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THE TRUTH ABOUT STRICTNESS+

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Strictness: n. demanding complete obedience to a law and/or behavior

 

Historically and still in many parts of the world strict parenting is still in style with demands for “proper” behavior from offspring. Strict parenting rules are appropriate for strict religious upbringing but not that great for western cultures where a more democratic approach is recommended for teenagers, although stricter rules for young offspring are desirable.

 

I would recommend a strict secular moral code for young impressionable minds and that is- except in emergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder. Once you establish an impulsive tendency towards moral behavior then the rest of your behavior becomes much easier and you don’t have to constantly ask yourself- Is what I am doing right or wrong?

 

Having a strict secular moral code is desirable but strict laws are sometimes greatly flawed in special circumstances and for special humans so some laws are broken because absolute rules are not the best way that the real world functions. It is not always yes or no, obey or disobey, but there are times when is most of the time, some of the time, and almost never. I obey the law most of the time, some of the time, and almost never.

 

Complete obedience to all laws all the time is absolute obedience to them and this is often very unjust for minority groups and handicapped humans with special exceptions. Absolute laws frequently trap humans into blind obedience causing them some personal harm, hardship, or great inconvenience.

 

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MANY SOURCES OF BAD STRESS AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM!!!

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Stress is life putting demands or pressure on you and it is very natural so we are really talking here about things or sources which can put excessive and undesirable levels of stress on your mind. If the intensity, duration, and frequency of the stress is too great then it can become a potential health problem and learning to reduce the stress may become vital in your life.

There is good stress, bad stress, in between stress, and no stress. The major theme of this article is becoming aware of the sources of bad stress and reducing the bad sources of stress to a tolerable minimum.

You may be the major source of bad stress, the bad humans around you may stress you out, and your bad job or overwhelming responsibilities may be the primary reason for your high levels of bad stress. With personal selfdiscipline and realizing that a stressful feeling originates in YOUR brain you can learn to minimize it’s emotional impact with the right behavior or the right reactions to events in your life.

If incompetent flawed human personalities are the major source of your stress and you can’t fire them or ask them to leave then unfortunately you will have to leave yourself or find ways to ignore them as much as possible if you are forced to live with them. Find a better job, divorce or find another significant other, or leave an organization if the humans there are too unbearably stressful. Unhappy relationships can be very stressful so try to find or replace the unhappy relationships with happy ones.

If your job or life responsibilities are the major cause of stress then there are many books with suggestions on how to reduce job stress and how to reduce the responsibilities which you have assumed in life. Premature job burnout is frequently the result of overly high stress which is not addressed properly.

It is easy to blame other humans and other things such as a bad job or not enough money for the excessive stress in your life. The truth is that often it is your reaction to the stressful things in your life which can reduce the stress or even eliminate some of it if you take the right steps and deal with the stressful humans and things in your life the right way.

6 MAJOR REASONS WHY YOU MAY BE THE MAJOR SOURCE OF HIGH  BAD STRESS.

You may be demanding perfection from yourself and others in an imperfect world which is an admirable general goal. But if you worry too much, are too critical, or are plagued with fear when imperfection happens and can’t get over it quickly and move on then you are stressing yourself needlessly.

You are generally disorganized, unpredictable in your behavior, and don’t schedule your time very well. If you have not learned how to create order out of potential chaos by scheduling your time well, by being more predictable, and by functioning in an orderly environment where you have learned to set priorities and pay more attention to the important ones first then chances are that you will be paying for it with unnecessary levels of high stress.

You have taken on more responsibility than you can handle or you are relatively incompetent and trying to do things outside your realm of competence. If you don’t decrease the responsibilities, especially the things which you are not that good at and make many mistakes, then your stress level will remain rather high and you are mostly to blame for the high stress level. Responsibility generally comes with competence so learn the knowledge and skills necessary to become more competent and you will then be able to assume more responsibility with less stress.

You may be a flawed immoral personality which others find offensive or not worthy of trust and respect and they will treat you much like an enemy or pariah. If you lie to humans directly or indirectly through others then no one will trust and respect you even if you are in a leadership position and you will have incredibly stressful situations with those humans in or away from the workplace.

You may have an overly inflated ego and air of tyrannical superiority with a tendency to treat others like dirt or treat them as if they are unworthy of praise, reward, and respect. You may ridicule, name call, put down, harshly criticize in public, personally attack, and generally disrespect most of the things which other humans do. All of this kind of aggressive disrespecting behavior will cause bad emotions and feelings and greatly increase the bad stress level of the human interactions which you are having.

