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MARRY WHEN YOU CAN AFFORD IT!!!

Historically in many cultures and currently in many parts of India, Pakistan, etc. there is something called a dowry which is some property in the form of goods, land, money, etc. which is usually given to the groom by the bride’s family upon marriage. You can argue all you want about the advantages and disadvantages of the dowry system but the fundamental fact is that marriage with offspring is an expensive proposition and the more financial resources that a couple has, the more probable it is that the family will have a secure and hopefully happy future.

Yes, a family with offspring is an expensive proposition so it is obvious why a dearth of enough money is often the leading cause of many divorces in the modern western world. In effect, a family can’t survive on love alone. All you need is love to marry is the popular dominant dangerous myth promoted in the west.

Historically in agrarian cultures where you have mostly farmers, offspring were an advantage because they could help with the farm work and make the family money and in old age families often stayed together so offspring were also old age insurance when the parents could no longer work on the farm.

Today most offspring are an incredibly large financial liability and cost an arm and a leg to educate and provide them with basic necessities. There are also many cases where upon graduation the offspring can’t find a decent paying job and wind up living with the parents for financial reasons.

So the best advice to give before marriage is make sure that you can afford it, especially if you want to have offspring. Yes, you can marry, use family planning or contraception and not have offspring until you can afford it. If you have offspring by accident and one spouse doesn’t want an abortion then a nasty divorce with unwanted legal financial responsibilities may be the result.

Now love and sex is a very powerful force of nature and it is entirely possible to run across a potential very compatible mate as young adults but neither party is making enough money or both are still educating themselves for a useful job or career. What do you do? Well you can live together or live separately being sexually faithful and use birth control and under no circumstances beget offspring. If a spouse gets pregnant then the smartest thing to do is to either get an abortion or give up the child to an adoption agency upon birth. Marriage should mean offspring and until you can afford offspring, don’t marry!

In the modern era usually both spouses are working and you may be wrongly concluding that you can afford offspring. Realistically child care, especially when they are young is a full time occupation and unless you can afford a nanny prepare for the high probability that one spouse will have to take much time off from the job to raise the young child. You will be surviving on one salary alone for a considerable period of time so make sure that you have enough money saved up or better yet wait until one spouse alone can afford to support the family with child.

If one spouse is a compulsive shopper or another accumulates large credit card debt then this is a danger sign that there is financial hardship ahead. If neither spouse is financially responsible then the relationship will probably crash and burn so avoid this circumstance as much as possible. If one spouse is financially responsible and in charge of all the money then the relationship may still be doable but not if both are financially irresponsible. If one is financially responsible and the other is not then prepare for a boatload of ongoing nasty arguments about money.

Yes, enough money and managing it wisely is very important in a marriage and if you fail on either count then most of your arguments will be about money and will almost definitely lead to eventual divorce.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT DIVORCE*

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Divorce: v. to legally end a marriage if the husband and/or wife desires to or legally ending marital duties for one or more wives but not 100% of the wives in a polygamous relationship and/or legally ending marital duties for the husband and all the wives if the husband desires it

This is a worldwide definition for divorce which includes polygamous marriages in Arab countries too. If a wife in a polygamous relationship wants a divorce then the husband should be rich enough or have enough money in a government escrow account to pay alimony support of the wife and offspring until the offspring reach adulthood when the alimony payments would end or be severely reduced. With this kind of a rule the divorced wives and offspring of a polygamous relationship would not become a welfare burden upon the state but a financial burden on the exhusband.

If polygamy is ever legalized in western countries then it should be strictly limited to very wealthy men who could afford alimony payments to the wives and offspring after a divorce so they don’t become a financial welfare burden upon the nation to be supported by taxpayer’s money.

If polygamy is ever legalized in the United States then there should be a government escrow account set up to take care of the expenses of a wife with offspring after divorce so taxpayers don’t have to spend their money supporting the polygamous divorced wives with offspring. That is true marital justice for the polygamous family and the nation in which they live.

