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The article found by Googling 69 tips which are attractive to women is very comprehensive but is not designed for only responsible male female relationships. Yes, these tips are mostly for gigolo type males who are not really interested in settling down which is what most women want to eventually do. You can use these tips to lead a promiscuous life but sooner or later a family is really one of the main purposes in a heterosexual relationship.
If you want a family and a good female mate then these 12 tips are the most important ones to consider.
Having money:
Almost every woman wants the security of not having to worry too much about money matters and hopes to one day be able to afford some of the nicer things or conveniences in life such as a nice home, good neighborhood, eating out, some travel, etc.
Having a good or powerful job:
Many smart women are status conscious to some extent and want to feel some pride in their husbands so it helps if you have a good paying job or are a powerful CEO of a corporation.
Being moral with integrity:
If you are habitually honest and morally sound or have integrity then chances are you will not commit adultery or cheat on your spouse.
Being trustworthy:
Having integrity, dependability, and an earned good reputation usually means that you can be trusted and trust is an essential value to have in any close relationship, especially a marital one. Lie more than a few times about important things and the relationship will end or be incredibly dysfunctional.
Being competent:
Being competent at a job is a necessity but competence also extends to parenting and social relationships.
Being ambitious with a purpose in life that includes offspring and other mutual benefits:
Having future laudable goals such as offspring, a better job, a bucket list of things to do at least once in life, and motivating and supporting your spouse in her laudable ambitions is very important in a long duration relationship.
Having optimistic confidence:
If you are optimistically confident then chances are you are leading a relatively happy life and happiness and optimism is contagious.
Being open to new learning experiences:
Few things are more tragic than a stagnating relationship where neither partner is improving in some way through selfeducation or exposure to new useful experiences.
Being vulnerable or having a realistic appraisal of one’s weakness or imperfections:
No one is perfect and if you admit to some of your drawbacks then you become more real or more endearing to a woman.
Being healthy and attractive:
First impressions are important and if you radiate health, dress well, and have good hygiene then it is a definite plus.
Having emotional control:
Being high strung, too emotional, or being too argumentative are not good traits to have as a male or female.
Being a good conversationalist and expressing true interest in what interests your potential mate and motivating her to pursue those interests further is a big plus.
Interest wanes if a couple can’t have a good conversation about likes and dislikes, about daily experiences, short and long term goals, and wholesome conversations about family, friends, and the experiences of others.
Conclusion:
In a nutshell- If you have integrity, are dependable, trustworthy, have money, are competent, confident, friendly, like children, and are a good conversationalist then you are more likely to attract a smart attractive woman.
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Why do humans have sex?
The two primary reason humans have sex is that it is usually pleasurable and some want to reproduce or have children. Yes, things like a dry vagina and sexually transmitted diseases such as herpes and chlamydia can cause painful sex and cause sterility in females so unprotected sex with strangers can be devastating on occasion. Some females or males who can’t reproduce the natural way sometimes have to undergo in vitro fertilization or wind up adopting children.
Some women don’t enjoy sex that much because there is inadequate clitoral stimulation before and during sex or the husband may suffer from premature ejaculation. In these unfortunate instances the wives usually have sex mostly because their husbands want it and it keeps peace in the family.
What is human sex?
For normal natural human sex usually there is some sexual foreplay followed by thrusts of the penis within the vagina. Then there is deviant sex or kinky sex where there is anal penetration by the penis, cock sucking, slapping, hitting, or pinching, licking of the labia, use of dildos, penis desensitizer salves, etc. Frankly this is usually done by humans who are getting a little bored with regular or standard copulation and foreplay which is just mostly kissing, hugging, stroking or petting, and endearing words.
Who has sex?
While normal sex is usually between a male and female there are deviant forms of sex which include same sex partners, threesomes, and the ultimate deviance or an orgy which is really group sex. There is also sex with children or pedophilia which is illegal in most countries and further sexual deviance such as bestiality which is sex with an animal. Some who don’t have a sexual partner or want a more attractive one pay for sex with prostitutes who are usually female but can also be male. Masterbation, pornography, and sex robots are for those who want sex without a live partner and usually when no live partner is available.
Where is sex done?
Sex is done almost anywhere except in public although this has been tried also. Usually sex is performed at home in bed but there are many other neverending places such as in the shower, on the floor, in the car, in a boat, in a plane, underwater, on the beach, in the woods, in orbit, etc.
When is sex performed?
Just before bedtime is probably when sex is done more often but frankly you can have sex any time of day or night.
How much sex does one have?
There are sexual addicts who have to have sex many times a day but for most humans once a high frequency of sex with a new partner runs its course sex is a very individual thing and it can range from once a day to once a week or month. In old age, unless you are using erectile dysfunction medication, the sex may be once a year or none at all.
How do humans have sex?
Some perform sexual acts alone or masturbate and there are even sex robots who are your partners when real humans are not available. You can have sex alone or with more than one partner broadly stated as group sex. There are physical sexual aids such as dildos and bondage items for the deviant. Then there are sex enhancements which are sometimes drugs designed to enhance the pleasure of an orgasm or sexual act. There are desensitizers for the penis designed to prolong the ejaculation point. There are even sex swings to make sex thrusts easier to do.
Why is birth control so important?
