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10 THINGS TO TRY AND AVOID ON DATES, ESPECIALLY FIRST DATES!!!

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Sincere compliments and appropriate praise for looks and opinions makes most women feel good. If you have a good job and are a good conversationalist who knows how to show interest in a woman by asking questions and listening more than speaking about yourself then this is also a good thing to do on a first date. Your strengths and some of your weaknesses will all eventually come out in follow up conversations or dates so being sincerely honest will go a long way towards establishing trust and creating possible strong bonding with the opposite sex or significant other.

If you are handsome and merely trying to deceptively score on an attractive but gullible woman then the rules are different but I won’t reveal them because I am not interested in promoting sleaze bag behavior.

Melanie Curtin is a relatively smart woman and if smarts interest you more than just looks then here are 10 things which you should try to avoid doing since they are turn offs for most smart women.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/melanie-curtin/ten-things-to-avoid-when-_b_3447210.html

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20 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE STRONGER!!!

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Asking a spouse what they would like you to do more of or less of is a great way to start a constructive conversation. Discussing a just distribution of household chores is particularly vital in households with two working spouses.

There are 18 more helpful hints on what you can do to strengthen your marriage in this link.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bridal-guide/20-ways-to-make-your-marr_b_3279639.html

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THE TRUTH ABOUT ATTACHMENT***

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Attachment: n. bonding with a subset(s) which is frequently a lifeform(s)

Humans bond with activities, objects, other humans, and lifeforms in general and it is frequently because they care about, love, empathize with, get some pleasure from, get some benefit from, or want to be friendly with what they are bonding with. Attachment to a subset(s) frequently means that humans want to spend time with, want to surround themselves with, keep it close to themselves, and interact with the subset(s).

There is short duration attachment and long duration attachment and if a human continues to get pleasure or satisfaction from the attachment then it generally continues and once pleasure or satisfaction is lost or subsides the attachment gets less intense and frequent and may even be terminated or it ends. Attachment can be thought of as an attraction to a subset(s) and a desire to interact with it which lasts a duration.

Note that some attachments are not pleasant but we remain attached out of financial and/or emotional necessity. We can be attached to a bad job, bad spouse, and supporting irresponsible offspring from which we derive very little emotional satisfaction but do so out of financial necessity or a sense of duty or responsibility.

Attachment is frequently emotionally the most intense if we love the subset(s).

There are degrees of attachment and frequently the greater the attachment the more time, energy, and money you spend on the attachment.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT COMPANIONSHIP

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Companionship: n. being friendly and using time with one or more human(s) and/or animal(s) who are frequently only acquaintances and who sometimes  become friends

Companionship is one step removed from friendship and it is humans with whom you interact in a friendly way but don’t consider them to be your friend. Frequently companionship is hired such as a companion for an elderly disabled human who needs some help getting through the day with someone to talk to and do some basic chores.

Pets are frequently considered companions of disabled and sometimes lonely humans but the reality is that pets like dogs and cats can in fact become just like family members asking to be fed and paid attention to and in return offer joy and comfort to their owners who even talk to them and communicate in meaningful ways.

Given enough interaction time a companion may evolve into a mild friendship since long duration time spent with someone frequently means that the human bonding gets stronger and that is a sign of friendship between two or more humans. Initially joining a club or organization for companionship with shared interests frequently leads to friendships with some of the club or organization members.

 

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20 WAYS TO MAKE A GOOD MARRIAGE BETTER

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Share chores, bond with each other’s friends and family if they are not a source of arguments, eat healthy certified organic food, and exercise moderately.

There are 15 more ways that you can improve your marriage as shown in this huffingtonpost.com blog.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bridal-guide/20-ways-to-make-your-marr_b_3279639.html

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YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT TO START BONDING WITH A POTENTIAL NEW FRIEND OR DATE

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Righta: adj. just and/or legal

Subset: n. thing

THERE IS GROWING SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE THAT SHOWING OR REVEALING SOME OF YOUR IMPERFECTIONS TO POTENTIAL NEW FRIENDS OR DATES IS NOT CATASTROPHIC BUT IN FACT WILL HELP THE BONDING OR RELATIONSHIP TO GROW STRONGER.

