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Many things attract and repulse humans from one another but the most important bond or attraction is trust between two or more humans. If you lie or steal from someone then they will not trust you and any hope for a close relationship and peaceful interactions is lost or destroyed.
In a family if you can’t trust your spouse or offspring then there is no happy family life. If you try to salvage the relationship it will only result in much misery and dissatisfaction and result in more than just a dysfunctional relationship. In effect, no good relationship is possible.
If you can’t trust your leaders then respect and admiration for them is lost and humans will try to survive without the help of the leadership as best that they can. If you can’t trust the media then they are no longer respected and their advice is not taken as valid for your existence.
The United States is undergoing a moral crisis. Fewer and fewer politicians are trusted, many celebrities and liberal arts professors are not trusted, the establishment media is not trusted by most, and many business leaders are not trusted because most feel that they are out to make money at their expense and don’t deliver quality products and services.
The resultant moral decay is felt worldwide and fewer and fewer nations trust the United States as being an effective worldwide police force to protect them against violent aggression. Tyrannies and Islam are spreading in an absence of moral and political democratic leadership from the west and American influence is waning.
Once trust is lost it is almost impossible to regain and will take more than just one generation to recover if even that is possible. Historically once an empire has lost control or disintegrates then the empire breaks up into competing smaller units which may or may not be reconsolidated into another empire.
The globalists are trying to rule the world with money and are succeeding to some extent but will only be able to truly rule the world with a moral ideology and not a corrupt distribution of wealth only. I have tried to give the globalists a secular moral code to guide their financial redistribution of wealth and it is- in non emergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.
I predict a technological elite ruling the world in the not too distant future. Whether my prediction will come true is debatable but I think there is a great probability that it will happen if we don’t irreversibly and irresponsibly destroy biodiversity and the environment in the process.
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I would just like to start off by saying that for humans whom you trust unconditionally such as your spouse, close relatives, and close friends you can usually be even blatantly honest about almost anything and not run the risk of ruining your reputation or breaking up the relationship if it is a good one to begin with. For everyone else, here are some cautionary statements where it is often wiser to not say anything at all or make a noncommittal remark.
If you say that you HATE something about a human or think that a human is ugly and there is little chance of that human changing one’s looks, beliefs, ideas, or behavior then it is best to keep silent about the subject. Nothing is more offensive to a human than to be called ugly because of a big nose, big breasts, big ears, little breasts, little penis, or some unchangeable handicap. Say that you HATE an adult’s beliefs, ideas, or behavior and you may irreversibly offend them and destroy the possibility of a closer relationship.
If someone puts you on the spot and asks if you think their nose is ugly then you can say nothing, say- no comment, or you can say- it looks normal to me, or other such kind phrase.
If a behavior is immoral then it is OK to hate it and say so but if it is a sincerely held belief, idea, or opinion then saying that you hate it is not a very diplomatic approach. Calmly discussing the belief, idea, or opinion is the best approach if you are asked your opinion of it. If you disagree with it strongly and you can’t convince or persuade them otherwise then you can end the discussion by saying we agree to disagree on the subject. Of course if you truly HATE something and don’t want to explode in an argument then you can say I don’t want to discuss it or talk about it now or ever.
There are other situations where silence or some tactful response may be necessary for a stranger, acquaintance, or casual friend. You may not want to reveal intimate sexual details about your spouse, your weaknesses or secretive bad habits, and private eccentricities very deviant from normative behavior.
Some feel that personal income is also none of your business and you may be surprised how many more things are none of your business mostly from pretentious humans. If you are not pretentious and have very little to hide then maintaining your integrity and credibility is of paramount importance so you should answer as truthfully as possible to almost any question which you are asked. Courage at being truthful is often rewarded with earned respect and sometimes even a bit of admiration.
If you are a businessman or businesswoman then there may be some trade secrets which you may want to guard against dissemination, especially to competing enterprises. As long as those secrets are not collusion with other companies or price fixing and other unfair monopolistic practices then trying to keep special recipes or manufacturing techniques is really acceptable business practice.
