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24 CHARACTERISTICS WHICH CAN EVENTUALLY MAKE YOU MORE CHARISMATIC OR VERY LIKABLE!!!

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There is a big difference in a charismatic likable leader who inspires and motivates followers and a very likable human who is admired and respected and has much useful personal knowledge and skills which are shared by many personal friends. A charismatic leader has an excellent memory for names and personal events with high emotional intelligence and is good at leading many talented and not so talented individuals towards useful goals which are broadly defined as a commonly held vision. A charismatic leader is good at rallying the abilities of diverse individuals towards common goals and may not be that complex an individual him or herself and may not have a large repertoire of useful, interesting personal knowledge and skills.

A human who is very likable by definition has to be very complex and interesting with much useful knowledge and skills to not wind up boring and repulsing his or her friends. A very likable human is a good and interesting conversationalist about many topics whereas a charismatic leader may be limited in the number of topics which can be discussed or talked about in an interesting way. That being said there are many characteristics which can make a leader or an above average human very likable and it applies to many humans in a general way.

To become more or very likable here are some 24 characteristics which will help you become more admired and respected:

Have integrity.

Integrity means being moral and honest and without it trusting human relationships or bonds are not realistically possible and results in failed relationships.

Be honest.

Few individuals want to be lied to and deceived overtly which ruins most relationships in the long duration.

Be sincere.

Sincerity is really considerate honesty without being overly harsh or critical of mistakes and personality flaws of individuals whom you are communicating with.

Be trustworthy.

Having integrity and being dependable and competent make you trustworthy as well as doing your best to fulfill promises which you make.

Be dependable.

Being on time, doing what you promise to do, and being competent at what you do in a responsible manner is what being dependable really means.

Be competent.

Having comprehensive useful knowledge, displaying expertise in skills which you have in a responsible manner, and dependability is the essence of competence.

Be helpful:

Sharing your useful knowledge and skills with other humans and offering assistance or support in time of need is what being helpful is all about.

Be friendly.

To have a friend you must be a friend and that means being helpful, being empathetic, and sharing the joys and sorrows of common interests and experiences together.

Be empathetic.

Caring what another is thinking, feeling, and doing and sharing another’s emotional reactions is what empathy is all about.

Be confident.

Being confident is having an optimistic attitude about the relevance of the useful knowledge and skills which you have with a heavy dose of selfesteem which does not border on selfish egomania and arrogance.

Be optimistic.

You can get humans to empathize with your pessimism but you will get much more attention with an optimistic, can do, positive attitude.

Be open minded.

Likable humans tolerate differences of opinion, beliefs, and behavior as long as they are not immoral.

Listen more than you speak.

Humans like to feel important and if you listen to what they have to say and only interrupt if the conversation is getting boring or too trivial then you will be more liked.

Admit to imperfections.

Likable humans admit to making mistakes and reveal some of their weaknesses proving that no one is a perfect robot being right all the time. They sometimes laugh at their failings so that others laugh with them and not at them.

Compliment and praise for earned rewards.

Likable humans give credit where credit is earned or due and appropriately and judiciously compliment or praise humans for good looks, good behavior, and worthwhile accomplishments.

Keep some things confidential.

Likable humans keep some secrets or don’t express them openly, especially controversial opinions, beliefs, and thoughts about controversial subjects such as religion, politics, and sports.

Don’t insult.

Unless it is meant to be a joke no one likes to be insulted.

Don’t ridicule.

Most humans do not like to be ridiculed or made fun of.

Don’t name call.

Being called stupid, crazy, loser, bastard, bitch, nigger, homo, scum bag, etc. is still offensive to most caring individuals with integrity.

Don’t put down.

Being humiliated or harshly criticized for making mistakes, bad behavior, or being unattractive will offend many.

Don’t act selfimportant.

Likable humans aren’t pretentious and brag about themselves and don’t interrupt conversations to talk mostly about their own personal achievements. A little humility is what is necessary.

Don’t be arrogant.

