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BRIEF COMMENTARY ON- THE 12 RULES OF LIFE: AN ANTIDOTE TO CHAOS- BY JORDAN B. PETERSON!!!

I no longer have the patience to wallow through verbosity and storytelling to try to make sense of some of life’s principles. However, I would recommend this book to someone who is confused in life and is having trouble making sense out of a seemingly chaotic life. That said I selected 6 of Peterson’s rules with a brief commentary on them.

 

Rule 3. Make friends with people who want the best for you.

Try to make friends with humans who have integrity, are trustworthy, dependable, competent, friendly, and motivate you to be even better than you are. Beware of humans with good intentions who seem to want the best for you but have their own faulty views of what is best to have in life or have their own axe to grind.

 

Rule 4. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

This just means continue to improve yourself with research, reading, thinking, and doing on your road to the achievement of short and long duration goals. Comparing yourself to others is fraught with error or danger since very often you, your circumstances, and abilities are very different than those of others and comparisons are often pointless.

 

Rule 6. Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.

Your house will never be in perfect order in the long duration so if you lead a relatively happy and orderly life feel free to criticize the world and especially make suggestions on how to improve it but don’t be too dogmatic about your criticism.

A good place to start the critique is with yourself. Can you honestly say? If most humans lived the way that I live my life, then the world would be a better place to live in.

If more humans lived the way that you live your life, perhaps in unhappiness and desperation, then your critique of the world would not be that relevant.

 

Rule 8. Tell the truth—or, at least, don’t lie

To maintain integrity and trustworthiness, being honest, moral, dependable, and competent is essential, especially if you are interested in maintaining a good reputation in society and hope someday to assume leadership positions. Most relationships crash and burn when dishonesty is detected or it becomes a very dysfunctional relationship with much misery, uncertainty, and lack of security if the relationship stupidly continues without trust.

Trust is the human bond which makes long duration relationships possible and without trust relationships eventually become very unstable, chaotic, and end.

 

Rule 9. Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t.

This is just a fact of life that even if you think that you know a lot, other humans will occasionally surprise you with useful knowledge that you never realized existed. Be a good listener but remember that it is OK to interrupt to change the subject or even end the conversation if it is boringly focusing on relatively trivial information.

Emotional intelligence is gotten by interacting with all kinds of humans, learning how to converse with them in discussion mode, and learning how to extract important information without sounding like an interrogator.

 

Rule 10. Be precise in your speech.

Speak efficiently is another way of putting it or be brief and to the point is another. I have spent a lifetime trying to define words logically since being precise is not a virtue of the English language with so many vaguely defined words and a confusing bonanza of multiple meanings, synonyms, antonyms, and dubious analogies.

 

Rule 1: Stand up straight with your shoulders back.

Rule 2: Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

Rule 5: Do not let your children do anything which makes you dislike them.

Rule 7: Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient).

Rule 11: Do not bother children when they are skateboarding.

Rule 12: Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.

If these other 6 rules of life which I skipped peaked your interest then buy and read his book. It seems he may even have a sense of humor which you might enjoy.

Frankly there is much more to life that is important than these 12 principles but he is a typical psychologist whose mind is not very analytical and logical but bases most of  his views on mostly subjective information which he has read about in his career and personal subjective experiences and values.

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PROS AND CONS OF SOCIAL MEDIA!!!

Pros:

You can network with humans worldwide

You can intimately communicate with close friends and family

You can network with professionals on Linkedin

You can share hobbies and good internet websites

You can minimize TV watching

Cons:

The information can be overwhelming

It is hard to exclude false content

Not good for group discussions

It can become an addictive timewaster

You can become a victim of bullying, sexual abuse, and profanity

You can become a victim of insults, put downs, name calling, ridicule, and humiliation

Personal fitness and family time together may suffer

Privacy issues

You can easily fall prey to quantity not quality communications

You can become a victim of too many ads

 

Social media is a potentially powerful tool which if used judiciously can make and maintain good social contacts and reveal some useful information. Used poorly the addictive tool can become a time waster and take valuable time away from other daily useful pursuits. If you judiciously prioritize the humans that you interact with and schedule your time well then social media can be a great asset in your life.

