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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1349!!!

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1320!!!

 

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18 IMPORTANT QUESTIONS TO ASK A POTENTIAL FRIEND!!!

When first meeting someone it is wise not to ask very personal questions but to be very general in the questions which you ask to determine whether he or she may make a good friend or even a potential mate. It is important to find out quickly whether you have some mutual interests upon which you can build a further relationship.

What kind of work do you do?

Are you married?

Do you have children?

Do you have any hobbies?

What do you do in your spare time?

Where do you live?

If you do find out that you have some things in common then you can continue to ask more detailed questions.

How long have you worked at your current job?

Are you happy with your job?

Do you intend to move up the ladder or will you be switching companies?

Where do you think you’ll be ten years from today?

What will you be doing in your retirement?

What do you like the most?

What do you hate the most?

What do you get angry about the most?

What do you do for entertainment?

Do you follow any sports?

If you could live your life over what would you change?

What characteristic do you most admire in others?

Once you have asked these questions and any others which popped up during the conversation you can further ask more intimate questions about family and friends and specifically what the spouse or friends do for a living. After asking the 18 or more questions you will be in a pretty good position to know if you have enough mutual interests to pursue the relationship or to merely categorize it as a casual acquaintance or relationship.

18 QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!

The two most important priorities in marriage are finances and offspring. It is very smart to make sure that you are on the same page on these two topics and have similar views on spending money or perhaps even saving some. Six questions you should ask are-

How much money should we both be making before having children?

Will we have enough money saved to take care of childcare when we have a newborn or will just one of us be working for a while?

About how many offspring would you like to raise or support?

If we won $10,000 how would you spend it?

How long do you think you will be working at your current job before you either get promoted or move on to a better job elsewhere?

What kind of work do you think you will be doing ten years from now?

 

4 important questions to ask relate to fidelity and promiscuity which is a very important subject to discuss because next to finances adultery is the second major cause for divorce in what is turning out to be a relatively hedonous western society with an overemphasis on sex and the pursuit of pleasure.

Beware, because old bad habits are hard to break or eliminate and if your future spouse has a history of great promiscuity then the chances are great that promiscuity will continue in the future too after marriage. Another important area to probe is a possible addiction to pornography and possible kinky sexual turn-ons which should be discussed prior to marriage to see whether they may handicap a consensual sexual relationship.

Are you monogamous?

What do you consider cheating in marriage?

About how many women or men have you slept with before you met me?

What turns you on sexually?

 

Housework can be a source for many arguments and you should determine whose responsibility it will be beforehand or whether you will be sharing the load and be assigned tasks to do such as cleaning, doing laundry, meal preparation, doing the dishes, taking out the garbage, yardwork, gardening, etc. Hopefully you won’t get into an argument about this is women’s work or this is man’s work because routine work is work no matter who does it.

Who will be responsible for the housework or will we be sharing it and how?

 

In-laws can be a major source for marital disagreement especially if some of them want to get involved in your marriage. Even worse is if they decide that they want to run it for you and are always critical of one spouse and take sides in marital disagreements. It is important to get a ball park idea on how important parents and in-laws will be in a marriage, especially if they are overly critical, combative, and don’t get along well with either spouse.

How involved will we get in supporting your parents in retirement years?

What role will your family play in our marriage?

What will you do if I get into a fight with your family?

 

What is also important is finding out how much of an introvert or extrovert your potential spouse is. You may find a very reclusive spouse unsettling and may start complaining about being ignored. On the other hand an extreme extrovert may spend too much time with other humans and once again you may begin to feel ignored. In either case, try to find out if you are going to have to deal with an extreme introvert or an extreme extrovert which may be disruptive to marital life.

How much space or time for yourself do you need?

What things do you enjoy doing by yourself?

 

Many of us just live from day to day without consciously planning or thinking about the future in any significant way. Some of us do have long duration goals so it is important to know how marriage will affect those goals.

What is your goal or purpose in life and how do you envision a partner fitting into it?

