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21 WAYS TO BE HAPPIER FOR COMMON HUMANS NOT DRIVEN AMBITIOUS INDIVIDUALS!!!

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Ambitious driven individuals derive much happiness from loftier goal setting, taking calculated risks, and work feverishly trying to overcome the challenges on the road to hoped for success.

Common humans are more laid back, live rather mundane lives, derive happiness by being grateful for what they have, and are relatively happy with a relatively low level of achievement.

It is much easier for common humans to be happy because they have lower expectations out of life than ambitious driven individuals and the following ways generally make them happier:

They don’t hold grudges:

They don’t fester with vengeful and resentful feelings towards others who may have offended them with bad remarks or behavior. If it is not immoral behavior like lying they tend to try and forgive and forget because they view human error as imperfect behavior which can be forgiven if it does not become an annoying repeated frequent characteristic. Their general philosophy is live and let live and they don’t sink into depression, anxiety, or stress every time they get offended by someone.

They treat almost everyone with sincere kindness:

They try to treat almost everyone with love, dignity, and respect in a friendly way and increase the probability that they too will be treated the same way in return. Doing so makes them more likeable humans and having this positive attitude is a happier state than treating humans in an impersonal way.

They view problems as doable challenges and not unpleasant tasks:

A problem is viewed as a challenge with a highly probable satisfactory solution and not a drawback or a difficult struggle. They prefer solving problems with an optimistic rather than pessimistic approach.

They are grateful for what they already have:

There is a popular saying that “The happiest people don’t have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.” Contentment is greater if you count your blessings rather than yearn for what you don’t have.

They have realistic dreams:

Many yearn or dream of celebrity status in sports, media, and acting. Happy humans have more realistic goals or dreams which they have a higher probability of achieving and don’t waste their time dreaming of the highly improbable.

They don’t get bogged down in trivial rather unimportant problems or behavior:

They are aware of and have established what the most important priorities are in their life and don’t obsess with the trivial rather unimportant things in their lives. They don’t sweat the small stuff.

They try to focus on and say nice things about humans:

Unless a human is behaving immorally they tend not to gossip and prefer to say nice things about humans instead of the bad.

They try not to make excuses for their failings in life:

If they make a mistake or fail at fulfilling a promise or task then they take full responsibility for their actions and don’t try to blame others or circumstances for their failure. They learn from their mistakes and try not to repeat them again and don’t try to justify them with an excuse which solves nothing.

They enjoy the present:

Instead of worrying about the past or future they happily live in the present and derive as much happiness from the present moment as they can.

They get enough sleep most nights:

Getting enough sleep at night means waking up fresh, being recharged, and ready to go and not being handicapped by feeling tired which hurts productivity and performance at most tasks during the day.

They don’t envy and don’t obsess with comparisons with humans with more success or greater social rank:

Comparison with others is inevitable on the conscious and subconscious level but happy humans aren’t driven by a desire to keep up with the Joneses or a desire to be better than others. Instead they celebrate or praise the achievements of others without overt envy. They are generally trying to improve themselves but don’t consider themselves failures if they don’t quite measure up to others.

They choose friends wisely:

They associate more with optimistic good moral humans with integrity and minimally expose themselves to bad humans with many flaws who have more than their share of misery in their lives.

They are more interested in pleasing themselves rather than others:

They realize that they can’t please everyone and not even most humans so they realistically try to please themselves and do what they think is morally right and maintain their integrity no matter what others may say about them.

They have adequate social skills:

Happy humans are usually not loners but derive satisfaction from having a happy family, happy friends, or a happy significant other, and radiate contagious happiness with potential new acquaintances. They are happy being by themselves but also derive happiness by being with others.

They aren’t afraid to spend some alone time:

They enjoy alone time when they daydream, think, meditate, introspect, or just relax with a favorite hobby or pastime.

They eat healthy and get enough exercise and sleep:

A healthy mind and body is essential to happiness and maintaining optimum health means eating healthy, exercising, and getting enough sleep.

They try to live simply:

Material clutter and big cars and houses can be more stressful and a greater responsibility than living a simpler life with fewer material possessions and smaller car and house. Living simply means less financial responsibility and it means that you need less money for basic needs to be met. Driven ambitious humans seldom live simply but smart common humans should to optimize happiness.

They don’t try to find happiness in bad addictive behaviors:

Some try to find happiness in bad addictive behaviors such as gambling, drugs, alcohol, gluttony, excessive shopping, pornography, and promiscuity. Truly happy humans avoid or have minimum exposure to these harmful long duration addictions.