Pros:

Networking with humans worldwide is a great advantage if you travel much or want to maintain professional contacts worldwide in your field of expertise. Cheap communications over the internet are very alluring and you don’t have to pay high rates for international communication.

You can easily and cheaply keep in touch with close friends and family members nationally by choosing either Facebook or Instagram. You can use one website exclusively for casual contacts and many “friends” which you only view once in a while. Use another website where you more frequently stay in touch with close friends and family. Separating your close contacts with more remote ones is a good idea so you don’t mix important contacts with rather unimportant ones.

Linkedin is an important website for networking with professional contacts and then you can switch to personal emails if you want the communications to be more intimate or private.

You can network with humans who have similar hobbies or pastimes and share your passion. Getting hints from others about good websites for your important interests can supplement your initial Google or search engine results.

Social media and the internet in general will probably minimize your need to watch TV. You won’t be wasting your time on rather trivial pursuits if you so desire.

Cons:

Social media can become overwhelming, especially if you are young, get addicted, and are not very selective in the humans that you interact with. Keeping track of a hundred or more friends or acquaintances can be mind boggling. Intensively communicating with a handful of friends can consume an incredible amount of time and be overwhelming. Too much social media can adversely affect your schoolwork, job performance, and offline human communications ability.

If you are heavily involved in politics a recent phenomenon is fake news and it is increasingly becoming harder and harder to tell whether a news report is reliable or possibly misinformation and false. If it is not a reputable source then there is always the possibility of unreliable or false information. A lie like a rumor can quickly spread through social media before you realize what the real truth is. The internet in general is increasingly being plagued with fraudulent activity in the form of scam websites, scams, and bad information in general.

Social media is also not very useful for group discussions so special software may have to be installed to get a group to communicate with each other simultaneously.

Social media can become addictive just like texting so become concerned and start cutting back if you are spending more than two hours daily communicating with others.

Especially young children can become victims of bullying, sexual abuse, and profanity. Further they may be insulted, put down, name called, ridiculed, and humiliated on social media by others. If you become a victim of abuse on social media then it can have some devastating psychological impacts on your mind and behavior. If you are not a fully developed personality incapable of turning off personal assaults then you may become depressed, miserable, or constantly involved in dysfunctional communications.

Too much social media can have negative impacts on your physical fitness and take away from valuable time spent with family. Becoming physically unfit and becoming unable to successfully communicate with family members is something which should be avoided at all costs.

Privacy issues are important because anything on social media is essentially a public communication. Potential employers may view your social media presence and make decisions about hiring based on what kind of friends you have and how much unfavorable information you may have revealed to the world about yourself. A social media presence which shows that you use profanity frequently, are promiscuous, and have friends with bad behavior or criminal records will doom you for any future employment. A delinquent childhood may doom a successful career as an adult in the working world.

The major drawback to social media is that you often can’t discriminate between quality vs. quantity interactions. You may quantitatively communicate much but the quality of your communications may be very bad or mostly trivial useless communications. Essentially you may be wasting your time, energy, and even money on social media and not bettering your life in any significant way.

Most social media is interested in making some money off of you. This often means that you will be deluged with ads for information, goods, and services which may make you buy things which you really don’t need and not only waste your time but also your money too.

Conclusion:

Social media is a tool which when used efficiently can help you to maintain contact with important humans in your life and become the source for interesting information and communication. Used inefficiently, social media can become a waster of your time, energy, and eventually money. So learn to use social media wisely and avoid all the pitfalls or cons which are a great temptation and can lead to addictive misery and failure in life.

Social media is a useful technological tool. Use it wisely by prioritizing your contacts, time and energy spent and you will greatly benefit. Use it unwisely and it can become quicksand which will slowly drown you in a sea of overwhelming addictive mostly trivial information.

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PRIORITIZE AND CATEGORIZE THE HUMANS IN YOUR LIFE!!!

Prioritize and list the humans that you need and want to spend the most time with.

Categorize your human contacts as close friends, important and unimportant job related friends, casual friends, and acquaintances.

Interact with important friends more frequently or spend more time, energy, effort, and money on them.

