Daily Archives: June 12, 2014

THE TRUTH ABOUT LISTENING

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Listen: v. to try to remember and/or consider a communication and permit the communicator to end a communication subset(s) before reacting

Frequently humans don’t like to be interrupted when talking and it is considered rude but there are smart ways of interrupting or trying to change the topic if the communication doesn’t seem to have an important point or if it is getting too lengthy. You can try changing to a new topic, delay the conversation for another time, or try to summarize what has been said so far and end the conversation prematurely.

If you have the luxury of time then you can listen to everything which is being said, briefly summarize what has been said, and ask follow up questions if necessary. This way the speaker will feel that their opinions and ideas have been respected even if you give short and sweet replies and don’t motivate the speaker to speak further.

In business where time is important being a good listener rather than a good talker is more important and all you have to really give is short and sweet replies. You will be more respected and appear smarter by being brief rather than by trying to impress someone with your wealth of knowledge and speaking longer than they do.

In relationships if you do less talking and really listen then you will be better able to understand their emotional state and the points which they try to communicate to you. Your responses will be more relevant and the quality of the conversation should improve.

I may be called biased but based on personal experience I feel that most women like to talk more than men and frequently want to share their emotional social experiences in sometimes dramatic and lengthy ways. An emotional talkative woman is a fact of life which most males have to live with or adapt to.

I have learned much in life by listening and reading what others have to say and have learned to be very selective in what I read and whom I ask questions to and about what topics.  

After a lifetime of wading through much verbosity, deception, and lies a headline is all that I have to read to know if the content interests me. I only enjoy talking to professionals from whom I can extract new valuable information and insights.

My never ending quest for truth and useful knowledge goes on. Some may accuse me of verbosity or excessive talkativeness for writing about 800 blogs in a year and a half but those are the fruits of a lifetime of logically analyzing and recording important information about nature and human and social behavior.

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 800 so far, and one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially  COMMON SENSErays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

For a complete readily accessible list of blogs and titles go to twitter.com/uldissprogis.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT LONELINESS

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Loneliness: n. a sensing frequently caused by a loss and/or an absence of companionship and/or friendship and a desire for companionship and/or friendship

The greatest feeling of loneliness arises when we lose someone really close to us like a spouse through death or divorce or lose a close friend. A sense of loneliness can also exist if we have no close relationships with humans and we exist for long periods of time without anything important to do.

Humans are a social animal but there have been historical exceptions of some mountain men who lived relatively successful isolated lives. They can’t be considered to be lonely because they were involved in a day to day struggle for survival which eliminated lonely thoughts from their lives to a large extent. If you are busy doing something that you really like which does not include humans then loneliness may not be a factor to consider and pay much attention to.

It is the lonely elderly and lonely single humans without friends who sometimes have trouble coping with their loneliness and sometimes even suffer mental and health problems as a result of their isolation.

The key to combating loneliness is getting busy doing something which you like which may not involve humans. A passionate hobby may be the solution to loneliness but you can also try making new social contacts via clubs, internet blogging, social networks, or doing some volunteer work for an organization.

If you can’t make and maintain good contacts with humans or have pets then you may have to live alone but that does not necessarily mean that you have to feel lonely if you are doing something which you like much. Loneliness is frequently a state of mind when you have nothing to do for extended periods of time.

If you are having those problems then fill in that time with some hopefully useful activity. Even if you are bedridden you can still read, listen to radio, watch TV, and surf the internet to occupy or use up your free time.

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 800 so far, and one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially COMMON SENSErays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

For a complete readily accessible list of blogs and titles go to twitter.com/uldissprogis.

Enjoy!!!!!!