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13 WAYS TO HANDICAP OR SCREW UP YOUR LIFE!!!

You can screw up your life in more than 13 ways but here are the most important 13 ways:

Wait for the “right” moment to do important and desirable long duration goals or procrastinate about good long duration goals.

Keep complaining that you’re always the victim.

Feel bad about yourself and dwell on regrets.

Land a lousy job and keep it for a lifetime.

Have friends that you don’t like and who fail to motivate you to do better.

Stay with a spouse who abuses you and doesn’t respect you.

Have an entitlement mind frame or think that humans owe you and feel that you don’t have to earn anything yourself.

Have severe addictions to drugs, gambling, pornography, sex, shopping, etc. and don’t have enough courage and determination to overcome the addiction(s).

Realize that you have many bad habits and do nothing about them.

Live from paycheck to paycheck, go into debt, and never learn to budget your money.

Don’t learn to control your emotions and argue too much even about trivial things.

Lie to and deceive others thinking that they will never wise up to your immorality and give you a bad reputation.

Make too many excuses and almost always try to blame others for your failures and misfortune.

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WHAT ARE 7 IMPORTANT KEYS TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP?

There are very many more detailed keys to a lasting relationship than just 7.  Despite all our efforts to make a relationship work there are some crises in life which can derail what may have seemed like a lifetime relationship no matter how much we may try to avoid a termination of the relationship. These basic 7 keys will help to optimize a long duration relationship and are good starting points when further researching the details on how to make a relationship last.

A similar moral background with integrity and similar views on severe addictions,

Good communication, especially when problem solving with minimal angry confrontations,

Financial responsibility,

Sharing responsibilities in and around the house, especially for working couples

Enjoying sharing mutual experiences with family and friends,

Mutual encouragement and support to pursue mutual and individual goals,

Ongoing research into new interests which are then shared.

Almost all relationships will crash and burn if there is lying, deceitfulness, promiscuity, failure to fulfill promises, and criminal immorality. That is why it is important that both of you have similar moral viewpoints and are very honest with each other so that mutual trust and respect can flourish in the long duration. What this also implies is that you are free of traditional vices or severe addictions to alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, promiscuity, profligate spending, etc.

Failure to communicate at all or doing so very badly will terminate most relationships even if they initially seemed to be on the right track. Being a poor listener and having angry confrontations when problems have to be solved is sure to lead to a breakup sooner or later or a very miserable existence as long as this dysfunctional condition continues.

Next to infidelity, financial irresponsibility is the second greatest cause for a relationship breakup, especially in a marriage. If you are a compulsive spender or can’t control your urge to shop and buy then this will be the wrecking ball which will end a marriage. Sticking to a budget is the only possible way of salvaging a financially irresponsible relationship.

For working couples sharing in the responsibilities in and around the house and sharing offspring rearing responsibilities is important or one will feel overburdened or overwhelmed with a lopsided workload. Relatively few modern day couples can make a go of it on only one paycheck so sharing the responsibility of caring for offspring, cleaning house, doing grocery and other shopping is very important or one will be suffering from premature burnout.

Whether you are sharing enjoyable experiences with friends or family this act of sharing has a bonding effect on the participants. If you are single then bonding with friends is more important but if married your priority should be bonding with family first and then friends. Yes, some feel it is more important to bond with humans on the job than with family. This is a long duration threat to a family relationship and many regret belatedly that they didn’t spend more time with family despite a relatively successful career which may have always been priority number one.

When things are going bad for us the one thing which we all crave is empathy and encouragement from our significant other that things will eventually get better or work themselves out. Encouragement is also essential to motivate one in mutual goals and also in some personal individual goals which one may want to achieve. Let’s support each other in our mutual goals and individual interests or goals also sums up what active encouragement really means. Giving support is not only emotional but has a monetary and effort support component too.

A relationship can lead to boredom and apathy if both are pretty much doing the same thing day in and day out and both seem to be stagnating. The antidote to this undesirable circumstance is to research and develop new interests along the way so that the relationship is ever changing and growing in complexity. Some younger and many retired couples find that after the offspring are raised they really don’t have very much interesting things to do individually or mutually and some decide to part ways in search of a more exciting or interesting life.

You have to work on a lasting relationship and that means actively nurturing and trying to protect it or caring about the relationship in an ongoing way. Stop spending your time, energy, effort, and money on a relationship and it will often rapidly fade and become a thing of the past.

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10 CONTROVERSIAL PSYCHIATRIC DISORDERS!!!