Network or try to bond with humans who potentially could further your present or future career or job.

Take a chance or spend some time on new friends that interest you or are useful to you.

Try to associate more with humans or friends who motivate you to improve.

Maintain contact with humans who are progressing in life.

For close friends choose the ones with integrity who are moral and honest, dependable, competent, and somewhat ambitious and motivating. You must also have these traits if you want to attract quality friends.

To have a friend you must be a friend, help out where appropriate, and be interesting to talk to. You will probably connect more readily with humans who are close to your age, have the same educational level, and have some mutual or common interests in life.

Avoid or exclude bad or useless time wasting friends from your life.

Many humans will enter and leave your life throughout a lifetime. Don’t be afraid to leave or minimize contact with old friends and don’t be afraid to try to make new and perhaps better friends or contacts.

Continue to selfeducate yourself, broaden your interests, and improve yourself because ultimately humans want someone interesting to interact with too.

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19 IMPORTANT TIPS AND GOOD HABITS FOR A BETTER LIFE!!!

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Eat healthy organic food and drink whenever possible, exercise a little if you have a sedentary job, and get adequate sleep. Do all three to stay healthy in the long duration.

Analyze yourself and find out if you are more of an extrovert or introvert or a combination of both which is what many humans are. If you have a good memory for names and enjoy interacting with humans then you may have the potential to be a leader and can work on perfecting your emotional intelligence skills. If you can’t remember names very well, don’t enjoy human drama, and prefer to work alone at something then you probably are an introvert and you should work at becoming an expert in your field of expertise. For the average human being competent or skillful at a job and having good social skills will lead to a balanced normal life which most are suited for and with which most will be happy with.

Maintain your integrity because honesty and morality, dependability, and competence creates trust and a good reputation with time. This enduring approach will be admired and respected by most humans.

Learn to budget your money and time and try to focus on what you truly NEED and not on what you WANT, to reduce your dependence on possessions. Everything that you do requires some time, energy, effort, and sometimes much money so learn to wisely budget not only your money but wisely budget your time, energy, and effort too.

Choose your friends wisely by preferring dependable, competent, trustworthy ones with integrity or those honest and moral ones. It also greatly helps if your closest friends motivate you to do better and are themselves humans with ambition and with a drive to be better.

Spend your time wisely and be selective in your friendships classifying them as potential close friends, interesting friends as a source for useful knowledge or shared interests, and possible future useful networking acquaintances. Spend more time with your priority friendships, less time with interesting friends, and minimal time with casual acquaintances.

Be kind to humans if they deserve it and try to help humans who ask for help, even if it is only some sound advice which you think you have and give.

Develop and maintain a curiosity in new useful knowledge, skills, and experiences. Ask many smart questions and get answers from those who might know. Failing at getting a satisfactory answer or acceptable opinions from other humans, you can resort to research or selfeducation to get expert answers.

One of the greatest aids in making change for the better easier is to keep a written journal of useful knowledge and useful new experiences which you have had every week if not every day. When you write things down your conscious and subconscious brain remembers better and when you start thinking you will be doing more than just impulsively rethinking old ideas and reliving old experiences. The real key to constructive personal change is to research and read selectively, write down what you think is important, think about what you have written, and do what inspires you to action.

Be selective in the useful knowledge which you acquire by reading useful books and articles on the internet, especially in your field of expertise or something which interests you much. Verbosity abounds in literary works and historical writings so preferably either read summaries of those works or learn to speed read.

Make short and long duration goals and try to achieve them with courageous determined action. Your confidence will increase as you achieve more and more small and some big goals. Greater confidence will make you feel that you are more in control of your life rather than at the mercy of other humans and bad circumstances.

Get really good at something which can be your work or some hobby that you enjoy much. Expertise is valued in this society and there is sometimes the potential of a monetary payoff or advancement in status. Try not to be a jack of all trades and a master of none. It may be a more interesting life but it usually doesn’t pay as well.

Learn to relax for a few minutes during a stressful work schedule but especially do something less stressful after a hard day’s work. Avoid premature burnout on the job with adequate relaxation periods during and after work.

