Most of us have at least a handful of bad behaviors which need improvement and it is often hard to lose them because they have become bad habits or bad traits. One way to eliminate bad habits is to quit cold turkey and not do them anymore but for most of us replacing them more and more with good behaviors or good habits is the practical way to go.
There are good behaviors and good habits which exist almost on a daily basis and these are more important than the good behaviors or habits which are displayed less frequently or only on special occasions.
Almost daily good behaviors or habits are:
Eat healthy organic food and drink as much as possible.
Exercise or move around enough.
Get plenty of sleep.
Work hard and smart.
Being trustworthy is the most important thing in human relationships. Trust is the bond which keeps good relationships going. Without trust there is no relationship or a very dysfunctional one. Trustworthiness is having integrity or being honest and morally or ethically sound, being dependable, and competent. Trust in a human, product, or service is the source of loyalty which many want and can appreciate.
Be dependable and punctual.
Being predictably dependable or reliable is important because trust begins to decline if a human can’t depend on you to be punctual, fulfill given promises, and behave in a generally predictable fashion. If someone can’t depend on you to do a good job in a timely way or fulfill a promise in a timely way then you are not very trustworthy due mainly to incompetence. Being trustworthy means having integrity or being honest, being moral or ethical, being competent, and being dependable. You definitely don’t want to have an untrustworthy reputation which is often gotten by lying or being pretentious.
Have integrity or be honest and moral or ethical.
Humans with integrity can often be trusted because they are honest and moral or ethical. Yes, being dependable and competent is also very important in developing trusting relationships and enhances your integrity.
Be disciplined or organized
Being disciplined and organized is a sign of behavioral competence which is very important for personal improvement and being respected for being a together human who is responsible for her or his behavior. Being disciplined and organized is especially important in the workplace where proper scheduling, prioritizing of tasks, and timely completion is so important.
These good behaviors or habits are especially important when interacting with others which may be on a daily basis or far less frequently:
Be loyal and fair.
Loyalty is a devotion to a human, organization, cause, product, or service and it is considered an admirable trait if the human, organization, or cause is not an immoral one. Loyalty usually means getting supported and not being stabbed in the back unless it is deserved for bad or immoral behavior. Loyalty is also inspired by being fair or giving credit where credit is due and sharing the rewards and punishments on the road to successful cooperation and achievement.
Be encouraging, cheerful, optimistic, and compliment.
The above all reflect a positive considerate attitude which is a great help when trying to motivate other humans to do well or behave well.
Be enthusiastic and energetic.
Enthusiasm and energy are contagious and humans who have it have more of an impact on another’s behavior.
Be sincere, polite, and respectful.
Being sincere, polite, and respectful is the best approach when interacting with strangers. It is also usually the best approach when confronting bad behavior which can’t be changed or avoided and is a way of keeping your cool under undesirable bad pressure or circumstance.
Be helpful and considerate where appropriate.
Some humans occasionally need help and consideration so if you are not too busy then offer that help or consideration which may just be a suggestion or a bit of friendly advice. Be careful to not be overly generous with your help or consideration because some will come to always expect it from you and they may become a demanding burdensome responsibility.
Be responsible and fulfill promises.
Do your best but own up to your mistakes if you make any and be responsible or accountable. Fulfilling promises is also a sign of being responsible for the promises that you make to other humans who are depending on the fulfillment of those promises. If you don’t fulfill a promise then it feels like you have lied about a promised future behavior and that can begin destroying a trusting relationship.
Be caring and empathetic.
Being caring and empathetic is very important in family life but if you are a boss or leader then some caring and empathy are also important towards your workers since it makes them seem important in your life.
Be kind, considerate, and compassionate.
This is very important when dealing with bad behavior in children, especially when they make unintentional mistakes in life. Your spouse will also appreciate a kind, considerate, and compassionate attitude and behavior since it is a very important part of loving behavior.
Be cooperative and forgiving where appropriate.
This is very important in human interactions, especially when cooperation leads to problems or unintentional mistakes which need forgiving to avoid intense arguments or disagreements. The forgiving may be conditional upon a promise not to make the same mistake again or a promise to do better the next time around.
Be brave, persistent, dedicated, and patient.
Being brave or courageous and continuing despite frustrations and obstacles in your path is important. A worthwhile struggle will often pay off with persistent, dedicated, and patient continuation.
Be responsible and confident.
Being responsible or accountable for your behavior is important and maintaining confidence despite a plethora of drawbacks is a positive sign of seldom giving up if the cause or task is worthwhile doing and doing well.
Apologize where appropriate.
One of the hardest things to do, especially if you are in a leadership position, is to admit that you did something wrong, behaved badly, or hurt someone’s feelings. An apology may be appropriate but even more important is taking steps so that the mistake or bad behavior will not happen again.
Playfulness and humor.
Playfulness and humor can be entertaining in family life and in interactions with close friends. In the workplace some will not get your humor and playfulness conveys a non serious attitude which is often not conducive to a good working environment.
Be a good careful listener.
No one is a know it all so careful listening is important in any conversation. You must know what is being spoken and even better is knowing the frame of reference from which the conversation is coming. Listening well and asking appropriate questions can be a learning experience, so don’t be too anxious to convey your own opinions or beliefs and perhaps responding inappropriately to a conversation. Yes, interruptions or trying to change the subject is acceptable if the conversation is getting too boring or seems to be off topic or going nowhere important.
There is tolerance for different behaviors and different opinions and beliefs which is personally good and good for society. Then there is tolerance for bad behavior and immoral or unethical behavior which is bad for family life and bad for society in general.
Most of us interact socially so cooperative teamwork is not only important in family life but is also important in the workplace. Failure of one individual usually impacts the success of others so everyone working towards common goals responsibly is the key to organizational and family success.
Mentioning traits is one approach to being aware of which ones you display more often but to really understand good traits or good habits you have to read about and make a list of the details or examples of a good trait or good habit. What exactly does it mean to have caring, empathetic, kind, compassionate, considerate, cooperative, sincere, complimenting, and polite traits or good habits? Do your own research by inputting the words followed by list or examples into a search engine and find out a list of behaviors or examples of behaviors which represent each trait category. The more examples of traits that you have on hand, the more successful you will be in incorporating those good examples into your own behavior in the long duration.
Awareness of what your good habits or good traits is important but just as important is an awareness of your bad habits or bad traits. Research examples of bad habits such as severe criticizing, gossiping too much, being pretentious, and talking too much. Other examples of bad traits are arrogance, quarrelsomeness, laziness, stinginess, unhealthy eating and drinking, addiction to drugs, gambling, and pornography, gluttony, excessive pride, promiscuity, etc. which should be mainly eliminated or reduced to a minimum to enhance self esteem and improve your reputation among others.
The road to self improvement starts with knowing thyself. So start out by listing all the good and bad habits that you have and then take actions or realistic steps to improve yourself for a better life for yourself and others who will benefit by your good example or role model.
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