Think about it. If you trust someone then you can also love someone but if you don’t trust someone then how can you love them? Love is a subset of trust and that means that trust is more important than love. Humans can love almost any human intensely for given durations but if you don’t trust them then the love that you experience with them can be very transitory.
What the world needs now is trust sweet trust, that’s the only thing that there is just too little of!!!!!!
Here is a recommendation of the things that you need to establish a trusting relationship, the magical bond which keeps humans attracted to one another!
Your actions are consistent or you don’t do one thing in one situation and another thing in the same situation latter on.
If your relationship is predictable then there is a greater probability that you will establish trust.
Your words match your deeds or you do what you say that you are going to do.
Actions speak louder than words and if you say one thing but do another then you will have a hard time establishing a trusting relationship.
You make promises that you can keep or you fulfill promises to the best of your ability.
Promise to show up on time or promise to do something and don’t then this is considered a lie about the future and your trusting relationship will be more tenuous if you don’t try your hardest to fulfill your promises.
You take responsibility for your decisions or if you make a mistake then you own up to it and maybe even apologize.
Managerial responsibility and parental responsibility and responsibility in general is essential if a trusting relationship will develop. Who wants to trust an irresponsible, unpredictable human? Almost no one!
You don’t backstab or undercut those around you or you don’t try to cleverly manipulate humans and take credit for their good actions and don’t spread harmful rumors about humans for personal gain.
No one likes humans who take credit for their efforts in front of or behind their backs. No one likes to be manipulated behaviorally just to benefit someone’s personal gain, especially if bad rumors were spread about you to achieve those personal gains.
You don’t focus on yourself or don’t spend time bragging about yourself or your accomplishments or walking around with a haughty “I am better than you” attitude.
Trust develops better if a human is willing to share his or her success with others and is not obsessed with taking all the credit for it, especially in a boasting imperious way.
You monitor the success and welfare of your cohorts or notice how well humans who are important in your life are doing and guide or motivate them on to even greater success or wellbeing.
Being empathetic with the humans you influence or who surround you is important in developing trust because humans want to feel that you care about them personally.
You tell the truth in an honest sincere way avoiding harsh criticism, put downs, ridicule, and name calling.
I left this for last but it is the most important thing which you must have for trust to develop. Tell a lie, deceive a person with a partial lie, or tell untruths and a trusting relationship will not develop!
Honesty is almost always the best policy and it can be communicated in sincere ways which don’t hurt human feelings that much even when they may hurt feelings a little which is unavoidable reality.
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