Most couples can no longer afford big families so birth control is essential. A condom is smart but even here sexually transmitted diseases are still transmitted with relative ease if sex is performed before marriage with a diseased partner. Vasectomies can sometimes help in birth control after having enough offspring but mistakes can be made without a form of birth control and pregnancy can still happen so and abortion may be necessary if the unwanted offspring is not given over to adoption. Morning after pills which abort a fertilized egg are also good emergency forms of birth control if you get seriously drunk and realize you are probably pregnant and don’t want a child.
The only unfortunate thing about birth control pills and uterine inserts is that they can impair fertility in the long duration so there is some danger in using artificial forms of birth control. I practiced coitus interruptus successfully without using a condom and succeeded in family planning of offspring.
Conclusion:
Sex is big business and all the promoted deviance and promiscuity is having a damaging effect on family life. Promiscuity can become a bad habit which marriage won’t cure. Traditional natural sex with natural foreplay such as stroking, petting, kissing, hugging, and endearing words is no longer considered adequate by many. Sexual standards have been set by society so high that many feel inadequate when performing sex primarily meant for successful reproduction in nature.
Nature considers prolonged sex an unnecessary luxury for reproduction so natural sex seldom lasts more than a couple of minutes. The result of unnatural pornographic artificially extended copulation has been an unhealthy unrealistic obsession with sex by too many which helps to handicap the social fabric and has a tendency to ruin family life with too many searching for the ideal sex partner. Too many males and females feel like inadequate sexual partners and fall for penis enlargement scams and quite a few females have silicon breast enlargement implants and cosmetic surgery.
Few understand that happy married life should often mean more than just great sex. If your sex is not that great adultery is almost never the answer. A financially responsible, trustworthy, loving and caring personality is often more important for a lasting marital relationship.
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Portrait of a extended happy family standing in the park.
Responsible financial living, a commonly held morality, and good family role models are the most important indicators of a potentially happy lasting two parent marriage.
Financially about half of Americans get some form of welfare money assistance, many college graduates are badly prepared with inadequate job skills and are burdened with great money debt when they graduate, a large percentage of families are living paycheck to paycheck or are in great personal money debt, and often rich offspring used to an easy dependent life know how to spend money but are not financially smart enough to function on a budget and make more than they spend.
Credit cards, inflation and paltry interest on savings accounts discourages savings for a rainy day, and advertising encourages profligate spending making many teeter on the border of bankruptcy during most of their adult lives. They don’t know how to invest in a secure investment which is not a very risky one. In effect, most Americans are ignorant of sound money management principles and don’t know what to do with their money except spend it. Frugal money management which makes a nation prosperous and secure is discouraged in almost every part of society and is not even taught in most schools.
A commonly held morality is very important. Not lying, not stealing, and no adultery are vital to moral family living. Not only is lying and stealing bad because it breaks the bonding trust between humans but adultery and promiscuity often also leads to divorce and ending of a close mother father bonding relationship. If you can’t trust your spouse in a society which encourages much temptation and promiscuity then no lasting enduring and committed relationship is often possible in your private family sex life.
Good wholesome family male female role models are also necessary because most offspring learn by imitation or observance of how their parents interact. Single mother or single father families on welfare and elsewhere are bad male female family role models and makes it much less probable for offspring to have happy wholesome two parent families themselves. Divorced family life is also a killer of happy family relationships for offspring who don’t understand that a happy marriage can also be for a lifetime between male and female if you put in the right kind of effort.
Offspring from single parent homes and divorced homes are also bad child role models in school and in the neighborhood so not only parent role models are often bad but offspring role models are also frequently bad examples of what happy moral offspring should be. Add to this the almost total absence of wholesome role model families with offspring among celebrities, in soap operas, movies, TV, and videos and there is a dearth of good wholesome media family role models to imitate. Realistically, family life is just not one continuous form of entertainment which society pushes on us but a serious financially, morally responsible lifestyle which fewer and fewer experience first hand and end up imitating later in life.
Is it any wonder that the birth rate is the lowest it has ever been. Family life is an expensive lifestyle which requires much sacrifice of time, effort, and money per offspring which fewer and fewer Americans are willing to commit to. They not only don’t have enough money but often they don’t even have basic relationship and parenting skills necessary to be financially and morally responsible adults and raise financially and morally responsible offspring into adulthood. So a happy long lasting family life is fast becoming relatively scarce in the United States.
Add to this pessimistic family situation an abundance of very bad habits such as addictions to alcohol, drugs, gambling, pornography, promiscuity, profanity, compulsive shopping, etc. and you have a recipe for family and personal chronic dysfunctions. America is a sick society not only health wise with about 50% taking prescription drugs within a 30 day period but also sick financially, morally, politically, and behaviorally. I see no great immediate cure for all the human relationship problems which confront America. America has gotten much worse than just being a fat lazy ignorant society and desperately needs immigrant families willing to work hard and smart and raise responsible moral offspring.
Yes, I am a long duration optimist and see smart moral robot parents and software as human kind’s salvation. But that is not happening any time soon and society will have to descend into further chaos before smart robots or a moral human political tyranny takes over and returns society to some semblance of order and healthy wholesome two parent family living.
You can get cynical and claim that bad family life is the antidote to human overpopulation of the earth. Even though there is some truth to this fact, stable family relationships create social stability which is desirable in any prospering financially and morally sound nation.
