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WHAT IS AN INCOMPETENT EMPLOYEE???

“Don’t think of it as getting fired. Think of it as finally being recognized for your incompetence.”

An incompetent employee is basically an employee who doesn’t have the necessary job skills to do a job well. That may include a dysfunctional or toxic personality or bad social skills which manifests itself with bad relationships with the boss or manager and with coworkers thus endangering good morale.

Ideally a resume and job interview should weed out the incompetent individuals but it is always possible that the candidate for the job may lie and deceive and succeed in being hired much to the later dismay of the boss or manager.

Things such as prior job experience, number of prior jobs, length of time worked at the jobs, drug tests, future plans, and reasons for leaving are all important in determining potential job competence.

Possible personality flaws are hard to diagnose during an interview but a potential job candidate should have a good communication skills and be able to answer questions relatively spontaneously, with conviction, and fluently. Showing up late, hesitancy, inability to answer some valid questions, stupid answers, a very laid back attitude, nonawareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses, or inappropriate dress may all be red flags and possible personality drawbacks.

A human resource department does not exist in all organizations but a good one may filter out the bad candidates for a job before an actual interview with the boss or manager.

Once hired there are signs of job incompetence. The human may be a procrastinator and basically be unmotivated or slow and lazy, they may make many mistakes or be slow learners, and generally not do the job in a timely fashion by taking too long to do a job or rushing through and not doing the job well.

Then there is the insubordinate human, the incessant complainer, the overly argumentative or bullying type, the back stabber, the chronic gossiper, and one constantly making excuses and blaming others or circumstances for not doing the job right.

These personality flaws can become very toxic in the work environment and ruin company morale so it is important to act on the problem sooner rather than later and it is important to document all the unfortunate incidents if firing becomes necessary. Legally you don’t have to give a reason for firing someone if they are not a member of a union but if you have documented all the bad incidents then you yourself can have confidence in your decision to let someone go and not further ruin company morale.

There can be infrequent insubordination, occasional complaints, occasional arguments, some bullying, some gossip, and some excuses and blaming. If infrequent you may choose to ignore the rare bad incidents but if it is a complaint then you should listen carefully and determine if anything can be done to solve the problem which comes with the complaint.

There are some humans who complain out of habit. They complain about their family, about their friends, about coworkers, about the boss, about the weather, about their job, and about everything in general. These humans are toxic to morale and even if they do their job competently they are still a bad apple which should be removed quickly so they don’t scare away or infect other employees with their negativity.

When two coworkers argue then you may have to involve yourself in a calm manner, listen to both sides of the argument and then suggest ways that they can work things out themselves without taking sides and creating more drama and bad feelings. Arguing with an incompetent boss may be a problem without a solution unless the boss or manager is replaced.

Determining why someone is being insubordinate, complaining, arguing, bullying, or blaming is important if it has not gotten out of hand because you may be able to resolve the problem so it doesn’t happen again. Listen carefully, ask questions, and request suggestions on what may be done to solve the problem.

One important point to make is that the frequency of incompetent behavior is important. Does the incompetence happen once a day, once a week, once a month, or even once a year? If rather infrequent then the incompetence may be bearable and can maybe even be overlooked.

The severity of the incompetence is also a consideration so if it leads to two or more coworkers quitting their jobs then it is definitely severe incompetence which should not have been permitted in the first place.

There is outright insubordination or breaking company rules or not doing what you are ordered or asked to do. This is serious insubordination but sometimes a worker may have a different yet valid way of doing things which still gets the job done in a timely fashion. You may ask someone to do something a certain way and they may come up with a different but just as good way of doing something. This is not outright insubordination but merely a different way of doing something and basically getting the same results. Call it an example of creativity if you want, but don’t object to it in a condescending brutal way if you still want them to do it exactly your way.

Some workers may make excuses and blame others or circumstances for being late or not doing the job right. I got up late, I partied last night, I argued with my spouse, I was caught in traffic, I had a death in the family, I had a headache, my child had an accident, I had a flat tire, I’m tired, I didn’t have enough time, I had too many interruptions, I had an argument, I was given the wrong advice, I don’t feel good, etc. are all possible excuses for not showing up on time or bad job performance.

The procrastinator or unmotivated lazy employee still doing marginal work can be a real dilemma. Setting time deadlines for a task or tasks can be tried, praise for doing a job quickly may help but ultimately an unmotivated employee is an irritant to fellow coworkers who may have to work extra hard and do some of the workload of the unmotivated one. If the procrastinator shows up to work on time then you may have to fire them without cause and maybe simply say there is not enough work around here anymore for you to do. Effectively we are laying off the workforce and you are included.

Ultimately the manager or boss sets the tone of the workplace. If the manager is competent, optimistic, almost always in a good mood, greets workers before work, is willing to give advice and ask for advice when appropriate, engages in solving problems, gives appropriate praise or rewards for work well done, fairly punishes when necessary, shows concern for the emotional state of employees and empathizes with them, is kind and considerate, has a sense of humor, and generally has a positive can do attitude then you can’t really ask for much more.

