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We all understand physical death and we fear it but few of us realize that there is also psychological death which is the end or death of a relationship and/or reputation and/or possession. Fear of psychological death or fearful anxiety is based on knowing in our mind that we have a relationship, reputation, and possessions and fearing that we will lose that relationship, reputation, or possessions.


It is true that once a relationship, reputation, or possession ends it still lingers in the conscious and subconscious mind and there is sometimes slight hope that the relationship, reputation, or possession can be resurrected but for all practical purposes most of us accept the loss as a permanent death and sometimes mourn it when it happens.


Much of our behavior is motivated by fear or the fear of losing something and we act accordingly.


Not wanting our good social reputation to die we frequently tell the truth, dress and look a certain way, and behave in ways which we think are appropriate to relationships and generally consider our behavior to be psychologically safe and hope it will not cause failure, criticism, ostracism, or censure.


We fear the end or death of something which we value or believe in and are psychologically distressed and even saddened if we can no longer experience something which we value, believe, or find pleasure in.


Fortunately many of us are motivated by a desire to achieve something good or pleasurable. However, most of us do not have the courage to overcome our handicapping fears and infrequently bravely venture forth trying to achieve good goals and experiences which are frequently risky or even dangerous but having them makes many lives fulfilling and worth living.



Fear of psychological death frequently causes us to be less courageous and adventurous than we ought to be.  Overcoming many of those fears is the key to a happy life and frequently a successful one. An optimistic attitude that we are not as stupid, crazy, incompetent, and powerless as we think we are can greatly help us to overcome many fears of psychological death which we all have.

Anxiety: n. an unpleasant sensing of uncertainty and/or low to medium intensity fear resulting from the anticipation of a (realistic and/or fantasized dangerous event(s)) and/or (threatening event(s) and/or circumstance(s))


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It is a fact of life that all of us will die physically sooner or later.

I remember as a young child becoming aware of my mortality and had a panic attack which I conveyed to my parents and they reassured me that death won’t happen for a very long time and that I had nothing to worry about. Another scary moment was a movie which I watched as a child where a young man aged into a decrepit old man in five seconds and this caused fear in me and a desire not to go through the same fate.


Other humans have had near death experiences with a severe accident or near drowning and the traumatic experience leads to a phobia or fear of driving or swimming in deep water.


Some humans fear a painful death more than anything and will go on extreme diets to try and avoid debilitating life threatening diseases like cancer. In many phobias the fear of death is frequently the underlying cause for it. Fear of being bitten by a spider or snake is because there is a fear that you will die if it happens.


Many humans fear psychological death and fear being called stupid, crazy, incompetent, or a liar. They don’t do certain things because they fear the end of or death of a smart, sane, competent, and honest reputation.


This fear of the end or death of a relationship or good reputation motivates us to behave in certain ways trying to avoid the end or death of a relationship or good reputation. An end to or death of experiences and possessions is feared and motivates us to do over half of the things which we do in life.


Other humans can calm our fear of death and religions have an answer which many accept such as reincarnation or heaven which is a concept of some form of continuing life after physical death.  Whatever your beliefs or feelings about death most of us learn to live life without constantly obsessing about death and develop coping skills to deal with personal death and the death of close and distant humans.



Fear of psychological and physical death motivates us to do most of the things which we do in life so death and an attempt to avoid it is a primary important motivator of most humans.

The pyramids, statues, trust funds, foundations, literary, and artistic works are frequently futile attempts at leaving eternal reminders of our greatness after physical death.


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Some of us complicate our lives with too many material possessions, too many friends, and too many personal interests or commitments. We may feel stressed out with too little time to relax and may even complicate matters by being financially deep in debt.

Simplifying your life is the answer to an out of control life and one way to do this is to set priorities in your life. Job, family, personal interests, and friends should usually be your priority order and that means spending more time and effort on your job, then family, things which interest you, and finally friends.

Too many material possessions means that you should cut back on your buying and only try to buy what you NEED and not what you WANT. This is not always easy because most of us are impulse buyers and seldom stop to ask ourselves. Can I do without the purchase for a week, month, or year? If the answer is yes then you should not buy it. If spending is a major problem then you should definitely learn to budget your money and learn about how to do it on the internet.

If many friends are not important to your job then concentrate on keeping in touch with the closest friends and let the others only be casual acquaintances which you may only remember once a year.

Having many personal interests means that you will probably not be bored but they usually do take up much of your time and even money so you can prioritize them and spend most of your time and money on the ones which you have a passion for. A smart way to prioritize interests is to ask yourself-Will these interests help me develop new skills or make me more knowledgeable? If the answer is no then you should put those interests last on your set of priorities which means spending less time, energy, and money on them.

For almost anything which you do you can ask the question. Can I spend the time, energy, and money on something better or more important? If the answer is yes then switch priorities and you will be on the road to simplifying your life.

Finally if you have a bad job then one of your major priorities should be learning new skills or new knowledge so that you can land a better job or even a different one from the one which you currently have.


Prioritizing your life or finding out what has the most importance in your life and spending more time, energy, and money on it is one of the keys to simplifying your life and getting off the frantic random treadmill which you may be on now.

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