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When first meeting someone it is wise not to ask very personal questions but to be very general in the questions which you ask to determine whether he or she may make a good friend or even a potential mate. It is important to find out quickly whether you have some mutual interests upon which you can build a further relationship.
What kind of work do you do?
Are you married?
Do you have children?
Do you have any hobbies?
What do you do in your spare time?
Where do you live?
If you do find out that you have some things in common then you can continue to ask more detailed questions.
How long have you worked at your current job?
Are you happy with your job?
Do you intend to move up the ladder or will you be switching companies?
Where do you think you’ll be ten years from today?
What will you be doing in your retirement?
What do you like the most?
What do you hate the most?
What do you get angry about the most?
What do you do for entertainment?
Do you follow any sports?
If you could live your life over what would you change?
What characteristic do you most admire in others?
Once you have asked these questions and any others which popped up during the conversation you can further ask more intimate questions about family and friends and specifically what the spouse or friends do for a living. After asking the 18 or more questions you will be in a pretty good position to know if you have enough mutual interests to pursue the relationship or to merely categorize it as a casual acquaintance or relationship.
The two most important priorities in marriage are finances and offspring. It is very smart to make sure that you are on the same page on these two topics and have similar views on spending money or perhaps even saving some. Six questions you should ask are-
How much money should we both be making before having children?
Will we have enough money saved to take care of childcare when we have a newborn or will just one of us be working for a while?
About how many offspring would you like to raise or support?
If we won $10,000 how would you spend it?
How long do you think you will be working at your current job before you either get promoted or move on to a better job elsewhere?
What kind of work do you think you will be doing ten years from now?
4 important questions to ask relate to fidelity and promiscuity which is a very important subject to discuss because next to finances adultery is the second major cause for divorce in what is turning out to be a relatively hedonous western society with an overemphasis on sex and the pursuit of pleasure.
Beware, because old bad habits are hard to break or eliminate and if your future spouse has a history of great promiscuity then the chances are great that promiscuity will continue in the future too after marriage. Another important area to probe is a possible addiction to pornography and possible kinky sexual turn-ons which should be discussed prior to marriage to see whether they may handicap a consensual sexual relationship.
Are you monogamous?
What do you consider cheating in marriage?
About how many women or men have you slept with before you met me?
What turns you on sexually?
Housework can be a source for many arguments and you should determine whose responsibility it will be beforehand or whether you will be sharing the load and be assigned tasks to do such as cleaning, doing laundry, meal preparation, doing the dishes, taking out the garbage, yardwork, gardening, etc. Hopefully you won’t get into an argument about this is women’s work or this is man’s work because routine work is work no matter who does it.
Who will be responsible for the housework or will we be sharing it and how?
In-laws can be a major source for marital disagreement especially if some of them want to get involved in your marriage. Even worse is if they decide that they want to run it for you and are always critical of one spouse and take sides in marital disagreements. It is important to get a ball park idea on how important parents and in-laws will be in a marriage, especially if they are overly critical, combative, and don’t get along well with either spouse.
How involved will we get in supporting your parents in retirement years?
What role will your family play in our marriage?
What will you do if I get into a fight with your family?
What is also important is finding out how much of an introvert or extrovert your potential spouse is. You may find a very reclusive spouse unsettling and may start complaining about being ignored. On the other hand an extreme extrovert may spend too much time with other humans and once again you may begin to feel ignored. In either case, try to find out if you are going to have to deal with an extreme introvert or an extreme extrovert which may be disruptive to marital life.
How much space or time for yourself do you need?
What things do you enjoy doing by yourself?
Many of us just live from day to day without consciously planning or thinking about the future in any significant way. Some of us do have long duration goals so it is important to know how marriage will affect those goals.
What is your goal or purpose in life and how do you envision a partner fitting into it?
Finally, compatibility is often a function of similar likes and loves so it is important to find out in some detail what your potential spouse loves, hates, likes, and dislikes. If you find out that your morality is different or that you have radically different views on raising offspring then this can become a major source of arguments, disagreements, and unnecessary turmoil.
What do you love and hate the most and what do you like and dislike?
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There is some scientific evidence to suggest that if your life is going along relatively smoothly with physical health, a moral outlook, a useful education, a few good friends, good social interaction, a good paying job, financial responsibility, a happy marriage, and generally a feeling that you are contributing to society in some meaningful way that the probability that you will need or do drugs is minimal. Basically if you are moral, eat healthy, have drug free good friends, and are gainfully employed then you will seldom have a serious drug habit.
But seriously ask yourself whether society or any social program can offer equal opportunity to achieve such desirable happiness or circumstances once you have fallen through the cracks and become a habitual drug user? To gain desirable circumstances requires time, effort, sacrifice, achievement, optimization of ability, money, a moral family, and a useful educational background. Just do what feels good or follow your passion will definitely not work under most circumstances. Life is not fair for most and those are the humans more prone to drug use.
On the other hand if you are in bad physical health, don’t have a moral family, have dysfunctional friends who gamble, are promiscuous, and are financially unstable then you are in danger. If you are bad at social interaction, are badly educated, depressed, have a lousy job or no job at all, are unhappily married or not married at all, and feel that you are contributing nothing to society then drugs can be a very tempting escape mechanism to try and feel good for a change.
