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Most of us at some time have felt guilty, hopeless, anxious, depressed, jealous, vulnerable, rejected, hateful, inferior, stupid, angry, grumpy, fearful, etc.
If you are emotionally immature or have little emotional intelligence then you may often jump to the wrong conclusion about your feelings and that of others.
You may jump to a wrong conclusion based on insufficient evidence and react inappropriately emotionally.
Psychologists use fancy terms such as emotional reasoning, mind reading, and personalization to try and categorize different responses which are inaccurate readings of emotions or circumstances but they are all basically an impulsive, faulty, incomplete, wrong, or untrue reading of or reaction to reality.
If you sometimes feel a little guilty, moderately guilty, and very guilty then you probably have relatively good gut or impulsive guilt reactions but if you feel very guilty almost every time and frequently then your sense of emotional and physical reality may be bad.
Similarly if you have different degrees of anxiety or any emotion for that matter then you are probably emotionally healthy but if you feel very anxious or very emotional almost every time and do so frequently then your sense of physical and emotional reality for anxiety and other emotions is probably bad.
Another sign of emotional immaturity is if you see another human get mad, angry, hateful, grumpy, etc. and impulsively almost always feel that it is probably due to something that you did or said and it is your fault. Simply asking what made you mad, angry, hateful, depressed, grumpy, etc. will often get to the real cause of the emotional expression. Often you may not be involved at all and definitely you are not responsible for another’s emotional state or reaction.
If you feel insecure then you may have real justifications for it such as working at a job after working at 6 different jobs in a two year period. A feeling of insecurity in a relationship may be justified by a spouse who was promiscuous before marriage or had 3 prior divorces. A male may feel insecure if he marries a beautiful woman whom men are constantly hitting on or flirting with. Another major cause of justified insecurity arises from bad financial management which results in great financial stress and a feeling that you are always on the verge of bankruptcy.
Some are burdened with feelings of inadequacy and insecurity and may feel that they are stupid, boring, or are lacking in some personality department.
There are unfortunately few fast fixes and becoming better employed, more competent, more educated, more interesting, more sociable, etc. takes time and courageous determination to change your lousy circumstances and flawed personality.
Just making optimistic affirmations and thinking about your bad circumstances will not solve your emotional problems. What it will really take is some courageous determined action with selfresearch, selfeducation, expert advice, and actually changing your bad habits into better ones and developing better selfcontrol over your emotions.
Good parents and role models, other siblings, and much exposure to many different kinds of personalities or humans is the ideal way to mature emotionally. Leading a life largely isolated from other humans will handicap you emotionally but there are still many basically introverted humans who lead successful happy lives and aren’t overly concerned what others may think of them and don’t feel emotionally trapped or insecure. Introverts tend to be more selective in the humans that they associate with and are usually not concerned with being socially popular.
If you assume too much and have a tendency to jump to conclusions without actual complete evidence or often react impulsively emotionally by assuming what actually is not true or reality, then you have a serious problem where simple advice will not be enough such as just saying to yourself- don’t be so impulsive or think before you react emotionally.
Emotional immaturity takes long to overcome and the longer that you have been immature the harder it will be to eventually mature emotionally.
Admirable: adj. sensing respect and attraction and sensing a relatively large intensity pleasure because of (good and/or moral behavior) and/or professional excellence
Affectionate: adj. sensing medium intensity pleasure for a subset(s) which you care about and the behavior(s) which exists with it
Aggressive: adj. pursuing a goal(s) forcefully and/or threateningly which may include (body contact and/or violence) and/or a ((verbal threat(s) and/or verbal attack(s)) and/or physical attack(s))
Agonized/Agonizead: adj. very intensely worrying for a relatively short duration
Amused/Amusead: adj. mildly entertaining
Angry: adj. very intensely sensing transient displeasure which is frequently a less intense form of hatred and caused by a failure to achieve a goal(s) and/or caused by (overt and/or covert aggression)
Anguished/Anguishad: adj. sensing very intense suffering for duration
Annoyed: adj. sensing small intensity anger and/or disliking frequently due to a repetitive and/or interfering subset(s) which tends to alter and/or delay an immediate personal goal(s)
Anxious: adj. sensing low to medium intensity fear resulting from the anticipation of a (realistic and/or fantasized dangerous event(s))) and/or (threatening event(s) and/or bad circumstance(s)) which may be accompanied by the uncertainty of not knowing (what to do and/or what will exist) good and/or bad
Apathetic: adj. sensing and/or showing minimal motivation
Apologetic /Apologad: adj. regretfully sensing and communicating the acknowledgement of a mistake(s) and/or bad behavior(s) which frequently injures someone and/or hurts someone’s feelings and/or sense of selfworth
Apprehensive: adj. sensing anxiety about a future bad subset(s)
Arrogant: adj. an excessive and frequently offensive (sensing of and behaving with) superiority and/or behaving disrespectfully
Astonished/Astonishmed: adj. very intensely impressed and surprised
Attentive: adj. focusing and interacting bodily and/or mentally on some subset(s) to the relative exclusion of other subsets
Attracted/Attractad: adj. sensing a desire (to approach and/or to spend time with) and/or (to participate with, and/or to focus physically and/or mentally upon a subset(s)) and/or sensing a desire (for pleasure and/or to do a subset(s))
Awesome: n. sensing very intense respect with fear and/or wonder from a subset(s)
Boastful: adj. sensing and communicating excessive selfimportance and/or pride
Blissful: adj. sensing serene joy for duration
Bored/Borad: adj. sensing decreased interesteven and decreased mental activity which is frequently caused by (using too much time with a subset(s) and/or doing too much repetition of a subset(s)) and/or spending too much time with a uninteresting subset(s) and/or what we are doing is no longer a rewarding experience
(replace interesteven with human interest and it means the same thing)
Cautious: adj. doing something with conscientious forethought trying to (predict danger and mistakes and/or avoid danger and mistakes) and/or trying to avoid external subset(s) which may change one’s immediate goal(s) and sometimes future goal(s) and/or avoidance of risky behavior(s)
Cocky: adj. conceited and frequently with excessive confidence and assertiveness
Cold/Coldad: adj. sensing minimal emotion in most circumstances
Compassionate: adj. sensing sympathy for a lifeform(s) and wanting to and helping in some manner
Conceited/Conceitad: adj. sensing and frequently showing excessive personal pride
Concentrating/Concentratead: adj. focusing mentally
Concerned/Concernad: adj. being attracted to a subset(s) caused by sensed (caring and/or interesteven) and/or (importance and/or empathy) and/or (suffering of and/or affectation) for samer subset(s)
(replace interesteven with human interest and it means the same thing)
Confident: adj. sensing freedom from most doubt when trying to achieve a subset(s) and this frequently exists with a large belief in oneself and in one’s abilities
Covetous: adj. intensely desiring to possess a subset(s) and sometimes enviously
Craved/Cravead: adj. very intensely desiring
Curious: adj. sensing a desire to acquire new knowledge and/or experiences
Desired/Desiread: n. mentally sensing a need to achieve a goal(s) and frequently making that future achievement more probable and it originates in the survival instinct
Despairing/Despairad: adj. sensing complete hopelessness due primarily to very bad circumstances
Determined/Determinead: adj. sensing very intense persistence and perseverance
Disappointed/Disappointad: adj. sensing low to medium intensity badness after failing to achieve your (needs and/or hopes) and/or (desires and/or expectations) and/or goal(s)
Disapproving/Disapprovad: adj. judging a subset(s) to be bad and/or wrong and sometimes this can be judging a good and/or righta subset(s) to be bad and/or wrong (righta is the adjective form of right)
Disbelieving/Disbelievead: adj. personally sensing and judging that something is not true with a very large degree of probability which may be a 100% probability
Disgusted/Disgustad: adj. sensing extreme displeasure at a very bad and/or very socially deviant action(s)
Disliked/Dislikead: adj. sensing low intensity displeasure for a subset(s)
Distasteful: adj. sensing dislike with one or more senses especially for food and/or drink
Eager: adj. an intense desire for a subset(s) and an intense desire to do what is essential to achieve and/or get samer subset(s) and it is frequently for a relatively short duration
Ecstatic: adj. sensing maximally intense pleasure which may or may not be injurious to the brain
Embarrassed/ Embarrassad: adj. sensing low intensity shame for a noncriminal subset(s)
Empathic: adj. sharing a sensation(s) with concern and meanmaking for the bad and/or good circumstance(s) and/or event(s) with another and sometimes offering helpful advice and/or caring
Meanmake: v. to communicate relatively accurately making a personal subjective and/or objective correspondence(s)
Enraged/Enragead: adj. making a lifeform(s) sense rage
You can enrage someone but when someone enrages you, then you are just in a rage or raging.