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The following 10 psychiatric disorders are controversial because they either aren’t proven to be serious medical disorders, are badly defined, don’t impair normal functioning, or are misdiagnosed too frequently like bipolar disorder and ADHD and subject humans to addictive non curative psychiatric drugs which alter normal brain chemistry, cure nothing, and often result in bad side effects which are then treated with more drugs.

Here is an eye opening link to all the 10 controversial “disorders”.

http://www.livescience.com/12908-top-10-controversial-psychiatric-disorders.html

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THE TRUTH ABOUT ADDICTIONS+

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Addiction: n. compulsively desiring a subset(s)

We are all addicted to good and bad habits and grey ones which are good or bad depending on the circumstances.

Human nature is basically doing things impulsively or habitually in a predictable routine way because we don’t have to always stop ourselves and ask- is what I am doing right or wrong?

Doing something bad once in a while will usually not doom you to a life of debauchery or ruin an otherwise good reputation and you may even get some satisfaction out of doing so.  A little speeding on the highway, occasional arguing, occasional criticizing, some jealousy, a little pornography, a little gambling, and getting drunk once in a while will usually not adversely affect your life unless it becomes a compulsion or it is repeated much too frequently.

Compulsive eating, drinking, drug taking, gambling, pornography, lust, masturbation, arguing,  complaining, criticizing, jealousy, envy, abuse, talking, depression, laziness, procrastination, etc. can lead to severe problems in life and it is basically your responsibility to realize that what you are doing is getting out of control and causing you much unhappiness.

Chemical addictions can be devastating but many of your dysfunctional emotional addictions or personality flaws can also cause many problems and ultimate unhappiness.

If you can afford the time and money then rehab may be a solution to your drug addiction and it always helps to have supportive friends and family. If you have bad friends and bad family then unfortunately a near death experience may be the fear which shocks you into finally doing something about your terrible addiction on your own.

After rehab the worst thing that you can possibly do is to go back to the same environment and addicted friends who will trigger your need for the drug all over again and cause you to relapse. Change your living quarters and drop your addicted friends and try to find better ones if at all possible if you truly want a fresh new start in life.

Most bad addictions are not life threatening and the key to reducing their bad influence on your life is to gradually replace them with good addictions or good habits which you enjoy doing. Search my blog under bad habits and good habits because the first key to solving an addiction is to realize that you have a bad habit and the next step is to start replacing it with one or more good habits which you enjoy doing.

Addictions to immorality are the worst. If you are addicted to lying, stealing, and adultery then your social reputation will be in the toilet and you may begin to feel that the world is against you at every turn and unhappiness will cling to you like a parasite.

Your delusional ego may be telling you that there is no need for improvement in your life. Do some reading and research and find out whether this is truly the case.

Going through life blinded by your selfish ego is not a sure way to successful living so try to make the best of your moments on this precious earth. Enjoy life to the fullest with true selfawareness gotten from wise humans who have lived life and have gone through the same shit that you are going through successfully.

 

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT SUFFERING***

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Suffer: v. to experience relatively intense body pain and/or relatively intense mental displeasure

Few of us suffer intense body pain unless we have been in an accident or are approaching old age with stomach pain, severe back pain or joint pain. Pain killers are big business and many choose to use them rather than try and cure the cause of the pain which sometimes is incurable.

Many do suffer more mental displeasure and that may be suffering because of severely troubled offspring, failed relationships, living in an abusive marriage, death of a loved one, a terrible job, poverty, handicapping debt, devastating addictions, fear, or suffer from mental illness.

If other humans are the cause of your suffering then you can try escaping or ignoring them. If you are the cause of the suffering then escape is not an option and you will have to do your best to change your behavior or your circumstances.

Fortunately many of us may be unhappy but not necessarily suffering or experiencing intense physical and/or mental pain.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT DISRESPECT***

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Disrespect: v. to sense that a human has much less value because of (immorality and/or criminality) and/or (many inadequate skills in a profession and/or (bad and/or wrong behaviors)) and/or inadequate experience

Here are some basic reasons why we disrespect humans and value them less than others:

They may be immoral or lie, steal, or are adulterous.

They may be criminals or law breakers.

They may be incompetent or have inadequate skills in a profession.

They may make many mistakes or do many bad or wrong behaviors. They may be mean, rude, use profanities, communicate poorly, have severe addiction problems such as alcohol, drugs, pornography, promiscuity, gambling, excessive impulsive shopping, and in general have bad personalities. They may associate with bad humans.