Increasingly western society is being filled with dysfunctional individuals isolated from wholesome human contact who do drugs to try and escape their desperate isolated or confusing lives. Others socialize with dysfunctional hedonistic friends who are lousy role models to imitate. When teenage and adult peer pressure is hedonistic then it is just a question of time before you crash and burn and potentially ruin your life and whatever future you still have ahead of you.
A society filled with rehab centers is not a very stable society and the more drugs that are legalized the greater will be the percentage of humans using them on a regular basis which many now still call an addiction problem. The opiod crisis is just the tip of the legal and illegal iceberg and legalizing all drugs as in Portugal will unfortunately eventually result in a large percentage of the largely hedonistic drug taking population being bad contributing members to society.
Maybe eventually an unhappy dysfunctional human workforce will largely be replaced with dependable, trustworthy, competent robots. What may then happen is that most of the population will be strung out on mind altering drugs most of the time and on government welfare. There is an old saying which still applies in modern times even though you don’t have to believe in devils. “Idle minds and hands are the devil’s workshop”. Simply put, if you have nothing useful to do in life then you will probably get yourself into trouble personally and socially.
If drugs are legalized then there will be more children, students, nannies, teachers, vocational and professional workers in responsible positions strung out on drugs and making the workforce more dangerous and inefficient than it already is. Can any nation with legalized drugs survive and be powerful, respected, and morally functional in other than a third world status? I highly doubt that this is possible.
I hope the crisis never becomes so acute that drug pushers or dealers will have to be executed but that may be the only sane alternative to continuing to do nothing constructive and gradually letting the nation slide into a mind altering drug haze both legal and illegal.
If there is a moral to be gleaned from history it is- “don’t become a hedonistic individual and participate in a hedonistic society”. Hedonistic individuals and societies don’t last long.
Hedonistic: adj. pursuing excessive pleasure
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Pros:
You can network with humans worldwide
You can intimately communicate with close friends and family
You can network with professionals on Linkedin
You can share hobbies and good internet websites
You can minimize TV watching
Cons:
The information can be overwhelming
It is hard to exclude false content
Not good for group discussions
It can become an addictive timewaster
You can become a victim of bullying, sexual abuse, and profanity
You can become a victim of insults, put downs, name calling, ridicule, and humiliation
Personal fitness and family time together may suffer
Privacy issues
You can easily fall prey to quantity not quality communications
You can become a victim of too many ads
Social media is a potentially powerful tool which if used judiciously can make and maintain good social contacts and reveal some useful information. Used poorly the addictive tool can become a time waster and take valuable time away from other daily useful pursuits. If you judiciously prioritize the humans that you interact with and schedule your time well then social media can be a great asset in your life.
Pros:
Networking with humans worldwide is a great advantage if you travel much or want to maintain professional contacts worldwide in your field of expertise. Cheap communications over the internet are very alluring and you don’t have to pay high rates for international communication.
You can easily and cheaply keep in touch with close friends and family members nationally by choosing either Facebook or Instagram. You can use one website exclusively for casual contacts and many “friends” which you only view once in a while. Use another website where you more frequently stay in touch with close friends and family. Separating your close contacts with more remote ones is a good idea so you don’t mix important contacts with rather unimportant ones.
Linkedin is an important website for networking with professional contacts and then you can switch to personal emails if you want the communications to be more intimate or private.
You can network with humans who have similar hobbies or pastimes and share your passion. Getting hints from others about good websites for your important interests can supplement your initial Google or search engine results.
Social media and the internet in general will probably minimize your need to watch TV. You won’t be wasting your time on rather trivial pursuits if you so desire.
Cons:
Social media can become overwhelming, especially if you are young, get addicted, and are not very selective in the humans that you interact with. Keeping track of a hundred or more friends or acquaintances can be mind boggling. Intensively communicating with a handful of friends can consume an incredible amount of time and be overwhelming. Too much social media can adversely affect your schoolwork, job performance, and offline human communications ability.
If you are heavily involved in politics a recent phenomenon is fake news and it is increasingly becoming harder and harder to tell whether a news report is reliable or possibly misinformation and false. If it is not a reputable source then there is always the possibility of unreliable or false information. A lie like a rumor can quickly spread through social media before you realize what the real truth is. The internet in general is increasingly being plagued with fraudulent activity in the form of scam websites, scams, and bad information in general.
Social media is also not very useful for group discussions so special software may have to be installed to get a group to communicate with each other simultaneously.
Social media can become addictive just like texting so become concerned and start cutting back if you are spending more than two hours daily communicating with others.
Especially young children can become victims of bullying, sexual abuse, and profanity. Further they may be insulted, put down, name called, ridiculed, and humiliated on social media by others. If you become a victim of abuse on social media then it can have some devastating psychological impacts on your mind and behavior. If you are not a fully developed personality incapable of turning off personal assaults then you may become depressed, miserable, or constantly involved in dysfunctional communications.
Too much social media can have negative impacts on your physical fitness and take away from valuable time spent with family. Becoming physically unfit and becoming unable to successfully communicate with family members is something which should be avoided at all costs.
Privacy issues are important because anything on social media is essentially a public communication. Potential employers may view your social media presence and make decisions about hiring based on what kind of friends you have and how much unfavorable information you may have revealed to the world about yourself. A social media presence which shows that you use profanity frequently, are promiscuous, and have friends with bad behavior or criminal records will doom you for any future employment. A delinquent childhood may doom a successful career as an adult in the working world.