Even in business it is just a matter of time before your secrets will be revealed either by disgruntled employees or other covert spying techniques so don’t expect your secrets to last forever and don’t make your business dependent on those secrets in the long duration. If you have a devoted efficient business model then transparency in most matters is not such a bad thing but may even encourage desirable company loyalty.
In a tyranny or communist nation it is sometimes dangerous to reveal your honest opinions but in relatively free western democracies it usually is advantageous to be honest unless you have conservative views in a largely democrat corporation, democrat academia, or democrat organization in general.
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Historically a uniting morality and tradition kept society functioning at tolerable levels. Most felt that if you didn’t lie, didn’t steal, and worked hard and you were a male then you would be able to make enough money to afford a family lifestyle and have safe sex. The roles of males and females were relatively well defined and there was some certainty in knowing that if you made enough money then your offspring and household chores would be taken care of to a large extent.
Today male income is not sufficient to support a family in many instances unless you have a good paying career or profession, and even here there is no longer the certainty that you will have a job with the same company on into the indefinite future. Many households have working mothers and fathers whose income is not enough to support nannies or tutors for properly taking care of offspring and the result is many dysfunctional families and a high rate of divorce which is further caused by hedonistic or promiscuous social lifestyles which are tolerated and even promoted in society at large.
Many males fear commitment because they realize the great financial responsibility of a family and many can get sex without having to commit. Promiscuous lifestyles are an additional reason why adultery is rampant in marriage and the second most important reason for divorce.
The net result is that heterosexual traditions are being decimated since fewer and fewer offspring have had good heterosexual role models to imitate and the result is usually chaotic and unstable marital relationships if they are attempted. The tragic modern dilemma is -how do you indoctrinate good family values in humans who come from dysfunctional families to begin with. Book learning and marriage counseling is definitely not a viable solution for many failing marriages.
Not so obvious is the fundamental fact that integrity or honesty and morality, trustworthiness, dependability, commitment, good communication skills, and competence is essential to succeed in marriage and in society in general. Lie, commit adultery, promise and don’t follow through, argue too much, procrastinate and make excuses for your incompetence and you will not only fail in relationships but also fail in society. If you don’t lead a moral life not only will your family be ruined but society will not respect you and you will be ostracized from wholesome relationships. Lie or behave immorally and potentially trusting relationships break down and you will be leading a miserable lonely existence.
Wealth acquired morally is respected. Wealth acquired immorally may be respected as long as humans are deceived into thinking it was acquired morally but the respect turns to revulsion once the truth surfaces. The money corrupted political and establishment media including the entertainment media were deceptively misleading the gullible public with propaganda designed to keep the public ignorant of the fact that they were kept in contempt by the elite some of whom led immoral lives in private.
Fake polls, fake news, and fake public personas revealed the moral corruption of the elite leadership from which it is going to have a hard if not impossible task to recover from because they are no longer trusted by the general public. The establishment is no longer respected and admired by the public and I don’t see the situation improving until there is a new moral enlightenment in society which will address the problem from the ground up.
Lie too often and respect is no longer possible. Where will this moral leadership come from? Yes, it will have to come from the ground up but those in power will unfortunately have to impose the leadership from the top down and initiate it from the ground up. Is this even possible without a moral renaissance? Who will lead the charge? It will definitely have to be more than just one human.
Most important young impressionable minds must be indoctrinated with a secular moral code with worldwide applicability. It is- in nonemergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.
Real life examples of the application of this moral code have to be given and I have outlined the details in my writing for the benefit of future generations. By the age of about 13 most humans should be able to impulsively know what is right or wrong or what is morally right or wrong. Fail at this most important indoctrination and trusting relationships between humans will cease to exist in great enough quantity to permit a relatively peaceful secure society to exist.
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I no longer have the patience to wallow through verbosity and storytelling to try to make sense of some of life’s principles. However, I would recommend this book to someone who is confused in life and is having trouble making sense out of a seemingly chaotic life. That said I selected 6 of Peterson’s rules with a brief commentary on them.
Rule 3. Make friends with people who want the best for you.
Try to make friends with humans who have integrity, are trustworthy, dependable, competent, friendly, and motivate you to be even better than you are. Beware of humans with good intentions who seem to want the best for you but have their own faulty views of what is best to have in life or have their own axe to grind.
Rule 4. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.
