Checking your phone or emails while you are talking to someone:
It is rude and conveys the impression that you don’t care about the human who you are talking to and hurts their feelings.
Multitasking during a meeting:
It is smart to give your full attention to a meeting so you can flush out and understand hidden agendas, you can spot opportunities to build bridges, and you will find ways to make yourself indispensable to the humans who matter.
Thinking about humans who don’t make a difference in your life:
Don’t waste your time thinking about celebrities and distant acquaintances who can’t improve your life. When you have some time off, think about the important humans in your life such as family, close friends, close coworkers, and your boss who are humans that can make your life better and they truly deserve your attention.
Getting distracted and responding to every notification immediately:
Everything which pops up on your phone or computer is not something which needs your immediate attention and focusing on your work should be priority number one. Most casual notifications don’t need an immediate response.
Letting the past always affect your future:
Stop being tormented by past mistakes. It was an opportunity to learn what not to do and personal knowledge about yourself and how you can improve in the future. When others make mistakes it is an opportunity to be gracious, forgiving, and understanding. Making mistakes and correcting them is training or a learning experience which you should not let torment you.
Wait until you are sure you will succeed in a creative effort:
Success when being creative is a probability and not a certainty. Try and fail and you can learn and try again and succeed. Always expecting success on the first attempt is a perfectionist’s delusion in the real world of work. If you are too impulsive and fail too many times your confidence will be affected but waiting too long to do something because of a fear of failure is also not the proper way to work creatively.
Talking about someone behind their back:
Gossiping or frequently saying bad things about a human behind their back is poor social etiquette. If there is something which you find unpleasant about a human confront them personally and comment on their behavior. You will be respected more if you don’t speak critically of others behind their backs.
Saying “yes” when you really mean “no”:
Refusing a favor for a colleague, customer, or friend is hard because you don’t want to hurt their feelings but if you honestly don’t want to do the favor for a good reason or just a gut feeling then most people will understand. Most humans given enough time will not hold a grudge against you for saying no sincerely. If you say yes to something which you didn’t want to do you will regret it for a very long time and feel bad about it even if it is only during the time that you did the favor.
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