They realize and accept that some things can’t be changed:

Instead of constantly complaining how unfair life is they realize that they can’t change most of the bad things in this life and are content with trying to improve themselves or doing the best that they can with what they have at their disposal.

They maintain their integrity:

They are basically sincerely honest and moral and do not like lying and deceiving like sociopaths do. They are respected by most humans that they interact with and if they are trustworthy, dependable, competent, friendly, and empathetic then they are also admired by many humans. They derive a feeling of great selfworth from their integrity.

They have relatively few of these 32 bad habits:

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10 EXCUSES WHICH KEEP YOU FROM CHANGING YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER!!!

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Most humans basically don’t want to change their lives because change is difficult hard work and old habits are usually too pleasurable to want to change.

Traumatic, tragic, or disastrous events in your life will sometimes make you change whether you want to or not but if you are relatively content with your life and feel relatively secure there really is no great incentive for you to change your lifestyle or your daily habits.

Where there is a will there is usually a way to improve your life and making excuses for an absence of will just prolongs complacency almost indefinitely.

For those who don’t have the courage or desire to change excuses abound. Here are 15 excuses which keep you from changing your life for the better and 15 reasons not to handicap yourself by making them.

I DON’T HAVE THE TIME:

If you are working 16 hours a day, 7 days a week at two jobs trying to make ends meet then you really don’t have the time and should seriously consider a thriftier lifestyle. If you are only working 8 hours a day then you have at least 8 hours a day and possibly 32 hours on the weekend to devote to other matters. Having the desire and discipline to schedule those off work hours is the key to finding time for selfimprovement and you really do have the time!

I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY:

If you are destitute and unemployed then this is a real problem and not an excuse. Moving in with your parents or relatives temporarily may be a temporary option.

If you have a job and are making money then you have to learn to budget your money better by spending less on food, clothing, shelter, and transportation. Save on food by eating high calorie foods or feed yourself by mostly drinking milk, eating eggs, potatoes, pasta, and bread. Wear the same clothes every day and use deodorant. Share an apartment with many roommates, and drive a bicycle or a scooter.

Obviously if you need more money then landing a better paying job is a first priority and you should spend your free time getting qualified for the new job.

If you still don’t save any money after paying off your cell phone monthly expense then you need to work more and spend no money on entertainment and fun.

I’M TOO TIRED:

If you are too tired then you are not eating enough nutritious food, not getting enough sleep and exercise, and drinking too much soda and alcohol or you are physically working too fast and hard at a back breaking job and should learn to physically slow down. If you are living a healthy lifestyle then being too tired is not a valid excuse.

I LIVE IN TOO SMALL A TOWN OR CITY:

Save up some money, find a job in a bigger city, and move there if the opportunity you are hoping for is more abundant there.

MY PARENTS OR SPOUSE DON’T SUPPORT OR HELP ME:

If you are an adult it is time to learn to live independently of your parents and if your spouse doesn’t support your efforts then prove them wrong or get a divorce and try to make it on your own if you have enough personal desire, ambition, ability, and drive.

I HAVE OFFSPRING:

If your ambition and plans for the future are plausible and convincing enough then your spouse will probably gladly support and help you by caring for the offspring more so that you have more time to pursue your selfimprovement  goals.

I DON’T HAVE EXPERIENCE:

All experienced humans started without experience. They acquired new useful knowledge and skills in or out of school to become qualified at least on paper. If you don’t land the job of your dreams right away then you can always start at the bottom of the ladder in an entry level job or in an apprenticeship program.

I DON’T HAVE THE LOOKS:

Plastic surgery can do wonders unless you are dreaming about becoming a star or celebrity which unfortunately often requires a very good memory and considerable talent which you may not have in abundance.

I’M OVERWEIGHT:

About 40% of the American population is overweight and if the profession really requires average weight then consider going on a nutritious starvation diet under medical supervision at first.

I DON’T HAVE ANY DEGREES OR NOT THE RIGHT ONES:

Go back to school or selfeducate yourself on the internet and get the necessary degrees or comparable degrees.

***Not having a good enough memory and not enough inborn talent physically and/or mentally for a job or profession are the only valid excuses which should prevent you from starting on an inevitably frustrating course of lifetime failure and disappointment if you are foolishly unrealistic in your ultimate lifetime goals.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT EXCUSES***

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Excuse: v. to attempt to (delay and/or escape) and/or avoid a subset(s) and/or to attempt to subtract blame for an (unfulfilled promise and/or mistake) and/or offense and trying to defend and/or justify the action(s) and/or inaction(s) with a real valid reason and/or lie

 

We are frequently tempted to make excuses when we

don’t want to do something or want to escape it,

want to delay something,

want to avoid something,

don’t fulfill a promise,

make a mistake which we would want to hide, and

do something offensive or bad which we are ashamed of.