Not hiring incompetent workers in the first place is the smart thing to do. If there is severe or glaring incompetence after hiring then firing or laying off is the right thing to do to avoid future morale problems in the company.

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9 THINGS WHICH CAN DEMOTIVATE WORKERS!!!

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Overworking workers will overstress and overload them causing great dissatisfaction. At the other extreme not giving workers enough work or responsibilities will bore and demotivate them in the workplace and they may start looking for a new job.

An incompetent manager or leader blaming workers for his or her mistakes is a great demotivator.

Trying to box in a worker with ambitions to work his or her way up the corporate ladder or improve him or herself in the workplace is another demotivator.

Constant threats of firing coupled with put downs, name calling, insults, rudeness, humiliation, and ridicule is bad leadership which can really kill morale.

Incompetent leadership in another department which has to interact and operate smoothly with your department can also be a frustrating demotivating force.

A manager or leader not giving credit where credit is due can also demotivate deserving workers.

A manager or leader who shows gross favoritism to a worker, especially if the favoritism is not earned or deserved can be a great demotivator.

A manager or leader who isolates him or herself in the office or gives impossible tasks or unrealistic deadlines to workers and is a bad communicator is a great demotivating force.

A coworker or coworkers who are lazy, backstabbers, or disruptive influences on team morale can also be great demotivator.

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10 RELATIONSHIP BAD HABITS WITH SUGGESTIONS, PART 2 OF 3!!!

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Timing discussions during peak stress periods:

Trying to discuss problems and find solutions during emotional peaks of stress such as immediately after work, during work, after a stressful day, or during offspring health or bad behavior issues is poor timing.

Not all problems can wait until the family is gathered for a meal or until rest time but an emotionally charged human will not be able to discuss much rationally and calmly compromise or find logical solutions to problems.

 

Jealousy and resentment:

Some jealousy is a normal human reaction but too much can also turn into resentment which will make you feel miserable and unsatisfied with who you are and what you have.

It is a much better mental attitude to admire others achievements and good looks as symbols for success and something for others to try and imitate. Not everyone is equal in society and some are just more fortunate than others and it should be accepted as a fact of life.

 

Blaming:

When things go wrong it is tempting to make excuses and blame others for our misfortune. Often circumstances and others do share the blame and most realize their contribution to the failure of others.

Blaming is really a form of accusation which many will try to deny that all responsibility for a problem is on their shoulders alone. Honest blaming is acceptable but there is a danger that you will begin to feel victimized by humans and circumstances and start blaming everyone and everything for your problems and not admit to being partly or totally responsible for your behavior consequences.

The danger in blaming too much is that you will not make the necessary future changes in your own behavior to make failure less likely in the future.

 

Pessimism:

A feeling that your goals will probably not be achieved and that bad events will probably exceed the good is the general mental state of a pessimist.

Knowledge about the bad things which can possibly happen is useful in preparing for the future but it is not very helpful in your life if this general feeling kills your motivation to do your best to avoid the possible bad circumstances.

Many pessimists feel like victims of life rather than as optimistic participants in life and humans generally do not like to associate with pessimists who seem to have given up on living life to the fullest and with a happy mental attitude.

 

Forgetting to forgive:

Forgiving offspring for their bad behavior or mistakes comes almost naturally but we must realize that adults too behave badly and make mistakes for which they should be forgiven sometimes.

Not forgiving will make the bad behavior and mistakes fester in your mind and there is a danger that you will bring up these past transgressions in the future and poison, greatly annoy, or make calm future discussions and problem solving much harder to do.

Immorality should rarely be forgiven and if it is then it should be conditional that it never happens again. For rather unimportant transgressions it is usually smart to forgive and forget.

 

Procrastination:

Procrastination is nature’s attempt at conserving energy or trying not to get involved in situations which will drain much energy out of you. Humans don’t like procrastinators and frequently call them lazy or irresponsible.

Sometimes procrastination works for the procrastinator and the problem or task either goes away with time or someone else solves the problem or does the task.

 

Workaholism:

Workaholism just means being overly dedicated to a job and the bad consequences are that you frequently ignore or sacrifice family, friends, and opportunities to grow and enjoy things outside the work environment.

The key to a more well rounded lifestyle is to schedule time for other things in life than just your job.

 

Saying yes to everything:

Let’s be realistic. No one says yes to everything but there are humans who try their best to fulfill requests from almost everyone that they meet.

If you do that then you are in effect becoming an altruistic slave catering to the wants of others and probably ignoring or not having enough time to fulfill your own important needs and wants. Humans who almost always try to please others frequently fail to please themselves enough.

The key is to say no more frequently and do it in a polite considerate way. Sometimes “no, sorry” is all that is needed as a reaction.