If you are in a leadership position then you will increase the stress level by passing your work load on to others just because you can, by burdening your workers with personal issues whose burden they should not have to deal with, by micromanaging, by indulging in casual betrayals, and by belittling the value of a worker’s experience and knowledge. You may be responsible for causing the bad stress these ways but to you it may erroneously seem that humans are giving you a hard time undeservedly and they are at fault.

CONCLUSION:

Other humans and things or events outside your control can be very stressful if you take them on personally, feel personally responsible, and erroneously feel you can do something about it. If you can’t control or change something then ignore it as much as possible or learn to accept or live with the stress. Just make sure that your excessive arguing, worrying, and responsibilities are not caused by your own inadequacies which you should try and correct as soon as possible to reduce overall stress.

If you conscientiously try to improve your communication skills, are moral and considerate, and treat others the way that you would want to be treated then you will be well on your way to reducing social stress. More competence in work skills will improve your work related stress.

Realize that stress builds up in your mind so do your best to try and control your mind with some simple stress reducing techniques which can be as simple as taking time out to do something different and relaxing such as meditation or listening to calming music. Not so obvious is that healthy eating and getting enough sleep are vital to reducing the bad effects of too much stress in your life.

Learn to discriminate between good and bad stress and consciously try to reduce the bad stress to tolerable limits. Change what you can change and live with what you can’t change but must live with for the moment.

 

Stress: n. (personal and/or human(s) demand(s)) and/or (environmental demand(s) and/or pressures) which affect an organism’s complete reaction(s)

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT SCARCITY***

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Scarcity: n. rare and/or too little of what is (needed and/or demanded) and/or required

Fortunately many of us live in material abundance and scarcity doesn’t seem to be a problem for most. The reality is that there is also an abundance of food and drink but a scarcity of truly organic truly nutritious and tasty food and drink but I hope that this will improve in the near future. Non polluted water is also becoming scarce in many parts of the world and water itself is going to become scarce in many arid regions depending on an external or ground water source.

There is a scarcity of truth, common sense or logical thinking and real useful solutions in politics, economics, education, society, language, and the world in general. I am attempting to start to fill this near vacuum or great scarcity in finding smart solutions to the problems of humanity.

Join me in trying to make the truth less scarce in society!!! Read as many of my evergreen truth blogs as possible and enrich your life with more true knowledge.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT COMMANDS***

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Command: v. to authoritatively demand an animal(s) to do a subset(s)

The lower echelons of the military and fast food workers have a rather strict command structure with exact commands on what to do. Young offspring too are frequently commanded and do relatively a minimum amount of independent thinking.

Obedience training for dogs is an example of a command structure where each command results in some well-defined animal behavior.

Where teamwork is preferable there is more independent decision making going on. If we trust and respect who is giving the commands then we generally obey them but if we don’t trust or respect the commanding party then we may not obey every single command or demand.

Frequently in marriages demands or commands are made and sometimes ignored or severely argued against because most of us do not want to be ordered around or bossed around too much.

Language is designed to facilitate commanding with questions and answers and with yes or no actions or reactions. The kind of thinking demanded by most language usage is black or white, always or never and a very stereotypic kind of thinking which leads to many logical mistakes and an inability to reason accurately when necessary.

Instead of demanding and commanding try more discussion, negotiating, and sharing of ideas and opinions in your personal life.

Historically commanding or bossing humans around was much more popular than today. Parents would command their offspring with strict discipline, men would frequently tell their wives what to do, rulers would command their followers and military leaders, military leaders would command their soldiers, and humans would command and discipline their pets.

Today many parents don’t strictly discipline their offspring, rulers and especially presidents have limited powers to command,  business leaders in many technological companies or creative enterprises emphasize teamwork and not autocratic rule, and spouses try to mutually cooperate in making decisions although one spouse may be more commanding than the other.

Commanding is still a vital and necessary function in western societies and is much more pronounced in other cultures today but the trend is towards much more cooperative strategies of leadership. Power is shared to some extent and all decisions are no longer strictly top down leadership but an exchange of ideas and strategies before a final decision is made.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT DEMANDS

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Demand:  v. to communicate an urgent need and/or desire that someone do a subset(s) and sometimes with a threat of force and frequently getting another or others to achieve that need and/or desire.

 

Not all demands succeed with 100% certainty, especially parental demands on rebellious children or demands on complete strangers. Both are sometimes unwilling to comply with or obey your demands.

 

A command and demand are frequently confused. A command is and authoritative demand which is seldom questioned and frequently obeyed.

 

A demand is also frequently done by an authority human but the success of it being fulfilled is frequently less than a command.