Some humans argue that love is the most important thing in a marriage and others argue that money is the most important thing in a marriage. The truth is that BOTH love and money is of primary importance in a marriage and when the love ends there should be enough money left over to support the love offspring and ex wives until the offspring reach adulthood. The family unit with offspring should be a responsible independent financial unit and not an irresponsible financial unit dependent on the taxpayers for support.

Yes, there is the possibility that both husband and wife become handicapped, unemployed and destitute, dependent on government welfare for themselves and their offspring and that is an emergency situation which the government must help with financial support as a moral obligation.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT STD’S+

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STD: n. sexually transmitted disease

Promiscuity: n. a human having transient sexual relationships with many different humans

MYTH: YOU CAN HAVE SAFE SEX WITH CONDOMS.

In the United States, more people have genital herpes than all other sexually transmitted infections combined -– 50 million people in total. If there are 6 humans that you know then chances are great that one promiscuous one has herpes! There are more mind-boggling statistics but I leave you to research this further on the web.

Having many transient relationships with many different humans not only develops a bad habit but makes faithfulness with one partner much less probable in the future which frequently results in adultery and failed marriages. Add to this the inevitable danger of contracting an STD virus which can make your sex life a living annoying, painful, and even deadly process.

CONDOMS ARE NOT EFFECTIVE against herpes simplex virus and human papilloma virus. Herpes causes annoying pain and the papilloma virus can cause cancer.

Experts say being exposed to at least one STD virus is virtually inevitable. Viral STDs make up the modern “4-H club.” Herpes simplex virus (HSV), human papilloma virus (HPV), hepatitis (B and C), and HIV are the most common STDs, causing pain, cancer, liver disease and AIDS, respectively.

Here is a link to bacterial sexually transmitted diseases which you should also be aware of and oral sex can transmit them:

http://www.sexualityandu.ca/stis-stds/types-of-stis-stds/bacterial-stis-stds

Bacterial STDs like gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphilis, are relatively easy to cure with antibiotics if detected and treated early. Genitalherpes, genital warts, Hepatitis B and HIV are viral infections that cannot be cured, but the symptoms can be treated and managed but are a pain in the butt if you have them and you carry the stigma of being sexually diseased for the rest of your life!!!!!!

A hedonistic lifestyle has its cost in bad relationship problems, a bad reputation, and inevitable health problems. It is frankly not worth the transient pleasure which it gives and forgetting to use a condom or birth control pill can result in an unwanted pregnancy and possible abortion.

If you are smart then you will limit as much as possible sexual relationships with humans whom you consider to be very good friends and good potential mates and not have any sexual relationships with other casual acquaintances.

In this era of rampant promiscuity I personally would ask for an STD medical checkup with anyone that I decided to have sex with. That is a cold hard truth that I would live with since oral sex can transmit sexual diseases and virginity is no longer a guarantee of a disease free mate.

 

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AN OVERVIEW OF WHAT MARRIAGE IS AND ISN’T!!!

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Marriage should be sharing the good and the bad times but sometimes you will have to give in, sometimes you will get your way, sometimes you will have to be controlling, sometimes you will argue instead of compromise, and sometimes problems or irritations will remain unsolved for long periods of time. Being supported emotionally and financially in the good times is easy but being supported emotionally and financially in the bad times is evidence that the marriage can last.

You also have to share the workload and if one brings home most of the money then the other will have to take over most of the workload of keeping the house in order and spending more time with the offspring. Where both spouses work then housework and offspring rearing will have to be a shared responsibility. Marriage is responsible hard work and working out a just share of the responsibility will frequently determine to a large extent the success and happiness in the marriage. The extreme of I have to do everything and you do nothing is not a viable option.

Frequently one member is more domineering or is better at making decisions and solving problems than the other or you may have strengths in one area such as finance and weaknesses in another area such as offspring rearing. Letting a spouse dominate at something which they are good at should be encouraged.

