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WHAT ARE SOME REASONS AND EXAMPLES OF THE DETERIORATION OF MORAL VALUES???

An example of a modern secular moral code gives a sample of important moral values. In nonemergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder. The 10 commandments which have been the basis for Judeo Christian morality have been watered down to 6 with two new modern moral principles- don’t destroy biodiversity and don’t be inefficient.

 

It is significant to differentiate between moral values and about 50 core values or other ethical principles which vary in degree from situation to situation such as caring, empathy, friendliness, cooperation, sharing, discipline, courtesy, etc. which are also vital to maintaining wholesome helpful human interactions and are reflections of basic humanity and are mostly indicators of relatively peaceful human cohesion and interactive complexity. Moral values are basically cross cultural essentials  or must exist in most modern cultures and core values vary in degrees from culture to culture and from individual to individual.

 

To all those interested in pursuing and understanding the difference between moral and core values I refer you to my book SECULAR MORAL CODE which goes into the necessary detail for a better understanding of the difference between moral values and other ethical principles.

 

Perhaps the only important moral value which is not rapidly deteriorating in the west is don’t murder. The rates of homicide in the general population have basically stabilized, except in some big cities.

 

Crime rates have also generally stabilized with the exception of some metropolitan areas so we can assume that traditional stealing is also not increasing at an alarming rate. The high incarceration rate, surveillance cameras in many places, and theft protection devices may be contributing factors to the relatively stable stealing rate.

 

In the United States internet stealing or theft is about 1.4 billion dollars a year and probably increasing on a yearly basis so we are confronted with the challenge of a modern form of stealing which is not stable or decreasing.

 

Due to the promotion and more general acceptance of promiscuity, adultery is on the increase in the United States. Financial hardship is one major contributor to divorce but a second major cause is marital infidelity. Family life is deteriorating and there are fewer and fewer healthy financially and morally responsible two parent households, especially nuclear families.

 

A common shared morality is a major reason why males and females stay together in matrimony over the long duration. If a married male and female don’t lie to one another then there can be trust in the relationship, if there is no adultery then there can be trust in the relationship, if both parents try to raise offspring responsibly then there is another reason why couples can and probably will want to remain together in the relationship. Break this trust with lying, adultery, deception, and excessive selfishness and this immoral behavior will ruin any relationship.

 

If you immorally lie then trust breaks down and a relationship generally does not last and the feeling of security is lost with it. There is much deception and some lying in the media mostly in the form of biased opinions without a factual foundation. Add to this the ongoing deception of politicians and abundant deceptive advertising and this leads one to conclude that trust in the establishment’s ability to rule is being destroyed even more rapidly than in the past. The tabloid like establishment press, left wing biased dogmatic academia and celebrities are an indication that lying and deception has become institutionalized and is spreading throughout society and not getting any better with time.

 

Some studies have shown that average humans lie once or twice a day, usually about minor things. Whether this is intentional or merely results from ignorance in most cases is debatable. Some studies even claim that about 40% lie on their resumes which appears to be intentional.

 

Trump has been accused of lying over 4000 times by MSNBC so far and it is debatable whether these have been intentional lies, opposition to liberal biased opinion which is now considered a lie, or merely unintentional ignorant incompetent statements about personalities, foreign and domestic affairs. Over 4000 lies in about two years is about 7 lies per day so I strongly feel that MSNBC is lying or that it is another example of establishment media fake news.

 

Not so obvious is the bad effect that very bad habits and hedonistic or live for today behavior is having on morality. There is growing drug abuse, pornography, alcoholism, mental illness, gambling, eating of unhealthy food, living from paycheck to paycheck, and a general philosophy that you should do only what makes you happy. Live for today and don’t plan for the future creates many crisis situations in daily life and morality often suffers in the long duration.

 

How many humans do you know of who have integrity or are honest and moral? These humans are indeed becoming a dying breed throughout society, top and bottom.

 

An affluent nation with less emphasis on morality gets more corrupt, gluttonous, lazy, and hedonistic with time so prosperity is not always a road to long duration moral stability. Add to this popularized relativistic situation ethics which almost justifies many bad and some immoral behavior and you have a recipe for continuing moral decline in society.

 

Many psychiatrists and psychologists are morally flawed humans out to make a buck at the expense of patients, so mental illnesses in the form of depression, anxiety, etc. are increasing and not getting any better nor are the symptoms being cured with mere pill popping.

