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THE TRUTH ABOUT DEFENSE MECHANISMS IN PSYCHOLOGY!!!

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Repression is the most controversial defense mechanism since it is a conscious desire to suppress a painful, unpleasant, or traumatic event in our lives. The very conscious attempt at trying to forget actually reinforces the ability of the brain to remember the incident so conscious repression is really not physically possible in the first place. Whether the incident was painful or pleasurable we can’t repress the memory consciously and it really has to fade in our memories through enough elapsed time which causes forgetting pure and simple. Repression is a mythical defense mechanism which has no validity in reality.

Denial is supposedly an unconscious rejection of an unpleasant event or idea when in fact it is an impulsive rejection of any event whether pleasant or unpleasant. Denying that you will die of cancer or denying that you will have a good time while visiting the Sahara desert is not a defense mechanism but rather an impulsive opinion which clashes or is different than reality or existence as it really is.

Suppression: n. trying to exclude an anxiety producing subset(s) from awareness. Not wanting to talk about a recent divorce or any pleasant or unpleasant event(s) is an attempt at trying to exclude an anxiety producing subset(s) from awareness. We may even try to suppress a good event thinking that it is too good to be true and therefore trying to exclude it from our thoughts. Having won an award and having to give a speech in public may cause social anxiety and we may try to suppress the thought to some extent. Suppression is really a form of denial or not wanting to think about or deal with an unpleasant situation for the time being.

Rationalization as a defense mechanism is defending a behavior, excusing it, or justifying it either realistically or with a lie. If you got a C on the test you can either rationalize it by saying that you didn’t spend enough time studying or you can lie and state that the teacher asked stupid questions. Rationalization is really the acceptance of a fact for what it is or lying about a fact trying to make us look better for having done something usually considered unacceptable.

Intellectualization is assessing a situation without any associated emotions being present. A wife may have dented a fender and feel no guilt or a wife may feel a son’s death by cancer was merciful and feel no sadness or anger. Intellectualization is really accepting a subset(s) or event(s) and suppressing the stereotypic or common feelings or emotions associated with the subset(s). You could consider intellectualization as being a denial of emotional counterparts for an event(s).

Identification is the conscious and/or impulsive attempt at imitating a respected human. There is really a question as to whether this is really a defense mechanism because what are you really defending against? Imitation is not defending yourself against anything but rather trying to be like someone else and you may in fact not be defending yourself against some imagined inadequacy or lack of ability.

Introjection is really a form of identification where you are imitating the attitudes and behaviors of someone else and making them your own. A psychiatric patient analyzing other patients like a psychiatrist and a daughter disciplining like her mother is really an imitation of someone else done in a conscious or impulsive way. Introjection is really not a true defense mechanism.

Compensation or trying to overcome a weakness by excelling in another ability to an extreme may be a form of defense against a feeling of inadequacy or lack of ability at something. Emphasizing your strengths and not your weaknesses is another way of looking at it and you may in fact not be trying to compensate for your weaknesses but be merely demonstrating your strengths and accepting your weaknesses without fretting over them inordinately which compensation suggests is happening. Compensation is only a defense mechanism in special circumstances where inadequate feelings are defended by excelling at something and hoping the inadequate feelings will go away.

Reaction formation is a conscious behavior which seems to run contrary to the actual feelings or emotions felt for a human. It would seem to make sense that if you hate or don’t like someone than you would not send them any gifts or lie and say that you like or love them to others. Some humans are capable of this form of dissonant behavior and it is called reaction formation which may be considered to be denial or a defense mechanism which tries to hide or lie about your true feelings in public about a human.

Sublimation is the diversion of energy from an immediate sexual and/or biological impulse to a more acceptable social goal(s). Aggressive or violent tendencies in a human may be diverted from actual violence on a human to participation in an aggressive sport, competitive game, or a violent video game or movies. A desire to have sex with an actual human may be diverted to masturbation, pornography, or just working hard. Hyperactive or very energetic individuals may use exercise or hard physical labor as a way to work off some of that extra biological energy. Sublimation can be thought of as defending yourself from unacceptable behavior by doing something else instead.

Displacement is discharging pent up feelings on a less threatening subset(s). Instead of yelling at the boss you may wait until you get home and yell at your spouse. A psychiatric patient may pick a fight with another patient after being told by the psychiatrist that she may not have an 8 hour pass to leave. Displacement is really a form of suppressing your feelings for a duration and then expressing them at some point in the future.

Projection is blaming someone else for bad behavior or bad thinking on your part. Projection is really a form of lying about the contributory cause of your bad behavior and/or thoughts and lying that it was someone else’s fault. Defense mechanisms are usually real or imagined excuses and sometimes outright intentional or unintentional lies about your behavior and/or thoughts.

Conversion is the psychic stress manifesting itself as a physical symptom. A husbands impotence after discovery of his infidelity or a physical paralysis of a body part or blindness after psychological trauma are examples of conversion. Conversion can be thought of as an unconscious reaction of the body to a conscious psychological extreme stress.

Undoing is really compensation for doing and/or thinking something wrong or bad. A mother may make a son’s favorite cookies after disciplining him rather harshly or a human may have violent thoughts and be especially nice to the human being affected after the thoughts subside. It can be thought of as a defense mechanism to avoid continuing feelings of guilt.

