Motivation: n. stimulating and/or preventing a behavior(s) with a subset(s) which is frequently done with (the promise of a reward and/or punishment) and/or (a command and/or an encouragement(s)) and/or a threat
Humans and things can motivate our behavior or create desires which make us do things. A desire arises and we either fulfill that desire right away or we delay the fulfillment of the desire until a later time.
A desire to do something or not do something is probably motivated by a reward and/or punishment and ultimately it is a desire to achieve a goal.
Many of us have simple goals such as eating, drinking, working, and enjoying life with pleasant pastimes.
Others also have complex goals such as making much money, starting a business or organization, learning complicated skills for a high paying profession, and writing a best seller.
Staying motivated or maintaining a desire for a long duration trying to achieve complex goals is very hard because it frequently means much sustained hard work, many failures, much support from other humans, and an undying devotion which few are willing to make. Unrelenting self-motivation is necessary to achieve long duration complex goals and it helps if you have talent which makes the achievement much easier.
The success of other humans and ongoing support from family, close friends, teachers, coworkers, coaches, mentors, inspirational leaders, and role models can all be sources of motivation which keeps you trying to achieve important goals even in the face of much hardship and setbacks.
Not frequently mentioned is the importance that emotional motivation plays in successful human relationships and even relationships on the job. Life has many setbacks and if you find a significant other who supports you emotionally when you are struggling with personal or job problems then you are truly being helped or supported. If you reciprocate the emotional support then this can create a symbiotic relationship which will thrive through the good and bad times.
On the job having a boss who cares about maintaining your emotional optimism by appropriate praise, always acknowledging the contribution you make and not stealing it from you, delegating some authority to you, letting you improve your skills on the job, and sometimes saying something good about you in the presence of coworkers can be effective in giving you a sense of purpose on the job. This will make you feel good enough even though you may not be rewarded with as much money as you think that you deserve as a reward.
We have many desires in our lives which motivate us to do good and bad things and our priorities may change in life depending upon the circumstances. That is why it is important to try and find good humans to associate with who motivate us to do good things and not bad things, moral things and not immoral ones.
Learning to prioritize our desires and controlling them successfully is a major key to happiness. Uncontrolled impulsive desires, especially if they are bad, can lead to a life of misery and turmoil so try to change those impulsive bad desires before they ruin a potentially good life.
There are many rewards and punishments in life. If you are smart then you will try to optimize your rewards and minimize the punishments with a realistic appraisal of your abilities so that you don’t crash and burn trying to do the impossible or desiring what you can’t have.
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