Envious: adj. desiring another’s (possessions and/or characteristics) and/or (luck and/or circumstances) without sensing angry resentment
Exasperated /Exasperatead: adj. sensing extreme annoyance and some anger and especially when there is minimal and/or no control over the annoyance
Exhausted/Exhaustad: adj. sensing almost total depletion of energy and desire
Fearful: adj. sensing very intense bad sensations which are sometimes caused by (very little security and/or a threat by a large imminent danger) and/or caused when in much potentially deadly pain
Frantic: adj. sensing very intense urgent upsetting emotion(s) and the corresponding behavior(s)
Frightened/Frightenad: adj. creating low intensity fear in a human(s)
Frustrated/Frustratead: adj. frequently attempting to reach a goal(s) and not doing so within an acceptable standard(s) and/or norm(s) and sensing failure
Grieving/Grievous: adj. sensing intense mental displeasure and/or unhappiness from the loss of a loved subset(s) which is frequently most intense when it is due to the death of a family member and sometimes exists with crying
Guilty: adj. sensing and deserving punishment for doing a (bad and/or immoral) and/or illegal subset(s) for which one may not be punished unless seen and caught by a witness(s) and/or a legal authority(s)
Happy: adj. sensing pleasure but less intense pleasure than joy and ecstasy
Hateful: adj. sensing very intensely which one senses when one wants to destroy a (bad and/or wrong) subset(s) which may be morally (bad and/or wrong) and/or may be (bad and/or wrong) because it is the primary reason why one can’t achieve a desired goal(s) and/ or (bad and/or wrong) because it is a source of intense mental displeasure and/or bodily pain
Hopeless: adj. sensing that a personally desired goal(s) and/or an event(s) is probably impossible to achieve
Horrified/Horrifyad: adj. sensing very intense fear for duration
Hurt/Hurtad: adj. causing bodily and/or mental pain
Hysterical: adj. sensing frenzied/frenzyad extreme emotion
Impatient: adj. eager anxiety for a subset(s) to end existence and/or begin existence
Indifferent: adj. sensing minimal caring and empathy and involvement
Infatuated/Infatuatead: adj. sensing short duration frequent lovin for a subset(s) with mostly unreasoning impulse
Innocent: adj. sensing absence of guilt and/or knowledge about a criminal and/or sexual subset(s)
Interested/Interestevad: adj. sensing an exciting subset(s) which can maintain attention and/or curiosity frequently because samer subset(s) is (new and/or strange) and/or (pleasant and/or deviant)
Intransigent: adj. stubbornly refusing to change views and/or to compromise
Jealous: adj. envying with angry resentment
Joyful: adj. sensing much pleasure but less intense pleasure than ecstasy and more intense pleasure than happiness
Laughing/Laughad: adj. sensing pleasure with repetitive inhalations and exhalations of air and it is frequently accompanied by identifiable body movements, especially face movements
Likable: adj. sensing low intensity pleasure for a subset(s) and the behaviors which exist with the sensing of samer subset(s)
Lonely: adj. sensing frequently caused by a loss and/or an absence of companionship and/or friendship and a desire for companionship and/or friendship
Loving: adj. sensing any intense pleasure from a subset(s) one cares about and the behavior(s) which exist with it and frequently desiring to (possess and/or interact with) and/or experience samer subset(s) for a short and/or long duration
Meditative/Meditativead: adj. thinking without anxiety and/or emotion
Mischievous: adj. sensing a desire to cause and causing trouble in a playful manner
Miserable: adj. sensing intense unpleasantness and (enduring a very bad circumstance(s) and/or enduring a very bad mental subset(s)) and/or experiencing enduring intense pain(s)
Obstinate: adj. stubbornly refusing to change one’s opinion and/or course of action despite attempts at persuasion to do so
Optimistic: adj. believing that a goal(s) will be achieved with a relatively large degree of probability and a general belief that good events will be more frequent than the bad events in living
Painful: adj. a bad intense mental sensation which originates from an injured body subset(s) and the behaviors which exist with it
Panicked/Panicad: adj. sensing uncontrollable fear and/or very intense anxiety and behaving irrationally with (physical aggression and/or stampeding) and/or random movement
Paranoid: adj. extreme irrational fear of a subset(s)
Rage: n. very intense anger which frequently includes a violent behavior(s)
Regretful: adj. sensing a wrong reaction which may be doing something bad and/or wrong and/or not doing a subset(s) which should have been done and wishing one had the power to change the wrong reaction
Relieved/Relievead: adj. sensing the reduction and/or elimination of (pain and/or misery) and/or (discomfort and/or anxiety) and/or (need and/or fear) and/or (tediousness and/or a usually bad emotional subset(s))
Sad: adj. sensing a small intensity mental displeasure frequently because of the loss and/or departure of a subset(s)
Satisfied: adj. sensing pleasure when (fulfilling and/or achieving) a goal(s) and/or desire(s)
Shocked/Shockad: adj. causing a speedy increase in electrical activity and that includes the brain
Smart: adj. behaving with above average logical reasoning skills and successfully applying them to solve political and social and economic and scientific problems and/or having emotional intelligence
Stupid: adj. behaving with incomplete logical reasoning skills and unsuccessfully applying them to solve political and social and economic and scientific problems
Surprised/Surprisead: adj. suddenly sensing what is frequently caused by an unexpected and/or very infrequent event(s) which is usually not strange
Suspicious: adj. judging intuitively with little evidence that a subset(s) is a probable cause of an event(s) in the past and/or the future
Sympathetic: adj. empathy with a lifeform(s)’s misfortune(s)
Terrified/Terrifyad: adj. fearing so extremely that one is frequently physically stopped and unable to move
Thoughtful/Thinkad: adj. silently and mentally verbalizing and trying to make correspondences between the subsets of one’s own knowledge and/or experiences and using as much logic as possible
Thrilled/Thrillad: adj. sensing short duration very intense excitement and/or pleasure
Worried/Worryad: adj. being excessively (concerned and anxious and uncertain) and wasting thinking time with a (real and/or imagined) (future and/or present)
(danger(s) and/or event(s)) and/or subset(s)
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Meditation is an ideal time to relax and do some introspection by thinking and trying to find answers to some important questions to guide the thinking in a constructive way.
Asking yourself introspective questions about yourself and trying to answer them goes a long way towards selfawareness and the possibility for future improvement if you determine to do something about it and act on your revelations about yourself.
Here is a list of some important questions to ponder while meditating:
Do I accept my appearance as it is or is there something which I am so unhappy about that it needs possible cosmetic surgery?
Am I happy with my mind, smartness, emotions, mood, humor, and personality or should I try for improvement with new useful knowledge, research, new useful skills, and necessary behavior changes?
Am I eating enough healthy organic food and drink, sleeping enough, and exercising enough to minimize personal illness?
What are some of my bad behaviors which need to be changed?
Am I critical or ashamed of some obsessive, compulsive, jealous, and mean thoughts or behavior and want to change this?
Am I critical and want to change my depression, anger, impatience, intolerance, irritability, and pessimism?
Is there some behavior which I hate enough to change and do I feel confident that I can stop hating or decrease the hatred on my own?
Do I feel competent about work and confident with human interactions or is there room for possible improvement with enough selfdetermination?
Am I so selfcentered that my ego expresses itself in arrogant hurtful ways?
Do I want to be respected and possibly admired by maintaining my integrity and trying to be more trustworthy, dependable, competent, friendly, and empathetic with others?
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To be successful in business you basically need to be in almost total control of yourself and that means being emotionally intelligent or being in control of your emotions with an ability to communicate well with humans. Surrounding yourself with confident, competent, talented coworkers and workers and networking with successful humans is vital for business success in the long duration.
Not everyone in business wants to be a leader in management but if you want to manage then there are the important things which you must know about emotions, career, employees, coworkers, communications, and bosses. Geoffrey James gives a pretty comprehensive detailed list of what is important to know under the listed categories. Here is a link to his rather comprehensive article on the “secrets” to business success.
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Ambivalent: adj. sensing two or more emotions and/or feelings simultaneously
Ambivalent emotions and/or feelings is when you are experiencing two or more at the same time. Feeling hope, fear, pride, and happiness simultaneously may exist when you are sending off offspring to college or a university on their own.
You may simultaneously feel pride that they have graduated to go on to higher education, you may hope that everything will go well, you are happy that they are finally leaving home, yet you also fear that they may get involved in binge drinking or the taking of mind altering drugs which will potentially hurt them in some way. These are four ambivalent feelings being experienced at the same time or simultaneously.
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Mood: n. a relatively temporary generalized mental process and the behaviors which accompanying it which is emotional and/or attitudinal and/or thoughtful and sometimes shared by two or more humans
A mood is really a temporary state of mind or a generalized mental process and the behaviors which accompany it.
A solemn mood, happy mood, and angry mood all mostly refer to a temporary emotional state with corresponding behavioral actions.
A contemplative mood, thoughtful mood, and reasoning mood all mostly refer to a temporary thinking process.
An aggressive mood, a flamboyant mood, a passive mood, and a challenging mood all mostly refer to a temporary attitude with corresponding behavioral actions.
A violent, condemning, aggressive mood could be called an abusive mood.
Mixing up emotions, attitudes, and thought processes in the short duration results in a generalized mood which is also affected by your temperament and/or personality.
Humans in a group can also share a similar mood so you can ask -what was the mood of the crowd?
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Selfknowledge: n. knowing what ones goals are and why you have them and knowing how your emotions and desires affect your thinking and/or behavior
Most of us have some selfknowledge but not complete selfknowledge because most are living habitual impulsive lives and not so many stop and think about and pursue long term personal goals.
Not everyone is consciously aware of their desires and emotions and how they affect their thinking and daily behaviors. Most of us lead relatively habitual impulsive lives and seldom take time out to truly think about why and whether we should be thinking and doing the things which we think and do on a daily basis. Who am I and what should I really be like in the future are questions which are often not seriously thought about.
“Know thyself” should be more important than it is for the common human living a largely delusional habitual impulsive life in a world filled with myths and deceptions.
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Subdue: v. to limit and/or control a human(s) behaviors and/or emotions to peaceful and/or reasoning subsets
The whole history of humanity has been trying to subdue the emotional and physical beast with which each generation is born. History repeats itself because subduing human nature with laws, rules, and force is a struggle which begins anew with each born generation.
Peaceful coexistence and reasoned behavior is what the world desperately needs and has so little of. Archaic language steeped in violent emotion and illogical communication is largely to blame. Language has to change if humanity is to live more peacefully together with more logical reasoned choices being made.
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Vicariousness: n. mentally empathizing with another(s) sensing and/or actions
Have you ever had a vicarious thrill watching someone do something and empathizing with that human’s emotion and/or activity and saying to yourself-“I know what that feels like” or “I have done that very same thing myself and know what it is like when I do it”.
You are in effect reliving someone else’s experience mentally in your own mind. That is what a vicarious experience is.
An empathizing thrill and a vicarious thrill are really one and the same thing so there is some doubt in my mind that vicarious should exist as a word and should be replaced with empathizing instead.
