Monthly Archives: July 2019

UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1508!!!

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1507!!!

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1506!!!

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GOOD RELATIONSHIPS BOOK!!!

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GOOD RELATIONSHIPS!!!

Most young adults were asked what would make them happy and a popular response is to have money or be rich and famous. In a longitudinal Harvard study beginning in the 1930’s and still going on about 75 years later the conclusion seems to be that GOOD RELATIONSHIPS are the key to a happy life. We will investigate what a good relationship is and how you can optimize the chances that you will have good relationships throughout a lifetime.

There are many kinds of relationships which can even be called forms of friendships which are very close, close, casual, and rather remote or what could be called acquaintances.

There are minimal or borderline relationships where the contact between a human is minimal or even nonexistent. We are talking here about the relationships which you may have with national politicians, celebrities, writers, or hero like role models which you mostly just view, listen to, or read about but they still impact your life and choices to some extent. Most of these interactions are almost a one way street where you view, listen, or read but don’t actually have physical contact with the human beyond just voting for a politician, attending a celebrity gathering,  just viewing a video, listening to a podcast, or reading about someone in an article or book.

Our primary focus will be on adult relationships because parental relationships between parent and child have a different dynamic since most parents are in charge or are responsible for supervising their offspring or adopted children. If you want to learn more about parent child relationships then read my book MODERN PARENTING by Uldis Sprogis on Amazon.

Perhaps a good starting point to understand what a good relationship is, we should briefly cover what bad relationships are so that you can try to avoid them.

In a bad relationship the human lies much and can’t be trusted, is immoral, the human is not dependable, is incompetent, has bad addictions, or is not a good conversationalist.

In a bad marital relationship the spouse may be verbally and even physically abusive and argues most of the time about even rather trivial things. At the other extreme a spouse may be non communicative and basically ignores the partner most of the time. This too is a bad relationship.

Not so obvious is the fact that bad relationships should be terminated as soon as possible. If it is a bad spousal relationship then divorce is a very real option and if it is a bad friend then you should seriously consider ending the friendship since it will handicap you in the long duration.

Trust is the bond which keeps good relationships going and if you can’t trust someone then a good relationship is not possible. If a relationship without trust exists then it is a highly dysfunctional one with a lot of misery associated with it. Some spouses stay in a bad relationship because they believe it is best for the children or out of financial necessity but this is a fallacy because if you are in a dysfunctional spousal relationship then you are a terrible role model for the children who will grow up and also probably be dysfunctional in their marital relationship. So integrity or being honest and moral is vital to a trusting good relationship.

In a nutshell if you have integrity, are trustworthy, dependable, competent, sincere, friendly, a good conversationalist, and empathetic then you have the potential to be respected and maybe even admired by others. Yes, you can be admired for just being rich but if you don’t have the above good personality then you will not be respected by most humans.

Some humans complain that they don’t have interesting friends whom they can interact with. The truth is that if you want interesting friends then you YOURSELF must also be interesting so that you can share mutual satisfying interests. If you are looking for a friend who has a great personality, is friendly, is optimistic, and does interesting things and has the time and money to do those things then you too must have a great personality, be friendly, be optimistic, and have the time and money to pursue those interesting things.

Not commonly realized is the basic fact that the more interests which you have in common in a relationship, the chances are that you will have a better relationship since it won’t become that boring very soon. So basically if you are an interesting human with many interests then the chances of meeting someone with one or more similar interests is more probable.

Before you go out looking for good relationships make sure that you have one or more important things to offer someone. If your personality is not that great then make an effort to improve it before you try to enter relationships. Similarly, if you have almost no important interests to talk about then start finding some interests to make you more of a magnet in a relationship.

Sometimes you find out that a human is interested in something which you wish you knew more about. Take some time out to research the interest and learn the basics about it. Then get back to them and continue the conversation by showing that you did some research into the interest and have some unanswered questions. Most will appreciate that you really put in some effort trying to understand their area of interest and most will gladly share their experiences with the interest. This approach is especially valuable if you have a gut feeling that you like a human’s personality and would like to include them on your friend’s or networking list.

Ultimately you should put in much effort improving yourself first, before you start looking for someone that you may want to connect with. Become someone with an optimistic attitude and friendly personality for starters and then make yourself into an interesting human even though it probably won’t happen overnight.

To start a relationship you must interact with humans who potentially have similar interests and some of the best places to meet others is on the job, with friends of relatives, with friends of friends, at events which interest you and that you attend, at social gatherings like weddings, sporting events, religious services, community events, volunteering, political campaigns, and on the internet via social media, dating sites, and clubs or causes. Yes, you can also meet humans at bars, the coffee shop, movie theater, and in the supermarket but the chances that you will meet someone compatible are rather remote.

