Daily Archives: May 2, 2014

THE TRUTH ABOUT APOLOGY

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Apology: n. regretfully communicating the acknowledgement of a mistake(s) and/or bad behavior(s) which frequently injures someone and/or hurts someone’s feelings and/or sense of selfworth

Most apologies should start off with a sincere “Sorry”, demonstrating genuine regret that you made a mistake or did something bad which injured a human or hurt their feelings and/or sense of selfworth.

Most have a very high regard for themselves and don’t want to admit that they did something immoral, bad, or made a mistake.

Sometimes we hope that if we don’t respond with an apology then the mistake or bad behavior won’t be noticed. Wrong. If possible you should almost always apologize sooner rather than later because you don’t want to start to create an impression that you have a deceptive personality and that you will only apologize if caught for a misdeed but otherwise are secretive about it.

Sometimes we name call with words like stupid, crazy, lazy, bitch, ugly, and pig, argue feverishly, harshly criticize, ridicule, offend, and use put down phrases hurting someone’s feelings and/or sense of selfworth.

An apology should frequently be forthcoming if you do any of the above insensitive non empathetic things. Making up is frequently the phrase used to signify that you are sorry for what you did. You can sometimes do the apology with more than just words and follow it up by doing or promising to do something nice to make up for the bad behavior.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT ANXIETY

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Anxiety: n. a low to medium intensity fear resulting from the anticipation of a (realistic and/or fantasized dangerous event(s)) and/or (threatening event(s) and/or bad circumstance(s)) which may be accompanied by the uncertainty of not knowing (what to do and/or what will exist) good and/or bad

Anxiety is not very intense fear so it is not paranoia.

You may be anxious because you are not certain that something good or bad will exist in the future and this uncertainty or doubt can be a slightly fearful feeling especially if it is something bad which may exist. If it is a good possibility the slight fear or anxiety is because you fear it may disappear or go away or not exist the way that you hope it will.

Most anxiety originates from the anticipation of a dangerous or threatening event in the future which may be real or fantasized mentally.

If the anticipation is just an impulsive expression of low or medium intensity fear in the mind originating from stored unconscious fearful past experiences then your mind has no logical control over the feelings. You will probably need much reassurance by others that you should try to eliminate the fear with constant denial.

Unfortunately willing impulsive anxiety to disappear is frequently not possible and psychologists frequently prescribe drugs to lessen the intensity of the anxiety but it never cures the impulsive feeling which does not go away if it is irrational and not based on real fearful things. The irrational impulsive fears are the result of historical bad experiences stored in sub conscious memory. Unfortunately you can change the past but you can create new good experiences which may reduce the intensity of those bad historical sub conscious memories.

Anxiety disorders are not mental illnesses with chemical imbalances in the brain but merely impulsive low and/or medium intensity fears which we have which may or may not be grounded on facts.

Using drugs leads to real chemical imbalances in the brain with disastrous side effects which are worse when you try to withdraw from the drug. Anxieties are just a fact of life of daily existence and some humans have more anxieties than others which may slightly interfere with their ability to successfully lead their daily lives but it is not an excuse for medication use!

The only cure for anxieties is reconditioning the brain by placing the human in an environment free of anxieties or with minimum anxieties or with circumstances which don’t lead to anxieties and KEEP THEM THERE for an extended period of time. Yes this is radical behavior modification and it costs much money and time to do so but it is the only hope for a cure that the patient with many anxiety problems has. Psychiatric drugs don’t cure anxieties but merely mask the symptoms which resurface sooner or later if the patient remains in the anxiety causing environment!!!!!!

Not many have the luxury of moving to a relatively anxiety free environment so most of us just have to grit our teeth and live as best that we can with reassurances from humans who care about us that most anxieties will change with time or even go away given enough time with many new anxiety free experiences in life.

Anxiety disorder is merely a deceptive way of saying that you are not meeting acceptable social norms of behavior but the answer should not be -take drugs!!!!!

 

All very intense anxieties are phobias if they are predictable and exist frequently and not anxiety disorders as the psychiatric profession wrongly claims. Anxieties are usually low to medium intensity normal human fear behaviors and not to be treated with psychiatric artificial drugs.

 

When impulsive very intense fears exist too frequently or are compulsive and when they are too intense and above the norm and interfere with normal living causing too great a disruption in daily behavior then the anxieties are considered to be disorders by the psychiatric profession and subject to medication with the use of powerful artificial sedatives.

 

These artificial sedatives have bad side effects and going off them can create more intense fears than before medication because they change the normal chemical balance of the brain. Rather than curing a fictional chemical imbalance the drugs create an real chemical imbalance in the brain which then requires further treatment of the side effects with more medication or drugs.

 

All extreme predictable and frequent anxieties are phobias and they should be treated with radical behavior modification which unfortunately takes too long and costs too much money and is unfortunately not a realistic alternative for most humans.

 

A panic attack or panic disorder is when there is a sudden and frequent very intense fear which is frequently associated with physiological changes such as sweating, chest pain, very intense or irregular palpitations, and choking sensations.  Because of the suddenness of the very intense fear many times neither the psychiatrist nor the patient is aware of the triggering mechanism in the environment and make the wrong assumption that the fear has no cause which can be eliminated from the patient’s life or that the patient should in fact be desensitized to the stimulus through radical behavior modification which takes much time and money to cure.

 

A social phobia is a very intense fear of being judged by others, fear of embarrassment or ridicule and is a reason why some humans choose to live relatively reclusive lives because they have an intense fear of other humans and their potential disapproval reactions. Once again radical behavior modification which takes much time and money is the cure and quick fix strong artificial sedatives frequently make the situation only worse in the long duration.

 

Going through a very intense fearful event such as the unexpected death of a loved one, a natural devastating disaster, or a physical or sexual assault may leave one with frightening thoughts and memories of the fearful event(s) which may surface very frequently and reduce normal functioning. Some of these very fearful events can almost kill a mental motivation to live and function normally. Psychiatric artificial drugs are not the cure but part of the problem. Creating hope in the patient that they can work and return to normal if they try and human caring and empathy are the cure.

 

General anxiety disorder is worry and fear when no external stimulus seems to provoke the bad response but there is a triggering mechanism and that is numerous spontaneous memories of very intense fears that can’t be consciously identified one by one. The very intense fear or worry is the impulsive actions  or recall of the brain without conscious associations with the actual very intense fearful events or memories.

 

The remaining phobias are very intense fears of things which can be identified and which can be cured by gradual exposure techniques which take much time and money. Most can’t afford the cure so they are disastrously medicated with powerful psychiatric artificial sedatives instead.

 

Finally uncertainty can cause worry and fear that a goal will not be achieved but there is frequently no phobia of uncertainty and there should be!!!!!!

 

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