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THE DESTRUCTIVE POWER OF SOME ABUSIVE WORDS!!!

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Excellent blog which dramatically shows the destructive beast that language can be when wrong stereotypes and name calling are used to label humans.

http://kindnessblog.com/2014/05/22/these-shocking-photos-show-the-scars-you-cant-normally-see-and-theyre-horrifying/comment-page-1/#comment-15672

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THE TRUTH ABOUT ARGUING

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Arguing is a form of verbal fighting where each side tries to dominate, win, or force the other into submission. Arguing starts in childhood with arguments about who’s turn it is, who is stronger, who is stupid, or who has the strongest or best dad or mom.

Unfortunately these largely illogical confrontations exist on into adulthood for humans who have not learned to calmly talk out, discuss, and sometimes compromise about life’s problems, situations, and differing opinions.

Adult arguments frequently lead to name calling, bad feelings of being offended, abused, wrongly criticized, or unjustly attacked. This sometimes even causes vengeful feelings or wanting to get back at and punish the offender in some way.

Arguments are inevitable in most relationships and the important thing to keep in mind is that if you were the unjust aggressor then you should apologize and say that you are sorry. Sometimes you can try to make up for the bad confrontation in some way by doing something nice or promising that you will not argue about the same thing again.

A confrontational language with a bias for yes or no, love or hate, and right or wrong communications prevents many from stopping and LISTENING CAREFULLY to each other and asking some logical questions. By calmly discussing you may actually find out that neither of you is totally wrong or right but that each has a valid point of view and that compromise or accepting another’s point of view is sometimes a logical acceptable way out.

CONCLUSION:

Arguing is childish fighting and adults should learn to communicate with almost no fighting at all for best results and healthy relationships. Listen carefully to each point of view, calmly ask some follow up questions, and discuss the situation in an adult way. When you do argue then apologize if you are the aggressor and have hurt another’s feelings or attacked another’s beliefs or opinions unjustly.

Argument:  n. very intense sensory disagreement

 

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13 PHRASES YOU SHOULD TRY TO AVOID OR SAY DIFFERENTLY!!!

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Say “I’ll try to help if I can” instead of “that’s not my problem” and say “Let’s discuss what’s possible under the circumstances” instead of “There’s nothing I can do”.

There are 11 more phrases which should be avoided or can be said better as shown in this huffingtonpost.com article.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/19/things-you-should-never-say-at-work_n_2717990.html

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WORDS WHICH WILL DAMAGE A MARITAL RELATIONSHIP!!!

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The 3 most damaging things which you can say to your spouse are:

I hate you!

I’ve never really loved you!

I wish you would die!

There are 23 more things which will hurt your spouse’s feelings much which Ben Donley mentions in his blog.

http://bendonley.com/2013/12/02/marriage-killer-1-thou-shalt-not-say-the-following-things-to-your-spouse/

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6 THINGS WHICH CAN CAUSE BAD CASUAL COMMUNICATION

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Asking too many questions:

Asking too many questions during a conversation can create the feeling of an uncomfortable interrogation which feels threatening. You need to ask questions during a conversation to keep it going smoothly but too many repulses humans.

Too much and too fast conversation:

Slow down when talking or you will start including unimportant random thoughts which are not understandable and make it more difficult for humans to follow the thoughts which you are saying too fast. Don’t forget to put emotion into your important facts or opinions and pause a little after making an important point so that it attracts attention and makes humans more attentive to your talking.

Rudely interrupting a conversation:

Some humans are so anxious to get their information across that they will try to rudely inject a thought before you are finished talking. Don’t rudely interrupt unless the human is talking too much and getting off the subject. Interrupting is not rude if you are trying to get the human to return to the subject matter being originally discussed. In most cases patiently wait until the human is finished talking before you respond.

Insisting that you are always right:

Personal pride will frequently tempt you to attack or argue that your opinion is right and another human’s is wrong. Conversation should be more of a calm discussion and not constant intense disagreement. Right or wrong other humans are entitled to keep their opinions if you can’t convince them otherwise with a logical discussion. Humans are very emotionally attached to their wrong or right opinions and they will frequently fight or argue to defend them so try to be as diplomatic about it as possible and reduce emotional exchanges to a minimum. Arguing or fighting over rather trivial opinions may mean losing a friend for no good reason.

Boring and depressing humans:

If you have nothing important to do or say or just want to talk about your depressing problems then it is better to say nothing and not bore the other human and repulse them. Having a good optimistic, honest, and sincere attitude will attract good humans to you and pessimism will attract pessimistic humans who want to join you in mutual misery.

Not reciprocating good feelings and information:

If a human optimistically helps or shares important information with you then thank them or reciprocate by also giving them some important information or help optimistically. Better human bonding exists or better friendships grow when two or more humans reciprocate and share honest, sincere, and truthful good feelings and information.

 

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