This just means continue to improve yourself with research, reading, thinking, and doing on your road to the achievement of short and long duration goals. Comparing yourself to others is fraught with error or danger since very often you, your circumstances, and abilities are very different than those of others and comparisons are often pointless.
Rule 6. Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.
Your house will never be in perfect order in the long duration so if you lead a relatively happy and orderly life feel free to criticize the world and especially make suggestions on how to improve it but don’t be too dogmatic about your criticism.
A good place to start the critique is with yourself. Can you honestly say? If most humans lived the way that I live my life, then the world would be a better place to live in.
If more humans lived the way that you live your life, perhaps in unhappiness and desperation, then your critique of the world would not be that relevant.
Rule 8. Tell the truth—or, at least, don’t lie
To maintain integrity and trustworthiness, being honest, moral, dependable, and competent is essential, especially if you are interested in maintaining a good reputation in society and hope someday to assume leadership positions. Most relationships crash and burn when dishonesty is detected or it becomes a very dysfunctional relationship with much misery, uncertainty, and lack of security if the relationship stupidly continues without trust.
Trust is the human bond which makes long duration relationships possible and without trust relationships eventually become very unstable, chaotic, and end.
Rule 9. Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t.
This is just a fact of life that even if you think that you know a lot, other humans will occasionally surprise you with useful knowledge that you never realized existed. Be a good listener but remember that it is OK to interrupt to change the subject or even end the conversation if it is boringly focusing on relatively trivial information.
Emotional intelligence is gotten by interacting with all kinds of humans, learning how to converse with them in discussion mode, and learning how to extract important information without sounding like an interrogator.
Rule 10. Be precise in your speech.
Speak efficiently is another way of putting it or be brief and to the point is another. I have spent a lifetime trying to define words logically since being precise is not a virtue of the English language with so many vaguely defined words and a confusing bonanza of multiple meanings, synonyms, antonyms, and dubious analogies.
Rule 1: Stand up straight with your shoulders back.
Rule 2: Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.
Rule 5: Do not let your children do anything which makes you dislike them.
Rule 7: Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient).
Rule 11: Do not bother children when they are skateboarding.
Rule 12: Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.
If these other 6 rules of life which I skipped peaked your interest then buy and read his book. It seems he may even have a sense of humor which you might enjoy.
Frankly there is much more to life that is important than these 12 principles but he is a typical psychologist whose mind is not very analytical and logical but bases most of his views on mostly subjective information which he has read about in his career and personal subjective experiences and values.
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Respect: v. to sense and frequently communicate that a human has (much value and/or moral goodness) and/or (much skill(s) in a (profession and/or activity)) and/or is experienced and has few severe personality flaws and the human is dependable
Basically we respect moral humans who don’t lie to us or deceive us, don’t steal from us, don’t commit adultery, don’t have severe personality flaws, and are dependable.
A car mechanic may be an expert in his or her field but if they are not moral and cheat us on repairs then we will not respect them and go elsewhere for car repairs.
Some erroneously may idolize wealthy and powerful humans who may not be that moral but have a profound influence in our lives. Powerful leaders and tyrants who are immoral are feared by many and it seems that they are respected also but the respect or more accurately an awareness is an ambivalent “respect” and fear of power and not a respect of the leader’s moral goodness.
We may not approve of or respect the Chinese political system but we are impressed by their economic power and are forced to deal with it. This realization is not true respect for the entire country but a “respect” for their ability to succeed economically in the world even though they are major counterfeiters of brand named products and steal patents and intellectual property with abandon.
We don’t truly respect them but rather fear their economic system and its power to put established companies and workers out of business.
The United States is also no longer being as respected worldwide because they have lost their moral rudder and with it respect. American international companies bribe national governments to get favorable treatment and American international banks are stealing taxpayer’s money and creating huge deficits which will probably never be paid off by future generations.
Big business through special interest legislation is killing off the potential success of small new businesses and decimating the middle class. The middle class is also being killed off by the technological revolution which is robotizing, using the internet, standardizing parts, and effectively killing many jobs with superior computer software.
The big inefficient American economy and government is also morally unjust and is not as respected as it once was.