Arrogant humans without a healthy dose of humility and a superiority complex instead may occasionally wield much power but are not very likable.

Don’t procrastinate.

Few likable humans do things at the last moment, are lazy, or expect others to do their work or responsibility for them.

Don’t offend by personal appearance or smell.

Likable humans often dress appropriately for the occasion and maintain an acceptable level of human hygiene.

Don’t have severe bad addictions.

While some charismatic or very likable humans struggle with severe drug addictions most do not have severe bad addictions to gambling, drugs, alcohol, pornography, promiscuity, overeating, and overspending.

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 7 MAJOR CHARACTERISTICS OF GREAT LEADERS AND WHAT THEY MEAN!!!

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Charismatic (the ideal leader is charismatic and that means that they have as many of the 7 following characteristics in abundance as possible)

COMPETENT (the ideal leader is competent or has a history of success in leadership positions, is experienced, skillful, and knowledgeable enough to know with feedback what to do and radiates confidence and determination and has an exceptional memory for names and events.)

INTEGRITY (the ideal leader is honest and moral which creates a trusting bond, respect, and sometimes admiration and loyalty from the led.)

STRATEGIC (the ideal leader has vision and can keep a focus on long duration goals and communicate this to others and has the courage, ambition, boldness, commitment, and stamina to keep pursuing the long duration goals.)

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (the ideal leader can interact and communicate well, has an intuitive sense, is aware of or has empathy and frequently senses how another feels and what they basically have to do, has composure and rarely loses emotional control, is optimistic, encouraging, and inspirational or is a good motivator.)

ACCOUNTABILITY (the ideal leader is responsible and expects responsible behavior from employees who are expected to follow contractual, legal, and moral behavioral rules. The leader knows how to delegate some authority, especially  to those with leadership potential, and how to keep humans accountable for their work with appropriate rewards and punishments which frequently are verbal praise, helpful criticism, promises, an occasional threat, and not necessarily always physical consequences in the short duration but physical consequences are important in the long duration.)

CONTROLLING (the ideal leader is decisive and judgmental or is not afraid to take control and make decisions when they have to be made, is flexible or resilient and can adjust goals to unexpected circumstances, can be creative or is open to new tactics to achieve goals, is selfefficatious or confident that goals can be achieved, and has a sense of humor when shit happens.)

HUMILITY (Finally a great leader is not a braggart and has the humility to understand that success at reaching important goals is the result of team effort and not just personal effort. Understands that much of the success is due to the efforts of all the team members of an organization and gives earned praise to successful team effort. A great leader also has the humility to know that the customer of his information, service, and products needs to be satisfied with quality output  and good customer service or the business or organization will not survive in the long duration even with a monopoly.)

CONCLUSION:

A competent leader must have competent employees and if  the employee does not meet the necessary criteria for excellence then the leader must have the courage to replace, fire, and hire the employee at will.

Finally a wealthy pinnacle leader who has stopped promoting and effectively leading must pass the baton to younger and more capable competent leaders or in effect delegate most of the authority which they have accumulated over the years.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT CHARISMA

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Charisma: n. a rare personal quality of some leaders who arouse popular intense devotion and enthusiasm and is considered to be a form of very intense human attraction

Today most charismatic leaders who arouse popular intense devotion and enthusiasm have excellent memories, try to be honest, sincere, dependable, are good conversationalists,  are good public speakers, and are trustworthy and frequently show their competence by growing the organization which they are in charge of.

Steve Jobs and Richard Branson are modern day examples of successful charismatic leaders. Historically charismatic leaders were military leaders and rulers who had military success and increased the standard of living for many of their devoted followers.

Historically there were also diabolical charismatic leaders such as Hitler who had a gift for military conquest, public oratory, propaganda, and a glorification of the humans which he led. Ruthless, cruel, and even evil can be words used to describe some historically diabolical charismatic leaders.

Charisma to a large extent depends on whether you are successful in motivating others to share in your vision which frequently has relevance in the lives of the followers and satisfies their needs and wants for status and/or possessions.