 

Comparing yourself too much to others:

Comparing yourself to others is natural because most of us like to feel that we are in some way superior to others in personality and/or wealth.

Too much comparison leads to unrealistic expectations and the danger that our own lives will self-destruct financially and relationship wise if we begin to live extravagantly in our efforts to keep up with others whom we admire and desperately but unreasonably want to imitate.

 

Feeling worthless:

Loners, the severely handicapped, and some old humans sometimes feel worthless and depression is frequently a natural consequence.

The cure is trying to get involved with other humans which can be doing volunteer work, joining a club or organization,  or surfing the internet and trying to find new friends.

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PROLONGED WORRYING, BLAMING, AND ANGER ARE TIME WASTERS!!!

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The key to efficiently using your time is not to dwell too long on things which you can’t change in the past, present, or future. Time spent worrying, blaming, or staying angry over things you couldn’t change or won’t be able to change is a waste of time. Calmly reflecting on past mistakes and taking steps so that the mistakes won’t happen again is not time wasted because it involves changing yourself which is doable and not impossible.

Stop worrying about what others think since you can’t read minds, stop worrying about the worst that can happen which probably won’t, stop worrying about the economy which you can’t change, and stop worrying about past events which you can’t change.

Stop blaming bad luck and other humans remotely responsible for your own daily problems.

Stop staying angry and obsessing at strangers and events which you have no control over.

If you can’t change something or control it then stop wasting your time thinking about it or trying to change it or control it.

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6 BAD BUSINESS AND RELATIONSHIP HABITS

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ANGER, BLAME, AND ATTACK

Anger is the first impulsive response for many humans when a rule is disobeyed, when a mistake is made, when a job is not done on time, when someone opposes your opinion, or when someone behaves badly. Anger is an emotional attack on a human sometimes followed by blame for being stupid, careless, not punctual or reliable, disobedient, and shamefully guilty.

Sometimes anger expressed by a loud voice at young unreasoning offspring is a valid signal that they did something very wrong or very bad. It can be an emotional threat not to do a very bad behavior again or punishment such as privilege removal or spanking will follow.

With adults anger is frequently the wrong attitude because it puts the offenders in a defensive mood and they will get upset or angry too and frequently feel that your anger is unjustified.

An open minded approach is best where you ask a few questions first and try to get at the real reason why a rule was broken or a mistake made. Whether the violation was intentional or unintentional is important and if it was unintentional then they shouldn’t get blamed but you should both try to work out a plan of action and a promise that it will not happen again if possible.

“Do you know what to do so it (the violation) doesn’t happen again?”  This puts responsibility squarely on the shoulders of the offender and if they honestly don’t know how to avoid doing it a second time then you can calmly discuss and offer advice on how to avoid a similar failure in the future.

A disobeyed rule, mistake, or bad behavior may happen more than once and it may be your job as an authority figure to dish out appropriate punishment if it is starting to become a bad habit. Revoking privileges, threatening with firing, and actually firing an employee may have to be done if the disobedience or bad job performance becomes intolerable or unbearable or threatens the smooth operation of the business.

Very frequently we feel that our opinions are valid or true and if someone opposes them we might feel angry and want to start an argument. With adults it is best to ask why they have an opinion or belief about something which is much different than yours. You may learn that there is more than one way at looking at things, doing something, or reaching a goal.

Frequently opinions about politics, religion, and sports will be much different than yours and you should learn to live and let live without arguing since those topics will seldom affect job performance or your life in any significant way.

STUBBORNNESS, INFLEXIBILITY, AND DEFENSIVENESS

A stubborn, inflexible, and defensive authority figure is a tyrant who thinks they are always right and insists that all their demands are to be met without questioning permitted.  The typical attitude is “I have done it this way for years and we will continue to do it my way into the foreseeable future.”

As with all rules there are sometimes exceptions to them in real life. An authority figure who doesn’t understand that there are rare exceptions to rules or that there is more than one way of achieving a desired goal and that one way is more efficient than another will fail at just leadership many times to the detriment of the organization.

Not keeping open communication with employees and encouraging input in the form of new ideas or new ways of doing something better means that the business will stagnate and not be open to improvement with new technology or better operating procedures.

Tyrannical leadership occasionally works managing low level workers with unchanging defined tasks but it is a terrible failure when trying to achieve teamwork in an organization where each employee can make new vital contributions at reaching team goals. Teamwork means flexibility and open two way communication between members and leadership.

CONCLUSION:

Anger, blame, and attack whenever possible should be replaced by discussion, assigning responsibility, and giving a human a second chance at doing something right.

Stubbornness, inflexibility, and defensiveness whenever possible should be replaced by some open mindedness, some flexibility, and cooperation, especially if teamwork is involved to achieve a goal or goals.

With young unreasoning offspring anger and stubborn discipline may be necessary to stop very bad behavior before someone gets hurt but in adult good relationships anger and stubbornness will only create unnecessary  barriers to good two way communications and mutual problem solving.

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