The major drawback to social media is that you often can’t discriminate between quality vs. quantity interactions. You may quantitatively communicate much but the quality of your communications may be very bad or mostly trivial useless communications. Essentially you may be wasting your time, energy, and even money on social media and not bettering your life in any significant way.
Most social media is interested in making some money off of you. This often means that you will be deluged with ads for information, goods, and services which may make you buy things which you really don’t need and not only waste your time but also your money too.
Conclusion:
Social media is a tool which when used efficiently can help you to maintain contact with important humans in your life and become the source for interesting information and communication. Used inefficiently, social media can become a waster of your time, energy, and eventually money. So learn to use social media wisely and avoid all the pitfalls or cons which are a great temptation and can lead to addictive misery and failure in life.
Social media is a useful technological tool. Use it wisely by prioritizing your contacts, time and energy spent and you will greatly benefit. Use it unwisely and it can become quicksand which will slowly drown you in a sea of overwhelming addictive mostly trivial information.
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Good health,
A moral upbringing with integrity,
A useful education,
Continuing selfeducation,
A good job,
Family,
Friends,
Updated goals throughout life.
Although many humans have overcome minor and major health handicaps and succeeded in leading productive lives, it is much easier to live a life free of health concerns and genetically it is a real benefit to future generations if you have healthy parents. Having good health is nature’s wonderful gift which one should try to maintain for a lifetime.
In all your human interactions, having integrity and a strong moral foundation that you believe in will maximize trust with friends, coworkers, offspring, and spouse. You will have good relationships with humans that are important to you and not have many dysfunctional relationships.
Without integrity and a moral foundation you will never be respected and maybe even admired by other humans if that is your ultimate goal.
If you come from a dysfunctional and/or immoral family the odds that you will have integrity and moral soundness are very low. Without wholesome role models to imitate you will not be respected nor admired. You may get lucky and find a mentor or role model whom you can imitate who has integrity and morality but it will take incredible courage and determination to struggle against a bad environment and the corresponding bad influences.
Many eventually rebel in some way against traditional religious morality so here is an updated modern secular moral code which you should follow as much as possible and pass it on your impressionable offspring.
In nonemergency situations-don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.
A technological, computer science, and scientific education is a useful education with more good job opportunities and if you are stuck in a job poor Liberal arts field then you may have to continue with further useful education and selfeducation to make a decent go of it in an age when job security is increasingly a thing of the past due to a standardization of function, parts, and robotization.
One thing is almost certain that you will have many more than just one job in your lifetime so more useful education and much selfeducation is what you should anticipate getting more of while going from job to job.
When finally you and your significant other both have relatively good jobs then is the optimal time to consider marriage and the possibility of offspring which are a great responsibility financially and time wise.
Networking and having some close friends may be important for you but be selective in which ones you choose to spend your valuable time, energy, and money on.
As we go through life our immediate and long duration goals change so be ready to update your goals throughout a lifetime to fit your immediate and hoped for circumstances.
If you start at the very bottom with dysfunctional parents and friends severely addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, entertainment, and overspending, and have a useless education then your chances of doing well in the economy will be minimal. You will ultimately probably join the ranks of those on permanent welfare or end up in prison for immoral and/or criminal behavior.
The choice is yours. Be moral, work smart and hard or face a future filled with unhappiness, depression and trapped in a seemingly hopeless modern environment.
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You can live a happy life with your basic needs met which is food, drink, clothes, and shelter but most humans want to live a fuller life and have other humans and things in it too.
There are about 10 basic categories or classifications of human activity and you can decide whether you would like to participate in some or most of them.
Family/Friends/Significant Other/Romance:
Nature usually rewards its best creations with reproductive success. Human civilization does not always reward its best creations with reproductive success so there are many healthy, smart, and attractive humans who don’t reproduce at all.
More and more in modern society are leading relatively selfish lives pursuing their passions in life and not passing on their genes to the next generation.
Family life is the foundation of any lasting society, many still chose to have one, and it is a major priority in many human lives.
Health/Fitness:
Without good mental and physical health life can become quite miserable and even terminal. Eating as much organic food as possible and getting in some exercise is the best guarantee for a healthy life which is the foundation of living success.
Education/Personal Growth:
Useful education and continually trying to improve yourself is the second most important priority which will usually ensure a good paying job and steady improvement in lifestyle throughout a lifetime. Stop growing in knowledge and experiences and your life may stagnate and not lead to any significant achievements in a life filled with regrets later in old age.
Finances/Wealth/Philanthropy:
With good health and useful ongoing education earning money should become easier making for a better standard of living and the possibility of giving some of the money to worthwhile philanthropic causes such as wildlife conservation and medical research.
Fun/Recreation/Sports:
Even if you love your work everyone needs a little balance in their lives and should leave some time for rest, relaxation, or a change of pace to recharge your energy level. For some entertainment may be passive reading, listening to music, watching a movie, or surfing the internet. For others active sporting activity and traveling may be a preferred way to unwind and enjoy other things in life besides work.
Spirituality/Religion/Morality:
Not everyone needs formalized religion to give them purpose in life and a morality to live by. Religion is the traditional way that morality was taught to the masses and if you are not an enlightened moral modern human then you should perhaps consider exposing your offspring to religious education in their formative years because chances are that they will rebel against it later in life anyway.