The American secular class has also lost its respect and moral rudder to guide it and the result is failed marriages, poor social relationships, and a hedonistic approach to life. Too many Americans are lying, deceiving, and committing adultery. Family life and many human relationships are disintegrating.
With an emphasis on making money for money’s sake without a moral rudder, mental and physical health is deteriorating because of unhealthy lifestyles, unhealthy food, and the over use of artificial drugs by the medical and psychiatric professions.
Unhealthy, immoral citizens, and unjust political laws are bankrupting the medical and social welfare system and adding to the national debt.
Morality and respect begins by teaching young impressionable minds what is moral behavior and it eventually is reflected in the kind of human leadership that we get in powerful organizations. Without this impulsive morality practiced by most citizens the result is chaos and eventual tyranny or dictatorship which governs by the threat of force and the use of force and not rule by the voluntary trusting cooperation of its citizens.
The new secular worldwide MORAL CODE which should be practiced to bring back true respect in the world is- in nonemergency situations -don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder!!!!!!
One way to be respected is to be good at your profession or job. Many doctors, lawyers, and car mechanics are good at their professions and are respected for their expertise. The reason that some in the professions are not respected is that they behave immorally, lie, deceive, steal, and are incompetent. The more immorality is permitted within a profession, the more disrespected the profession becomes.
If you can trust someone and they are dependable then chances are that you can also respect them because lying or being undependable can frequently ruin trust and with it respect.
If someone is immoral or lies, steals, or is adulterous then they will lose respect.
If you are deceitful which is hidden lying then you will also lose respect once your deceit is uncovered or revealed.
If you break or don’t fulfill many promises then you will not be respected because it is a form of lying about the future and being undependable.
If you are not sincere or nice but hurt human feelings too frequently by being rude, inconsiderate, using ridicule, insulting, name calling, using put downs, humiliating, being quarrelsome, and cruel then you will definitely lose some respect. These are personality flaws which show a disrespect of others. This verbal aggression just like physical aggression seldom has beneficial results.
If you are unjustly critical, a backstabber, spiteful, a name caller, don’t give credit where credit is due, greedy, very lazy, a racist, promiscuous, boastful, vain, or have other severe personality flaws which many humans don’t like then respect for you will decrease though maybe not always to zero.
If you are a tyrannical boss then you will be feared but not respected by most humans.
CONCLUSION:
If you are honest, sincere, dependable, competent, and friendly without severe personality flaws then you will be respected and even admired by most humans. In many cases respect is not automatic but it must be earned with a history of respectful behavior. A history of respectful behavior is really a good reputation and a good reputation is something every moral citizen should aspire to or work towards.
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Hypocrisy: n. pretentiously claiming to have morals and/or beliefs which don’t exist in reality
An example of a hypocrisy is a human who claims he is honest and faithful yet lies about his income and commits adultery.
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Dishonesty, untrustworthiness, and absence of respect are all problems arising out of an absence of integrity or the existence of immorality (lying, stealing, deception, and cheating) on the part of the leader or employee. If a human does not have integrity then you should minimize contact with them as much as possible. Trust or integrity is the bond which makes good relationships possible so if you don’t have the bond then the relationship if any will be dysfunctional.
Boredom and mediocrity often exist together and humans with either trait should be avoided as much as possible because they are stagnating and not making any progress towards selfimprovement and a better life.
Negative or pessimistic and toxic or severely flawed humans mean much trouble and they just create toxic environments to be living under so avoid them or get rid of them as much as possible.
Unhealthy food, drink, relationships, and habits should be excluded or avoided as much as possible, especially if you want improvement in yourself and others.
Undependable, incompetent, and unorganized humans should also be avoided or excluded as much as possible because they will introduce too much chaos in your life.
Angry humans and those filled with regrets should also be avoided or excluded as much as possible unless you want to live with confrontational aggressive drama humans and those who live too much in the past and don’t have useful plans for the future.
Remember that you can’t control humans who are out of control and there are many other things over which you have no control over. So learn to ignore, avoid, or exclude what you can’t control as much as possible.
Learn the basic fact that some humans and circumstances should simply not be tolerated and proceed courageously to avoid or exclude them from your business or life.