Learn to laugh somewhat at your mistakes and failures to reduce stress but try to learn something from the experiences and change your behavior so that you don’t make the same mistake or fail the same way a second time.

Go for walks and expose yourself to nature even if it is largely with picture and video experiences. Natural beauty is inspiring and will teach you to appreciate the natural world around you, especially the majestic mountains, waterfalls, and wilderness plants and animals. Exposure to nature is often the best therapy, especially when you feel slightly down or depressed.

Don’t hold grudges or hold in resentment for too long because it will adversely affect relationships. We all get our share of insults, name calling, put downs, ridicule, and humiliation. If this verbal abuse comes from respected trustworthy individuals with integrity then they may have a very good reason to act that way. You should determine what set them off and try to correct or change your behavior the next time. If the abuse comes from a boss then you will either have to put up with it or change jobs.

Stay under emotional control and learn to overcome angry outbursts. Try to discuss topics and problems and not argue about them. If you are momentarily in no mood to discuss a problem then let some time pass first, or delay the discussion for another future time and place when you hopefully will be more in control of your emotions.

Use the internet more as a source for useful information mining and not primarily as a source for pure and often trivial entertainment which doesn’t teach you much worthwhile information. Beware of an addiction to social media because it can become a horrendous toxic time waster.

Finally we are all creatures of good and bad habits. Analyze yourself by researching good and bad habits and make two lists which apply to you. The next logical step would be to reduce or eliminate your bad habits and increase or add on good habits to replace the bad. Easier said than done because it will take much courage, determination, and action to bring about improved results. I have done some research myself so you can search my encyclopedic blog with relevant keywords. Best wishes.

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WHAT ARE THE 8 MOST IMPORTANT THINGS IN LIFE?

 

Good health,

A moral upbringing with integrity,

A useful education,

Continuing selfeducation,

A good job,

Family,

Friends,

Updated goals throughout life.

Although many humans have overcome minor and major health handicaps and succeeded in leading productive lives, it is much easier to live a life free of health concerns and genetically it is a real benefit to future generations if you have healthy parents. Having good health is nature’s wonderful gift which one should try to maintain for a lifetime.

In all your human interactions, having integrity and a strong moral foundation that you believe in will maximize trust with friends, coworkers, offspring, and spouse. You will have good relationships with humans that are important to you and not have many dysfunctional relationships.

Without integrity and a moral foundation you will never be respected and maybe even admired by other humans if that is your ultimate goal.

If you come from a dysfunctional and/or immoral family the odds that you will have integrity and moral soundness are very low. Without wholesome role models to imitate you will not be respected nor admired. You may get lucky and find a mentor or role model whom you can imitate who has integrity and morality but it will take incredible courage and determination to struggle against a bad environment and the corresponding bad influences.

Many eventually rebel in some way against traditional religious morality so here is an updated modern secular moral code which you should follow as much as possible and pass it on your impressionable offspring.

In nonemergency situations-don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.

A technological, computer science, and scientific education is a useful education with more good job opportunities and if you are stuck in a job poor Liberal arts field then you may have to continue with further useful education and selfeducation to make a decent go of it in an age when job security is increasingly a thing of the past due to a standardization of function, parts, and robotization.

One thing is almost certain that you will have many more than just one job in your lifetime so more useful education and much selfeducation is what you should anticipate getting more of while going from job to job.

When finally you and your significant other both have relatively good jobs then is the optimal time to consider marriage and the possibility of offspring which are a great responsibility financially and time wise.

Networking and having some close friends may be important for you but be selective in which ones you choose to spend your valuable time, energy, and money on.

As we go through life our immediate and long duration goals change so be ready to update your goals throughout a lifetime to fit your immediate and hoped for circumstances.

If you start at the very bottom with dysfunctional parents and friends severely addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, entertainment, and overspending, and have a useless education then your chances of doing well in the economy will be minimal. You will ultimately probably join the ranks of those on permanent welfare or end up in prison for immoral and/or criminal behavior.

The choice is yours.  Be moral, work smart and hard or face a future filled with unhappiness, depression and trapped in a seemingly hopeless modern environment.

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1127!!!

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