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8 QUESTIONS TO ASK STRANGERS IF YOU WANT TO GET FRIENDLY!!!

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18 IMPORTANT QUESTIONS TO ASK A POTENTIAL FRIEND!!!

When first meeting someone it is wise not to ask very personal questions but to be very general in the questions which you ask to determine whether he or she may make a good friend or even a potential mate. It is important to find out quickly whether you have some mutual interests upon which you can build a further relationship.

What kind of work do you do?

Are you married?

Do you have children?

Do you have any hobbies?

What do you do in your spare time?

Where do you live?

If you do find out that you have some things in common then you can continue to ask more detailed questions.

How long have you worked at your current job?

Are you happy with your job?

Do you intend to move up the ladder or will you be switching companies?

Where do you think you’ll be ten years from today?

What will you be doing in your retirement?

What do you like the most?

What do you hate the most?

What do you get angry about the most?

What do you do for entertainment?

Do you follow any sports?

If you could live your life over what would you change?

What characteristic do you most admire in others?

Once you have asked these questions and any others which popped up during the conversation you can further ask more intimate questions about family and friends and specifically what the spouse or friends do for a living. After asking the 18 or more questions you will be in a pretty good position to know if you have enough mutual interests to pursue the relationship or to merely categorize it as a casual acquaintance or relationship.

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15 QUESTIONS TO ASK A POTENTIAL FRIEND OR NETWORKING ACQUAINTANCE!!!

When asking an almost total stranger questions it is best to start off with rather general open ended questions and then to graduate to more personal or private questions if he or she is a possible future friend that interests you.

Also try not to ask questions like a machine gun one after the other but ask follow up questions and offer your own personal information relevant to the question. After a question is answered you can interject words such as interesting, I like that, how nice, etc. to show that you appreciate the response. Discuss relevant things along the way and don’t just act like your only interrogating that potential friend.

Sometimes you can start off with Hi, my name is x. What’s yours? Then start questioning.

Remember, you don’t have to ask all these questions at the first meeting or introduction to a new human because you will scare him or her away by acting like an aggressive interrogator.

What do you do for a living?

Have you always done x for a living?

Are you a local?

What do you do in your free time?

Do you have any hobbies?

How long have you had that hobby?

What does your spouse do?

Do you have any children?

After these few initial questions you can probe deeper with more personal questions.

Do you like your job?

How long have you lived here?

Do you have many friends?

What are your future plans?

What interesting places have you travelled to?

What is your favorite food or drink?

Are you on Facebook or Instagram?

After determining whether they are a potential future friend ask for personal information such as an email or telephone number and use phrases such as- It was great talking to you. It would be nice if we kept in touch. What is your email or cellphone number?

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THE TRUTH ABOUT CAMARADERIE+

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Camaraderie: n. mutual trust and friendship among humans who spend much time together

Friendship starts and grows stronger if mutual trust develops and there are many common interests in common. Close friendships can develop and still be maintained over a distance as long as relatively intense communication contact is maintained.

With camaraderie there is almost daily physical interaction and the bond is one of true close friendship but added is the fact that many things are done together in close proximity to one another.

Camaraderie can develop in a work environment or in a retirement home or in a facility for the handicapped where interaction exists almost on a daily basis. Comrades are very close friends doing many things together very frequently.

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MANY WAYS TO IMPROVE COMMUNICATION EFFICIENCY IN AN ORGANIZATION!!!

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Machine efficiency and communication efficiency for workers is not just a question of saving time with short, sweet, and to the point conversations. Worker satisfaction and good performance is also a function of how well they get along with other team members and the team leader if it is a team effort. Developing good interactions between team members and leaders takes time and much empathetic friendly interactions as part of the actual work being done. Developing empathetic friendly relationships takes time and it really means short duration time inefficiency to get long duration relationship efficiency in the entire organization.

Develop a goal(s) or mission statement which the organization has which motivates workers to promote the mission because it means that it is a worthwhile value based cause which will maintain a desirable good reputation for the organization.

“Best products and/or services and excellent customer care which leads to satisfied repeat customers” is one example of a mission statement which few organizations can actually fulfill realistically.

“Sustainable products and/or services and great customer care” is another mission statement for innovative companies which may not have the best products on the market yet.

Visionary statements for the organization are also useful which summarize the general goal(s). Here are a few examples for nonprofit organizations:

The Nature Conservancy: Our vision is to leave a sustainable world for future generations.

Ducks Unlimited is wetlands sufficient to fill the skies with waterfowl today, tomorrow and forever.

WWF: We seek to save a planet, a world of life. Reconciling the needs of human beings and the needs of others that share the Earth…

San Diego Zoo: To become a world leader at connecting people to wildlife and conservation.

Get feedback on your vision from employees on a regular basis and ask employees to interact with customers to get feedback on how good the products and services are for them and whether they are helping to promote the vision.

Core values can be written down but you can also have many more written down for reviewing once in a while.

Bright Horizons Family Solutions states its core values as Honesty, Excellence, Accountability, Respect, and Teamwork.

Some of Zappos ten core values are more vague or open ended and are for example: embrace and drive change, pursue growth and learning, create fun and a little weirdness, and embrace and drive change.

Integrity, honesty, sincerity, dependability, competence, trustworthiness, friendliness, empathy, and satisfied happy customers should be the high priority values which should be promoted by an organization and they are basically unchangeable from year to year.

There may be leadership priorities which change from year to year dealing with expansion plans and new products and/or services but other than that your mission statement or statements and company values should not change from year to year but should be company standards to be followed on a yearly basis.

A perennial priority is how to increase the efficiency of the organization. This means evaluating the quality of the staff and products, trying to increase revenue, cutting costs, and increasing customer satisfaction. Without priority number one or increasing customer satisfaction no revenue will increase, cutting costs may demoralize the workforce, and there won’t be any money left over to improve the quality of the products and/or services being offered.

Technology is the way to go in cost cutting but if this means losing good interaction with the customer and turning it into an impersonal numbers game of big data or unreliable statistics then the company will fail in the long duration.

Establishing empathy with the workforce is time consuming and may seem inefficient unnecessary conversation. The truth is that a workforce will become more connected, cooperative, and motivated to do well if the leadership takes time out to know some personal goals and opinions of workers who will then feel more important in the organization and feel that their contributions really matter. Empathizing with the workforce minimizes the possibility that the workforce will be demoralized and makes them feel that they are more than just a replaceable cog in the organization.