POPULAR MYTH COMMUNICATES THAT BEING AS PERFECT AS YOU CAN IS THE RIGHTA SUBSET TO DO WHEN YOU ARE STARTING A RELATIONSHIP.

THE TRUTH IS THAT PERFECTION FRIGHTENS PEOPLE BECAUSE THEY THEMSELVES FEEL IMPERFECT AND THIS CREATES INCREASED BONDING DISTANCE BETWEEN HUMANS.

IF YOU REVEAL YOUR SMALL WEAKNESSES DURING A CONVERSATION YOU CREATE THE FEELING THAT YOU ARE ONLY HUMAN AND HAVE WEAKNESSES THAT EVERYONE HAS TOO.

COMMUNICATING THAT YOU HAD A SMALL PROBLEM IN YOUR LIFE AND FOUND A SOLUTION IS COMFORTING TO A POTENTIAL FRIEND OR DATE BECAUSE THEY KNOW THAT YOU ARE A HUMAN WHO CAN SOLVE YOUR OWN PROBLEMS SUCCESSFULLY.

IF YOU MENTION THAT YOU HAD A ROMANTIC AFFAIR WHICH DIDN’T SUCCEED BECAUSE YOU DISCOVERED LATER THAT YOU REALLY DIDN’T HAVE ENOUGH COMMON INTERESTS TO MAINTAIN THE RELATIONSHIP LONGER THEN THIS WILL CREATE THE START OF A COMMON BOND SINCE YOUR NEW DATE MAY HAVE HAD SIMILAR EXPERIENCES WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX AND WILL EMPATHIZE WITH YOU.

A REASON YOU MAY FEEL CLOSER TO YOUR DATE IS THAT YOU HAVE REVEALED A SECRET TO YOUR DATE WHICH YOU USUALLY WOULD NOT HAVE DONE.

YOU HAVE INVESTED MORE OF YOUR TRUE SELF IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND YOU WILL PROBABLY FEEL CLOSER FOR IT.

TRUTHFULLY SHARING THE GOOD AND BAD EXPERIENCES IN YOUR LIFE CREATES THE POSSIBILITY OF GREATER BONDING BECAUSE HONESTY OR TRUTHFULNESS IS THE BOND WHICH BRINGS AND MAINTAINS HUMANS CLOSE TOGETHER IN A RELATIONSHIP.

IF THE BAD EXPERIENCE IN YOUR LIFE IS A VERY STRESSFUL ONE AND YOU HAVE NOT FOUND A SOLUTION TO IT THEN IT IS BEST NOT TO GREATLY FRIGHTEN YOUR POTENTIAL NEW DATE OR FRIEND BY REVEALING IT.

THEY MAY FEEL THAT YOU ARE TRAPPED WITH A PROBLEM WHICH YOU HAVE NO SOLUTION TO AND WILL PROBABLY NOT FIND A SOLUTION TO IN THE LONG DURATION AND YOU WILL FRIGHTEN THEM AWAY.

GRADUALLY INTRODUCE YOUR BAD BEHAVIORS AND EXPERIENCES AS THE RELATIONSHIP PROGRESSES SINCE YOU DON’T WANT TO APPLY SHOCK TREATMENT AND FRIGHTEN AWAY YOUR LATEST HUMAN INTEREST.

REVEAL MOSTLY YOUR GOOD EXPERIENCES AND SUCCESSES IN LIFE BUT DON’T BE AFRAID TO REVEAL A FEW OF YOUR SMALL BAD EXPERIENCES AND SMALL FAILURES IN LIFE ALSO AND YOU WILL ACCELERATE THE POTENTIAL BONDING OR RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!