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HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR PERSONALITY!!!

Ideally you have great role model moral parents, have been raised with one or more siblings, have role model moral relatives, and have had good role model friends in your formative years. If this is the case then you probably also have a good personality which needs little improvement.

On the other hand if you haven’t had good moral role model parents, are an only child, have had bad role model relatives, and have had bad role model friends in your formative years then your personality is probably pretty bad and needs a radical change. Fortunately relatively few of us fall into these two extremes of good moral role models and bad somewhat immoral role models.

If you want to radically improve your very bad personality then it is mostly a lost cause if you are already an adult so my recommendations for improving a personality apply to humans who are flawed but not extremely flawed personality types.

Why is being moral or ethically sound so important? It is because trust is the bond which attracts and keeps relationships going and without trust relationships fall apart sooner or later. To establish trust you must have integrity which basically means being honest and moral. Being moral or ethical is not lying, not stealing, not committing adultery if married, and not murdering. My morality also includes not destroying biodiversity and not being inefficient but these two important subjects are covered in my book SECULAR MORAL CODE on Amazon. So one of the most important factors in a good personality is being TRUSTWORTHY which is the foundation of almost all good relationships and personality types.

There are other factors which make for a trustworthy relationship. You must also be as dependable as possible and try to fulfill all your promises. Competence in what you do also builds trust because you can’t depend on an incompetent human who makes too many mistakes, forgets too often, or is pretentious about his or her actual abilities. Bad gossiping, spreading false rumors about someone, or lying about a human also destroys trust and back stabbing is even worse.

So if you are on the road to improving your personality then trying to become more trustworthy is priority number one on your list of things to do. If you are trustworthy then you will have a good reputation and may even be admired though some of your opinions and beliefs may be different from those with which you are communicating with or involved in relationships with.

Another very important personality trait is an honest or sincere interest in other humans, especially in those that you choose to interact with and form relationships with. A genuine interest in another human is conveyed by listening carefully to what is said, asking appropriate questions and following up on what is being said, interrupting only when the conversation gets boring or seems to be going nowhere, showing empathy with present and past circumstances, offering helpful advice where appropriate, motivating one to continue doing something good, praising one for doing something worthwhile, sharing similar experiences or interests verbally and sometimes physically, being sincere in your criticisms if any so they don’t come across harsh or rude,  interjecting humor where appropriate, and maintaining an optimistic and enthusiastic mood or atmosphere or smiling, nodding, and gesturing appropriately.

Yes, it is hard showing genuine interest in a human that is not very interesting to begin with but there is social etiquette to deal with these humans in a polite and respectful way. If you want details then read my book GOOD MODERN BEHAVIORS on Amazon.

You can be an introvert and be respected and admired by relatively few individuals or you can be an extrovert and be respected and admired by relatively many individuals. Neither being an introverted type of personality or an extroverted type of personality is good or bad. Both are good if you are trustworthy or have integrity and are basically a moral human. This is not an article designed to help you to become more extroverted or introverted since introverts generally try to avoid excessive human drama and limit human interactions and extroverts often like human drama and interactions with many humans.

Ultimately an extroverted human personality can interact with a wide variety of human personality types successfully and it is something which is called emotional intelligence. It is a learned skill and is usually acquired with a lot of experience with all kinds of humans. Many introverts may lack this emotional intelligence with a wide range of human personality types but they may have great emotional intelligence with relatively few carefully chosen individuals. I suppose you could call introvert emotional intelligence quality emotional intelligence and extroverted emotional intelligence quantity emotional intelligence. This quality versus quantity statement is just a spontaneous thought which I had and need not be taken that seriously if you are confused by it.

Happiness is contagious and if you are a happy individual then this will attract other humans. In most cases the happiest humans are those who enjoy setting and pursuing short and long duration goals and try to achieve them. They are usually the doers and not just the dreamers. The happiest are those who set realistic short and long duration goals and develop confidence and a can do attitude with successful achievement along the way.

There are the super ambitious happy entrepreneurs but you can also be considered ambitious and happy if you want to maintain or improve your health by eating organic, sleeping enough, exercising on a regular basis, self educating yourself by reading useful information which improves your knowledge and skills, and trying to prepare for a better paying or more fulfilling job and more interesting life.

Being happy is a state of mind which you are responsible for to a large extent. If you want to improve your personality then research core values or personality traits and self educate yourself about them. Find out yourself details about things such as compassion, caring, selfishness, friendship, kindness, optimism, responsibility, creativity, curiosity, sharing, etc. or read details about these concepts in my book SECULAR MORAL CODE. Yes, you can also search my encyclopedic blog at uldissprogis.com using those keywords and you shouldn’t come away disappointed.