 

Sometimes excuses are believable and true such as being late because you got stuck in city traffic but some excuses are actually lies designed to be believable but in fact are not factual. Not attending an important event may be accompanied by a lie that you were too busy with other important priorities and could not attend.

 

You can get somewhat talented at making untrue excuses over time and turn into a compulsive liar which is not good for your good reputation once you get caught in a lying excuse as you inevitably will be given enough time.

 

Even if no one catches you in a lying excuse, humans tend to eventually avoid or disrespect humans who are constantly coming up with excuses for not doing something, making mistakes, not fulfilling promises, and behaving badly.

 

Instead of making excuses say no politely if you don’t want to do something, learn from your mistakes and don’t make them again, don’t make promises which you don’t intend to keep, and try to eliminate or greatly reduce your bad behaviors. Have the selfcontrol and determination to change your behavior so that excuses are no longer necessary in your life. Humans will respect you more and your own sense of selfworth will improve.

Real reasons may sound like an excuse but honest answers should be given whenever possible. I don’t want to waste my time, it is too expensive, sorry no, I am not interested, I don’t believe in doing that, my family or I disapprove of it, I will try not to make the mistake again, it won’t happen again, I shouldn’t have done that, and finally simply “I don’t want or like to do that”.

It is human nature to want to try to reduce the severity of a failed promise, mistake, offense, immorality, or bad behavior by defending your action(s) or trying to justify it with mitigating circumstances. You are making a mistake if you try to lie your way out of a situation because you will be accused of deceit or lying and your reputation will end up in the toilet. 

Some excuses are justified because you may have been late due to real reasons such as traffic congestion or spending more time at an important meeting than anticipated but making excuses for too many shortcomings can be habit forming and you can start making creative wrong excuses for things which are inexcusable.

If you are making too many failed promises, too many mistakes, are guilty of bad behavior or even immorality then don’t make excuses but do your best to change yourself and don’t make the mistakes, don’t behave badly, and don’t do immoral things. Your good reputation, especially with humans closest to you, can be severely damaged and trusting relationships will no longer be possible.

To minimize your excuses remember this-DON’T MAKE PROMISES WHICH YOU DON’T INTEND TO KEEP!!! It is a form of lying and no one will respect you if you don’t fulfill your promises or don’t follow through with them.

Excuses, excuses, excuses! Not a good pattern for your life and you will live to regret it in the long duration if you make too many excuses.

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IF YOU MAKE A MISTAKE OR DO SOMETHING BAD SAY YOUR SORRY AND DON’T LIE WITH A STUPID EXCUSE WHICH WILL HURT YOUR REPUTATION!!!!!!

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Excusev. to attempt to subtract blame for a mistake and/or offense and trying to defend and/or justify the action(s) with a real reason and/or lie

 

WHEN WE MAKE A MISTAKE THE NATURAL URGE IS TO WANT TO BLAME THE MISTAKE ON SOMEONE OR SOMETHING AND NOT ACCEPT THE TRUTH THAT YOU ARE TO BLAME FOR THE MISTAKE AND NOTHING OR NO ONE ELSE IS USUALLY THE REASON FOR IT.  

AFTER AN APPOLOGY YOU MIGHT BE TEMPTED TO PROMISE THAT IT WON’T HAPPEN AGAIN OR THAT YOU WON’T MAKE THE MISTAKE AGAIN.

THIS IS NOT A GOOD IDEA BECAUSE IF YOU MAKE A PROMISE YOU SHOULD TRY TO KEEP IT AND CHANCES ARE IT WILL TAKE YOU A WHILE TO CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR WHICH CAUSED THE MISTAKE IN THE FIRST PLACE.

THE BEST THING TO DO AFTER AN APPOLOGY IS TO FEEL BAD AND RESPONSIBLE FOR THE MISTAKE AND MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO ANALYZE THE CIRCUMSTANCE AND MAKE BEHAVIOR CHANGES IN YOURSELF SO THAT IT WON’T HAPPEN AGAIN OR AT LEAST NOT SO FREQUENTLY IF IT IS A HABITUAL MISTAKE WHICH YOU ARE MAKING.

PUNCTUALITY OR BEING ON TIME OR DOING SOMETHING ON TIME IS WHERE MOST OF US HAVE PROBLEMS. WE MAY FORGET ABOUT AN APPOINTMENT OR NOT LEAVE EARLY ENOUGH AND GET CAUGHT UP IN TRAFFIC OR DEVIATE BY A HOME RESPONSIBILITY SUCHAS OFFSPRING WITH AN EMERGENCY OR SOME URGENT ACTIVITY WHICH WE ARE DOING AND HAS TOP PRIORITY IN YOUR LIFE.