If you chose a religion to follow then I would recommend the Jewish faith because of their emphasis on the importance of education, morality, and community support of its members which is important in modern day networking and in establishing useful social and business connections.
Business/Career:
Every career should really be considered a profit or nonprofit business with paying customers whose needs and wants you are trying to satisfy. If you are not satisfying some needs or wants or doing it badly then you should go out of business and go bankrupt.
Providing better customer service with the passage of time is also a very important consideration and you should be constantly learning about new developments or trends in your career so that you don’t become outdated or obsolete with the passage of time in this ever changing modern world of technological advancements.
The Arts/Music/Theater:
Liberal arts is becoming increasingly job poor in the technological 21st century. With the democratization of the internet and much sharing going on musicians, actors, authors, cartoonists, comedians, photographers, and artists are having a very hard time getting paid for their creative efforts and making a living at it.
Education will have to be radically changed to emphasize training in technology and science with much less emphasis on liberal arts and the humanities.
Community/Politics:
Isolation from community and politics is increasing with more and more humans suffering from depression which results from social isolation. Welfare is reducing the need for humanitarian volunteer work in the community and big money is making the political process a very unrewarding excursion into futility with almost everything getting worse and not better.
The individual sense of powerlessness is on the rise as power becomes more and more centralized and laws are so numerous that almost everyone gets adversely affected by them.
Because of an archaic emphasis on liberal arts in education and rapid advances in technology the middle class is being devastated job wise and the good jobs require skills which most of the population does not have. In the future it is highly probable that most will be living on welfare in a job poor environment. Society will have to be radically restructured if it is to survive economically in the 21st century.
Home/Garden:
A nice private home with an organic garden is what some humans yearn for but more and more will be renting in urban settings in the future as the middle class shrinks in numbers and suburban life becomes an unaffordable luxury.
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Make a meal or new recipe and you find out that some member of the family does not like the meal. The solution is to fill the refrigerator with organic food such as whole milk, organic eggs, fresh fish for sushi meals or steak tartar, and fill the pantry and kitchen cabinets with organic spices, unsweetened food products, organic pasta, organic unsweetened cereals, organic unsweetened snacks such as nuts, seeds, beans, blue corn tortilla chips, quinoa chips, etc. and let each family member prepare their own food only when they are hungry.
Stop treating offspring with candy and sweet deserts which creates an unnatural sweet tooth craving and the resultant unhealthy overload of unnatural sweetened food products on supermarket shelves. The long duration effect is unhealthy overly sweet eating habits which damage long duration health. Switch to organic unprocessed naturally sweet fruits as treats for your offspring instead!!!!!!
Family members can choose anything that they want to eat from the refrigerator, freezer, or pantry. No offspring will overeat again and may even be eating many times a day or snacking on what they personally like the best and not on some stupid artificial recipe which requires much frying and cooking and usually results in many greasy dishes.
As early as possible offspring should be taught to be their own personal chefs making food which they like the best from the food which you provide for the home and judiciously shop for when at the supermarket.
Let family members make their own soups with as many ingredients as possible in them with organic noodles, pasta, rice, beans, etc. that they like, diced meats and fish that they like, the organic spices which they like in the quantities that they like, with an assortment of diced organic vegetables which they like, and provide organic fruits in the open on the kitchen counter top for healthy snacking during the day. Healthy soups should be a mixture of as many tasty ingredients as possible because if you add one tasty ingredient to another the result is a tasty byproduct.
Family meals are an archaic tradition which should come to a speedy end!!!!!!
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Promiscuity: n. a human having transient sexual relationships with many different humans
Sexual freedom disconnected from the reality of reproduction of healthy smart future generations raised by caring families is what promiscuity is all about.
Screw around with too many humans in young adulthood and chances are great that you will not have a successful adulterous free stable family relationship in the future.
Not all of us need to reproduce in an over populated world but if you eventually want to have a successful family then promiscuity should be avoided at all costs.
Whether male or female, before you get sexually intimate with someone then ask one very important question. Is it someone who has the potential to be a good mate in the future? If the answer is no, then don’t get sexually involved.
Sexual predatory males in young adulthood without a good income don’t have commitment on their mind because it is a great financial burden. If you are a female then realize that most financially irresponsible males do not make good fathers and you should not be screwing around with them unless you want to wind up as an unwed mother on welfare assistance.
Promiscuity can become a very bad habit which will haunt you when and if you ever decide to have a stable happy family with offspring.
Promiscuity also leads to the certainty of getting one or more sexually transmitted diseases some of which are incurable, especially the viral forms. Check my blog THE TRUTH ABOUT STD’S to get more vital information about them.
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Exploitation: n. optimizing usefulness for profit without using the full potential of (a natural resource(s) and/or a human(s))
Feel that the environment and/or many humans are being exploited? This is true and frequently to make a quick profit.
Commodities are mined for one or two metals and the rest of the raw materials are washed away polluting the environment.
Factory farming is exploiting animals and ruining their health which in turn is ruining the health of those who eat their meat.
Pesticides, herbicides, many GMO’s, and artificial fertilizers make the plants less healthy and are starting to kill bees and other pollinators so necessary for successful natural plant reproduction.