 

Demands are sometimes also done by subordinates on authority humans if they feel in some way that the authority human is wrong or is doing an injustice. An overworked employee may make a demand for a salary increase from the boss and threaten to quit if the demand is not met.

 

In a marital relationship demands are sometimes made but almost no one likes to be bossed around so the demand is frequently met with resistance and/or disobedience. A demand communicated as a request can frequently have a greater probability of being fulfilled. Requesting such as “I am asking you to do me a favor” or ” It would be nice if you could do that” is frequently more successful than saying “do it!”

In business there is an inverse relationship between supply and demand. The bigger the demand the less the supply becomes and there is either scarcity or frequently and increase in price. Too big a supply frequently means abundance which is frequently accompanied by a price decrease.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT AUTHORITY

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Authority: n. having powerh and/or legal rights over a subset(s) which results in (giving orders to the subset(s) and/or making decisions for the subset(s)) and/or (exerting physical force on the subset(s) and/or (conserving and/or expanding) the subset(s)) and/or passing laws for the subset(s)

Authority humans give us orders, pass laws, make decisions for us and sometimes exert physical and/or mental force on us in the form of violence, threats of violence and/or demands. If we feel that the authority is just then we tend to obey but if authority is unjust then we may choose to disobey or even revolt against the authority in overt and/or covert ways.

Older offspring, parents, teachers, coaches, organization leaders, scientists, and politicians are authority humans and we may like or love them if they are just or seem just or disapprove of or even hate them if they are or seem unjust.

Emotions play a dominant role in our attitude towards authorities and if they are honest, sincere, dependable, competent, and trustworthy then we generally respect and even admire them and have a tendency to obey them or take their advice with relatively little resistance.

If the authority human is unjust or dishonest, insincere, not dependable, untrustworthy, and incompetent then we have a tendency to disobey or ignore them and not take their advice or demands on important matters in our life.

The lead are expected to have moral behavior but leaders, especially at the top, frequently feel that morality does not apply to them and they can be unjust with humans and other nations and get away with it. For leaders sometimes the end justifies the means and they will murder, lie, deceive, steal, and commit adultery if their goals of more powerh and money are achieved.

True world peace will only come when the leaders obey the morality which is expected from the led. Two or more immoral nations will never be able to reach mutually beneficial relationships and peace between them if they act immorally towards each other.

For all nations to live in peace with one another they must have the same secular moral code. Except in emergencies-don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.

Big money is trying to rule the world but Putin just stole the Crimea with physical force and China is stealing intellectual property. Yes, big money is the enemy of little money and has a powerhful advantage and the ability to exploit and/or enslave little money so even free trade is not the ultimate solution to justice in this world.

Big money is more powerhful than little money. Free trade must be coupled with moral behavior between nations and moral behavior within a nation. It is obvious that the world must have just international laws and nations must have just national laws which are mirror images of just international laws.

There is authority over real estate and the right to change it in legal manners. Wilderness real estate is the most precious and vital to future generation survival so authority must be given to conserve and even expand it in its pristine existence.

There is also authority over information and/or goods and/or services and this powerh should be used wisely and justly and not greatly impede the efficiency of its just distribution to the humans of the world.

 

I advocate those new just laws in my evergreen truth books NEW UNIVERSAL DECLARATION OF HUMAN RIGHTS, NEW CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES, CHANGES IN WELFARE LAWS, and JUSTICE.

 Authority: n. having power or legal rights over another which results in (giving orders to another and/or making decisions for another) and/or exerting physical force on another

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THE TRUTH ABOUT APPEASEMENT

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Appeasement: n. excluding dissatisfaction by fulfilling a demand(s) which we frequently don’t want to fulfill but reluctantly do

Cut back on your TV watching and spend more time with the offspring! This is a demand which is sometimes made by spouses and the demand is frequently appeased with less TV watching but reluctantly.

You invade the Crimea and demand that it become part of Russia. If this happens then you are appeasing the Russian tyrant and aggression if you don’t take any counter measures or enforce punishing economic penalties.

There is political appeasement, spouse appeasement, and business appeasement such as giving in to demands for wage increases by a union or individual worker. In business a demand for a wage increase is frequently appeased reluctantly by the boss or owner if it is a good necessary worker.

Demands in real life are frequent no matter what the human source and we frequently have no choice but to appease those demands to avoid future confrontations and arguments about the same subject matter. Instead of appeasement you can try to formulate a compromise which satisfies both parties.

There is nothing like success to create more demands and if you appease too much then you will have a very controlling demanding tyrannical human in your life.

 

 

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