As a leader of a meeting you should always keep these things in mind and act appropriately:

Assign responsibilities to workers which they can competently fulfill on their own or with the help of other staff members.

Focus intently on each conversation and actively participate if necessary with questions or by getting feedback.

Complimenting for work well done sometimes in the presence of others should dominate the occasional need to criticize in private for work not well done.

Acknowledge humans in a meeting, sometimes by name, so that they don’t feel left out.

Try to sense another’s good or bad emotions and react accordingly.

Say you’re sorry or apologize if it is your mistake.

Make improvement suggestions in private if possible since it is a form of sometimes embarrassing criticism.

Ask for action and try to keep ordering, commands, or demands for emergency situations only.

Be dependable and try to answer emails, phone calls, text messages within 24 hours.

Treat humans as partners and try not to ignore or talk down to them.

Negotiate with a win win attitude for both sides rather than a win only mindset for one side.

Offer active help sometimes in the form of suggestions or tools for workers at work and even outside of work which will improve their performance.

Monitor progress with guidelines rather than strict rules and controls, or don’t micromanage and destroy a necessary sense of autonomy.

Plan social time were workers can connect with each other and sometimes the leadership too.

Greet humans that you see first thing in the morning to avoid being rude.

Offer help or sympathy in times of illness or death of relatives.

Compliments show appreciation but it can also be done with affirmations, one on one quality time, giving help when needed, giving privileges and rewards, and rare pats on the back or appropriate physical gestures such as smiles and thumbs up.

Introduce humans with affirming statements which means adding something good about them other than just using name alone in the introduction.

Keep in touch with your workers by occasional surprise visits to them and find out how they are doing and if they have anything to complain about. Leaders isolated or stuck in an ivory tower leading an organization means inevitable communications breakdown which is bad for the company or organization in the long duration.

As a team leader don’t just focus on your star workers or performers but give others a chance to prove or show themselves to be competent workers too.

Tone of voice, especially the angry or unsatisfied kind and connecting first before delivering content is important or you risk placing workers in a defensive unreceptive mood.

When someone does something for you then a minimum thank you should always follow.

My colleague is always preferable to calling someone your employee or one of my people.

Seeking and sharing the ideas and opinions of others is vital in honest organization knowledge interactions and instead of confidential secrecy the source of the opinions and ideas should be acknowledged and not plagiarized or stolen:

Actively listen and sometimes rephrase the content in your own words to verify that you are not misunderstanding the communication.

Don’t interrupt a speaking human unless the speaking is becoming incoherent or is wandering off the topic being discussed.

Being brief, sweet, and to the point is preferable but there are some humans who need an expanded response with a real life example, an anecdote, or short story for clear understanding.

Sharing past experiences, especially relevant mistakes makes for more connected trusting relationships because humans empathize with others who share their imperfections with you and don’t assume or try to demonstrate an air of unrealistic infallible perfection.

A request for critical actions should be in writing as often as possible with a checklist of things to be done in the proper order if possible. Clarity is essential with critical things and nothing clarifies better than the written word which speaking alone can’t accomplish without misunderstandings developing largely because of bad listening or forgetfulness.

Before offering impulsive improvements on someone’s idea take some time to reflect or think about it, especially if you are not that certain that your improvement is really a better way of doing things with a proven historical track record.

Strong relationships often mean more frequent communications so be sure to stay in touch regularly with important humans in the organization.

Keep humans who should care informed about new developments that you become aware of so that important personnel are not kept in the dark too long.

Don’t ruin trusting honest relationships by attacking anyone who disagrees with you. Rather calmly ask for reasons why they disagree and whether they have a better alternative which will work. After hearing them out you can still disagree with their proposition(s) and thank them for their important input.

In a group or one on one, after sharing your vision or ideas and opinions and why you think they will work, ask for other ideas and/or opinions from others and encourage contributions or feedback from volunteering members. Team effort means that each member should have the courage to speak up and be acknowledged for their input if they chose to do so, especially if it is different and hopefully better than what the team leader or any member plans to do. Some team members will respond better one on one with their ideas and opinions so provide that luxury as necessary.

Open ended question and answer periods can be encouraged and some time can be set aside after the mass meetings for a question and answer period or it can be done in private through emails or social media.

Post event feedback can also be done to find out or analyze what went well, what went wrong, and how a future event can be improved upon.

Task and relationship excellence are two distinct areas of expertise. Managers and team leaders need to have good emotional intelligence or relationship excellence and most employees or organizational members must focus primarily on task excellence and relationships may not play a dominant role in their working lives with the organization. For managers and team leaders the following are important communication skills:

Social skills are good for networking and developing casual acquaintances with occasional potential of becoming future strong relationships. Relationships are more important in an organization because it means a closer connection with key members of the organization who should be loyal members interested in promoting the success of organizational goals and should as much as possible be members whom you can rely upon in times of need and personal indecisiveness. More intimate joys and pain can be shared with good relationships and the deeper connections make for the achievement of sustainable superior performance.

Commitment, courage, and perseverance are necessary in developing and maintaining deep relationships because frankly not everyone is as interested in relationship excellence as you might personally be. Some humans just naturally have a tendency to spurn your efforts at connecting at a deeper level and rejection is not something which most humans can live through without feeling frustrated, disappointed, and wanting to abandon further contact.

According to one study connection seems to start to break down if membership exceeds about 150 humans so keep this in mind when designing organizational structures which you hope will operate at optimum connective efficiency. Just as in personal relationships fewer friends means more intimacy and many friends usually translates into many acquaintances and not many true friends. Prioritize the time you spend with key members of the organization depending on their relative importance to the organization and their relative importance to you personally also.

A group directory guide can be helpful which lists the responsibilities, strengths, expertise, and interests outside the group. This way you can quickly review a group member which you may be contacting in the immediate future and not have to start from scratch getting acquainted with them and wasting valuable mutual time.

Chronic stress is a relationship disconnector so learn to manage yours better if you feel you have it.

Not everyone in an organization needs to be a servant leader or one who coordinates task excellence, facilitates connections between members, and is a model and mentor for others in character strengths and virtues. In general the more such leadership members an organization has the more prosperous or better off it should be.

