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THE TRUTH ABOUT VICARIOUSNESS+

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Vicariousness: n. mentally empathizing with another(s) sensing and/or actions

 

Have you ever had a vicarious thrill watching someone do something and empathizing with that human’s emotion and/or activity and saying to yourself-“I know what that feels like” or “I have done that very same thing myself and know what it is like when I do it”.

 

You are in effect reliving someone else’s experience mentally in your own mind. That is what a vicarious experience is.

An empathizing thrill and a vicarious thrill are really one and the same thing so there is some doubt in my mind that vicarious should exist as a word and should be replaced with empathizing instead.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT STOICISM+

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Stoicism: n. enduring pain and suffering and hardship without complaining and showing minimal emotion

When there is hardship, suffering, and even pain most of us get emotionally upset and feel that we have a right to complain about it. If you minimally complain and don’t get emotionally upset then you are said to have a stoical attitude or you are a stoic.

“Be a man and roll with the punches” is historically a call to male stoicism or putting up with much crap without complaining or getting overly emotional about it.

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13 THINGS HUMANS SHOULD STOP DOING TO EACH OTHER!!!

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Tell about the promiscuity of a male or female to family and close friends but don’t advertise it to everyone that you come into contact with. Let the promiscuous humans self-destruct socially on their own in the long duration without your help.

Try to avoid comments about human bodies as being either too fat or too skinny or even ugly which is branded on recipient human memory and hurts.

Unverified comments about weight gain or loss should be omitted unless the difference in weight is substantial and about 25 pounds or 13 kilograms. “You look like you lost some weight” will not make anyone feel better if they haven’t lost it.

Don’t go after another’s significant other unless they are a great catch and worth the decrease in your reputation. Such behavior is frequently not worth the social humiliation for being a stealer of affection.

Don’t be jealous of another human’s accomplishments but compliment or celebrate accomplishments because they probably worked hard for them.

Don’t exaggerate compliments and then offer improvements to make something better. “Your perfume or cologne smells great but I wouldn’t use so much.”

Don’t commit adultery if you are basically satisfied with the marriage or know that you can successfully improve it to your liking. Divorce with offspring involved is expensive and unless you are miserable and terribly unhappy it is not worth the expense.

Don’t spread rumors because you will hurt your own reputation if they turn out to be untrue.

Don’t avoid conversations with humans whom you have conflicts with but confront them head on like and adult. Don’t only advertise the conflict to others behind the back of the one you have conflicts with or you will be guilty of a form of backstabbing.

Don’t constantly compare yourself to someone else in body looks or possessions because you will usually be disappointed and fail in the look alike and behave alike personal contest.

Don’t pretend with other humans in their presence because you don’t want to be labeled a phony. Avoid associating with humans if you don’t like them instead of telling others how terrible they are.

Don’t resent each other’s significant other for taking time away from your friendship because the hate will decrease the bond of trust which you have.

Don’t harshly criticize another’s decisions just to feel more confident in your own.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT NAIVETE***

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Naivete: n. a relatively small quantity of real experience and/or knowledge with innocent simplicity and/or honesty which makes one seem foolish

Offspring can be considered to be naïve because they lack worldly experience and are frequently very honest and don’t hide their feelings and opinions the way that many adults do.

A naïve adult is really one who has been largely isolated from society and still reacts with honest spontaneity which seems foolish to a hardened adult who has been taught to be deceptive under many social circumstances to avoid social embarrassment.

A naïve adult will frequently criticize a bad gift, tell you honestly that your perfume stinks, say your excess jewelry is gaudy, say they don’t like your pretentious spouse, say that your offspring are brats if they misbehave, and say that you are fat if you are overweight. Naïve adults frequently don’t understand that we all have our egos and don’t want them to be hurt. Many naïve adults are more trusting then they should be in a world filled with social  and economic predators.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT ANTICIPATION

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Anticipation: n. predicting a subset(s) and frequently sensing impatience and/or eagerness if it is a good subset(s) and/or (sensing anxiety and/or fear if it is a bad subset(s))

 

We have all been anxious, fearful, impatient, or eager waiting for something to exist which we predict will exist.

 

If it is an anticipated good event(s) then we may sense impatience and/or eagerness and sometimes hope that it will exist sooner.

 

On the other hand we may feel anxious and/or fearful if it is a bad event(s) which we are anticipating and may even be hoping that it won’t exist.

 

Finally we may feel anxious, fearful, impatient, and eager if we anticipate both a good and bad event(s) to exist.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT BIAS

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Bias: n. a subjective personal favoritism for a subset(s)

We all have a personal way of thinking and doing things which all depends on our individual experiences, beliefs, and opinions and this is called personal bias or subjectivity. Someone from a different culture or background may have many biases which are much different than our own so we should learn to respect those biases and not always try to prove that our biases are the only ones to have.

Most conflicts, arguments, and misunderstandings stem from the fact that humans have different biases which have to be dealt with in a sometimes diplomatic way and not through an outright assault on emotionally deeply felt biases. A challenge to deeply held biases will be met with sometimes ferocious defensive actions and you should learn to communicate in a way which will not inflame those biases which sometimes may also be called prejudices.

Biases not grounded in many facts but emotionally deeply felt are the hardest to deal with because reason, logic, and relevant facts will frequently not be convincing enough to change those biases. The media, politics in general, religion, and sports is frequently not something which you can talk logically about because they are strongly held emotional beliefs frequently not based on many facts and subject to very little change.