 

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DO YOU WANT TO BE MORE CHARISMATIC?

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Charisma has very little to do with external appearances and much more important is what you do as a human.

You can have inherited wealth of billions of dollars and have expensive homes and cars and yachts and clothes and be the most boring uninteresting human with no charisma.

You can be a selfmade millionaire so dedicated to making money one basic way that you also are a boring uninteresting human with no charisma.

It is what you do and don’t do as a human that makes you charismatic and it is not something which you are born with completely but must also be doing some of the following things in your life which have become good charismatic habits.

They listen much more than they communicate

Ask relevant questions and maintain eye contact with smiling and frowning and nodding but very little speaking with some infrequent vocalizations where appropriate such as yea and that’s true and I agree and wow and uh huh and sure and etc. which are indications that you are following what is being said or that you are agreeing with an opinion or fact which is being communicated.

That is what it takes to make another human feel important and that they are being listened to and not being ignored.

Don’t immediately offer your own opinions if they are different and mostly communicate selectively about facts or opinions which help affirm what the human thinks is important to him or her and try to avoid creating conflicts of opinion.

When you do eventually say something then make it as brief and factual and relevant to what the human is communicating at the time.

They don’t selectively listen and ignore some or much of what a human is saying

Charismatic humans listen closely to everything a human is saying and try to find subsets they can agree on and promote the concept that we are all humans and have something in common even if it is only the ability to listen closely to what another human is saying.

They don’t interrupt conversations with their own personal activities

Charismatic humans try not to interrupt conversations with phone checking or texting or glancing on the computer monitor or focusing on another activity when a human is talking.

They give before they receive and don’t demand that they receive something in return

Charismatic humans don’t focus on what they can get out of a relationship immediately and thus appear selfish but try to give the other human something even if it is only in the form of good advice about something a human cares about or an agreement and mild praise for an opinion held by the human.

They don’t act selfimportant

Charismatic humans are not pretentious and bragging personalities but try to be as honest and sincere as possible so that other humans are not forced to be impressed and are not irritated and uncomfortable during the conversation which is frequently accompanied by hateful feelings too.

They feel that most people are important because you can learn a new subset from almost anyone

Charismatic humans always search for new knowledge which can be useful to them and they feel that almost anyone has something new to offer them and learn if they just listen closely enough.

Praise others for the good that they do

Find out human achievements ahead of time from valid sources and then feel free to praise the achievements you learn about directly from the human or indirectly from other sources of information which may be other humans.

They are optimistic and communicate with optimistic words

Charismatic humans are usually happy and enthusiastic and fulfilled humans who rarely express pessimistic thoughts unless the pessimism is factually justified because realistically not everything we try to achieve in life is optimistically possible. Charismatic humans are usually realists who don’t believe in pursuing impossible goals in life.

They don’t discuss the failings of others at great length

Charismatic humans don’t gossip especially about personal problems which humans may be experiencing. Recognizing failure is important and others should be notified of human mistakes and failure to reach goals but that failure should not be ridiculed or laughed at.

They admit their failings honestly and sometimes laugh about it

Charismatic humans do not try to pretend perfection since no human is perfect but are speedy to admit their mistakes and maybe even laugh a little at them. This way sharing failure with others with honest admissions and a little humor makes humans laugh with you and not at you. Humans realize that perfection is an impossible human characteristic and will like you better and feel more empathy with you if you honestly share your mistakes with them so you both can learn to not repeat the mistake or mistakes over again in the future. Mutual companionship develops better in honest sincere and sometimes humorous circumstances.

Trump is a charismatic politician who uncharacteristically likes to brag about himself, repeats the same basic themes over and over again, and is very confident, enthusiastic, and energetic. What is Trump’s political charisma is not necessarily always the same as what true charisma is in other leaders in more down to earth professions. What is true charisma and political charisma are slightly different as to style as Trump has proven. Trump may turn off intelligent humans who believe in civility in public office, so you can say that his charisma is not universal among all humans.

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