IF YOU ARE FORGETFUL THEN PROGRAM AN ALARM CLOCK AT HOME OR ON YOUR CELLPHONE TO REMIND YOU OF THE APPOINTMENT AND CHECK YOUR CALENDAR EVERY DAY AS A HABIT TO SEE IF YOU HAVE PROMISED TO SPEND YOUR TIME WITH SOMEONE THAT DAY.

TO DO TASKS WHICH ARE UNPLEASANT TO DO BUT HAVE TO BE DONE ON TIME WHEN THEY ARE SCHEDULED START ON THEM AS SOON AS POSSIBLE AND DON’T PROCRASTINATE OR WASTE TIME DOING SOMETHING UNIMPORTANT BUT PLEASURABLE IN YOUR LIFE.

THIS WILL REQUIRE A LOT OF SELFDISCIPLINE BECAUSE IT IS NATURAL FOR SOMEONE TO WANT TO AVOID UNPLESANT EXPERIENCES.

BEING LATE ON A JOB TASK WHICH IS UNPLEASANT TO DO OR DOING UNPLEASANT HOMEWORK AND PROCRASTINATING IS AN ETERNAL STRUGGLE WITH YOUR EMOTIONS WHICH DON’T WANT TO DO AN UNPLEASANT TASK. 

START DEVELOPING A PHILOSOHY OF LIFE WHICH IS NOT “ I WILL DO ONLY WHAT FEELS GOOD” BUT “I WILL DO EVERYTHING WHICH IS IMPORTANT IN MY LIFE WHETHER OR NOT I ENJOY DOING IT”.

MOTIVATING YOURSELF TO COURAGEOUSLY AND RESPONSIBLY HANDLE THE HARDSHIPS IN YOUR LIFE WHICH HAVE A HIGH PRIORITY IS DIFFICULT BUT REALISTICALLY IT IS YOUR JOB TO DO THE UNPLEASANT THINGS IN YOUR LIFE AND ACCEPT THE BAD AS WELL AS THE GOOD AND DO BOTH IN A RESPONSIBLE WAY.

REMEMBER THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A GOOD EXCUSE OR A SMART EXCUSE TO JUSTIFY YOUR IRRESPONSIBILITY OR DESIRE NOT TO FULLFIL YOUR DUTIES IN LIFE.

“I DIDN’T SHOW UP AT WORK BECAUSE I WAS OUT WITH A CLIENT PLAYING GOLF” IS NOT A SMART EXCUSE. IF YOU REALLY WERE A GOOD BUSINESSMAN OR WOMAN YOU WOULD NOT HAVE TO TRY AND MAKE A SALE BASED ON FRIENDSHIP AND GETTING FAVORABLE PURCHASES FROM A CLIENT BECAUSE HE HAS BECOME A GOOD BUDDY OF YOURS.

YOUR PRODUCT OR SERVICE SHOULD SELL ITSELF BASED ON ITS MERITS OR QUALITY AND FRIENDSHIP HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH AN EFFICIENT PROFITABLE BUSINESS TRANSACTION.

WHILE IT IS TRUE THAT FOR UPPER MANAGEMENT MAKING FRIENDS WITH OTHER BUSINESS LEADERS AND CREATING A GOOD CONTACT NETWORK IS IMPORTANT ONLY CLOSE FRIENDS SHOULD BE INVITED TO PLAY GOLF WITH YOU AND IF THAT CLOSE FRIEND IS ALSO A GOOD CLIENT OF YOURS THEN YOU COULD JUSTIFY PLAYING GOLF WITH HIM OR HER.

“WHY DON’T YOU EXERCISE?” AND THE EXCUSES GIVEN ARE “I DON’T HAVE THE TIME AND IT IS BORING AND I AM TOO TIRED TO MOVE AND I ALWAYS END UP QUITING AND I DON’T GET A BREAK FROM THE OFFSPRING AND I’M TOO OLD AND I’M TOO FAT AND I’M THIN ALREADY AND I’M NOT A GYM RAT AND I HAVE ARTHRITIS OR MY BACK HURTS”

EXERCISE CAN BE BORING IF YOU DON’T HAVE SOMEONE TO MOTIVATE YOU BY JOINING IN BUT ALL THE OTHER EXCUSES ARE NOT NECESSARY.