They may have inadequate experience in life with human relationships and events and may be overly naïve and have childish behavior.

If you find out that you are being disrespected by others then maybe you have one or more of the above characteristics.

 

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FIND AND PRACTICE GOOD HABITS TO REPLACE OR DECREASE THE BAD ONES!!!

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We all have many bad habits which have become part of our everyday lives and if we eliminate them from our lives then what do we replace them with to fill the void? Replace them partially or totally with good habits.

In a nutshell the good habits are

eating and drinking healthy,

moderately exercising or moving around physically,

financial responsibility,

working smart and hard,

having good relationships with important humans in your life,

improving yourself with new useful knowledge and skills,

and taking time out to think about the priorities or goals in your life and making small adjustments as needed or drastically changing the priorities in an emergency or crisis situation.

In a nutshell the bad habits are

eating and drinking unhealthy,

not exercising or moving around much,

financial irresponsibility,

working stupidly or doing the minimum amount of work,

having bad relationships with important humans in your life,

not improving yourself with new useful knowledge and skills,

not taking time out to think about and readjust the priorities or goals in your life,

not being prepared for emergency or crisis situations,

and being trapped in bad addictive chemical behaviors.

Addiction: n. compulsively desiring a subset(s)

Addictions are usually thought of as addictions to a chemical substance frequently accompanied by severe withdrawal symptoms but processed food and drinks are also filled with lopsided chemicals some of which humans are addicted to such as sugar, caffeine, and carbohydrates. The withdrawal symptoms are sometimes increased anxiety and cravings for the food or drink.

I like to think of important bad habits as addictions to important bad behaviors with withdrawal symptoms similar to food and drink or noticeable increases in anxiety or craving for the bad behavior. The truth is that good habits are also addictions which you can develop a craving for. The choice is yours. Which addictions do you want in your life?

Sexual and gambling addictions or compulsions can do much harm to their addicts who definitely develop cravings for the bad behavior habits when isolated from them. Not everyone gets addicted to compulsive shopping, promiscuity, pornography, or gambling so if one does it a little or sometimes does some in moderation then it can’t be considered to be an addiction or bad behavior all the time or in every instance.

In a crisis situation you may have to go cold turkey or exclude the bad habit completely from your life. Realistically most bad habits are eliminated or reduced in small steps with good habits eventually getting lengthier time wise and more frequent and gradually replacing the old bad habits.

If you are eating unhealthy then start introducing tasty healthy organic snacks and eventually tasty healthy organic ingredients into your meals. Even organic food and drinks are not always tasty so feel free to add your own spices and sugar free sauces to the organic food and drink to suit your taste.

Keep gradually increasing the frequency and quantity of the organic food and drink. Eventually the tasty healthy organic food and drink will replace much of the unhealthy food and drink in your life if you unrelentingly persist in your goal of more healthy eating.

Sure society is so structured that becoming an organic fanatic is not only expensive but hard to do, especially with meat, and if you indulge in unhealthy eating once in a while then don’t feel guilty about it because it will not kill you or ruin your health dramatically.

Unfortunately the herd instinct or doing what others around you are doing is a very compelling force and it is very hard to overcome. This is why you should seriously consider finding new best friends with more good habits which you hope to get and leave behind your old best friends with the old bad habits which you have and want to get rid of.

If your best friends eat unhealthy, don’t exercise, are financially irresponsible, don’t like to work, have bad relationships with important humans, and have severe chemical or behavioral addictions or compulsions then the chances are that you will never rid yourself or decrease those bad habits in your life.

Birds of a feather tend to flock together and if you find yourself a member of a group of humans addicted to many bad habits then the situation for improvement is hopeless unless you miraculously become an independent selfmotivated good habit fanatic and live a life of relative seclusion or isolation.

Many humans have large egos and feel that they have almost no bad habits to get rid of. Knowing what a bad habit is or selfawareness is the first step on the road to a better you!!!!!!

Even after selfawareness you may feel that you are getting too much pleasure or satisfaction from your bad habits to want to change them. That is why the freedom to choose is such a heavy personal responsibility for all adult humans and many choose wrongly in the short duration and end up in misery in the long duration with bad health, financial bankruptcy, bad relationships, a bad lifestyle, and sometimes even death.

All good and bad habits start in childhood so you are truly at an unfair or unjust advantage if you have parents, relatives, childhood friends, and teachers with many good habits who serve as good role models.

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