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Sincere compliments and appropriate praise for looks and opinions makes most women feel good. If you have a good job and are a good conversationalist who knows how to show interest in a woman by asking questions and listening more than speaking about yourself then this is also a good thing to do on a first date. Your strengths and some of your weaknesses will all eventually come out in follow up conversations or dates so being sincerely honest will go a long way towards establishing trust and creating possible strong bonding with the opposite sex or significant other.
If you are handsome and merely trying to deceptively score on an attractive but gullible woman then the rules are different but I won’t reveal them because I am not interested in promoting sleaze bag behavior.
Melanie Curtin is a relatively smart woman and if smarts interest you more than just looks then here are 10 things which you should try to avoid doing since they are turn offs for most smart women.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/melanie-curtin/ten-things-to-avoid-when-_b_3447210.html
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Some humans radiate confidence and energy no matter how much money they have or how socially connected they are. Humans are attracted to them not so much because of their looks but because of the optimistic friendly ways that they interact with humans. Here are the major reasons why a personality seems so attractive and maybe even slightly irresistible.
They have integrity or are morally sound and trustworthy giving sincere honest compliments and praise when deserved and don’t lie or deceive others. They are dependable and try to fulfill any promises that they make or fulfill responsibilities which they assume.
They are good listeners and ask relevant smart follow up questions which show a genuine interest in others and make others feel respected and important. They shy away from small or trivial talk which can bore or annoy others.
They are good at reading others and treat them the way that they want to be treated. They realize that some are extroverted, love praise and attention, interaction, and public approval and that others are rather private and introverted and like to keep their lives and accomplishments largely to themselves.
They tactfully ask or make note of the likes and dislikes of a human and what they are most proud of and occasionally converse on those topics with the human making stronger emotional connections.
They recognize the difference between fact and opinion and follow an opinion with a statement that it is a personal opinion and may not be a fact which allows others to have opposing opinions without feeling that they are being harshly criticized or put down for stupidity. Sports, politics, religion, GMO’s, global warming, etc. are areas where intelligent humans can agree to disagree because most of the topics are opinions or differing beliefs and not scientifically proven facts.
They smile, look good but don’t overdo it, and are passionately optimistic with a genuine interest in life and humans despite any transient personal problems which they might have which they don’t go out of their way to advertise.
CONCLUSION: If you have integrity, are trustworthy, dependable, friendly, confident, optimistic, and competent then there is a great probability that you will be respected and even admired. An attractive or irresistible personality goes further and knows how to communicate well, read humans, and make appropriate compliments, praise, and encouragement which motivates humans to excel, do their best, and be exemplary moral citizens.
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They don’t always assume that what they think and feel is a true reflection of what is really going on in someone’s mind or the real reason behind someone’s behavior. They realize that sometimes their assumptions about others may be flawed or inaccurate and further probing or experience may be necessary to discover the truth about a human.
They don’t think external influences directly control their emotions. They understand that their emotional state is their responsibility and under their control and don’t think the responsibility for the emotional state is an external influence or its control is exerted by external influences.
They don’t think that they can control and guarantee future happiness. They understand that what they think will make them happy in the future is a projection of what has made them happy in the past. If it is some future new projection or goal to be achieved then they realize that there is no guarantee that achieving it will really make them happy and that they won’t really know how happy until it actually happens.
They don’t think that being fearful is necessarily being on the wrong path because life is sometimes risky and repeated failure or new failure is always a possibility when trying something new. They risk doing new things despite a little fear which they feel might be a good thing and something they would like and perhaps even love.
They don’t think that sustained happiness is possible. They know that a sustained state of happiness is an illusion and they are not trying to reach that impossible delusional state but live day to day and enjoy whatever happiness comes with it.
They don’t easily change their views. They recognize that others sometimes try to change their thoughts, beliefs, and opinions but even though they have an open mind they are not gullible, are introspective, and don’t automatically reject the validity of their own viewpoints.
They don’t freely express all their emotions in public. Few but not all their intense emotions are expressed in public. Any intense anger or hatred are reserved to be more honestly, freely, and intimately expressed in a circle of trustworthy family and close friends.
They don’t think that any one emotion is permanent. They understand and are aware that shitty or very bad feelings are transient and eventually subside so they develop composure, control, or stamina which prevents the intense feelings from frequently being expressed in public.