THE TRUTH IS THAT EXERCISE IN YOUR YOUTH AND MIDDLE AGE IS NOT REALLY NECESSARY IF YOU ARE NOT STRESSED ON THE JOB AND NEED EXERCISE AS ONE MEANS OF TAKING YOUR MIND OFF YOUR WORK FOR A PAUSE WHICH CAN REFRESH YOU.

WHEN YOUR JOINT MUSCLES START GETTING STIFF IN OLD AGE THAT IS THE TIME WHEN YOU SHOULD START THINKING ABOUT A LITTLE EXERCISE SO YOUR MUSCLES DON’T DETERIORATE AS FAST AS THEY WOULD LIKE TO DO.

IF YOU FEEL NO PAIN OR STIFFNESS THERE REALLY IS NO NEED TO EXERCISE YOUR BODY ON A REGULAR BASIS. LIVING LIFE AND DOING THINGS AND GOING PLACES IS ENOUGH EXERCISE FOR MOST OF US.

IF YOU ARE FAT EXERCISE IS NOT THE REASON YOU ARE FAT AND EXERCISE WILL NOT HELP YOU SLIM DOWN BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO CHANGE TO EATING A HEALTHY DIET TO LOSE WEIGHT AND EXERCISING WILL ONLY INCREASE YOUR APPETITE AND MAKE YOU EAT MORE FOOD WITH MORE CALORIES AND THAT IS NOT THE MESSAGE THAT YOU WANT TO BE SENDING YOUR BODY.

IF YOU ARE FAT AND ARE EATING RIGHT YOU WERE BORN THAT WAY AND THERE IS NO REASON YOU SHOULD STRUGGLE AGAINST MOTHER NATURE UNLESS YOUR JOB IS ON THE LINE AND YOU ARE AN IMPORTANT CELEBRITY IN THE PUBLIC EYE.

THEN MAYBE YOU NEED TO SLIM DOWN A LITTLE AND LOSE SOME WEIGHT BY STARVING YOURSELF ALL THE TIME AND FEELING MISERABLE ABOUT IT ON A DAILY BASIS.

SOME PROCRASTINATION EXCUSES ARE “I REALLY DON’T NEED TO DO IT NOW AND I’LL START AFTER I DO THE DISHES OR I’LL CLEAN MY DESK OR MAKE ONE LAST PHONE CALL AND IT’S REALLY NOT THAT IMPORTANT AND I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH INFORMATION AND I’M TOO BUSY AND IT’S NOT THE RIGHT TIME AND SOMETHING CAME UP”. FOR THE COMMON MAN OR WOMAN ALL THOSE EXCUSES ARE BS AND IT ONLY SHOWS THAT YOU ARE TRYING TO AVOID DOING WHAT IS IMPORTANT AND MUST BE DONE RIGHT AWAY OR AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.

FOR YOUR AMUSEMENT I HAVE INCLUDED 13 EXCUSES FOR NOT HAVING SEX

1. “Head colds kill my libido.”

2. “But I just made the bed.”

3. “It’s raining out and I need to wake up early tomorrow.”

4. “I just took a shower and I don’t want to get sweaty again.”

5. “I ate too much dairy today.”

6. “My spirit animal doesn’t feel sexy right now.”

7. “I’m too cold.”

8. “I haven’t shaved my legs in a really long time.”

9. “I’m wearing a baggy night shirt and I feel like my mom.”

10. “I just read a really sad essay on Slate.”

11. “I’m soooo sleepy.”

12. “I forgot to take my birth control.”

13. “I have my period.”

THERE ARE TWO VERY IMPORTANT PRIORITIES IN YOUR LIFE

1.     BE ON TIME FOR YOUR ALL YOUR APPOINTMENTS AND SHOW UP ON TIME AT WORK BECAUSE IF YOU DON’T YOU ARE WASTING OR STEALING SOMEONES TIME AND ENERGY AND MONEY AND NO ONE INCLUDING YOURSELF WANTS TO BE STOLEN FROM!!!!!!

 

2.     WORK HARD AND AS CONSCIENTIOUSLY AS POSSIBLE AT THE JOB WHICH YOU NOW HAVE EVEN IF YOU HATE IT AND HATE YOUR BOSS AND THE PEOPLE YOU ARE WORKING WITH. TRY TO STAY EMPLOYED FOR AT LEAST 4 OR 6 MONTHS SO THAT YOU HAVE TIME TO LOOK FOR A NEW JOB WHILE EMPLOYED AND DON’T DEVELOP A REPUTATION OF BEING A BAD WORKER IF A FUTURE EMPLOYER LOOKS INTO YOUR JOB RECORD AND GETS POOR REFERENCES ABOUT YOUR JOB PERFORMANCE!!!!!!