Food diversity destruction and wildlife destruction all in the name of exploitation of resources for optimum profit is seriously threatening the long duration survival of healthy living on the face of this precious endangered planet. Wildlife will be our only safety net when our food supply becomes too unhealthy to consume because of short sighted technological bad exploitation or manipulation of domestic plants and animals.
Humans are trapped financially in menial work working hard and do not have the time or money to develop to their full potential as human beings.
Dysfunctional families abound and the breakdown is caused by cultural moral decay coupled with the tolerance of overly promiscuous behavior. This is riddling the new generation with anxiety not knowing how to raise offspring any more with so many conflicting parenting philosophies and the absence of certainty of what proper acceptable behavior is.
Relativistic situation ethics is not the answer and psychiatrists and psychologists are a bad replacement for mythological outdated religious morality. They medicate rather than properly educate their flock which is increasingly suffering from more and more depression and dysfunctional behavior.
The rich exploit the poor and middle class. Life is not just and that is just the way that the world has worked in the past and is working today and on into the foreseeable future. The solution is an updated secular morality taught to young impressionable minds and a change to just laws. Also necessary is a switch over to more logical language usage so that the poor and middle class do not behave as stupidly and gullibly as they do using language in a primarily emotional irrational way.
My evergreen truth books EDUCATION REFORM, CHANGES IN WELFARE LAWS, JUSTICE, MODERN PARENTING, and SCIENTIFIC THESAURUS offer logical and what I think are reasonable ways to gradually move out of the exploitative world too focused on the unacceptable use of big money to circumvent laws and moral behavior.
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In the western world healthy families are soon going to be a scarce commodity.
A radical decrease of good stable paying jobs, bad financial management or excessive credit card debt, a promiscuous society, and a lack of a secular moral code for impressionable young minds in elementary school is the reason why families are disintegrating because there is a breakdown of trust between humans and trust between the governed and the governing leadership.
Of all the above reasons for family failure the biggest is an absence of a common secular morality which will soon make the peaceful interaction of humans in a nation almost impossible and humans will once again be ruled by fear or rule by the threat of force and the use of force.
The two most important foundations of a family are a shared moral code that each spouse believes in and the second most important foundation is the financial means to support a family with offspring. Both a common morality and financial stability are being destroyed and the result is family breakup or even an inability to start a family because love and sexual attraction alone are not enough for a family to last as an ongoing social unit.
I personally don’t think that family breakups or an inability to support a family are necessarily a totally bad situation because the last thing that the world needs is more human mouths to feed or world overpopulation.
If you are still without family and single then don’t despair because you may still luck out and find moral compatibility and a spouse who can help to totally or partially support your family unit. With this knowledge and a little luck you may still have a successful family life in a sea of family breakups.
What is the WORLDWIDE secular morality which you and your spouse should believe in? It is except in emergency situations-DON’T DESTROY BIODIVERSITY, DON’T LIE, DON’T BE INEFFICIENT, DON’T STEAL, DON’T COMMIT ADULTERY IF MARRIED, AND DON’T MURDER!!!!!!
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Nature is efficient. It communicates efficiently, distributes resources such as food and territory efficiently, and rewards the smart and healthy with successful reproduction.
Most humans in civilization are inefficient communicators, don’t budget their time, energy, and money wisely, and have to frequently struggle to eat healthy and have offspring whom they can be proud of.
Do you make many promises and don’t fulfill most of them?
Do you talk too much and don’t solve many problems?
Do you have many casual friends and few if any close ones?
Do you argue much and solve few problems?
Do you spend too much time goofing off and find little time for the important things in your life?
Do you have great debt all the time?
Do you pick up after your offspring and let them lead messy lives?
Do you drive around town much visiting friends and impulsively shopping?
Do you date frequently and find no serious ones?
do you not set priorities in your life consciously,
Do you not have any serious long duration goals?
If you have many of the above characteristics then you are being inefficient with your time, energy, and money and you probably have a good share of misery in your impulsive problematic life.
I can write a book on inefficiency and have devoted many of my evergreen blogs to thinking rationally and being efficient but in a nutshell:
Set priorities and goals in your life,
Schedule your time,
Budget your money,
replace what you don’t now feel are impulsive bad habits with better ones,
acquire new useful knowledge and skills constantly,
and in summary: devote most of your time, energy, and money to the most important things in your life once you have prioritized them with conscientious thinking, planning, and doing. Get off your impulsive emotional butt!!!!!!
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Perhaps one of the most difficult things to do is problem solving where you frequently don’t know where to start or how to start.
1. IDENTIFY THE PROBLEM:
You may have an overspending problem but neither one of you know how to budget money or stop much of your impulse buying which is a bad habit and feels like the logical or natural thing to do. If you spend when you feel like it or as long as there is credit on your credit card and budgeting doesn’t even surface as a potential way of solving your problems then you will probably wallow in your old bad spending habits and never find a solution to them. Frequently an inability to find a solution to the problem results in mutual blame. You are spending too much money and the other spouse replies that no, you are the one spending too much money and an absence of problem solution results in the blame game and nagging complaints which never get resolved.
These days there is no excuse for not solving problems because all you have to do is identify it or put it into one or more words. “Overspending problem” can be Googled and you are on your way to solving your problem with continued searches with other key words and Google suggestions.
Once you have identified the problem then you have to find possible solutions.