Dissociation is ignoring a usually very unpleasant event(s) which you don’t want to think about or make a decision about. An example may be saying that he meant well after a husband spends money unwisely or ignoring abusive statements or behavior in an abusive relationship because we don’t like the bad feelings which the behavior is trying to cause. Dissociation is really a form of denial of a usually traumatic event(s) which we would rather forget if given the choice.

Regression is a return to a former level of development or a childlike state such as a human assuming the fetal position in his room after admitting to being responsible for bad behavior or a college student going to bed with a teddy bear as a security blanket. It is really debatable whether a human can really regress to a childlike state which is really just doing something in a childlike way again and not really assuming a childlike state with very many childlike behaviors which a state implies.

CONCLUSION:

A defense mechanism or a defense of yourself happens by making an excuse for or denying that a thought and/or behavior existed or exists. Sometimes you defend yourself by trying to compensate for doing and/or thinking something bad and/or wrong. Sometimes you try to defend yourself by blaming someone else for your bad behavior and/or thoughts.

An excuse may be real or imagined and if it is imagined then you are intentionally or unintentionally lying to yourself or others about the thought and/or behavior. In a nutshell all defense mechanisms are either and excuse, denial, blame, and/or compensation.

Trying to stereotype a handful of behaviors and giving them a fancy name all classified as a defense mechanism is misleading the public and perpetuating psychological unproven myths. It is time to rethink psychological defense mechanisms and simplify them to what they really are and not what they should be with misguided historical intellectualization.

Thoughts and/or behaviors are either intentional or unintentional and they can be either real or imagined. In the process of defending ourselves we often do so intentionally or unintentionally and we do so with a firm grip on reality or we descend into an imaginary world of thoughts and/or behaviors which are really lies about reality as it exists. We sometimes lie to ourselves and lie to others either intentionally or unintentionally trying to defend ourselves and this is ultimately the cause of so much psychological stress and trauma in the real world.

Our subconscious brain processes these basic four defense mechanisms and when we impulsively make an excuse, deny, blame, and/or compensate the origins of the defense mechanisms are the subconscious sometimes modified by a conscious defense too.

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QUOTE BY JOHN F. KENNEDY!!!

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THE TRUTH ABOUT COERCION***

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Coercion: n. using force and/or the threat of force to get a desired (behavior(s) and/or thinking(s)) and/or belief(s) in an animal(s)

Have you ever used physical force on someone or threatened them with physical force? Then you have used coercion. Sometimes offspring are coerced to behave by threatening them with spanking and abusive spouses frequently use coercion to get what they want in a marriage. Some pets are also coerced and physically hit out of shear abuse or just a desire to get them to behave. Civilized humans should not be using coercion on each other but unfortunately it is still a fact of life in many cases in this world.

A stickup using a gun as a threat is the most basic kind of coercion without actual physical contact being necessary in most cases. Unfortunately police officers also sometimes have to use coercion to apprehend and arrest criminals or lawbreakers.

Slavery was made possible because of coercion by the slave owners and laws permitting it. Religious coercion is still being practiced by some fanatical and not so fanatical Muslims. Tyrants use political coercion to rule.

Scapehum: n. a human and/or group of humans that is coerced into accepting blame for another’s (immorality and/or misbehavior) and/or mistakes

I chose to make a new word for scapegoat and a new accurate definition because it is not a goat but rather a human who is coerced into accepting blame for something.

The less coercion there is in society the more just it is and humans can interact morally and relatively peacefully with one another. Unfortunately morality is not indoctrinated into modern humans and the result is much irresponsible behavior which the general public tends to abhor and begins to look for government for a solution.

 

Irresponsible immoral behavior results in many unnecessary absolute unjust laws which are coercive in nature since they are enforced with the use of force. Every unjust absolute law is really a coercive threat of the use of force if it is not obeyed. The net effect of so many unjust absolute laws is that many minorities are handicapped by having to live under the laws and it seems that there is justice for the majority but in fact many minorities are oppressed.

In the real world where there are so many exceptions to an absolute rule the more absolute rules there are the more unjust the government becomes.

 

So many unjust rules or laws means that new businesses and new young humans are at a distinct disadvantage competitively speaking and the established businesses and older individuals almost have a monopoly power over who can compete against them in society.

 

Government can’t legislate morality by passing laws to try and control human behavior in minute detail so a secular morality must be taught in public schools so that its citizens can interact relatively peacefully with one another in an atmosphere of more general trust. That secular morality should be-except in emergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder!!!!!!

With a secular public morality the amount of necessary government coercion can be minimal and its citizens can live in relatively trusting relationships with one another and not constantly have to live in fear of being victimized by violence and/or a ripoff by another immoral citizen.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT BLAME***

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Blame: v. to judge responsibility for a (mistake(s) and/or wrong)(s) and/or (injustice(s) and/or immorality(s)) and/or bad circumstance(s)

When you are blaming a human(s) and/or circumstance(s) then you are in effect being judge and jury and claiming that something is a mistake, wrong, an injustice, and/or immoral. Be careful who or what you are blaming because you may be partially or totally to blame for the bad human behavior or bad circumstance and you may not be guilt free.

Ask questions, gather evidence, and consult reputable sources if possible which is better than making too many impulsive judgments, being wrong in your judgment, and having to argue for your wrong biased viewpoint which frequently causes vengeful and hurt feelings in others.

Dead and living humans and their institutions and vices are frequently to blame for the problems in this world but some blame bad luck, bad weather, bad events, bad economy, bad laws, and bad addictions.

If you feel victimized then start by blaming yourself and then proceed to improve yourself and some of the world with it.

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