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A HAPPY ENDURING MALE FEMALE FAMILY LIFE IS QUICKLY BECOMING SCARCE IN THE UNITED STATES!!!

Portrait of a extended happy family standing in the park.

Responsible financial living, a commonly held morality, and good family role models are the most important indicators of a potentially happy lasting two parent marriage.

Financially about half of Americans get some form of welfare money assistance, many college graduates are badly prepared with inadequate job skills and are burdened with great money debt when they graduate, a large percentage of families are living paycheck to paycheck or are in great personal money debt, and often rich offspring used to an easy dependent life know how to spend money but are not financially smart enough to function on a budget and make more than they spend.

Credit cards, inflation and paltry interest on savings accounts discourages savings for a rainy day, and advertising encourages profligate spending making many teeter on the border of bankruptcy during most of their adult lives. They don’t know how to invest in a secure investment which is not a very risky one. In effect, most Americans are ignorant of sound money management principles and don’t know what to do with their money except spend it. Frugal money management which makes a nation prosperous and secure is discouraged in almost every part of society and is not even taught in most schools.

A commonly held morality is very important. Not lying, not stealing, and no adultery are vital to moral family living.  Not only is lying and stealing bad because it breaks the bonding trust between humans but adultery and promiscuity often also leads to divorce and ending of a close mother father bonding relationship. If you can’t trust your spouse in a society which encourages much temptation and promiscuity then no lasting enduring and committed relationship is often possible in your private family sex life.

Good wholesome family male female role models are also necessary because most offspring learn by imitation or observance of how their parents interact. Single mother or single father families on welfare and elsewhere are bad male female family role models and makes it much less probable for offspring to have happy wholesome two parent families themselves. Divorced family life is also a killer of happy family relationships for offspring who don’t understand that a happy marriage can also be for a lifetime between male and female if you put in the right kind of effort.

Offspring from single parent homes and divorced homes are also bad child role models in school and in the neighborhood so not only parent role models are often bad but offspring role models are also frequently bad examples of what happy moral offspring should be. Add to this the almost total absence of wholesome role model families with offspring among celebrities, in soap operas, movies, TV, and videos and there is a dearth of good wholesome media family role models to imitate. Realistically, family life is just not one continuous form of entertainment which society pushes on us but a serious financially, morally responsible lifestyle which fewer and fewer experience first hand and end up imitating later in life.

Is it any wonder that the birth rate is the lowest it has ever been. Family life is an expensive lifestyle which requires much sacrifice of time, effort, and money per offspring which fewer and fewer Americans are willing to commit to. They not only don’t have enough money but often they don’t even have basic relationship and parenting skills necessary to be financially and morally responsible adults and raise financially and morally responsible offspring into adulthood. So a happy long lasting family life is fast becoming relatively scarce in the United States.

Add to this pessimistic family situation an abundance of very bad habits such as addictions to alcohol, drugs, gambling, pornography, promiscuity, profanity, compulsive shopping, etc. and you have a recipe for family and personal chronic dysfunctions. America is a sick society not only health wise with about 50% taking prescription drugs within a 30 day period but also sick financially, morally, politically, and behaviorally. I see no great immediate cure for all the human relationship problems which confront America. America has gotten much worse than just being a fat lazy ignorant society and desperately needs immigrant families willing to work hard and smart and raise responsible moral offspring.

Yes, I am a long duration optimist and see smart moral robot parents and software as human kind’s salvation. But that is not happening any time soon and society will have to descend into further chaos before smart robots or a moral human political tyranny takes over and returns society to some semblance of order and healthy wholesome two parent family living.

You can get cynical and claim that bad family life is the antidote to human overpopulation of the earth. Even though there is some truth to this fact, stable family relationships create social stability which is desirable in any prospering financially and morally sound nation.

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1398!!!

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1349!!!

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1320!!!

 

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18 IMPORTANT QUESTIONS TO ASK A POTENTIAL FRIEND!!!