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Stoicism: n. enduring pain and suffering and hardship without complaining and showing minimal emotion
When there is hardship, suffering, and even pain most of us get emotionally upset and feel that we have a right to complain about it. If you minimally complain and don’t get emotionally upset then you are said to have a stoical attitude or you are a stoic.
“Be a man and roll with the punches” is historically a call to male stoicism or putting up with much crap without complaining or getting overly emotional about it.
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Selfmotivation: n. motivated by one’s (desire(s) and/or emotion(s)) and/or (need(s) and/or belief(s)) and/or past experience(s) which activate and/or prevent one’s behavior(s) and/or the force(s) and brain which activates you to pursue an old and/or new goal(s)
Selfmotivation is the result of your desires, emotions, needs, beliefs, and past experiences which all relatively impulsively guide you into doing a behavior or not doing it. Selfmotivation is also the force and brain which activates you to achieve your old and/or new goal(s).
Selfmotivation is unique in every individual because each one has differences in the kind and intensity of the desires, emotions, needs, beliefs, and past experiences. Most humans share common desires, emotions, needs, beliefs, and least of all past experiences so there is much variation from one to another human and there are relatively large differences in the emotional attachment to the common desires, needs, beliefs, and past experiences.
External motivating factors trigger many of our behaviors but individual reactions to these external motivators differ widely from person to person in many cases.
Quite a few, especially the poor and some very rich, are motivated by the lottery and gambling in general. Others aware of the odds against winning have no interest at all in gambling and are not motivated.
We are all motivated to eat but what we eat varies widely from one to another person. Most of us are motivated to work but the kind of job that we work in varies widely and shapes our view of the world to a large extent.
How we behave is determined by a relatively complex mix of external and internal motivators which will never be subject to mathematical formulation because the badly defined variables are simply too great in number and vagueness to be codified mathematically. Statistical norms and big data can be studied extensively in an attempt to predict human behavior or find out what motivates a human but there will never be 100% accuracy in the predictions or a certainty of what a human will do next even when confronted with the same stimuli.
Media brainwashing, indoctrination, advertising, and education is an attempt to control selfmotivation and it works in a general sense to tame the human beast and keep society interacting relatively orderly and peaceably.
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Tell about the promiscuity of a male or female to family and close friends but don’t advertise it to everyone that you come into contact with. Let the promiscuous humans self-destruct socially on their own in the long duration without your help.
Try to avoid comments about human bodies as being either too fat or too skinny or even ugly which is branded on recipient human memory and hurts.
Unverified comments about weight gain or loss should be omitted unless the difference in weight is substantial and about 25 pounds or 13 kilograms. “You look like you lost some weight” will not make anyone feel better if they haven’t lost it.
Don’t go after another’s significant other unless they are a great catch and worth the decrease in your reputation. Such behavior is frequently not worth the social humiliation for being a stealer of affection.
Don’t be jealous of another human’s accomplishments but compliment or celebrate accomplishments because they probably worked hard for them.
Don’t exaggerate compliments and then offer improvements to make something better. “Your perfume or cologne smells great but I wouldn’t use so much.”
Don’t commit adultery if you are basically satisfied with the marriage or know that you can successfully improve it to your liking. Divorce with offspring involved is expensive and unless you are miserable and terribly unhappy it is not worth the expense.
Don’t spread rumors because you will hurt your own reputation if they turn out to be untrue.
Don’t avoid conversations with humans whom you have conflicts with but confront them head on like and adult. Don’t only advertise the conflict to others behind the back of the one you have conflicts with or you will be guilty of a form of backstabbing.
Don’t constantly compare yourself to someone else in body looks or possessions because you will usually be disappointed and fail in the look alike and behave alike personal contest.
Don’t pretend with other humans in their presence because you don’t want to be labeled a phony. Avoid associating with humans if you don’t like them instead of telling others how terrible they are.
Don’t resent each other’s significant other for taking time away from your friendship because the hate will decrease the bond of trust which you have.
Don’t harshly criticize another’s decisions just to feel more confident in your own.
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Selfcontrol: n. mental control of one’s own (desires and/or emotions) and/or behaviors
Most of us react impulsively much of the time and we have some conscious control over our behaviors, less control over our emotions, and even less control over our desires.
Psychologists may object to my definition because there has been a historical artificial separation of mind and body or desires and emotions versus behaviors. The fact is that you can have mental control over all three and an artificial separation of mind and body behaviors is not factually correct because body behaviors include the functioning of the mind!!!!!! Trash all those historical writings which assume a mind vs. body philosophy!
Someone with much selfcontrol is less impulsive than the average human and even occasionally takes some time out to think before they react to circumstances.
Young offspring are very impulsive and will do many things which adults have learned not to do for safety or social reasons. Offspring tend to be more reckless and honest and will blurt out comments about appearance and behavior which may seem a little offensive to some adults. That is an ugly dress, you are fat, or you’re mean are sometimes honest remarks made by offspring which offend adult sensibilities.
If you are unhappy about your lifestyle chances are that you will make rather few changes unless there is a crisis because you are in a relatively satisfying rut always taking the easy way out without much selfdiscipline or the selfcontrol needed to make changes and do something about your bad circumstances.
If your behavior is largely influenced by the behavior of others, if you are not conscious of your good or bad habits, if you frequently get angry and get into arguments, then chances are great that you also have little selfcontrol over your own life.
If you want more selfcontrol in your life then you have to take some time out to meditate and think about how your life is progressing and what if anything can be done to improve upon it. Too many are tired of trying to improve their lives because they have not met with much success but too much failure and decide to accept their fate or circumstances.
If you are not learning any new useful skills or new useful knowledge and feel that you know enough about the world to make it through another day then the probability is great that you will never develop enough selfcontrol to really thrive and not just exist.
Are you conscious of or have you thought about or analyzed almost all your desires, emotions, and behaviors? If not then the probability is great that you have little if any personal control over them.
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Relatively unimportant misunderstandings are bound to happen in partnerships and they should frequently be for a relatively short duration. Forgive and forget the transient misunderstandings and move on to more important concerns.
You should trust your partner and if you reach a point where trust is no longer possible then consider breaking off the partnership. Being honest, sincere, dependable, competent, and friendly is vital if a relationship is to last for a long duration. If lying and irresponsibility starts to interfere with the relationship then it won’t last long if not corrected in time so that trustworthiness can continue. Trust is the vital bond which ensures a lasting relationship and without it you really don’t have a good relationship.
Learn the art of compromising and not fighting for win or lose situations all the time. Learn to give a little and get a little or give much and get much of what you really want. There will also be times when you give much and get little or get much and give little all depending on the circumstances. If you give much in one circumstance and get little maybe the next time around you will be able to get much and give only a little. If you want a female spouse to work to help much with the income then give much and learn to do the dishes, prepare a meal, do the laundry, vacuum the carpet, and spend more time with offspring.
Don’t be afraid to pursue different interests in a partnership which may separate you time wise to some extent. When you reunite then you will have many more interesting things to share and talk about and the relationship will not become that boring. Support your partner in his or her interests so you can mutually benefit from the new job or new experiences.
Don’t be afraid to reveal your weaknesses to your partner because they also have some and you should get more caring support in the areas where you are not that strong if your partner is capable of expressing empathy. If your partner has a weakness then try to help or do things to lessen the impact of that weakness.
Sometimes there are problems which are unfixable or bad childhood experiences which have made your personality less than perfect. You may be stuck with your problems and the best thing to do is to just learn to live with the problems or find ways to work around them and lessen their handicapping effects. With time you can hope to improve the situation but must realize that some problems and personality traits will probably not go away permanently.
Fights or severe arguments may erupt once in a while where there is no clear winner or loser. Don’t suffer through lasting resentment but learn to quickly forgive and forget to some extent. No relationship will last if resentment lasts long and the fight is recurrently brought up in future confrontations which should be discussions and compromises instead as much as possible.
Don’t expect your partner to read your mind or always tune in to your true emotional mood. Clearly tell what you want your partner to do and tell them if you are upset about something. If you are exhausted or angry at someone and want emotional support then tell your partner that you are exhausted or angry at someone or had a terrible day. Communicate your problems and feelings in words so that your partner does not misunderstand your true state of mind. You may get more consideration and empathy by being open and up front with your emotional and physical circumstances.
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Here is an updated and increasingly valuable article about spouse relationships. The only point that I disagree with is that you have to create a mythology or tell stories about the way that you first met and this is totally unnecessary for a happy long duration marriage.
Also no marriage is the ideal 50/50 relationship and the reality is that many are out of balance slightly with 30/70 relationships also being functional or workable ones because one partner may contribute more to the marriage in more ways than the other spouse does.
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Compassion: n. sympathy for a lifeform(s) and wanting to and helping in some way
You can empathize with someone’s misfortune and be sympathetic but if you are compassionate then you want and do try to help in some manner.
A sympathy card or spending some time together talking about the misfortune is minimally doing something about it. Your compassion may extend further and you may offer some financial aid or replace a lost item. Offering advice which will prevent future misfortune is also a sign of compassion.
Helping the poor is a sign of compassion and it can be done financially or with personal volunteer work which should be designed to help them get back into the workforce or prevent starvation.
The one area that we must truly show compassion is towards wilderness animals and plants. Stop stealing their real estate and contribute to conservation causes which will hopefully ensure their survival. You may not understand that destruction of wilderness means the destruction of human civilization in the long duration!!!!!!
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Anticipation: n. predicting a subset(s) and frequently sensing impatience and/or eagerness if it is a good subset(s) and/or (sensing anxiety and/or fear if it is a bad subset(s))
We have all been anxious, fearful, impatient, or eager waiting for something to exist which we predict will exist.
If it is an anticipated good event(s) then we may sense impatience and/or eagerness and sometimes hope that it will exist sooner.
On the other hand we may feel anxious and/or fearful if it is a bad event(s) which we are anticipating and may even be hoping that it won’t exist.