 

Finally, compatibility is often a function of similar likes and loves so it is important to find out in some detail what your potential spouse loves, hates, likes, and dislikes. If you find out that your morality is different or that you have radically different views on raising offspring then this can become a major source of arguments, disagreements, and unnecessary turmoil.

What do you love and hate the most and what do you like and dislike?

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THE PROBABLE IMPACT OF LEGALIZING DRUGS IN A HEDONISTIC SOCIETY!!!

There is some scientific evidence to suggest that if your life is going along relatively smoothly with physical health, a moral outlook, a useful education, a few good friends, good social interaction, a good paying job, financial responsibility, a happy marriage, and generally a feeling that you are contributing to society in some meaningful way that the probability that you will need or do drugs is minimal. Basically if you are moral, eat healthy, have drug free good friends, and are gainfully employed then you will seldom have a serious drug habit.

But seriously ask yourself whether society or any social program can offer equal opportunity to achieve such desirable happiness or circumstances once you have fallen through the cracks and become a habitual drug user? To gain desirable circumstances requires time, effort, sacrifice, achievement, optimization of ability, money, a moral family, and a useful educational background. Just do what feels good or follow your passion will definitely not work under most circumstances. Life is not fair for most and those are the humans more prone to drug use.

On the other hand if you are in bad physical health, don’t have a moral family, have dysfunctional friends who gamble, are promiscuous, and are financially unstable then you are in danger. If you are bad at social interaction, are badly educated, depressed, have a lousy job or no job at all, are unhappily married or not married at all, and feel that you are contributing nothing to society then drugs can be a very tempting escape mechanism to try and feel good for a change.

Increasingly western society is being filled with dysfunctional individuals isolated from wholesome human contact who do drugs to try and escape their desperate isolated or confusing lives. Others socialize with dysfunctional hedonistic friends who are lousy role models to imitate. When teenage and adult peer pressure is hedonistic then it is just a question of time before you crash and burn and potentially ruin your life and whatever future you still have ahead of you.

A society filled with rehab centers is not a very stable society and the more drugs that are legalized the greater will be the percentage of humans using them on a regular basis which many now still call an addiction problem. The opiod crisis is just the tip of the legal and illegal iceberg and legalizing all drugs as in Portugal will unfortunately eventually result in a large percentage of the largely hedonistic drug taking population being bad contributing members to society.

Maybe eventually an unhappy dysfunctional human workforce will largely be replaced with dependable, trustworthy, competent robots. What may then happen is that most of the population will be strung out on mind altering drugs most of the time and on government welfare. There is an old saying which still applies in modern times even though you don’t have to believe in devils. “Idle minds and hands are the devil’s workshop”. Simply put, if you have nothing useful to do in life then you will probably get yourself into trouble personally and socially.

If drugs are legalized then there will be more children, students, nannies, teachers,  vocational and professional workers in responsible positions strung out on drugs and making the workforce more dangerous and inefficient than it already is. Can any nation with legalized drugs survive and be powerful, respected, and morally functional in other than a third world status? I highly doubt that this is possible.

I hope the crisis never becomes so acute that drug pushers or dealers will have to be executed but that may be the only sane alternative to continuing to do nothing constructive and gradually letting the nation slide into a mind altering drug haze both legal and illegal.

If there is a moral to be gleaned from history it is- “don’t become a hedonistic individual and participate in a hedonistic society”. Hedonistic individuals and societies don’t last long.

Hedonistic: adj. pursuing excessive pleasure

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PROS AND CONS OF SOCIAL MEDIA!!!

Pros:

You can network with humans worldwide

You can intimately communicate with close friends and family

You can network with professionals on Linkedin

You can share hobbies and good internet websites

You can minimize TV watching

Cons:

The information can be overwhelming

It is hard to exclude false content

Not good for group discussions

It can become an addictive timewaster

You can become a victim of bullying, sexual abuse, and profanity

You can become a victim of insults, put downs, name calling, ridicule, and humiliation

Personal fitness and family time together may suffer

Privacy issues

You can easily fall prey to quantity not quality communications

You can become a victim of too many ads

 

Social media is a potentially powerful tool which if used judiciously can make and maintain good social contacts and reveal some useful information. Used poorly the addictive tool can become a time waster and take valuable time away from other daily useful pursuits. If you judiciously prioritize the humans that you interact with and schedule your time well then social media can be a great asset in your life.

