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WHAT IS AN INCOMPETENT EMPLOYEE???

“Don’t think of it as getting fired. Think of it as finally being recognized for your incompetence.”

An incompetent employee is basically an employee who doesn’t have the necessary job skills to do a job well. That may include a dysfunctional or toxic personality or bad social skills which manifests itself with bad relationships with the boss or manager and with coworkers thus endangering good morale.

Ideally a resume and job interview should weed out the incompetent individuals but it is always possible that the candidate for the job may lie and deceive and succeed in being hired much to the later dismay of the boss or manager.

Things such as prior job experience, number of prior jobs, length of time worked at the jobs, drug tests, future plans, and reasons for leaving are all important in determining potential job competence.

Possible personality flaws are hard to diagnose during an interview but a potential job candidate should have a good communication skills and be able to answer questions relatively spontaneously, with conviction, and fluently. Showing up late, hesitancy, inability to answer some valid questions, stupid answers, a very laid back attitude, nonawareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses, or inappropriate dress may all be red flags and possible personality drawbacks.

A human resource department does not exist in all organizations but a good one may filter out the bad candidates for a job before an actual interview with the boss or manager.

Once hired there are signs of job incompetence. The human may be a procrastinator and basically be unmotivated or slow and lazy, they may make many mistakes or be slow learners, and generally not do the job in a timely fashion by taking too long to do a job or rushing through and not doing the job well.

Then there is the insubordinate human, the incessant complainer, the overly argumentative or bullying type, the back stabber, the chronic gossiper, and one constantly making excuses and blaming others or circumstances for not doing the job right.

These personality flaws can become very toxic in the work environment and ruin company morale so it is important to act on the problem sooner rather than later and it is important to document all the unfortunate incidents if firing becomes necessary. Legally you don’t have to give a reason for firing someone if they are not a member of a union but if you have documented all the bad incidents then you yourself can have confidence in your decision to let someone go and not further ruin company morale.

There can be infrequent insubordination, occasional complaints, occasional arguments, some bullying, some gossip, and some excuses and blaming. If infrequent you may choose to ignore the rare bad incidents but if it is a complaint then you should listen carefully and determine if anything can be done to solve the problem which comes with the complaint.

There are some humans who complain out of habit. They complain about their family, about their friends, about coworkers, about the boss, about the weather, about their job, and about everything in general. These humans are toxic to morale and even if they do their job competently they are still a bad apple which should be removed quickly so they don’t scare away or infect other employees with their negativity.

When two coworkers argue then you may have to involve yourself in a calm manner, listen to both sides of the argument and then suggest ways that they can work things out themselves without taking sides and creating more drama and bad feelings. Arguing with an incompetent boss may be a problem without a solution unless the boss or manager is replaced.

Determining why someone is being insubordinate, complaining, arguing, bullying, or blaming is important if it has not gotten out of hand because you may be able to resolve the problem so it doesn’t happen again. Listen carefully, ask questions, and request suggestions on what may be done to solve the problem.

One important point to make is that the frequency of incompetent behavior is important. Does the incompetence happen once a day, once a week, once a month, or even once a year? If rather infrequent then the incompetence may be bearable and can maybe even be overlooked.

The severity of the incompetence is also a consideration so if it leads to two or more coworkers quitting their jobs then it is definitely severe incompetence which should not have been permitted in the first place.

There is outright insubordination or breaking company rules or not doing what you are ordered or asked to do. This is serious insubordination but sometimes a worker may have a different yet valid way of doing things which still gets the job done in a timely fashion. You may ask someone to do something a certain way and they may come up with a different but just as good way of doing something. This is not outright insubordination but merely a different way of doing something and basically getting the same results. Call it an example of creativity if you want, but don’t object to it in a condescending brutal way if you still want them to do it exactly your way.

Some workers may make excuses and blame others or circumstances for being late or not doing the job right. I got up late, I partied last night, I argued with my spouse, I was caught in traffic, I had a death in the family, I had a headache, my child had an accident, I had a flat tire, I’m tired, I didn’t have enough time, I had too many interruptions, I had an argument, I was given the wrong advice, I don’t feel good, etc. are all possible excuses for not showing up on time or bad job performance.

The procrastinator or unmotivated lazy employee still doing marginal work can be a real dilemma. Setting time deadlines for a task or tasks can be tried, praise for doing a job quickly may help but ultimately an unmotivated employee is an irritant to fellow coworkers who may have to work extra hard and do some of the workload of the unmotivated one. If the procrastinator shows up to work on time then you may have to fire them without cause and maybe simply say there is not enough work around here anymore for you to do. Effectively we are laying off the workforce and you are included.

Ultimately the manager or boss sets the tone of the workplace. If the manager is competent, optimistic, almost always in a good mood, greets workers before work, is willing to give advice and ask for advice when appropriate, engages in solving problems, gives appropriate praise or rewards for work well done, fairly punishes when necessary, shows concern for the emotional state of employees and empathizes with them, is kind and considerate, has a sense of humor, and generally has a positive can do attitude then you can’t really ask for much more.

Not hiring incompetent workers in the first place is the smart thing to do. If there is severe or glaring incompetence after hiring then firing or laying off is the right thing to do to avoid future morale problems in the company.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT STOICISM+

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Stoicism: n. enduring pain and suffering and hardship without complaining and showing minimal emotion

When there is hardship, suffering, and even pain most of us get emotionally upset and feel that we have a right to complain about it. If you minimally complain and don’t get emotionally upset then you are said to have a stoical attitude or you are a stoic.