 

Addictive bad habits are incredibly hard to change with verbal persuasion so it is no mystery why supposed professional advice givers succeed so infrequently in curing dysfunctional lifestyles in wayward adults. Yes, mental rehabilitation sometimes succeeds but it is time consuming and expensive, luxurious treatment which the average human who really needs treatment simply can’t afford.

 

Moral decay is not even addressed politically since the constitution does not mention morality directly and blindly assumes that the majority of the population will remain moral in the long duration. A common shared morality which promotes trusting behavior amongst citizens and among family members is essential to the ongoing peaceful interaction of citizens and spouses in the long duration. Letting immoral behavior flourish nationwide without punishment inevitably results in social chaos and ultimate transformation into tyranny or rule by severe censorship and rule by fear and the threat of mortal punishment.

 

When moral indoctrination of impressionable young minds in elementary school and at home is no longer done effectively, social and interpersonal cohesion suffers and society becomes ever more unpredictable and chaotic. Students must respect their teachers and parents for proper moral indoctrination to take place and that means that the teachers and parents must earn respect by being  competent moral role models and proficient disciplinarians who enforce just rules of behavior.

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THE ULTIMATE IDEOCRASY WHICH SHOULD RULE OVER ALL IDEOLOGIES.

Ideocrasy: n. rule and/or government based on ideology and/or theory

Whether you are talking about Democracy, Republicanism, Socialism, Communism, Clericism, etc. none will survive in the long duration if it is not ruled by a just morality from which most laws should be deduced and improved upon.

Yes, there will always be the question of individual rights versus majority or collective rights and the often ignored importance of quality over quantity in the long duration but there should be an ultimate ideocrasy or morality which should be taught to all impressionable young minds in any nation or system of government.

When offspring become adults they will realize that any system is not just for everyone and needs improvement. There should be some semblance of certainty as to what is right or wrong so the system can continue to prosper with relative security and peaceful interactions between humans of any nation and across political borders. What ensures this stability, justice, and peaceful interactions? A worldwide just moral code or idiocrasy backed up by just laws which get more just with time and not more unjust or more immoral with time.

A child should understand that it is OK to say in a critical way “you lied to me or you stole from me and that is immoral”. Yes, when the child becomes an adult he or she will realize that the government steals in the form of taxation for the theoretical greater good and there are some emergency situations where stealing and lying can be justified. The adult will realize that society is filled with deceptions and untruths but hopefully a childish sense of justice will prevail and the adult will mostly seek out honest, moral, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, competent humans to associate with the most.

That said the ultimate ideocrasy or morality for the modern age is- in non emergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.

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18 QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!

The two most important priorities in marriage are finances and offspring. It is very smart to make sure that you are on the same page on these two topics and have similar views on spending money or perhaps even saving some. Six questions you should ask are-

How much money should we both be making before having children?

Will we have enough money saved to take care of childcare when we have a newborn or will just one of us be working for a while?

About how many offspring would you like to raise or support?

If we won $10,000 how would you spend it?

How long do you think you will be working at your current job before you either get promoted or move on to a better job elsewhere?

What kind of work do you think you will be doing ten years from now?

 

4 important questions to ask relate to fidelity and promiscuity which is a very important subject to discuss because next to finances adultery is the second major cause for divorce in what is turning out to be a relatively hedonous western society with an overemphasis on sex and the pursuit of pleasure.

Beware, because old bad habits are hard to break or eliminate and if your future spouse has a history of great promiscuity then the chances are great that promiscuity will continue in the future too after marriage. Another important area to probe is a possible addiction to pornography and possible kinky sexual turn-ons which should be discussed prior to marriage to see whether they may handicap a consensual sexual relationship.

Are you monogamous?

What do you consider cheating in marriage?

About how many women or men have you slept with before you met me?

What turns you on sexually?

 

Housework can be a source for many arguments and you should determine whose responsibility it will be beforehand or whether you will be sharing the load and be assigned tasks to do such as cleaning, doing laundry, meal preparation, doing the dishes, taking out the garbage, yardwork, gardening, etc. Hopefully you won’t get into an argument about this is women’s work or this is man’s work because routine work is work no matter who does it.

Who will be responsible for the housework or will we be sharing it and how?

 

In-laws can be a major source for marital disagreement especially if some of them want to get involved in your marriage. Even worse is if they decide that they want to run it for you and are always critical of one spouse and take sides in marital disagreements. It is important to get a ball park idea on how important parents and in-laws will be in a marriage, especially if they are overly critical, combative, and don’t get along well with either spouse.

How involved will we get in supporting your parents in retirement years?