When first meeting someone it is wise not to ask very personal questions but to be very general in the questions which you ask to determine whether he or she may make a good friend or even a potential mate. It is important to find out quickly whether you have some mutual interests upon which you can build a further relationship.

What kind of work do you do?

Are you married?

Do you have children?

Do you have any hobbies?

What do you do in your spare time?

Where do you live?

If you do find out that you have some things in common then you can continue to ask more detailed questions.

How long have you worked at your current job?

Are you happy with your job?

Do you intend to move up the ladder or will you be switching companies?

Where do you think you’ll be ten years from today?

What will you be doing in your retirement?

What do you like the most?

What do you hate the most?

What do you get angry about the most?

What do you do for entertainment?

Do you follow any sports?

If you could live your life over what would you change?

What characteristic do you most admire in others?

Once you have asked these questions and any others which popped up during the conversation you can further ask more intimate questions about family and friends and specifically what the spouse or friends do for a living. After asking the 18 or more questions you will be in a pretty good position to know if you have enough mutual interests to pursue the relationship or to merely categorize it as a casual acquaintance or relationship.

18 QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!

The two most important priorities in marriage are finances and offspring. It is very smart to make sure that you are on the same page on these two topics and have similar views on spending money or perhaps even saving some. Six questions you should ask are-

How much money should we both be making before having children?

Will we have enough money saved to take care of childcare when we have a newborn or will just one of us be working for a while?

About how many offspring would you like to raise or support?

If we won $10,000 how would you spend it?

How long do you think you will be working at your current job before you either get promoted or move on to a better job elsewhere?

What kind of work do you think you will be doing ten years from now?

 

4 important questions to ask relate to fidelity and promiscuity which is a very important subject to discuss because next to finances adultery is the second major cause for divorce in what is turning out to be a relatively hedonous western society with an overemphasis on sex and the pursuit of pleasure.

Beware, because old bad habits are hard to break or eliminate and if your future spouse has a history of great promiscuity then the chances are great that promiscuity will continue in the future too after marriage. Another important area to probe is a possible addiction to pornography and possible kinky sexual turn-ons which should be discussed prior to marriage to see whether they may handicap a consensual sexual relationship.

Are you monogamous?

What do you consider cheating in marriage?

About how many women or men have you slept with before you met me?

What turns you on sexually?

 

Housework can be a source for many arguments and you should determine whose responsibility it will be beforehand or whether you will be sharing the load and be assigned tasks to do such as cleaning, doing laundry, meal preparation, doing the dishes, taking out the garbage, yardwork, gardening, etc. Hopefully you won’t get into an argument about this is women’s work or this is man’s work because routine work is work no matter who does it.

Who will be responsible for the housework or will we be sharing it and how?

 

In-laws can be a major source for marital disagreement especially if some of them want to get involved in your marriage. Even worse is if they decide that they want to run it for you and are always critical of one spouse and take sides in marital disagreements. It is important to get a ball park idea on how important parents and in-laws will be in a marriage, especially if they are overly critical, combative, and don’t get along well with either spouse.

How involved will we get in supporting your parents in retirement years?

What role will your family play in our marriage?

What will you do if I get into a fight with your family?

 

What is also important is finding out how much of an introvert or extrovert your potential spouse is. You may find a very reclusive spouse unsettling and may start complaining about being ignored. On the other hand an extreme extrovert may spend too much time with other humans and once again you may begin to feel ignored. In either case, try to find out if you are going to have to deal with an extreme introvert or an extreme extrovert which may be disruptive to marital life.

How much space or time for yourself do you need?

What things do you enjoy doing by yourself?

 

Many of us just live from day to day without consciously planning or thinking about the future in any significant way. Some of us do have long duration goals so it is important to know how marriage will affect those goals.

What is your goal or purpose in life and how do you envision a partner fitting into it?

 

Finally, compatibility is often a function of similar likes and loves so it is important to find out in some detail what your potential spouse loves, hates, likes, and dislikes. If you find out that your morality is different or that you have radically different views on raising offspring then this can become a major source of arguments, disagreements, and unnecessary turmoil.

What do you love and hate the most and what do you like and dislike?

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