Finally we may feel anxious, fearful, impatient, and eager if we anticipate both a good and bad event(s) to exist.
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Bias: n. a subjective personal favoritism for a subset(s)
We all have a personal way of thinking and doing things which all depends on our individual experiences, beliefs, and opinions and this is called personal bias or subjectivity. Someone from a different culture or background may have many biases which are much different than our own so we should learn to respect those biases and not always try to prove that our biases are the only ones to have.
Most conflicts, arguments, and misunderstandings stem from the fact that humans have different biases which have to be dealt with in a sometimes diplomatic way and not through an outright assault on emotionally deeply felt biases. A challenge to deeply held biases will be met with sometimes ferocious defensive actions and you should learn to communicate in a way which will not inflame those biases which sometimes may also be called prejudices.
Biases not grounded in many facts but emotionally deeply felt are the hardest to deal with because reason, logic, and relevant facts will frequently not be convincing enough to change those biases. The media, politics in general, religion, and sports is frequently not something which you can talk logically about because they are strongly held emotional beliefs frequently not based on many facts and subject to very little change.
If a human has very many biases different than your own then the probability that you can have a successful intimate relationship with that human are very slim. If you have a relationship it will probably be a very tempestuous and rather unsatisfactory one.
A scientific bias is preferable to a non scientific one but you have to be careful about statistics which can lead to inaccurate conclusions because there is no one to one correspondence with frequently vaguely defined variables. The scientific method is not very useful in human affairs because empathy, anger, frustration, revenge, poverty, discrimination, love, hate, etc is poorly defined and does not lend itself to manipulation with mathematical formulas. You can’t prove morality mathematically and test it in a laboratory.
Science will never prove the necessity for a secular moral code or morality for humans so that they can peacefully interact with one another in society. A moral code for young impressionable minds is necessary so that humans react impulsively in life situations and don’t always have to be asking -is what I am about to do right or wrong?
The questioning scientific approach to situation ethics is dysfunctional because it is so relative and almost any situation can be justified under certain circumstances. The end frequently justifies the means and this is a morally corrupt way of running the world of human affairs.
Except in emergency situations it should be immoral to destroy biodiversity, lie, be inefficient, steal, be adulterous if married, and murder. Prove that mathematically and scientifically in a lab. You can’t!!!!!! But you can try to get a consensus in society that a secular moral code is a good thing to teach young impressionable minds.
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Relationships with offspring, spouse, close friends, friends, and casual acquaintances all require a slightly different skill set.
If you are honest, sincere, dependable, competent, and in effect moral and trustworthy then you should be respected and even admired by close relationships and the chances are good that you will also have good relationships with them.
Be immoral by lying and deceiving much, be unreliable, be incompetent and generally untrustworthy and you will have bad friends if you have any at all.
To improve relationships further it helps to be a good listener and conversationalist who can relate to and understands different humans and social classes. It helps if you have a good education and are interested in more things than just your job or family so that you have interesting things to talk about with other humans, especially if those interests correspond to their interests. If you have similar interests then you will improve your chances of a good two way conversation.
If you can read the emotional state of the human that you are relating to then you will be far more successful in communicating without unnecessary arguments, confrontations, and disagreements. Conflict where one side is trying to win at all costs should be avoided if possible if you want to maintain a good relationship.
Relationships need time, energy, and frequently money to maintain or even improve them so make sure that you allocate most of your time, energy, and money to the most important human relationships in your life.
Job or career relationships come first and family second unless there is a crisis situation in the family. Social contacts beyond job or family can be important if you are in sales or a leader in an organization which is looking for new customers or new members.
Remember, if you want interesting good relationships then you have to be interesting yourself and good too. If you are poor, badly educated, and unemployed then don’t expect your best friends to be rich, educated, and fun to be with!!!!!!
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Revenge: n. impacting with a desire to punish for some offense(s) which is usually done with intense hatred
Retaliation: n. revengeving without hatred and sometimes with conditional forgiveness
Revengev: v. to impact with a desire to punish for some offense(s) which is usually done with intense hatred
A discussion of revenge is about punishment or about an eye for an eye philosophy with hatred reigning suppreme.
If someone intentionally kills your offspring, spouse, or a close friend then your first reaction is that justice demands that offender be put to death.
If a coworker spreads a malicious untrue rumor which gets you fired then your sense of justice wants them to lose their job also.
In the real world humans sometimes get away with murder and humans who spread malicious untrue rumors do not always get punished.
Some humans are so intensely affected that they wallow in hatred for the offender for a very long time and rarely try to take justice into their own hands and try to hurt the offender in some way by themselves with further unpleasant consequences.
Feelings of revenge may emotionally devastate you or make you very miserable if you are not able to accept reality, ignore the offense, and move on with your life. Forgiveness is frequently not an option but shit happens and sooner or later you will have to move on with your life and realize that revenge is frequently not a realistic option for you.
In married life your spouse can hurt your feelings greatly and criticize you unjustly but trying to get revenge and trying to punish them for the hurt will frequently just lead to a never ending cycle of vengeful attacks and counter attacks or unnecessary fighting in the marriage. Some women make the mistake of trying to punish the husband with a denial of sex and if this is done too frequently then the husband may retaliate and have sex elsewhere resulting in marital disaster and even divorce.
If it is not an immoral act such as intentional lying or adultery then forgiveness is frequently a better option. For immoral acts conditional forgiveness may be necessary or forgiveness and a promise never to lie again or be adulterous again.
Instead of revenge try forgiveness, conditional forgiveness, or ignore the offense if it is a non repetitive one time event and not immoral.
Instead of revenge try retaliation or revenge without hatred and sometimes conditional forgiveness in all it’s socially accepted forms.
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Psychology: n. a mostly subjective analysis and description of human behavior
Psychoanalysis was a failed attempt at analyzing human behavior objectively and trying to make rules about the interaction of the conscious and unconscious mind and the resultant behavior. Trying to logically and objectively make valid statements about vaguely defined emotions and feelings which are so subjective from human to human and vary widely resulted in failure at coming up with rules or principles which applied to every human.
Each human is unique and motivated by unique impulses and reacts to life situations in a personal unique way. There are social behavioral norms but not everyone conforms to them all the time so psychology frequently says things which are true most of the time but not all the time.
Psychological motivations can be fear, anger, love, hate, jealousy, revenge, ridicule, cruelty, empathy, sympathy, caring, nurturing, protecting, greed, selfishness, altruism, laziness, gluttony, etc. or in effect any emotion and behavioral goal may motivate a human to act in a unique personal way.
There are ambivalent feelings or two emotions mixing to produce a behavior but there may also be more than two emotions at play such as the fear of abandonment, anger, jealousy, love, and hate all mixed together and reacting behaviorally to the sudden knowledge of an adulterous relationship of one’s spouse.
“What made you do what you did?” is frequently a stupid question because it may be so many things that the human can just not give a simple answer to the question. I just felt like it or just wanted to do it is an honest response under some complicated circumstances.
Psychology is a failure very frequently because it views so many things relativistically and tries to use situation ethics to resolve problems. It is frequently non-judgmental and frequently promotes the philosophy that if it feels good to you or it is something which you like then do it.
The fact is that healthy human interaction requires moral behavior as a prerequisite and if you encourage humans to act and react immorally then you will fail at giving them proper or useful advice. Most humans do not like to be lied to, stolen from, or be the victims of adultery and psychology which tries to ignore these fundamental objective truths is bound to fail at giving wholesome advice to humans about how they should behave and how they should feel.
Psychologists are an unacceptable replacement for dying religions which used to give purpose and meaning in human lives. Psychologists should all be guided by a secular moral code which is-except in emergency situations-don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.
This kind of moral advice will not only encourage trustworthy and reliable human behavior but it will also give purpose to the lives of humans living in a hedonistic increasingly immoral society which psychologists are a part of and wallowing in themselves frequently very confused.
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Empathy: n. sharing a sensation(s) with concern and understanding for the bad and/or good circumstance(s) and/or event(s) with another and sometimes offering helpful advice and/or caring
Empathy is a learned skill which needs concern and an understanding of another’s emotional reaction to a bad and/or good circumstance and/or event.
Empathizing with a good circumstance(s) and/or event(s) is rather easy because it means sharing in the happiness or joy of the moment and words such as “great” and “I love that” may be all that is needed to show that you too are happy that something good happened to a fellow human.
You frequently need to detect disappointment, fear, sorrow, shame, revulsion, mental pain, and many more bad emotions which a human may have based on words spoken, facial expressions, and a history of similar reactions under similar bad circumstances and/or events.
“Putting yourself in another’s shoes” is a way of vaguely describing what empathy means.
Once you accurately identify the emotion and circumstances of another human which may require a few questions with answers, you can then proceed to calm and reassure the human or join in the celebration to show that you know how they feel and that you would have a similar emotional reaction to the circumstance(s) and/or event(s).
“I feel your pain” is another way of vaguely describing what empathy sometimes means for a bad circumstance(s) and/or event(s).
Sometimes showing empathy or giving emotional support is enough and it is all that is needed but sometimes a suggestion as to what to do differently the next time to avoid the emotional turmoil in the first place can be helpful advice.
CONCLUSION:
Empathy basically means detecting and sharing good and/or bad emotions and sometimes offering helpful suggestions which will avoid bad emotions in the future or which will create more good emotions in the future. Not only helpful advice can be given but actual physical caring behavior can coexist with the emotional empathy.
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“There is an incomplete philosophical struggle and it is between two rather distinct extreme mindsets. One is frequently but not always bad – it is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, lust, resentment, inferiority, foundationless pride, superiority, and inflated ego or extreme selfishness. “The other is frequently but not always good – it is faithfulness, joy, peace, caring, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, controlled generosity, compromise, and compassion. The same struggle is sometimes going on inside you – and inside every other caring human, too.”
