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WHAT ARE 7 IMPORTANT KEYS TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP?

There are very many more detailed keys to a lasting relationship than just 7.  Despite all our efforts to make a relationship work there are some crises in life which can derail what may have seemed like a lifetime relationship no matter how much we may try to avoid a termination of the relationship. These basic 7 keys will help to optimize a long duration relationship and are good starting points when further researching the details on how to make a relationship last.

A similar moral background with integrity and similar views on severe addictions,

Good communication, especially when problem solving with minimal angry confrontations,

Financial responsibility,

Sharing responsibilities in and around the house, especially for working couples

Enjoying sharing mutual experiences with family and friends,

Mutual encouragement and support to pursue mutual and individual goals,

Ongoing research into new interests which are then shared.

Almost all relationships will crash and burn if there is lying, deceitfulness, promiscuity, failure to fulfill promises, and criminal immorality. That is why it is important that both of you have similar moral viewpoints and are very honest with each other so that mutual trust and respect can flourish in the long duration. What this also implies is that you are free of traditional vices or severe addictions to alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, promiscuity, profligate spending, etc.

Failure to communicate at all or doing so very badly will terminate most relationships even if they initially seemed to be on the right track. Being a poor listener and having angry confrontations when problems have to be solved is sure to lead to a breakup sooner or later or a very miserable existence as long as this dysfunctional condition continues.

Next to infidelity, financial irresponsibility is the second greatest cause for a relationship breakup, especially in a marriage. If you are a compulsive spender or can’t control your urge to shop and buy then this will be the wrecking ball which will end a marriage. Sticking to a budget is the only possible way of salvaging a financially irresponsible relationship.

For working couples sharing in the responsibilities in and around the house and sharing offspring rearing responsibilities is important or one will feel overburdened or overwhelmed with a lopsided workload. Relatively few modern day couples can make a go of it on only one paycheck so sharing the responsibility of caring for offspring, cleaning house, doing grocery and other shopping is very important or one will be suffering from premature burnout.

Whether you are sharing enjoyable experiences with friends or family this act of sharing has a bonding effect on the participants. If you are single then bonding with friends is more important but if married your priority should be bonding with family first and then friends. Yes, some feel it is more important to bond with humans on the job than with family. This is a long duration threat to a family relationship and many regret belatedly that they didn’t spend more time with family despite a relatively successful career which may have always been priority number one.

When things are going bad for us the one thing which we all crave is empathy and encouragement from our significant other that things will eventually get better or work themselves out. Encouragement is also essential to motivate one in mutual goals and also in some personal individual goals which one may want to achieve. Let’s support each other in our mutual goals and individual interests or goals also sums up what active encouragement really means. Giving support is not only emotional but has a monetary and effort support component too.

A relationship can lead to boredom and apathy if both are pretty much doing the same thing day in and day out and both seem to be stagnating. The antidote to this undesirable circumstance is to research and develop new interests along the way so that the relationship is ever changing and growing in complexity. Some younger and many retired couples find that after the offspring are raised they really don’t have very much interesting things to do individually or mutually and some decide to part ways in search of a more exciting or interesting life.

You have to work on a lasting relationship and that means actively nurturing and trying to protect it or caring about the relationship in an ongoing way. Stop spending your time, energy, effort, and money on a relationship and it will often rapidly fade and become a thing of the past.

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17 THINGS GOOD BOSSES SHOULD KNOW HOW TO DO!!!

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Essentially after a qualified and competent worker is hired a boss’ job is to motivate and support or help the worker to do the job well and with enthusiasm.

BOSSES MOTIVATE WITH THE FOLLOWING TECHNIQUES:

They encourage when reluctance or fear of not being able to do the task is felt,

they maintain an atmosphere of trust so that no worker is overly fearful or dissatisfied with the emotional working environment and feels free to communicate with the boss and say anything that they may feel is relevant,

they are decisive and confident thus giving the worker the courage to do even when the task seems hard and difficult,

they accept occasional worker failure, don’t lose their optimism, and don’t use insults, put downs, name calling, and ridicule to belittle the worker,

they clearly communicate the rules and goals of the company giving confidence, clear guidance and understanding, and a sense of purpose to the worker,

they contribute to the work at hand by participating and working along with the workers at least once in a while to maintain an esprit de corps and don’t just isolate themselves in the office all day,

they are effective listeners and make their workers feel important and respected when they communicate,

the best bosses also have a sense of humor and can tell entertaining stories to perk up workers,

they are thankful or show gratitude so that workers feel that their efforts are appreciated,

they are inspirational and optimistic and give earned praise appropriately thus inspiring workers,

they have an ability to energize their workers when the going gets tough or tedious.

they know how to discipline good workers who are starting to goof off or are no longer doing a good job. This can be done with a threatened firing or pointing out role model workers who are doing the job well or better and thus challenging the wayward worker to do better or get back in shape.

SUPPORT OR HELP IS GIVEN WITH THE FOLLOWING TECHNIQUES:

They acknowledge work well done or give credit where credit is due,

they empower or give the tools and direction necessary to do the job and are good coaches,

they are results oriented and are not out to win a popularity contest if it means a job not well done,

they strengthen the workforce by eliminating bad workers who destroy the incentive to do well and function at optimal efficiency.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT ENCOURAGEMENT

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Encouragement: n. caring for and/or motivating an animal(s) so that a goal(s) can be achieved

Offspring need more encouragement than adults and sometimes caring or nurturing and protecting them gives them the courage to explore their environment and is the encouragement they need to live a challenging relatively fear free existence. Verbal rewards in the form of praise are what offspring crave and motivates them to behave and do things which the parents approve of.

 

Food treats and toys should not be used as motivating devices to get offspring to behave because they will associate good behavior with food and toy rewards which are external motivators and will not develop necessary internal self-motivation to behave well.

 

The best kind of encouragement for offspring is parental involvement or sharing of educational experiences which teach offspring about the necessary knowledge and skills needed in this world. Encouraging offspring well is being a good role model and doing the things which you expect your offspring to also do.

 

Adults also need encouragement with praise, assurance, emotional empathy, good advice, instruction, and sometimes money rewards to get them to achieve worthwhile goals.

 

Sometimes persuasion is necessary to encourage a human to do something which they may at first be reluctant to do on their own.

 

 If you are honest, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, caring, and competent then your encouragement will be more respected and accepted more frequently by other humans.

 

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