Some humans are too committed to trying to please others and getting praised for it. Doing things and saying things and then expecting or hoping for human approve of what you do will create much frustration because frankly most humans don’t care that much about you daily trials and tribulations.
They are too much involved with their own lives to care that much about your own, especially if they are just casual friends or acquaintances.
Seeking approval from offspring by trying to please them too much will create overly dependent offspring not being so good at living independent lives and close friends will probably start making unreasonable demands on you if you are too intent on pleasing them.
Living through others:
Getting too involved in the lives of you offspring or spouse and valuing their successes or failures as your own will not only seem like being a busy body but you will sacrifice having a worthwhile life of your own pursuing what you really want or like in life.
You effectively become a parasite on other humans mainly reveling in their successes and stressing through their failures. Take time out for your personal wants and interests too to create more balance in your life.
Frustrated with absence of progress:
If you spend much of your time in frustration with your own absence of progress in life or that of your offspring, spouse, or close friends then you may start complaining much and repelling others.
The key to overcoming frustration is to set smaller achievable goals in life and succeeding at them. When you do start succeeding then your level of frustration should decrease.
Spying on someone like your offspring or spouse is a sign of distrust and the feeling may be heightened if you have offspring or spouse who hide things from you and lie to you.
Spying is a sign that you no longer have a trusting relationship with humans and that you are either an untrustworthy human yourself or that you gossip too much about your offspring and spouse to others and your offspring or spouse no longer trust you to be confidential with sensitive information.
Spying on a potentially cheating spouse is common in modern society and it is sometimes necessary to get to the truth of the matter.
Gossiping is really spreading rumors which may not be true and it can hurt someone’s reputation and even your own if it is not the truth.
If you are not sure about the truth of a rumor then don’t spread it before checking the source and by all means avoid spreading rumors from a known unreliable source, especially humans who you rarely know and can’t determine whether they are lying or not.
Chit chatting about humans is not always gossip if you basically stick to real truthful things which they are doing in life.
Ignoring spouse, offspring, or close friends:
Behaving like important humans in your life don’t matter to you by ignoring them is a form of isolating yourself from humans and having a failed relationship or a very small relationship at best.
You can ignore bad humans and humans who are trying to take advantage of you but ignoring humans who you should care about is a communications or relationship breakdown.
Fighting and/or arguing in public:
If you fight or argue in public then you will not only embarrass whom you are fighting or arguing with but you will also develop a bad reputation as an inconsiderate hothead among other humans.
They will begin to think that you have severe relationship problems with your family and interacting with other humans.
Try not to fight or argue in the first place and if you do then do so privately.
Depending on luck:
If you feel that good things will happen if you are lucky then you will probably stop preparing for opportunity and not be able to grab it when it does come along.
Luck has played some role in many human’s lives but they have usually prepared themselves with personal effort and are ready to qualify or deserve the luck when it does come along.
Nagging is a form of complaining and the squeaky wheel frequently gets the grease or something is done about the complaint.
However, if there is too much nagging or squeaking then there is the possibility that the nagging or squeaky wheel will be ignored or the source of the nagging abandoned.
Some humans are control freaks or try to control others and events as much as possible. Control freaks are frequently tyrants who want things done their way or no way at all and it is the source of much arguing, disagreement, and bad feelings.
Harmonious living with a control freak is usually not possible unless you are a docile subservient human seeking to avoid responsibility for your own actions.
In a democratic society the tyrannical control freak is frequently dysfunctional and will only be happy if moved to another culture which idolizes controlling types.
Tyrannical husbands who want total control over offspring and spouse are getting exceedingly rare these days in the west unless they are controlling bosses at work and carry on the bad relationship habit at home.
If you feel victimized by humans and circumstances then chances are that you will not be struggling that hard trying to improve things or the situation.
The “poor me” attitude frequently wanting sympathy from others will frequently backfire with humans not willing to offer you any sympathy and usually not wanting to have relationships with you either.
Misery loves company and if you do have any friends left they will be leading similar miserable lives and you will be wallowing in your misery a long time.
Living in the past:
Old humans with little life left frequently live in the past recalling past experiences and retelling their life stories over and over again to whoever will listen.
Some ex jocks or athletes and young movie or TV stars also live in the past and frequently wish they were young again and able to compete or function at the same high level.
If these aging relatively young humans don’t find other worthwhile careers or interests to pursue they frequently become alcoholics and drug abusers and lead very dysfunctional unhappy lives.
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