Finally, once you determine what part of your personality you want to improve you can research it further and start taking steps trying to improve it. Best wishes. Uldis

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THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL WITH SOME EFFORT!!!

Most of the following really are a reflection of the good and bad habits which you have. Even though you should theoretically be able to control these things it often takes great courage, determination, and effort to control and effectively change them.

Who you associate with:

What you eat:

How seriously you take life:

How personally you take things:

Your effort:

Your happiness:

How empathetic and kind you are:

Your priorities:

What you talk about:

What you think about:

What you believe:

How open minded you are:

 

Whom you associate with:

At work you may not have much of a choice whom you associate with. If you seriously can’t tolerate your boss or coworkers then it is time to look for a job elsewhere. Unpleasant relatives you may also have to deal with but you can minimize your contact with them by talking very little and meeting them only when absolutely necessary. Other relationships you can minimize or terminate at will. Hopefully you will opt for relationships which have integrity, trustworthiness, sincerity, dependability, competence, and friendliness.

What you eat and drink:

Most are addicted to fast food and processed food. It takes considerable effort to change bad eating habits to habits which include enough healthy organic food which sometimes can seem rather bland without the sometimes necessary added spices, sauces, or dressings. If you are addicted to alcohol or sweet soda drinks then changing to low alcohol beer or unsweetened fruit juices, milk, and water will require considerable courage, determination, and effort.

How seriously you take life:

Many are not smart hard workers, are not neat and orderly, don’t schedule their budget and life, and don’t try to do their best at almost everything. There are plenty who like to goof off, make messes which are seldom cleaned up, buy relatively useless stuff, live from paycheck to paycheck, don’t schedule their lives conscientiously, and just do enough to get by. Getting serious about life can sometimes be very hard to do but it is well worth the effort if you become more serious and thoughtful.

How personally you take things:

Some get offended by the slightest criticism, insult, put down, name calling, ridicule, and humiliation while others either ignore it, laugh it off, or get minimally affected by it. If you hold grudges, are vengeful, jealous, and get offended often then you are probably taking things too personally. You can rarely change other humans whom you have no control over so just try to accept humans as they are, especially if they have slightly offending personalities.

Your effort:

Doing things takes much more effort than just talking about them. It is fundamentally up to you to get your rear into gear and put in the effort needed to achieve your short and long range goals. Laziness is sometimes hard to overcome if it has become a deep rooted bad habit. It helps if you are energetic by nature and constantly like to do things which is historically a work ethic. Goal achievement takes effort and if you don’t put in any effort at trying to control or change things then don’t be surprised if no change happens.

 

Your happiness:

Happiness increases if your relationships are good, you enjoy your job, and you are achieving short and long duration goals successfully. Yes, you can have a happy attitude in times of stress, failure, and boredom but it is not that easy to do unless you are an indomitable optimist.

How empathetic and kind you are:

If you are terminally wrapped up in yourself or very selfish then caring about others may not be your strong point. If and when you start caring about other humans is when your empathy and kindness will increase.

Your priorities:

We all have our priorities but few consciously realize or analyze and make a list of the most important things or priorities which they spend the most time, effort, and money at in their lives. Until you become conscious of what is most important in your present and future life, you will probably not be in full control of your priorities and you will be unable to change the priorities in any significant way.

What you talk about:

Most of us react impulsively when we talk and there are subjects which we would rather not talk about because they may cause embarrassment or arguments. Controlling what you talk about is not hard but it takes considerable effort to talk about things which interest other humans rather than just about things which interest you.

What you think about:

Most humans react impulsively based on prior experiences and knowledge and think very little. Most briefly think about when to eat and drink, who to communicate with, and what to do on the weekends. If you schedule your life then you will briefly think about the schedule. Ultimately if you want to think differently then you will have to research and learn about new useful things. This will then become part of your impulsive repertoire.

Really thinking is a tedious process of asking the right questions and getting answers. If you truly want to learn how to think then read my book on Amazon, How to  Think by Uldis Sprogis.

What you believe:

Except for morality what you believe will change with time as you are exposed to other humans, experiences, activities, and ideas. You can try to control what you believe but unless you expose yourself to other beliefs and perhaps think of possible explanations for them, you will defend your old beliefs as long as possible or until a crisis or emergency changes those beliefs. What you believe expands in volume as you learn or research new useful information.

 

How open minded you are:

Open mindedness is really a measure of how tolerant you are of other cultural norms, behavior norms, and new things in general. If you have dogmatic beliefs or ideologies and strong opinions about most things then chances are that you will not be very open minded and tolerant of other human’s ideas and activities.

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SOME KEYS TO HAPPINESS!!!

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