“Be a man and roll with the punches” is historically a call to male stoicism or putting up with much crap without complaining or getting overly emotional about it.

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10 RELATIONSHIP BAD HABITS WITH SUGGESTIONS, PART 1 OF 3!!!

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Lying:

Honesty, sincerity, dependability, and loyalty is what creates trust in a relationship. Trust is the relationship glue and lying destroys a relationship and makes it a very bad one or practically no useful relationship at all.

Even white lies are unnecessary and there are tactful alternatives which maintain your honesty and continue a solid trusting relationship. Instead of lying about a dress to your spouse say it is OK but it is not your favorite color, color combination, style, pattern, size, length or is too sexy or too frilly.

Don’t lie and you won’t have to remember the lies that you told which get you into trouble sooner or latter.

 

Trying to improve him or her:

Adult personalities rarely change radically and what you see is frequently what you get and will get.

If you hate too many of a human’s characteristics then try to avoid them or try not to get too involved in the first place. Live and let live but keep your close relationships with human’s that you trust and like and don’t waste your time with what you consider bad, especially immoral humans.

An abusive, emotionally unstable, and lying human will not be rehabilitated no matter how hard you try so be realistic and avoid them.

 

Complaining or nagging too much:

There is plenty in this world to complain about but if you can’t change or control the situation or the human then avoid them as much as possible or stop complaining.

Change the situation for the better if you can but stop complaining or nagging about things which will probably never change and are outside of your ability to change for the better.

If you are nagging your significant other too much then you should consider replacing him or her with someone you won’t have to nag so much.

 

Lying to yourself:

Stop thinking that you should always be the center of attention, that you are never wrong and don’t need to apologize for anything, that everyone that you meet should admire and respect you, and that everyone should agree with your beliefs and opinions.

Excessive pride or an over inflated ego ignores the fact that most of us are imperfect humans with flaws and that we sometimes need the help of others to compensate for our weaknesses which we sometimes are unaware of.

Knowing yourself intimately as objectively as possible is the first step to being truthful about yourself and your abilities. Don’t be delusional and you won’t be handicapped with an unrealistic judgment of your abilities and potential.

 

Criticizing too much and inappropriately:

Harsh criticism, put downs, name calling, and ridicule feels like a personal attack, puts humans in a defensive mode, and they will do their best to ignore the criticism or defend their actions beyond reason.

Make tactful helpful suggestions on how a human should behave or solve a problem or mistake and there will be less resistance and potentially more cooperation and effective future actions.

 

Surrounding yourself with negative humans:

Surrounding yourself with bad, especially immoral humans is a terrible idea.

Interacting too much with a complaining, blaming, procrastinating, pessimistic, jealous, resentful, fearful, depressed, and abusive human is also bad and is what is commonly called a negative human with some or many of the listed bad characteristics.

Trying to associate more with optimistic humans is the solution to this bad problem.

 

Being secretive instead of telling humans what is bothering you:

Humans can rarely read your mind and good honest, sincere, trustworthy communications depend on full disclosure of what is bothering you so that humans can react appropriately without unnecessary misunderstandings.

 

Being secretive with humans you don’t know well may save you from embarrassment sometimes but if you want to maintain close relationships with a human then secrecy is not advisable because humans get upset if they feel you are trying to hide something important from them.

 

Arrogant bragging or trying too much to impress others with your wealth and/or accomplishments:

Almost no one likes a braggart and if you go around too much trying to impress humans with your greatness then they will think less of you and not give you the admiration and respect which you are hoping for.

 

Unfriendliness:

Smart humans know that the most progress is made with the help of other humans and a friendly attitude will frequently attract new useful humans and keep the friendships which you have already made.

A friendly attitude towards strangers or a nice communication with them is useful to find out if they may make good potential new friends or acquaintances.

It is even wise to be polite to assholes who frequently like to abuse humans with their bad behavior and sometimes even get satisfaction from emotionally upsetting other humans.

 

Worrying and fearing too much:

Some worry and fear is natural and frequently motivates us to behave in certain ways or to change the way we react to circumstances.

Too much worry about past and future failures and a fear that the worst will happen can stress us out emotionally beyond realistic necessity.

The courage to get up from failure and try again and again, perhaps a different way, is what makes improvement in our lives possible and is the antidote to too much worrying and fear.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT NAGGING

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Nag: v. to frequently repeat identical (commands and/or criticisms) and/or annoying communications which annoy a human(s)

Repeat commands and/or criticisms or do them over and over again or repeat the same words or expressions or do them over and over again and you are nagging and are sure to annoy someone.

Wives are frequently accused of nagging but domineering husbands are also sometimes guilty of nagging.

Offspring are also sometimes nagged. Clean up your room, take out the garbage, come home on time, feed the pet, brush your teeth, hang up your clothes, and turn out the light are some examples of nagging expressions which can be stopped if you punish with the withdrawal of important privileges until the bad habit disappears or becomes so infrequent that it is acceptable behavior.

Nag too much and it is ignored communication. Unless it is something very important and has to be resolved don’t nag but do something about it.

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