8 IMPORTANT TASKS FOR FATHERS RAISING SONS


Father-and-son

TEACH HIM TO BE HONEST, SINCERE, AND RELIABLE

Teach him not to make promises that he can’t keep or has no intention of keeping or in effect teach him to be reliable. Teach him the difference between telling the truth and offending someone with the truth. Calling someone by a stereotypic adjective such as stupid, ugly, and crazy will hurt feelings and that he should instead say that the behavior was stupid or crazy and not the person him or herself. Name calling will only lead to unnecessary arguments and possible violent confrontation. Finally, teach him to always be honest or truthful with you and you should never lie to him.

BE AS GOOD A ROLE MODEL AS YOU CAN

Over 90% of your son’s behavior will be an imitation of your behavior so show affection and love towards your wife instead of dislike and hatred which shows up in the form of intense arguments and harsh criticisms about her bad behavior and/or appearance. You should try to have or develop emotional control and respond to your wife’s emotional outbursts with calmness and saying nothing at all if it is a confrontation where she is trying to win an argument at all costs with an unreasonable emotional response.

TRY TO BE A CARING MAN

Be a caring man towards your wife and son by being nurturing and protective. Nurture or support your wife and son in the good important things which they are interested in and protect your wife and son from bad influences and bad humans.

TEACH HIM THAT QUALITY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN QUANTITY

Teach him to be selective or want quality in the women, food, and possessions which he chooses. Emphasize and talk about a woman’s good or bad personality and smarts first and physical appearance last.  Don’t call women beautiful but use the word attractive instead. Tell him to eat healthy food which tastes good and eat as great a variety of healthy tasty food yourself. Emphasize quality possessions which are efficient, reliable, durable, and don’t cost too much. Emphasize that big is not always better but frequently that small and more efficient is better.

TEACH HIM BIRTH CONTROL AND TO DISAPPROVE OF PROMISCUITY

Tell him that birth control is essential until he can financially support a family and to minimize the risk of STD’s he should not be promiscuous during his single life. Tell him to have sex with quality women and not with sluts or prostitutes. Until he finds the right women to have sex with tell him that masturbation is OK if it is not done to excess.

COMMUNICATE ABOUT IMPORTANT THINGS IN HIS LIFE

Ask him many questions about girls, friends, and school and share his hopes, dreams, and concerns by listening closely to what he says and become his best friend whom he can ask for advice on anything. Listen carefully to what he says and respond appropriately. When he is young it is important to communicate in depth but as he gets older and more independent then you should communicate less and only communicate with him on important matters or events and not try to remain overly chatty with him about minutiae. Manly communication is short and sweet and to the point and not unnecessary verbosity or gossip.

TEACH HIM HOW TO INTERACT WITH STRANGERS AND CLOSE PERSONAL FRIENDS

Teach him social etiquette with strangers and how to have a polite conversation with them. Emphasize that social etiquette with close friends is a little different and that you don’t have to say thank you, nice to see you, have a nice day, and all those other pleasing pleasantries. Humans will sometimes be mean, nasty, and physically threatening to him out of aggressiveness, jealousy, and personal reasons so teach him that fighting back is frequently not the best response but saying nothing or turning around and walking away is frequently the best solution to a confrontation which threatens to escalate into violence.

TEACH HIM A NEW SECULAR MORAL CODE

Teach him a new secular morality and in a nutshell that is don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.

Tell him how important it is to maintain a healthy spacious environment for wildlife so that there will be a healthy gene pool to use if bad use of technology poisons the environment, domestic plants and animals to such an extent that it threatens human health to a large degree. Join the Sierra Club, the Nature Conservancy, the World Wildlife Fund or some other conservation organization and prominently display wildlife in you home with posters or calendars of wildlife, and view wildlife videos together on Youtube and elsewhere.

Tell him to be as efficient in his daily habits as possible. That means don’t waste time, energy, and money on rather trivial or unimportant activities.  Teach him to schedule his life as much as possible because scheduling is important in the work environment. Teach him to be an efficient conversationalist and have him spend more time on developing useful physical skills and acquiring knowledge in useful areas which may help him land a good job in the technological new future.

Too much time, energy, and money is wasted on entertainment and doing what feels good rather than on learning useful things such as the use of tools and self motivating oneself to acquire new knowledge and information on the internet about serious subject matter. Motivate him in learning about basic science, physics, chemistry, and biology as much as possible even though it may not be his ultimate career choice in life. Knowing about the laws of nature will help him to more logically think about the world and life.

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