If a human has very many biases different than your own then the probability that you can have a successful intimate relationship with that human are very slim. If you have a relationship it will probably be a very tempestuous and rather unsatisfactory one.

A scientific bias is preferable to a non scientific one but you have to be careful about statistics which can lead to inaccurate conclusions because there is no one to one correspondence with frequently vaguely defined variables. The scientific method is not very useful in human affairs because empathy, anger, frustration, revenge, poverty, discrimination, love, hate, etc is poorly defined and does not lend itself to manipulation with mathematical formulas. You can’t prove morality mathematically and test it in a laboratory.

Science will never prove the necessity for a secular moral code or morality for humans so that they can peacefully interact with one another in society. A moral code for young impressionable minds is necessary so that humans react impulsively in life situations and don’t always have to be asking -is what I am about to do right or wrong?

The questioning scientific approach to situation ethics is dysfunctional because it is so relative and almost any situation can be justified under certain circumstances. The end frequently justifies the means and this is a morally corrupt way of running the world of human affairs.

Except in emergency situations it should be immoral to destroy biodiversity, lie, be inefficient, steal, be adulterous if married, and murder. Prove that mathematically and scientifically in a lab. You can’t!!!!!! But you can try to get a consensus in society that a secular moral code is a good thing to teach young impressionable minds.

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HOW TO HANDLE FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS

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Challenge a firmly held opinion or belief or aggressively criticize another human and angry emotions will almost always appear. Trying to convince one that you are right and that they are wrong takes much skillful conversation when it is only a mistake and it is mission impossible if it is a strong belief.

Probe gently for someone’s mindset before you arrogantly proceed to voice your strong opinion or belief. Some subjects such as politics, religion, and sports infrequently lead to logical discussions but can quickly escalate into emotional confrontations instead. Avoid sensitive subjects unless they become serious important problems in your life.

If you are not sure about how a human feels about a sensitive subject but want to know then gently ask “How do you feel about ______? If you greatly disagree with the feeling then just say OK and don’t pursue the subject any further.

No matter how cool we try to be we can get upset sometimes. Yelling, ranting, and throwing a tantrum will just cause bad emotions in other humans and won’t make you feel any better after showing your emotions. The best action is to slow down and breathe deeply and try to do more thinking when you feel that you have emotionally upset someone. Remember no one is stress free and everybody has to deal with their own stress as effectively as possible. Try to be the calmer one in any emotional flareup and your words will usually be more respected and not as offensive.

There are many ways to make someone feel uncomfortable and this is frequently done in emotionally misleading and accidental behaviors. One can cause discomfort by asking one to do something that they don’t want to do. Discomfort is also caused by doing something which one finds upsetting. If you insist on discussing a topic that humans don’t want to discuss this effectively makes someone very uncomfortable.

It is almost impossible to decrease irrational anger. When humans get angry for irrational reasons calmly and respectfully listen to their grievance but remember that it will not be easy because intense irrational anger will make you want to respond as angrily. Don’t try to reason with them because they are in no mood to be rational. Don’t offer an insincere apology but try to find some action of yours which made them angry in the first place which you do regret and apologize for that.

Be careful when you joke about something because even the best jokes may be taken seriously which becomes painful and awkward. If you insist on humor in your conversation then build on the joke and make it more extreme until it is obvious that you must be joking. If your attempt at humor fails then admit that you are joking before the circumstance gets worse. Many people don’t get jokes so rarely joke or better yet don’t joke if you want a conversation to proceed smoothly and logically.

Jokes frequently destroy the boundary between logic and nonsense and some push a joke too much. A courtesy laugh will only motivate the joker to push more so avoid an untrue laugh. Express confusion and communicate in your own words what the joke meant to you and that you honestly tried to understand it. They may analyze the joke and you will feel that it was somewhat funny or it may reveal how their brain works humorously. Jokes frequently make fun out of human frailty and errors so it is best to ignore a joke that you don’t understand or disagree with.

Don’t joke at the opposite sex.  There are differences between men and women but making fun of one gender is a communication that somehow your gender is superior to the other gender and this is nonsense which is overly prejudicial and biased. Most women are more emotional and social and talkative and caring than most men but that should be no reason to make fun of them since nature programmed them to be different for the benefit of the offspring. It takes a good man and a good woman(s) to raise offspring in a balanced and healthy way as nature programmed.

Never hide an insult and pretend a compliment because no one likes to be deceived.

Though most of us probably feel that we are above feelings of jealousy, occasionally we may experience them. If this exists then try to convince yourself that the object of your jealousy is not as desirable as it seems. Instead focus on how lucky you are and on the things which are right with your life. Jealousy is primarily experienced by the economically poor in this society which puts so much importance  on the possession of many material possessions.

Jealousy of attractive humans is rampant in a society which puts more value upon beauty than on health and smarts and is the reason why so many are obsessed irrationally with their looks.

Frequently you must reveal a personally shocking truth to someone who is not ready for the truth so their minds must be carefully prepared to hear it. Don’t hit them with the complete truth at once but try to present it in smaller and slightly less shocking chunks. Evidence in small chunks and then the complete evidence will make a mind naturally rebel from that much truth but it is necessary that you maintain your honest reputation despite shock to the listener. A person will reflect upon the confrontation later and continue to respect you for being honest and your good reputation in their subjective biased minds will be maintained.

Being honest, sincere, and reliable will ensure that a strong bond continues in a relationship even after many arguments which should decrease in quantity as time passes if you continue to maintain a trustworthy relationship despite the arguments.

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