Hire for competence and character and conduct interviews with serious candidates with more than one interviewer present and hopefully someone who will have direct authority over them or perhaps even a key fellow employee with whom they will be working. What work did you like the best, what kind of work did you excel in, what kind of work didn’t you like, what kind of work were you most proud of, and what are your long duration goals are just some of the character probing questions which should be asked along with competence determining questions.

Provide the tools and training necessary for success on the job and if this sounds like an apprenticeship program then that is a close analogy. Of course hiring someone with all the tools and training necessary is the best policy and is a reason why experience is so important but even the best candidates will still need some on the job tools and training after joining a new organization or business.

Just compensation should be provided and details discussed prior to hiring and repeated without major changes after the hiring is complete and at any time after the hiring.

Knowing your team’s strengths and vulnerabilities is important and standardized personality and/or competence tests can be given or independent private companies can be hired which make the important evaluations for you.

What is of major importance is listing desirable personality characteristics and prioritizing them in order of importance for the specific members of a business or organization which you are leading. If an organization can’t prioritize personality characteristics then much time will be wasted on trying to inspire or change characteristics which minimally impact organizational cohesion.  

For example, empathy, good listening and polite interruption skills are very important for charitable or welfare worker characteristics but not that important for skilled technological experts working in relative seclusion from other employees. A shitty social personality may actually not be a major drawback for a technical expert to whom relationship excellence is not that important a factor in determining job performance excellence.

Finally the special layout or floor design of an organization can have considerable effect on promoting cohesion within an organization. Randomly isolating all members in prison like cubicles is not promoting cohesive social or relationship interaction.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT MERIT+

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In the liberal arts who you know is frequently more important than what you know and factors such as friendship, nepotism, seniority, marital status, gender, political or ideological affiliation play dominant roles in deciding who gets the job and who gets to be promoted.

Get a recommendation from someone within the organization and chances are that you will get hired over someone who is much more qualified and maybe even more experienced. Make the right human connections and your chances of being promoted in a job also increase greatly.

Being promoted based on merit is more probable in the science and technology fields but even here there is much peer review and if your ideas or opinions vary widely from the ongoing dogma then your chances of being published or promoted are severely reduced.

For monopoly government and monopoly businesses the only logical counterbalance to job injustice is publishing resumes and job performance statistics on the internet for public view. This way someone with a superior resume and better job performance history could potentially apply to be promoted or even hired for a job.

Yes, your good personality and ability to work effectively in a team are very important too and you have to have basic emotional intelligence but your objective performance and resume should be public knowledge as much as possible.

Before more humans will be promoted primarily based on merit society will have to undergo somewhat radical change and you can learn about some of the important details facing this desirable change in my previously published article on the subject of merit.

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9 TRUE REASONS WHY MEN DO AND FREQUENTLY SHOULD GET MARRIED!!!

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Marriage is the best way to give offspring a stable, secure, relationship learning environment.

Marriage is a legal document which does not condone adultery and gives a man a sense of pride, rightful possession, and responsibility to spouse and offspring.

Marriage is a commitment during the good and bad times and theoretically guarantees more than a fair weather friendship. It is a source of emotional and sometimes financial support in time of need during a hoped for lifetime.

Sharing the good and bad times makes the good times better and the bad not so bad or traumatic. Managing life as a committed team is frequently more satisfying.

A man would like to improve upon the family he never had or had but with needed improvements so that he can perhaps someday be proud of his offspring legacy.

He loves the idea of committing to someone who accepts and supports him with all his weaknesses or faults.

Safe and reliable sex is something which he enjoys.

He has probably fallen in love with a woman’s looks and personality and the rare man has also fallen in love with the woman’s smarts.

He can financially support a family or support a nanny for a working wife. Of all the reasons to get married this is the most important one which should almost always come first.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT LONELINESS

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Loneliness: n. a sensing frequently caused by a loss and/or an absence of companionship and/or friendship and a desire for companionship and/or friendship

The greatest feeling of loneliness arises when we lose someone really close to us like a spouse through death or divorce or lose a close friend. A sense of loneliness can also exist if we have no close relationships with humans and we exist for long periods of time without anything important to do.

Humans are a social animal but there have been historical exceptions of some mountain men who lived relatively successful isolated lives. They can’t be considered to be lonely because they were involved in a day to day struggle for survival which eliminated lonely thoughts from their lives to a large extent. If you are busy doing something that you really like which does not include humans then loneliness may not be a factor to consider and pay much attention to.

It is the lonely elderly and lonely single humans without friends who sometimes have trouble coping with their loneliness and sometimes even suffer mental and health problems as a result of their isolation.

The key to combating loneliness is getting busy doing something which you like which may not involve humans. A passionate hobby may be the solution to loneliness but you can also try making new social contacts via clubs, internet blogging, social networks, or doing some volunteer work for an organization.

If you can’t make and maintain good contacts with humans or have pets then you may have to live alone but that does not necessarily mean that you have to feel lonely if you are doing something which you like much. Loneliness is frequently a state of mind when you have nothing to do for extended periods of time.

If you are having those problems then fill in that time with some hopefully useful activity. Even if you are bedridden you can still read, listen to radio, watch TV, and surf the internet to occupy or use up your free time.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT COMPANIONSHIP

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Companionship: n. being friendly and using time with one or more human(s) and/or animal(s) who are frequently only acquaintances and who sometimes  become friends

Companionship is one step removed from friendship and it is humans with whom you interact in a friendly way but don’t consider them to be your friend. Frequently companionship is hired such as a companion for an elderly disabled human who needs some help getting through the day with someone to talk to and do some basic chores.

Pets are frequently considered companions of disabled and sometimes lonely humans but the reality is that pets like dogs and cats can in fact become just like family members asking to be fed and paid attention to and in return offer joy and comfort to their owners who even talk to them and communicate in meaningful ways.

Given enough interaction time a companion may evolve into a mild friendship since long duration time spent with someone frequently means that the human bonding gets stronger and that is a sign of friendship between two or more humans. Initially joining a club or organization for companionship with shared interests frequently leads to friendships with some of the club or organization members.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT FRIENDSHIP

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There are good and bad friends, very close friends, friends, and casual friends and all of them need a different approach.

The best friends are close friends with whom you can be honest, sincere, and develop dependable trusting relationships on a level of intimacy bordering on marriage. You frequently have frequent interaction with close friends.