Try not to be envious, resentful, or jealous but try to be empathetic and benevolent instead
Instead of being unhappy and resentful of another’s possessions and characteristics and luck and circumstances, try to share in the feeling of accomplishment which another human is experiencing and feel that their good achievements, abilities, and circumstances are to be praised and not put down or criticized.
Try not to be cruel and mean but try to be kind or caring and sympathetic instead
Instead of willfully causing suffering and mental displeasure in a human and getting pleasure doing so try to be caring and sympathetic and share in the bad feelings and emotions caused by mistakes or bad circumstances which exist in a human’s life. You can be a strict and demanding disciplinarian or boss but try not to do it in a cruel and mean way.
Try not to be too greedy, selfish, with unfounded pride and too much superiority and arrogance but try to be with some generosity, caring behavior, and an adequate humility.
Try not to wallow in regret, pessimism, self-pity, sorrow, depression, hopelessness, guilt, and inferiority but try to be optimistically hopeful, happy, and develop as much selfconfidence and selfmotivation as possible by gradually changing more and more of your bad habits into good ones.
Above all try to be honest, sincere, truthful, and reliable and the bonds of your relationships with others will grow stronger and not weaker and you will be admired and respected by most close humans in your life.
Finally teach your offspring if you decide to have any this moral code- except in emergency situations-don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder!!!!!!
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You can be angry at yourself, angry at mistakes, angry at another human or humans, angry at the injustice of institutions in this world, and angry at bad events.
We get angry because someone criticizes us or blames us for something which we may or may not have done. Recognize that no one is perfect, including yourself, and that if you get criticized or blamed then you may be totally or partially responsible for the bad situation.
Accept the fact that you may have to be angry at yourself and not others for something bad happening. Our overinflated ego can easily be hurt and anger is frequently the first way that we try and deal with the hurt and frequently unsuccessfully with dead end results and much unnecessary emotional turmoil.
We also get angry if someone does not listen to us or obey us when we think it is important to do so. Our spouse and offspring will frequently not listen to us and not obey us when we make demands and it is ok to get angry at young offspring who don’t know better or can’t reason well or at all.
Trying to be a dictator or tyrant or boss all the time will not work in a family setting and you should try to learn more democratic discussion and consensus building skills to be a successful leader in the family.
We also get angry if someone disagrees with an opinion which we might have on politics, sports, economics, etc. If an opposing opinion will not significantly affect work or family life then it is frequently not worth getting angry over. Live and let live in a sea of different opinions on subjects which you have little or no power over or can’t change in any significant way.
You have little or no control over politics, religion, sports, society, and economics so don’t get into heated arguments about what is not possible for one relatively powerless person to change for the better.
We also get angry if we think the world is conspiring against us and we are being victimized by it. The world has never been fair or just and will not be fair or just into the foreseeable future so stop blaming the system and try to find ways of working around it to get to your desired goals in life.
Finally we get angry at mistakes which we make which may or may not be our fault. Almost everyone makes a thousand and one mistakes in their lives and instead of getting angry one should try to learn from the mistakes and make sure that they don’t happen again or don’t happen as frequently in the future by making necessary changes in your life or changing your approach to things.
Fundamentally we get angry because our ego has been hurt or because our attempt at reaching a goal(s) has been stopped or hindered permanently or temporarily.
Getting angry is easy but suppressing the emotion and debating or discussing the situation calmly takes skill and selfcontrol which is not easy to obtain overnight.
Accepting the fact that no one is perfect including ourselves and accepting the fact that two or more humans will frequently disagree or have different opinions on a topic is vital to keep angry emotional outbursts to a minimum.
Here are 3 ways to reduce angry reactions which should work for anyone interested in managing their tendency to respond with anger first and not last:
Take a timeout:
Count to 10 before you respond is good advice because in the heat of the moment an angry remark is something which may hurt you permanently and it is not something which you can change once you have said it. Not responding for ten seconds or longer will frequently give us time to control our angry impulses and find a better answer or solution to the problem at hand.
Express your feelings and opinions in a noncombative way:
Once you have calmed down a bit don’t be confrontational or in attack mode but try to discuss the topic which made you angry in a calm collected way. Communicate the situation which caused the anger without immediately trying to control or hurt others with nasty comments and orders. Try to mutually come to an agreement on what should be done to diffuse the highly emotional situation. Let’s try to work this out in a mutually beneficial way if possible.
Instead of being combative and saying “You make me angry” say “I feel angry” and instead of “I disagree with your opinion” say “I think that my opinion has validity because-“
Learn new communication skills:
Most humans get angry and lose control of their emotions because they frequently feel helpless in a bad situation. “What do I do next?” is frequently a question which goes unanswered and an angry response is the fast easy wrong response. Learning to ask the right questions and getting answers to them are the communication skills which are necessary to navigate past a dysfunctional angry response.
Ask yourself and others who, what, where, when, why, how, and how much about angry situations. You will find out in a controlled way who or what caused the anger, where, when, and why the anger started, and how the anger can be eliminated in the future.
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Challenge a firmly held opinion or belief or aggressively criticize another human and angry emotions will almost always appear. Trying to convince one that you are right and that they are wrong takes much skillful conversation when it is only a mistake and it is mission impossible if it is a strong belief.
Probe gently for someone’s mindset before you arrogantly proceed to voice your strong opinion or belief. Some subjects such as politics, religion, and sports infrequently lead to logical discussions but can quickly escalate into emotional confrontations instead. Avoid sensitive subjects unless they become serious important problems in your life.
If you are not sure about how a human feels about a sensitive subject but want to know then gently ask “How do you feel about ______? If you greatly disagree with the feeling then just say OK and don’t pursue the subject any further.
No matter how cool we try to be we can get upset sometimes. Yelling, ranting, and throwing a tantrum will just cause bad emotions in other humans and won’t make you feel any better after showing your emotions. The best action is to slow down and breathe deeply and try to do more thinking when you feel that you have emotionally upset someone. Remember no one is stress free and everybody has to deal with their own stress as effectively as possible. Try to be the calmer one in any emotional flareup and your words will usually be more respected and not as offensive.
There are many ways to make someone feel uncomfortable and this is frequently done in emotionally misleading and accidental behaviors. One can cause discomfort by asking one to do something that they don’t want to do. Discomfort is also caused by doing something which one finds upsetting. If you insist on discussing a topic that humans don’t want to discuss this effectively makes someone very uncomfortable.
It is almost impossible to decrease irrational anger. When humans get angry for irrational reasons calmly and respectfully listen to their grievance but remember that it will not be easy because intense irrational anger will make you want to respond as angrily. Don’t try to reason with them because they are in no mood to be rational. Don’t offer an insincere apology but try to find some action of yours which made them angry in the first place which you do regret and apologize for that.
Be careful when you joke about something because even the best jokes may be taken seriously which becomes painful and awkward. If you insist on humor in your conversation then build on the joke and make it more extreme until it is obvious that you must be joking. If your attempt at humor fails then admit that you are joking before the circumstance gets worse. Many people don’t get jokes so rarely joke or better yet don’t joke if you want a conversation to proceed smoothly and logically.
Jokes frequently destroy the boundary between logic and nonsense and some push a joke too much. A courtesy laugh will only motivate the joker to push more so avoid an untrue laugh. Express confusion and communicate in your own words what the joke meant to you and that you honestly tried to understand it. They may analyze the joke and you will feel that it was somewhat funny or it may reveal how their brain works humorously. Jokes frequently make fun out of human frailty and errors so it is best to ignore a joke that you don’t understand or disagree with.
Don’t joke at the opposite sex. There are differences between men and women but making fun of one gender is a communication that somehow your gender is superior to the other gender and this is nonsense which is overly prejudicial and biased. Most women are more emotional and social and talkative and caring than most men but that should be no reason to make fun of them since nature programmed them to be different for the benefit of the offspring. It takes a good man and a good woman(s) to raise offspring in a balanced and healthy way as nature programmed.
Never hide an insult and pretend a compliment because no one likes to be deceived.
Though most of us probably feel that we are above feelings of jealousy, occasionally we may experience them. If this exists then try to convince yourself that the object of your jealousy is not as desirable as it seems. Instead focus on how lucky you are and on the things which are right with your life. Jealousy is primarily experienced by the economically poor in this society which puts so much importance on the possession of many material possessions.
Jealousy of attractive humans is rampant in a society which puts more value upon beauty than on health and smarts and is the reason why so many are obsessed irrationally with their looks.
Frequently you must reveal a personally shocking truth to someone who is not ready for the truth so their minds must be carefully prepared to hear it. Don’t hit them with the complete truth at once but try to present it in smaller and slightly less shocking chunks. Evidence in small chunks and then the complete evidence will make a mind naturally rebel from that much truth but it is necessary that you maintain your honest reputation despite shock to the listener. A person will reflect upon the confrontation later and continue to respect you for being honest and your good reputation in their subjective biased minds will be maintained.
Being honest, sincere, and reliable will ensure that a strong bond continues in a relationship even after many arguments which should decrease in quantity as time passes if you continue to maintain a trustworthy relationship despite the arguments.
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Music can ease the pain that you are suffering from.
Music can motivate speedier exercise and promote endurance during exercise.
Soothing music can promote better sleep without the need to resort to medication.
Music can relieve stress and anxiety, especially prior to and after surgery.
Music can induce a meditative state or change brainwave activity.
Music can elevate your mood and relieve symptoms of depression as long as it is uplifting and not heavy metal or techno.
CONCLUSION:
Music can change or modify your emotional state and speed up or slow down your brain and body activity frequently producing healthy side effects for body and brain. Dissonant or distorted rasping and hate filled music can change your mood or health in a bad way so be careful what you listen to and realize that not all music is good for your emotions or body health.
Here is a random sample of some classic forever good song music with emotional appeal.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YJe5sMBpnNY
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Can you maintain a trusting bond after arguing and hurting feelings?
