4 MAJOR REASONS YOU ARE PROBABLY STILL SINGLE!!!!


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1. You don’t make enough money or have no job, 2. you are too devoted to your career and single lifestyle, 3. you lie and cheat, or 4. you are to blame because you have a severe personality flaw(s), are ugly, or very unhealthy.

Plastic surgery is an option if you are ugly. If eating certified organic food does not improve your health then you will have to find someone who takes pity on you and thinks that your other good assets are enough to continue a serious relationship.

If you have a severe personality flaw(s) then it will be very hard to change it but being aware that you have one or two bad personality flaws may eventually cause you to try and change the situation if it is interfering seriously with good relationships with a significant other.

In a nutshell you are probably single because you have severe personality flaws which you are not aware of OR you are aware of your severe flaws and are trying to hide them OR you don’t have the courage and don’t make the effort to correct your flaws.

Here are 7 possible reasons why you still may be single and with considerable effort          you can maybe change for the better.

You have been hurt badly in previous relationships and are gun shy or very defensive

Having relatively emotionless and negligent parents or caretakers may leave you not knowing how to deal with affectionate humans and may severely handicap your ability to successfully reciprocate loving and affectionate gestures.

You may also have been involved in a seemingly close relationship only to discover that you were suddenly abandoned for someone else who was more appealing thus hurting your sense of selfworth and willingness to trust your next potential good relationship.

Maybe you have a series of failed relationships and you are becoming frustrated at the prospect of another failure so you choose not to pursue as many new ones as you should.

If you have not analyzed why your relationships fail and attempt to correct those mistakes or flaws then your string of failures will just continue.

If you have a good job and are not fanatically devoted to it, are not ugly or ill, are a moral human who doesn’t lie or cheat, do not have serious personality flaws, and can communicate effectively in an honest, sincere, and reliable way then you should have no reason to be defensive about your relationships.

Dysfunctional attractions

Some of us may come from dysfunctional families with abusive and alcoholic parents and we may seek relationships with similar abusive and alcoholic individuals which instantly cause relationship problems. Dysfunctional upbringing may also mean that you unconsciously enter into relationships with humans that have parental flaws and are less than ideal examples of what a future mate should be for you.

Not realizing that you should want and look for a mate better than one you easily enter into a relationship with is a selffulfilling prophesy of failure. You may be addicted to relationships with dysfunctional personality types and not realize that that is the primary reason for your failed relationships.

Fear of intimacy or not knowing what intimacy is and how it works

Intimacy means revealing your inner true feelings and thoughts or being honest about what you think and feel. Many are terrified that if they are too intimate they will be vulnerable to manipulation and possible rejection so they remain rather aloof and distant.

Others have never learned to be intimate or truthful with their feelings and true thoughts with anyone and may have never learned the advantages of intimate behavior which has the potential to create a trustworthy intensely bonding relationship with a significant other.

Being too picky or an inability to fully trust another

Many start out relationships by stereotyping the behavior and personalities of others and if we find a major flaw which we don’t like then we may shy away from letting the relationship develop further with potential good results despite the obvious behavior flaw or flaws which we see in another human. As long as the flaw is not immoral such as lying or cheating then we should give the human a chance to reveal his or her full personality before we pass judgment on them.

Not being able to reciprocate an honest, sincere, reliable human with similar honesty, sincerity, and reliability because we are afraid of being hurt is a skill that many of us may have to learn.

Low selfesteem or selfconfidence

Some may simply believe they have too many flaws to be considered attractive to the opposite sex and suffer from low selfesteem or selfconfidence. If you have a good job and are not fanatically devoted to it, are a good conversationalist and are not afraid to be honest, sincere, and reliable, and have excluded your severe flaws from your personality then you should not have a problem with low selfesteem or selfconfidence.

Trapped by the safe single routine and fearing to disrupt it with potential bad results

Some of us have simply led the single life too long and are relatively happy with it especially if we have failed one too many times in the relationship department. You may just have to accept the fact that you are getting plenty of satisfaction being single and that you don’t need to pursue any serious relationships. You can console yourself in feeling good about not contributing to the world overpopulation problem.

Making too many rules for yourself or others

Failed relationships frequently lead us into making many intuitive rules on how to behave and not behave the next time. Trying to be too intimate once and being deeply hurt may make us be less intimate the next time to avoid being deeply hurt again.

If your flaws are what turns humans off then no amount of rule changing will solve your relationship problems. Exclude as many of your flaws as you can or live with the fact that you should probably live the single life or be faced with a never ending series of failed relationships.

CONCLUSION:

IF YOU WANT TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL INTIMATE REALATIONSHIP WHICH MEANS BEING HONEST, SINCERE, AND RELIABLE THEN LEARN TO ELIMINATE AS MANY OF YOUR FLAWS AS POSSIBLE OR ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE SO FLAWED AND COWARDLY ABOUT TRULY WANTING TO CHANGE YOURSELF FOR THE BETTER THAT THE SINGLE LIFE IS REALLY BEST FOR YOU!!!!!!

 

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them and read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially COMMON SENSE.

Enjoy!!!!!!

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