Regular friends are humans with which you don’t interact so frequently and may not share your intimate secrets with for fear of public embarrassment or criticism.

Casual friends are humans with which you interact with on the job or see publicly but don’t know too much about.

If you and your friends are having lousy lives filled with failure, pessimism, and bad addictive lifestyles then it is time that you stopped the downward spiral, drop those bad friendships, and start looking for new or better ones.  Misery loves company and if you are miserable chances are that you have some miserable friends which trap you into your dysfunctional lifestyle.

If you are optimistic, happy, honest, sincere, and dependable then your chances of getting good friends who will trust, respect, and maybe even admire you will increase.

It is a fact of life that most of the best friends are humans around your own age, are of the same sex, have the same educational level, are in the same profession, have the same common interests, have similar incomes, and are single or married just like you.

 If you are unemployed or working at minimum wage, have a bad education, and have bad communication skills then don’t expect your friends to be wealthy, educated, with family, and interested in spending some of their time, energy, and money on you.

The truth is that good friendships frequently have many things in common and great differences in age or lifestyle are frequently not compatible.

Finally if you are unhappy, pessimistic, and unemployed with shitty friends then drop your shitty friends, get your shit together by Googling about your problems or getting professional advice, and only then start looking for new friends if you feel that you want them. Sometimes staying single without friends is the smartest thing to do until your job life and shitty feelings improve.

 

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11 SIGNS OF HAPPINESS WHICH YOU HAVE OR CAN HAVE!!!

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Humans have their ups and downs in life but here are some signs that you are probably a relatively happy human and will probably stay that way.

 

You share your happiness

You compliment humans appropriately and are generally kind to them thus trying to spread your happiness to others too who will probably reciprocate with similar happy compliments and acts of kindness thus increasing your happiness in the future also.

 

You don’t worry about the little problems or mistakes in your life

You focus your attention on the good things in your life most of the time and don’t let minor annoyances ruin your generally optimistic good mood. You don’t get overly upset when humans don’t text you back, you get stuck in traffic, you spill coffee, you miss your favorite show, you don’t feed the pet, or you don’t put out the garbage on time.

 

You are grateful for and get satisfaction from the little things in life

You enjoy spending time with family, friends, your favorite show or music, and enjoy exercising occasionally. If you are a loner then you have interesting things to occupy your time which gives you satisfaction.

 

You revel in other human’s successes

You enjoy hearing about other human’s successes and frequently join them in their happiness which adds to the total moments of happiness which you can experience in life. You are happy about your own achievements but also happy about the achievements of others who may be important in your life.

 

You get satisfaction from doing things in the present

It turns out that a human is happier engrossed in doing something than thinking about or daydreaming about doing something in the future. When your mind wanders then you are not as happy as when you are doing something in the moment.

 

You have good relationships with humans or a good relationship with yourself

Good trusting relationships with humans can increase your happy experiences but even loners can be happy with themselves if they occupy their time doing things which make them happy when they are alone.

 

You know how to handle your stress

You know how to take breaks, meditate, exercise, or spend some time talking to friends to reduce stress during peak stress periods.

 

You try to maintain an optimistic outlook even in the face of failure or pessimistic outcomes

You are determined not to let temporary failure, mistakes, or other bad events permanently ruin your generally optimistic outlook. You generally have a can do attitude.

 

You prefer associating with happy humans

Happiness is contagious and if you are happy and show it then other humans who are either happy or want to be happy will gravitate to you.

 

You set short duration and long duration goals and achieve them

You are a goal setter and achiever which increases your sense of self-worth and makes you a happier human.

 

You sleep better

There have been studies which show that happy humans get better sleep so if you are not having any problems with sleep which is either not sleeping enough or sleeping too much then you are probably relatively happy in life.

 

CONCLUSION:

Happiness is contagious so if you try to associate with humans who are happy themselves then you will increase your chances of remaining happy. A happy optimistic attitude is ultimately your responsibility if you want it. Apply happiness tips to your life.

If you are a loner it will be harder to be happy but you can still be happy by doing satisfying things in life which do not necessarily include other humans. If you work towards and get a good paying job then you will be able to afford good healthy food and some material luxuries which are a good foundation for future family relationships if you want them.

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8 IMPORTANT FRIENDSHIP SKILLS WHICH ARE ALSO GOOD MARITAL SKILLS

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You both recognize that frequently you are not really looking for advice on solving a problem or changing a bad event which happened to you but are just interested in optimistic emotional support.

You both introduce each other to new ideas, experiences, activities, and events which you consider noteworthy and potentially helpful in your lives.

You both know how to keep secrets or confidences which would be embarrassing or hurtful to your reputations if they were made public knowledge.

You both know how to give honest and sincere feedback without being emotionally hurtful, too blunt, condescending, or cruel.

You both show great interest in the important things going on in your lives with more communication about those important things on a daily or weekly basis.

You both can make each other laugh occasionally without resorting to hurtful ridicule.

You both try to be reliable by fulfilling any promises which you make, especially showing up on time for appointments.

You both have short and long duration goals and mutually support each other in trying to reach them mostly with optimistic emotional support but it can infrequently also be financial support or making useful social connections.

 

 

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4 MAJOR ROADBLOCKS TO FUTURE SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS

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The 4 major roadblocks to your future success and happiness are your bad impulsive habits, the bad impulsive habits of others, a bad job, and bad money management. Start taking actions today and tomorrow which will start removing these roadblocks.

Most of us have large egos and place the blame for an absence of success or unhappiness on other humans or other things and circumstances. We are quick to criticize other humans and the world for our problems and fail to realize that we are responsible for our own success and happiness to a large extent. Even a bum can be happy in life if he or she has enough to eat and drink and not much more.

Your hopes and dreams may be too unrealistic and you may have to downsize them to consider yourself a happy success. You may also have to exclude the trivial and frequently impulsive bad habits which you have developed over the years and are probably stuck with unless you shock yourself into self-realization and reality and decide to do something constructive about it.

You may be emotionally immature, bad in your relationship skills, and bad at managing your finances. Have all three handicaps and your life is probably a very unhappy and unsuccessful one.

Excessive pessimism, jealousy, anger, fear, doubt, selfishness, pride, criticism, and impulsiveness  may not only make you emotionally and mentally handicapped but will make you dysfunctional in your relationships with others too. I have written blogs on how to reduce your emotional immaturity and be happier but you will find no details in this blog article.