Call someone stupid, an ass hole, crazy, nuts, or a profanity such as motherf**ker or bitch. After such a careless outburst can you properly apologize and retain a trusting bond or do you get lasting resentment and wanting revenge for hurt feelings which weakens a trusting caring relationship.
Do you get violent and/or cruel during an argument and/or after it?
Abuse is frequently verbal but it can also be physical. If you plan to have offspring then it is definitely not a good idea to have a violently abusive spouse.
Are you emotionally addicted to impulsive irrational spending or shopping?
Getting emotionally high on impulsive spending is something you should definitely try to control or correct before making a marital commitment. Bad money management is the leading cause of divorce.
Do you persist beyond frustration?
There are plenty of frustrations in family life and on the job and persistence is frequently what you need to overcome the problem. Can you continue to pursue a frustrating goal despite much failure or are you one who easily gives up and accepts permanent failure rather quickly? Having no courage to overcome important frustrations is a great handicap in a relationship.
Are you willing to courageously discuss difficult problems or do you ignore or try to avoid them?
Difficult problems are very emotionally stressing and if you are the type who tries to always avoid or ignore them with silence then the relationship will not endure and the problems may even get worse with delay.
Do you have the patience to wait or delay impulsive gratification or are you one who needs to act on an impulse immediately?
Impulsively buy a cheap product now or wait until you can afford a quality product later by saving up. Impulsively eat a snack right away or wait for the main meal to eat. These are two examples which require waiting or delaying gratification which has a greater reward with patience and waiting. Excessive credit card debt is an example of not delaying gratification enough and frequently bordering on imminent bankruptcy as a bad end result.
Are you emotionally too defensive when confronted with a mistake?
Some emotional egos are so large that those humans will almost never admit to a mistake and even lie with implausible excuses to avoid blame. Being easily offended by blame leads to many undesirable arguments and bad feelings.
Can’t detect or identify low intensity emotions such as anxiety, affection, sadness, loneliness, sincerity, and liking?
Failure to note low intensity emotions means that one may fail to communicate emotional support for emotional hardship. You may not be able to verbalize empathy with minor failures or bad events which personally affect a human and need to be noticed or acknowledged frequently with emotional support. Most men are currently very bad at identifying low intensity emotions and disappoint women frequently by not picking up subtle emotional cues.
Do you give praise or emotional support for successes in someone’s life?
Financial support for worthwhile important goals is essential but you should should be able to also praise and give emotional support when one achieves those desirable important goals in life.
Do you know how to regain optimism by interacting with good friends or activities which increase your morale when needed?
Ultimately happiness is something which you are personally responsible for and if you are unhappy then you should have enough self-motivation to get yourself back into an optimistic happy mood if it has been temporarily decreased by a bad personal event or personal failure.
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EMOTIONS
Trying to win every argument is foolish because no human is perfect and a calm discussion is always a better approach to solving a solvable problem.
Share your grief with someone who cares.
If you can’t change the hated thing then avoid it or try to forget it because thinking about it is a waste of time and unnecessary stress.
Optimistic happiness is your responsibility.
Envy and jealousy is a waste of mental effort and time.
RELATIONSHIPS
If a relationship has to remain a secret then you shouldn’t be in it.
Grudges or no forgiveness has no place in family life or relationships with close friends.
Dare to be different once in a while since most of us should not be trying to win a popularity contest of being boringly normal.
You can’t change what humans think of you but if you are honest, sincere, and reliable it should not matter if they think the worst of you.
If we were aware of everyone else’s problems we would probably want to continue living with ours.
Fulfilling a promise also means showing up on time or being reliable.
A friend in need is a friend indeed.
GOALS
Learn from your past mistakes and bad behavior but don’t wallow in a bad past.
Life isn’t fair or just, but it can be good with consistent optimistic effort.
Life is too short to wallow in pessimistic misery so switch to optimistic effort.
Dedicate much time to the passion in your life but remember that living a full and satisfying life is more than just your selfish passion.
Don’t just live on future hopes but savor present moments of pleasure also and do things which will increase the probability of reaching those future hopes.
Disaster may occur but always ask-will it matter 5 or 10 years from now?
The only certainty in life is that there will be change.
Growing old is better than dying young.
Get rid of everything which isn’t useful and not a source of healthy pleasure.
When in doubt and there is more than one choice, choose the less risky one.
MONEY
Save some money for emergencies and retirement with every paycheck.
Don’t compare your life to profligate spenders because too frequently you can’t afford their lifestyle.
Use debit not credit cards if you can’t or refuse to budget your money.
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Emotional Smarts or ES: n. the ability to manipulate another’s senses to reach a good and/or bad goal(s)
Politicians have emotional smarts but not logical smarts when it comes to solving problems and conveying an appropriate message to the public. They manipulate your emotions but don’t publicize any useful logical solutions to the political, social, economic, and educational problems of the nation and world.
What are considered to be good leaders in society and who rise up the ranks of leadership are those who are more skilled in manipulating emotions and not logical facts. The few exceptions to this general rule are the technological leaders who have an abundance of logical technical knowledge and also human emotional knowledge.
Political leaders are the ones who aren’t leading society in a logical, efficient, sustainable way but instead are manipulating the emotions of the public to maintain their political power and the power of the special interests. They understand that promises must be made to appease the desires and beliefs of the majority of the citizens which they rule over. Those human beliefs are historically founded beliefs of what is true and untrue and very resistant to change despite their dysfunctional mythological nature in the present technological age.
The common man and woman are encouraged by their leaders to either love or hate, support or oppose and the result is that the ideology of the opposing party is hated and opposed. One opposing party is bad and their personal party is good. This group hate of the other group leads to political deadlock and an inability to compromise or find common ground which could help members of both parties. Manipulation of the fears and hopes of the public is what exists in the media and when the election is over the heavily funded special interests groups continue along with business as usual in a terribly inefficient way wasting the time, energy, and money of the taxpayers or society.
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Emotional Smarts, ES, emsmarts: n. the ability to manipulate a human’s senses for a good and/or bad goal(s)
The best non technical leaders have a good knowledge about human emotions and characteristics and can successfully motivate them to achieve the required goal(s) with the right kind of communication. The knowledge is called emotional smarts or ES and here is how you can acquire it and use it successfully:
You have to be curious about many humans and learn to empathize with them so that you learn to understand what motivates them and what characteristics they have.
You learn about your own strengths and weaknesses so that you can effectively exist and function within those limits with optimal results.
You focus attention on the task at hand and don’t let personal emotions or distractions make you diverge from your goal(s).
You have selfknowledge about why you are upset and/or emotionally dissatisfied and minimally let it interfere with your goal(s) achievement.
You can have successful relationships with a large variety of humans but not all of them, especially if they are immoral.
You are basically caring, moral, or trustworthy and reliable and care about other moral or trustworthy and reliable humans.
You can read facial expressions well thus frequently knowing what the other human is feeling emotionally.
When you fail or make mistakes you keep going with an optimistic attitude.
You are a good judge of character with a rather short exposure and interaction with someone and have developed a rather reliable intuitive sense which you use to judge humans.
You are selfmotivated and seldom need others to motivate you with praise and encouragement.
You have much selfcontrol, know when to say no, and infrequently get tempted by bad choices which result in bad or unhealthy behavior or habits and stressful situations.
You help others with attention followed by caring behaviors when appropriate so that you don’t remain too absorbed in yourself.
CONCLUSION:
If you have emotional smarts as a foundation then you have great potential to become a good leader of humans in any non technical profession which you are also competent in.
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Learn to communicate with discussion more than with angry emotional confrontation when you disagree. Learn caring communication which means listening carefully to what the other is saying and supporting their right to disagree with you on rather trivial matters. When discussing rather important things remember that it may take more than one discussion to reach an agreement or a consensus on what the best thing to do is.
Boredom can reduce mutual attraction and sharing exciting activities together can maintain or even increase mutual bonding attraction. Plan some exciting mutually satisfying activities together throughout the marriage and you will increase your chances of remaining attractive to one another.
One way of avoiding arguments is withdrawl or ignoring the assault on you which may come in the form of severe criticism or a confrontational argument. When one partner has given up on discussing or irrationally arguing about problems then mutual attraction begins to fade and the marriage will be threatened. There is no constructive arguing possible if there is illogical ranting, name calling, profanities, and put downs as well as emotional dissatisfaction being expressed.
Few marriages will last if pessimistic depression exists frequently in one spouse. Mental health is very important in a marriage and if one is mentally handicapped and therapy does not help, then the marriage will probably not last long.
Too much caring or too much nurturing and protection or support of your spouse will lead to an overly dependent spouse who will not be able to function independently on her or his own. Quality caring and not quantity caring is what is preferable in a marriage. Quality caring means caring about the important things in the marriage and not caring so much about the rather trivial experiences, conflicting personally biased opinions, and problems which you are having.
Religious holiday traditions, especially for women, tend to increase the attractiveness of the relationship. What really strengthens a satisfying relationship is having a common or shared morality more than anything else and a recommended shared secular morality is- except in emergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.
Sharing and celebrating each other’s successes also strengthens the marital bond. In a similar fashion it also strengthens a friendship bond if you celebrate each other’s successes. Intense optimistic shared emotions strengthen human bonds.
It may not be so obvious but sharing mutual bad feelings and emotions such as hatred, disapproval, grieving, or empathizing with a bad experience can also strengthen the human bond between two or more humans. Any shared or agreed to mutually intense emotional behavior strengthens human bonds whether the behavior is bad or good. Shared intense bad and immoral emotional behavior strengthens the human bond between delinquents and criminals. Criminal successes increase the human bonding between the participants.
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Yes. One can love and hate an offspring at the same time. You may impulsively love to hit an offspring and simultaneously hate the thought of making the offspring cry. The emotion is ambivalent. For example loving anger at misbehavior and sympathetic disappointment at failing school grades, or hopeful frustration at an inability to play a musical instrument or fearful pride in watching one do well at go cart racing are all possible ambivalent emotions when two emotions mix.