What role will your family play in our marriage?

What will you do if I get into a fight with your family?

 

What is also important is finding out how much of an introvert or extrovert your potential spouse is. You may find a very reclusive spouse unsettling and may start complaining about being ignored. On the other hand an extreme extrovert may spend too much time with other humans and once again you may begin to feel ignored. In either case, try to find out if you are going to have to deal with an extreme introvert or an extreme extrovert which may be disruptive to marital life.

How much space or time for yourself do you need?

What things do you enjoy doing by yourself?

 

Many of us just live from day to day without consciously planning or thinking about the future in any significant way. Some of us do have long duration goals so it is important to know how marriage will affect those goals.

What is your goal or purpose in life and how do you envision a partner fitting into it?

 

Finally, compatibility is often a function of similar likes and loves so it is important to find out in some detail what your potential spouse loves, hates, likes, and dislikes. If you find out that your morality is different or that you have radically different views on raising offspring then this can become a major source of arguments, disagreements, and unnecessary turmoil.

What do you love and hate the most and what do you like and dislike?

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WAYS YOU CAN DIFFER WITH YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE!!!

Before marriage it is always important to make sure that your views on morality are the same or that you trust each other, don’t lie, and believe in a monogamous relationship during marriage. Other things which are very important are your spending habits and whether you want to raise children. Agreeing on these major points is necessary for a good compatible marriage but there are other areas where commonality is not so important and may even be an antidote for a boring marital life. If you differ in these 8 general areas then it is no great reason for being overly concerned and it can result in a rather interesting marriage and not a dull one.

Different hobbies and interests are acceptable and with time and the sharing of experiences you may even become more interested in those differing hobbies and interests yourself. I had a scientific background and a great interest in technology, tools, and science and my wife was an artist interested in crafts, knitting, sewing, and dress making which I considered at first to basically be a waste of time, not a money maker, and basically boring trivia.

Over the years I made aesthetic evaluations based primarily upon how close to reality and nature the artistic items were. I was surprised that with time my tastes and spouse’s tastes became more alike and I developed a good sense of color, texture, etc. and became much better at evaluating artistic expressions and was surprised how often she asked me for advice, I gladly offered it, and we often agreed.

Different political beliefs are possible because one spouse will basically think that government should get involved in helping out humans in need and the other spouse may basically feel that humans should behave more responsibly and government help should only be used as a last resort. Let’s face it, establishment Republicans and Democrats basically believe in growing government and passing laws often favoring the rich and special interests even though they may claim publically that they are representing and addressing the needs of minorities, the poor, and middle class.

Sexual turn-ons may slightly differ in spouses and some may seem rather unusual and kinky. With time and having sex the same basic way very often you may eventually try doing some of that kinky stuff as a change of pace and find out that it is not that bad after all and perhaps perfectly acceptable. After all, pleasing one another sexually can be important even though some of the desired variations may take a little effort and perhaps unpleasant sacrifice to fulfill.

It is not unusual for taste in movies, music, and TV to be different with women often liking love stories, family films, and romance a lot while men often prefer action films and sports related subject matter.

Different cultural, religious, and ethnic backgrounds can sometimes challenge a relationship if there is no common morality but often these differences can be accepted and even appreciated with the passage of time. Most conflicts which will arise can be ironed out if dogmatic relatives do not get too involved and start interfering in the marriage and trying to run it in one direction only or a direction which is opposed to the beliefs and practices of one spouse exclusively.

Of course if you are a dogmatic Muslim, Jehovah Witness, or Orthodox Jew then a different religion for a spouse will not work. Most religions are relatively flexible with liberal and conservative wings and a shared basic morality which is don’t lie, don’t steal, and don’t commit adultery if married.

Introvert and extrovert spouses can often make a go of it where the introverted spouse leaves most of the socializing to the other spouse and focuses mainly on family responsibilities and not social ones. I am an introvert without a close friend and let my wife take care of social connections. It has worked well this way for over 25 years. I am much more selective in the humans that I associate with than my wife who maintains minimal contact with about a hundred humans who have crossed her life but even here she only has a handful of a few good friends and her sister whom she stays in frequent contact with.

Cleanliness and orderliness can be an abnormal obsession with some humans who may incessantly nag if something is not clean or orderly. If the house isn’t cleaned on a regular basis, the dishes are not always washed, the laundry is not always done, etc. you can still lead a relatively clean and orderly life as long as you are not nagged about it on a regular basis.