Google or Bing anger, fear, etc. and learn more about them and what can be done to reduce their bad effects in your life. Don’t lie to yourself that there is no room for personal improvement but become more introspective, analytical, or knowledgeable about your own emotional weaknesses and discover ways to exclude their bad effects on you and others.

If you are not honest, sincere, reliable, and truthful with others then you will almost never have trusting relationships with others. You can end relationships with others who are untrustworthy and improve your happiness since you will have less problems created by other bad humans in your life.

If you are stuck in a bad job start preparing for a better one and if you are spending too much money then learn to budget it which is an absent skill in this profligate society.

Here are 6 additional things which you should try not to do if you want to optimize your success and happiness:

DON’T LET THE TRAUMA OF PAST MISTAKES AND A FEAR OF MAKING NEW MISTAKES CONTROL AND DECREASE YOUR CONFIDENCE IN MAKING NEW DECISIONS IN YOUR LIFE AND ACTING ON THEM

Everyone makes mistakes throughout life and the smart ones learn from their mistakes and have the courage to act further and make new mistakes which they can apologize for, learn from, and hopefully make new and better decisions in the future.  Some humans get wiser with age and it is primarily because they have made many mistakes in the past and have learned not to repeat them again in their lives.

DON’T TRY TO BUY HAPPINESS OR IMITATE PROFLIGATE LIFESTYLES

One of the biggest tragedies happen when humans try to find happiness in impulsive shopping or trying to keep up with their neighbors or friends who are profligate spenders going into ever greater debt in their lives. You should be looking for happiness in trying to get a better job or improving the job which you now have.

Living simply with an emphasis on personal improvement, family, close friends, and modest spending habits is the true road to fulfilling happiness if you strongly feel that you are too old to change to a better job. Make the best with what you have now.

STOP BEING LAZY OR PROCRASTINATING

It is very easy to stay with our old impulsive bad habits of doing very little different in our lives and putting off until tomorrow all the little things which could improve your life.  Achieving new worthwhile goals in life require action towards those goals and sitting on your butt too frequently and for too long will delay any progress indefinitely.

Your goal may merely be to eat healthier but if you don’t start by researching and buying better food then the healthy food will never reach your stomach. Important long duration goals must be done in smaller successive steps and if you never start with the first or smaller steps or constantly feel that you are not ready for them then it is a guarantee that you will not reach your long duration goals.

SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME WITH THE WRONG OR BAD HUMANS

Nothing will stop your successful progress and achievement in life more than pessimistic, problem filled, untrustworthy friends. Also the confident optimistic liars or BS artists with their bad addictions such as compulsive shopping, gambling, drug dependencies, etc. will keep you in a dysfunctional rut from which you will not be able to escape. Drop these bad friends as soon as possible and start replacing them with better role models.

TRYING TO SATISFY THE NEEDS AND WANTS OF OTHERS AND SACRIFICING YOUR OWN NEEDS AND WANTS TOO FREQUENTLY

The best human relationships are mutual ones where each human gives and gets something from a relationship and it is a relationship of mutual helping and mutual interdependence and sharing. Loving others too much and not loving yourself enough is a sad form of unrequited love where one party benefits at the expense of the other and it is a master slave relationship.

If you feel that you are becoming someone’s slave and are very unhappy doing so then it is time to change the relationship into a more mutually beneficial one. You can’t always easily change a spouse, offspring, or close friend who is tyrannizing you but if you let things go on as before you will never get true satisfaction and improvement of your own needs and wants.

Have the courage to demand small changes in the relationship which may eventually become big changes in the relationship but recognize that there should be limits to your patience. If nothing seems to work then start making plans to leave the relationship and start a new more fulfilling life on your own or with someone new and better.

DON’T LIVE WITHOUT A SCHEDULE

I want to change my life but I don’t have the time to do it. The answer is start scheduling your life by the clock even when you are away from work and you will be surprised how much free time you can actually find to improve yourself and research new ways of doing so.

There are so many trivial things which you are doing in life which waste your time, energy, and money and you should stop or reduce doing them as soon as possible.

You are probably getting some satisfaction out of a bad habit so one way to reduce it is to spend less time or money on it. If you can go cold turkey on a bad habit and replace it with a better one then this is the best option. Spend less time on a trivial activity or replace it with a better one is how to schedule your time wisely.

Set new or better priorities in your life, put them on your schedule, and start spending more time, energy, and money on them and not on the more trivial activities in your life.

 

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32 QUESTIONS WHICH INCREASE INTIMACY IN A RELATIONSHIP

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To get more intimate with a human or develop a stronger bond you can ask a human to share their opinions, desires or wants, and goals in life. Other than goals in life you can ask a human to share opinions on job, personality, and lifestyle. Most of these questions will solidify a business relationship but many may also be used to solidify personal relationships.

 

Questions about job or career:

What would you be doing if you were not at your current job?

What more would you want in your career?

What was your biggest failure in business?

If you were to start a company from scratch, what values would you base it on?

Did you ever want to be something other than your career choice in life?

What do you think you will be doing 5 or 10 years from now?

 

Questions about personal goals:

If you knew you would die in a year suddenly, how would you change living now if at all?

Who influenced you the most in life and what did they do?

What would you most regret not having done at the end of your life?

What kind of impact do you have on people?

What’s the most important lesson that you learned in life?

If you ruled the world, what would you change on day one?

Who are your three most important people in your life?

 

 

Questions about personality:

What is one word which would describe yourself as a child?

What movie or novel character do you most identify with?

What  quality or characteristic of yours would you like humans to least emulate?

What characteristic do you most admire in others?

If you could change one thing about how you were raised as a child, what would that be?

What would you change about yourself if you could?

What superpower would you like to have?

What opinion do your coworkers have of you?

What are you most afraid of and what’s it stopping you from doing?

What kind of humans do you most dislike?

 

Questions about lifestyle:

What are your favorite pastimes away from work?

How do you recharge?

What one thing would you like to be remembered for?

When are you the happiest?

What personally are you most proud of?

What one memory do you most treasure?

What would a perfect day look like for you?

How do you act when your stressed out?

What is your ideal lifestyle which you would live if you could?

 

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6 TRUTHS ABOUT FRIENDSHIP

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Misfortune tests the sincerity of friends.