Not known until now is the fact that more than two emotions can exist simultaneously in a human.
Angfehal: v. to sense anger and fear and hatred and love simultaneously.
When you learn of an adulterous relationship instantly from some source and believe it you can feel angry at your spouse whom you love, you hate your spouse for being deceptive and you fear that the relationship might have to end. This is the ambivalence of 4 simultaneous emotions. Add to this jealousy and you have 5 simultaneous emotions existing mentally.
Angfehat: v. to sense anger and fear and hatred simultaneously
This combinations of three emotions happens when you find out that your offspring has been taking illegal drugs for the first time. You are angry that he or she has broken the law or your no drug rule, you hate their bad behavior, and you fear that they may have become addicted to the drug.
Will science ever pinpoint the origin of emotions in the brain or describe how the brain experiences ambivalent emotions? Never! The emotional variables in the brain are so many and so complex that a definition of an emotion is not enough to determine a one to one correspondence with the emotion and behavior in a human brain!!!!!!
Any statistical analysis of emotions with questionnaires is extremely subjectively biased chaotic data which has absolutely no relevance or correspondence to human existence and 100% of such misleading “clinical studies” should cease immediately. There is almost no statistically relevant social and political “science” data which should be gathered and analyzed about emotions because cause and effect relationship observation is not possible!!!!!!
A parent can prevent an offspring who exhibits hated behaviors from feeling that he or she is primarily an object of hatred by communicating to the offspring that he or she is still loved as a whole when an offspring does something very bad. Parents should point out that only the bad behavior is the object of the hatred and not the offspring himself or herself: “I hate your very bad behavior but I don’t hate you but love you!”
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You make your own happiness.
This is true most of the time because you can be relatively happy even under the seemingly worst economic, political, or social situations. You can laugh at almost anything that life throws at you and ultimately happiness is a state of mind which you should train yourself to control. Yes, some foods don’t taste good, your job may stress you out, you may be hopelessly unemployed, your relationships with people might be dismal, but you can still be happy that you are alive and there is almost always the possible optimistic hope that things can be improved.
Laughter is the best medicine.
An optimistic approach or a hearty laugh at unpleasant events or illness can go a long way towards wiring the brain into a healthier healing mode. This way depression or great unhappiness can sometimes be avoided. Sometimes fate is so bad that no amount of laughter will help, but that is reality.
Be careful what you find to be humorous.
Much humor has as its basis human weakness or imperfections that are laughed at. You have to be careful laughing at human stupidity, lack of punctuality, addiction problems, weakness for certain foods, weight problems, lack of beauty, etc. because you can wind up offending someone who may have that human weakness or imperfection. Nobody likes it when you laugh at a personal problem or weakness that they may have.
Worrying frequently never changes anything.
This just states the fact that worrying about a problem will not change anything unless action is taken to try and solve the problem. Sometimes too much worrying or getting tired of worrying is the motivation that is needed to start to do something about the problem.
Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words can break our hearts.
Broken bones can heal but sometimes hurtful words such as “I hate you” and “I don’t love you” can leave lasting unhealed emotional wounds from which recovery is sometimes not possible.
Anger or hate can be a useful motivating force.
Any intense emotion can be a motivating force. Intense emotion is often a sign that you like something very much or that you hate something very much. If you hate something very much and are angry then you may actually decide to do something about the situation or maybe avoid future encounters with the object of the hate.
Laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and you cry alone.
Most smart humans shy away from misery and generally like to be in the company of happy people rather than miserable ones.
Calm is more conductive to creativity than is anxiety
This is just an acknowledgment that creativity, which depends primarily upon thinking, is hampered when emotions interfere with a necessary clear creative thinking process.
Categorizing fear is calming
If you think about, realize, and verbalize what the source of your fear is then there is a considerable calming effect because the fear does not seem so irrational and without a cause.
The best cure for a short temper is a long walk.
This is just one of the ways that a short temper can be overcome. Another way is to take time out for a few minutes, many minutes, or to quickly get involved in a totally different activity which will calm down the immediate anger to some extent.
Drama frequently obscures the real issues
Another way of saying this is that emotions can often obscure the vital facts in an issue. When emotions take over, reason often leaves through the back door.
Being happy is important but not always priority number one.
Humans who are starving will quickly challenge the dominant importance of being just happy in life which is impossible on an empty stomach. Having relatively many happy moments in your life is somewhat important but working at a difficult or boring job may be a more important temporary necessity in your life than happiness.
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Tigers take revenge, rats show empathy, elephants mourn their dead, fruit flies like to drink away sexual rejection, and pigeons are superstitious.
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Nature is efficient. It communicates efficiently, distributes resources such as food and territory efficiently, and rewards the smart and healthy with successful reproduction.
Most humans in civilization are inefficient communicators, don’t budget their time, energy, and money wisely, and have to frequently struggle to eat healthy and have offspring whom they can be proud of.
Do you make many promises and don’t fulfill most of them?
Do you talk too much and don’t solve many problems?
Do you have many casual friends and few if any close ones?
Do you argue much and solve few problems?
Do you spend too much time goofing off and find little time for the important things in your life?
Do you have great debt all the time?
Do you pick up after your offspring and let them lead messy lives?
Do you drive around town much visiting friends and impulsively shopping?
Do you date frequently and find no serious ones?
do you not set priorities in your life consciously,
Do you not have any serious long duration goals?
If you have many of the above characteristics then you are being inefficient with your time, energy, and money and you probably have a good share of misery in your impulsive problematic life.
I can write a book on inefficiency and have devoted many of my evergreen blogs to thinking rationally and being efficient but in a nutshell:
Set priorities and goals in your life,
Schedule your time,
Budget your money,
replace what you don’t now feel are impulsive bad habits with better ones,
acquire new useful knowledge and skills constantly,
and in summary: devote most of your time, energy, and money to the most important things in your life once you have prioritized them with conscientious thinking, planning, and doing. Get off your impulsive emotional butt!!!!!!
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Confirmation or similarity tendency (tendsim):n. a tendency for a human to agree and approve of and want to interact with other humans with similar subsets
Humans generally like to agree with humans who have very similar or identical opinions, fears, and likes and agree with us. If humans disagree with us we feel uncomfortable, threatened, insecure, and annoyed that our ego, philosophy of life, opinions, fears, and pleasures are being challenged.
A result of this thinking makes us cling to one political party, one religion, one profession, and we generally like humans who also like our favorite sports teams or favorite pastimes. If you are like me then I will probably like you too no matter how illogically and irrationally you are behaving from an objective point of view.
An open minded individual is a rarity who tries to discover the objective truth in two or more differing opinions on the same subject or topic.
Ingroup tendency (tendingro):n. a tendency to want to be in and want to form stronger bonds with a group of humans with many similar subsets
We have an innate or inborn tribal instinct which helps us to form tighter bonds with our ingroup but it makes us suspicious, fearful, and disrespectful of other groups with different values and abilities. Many small ingroups listen to the same music, watch the same movies, the same TV shows, idolize the same celebrities, follow the same fashions, have similar party styles, and have a cliquishness about other rather trivial behaviors.
Rare is the individual with a global reference point who values global beliefs and activities and idolizes what is objectively good for most in the global community.
Gambler’s fallacy or predictive tendency (tendpred):n. a tendency to feel that past events and/or subsets will probably repeat themselves in the future also and especially the most recent events and/or subsets will continue into the immediate future
We tend to sense that past events have a large probability of also existing in the future. Thus if we flip a coin and it turns up heads 5 times in a row then we tend to sense that the next flip will be heads also even though the statistical probability is still 50/50. Also if we suddenly start to win there is an anticipation bias and we impulsively sense that we are winning now and that we will also win in the near future which frequently turns out to be untrue. This is true of new relationships also where we impulsively believe that the new relationship will be better than a previous bad one even though we have not improved our personality or our job which would increase the probability of a good new relationship.
Justifying impulsive stupid or bad behavior (tendbajust): n. a tendency to justify bad and/or wrong behavior which frequently doesn’t have immediate severely bad consequences for the human
Make an impulsive expensive purchase or impulsively get angry at another human. After we do such impulsive actions we try to justify our actions since we were the ones making them and our selfrighteous ego does not want to admit that we made a mistake or did something bad.
Not being taught or not understanding mathematical probabilities (tendprob): n. a tendency to ignore probabilities in making decisions because of a bad habit and/or never having been taught to think probabalisticaly
Statistically driving a car is more dangerous than flying a plane which terrifies us more because of its infrequent use. A terrorist action terrifies us more than accidental poisoning or accidental injury from falling which is much more probable. We simply haven’t been taught statistical facts about the dangers in our lives and automatically judge the violent, infrequent, or strange action to be more dangerous than the common more probable dangers in everyday life.
Selective observation tendency (tendselob): n. a tendency to feel that an intensely observed subset(s) is now appearing with greater frequency in our lives and is not just coincidence which is the realistic explanation
We buy a new car and suddenly notice more of those same cars on the road, we become pregnant and suddenly notice more pregnant women, or we focus on a unique number or song and suddenly notice that it exists more frequently in our lives. Suddenly we erroneously feel that these are not mere coincidences but more frequent realities.
Status-quo tendency (tendstatquo):n. a tendency to want to remain or interact with habitual subsets and not want to change unless we sense that the status-quo no longer realistically works and/or is useful
Most of us sense that change is threatening so we try to maintain our old habits which can be the same political parties, the same favorite meals, the same TV programs, the same friends, the same spending habits, the same investment policies, etc. We all intuitively sense that reform or change is needed in education, in politics, in economics, and in our daily lives or routines but we just can’t seem to free ourselves of our conservative buts and make the necessary changes for the better.
Bad news tendency (tendbnews): n. a tendency to sense that bad news is more important than good news and usually because we fear that it could potentially worsen our own lives
We intuitively feel that bad news is more important than good news because fear of bad consequences which can potentially disrupt our life and make it worse is frequently more powerful an influence on our lives than good news which should be a pleasurable feeling but it doesn’t last as long in our minds.