A sense of adventure and desire to travel may differ in spouses and is usually a costly enterprise since traveling to distant places and meeting different humans is often time consuming and expensive. If you don’t like adventure then you can let your spouse do the adventuresome stuff alone or with other like minded humans.

As long as you are not going into debt financing the travel and adventure, it is not something which will ruin a marriage.

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PRELIMINARY SUGGESTIONS ON HOW A 6 POINT SECULAR MORAL CODE CAN BE PRESENTED OR IMPLEMENTED IN SECULAR GOVERNMENT SCHOOLS WORLDWIDE!!!!!!

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Don’t destroy biodiversity:  

Conserve and gradually expand wilderness areas and try to maintain preserves for regional wildlife. Minimize toxic pollution, promote sustainability, and promote organic food diversity locally and internationally.       

Don’t lie:  

Define and give examples of libel. Itemize punishments for private lying and deception such as exclusion from a profession, organization, or friendship. Emphasize that one big lie or many smaller lies and deceptions can ruin the hard earned reputation of individuals and organizations almost overnight when the public becomes aware of them.

Honesty or not lying and deceiving is the basic reason bonding occurs between humans who can then begin to trust one another and live in relative peace and security. Dishonest leaders and dishonest organizations are also not trusted by the public and their reputation is also often very bad.

Don’t be inefficient:

Promote sustainable manufacturing with an emphasis on recycling of garbage and waste.

Promote the use of computer software and robots to do time consuming repetitive tasks in government, business, and at home.

Give examples of inefficient human behavior and the bad potential consequences from human extremes such as too much talking, too much irresponsible spending, too much useless education, too much entertainment, too much arguing, too much drinking and eating, too much greed or selfishness, too many bad addictive behaviors, too much lust, too much sex, too much fear, too much pride, too much risk taking, too much envy, etc. etc.

Do research and studies to determine what are the best ways to optimize human communications and get the most done with the least amount of energy expenditure or effort.

Of course competence is a primary component of efficiency so attempts should be made in the educational system to graduate competent humans with useful skills, useful knowledge, and useful social behavior.

Don’t steal:

Define steal and promote its first basic understanding to young impressionable minds as the theft of personal information and the theft of the possessions of individuals and organizations.

There are five justifiable conditions under which humans and/or the government can steal and this can be presented to moral teenage offspring and moral adults. Taxation to protect the citizenry from immoral citizens and immoral nations is a primary justification with a secondary justifiable emphasis on the controversial taxation for the general welfare or infrastructure and a social welfare safety net for the unemployed and also destitute. 

Don’t commit adultery if married:

A healthy financially responsible moral family unit is the foundation of any social and national success. Next to

. money, adultery is the second most likely reason why divorce occurs and ruins good role models for offspring who themselves may choose to propagate at some point in the future and be burdened by the same parental dysfunctional relationship problems. 

Don’t murder:

Define the murder of humans and take into consideration the fact that an accident may result in death and that murder can be justified in personal and national and/or international selfdefense.

A personal reason for murder is as a criminal threatening to use violent force on you with a deadly weapon such as a firearm. In national and/or international selfdefense proven terrorists or verified true members of declared terrorist groups can be terminated in their country of origin or at a minimum temporarily arrested in a foreign country to determine whether they have been framed unjustly.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT HYPOCRISY

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Hypocrisy: n. pretentiously claiming to have morals and/or beliefs which don’t exist in reality

An example of a hypocrisy is a human who claims he is honest and faithful yet lies about his income and commits adultery.

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16 POTENTIAL ENEMIES OF INTIMACY OR A RELATIONSHIP!!!

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Many of the enemies of a relationship are also enemies of intimacy. Intimacy is really a closeness of two humans emotionally and physically and anything which reduces this closeness can be considered to be a disruptive influence or a potential enemy.

Much less communication,

disrespectful and critical comments,

hiding or lying about true feelings and events causes distrust,

an overly domineering attitude which minimizes sharing,

getting bored with predictable repetitive routines,

adultery,

mental and/or physical abuse,

financial overspending,

loss of a job,

over dedication to job,

sexual denial by wife,

severe addiction,

irresponsible behavior,

disagreement on how to raise offspring,

getting old, and

an increase in combative or arguing behavior are potential causes of decreasing intimacy and correspondingly threats to the relationship.

Some may argue that loss of a job, financial overspending, a severe addiction, and adultery are indirect causes of a reduction in intimacy but all of these behaviors can directly increase arguing, distrust, disrespectful and critical comments so intimacy is still affected adversely even if this happens indirectly.

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