 

When you need friends to make your misfortune more bearable with mental or financial help, this can become a time when the advantages of true friendship are tested.  If your misfortune is great enough you may lose supposed good friends in droves and you will truly have to reassess who your true friends really are.

 

A friend in need is a friend indeed.

 

If you still have a friend after a disaster in life, you can call them a true friend.

 

To have a friend, be a friend.

 

This just states that friendship is a two way street. Being friendly also causes others to want to be friendly in many instances.

 

Be gracious to all humans, but choose the best to be your friends.

 

Bad friends or too many friends can waste your time, energy, and money so be selective and choose the ones that want to improve themselves and can help to support you, at least emotionally, in your goal to make a better life for yourself.

 

 

A friend not only supports who you are, but brings out the best in you.

 

A true friend not only gives you moral support but encourages you to be the best that you can be and sincerely wants your life to improve.

 

If your friend gossips about others, she gossips about you too.

A gossiping friend is not interested in the truth about humans and will not make a trustworthy friend. If you have secrets which you don’t want to become public knowledge then drop the gossiping friend.

 

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10 MORE THINGS TO DO WHICH WILL INCREASE YOUR HAPPINESS

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Tell the truth

Lying stresses you out trying to remember the lies so you don’t make a mistake and reveal the truth, it reduces your self esteem, and makes you unlikable when humans discover that you have been lying. Honesty or telling the truth is the bond which makes close relationships possible and creates trust in a relationship which will create much happiness knowing that your relationship is secure.

Create personal control

Happy humans chose their own destinies and don’t let others run their lives. Being in complete control makes one confident and optimistic with much sense of self esteem.

Accept what you can’t change

Life may seem unfair or unjust at times and you can unnecessarily obsess unhappily over it. Just focus on the things which you can change and make the changes which will make you feel good with a sense of achievement.

Live simply

Remove clutter from your life and simplify it. Bigger and more is frequently not better and more efficient but more stressful and costly. Drive a smaller car, live in a smaller house, live with less material wealth and less credit card debt and you will be happier for it.

Eat healthily and eat less

Eat as much certified organic food as possible and you will have more energy and a sense of well being without the need for sugar highs and other artificial stimulants.  Most of us lead sedentary lives and that means that most of us only have to eat about one varied meal a day to stay healthy. You will have better long duration health and this will make your life happier without illnesses plaguing your existence.

Exercise moderately

Zoloft is an artificial drug stimulant which deceptively increases your sense of happiness which is exactly what moderate exercise will do for your mental health and sense of well being. You don’t have to be fanatical about exercising and you can go for weeks and months without it but you will increase your body and mental health with exercise and this will keep you happier.

Focus on important relationships

Unless you are a salesperson and need many repeat customers spend more time on family and close friends. You will find much more happiness with them than with a hundred and one casual relationships.

Never seek approval from everyone

You can’t please everyone all the time so don’t start out on this road to disappointment. If your family, close friends, and boss approve of you then that is all the affirmation that you should need. Worrying about what other humans think of you will just cause unnecessary unhappiness.

Talk less and listen more

Many humans inefficiently waste much time talking too much. Learn to be short and sweet in your conversations and let others do most of the talking and listen and learn as much as you can about them. Humans will think that you are smart and caring if you pay attention to them and not focus so much on yourself.

Avoid social comparison

If you compare yourself with others you will develop a sense of superiority over others and feel bad about being less successful socially than others. Praise all humans for their progress in life no matter how small it may be and stay focused on making progress in your own life at a rate which you can comfortably live with.

 

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5 FACTS ABOUT CLOSE FRIENDSHIPS

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You can be honest, sincere, and truthful with close friends because they are honest, sincere, and truthful with you.

Close friends will accept you with your flaws and the mistakes that you make in life without advertising or gossiping about them with others. You can let your hair down or be yourself without fear that some of the bad thingsthat you do will become public knowledge in the future and threaten your reputation. They are loyal.

Close friends share at least one or more of your passions in life and sharing information and activities about those passions on a regular basis is what bonds you together.

Close friends will try to help you in times of need with reassuring emotional support, advice when needed, and occasionally even financial advice or help.

The farther away a close friend is and the less you interact or communicate with them on a regular basis the less intense your friendship becomes.

 

Conclusion: If you want a close friendship make sure you have one or more passions in common which you can share and discuss and participate in. Be honest and truthful with your friend but not in a mean or very critical way. Don’t gossip about any personal flaws, mistakes, hardships, and personal secrets which they may have.

Nurture your close friendship by investing enough personal time with your friend so that it doesn’t gradually fade and maybe even disappear through neglect.

If you have one close friend in life consider yourself fortunate because most people have no close friends!!!!!!

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HOW TO REALLY HELP HUMANS

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Helping someone frequently means an investment of time, energy, and rarely money. If money is the issue then it is best not to give any but recommend that they better manage their finances.

Loaning money to friends and relatives in need frequently results in broken friendships and relationships because the money is never paid back and lingering resentment ends the relationship sooner or later.

If they are employed recommend short duration loan companies like Amscot to get emergency money and if they are unemployed recommend that they apply for food stamps but refuse to give financial help.

Most financial problems are caused by overwhelming credit card debt, not budgeting money, and not having a savings account for financial emergencies. My evergreen book HOW TO SAVE MONEY is a very good reference for humans with money problems.

Very frequently when a friend is in trouble all they really want and frequently need is emotional support and empathy with their plight. Unless they ask for advice don’t always offer some because they will assume that you are criticizing them for not leading their lives in a proper way and may resent the advice given. If they do ask for help or advice then do the following.

Helping a friend is usually in the form of good intentioned advice after listening carefully to the problems that the friend is expressing and experiencing. Use your personal life experiences and personal knowledge to add to helpful advice which you think you can make.

If you can’t give advice maybe you can refer your friend to someone who can better help. Friendship is usually sharing life experiences both conversationally and physically.

If a friend seems to need help or advice give it to the best of your ability and be sincere. If there is something physical that you can do for a friend to help and it will not cost too much of your valuable time and effort and money then do it.

Some people just have friends so that they can “hang out” and have some company to use up their free time. Don’t do this because it will not help your life if you are not learning anything new or not experiencing a pleasurable pastime together.