2. FINDING SOLUTIONS:
Find solutions by asking the questions who will solve the problem, what are the solutions to the problem, when the problem can be solved, where the problem can be solved, how much it will cost to solve the problem, and how the problem can be solved. All of these questions can be inputted as a Google search. For example, “what are the solutions to overspending” can be Googled and you will start getting answers to your problem.
If you have offspring and are having discipline problems with them then Google “discipline problems” and you will be on your way to finding solutions to them.
If you are not happy with one search engine then try another one such as Bing and you will even find age appropriate suggestions for disciplining offspring.
Another way of finding solutions to problems is to find a website which has articles about solving household problems. Moneytalksnews.com founded by Stacy Johnson is an excellent website which offers many solutions to money problems in family life which are usually the reason that you are having problems in family life in the first place. Manage your money wisely and if you have compatible personalities then your married life should be successful.
3. SELECT OR DECIDE WHAT THE BEST ALTERNATIVE SOLUTION IS:
If there is more than one solution to your problem then you will have to decide which is the best one to choose. The best solution will probably be the one which takes the least amount of time and the least money and a solution which can be scheduled into your busy or not so busy lifestyle.
4. IMPLEMENTING THE SOLUTION:
Nothing gets done unless you follow up a problem with actions designed to solve it so WHEN you are going to start to do something about it becomes a very important decision. If the solution is long and complicated then you will have a tendency to want to procrastinate or put it off as much as possible so you will have to learn how to set aside some time and apply a little selfdiscipline and get off your butt and DO something about the problem. My recommendation is to start as soon as possible or you will probably never find the courage to start to do something about it.
Getting reeducated for a better paying job is frequently a potential solution to your problems but so many of us never get around to it because it requires so much of our time, sometimes money, and we never have the courage or selfdiscipline or selfcontrol to start on the difficult path to improve skills and knowledge and actually do something constructive about our poor finances.
5. FEEDBACK OR MONITORING YOUR PROGRESS:
If the solution to the problem is rather complex and lengthy then you should monitor your progress to reassure yourself that you are making progress toward your goal of solving the problem. If you are not making progress fast enough you may consider devoting more time or money to the solution of the problem to speed up the process of solving it if you are starting to get a little impatient.
Sometimes problem solving is a simple matter of addressing a complaint and deciding whether to ignore it, eliminate the source or cause of the complaint, or deny that it should be a complaint in the first place.
You never help around the kitchen or house is sometimes a nagging complaint by a busy wife who sees you lounging around the kitchen or house and not helping with any of the work in preparing the meal, setting the table, washing the dishes and silverware, or vacuuming the carpet.
Traditionally men would just simply say that meals or vacuuming are women’s work and ignore any complaints about not helping. These days with many a working wife it is just not fair to ask a woman to do all the traditional female housework tasks without helping out a little.
I usually help set the table and do the cleanup and dishes after the meal is finished. I have also participated in sharing some of the cooking preparation or actual cooking itself but that requires a little finesse because your wife probably has set ways of preparing a meal and if you try to deviate from her plans you will get resistance or complaints. The old adage about too many ideological cooks in the kitchen is true to some extent and it is sometimes a real challenge to put up with being dogmatically ordered around during meal preparation.
In the beginning my wife was very dogmatic about the way that she prepared her meals and wanted very little deviation from her old way of doing the meal but she has slowly come around and agreed to some of my recommended changes to make a meal more tasty for all concerned which may simply mean a little less salt and pepper and a little less spices or different spices or added ingredients for the meal.
If meal preparation is not an option because it takes too long then you can order a takeout meal for all family members and satisfy their individual taste preferences when they are old enough to make good healthy food choices.
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Here are examples of praise and reassurances with promises which may be needed occasionally but don’t overdo it. Much of it is what women would like to hear but frequently don’t hear from their husbands.
Praise:
I admire you.
I celebrate your love, and I celebrate our marriage.
Thank you for being faithful when times are tough.
Thank you for your integrity. It enriches our marriage.
Thank you for your forgiveness. I will forgive you, too.
I am grateful for the things you do and the things we share.
I treasure the time we spend together.
You are my best friend.
The example we set is important. Thank you for being a good example.
Reassurance in the form of promises:
I love you now and forever.
I am committed to our marriage.
I will be strong for you.
Thank you for your patience. I will be patient with you too.
I will always help you.
I understand the importance of cooperation.
I will make our home a happy place.
I treasure our family.
I will always honor our marriage and be faithful to you.
I will never stop loving you.
I understand the importance of clear, loving, open lines of communication.
Time here on earth is short and precious. I want to spend as much of it with you as I can.
I will focus on the positive.
Our love will last forever.
CONCLUSION: Praising your husband or wife once in a while for important good behavior and communicating disapproval for important bad behavior is essential for any good ongoing relationship. If he or she helps you in some way or gives you emotional help or physical support when you need it then thanks for your support or understanding is frequently enough praise.
When confronted with problems in married life realize that there are not always instant solutions and that it frequently takes much time and mutual effort to resolve many important problems. Having an ongoing good attitude like an optimistic outlook on life is a great help because it shows that you almost always have hope that to most problems there is a solution sooner or later if you both put in the necessary time and effort.
Reassurances are frequently only necessary for difficult problems which need much time and devoted effort to solve. Let’s keep working at it or we are making some progress towards a solution or let’s not give up yet is frequently the kind of reassurance necessary.
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