Knowing thyself is very important in life and if you don’t know or are unaware of your bad habits and good ones then you really will never consciously know how to improve yourself. In the book GOOD RELATIONSHIPS by Uldis Sprogis you will discover what good and bad habits are and then you can courageously proceed to decrease or totally eliminate some bad habits and replace them with more of your good habits and maybe even some good new ones.

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 4800 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially EVERGREEN TRUTH, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

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THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL WITH SOME EFFORT!!!

Most of the following really are a reflection of the good and bad habits which you have. Even though you should theoretically be able to control these things it often takes great courage, determination, and effort to control and effectively change them.

Who you associate with:

What you eat:

How seriously you take life:

How personally you take things:

Your effort:

Your happiness:

How empathetic and kind you are:

Your priorities:

What you talk about:

What you think about:

What you believe:

How open minded you are:

 

Whom you associate with:

At work you may not have much of a choice whom you associate with. If you seriously can’t tolerate your boss or coworkers then it is time to look for a job elsewhere. Unpleasant relatives you may also have to deal with but you can minimize your contact with them by talking very little and meeting them only when absolutely necessary. Other relationships you can minimize or terminate at will. Hopefully you will opt for relationships which have integrity, trustworthiness, sincerity, dependability, competence, and friendliness.

What you eat and drink:

Most are addicted to fast food and processed food. It takes considerable effort to change bad eating habits to habits which include enough healthy organic food which sometimes can seem rather bland without the sometimes necessary added spices, sauces, or dressings. If you are addicted to alcohol or sweet soda drinks then changing to low alcohol beer or unsweetened fruit juices, milk, and water will require considerable courage, determination, and effort.

How seriously you take life:

Many are not smart hard workers, are not neat and orderly, don’t schedule their budget and life, and don’t try to do their best at almost everything. There are plenty who like to goof off, make messes which are seldom cleaned up, buy relatively useless stuff, live from paycheck to paycheck, don’t schedule their lives conscientiously, and just do enough to get by. Getting serious about life can sometimes be very hard to do but it is well worth the effort if you become more serious and thoughtful.

How personally you take things:

Some get offended by the slightest criticism, insult, put down, name calling, ridicule, and humiliation while others either ignore it, laugh it off, or get minimally affected by it. If you hold grudges, are vengeful, jealous, and get offended often then you are probably taking things too personally. You can rarely change other humans whom you have no control over so just try to accept humans as they are, especially if they have slightly offending personalities.

Your effort:

Doing things takes much more effort than just talking about them. It is fundamentally up to you to get your rear into gear and put in the effort needed to achieve your short and long range goals. Laziness is sometimes hard to overcome if it has become a deep rooted bad habit. It helps if you are energetic by nature and constantly like to do things which is historically a work ethic. Goal achievement takes effort and if you don’t put in any effort at trying to control or change things then don’t be surprised if no change happens.

 

Your happiness:

Happiness increases if your relationships are good, you enjoy your job, and you are achieving short and long duration goals successfully. Yes, you can have a happy attitude in times of stress, failure, and boredom but it is not that easy to do unless you are an indomitable optimist.

How empathetic and kind you are:

If you are terminally wrapped up in yourself or very selfish then caring about others may not be your strong point. If and when you start caring about other humans is when your empathy and kindness will increase.

Your priorities:

We all have our priorities but few consciously realize or analyze and make a list of the most important things or priorities which they spend the most time, effort, and money at in their lives. Until you become conscious of what is most important in your present and future life, you will probably not be in full control of your priorities and you will be unable to change the priorities in any significant way.

What you talk about:

Most of us react impulsively when we talk and there are subjects which we would rather not talk about because they may cause embarrassment or arguments. Controlling what you talk about is not hard but it takes considerable effort to talk about things which interest other humans rather than just about things which interest you.

What you think about:

Most humans react impulsively based on prior experiences and knowledge and think very little. Most briefly think about when to eat and drink, who to communicate with, and what to do on the weekends. If you schedule your life then you will briefly think about the schedule. Ultimately if you want to think differently then you will have to research and learn about new useful things. This will then become part of your impulsive repertoire.

Really thinking is a tedious process of asking the right questions and getting answers. If you truly want to learn how to think then read my book on Amazon, How to  Think by Uldis Sprogis.

What you believe:

Except for morality what you believe will change with time as you are exposed to other humans, experiences, activities, and ideas. You can try to control what you believe but unless you expose yourself to other beliefs and perhaps think of possible explanations for them, you will defend your old beliefs as long as possible or until a crisis or emergency changes those beliefs. What you believe expands in volume as you learn or research new useful information.

 

How open minded you are:

Open mindedness is really a measure of how tolerant you are of other cultural norms, behavior norms, and new things in general. If you have dogmatic beliefs or ideologies and strong opinions about most things then chances are that you will not be very open minded and tolerant of other human’s ideas and activities.

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 4800 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially EVERGREEN TRUTH, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1505!!!

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 4800 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially EVERGREEN TRUTH, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

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