Sometimes people make a mistake and don’t realize they have made one. Go through a description of their actions and see if they will begin to realize what the mistake was. If they still don’t see that they made a mistake or mistakes be sincere and communicate “That seems like a mistake(s) to me. What do you think?” If this question has no response then you will probably not be able to help in any rational way and you are probably wasting your time and should move on.

Everyone has the infrequent experience which greatly upsets and challenges their belief that they have the answer to everything. When something is troubling a friend or an acquaintance ask “what’s wrong?” and then listen to them express their fearful experience. It may upset you also but do your best to tap into your similar experiences and personal knowledge to give reassurance or some useful knowledge which might relate to the upsetting experience and try to emotionally calm the upset party.

When a person suffers a health fright their fear will often be difficult to understand. If it is a life threatening experience like a heart attack there is cause to be upset and only reassurance and listening to their fears will not help.

Suggest that most health warnings or problems are usually not fatal except for cancer and that with time the body will heal itself and the health fright will go away with the right nutrition and a localized exercise and/or rest for the area of pain. High blood pressure and signs of diabetes can be treated naturally without the need for constant medication. Offer help in the form of nutritional advice found in my blogs and you may succeed in calming down the health fright.

Helping someone to plan a visit is a logistical problem as well as a problem of scheduling things to do which may or may not be mutually beneficial. If the visiting guest can’t sleep over then suggest a nearby motel or hotel. Suggest a rental car or promise to drive them around in your own car if they don’t use their own car.

If they are not a close family relative or relatives then suggest possible interesting tourist sights which they could prepare for and visit. If it is a family affair and everyone wants to sleep over then ask them to bring air mattresses or provide them with some which you purchase yourself.

Helping someone prepare for a job interview may not be your strong point so suggest that they go on the internet and Google the information needed. In a nutshell your appearance is important and your resume should be sent prior to the interview and you should let the interviewer ask most of the questions to which you should respond in a sincerely and truthfully and enthusiastically where necessary.

Basically the job interviewer wants to know if you are experienced or a fast learner or are going to show up for work on time and if you seem to have an optimistic attitude and communication skills which will help in the job environment. Further education in the job field may also help to land a future job.

In this selfish, overly exposed to sex, modern society many humans need help with dating, family relationships, and finding close friendships. Many of my evergreen blogs cover these topics but if you want serious help and knowledge read one or more of my evergreen books LOVEALL, MODERN PARENTING, AND GOOD MODERN BEHAVIORS.

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YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT TO START BONDING WITH A POTENTIAL NEW FRIEND OR DATE

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THERE IS GROWING SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE THAT SHOWING OR REVEALING SOME OF YOUR IMPERFECTIONS TO POTENTIAL NEW FRIENDS OR DATES IS NOT CATASTROPHIC BUT IN FACT WILL HELP THE BONDING OR RELATIONSHIP TO GROW STRONGER.

POPULAR MYTH COMMUNICATES THAT BEING AS PERFECT AS YOU CAN IS THE RIGHTA SUBSET TO DO WHEN YOU ARE STARTING A RELATIONSHIP.

THE TRUTH IS THAT PERFECTION FRIGHTENS PEOPLE BECAUSE THEY THEMSELVES FEEL IMPERFECT AND THIS CREATES INCREASED BONDING DISTANCE BETWEEN HUMANS.

IF YOU REVEAL YOUR SMALL WEAKNESSES DURING A CONVERSATION YOU CREATE THE FEELING THAT YOU ARE ONLY HUMAN AND HAVE WEAKNESSES THAT EVERYONE HAS TOO.

COMMUNICATING THAT YOU HAD A SMALL PROBLEM IN YOUR LIFE AND FOUND A SOLUTION IS COMFORTING TO A POTENTIAL FRIEND OR DATE BECAUSE THEY KNOW THAT YOU ARE A HUMAN WHO CAN SOLVE YOUR OWN PROBLEMS SUCCESSFULLY.

IF YOU MENTION THAT YOU HAD A ROMANTIC AFFAIR WHICH DIDN’T SUCCEED BECAUSE YOU DISCOVERED LATER THAT YOU REALLY DIDN’T HAVE ENOUGH COMMON INTERESTS TO MAINTAIN THE RELATIONSHIP LONGER THEN THIS WILL CREATE THE START OF A COMMON BOND SINCE YOUR NEW DATE MAY HAVE HAD SIMILAR EXPERIENCES WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX AND WILL EMPATHIZE WITH YOU.

A REASON YOU MAY FEEL CLOSER TO YOUR DATE IS THAT YOU HAVE REVEALED A SECRET TO YOUR DATE WHICH YOU USUALLY WOULD NOT HAVE DONE.

YOU HAVE INVESTED MORE OF YOUR TRUE SELF IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND YOU WILL PROBABLY FEEL CLOSER FOR IT.

TRUTHFULLY SHARING THE GOOD AND BAD EXPERIENCES IN YOUR LIFE CREATES THE POSSIBILITY OF GREATER BONDING BECAUSE HONESTY OR TRUTHFULNESS IS THE BOND WHICH BRINGS AND MAINTAINS HUMANS CLOSE TOGETHER IN A RELATIONSHIP.

IF THE BAD EXPERIENCE IN YOUR LIFE IS A VERY STRESSFUL ONE AND YOU HAVE NOT FOUND A SOLUTION TO IT THEN IT IS BEST NOT TO GREATLY FRIGHTEN YOUR POTENTIAL NEW DATE OR FRIEND BY REVEALING IT.

THEY MAY FEEL THAT YOU ARE TRAPPED WITH A PROBLEM WHICH YOU HAVE NO SOLUTION TO AND WILL PROBABLY NOT FIND A SOLUTION TO IN THE LONG DURATION AND YOU WILL FRIGHTEN THEM AWAY.

GRADUALLY INTRODUCE YOUR BAD BEHAVIORS AND EXPERIENCES AS THE RELATIONSHIP PROGRESSES SINCE YOU DON’T WANT TO APPLY SHOCK TREATMENT AND FRIGHTEN AWAY YOUR LATEST HUMAN INTEREST.

REVEAL MOSTLY YOUR GOOD EXPERIENCES AND SUCCESSES IN LIFE BUT DON’T BE AFRAID TO REVEAL A FEW OF YOUR SMALL BAD EXPERIENCES AND SMALL FAILURES IN LIFE ALSO AND YOU WILL ACCELERATE THE POTENTIAL BONDING OR RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!

