Daily Archives: September 7, 2014

THE TRUTH ABOUT NEGOTIATIONS***

negotiation

Negotiation: n. communicating with the goal(s) of getting an agreement(s)

Negotiations where agreements are achieved are frequently compromises or cooperative efforts or both. A compromise is frequently where both sides get something that they want but not everything that they want. A cooperative effort is where both sides contribute something towards a common goal(s).

Both nations may want just trade as a goal but each side may want to protect a vital industry from competition by a big business in the other country. The solution may be putting tariffs on the vulnerable valued industry and let others justly compete in the marketplace.

In a divorce case one may want more custody rights and the other may want more alimony and the compromise is frequently one paying more alimony and getting more visitation rights for it.

A new family car may be too expensive for one spouse to buy but if they pool resources or each contributes money from their paycheck then the purchase of a new vehicle is possible. This is an example of a cooperative effort to reach a common goal.

Whether it is a family negotiation or a negotiation between nations you either compromise or cooperate or do a little of both.

In some negotiations one side gets everything that they want and the other side does not hoping perhaps that in the next negotiation they will come out on top or be the winner. In family situations there are sometimes winners and losers but the real winner is usually the family unit as a whole.

Most negotiations result in compromise agreements where each side gets something that they want but neither side usually gets all that they want out of the agreement. It is a win some lose some proposition for both sides rather than a win and lose situation for one side versus the other.

Rights to property, rights to offspring in divorce cases, rights to sharing property, and rights to one’s time, energy, and effort can all be subjects of negotiations. It helps to be empathetic and as truthful as possible so that the negotiation is not just a one time winning proposition for the deceptive side resulting in an absence of trust and good faith the next time around. A successful mutually beneficial negotiation can open doors to further negotiations in the future if true compromises are reached.

Sometimes negotiations may be a win win situation for both sides if the sides agree to give everything the other side wants for a fixed amount of time. One side may totally win for the first 6 months and the other side may totally win for the next six months but usually such an agreement is not a permanent solution to a long duration problem.

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 1000 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially COMMON SENSE, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

For a complete readily accessible list of blogs and titles go to twitter.com/uldissprogis.

Enjoy!!!!!!

THE TRUTH ABOUT COERCION***

can-stock-photo_csp11943103

Coercion: n. using force and/or the threat of force to get a desired (behavior(s) and/or thinking(s)) and/or belief(s) in an animal(s)

Have you ever used physical force on someone or threatened them with physical force? Then you have used coercion. Sometimes offspring are coerced to behave by threatening them with spanking and abusive spouses frequently use coercion to get what they want in a marriage. Some pets are also coerced and physically hit out of shear abuse or just a desire to get them to behave. Civilized humans should not be using coercion on each other but unfortunately it is still a fact of life in many cases in this world.

A stickup using a gun as a threat is the most basic kind of coercion without actual physical contact being necessary in most cases. Unfortunately police officers also sometimes have to use coercion to apprehend and arrest criminals or lawbreakers.

Slavery was made possible because of coercion by the slave owners and laws permitting it. Religious coercion is still being practiced by some fanatical and not so fanatical Muslims. Tyrants use political coercion to rule.

Scapehum: n. a human and/or group of humans that is coerced into accepting blame for another’s (immorality and/or misbehavior) and/or mistakes

I chose to make a new word for scapegoat and a new accurate definition because it is not a goat but rather a human who is coerced into accepting blame for something.

The less coercion there is in society the more just it is and humans can interact morally and relatively peacefully with one another. Unfortunately morality is not indoctrinated into modern humans and the result is much irresponsible behavior which the general public tends to abhor and begins to look for government for a solution.

 

Irresponsible immoral behavior results in many unnecessary absolute unjust laws which are coercive in nature since they are enforced with the use of force. Every unjust absolute law is really a coercive threat of the use of force if it is not obeyed. The net effect of so many unjust absolute laws is that many minorities are handicapped by having to live under the laws and it seems that there is justice for the majority but in fact many minorities are oppressed.

In the real world where there are so many exceptions to an absolute rule the more absolute rules there are the more unjust the government becomes.

 

So many unjust rules or laws means that new businesses and new young humans are at a distinct disadvantage competitively speaking and the established businesses and older individuals almost have a monopoly power over who can compete against them in society.

 

Government can’t legislate morality by passing laws to try and control human behavior in minute detail so a secular morality must be taught in public schools so that its citizens can interact relatively peacefully with one another in an atmosphere of more general trust. That secular morality should be-except in emergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder!!!!!!

With a secular public morality the amount of necessary government coercion can be minimal and its citizens can live in relatively trusting relationships with one another and not constantly have to live in fear of being victimized by violence and/or a ripoff by another immoral citizen.

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them. about 1000 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially COMMON SENSE, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

For a complete readily accessible list of blogs and titles go to twitter.com/uldissprogis.

Enjoy!!!!!!