The fear of getting shot by a criminal or becoming prey to a predator seems more important to the brain than tasting a good healthy apple.
An inherent desire to conform (tendcon): n. a tendency to want to conform to small and larger cultural groups
Fear of rejection, fear of criticism, and fear of disagreement with the majority are all powerful emotional reasons which bias us towards conformity with frequently small groups of humans and relatively large groups such as organizations, nations, or the world.
Projection or personal injection tendency (tendpinjection): n. a tendency to inject our personal (thoughts and/or sensing) and/or emotions into other people and impulsively believe that they have similar (thought and/or sensing) and/or emotional abilities and/or characteristics
We are trapped inside our minds 24/7 and most of us wrongly assume that other humans think like us and agree with us on important things and sometimes on not so important things. We impulsively inject our personal feelings, emotions, and thoughts into other humans.
Current moment tendency (tendcurmom): n. a tendency to make more impulsive bad decisions immediately which give us great pleasure and/or avoid great pain and make different frequently more logical decisions when we plan to purchase or do things at some point in the future
Pleasure now and pain later is the philosophy most of us are encouraged to live by in the media, business, and society because pleasure is what most of us chose to pursue in the moment. When asked to choose between chocolate or a fruit to eat right now most of us chose chocolate. We have a deceptive world of human leaders encouraging us to live for today and not worry about tomorrow and the results are devastating personal lives and relationships and destroying biodiversity worldwide.
Bandwagon effect or tendency towards numerical quantity (tendqunum): n. an inclination to believe and behave as most do in a subset of humans and/or a tendency towards a large quantity of a subset(s)
Herd instinct is another way of saying that most humans have a tendency to be cliquish or like to form interacting groups of humans who have a lot of characteristics in common. They frequently eat similar food, dress similarly, talk similarly, have approximately the same amount of wealth, have the same skin color or have similar body appearance, and have other pastimes and behaviors in common. They tend to ostracize humans who don’t behave and look the way that they do and are considered unfair, unjust, biased, and even prejudiced by others.
Conservatism tendency (tendcon): n. resistance to change when given new facts which imply and/or prove a need for change and/or an inclination to believe in an old system of doing subsets
Humans have a tendency to be conservative in their lives which just means that they have established strong habits, good and bad, and are resistant to change. The new generation constantly challenges their parents “conservative” views and frequently find out sooner or later that many of the conservative views are actually useful in life and are based on many human interaction truths. The problem is that society is very irrational and too tied to historical bad habits or conservative ways of doing things and biodiversity is being devastated by this greatly inefficient largely irrational trivial behaving civilization.
Knowledge overload tendency (tendkuan): n. predominantly illogical irrational quantity knowledge accumulation which decreases logical thinking ability or the more you learn the stupider you get
Why do seemingly intelligent humans or humans with very good memories do such stupid things and can’t make reasonable logical decisions? The reason is inefficient rather trivial accumulation of knowledge and experiences with an illogical language. In the computer world much illogical garbage data in and you get garbage data out. Computer software only works perfectly if the logic behind it is perfect. Computers do not tolerate irrational garbage data which human civilization is swimming in and drowning in.
Tendessen: n. judging and/or categorizing a subset(s) based upon relatively few dominant stereotypes and/or characteristics and ignoring variations
Humans have a tendency to make fast judgments about other humans based on a few initial observations. Humans speedily identify some obvious appearances and behavior characteristics and judge the whole human based on them. If the human looks unkempt we label him a slob, if he does a selfish behavior we label him selfish, if he does something rude we label him as a rude human who is also probably inconsiderate or anti-social, if she laughs much we label her as not being a very serious human, and if she talks too much we label her a gabber or self-absorbed.
First impressions are the most lasting because humans start or tend to make opinions about your personality rather quickly and if you start out by demonstrating many of your bad behaviors you will be labeled or stereotyped and it may take you a very long time to change a human’s bad stereotype impression of you.
Experimenter’s tendency (tendexper): n. an inclination for experimenters to believe, validate, and publish data which agree with their personal predictions for the conclusions of a new experiment and to disbelieve, destroy, or minimize in importance the data which opposes those personal predictions.
This human tendency to want to have experimental results match your personal predictions causes much junk science. Drugs theoretically designed to cure an illness are clinically tested and there is great economic incentive to prove that a drug can actually cure an illness. The realistic result is that frequently clinical data which does not suggest a cure is ignored and the data which shows minimum statistical significance is communicated as a cure which it is not. Even the humans in the tests are sometimes logically selected to increase the probability of positive clinical results. Fraud in clinical statistical “scientific” drug trials is rampant and most of the new drugs don’t cure anything but just result in bad side effects which are then treated with more drugs. A drug which cures 100% of clinical test patients is a rarity and very frequently statistics lie!!!!!!
Historical tendency (tendhist): n. an inclination to sense and validate future events as being predictable based on historical events.
In science historical precedent and proof is vital to its progress. In all other liberal arts professions historical precedent is mostly garbage precedent because it is based on an illogical past which doesn’t define any of the words used inaccurately but the words are merely verbose excursions into vague analogies which contain little truth about what should be done in the present or future. Historical psychiatry, psychology, sociology, economics, education, and language is unprovable brainwashing propaganda which is reinforced and propagated into the next generation based on herd instinct and desire to maintain a status quo based on historical precedent.
Normalcy tendency (tendnor): n. a refusal to plan for and/or react to a disaster which has never existed before
There is a great tendency for humans who have not experienced personal disasters to ignore potential probable disasters and so don’t plan for them until it is too late. Who planned ahead for a tsunami hitting the nuclear reactor in Japan? No one. Only after the fact or after a disaster are humans willing to do something about a disaster so that it won’t exist again!!!!!!
I hope we finally start planning ahead and don’t destroy biodiversity on this planet or human civilization is doomed!!!!!!
CONCLUSION: Humans are mostly ruled by their emotions where fear and pleasure seeking plays major roles in decision making and the result is that most of us have mostly bad irrational habits which we are struggling with and very few good habits which are contributing to a better life for us and society and the world. An archaic language motivates these emotional biases and is very illogical and its use is the primary reason why there is so much irrational trivial and destructive human behavior in this world.
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You can be angry at yourself, angry at another human or humans, angry at the injustice of institutions in this world, and angry at bad events.
We get angry because someone criticizes us or blames us for something which we may or may not have done. Recognize that no one is perfect, including yourself, and that if you get criticized or blamed then you may be totally or partially responsible for the bad situation. Accept the fact that you may have to be angry at yourself and not others for something bad happening. Our overinflated ego can easily be hurt and anger is frequently the first way that we try and deal with the hurt and frequently unsuccessfully with dead end results and much unnecessary emotional turmoil.
We also get angry if someone does not listen to us or obey us when we think it is important to do so. Our spouse and offspring will frequently not listen to us and not obey us when we make demands. It is OK to get angry at young offspring who don’t know better or can’t reason well or at all. Trying to be a dictator or tyrant or boss all the time will not work in a family setting and you should try to learn more democratic discussion and consensus building skills to be a successful leader in the family.
We also get angry if someone disagrees with an opinion which we might have on politics, sports, economics, etc. If an opposing opinion will not significantly affect work or family life then it is frequently not worth getting angry over. Live and let live in a sea of different opinions on subjects which you have little or no power over or can’t change in any significant way. You have little or no control over politics, religion, sports, society, and economics so don’t get into heated arguments about what is not possible for one relatively powerless person to change for the better.
We also get angry if we think the world is conspiring against us and we are being victimized by it. The world has never been fair or just and will not be fair or just into the foreseeable future so stop blaming the system and try to find ways of working around it to get to your desired goals in life.
Finally we get angry at mistakes which we make which may or may not be our fault. Almost everyone makes a thousand and one mistakes in their lives and instead of getting angry one should try to learn from the mistakes and make sure that they don’t happen again or don’t happen as frequently in the future by making necessary changes in your life or changing your approach to things.
Fundamentally we get angry because our ego has been hurt or because our attempt at reaching a goal(s) has been stopped or hindered permanently or temporarily.
Getting angry is easy but suppressing the emotion and debating or discussing the situation calmly takes skill and selfcontrol which is not easy to obtain overnight.
Accepting the fact that no one is perfect including ourselves and accepting the fact that two or more humans will frequently disagree or have different opinions on a topic is vital to keep angry emotional outbursts to a minimum.
Here are 3 ways to reduce angry reactions which should work for anyone interested in managing their tendency to respond with anger first and not last:
Take a timeout:
Count to 10 before you respond is good advice because in the heat of the moment an angry remark is something which may hurt you permanently and it is not something which you can change once you have said it. Not responding for ten seconds or longer will frequently give us time to control our angry impulses and find a better answer or solution to the problem at hand.
Express your feelings and opinions in a noncombative way:
Once you have calmed down a bit don’t be confrontational or in attack mode but try to discuss the topic which made you angry in a calm collected way. Communicate the situation which caused the anger without immediately trying to control or hurt others with nasty comments and orders. Try to mutually come to an agreement on what should be done to diffuse the highly emotional situation. “Let’s try to work this out in a mutually beneficial way if possible.”
Instead of being combative and saying “You make me angry” say “I feel angry” and instead of “I disagree with your opinion” say “I think that my opinion has validity because-“
Learn new communication skills:
Most humans get angry and lose control of their emotions because they frequently feel helpless in a bad situation. “What do I do next?” is frequently a question which goes unanswered and an angry response is the fast easy wrong response. Learning to ask the right questions and getting answers to them are the communication skills which are necessary to navigate past a dysfunctional angry response. Ask yourself and others who, what, where, when, why, how, and how much about angry situations. You will find out in a controlled way who or what caused the anger, where, when, and why the anger started, and how the anger can be eliminated in the future.
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