HOW TO GET GOOD FRIENDS IN THE MODERN COMPUTERIZED WORLD

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YOU PROBABLY WANT FRIENDS WHO HAVE SIMILAR INTERESTS AND LIKES AND LOVES SO TRY TO MEET NEW FRIENDS WHERE YOU LIKE TO BE.

TRADITIONALLY  WHICH IS NOW OLD FASHIONED AND OBSOLETE THIS MEANT GOING PERSONALLY TO EVENTS SUCH AS A MOTHER’S CLUB OR LIBRARY OR BOOK CLUB OR CHESS CLUB OR STORE GRAND OPENINGS OR THE SIERRA CLUB OR THE AUDUBON CLUB OR COMPUTER CLUB OR BAR HOPPING BUT TODAY YOU SHOULD TRY FINDING ALMOST ALL YOUR NEW FRIENDS ONLINE.

IF YOU WANT CASUAL FRIENDS AND DON’T HAVE A PASSION FOR ANY INTEREST IN LIFE JOIN FACEBOOK OR LINKEDIN OR JOIN AN ONLINE CLUB WHICH YOU CAN TRY BY GOING TO http://onlineclubs4u.blogspot.com/ WHERE YOU WILL FIND A GARDENING OR BUSINESS OR MUSIC OR HEALTH OR COOKING CLUB OR ETC. AND CASUALLY INTERACT WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE MILD INTERESTS IN THESE AREAS.

IF YOU ARE EDUCATED OR HAVE A LOT OF EXPERIENCE IN AN AREA OR ARE VERY SKILLED AT SOMETHING AND LIKE TO WRITE TRY BLOGGING.

BLOGGING IS ANOTHER GOOD WAY TO MEET NEW GOOD FRIENDS WITH SIMILAR PASSIONATE INTERESTS AND YOU CAN GET STARTED ECONOMICALLY FOR ABOUT $27 A YEAR WITH WORDPRESS.

GET SOMEONE WITH BASIC COMPUTER SKILLS TO SHOW YOU HOW TO SET UP YOUR OWN PERSONAL WEBSITE USING WORDPRESS AND IT WILL OPEN UP AN INTERNATIONAL POTENTIAL GROUP OF NEW GOOD FRIENDS TO COMMUNICATE WITH IN AREAS WHICH INTEREST YOU THE MOST.

TIPS ON HOW TO AVOID WASTING YOUR TIME ON THE INTERNET:

STAY AWAY FROM HUMANS ONLINE WHO ARE TOO CHATTY OR HAVE LITTLE NEW INFORMATION TO TEACH YOU SOMETHING NEW WHICH YOU DIDN’T KNOW ABOUT.

TRY TO STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE WHO HAVE TRIVIAL PURSUITS AND/OR INTERESTS WITH NO USEFUL KNOWLEDGE TO INFORM YOU ABOUT.

IF YOU ARE BLOGGING WITH WORDPRESS REALIZE THAT SOME BLOGGERS ARE MOSTLY INTERESTED IN PROMOTING THEMSELVES OR THEIR BLOG AND YOU WILL OFTEN GET A STANDARDIZED RESPONSE THAT YOUR BLOG WAS AWESOME AND WOULD YOU LIKE TO JOIN THEIR BLOG AND POTENTIALLY MAKE CONTACTS WITH THEIR FOLLOWERS.

READ A SAMPLE OF THEIR BLOGGING AND IF YOU THINK IT IS INFORMATION WHICH YOU WOULD LIKE TO READ ABOUT THEN JOIN THEIR BLOG BUT IF IT IS NOT THEN DON’T JOIN THEIR BLOG AND COURAGEOUSLY COMMUNICATE “ NO I DON’T WANT TO WASTE MY TIME FOLLOWING YOUR BLOG” AND CONTINUE TRYING TO FIND NEW BLOGGERS WHO RESPOND TO YOUR FUTURE BLOGS.

REALIZE THAT YOU WILL NOT FIND NEW GOOD FRIENDS SPEEDILY AND AS IN ANY FRIENSHIP YOU WILL HAVE TO GO THROUGH HUNDREDS OF HUMANS BEFORE YOU FIND SOMEONE WHO COULD POTENTIALLY BECOME A CLOSE FRIEND. BE PATIENT AND DON’T EXPECT INSTANT SUCCESS AT FINDING A GOOD FRIEND BUT SOONER OR LATER YOUR TIME WILL COME AND THE OPPORTUNITY WILL STRIKE YOU WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECTED IT TO.

IF YOU ARE A TOTAL NOVICE ON THE COMPUTER AND CAN’T FIND AN ACQUAINTANCE TO TEACH YOU THE BASIC SKILLS THEN SAVE UP SOME MONEY AND SPEND IT OF A PROFESSIONAL TUTOR OR TEACHER WHO WILL GUIDE YOU THROUGH YOUR FIRST STEPS INTO THE GREAT INTERNET WORLD.

IF YOU DON’T HAVE THE MONEY TO GET PROFESSIONAL HELP SEARCH GOOGLE OR BING OR INFO.COM OR YOUTUBE WITH YOUR QUESTIONS AND YOU WILL FIND ALL THE ANSWERS SOONER OR LATER AND NOT HAVE TO PAY ANY MONEY TO GET THE KNOWLEDGE WHICH YOU NEED OR ARE SEARCHING FOR.

THE ONLY THING WHICH YOU WILL BE SACRIFICING IS YOUR TIME AND ENERGY BUT FORTUNATELY MOST OF US HAVE MUCH TIME AND ENERGY WHICH WE CAN DEVOTE TO A NEW INTEREST IF WE JUST STOP WASTING OUR TIME AND ENERGY ON TRIVIAL PURSUITS OR BAD HABITS WHICH MOST OF US HAVE IN ABUNDANCE.

MY BOOK HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE: HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT; HOW TO SAVE TIME AND MONEY CAN BE A VERY USEFUL GUIDE IN PROVING TO YOU THAT NO MATTER HOW BUSY YOU THINK YOU MIGHT BE YOU CAN FIND THE TIME AND ENERGY TO USE ON YOUR NEW OR OLD PASSIONATE INTERESTS IN LIFE.

HERE IS A PASSIONATE SINCERE RUSSIAN SONG TO GET YOU IN A FRIENDLY MOOD:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUngm5lvTEE