Marriage is trying to balance things or coordinating effort to reach common  goals but it is also some independent behavior or pursuing your personal interests and getting support for those efforts from your spouse. Working together and sharing a business is rare and what makes interesting conversation possible is pursuing some independent goals, activities, or jobs and sharing those exploits with each other.

You are alike in many ways but also different in many ways and the dynamic interplay of these characteristics can make or break a relationship. If your communication skills are good, you are honest with each other and trust one another, and are good at sharing the load of responsibility then you will have a much more pleasant relationship than if you don’t honestly communicate and act irresponsibly.

A good marriage is a relatively safe intimate haven from a tumultuous sometimes crazy world but a stagnant marriage can also be quite boring so developing new or better interests, finding better jobs, and focusing on good long duration goals will help make the journey together more interesting and pleasantly challenging.

Bad times can really test a marriage and if you get through many of them successfully then your confidence that you will not be abandoned will be greater and you will know that you may have a lasting secure relationship and a truly best friend when times are tough.

When the offspring are leading independent lives and sex has ended then your major reasons for staying married may be challenged and unless you have maintained mutual respect and still enjoy being together and sharing your daily events with each other which have nothing to do with offspring, then a potential breakup is possible because you may find that you no longer have anything in common to enjoy.

Kindness, forgiveness, apologizing were appropriate, empathy, honesty, sincerity, dependability, competence, confidence, loyalty, optimism, caring, a common morality, mutual respect, mutual and independent goals, responsibility, good humor, and commitment are just some of the major characteristics which can make for a happy long duration marriage.

As long as you don’t lie to each other, are not adulterous, and are financially stable then you can have some personality drawbacks which won’t necessarily end a trusting relationship which is the bond which ultimately can keep you together despite your weaknesses and differences.

Few of us have loyal true friends and a spouse can be that one true loyal friend so you don’t have to live life as a loner without dependable human support or relationships. When you have something to bitch about then you will have a confidential trusting concerned listener to support you emotionally if not in other ways and you will not have to stew in your troubles alone. Confidentially confessing your troubles to someone is frequently therapeutic and lessens the misery.

Living alone with or without friends is an option which you should not feel bad about because you can spend most of your life pleasing yourself. Being married is more challenging and you can’t always please yourself but it can also be more rewarding in the long duration and your relationship skills with humans can improve if you learn from and master the marital relationship.

Many modern men are not good conversationalists, aren’t very caring, have been brainwashed with much promiscuous behavior, and have led rather irresponsible selfish indulgent lives as offspring,  and have bad jobs which don’t make them good potential husbands. If added to these basic facts a male comes from a dysfunctional family then the odds that a marriage will end in divorce are rather high and marriage should usually not be attempted.

Modern life no longer stresses important family values so your best bet is a husband who comes from a family which still values family values and a man who still gets along well with his family members. There are no guarantees in life that a good responsible childhood will mean a good responsible spouse but a messed up, carefree, or abused childhood and bad job are primary causes of messed up marriages and divorce.

Historically a husband who is a good provider, is moral, and has integrity was a great catch. Modern society’s values have changed and divorce has skyrocketed because the same basic historical values still apply to happy long duration modern marriages. Many modern women are good providers but unfortunately most men have not been taught to adjust to the new realities and few without the help of a nanny can do most of the young child rearing responsibilities well by themselves. Two working spouses with meager incomes and offspring is a recipe for disaster in the modern world.

In the modern world you can live together on meager incomes but whatever you do don’t get married, especially if that means offspring in your lives. Living together is an option while you are struggling to survive financially but once financial security is reached and you still don’t marry then that probably means that one significant other is hoping for a better partner to come along.

Marriage is a duty or responsibility to spouse and offspring and if you are not very responsible with your own life then don’t marry and ruin someone else’s life!

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