Love: v. to sense a very intense pleasure for a subset(s) one cares about and the behaviors which exist with it and frequently desiring to (possess and/or interact with) and/or experience samer subset(s) for a short and/or long duration
Lovin: n. sensing a very intense pleasure from a subset(s) one cares about and the behavior(s) which exist with it and frequently desiring to (possess and/or interact with) and/or experience samer subset(s) for a short and/or long duration
Samer: adj. a second reference to a subset in a communication
Subset: n. a thing
You can love an object and/or human and/or activity either one of which is a subset or a thing.
If you love an object subset then you care about it and feel intense pleasure frequently desiring to possess it or interact with it.
If you love a human subset then you care about it and initially feel intense pleasure when interacting with the human and may desire to experience sex with the human or possess the human by marrying it so that you can interact with the human for a long duration.
If you love an activity subset such as a sport it can give you intense pleasure and you care about it. You may want to interact with it or experience it by watching or participating in it.
Initial love for a subset frequently decreases with time and you may only sense an attraction for it and no longer get very intense pleasure from it but that is very natural and nothing to worry about because very intense emotion lasting for too long is a dangerous addiction and not healthy for your system in the long duration. Not intensely loving a subset means that you may experience affection or liking for the subset also as time progresses because no one can perpetually live in constant infatuation with something you love. There are times when you will love a subset, there are times when you will sense affection for a subset, and many more times you will just like a subset or what it does for you.
Most very intense pleasure lasts for a relatively short duration but the desire to possess and/or interact with and/or experience it may last for a long duration.
Love is very complex with many special examples in life which are all frequently a smaller part of the general definition. Love not only is a VERY INTENSE PLEASURE or emotion but it is also sensing a DESIRE to possess and/or interact with and/or experience it for a relatively short duration and/or long duration.
I think that we can all agree that with a logical definition of love it is much better than inaccurately arguing over and over again that love is God, love is an emotion, love is divine, love is devotion, and love is like a volcano which are all bad inaccurate illogical ways of communicating about love and making it mean a thousand and one different things depending on the personal subjective biases of the writer.
Fond and tender feelings are examples of low intensity pleasure or a little pleasure which is not love. Love must be very intense pleasure and does not happen in a relationship as frequently as fond or tender feelings. Fond and tender feelings are really examples of affectionate and liking behavior which is not love nor loving behavior. Fond and tender feelings are frequently examples of affectionate and liking behavior which is very important in long lasting relationships especially marriages but those medium and low intensity feelings are not loving emotions and definitely not loving behaviors.
There is a fundamental difference between the concepts “I love that woman” and “I like that woman” or “I love my motorcycle” and “I like my motorcycle”.
Liking someone shows that you care for that person and in a close relationship it increases the probability that you also love that person. Affectionate behavior is a subset of liking behavior and loving behavior is a subset of loveall behavior. Liking and loving behaviors are both independent subsets of attracting behaviors.
loveall: n. loving everything
We are saying that we love a subset(s) if we like it very intensely. If we say that we love a subset(s) with low intensity it is more accurate to say that we like that subset(s) or are affectionate towards that subset(s).
Being loving and affectionate and liking someone in a relationship is being attracted to someone and is not loving them. This is to avoid a serious logical paradox that loving, affection, and liking mean the same thing. I love you really means that I like you, I am affectionate towards you and I love you intensely at times and a new word for this kind of a loving relationship is necessary.
To avoid logical confusion the concept of universal love should be replaced with the following two new words:
Lovrelate: v. to sense much lovin and affection and liking for a subset(s) but not simultaneously
Lovrelationship: n. sensing much lovin and affection and liking for a subset(s) but not simultaneously
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