractive physically and without a job then the only relationships which you can realistically expect are dysfunctional ones with other males.
TRUTH: Whether you are a man or woman educate yourself with desirable skills and get a good paying job or career. Then start seriously looking for a lasting marital relationship. In the meantime be satisfied with the fact that you will probably have many short duration relationships with the opposite sex with or without sex and have to be satisfied with a rarely good and frequently bad time with the opposite sex and not much else.
A marriage frequently needs compatible personalities and looks but more important it needs a good amount of money to keep it going for the long duration, especially if you have offspring.
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