Pros:

Networking with humans worldwide is a great advantage if you travel much or want to maintain professional contacts worldwide in your field of expertise. Cheap communications over the internet are very alluring and you don’t have to pay high rates for international communication.

You can easily and cheaply keep in touch with close friends and family members nationally by choosing either Facebook or Instagram. You can use one website exclusively for casual contacts and many “friends” which you only view once in a while. Use another website where you more frequently stay in touch with close friends and family. Separating your close contacts with more remote ones is a good idea so you don’t mix important contacts with rather unimportant ones.

Linkedin is an important website for networking with professional contacts and then you can switch to personal emails if you want the communications to be more intimate or private.

You can network with humans who have similar hobbies or pastimes and share your passion. Getting hints from others about good websites for your important interests can supplement your initial Google or search engine results.

Social media and the internet in general will probably minimize your need to watch TV. You won’t be wasting your time on rather trivial pursuits if you so desire.

Cons:

Social media can become overwhelming, especially if you are young, get addicted, and are not very selective in the humans that you interact with. Keeping track of a hundred or more friends or acquaintances can be mind boggling. Intensively communicating with a handful of friends can consume an incredible amount of time and be overwhelming. Too much social media can adversely affect your schoolwork, job performance, and offline human communications ability.

If you are heavily involved in politics a recent phenomenon is fake news and it is increasingly becoming harder and harder to tell whether a news report is reliable or possibly misinformation and false. If it is not a reputable source then there is always the possibility of unreliable or false information. A lie like a rumor can quickly spread through social media before you realize what the real truth is. The internet in general is increasingly being plagued with fraudulent activity in the form of scam websites, scams, and bad information in general.

Social media is also not very useful for group discussions so special software may have to be installed to get a group to communicate with each other simultaneously.

Social media can become addictive just like texting so become concerned and start cutting back if you are spending more than two hours daily communicating with others.

Especially young children can become victims of bullying, sexual abuse, and profanity. Further they may be insulted, put down, name called, ridiculed, and humiliated on social media by others. If you become a victim of abuse on social media then it can have some devastating psychological impacts on your mind and behavior. If you are not a fully developed personality incapable of turning off personal assaults then you may become depressed, miserable, or constantly involved in dysfunctional communications.

Too much social media can have negative impacts on your physical fitness and take away from valuable time spent with family. Becoming physically unfit and becoming unable to successfully communicate with family members is something which should be avoided at all costs.

Privacy issues are important because anything on social media is essentially a public communication. Potential employers may view your social media presence and make decisions about hiring based on what kind of friends you have and how much unfavorable information you may have revealed to the world about yourself. A social media presence which shows that you use profanity frequently, are promiscuous, and have friends with bad behavior or criminal records will doom you for any future employment. A delinquent childhood may doom a successful career as an adult in the working world.

The major drawback to social media is that you often can’t discriminate between quality vs. quantity interactions. You may quantitatively communicate much but the quality of your communications may be very bad or mostly trivial useless communications. Essentially you may be wasting your time, energy, and even money on social media and not bettering your life in any significant way.

Most social media is interested in making some money off of you. This often means that you will be deluged with ads for information, goods, and services which may make you buy things which you really don’t need and not only waste your time but also your money too.

Conclusion:

Social media is a tool which when used efficiently can help you to maintain contact with important humans in your life and become the source for interesting information and communication. Used inefficiently, social media can become a waster of your time, energy, and eventually money. So learn to use social media wisely and avoid all the pitfalls or cons which are a great temptation and can lead to addictive misery and failure in life.

Social media is a useful technological tool. Use it wisely by prioritizing your contacts, time and energy spent and you will greatly benefit. Use it unwisely and it can become quicksand which will slowly drown you in a sea of overwhelming addictive mostly trivial information.

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