No, fond and tender feelings are examples of low intensity pleasure or a little pleasure which is not love. Love must be very intense pleasure and does not happen in a relationship as frequently as fond or tender feelings. Fond and tender feelings are really examples of affectionate and liking behavior which is not love nor loving behavior. Fond and tender feelings are frequently examples of affectionate and liking behavior which is very important in long lasting relationships especially marriages but those medium and low intensity feelings are not loving emotions and definitely not loving behaviors.
There is a fundamental difference between the concepts “I love that woman” and “I like that woman” or “I love my motorcycle” and “I like my motorcycle”.
subset: n. a thing
Liking someone shows that you care for that person and in a close relationship it increases the probability that you also love that person. Affectionate behavior is a subset of liking behavior and loving behavior is a subset of loveall behavior. Liking and loving behaviors are both independent subsets of attracting behaviors.
loveall: n. loving everything
We are saying that we love a subset(s) if we like it very intensely. If we say that we love a subset(s) with low intensity it is more accurate to say that we like that subset(s) or are affectionate towards that subset(s).
Being loving and affectionate and liking someone in a relationship is being attracted to someone and is not loving them. This is to avoid a serious logical paradox that loving, affection, and liking mean the same thing. I love you really means that I like you, I am affectionate towards you and I love you intensely at times and a new word for this kind of a loving relationship is necessary.
To avoid logical confusion the concept of universal love should be replaced with the following two new words:
Lovrelate: v. to sense much lovin and affection and liking for a subset(s) but not simultaneously
Lovrelationship: n. sensing much lovin and affection and liking for a subset(s) but not simultaneously
It should be obvious that a new logical definition for love is also necessary.
Love: v. to sense a very intense pleasure for a subset(s) one cares about and the behaviors which exist with it and frequently desiring to (possess and/or interact with) and/or experience samer subset(s) for a short and/or long duration
Lovin: n. sensing a very intense pleasure from a subset(s) one cares about and the behavior(s) which exist with it and frequently desiring to (possess and/or interact with) and/or experience samer subset(s)
I lovrelate you is the new replacement for I love you and this logically means that in a traditional loving relationship you display moments of love, affection, and liking in your lovrelationship. The world does not need more love but it does need more lovrelationships or more love, affection, and liking, especially in marriages and human relationships.
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