Daily Archives: August 29, 2014

THE TRUTH ABOUT ACCUSATIONS***

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Accusation: n. communicating a belief in the guilt and/or culpability of a human(s)

Have you ever been accused of bad, immoral, or illegal behavior and not been guilty? That is frequently the way that arguments start followed by bad feelings or resentment for being wrongly accused.

At some or many points in our lives many of us have been accused of lying, meanness, rudeness, inconsideration, laziness, tardiness, neglect, stupidity, craziness, incompetence, boastfulness, gluttony, greediness, lust, making a mistake, and jealousy. Some of us have been accused of addictions to gambling and drugs and some have been accused of stealing and adultery which are moral and legal transgressions.

Criminal accusations or accusing one of breaking the law is obvious but for all other accusations we automatically go into defensive mode, say nothing at all and ignore the accusation which sometimes implies admission of guilt, try to fight back and deny the veracity of the accusation, calmly try to discuss the validity of the accusation, or admit that we are wrong and maybe promise that it won’t exist again or say that we will try to improve.

Arguments frequently start with accusations by one human and an emotionally intense defensive reaction by the other human. Be sure that when you accuse someone that they are really guilty as charged and that you have personally witnessed it or that you have some proof and hopefully proof from a trustworthy witness. Better yet ask them a question which will lead to a better understanding of whether they realize that what they have done is indeed bad and something which they may want to change in the future.

Some bad and even immoral personalities such as liars are incorrigible. Once you discover this then try to exclude them from your life as much as possible or just ignore them as much as possible if you have to live with them to some extent.

Culpability: adj. being guilty without formal proof

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THE TRUTH ABOUT IGNORING***

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Ignore: v. to intentionally not see and/or not participate in a subset(s)

Sometimes when we can’t solve a problem, don’t like what is said to us, or can’t deal with a confrontation or argument we try to ignore it and hope that it will go away and leave us alone. We intentionally may turn our head away or just not participate in an unpleasant activity or effectively try to ignore it.

If we have unpleasant coworkers or friends which we don’t need, ignoring or avoiding them as much as possible is frequently the right thing to do. Unless it is a very important situation, ignoring it will sometimes make it go away or at least lessen the unpleasantness which would exist if we confronted the situation head on.

Ignoring family or work problems is frequently not the smart thing to do because they can develop into serious important problems which will then need our immediate attention.

Ignoring, avoiding, or trying to exclude the trivia in our lives is the smart thing to do so we can devote precious time to the things which really matter and are important in our lives.

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 1000 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially COMMON SENSE, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

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