They don’t confuse bad emotions or a bad day of emotional turmoil with a bad life in general and don’t become chronic complainers if they have more than their share of bad days or bad circumstances.
They don’t express empathy and sympathy all the time. They try to express empathy or sympathy where appropriate for humans suffering from bad circumstances or emotional turmoil but realize that some humans overly complain just to get attention so an expression of empathy or sympathy is not always forthcoming if not deserved.
They don’t overwhelm humans with fake exaggerated praise and compliments but express approval with sincere honest remarks and appropriate enthusiasm.
They don’t gullibly believe charismatic con artists manipulating emotions with information, goods, and services which sound too good to be true, especially get rich schemes and miracle cures.
They don’t believe emotional intelligence is inborn but believe it is something acquired with human experience. In general they assume a more mature or older human with much human interaction has more emotional intelligence than a young inexperienced adult with little social exposure.
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If you are not writing business communications then you can be as verbose as you want to be and titillate the emotions along the way to maintain reader interest primarily with personalized story telling.
Business communications must engage the reader’s attention, get to the point quickly, offer him and/or her what they need, answer or predict any possible objections which they may have about your information, goods, or services, and call them to action to buy what they really need and not just want at a reasonable price.
Here is a brief summary of 12 things which you should keep in mind and follow when writing a business communication(s).
Whenever possible catch your reader’s attention by writing a descriptive heading summarizing what the communication is about.
Keep the communication simple, direct, personal, and to the point as much as possible. To keep it as personal as possible use the word “you” frequently.
To get a point across use real situations, real facts, and real examples instead of vague generalities and show how each will benefit the customer in some way or ways.
It must be an honest or truthful communication with no BS.
Use words and language which the reader understands or can relate to. If you must use technical jargon or a buzzword then explain what it means in simple easy to understand language or an understandable explanation.
Focus on customer needs and address all possible objections a customer may have about your information, goods, or services and state why they aren’t anything of great concern.
Point out some of the hopefully small and not large weaknesses which your information, goods, or services have because you will be more trusted and sound professional about your business since no one is perfect in this real world.
Focus more attention on your most popular or best selling items first and emphasize the good deal they are getting price wise.
Use active rather than passive language.
Indicate what previous benefit your customer or other customers may have derived from your information, goods, or services before and only then call them into action to buy something else.
A useful repeated writing structure can sometimes be a lead in, followed by details, fact, and arguments for using the information, goods, or services, and a final summary or conclusion with perhaps a call to action into buying if appropriate.
If you use pictures, videos, or graphics in your presentation make sure that they clearly inform and are not merely there for entertainment purposes.
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Young offspring are frequently more truthful than their parents, relatives, or friends and will come up with some truly embarrassing truisms telling it like it really is and not how society wants things to be viewed as through colored glasses, deceptions, or myths.
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On comment 2 the three year old daughter is obviously not part of a nudist family and thinks that penises should be hidden at home.
On comment 4 the three year old playing with a doll who can’t stand up vents her frustration and it is all due to cheap and incomplete unrealistic doll manufacturing which can be greatly improved though the cost would also have to be greater and maybe make it unaffordable for the family to purchase.
On comment 5 it is a reflection of outdated thinking by an elderly coach who still thinks that all shoes should be tied with laces and not modern Velcro laces.
On comment 7 a three year old daughter is already stereo typecast and feels mom should play with the doll that does the dishes which is stereotyped as being women’s work.
On comment 9 a three year old daughter asks her dad if boys and girls can wear dresses. Dad answers yes and the daughter says it’s not your style already being typecast into thinking that men shouldn’t wear dresses.
On comment 13 a four year old gets bored with a new junk cup in one day and honestly answers “Here, Mama. This is the worst cup I have ever seen.”
On comment 16 a creative 9 year old boy is told that saying “shut up” will hurt feelings so he honestly answers when he can’t take the incessant talking anymore-“Silence you peasant!”
On comment 17 a five year old daughter knows the meaning of the dollar and its association with work. Instead of pausing to chat with the daughter the daughter admonishes her mom to go back to work because she has many things that she wants her mom to buy for her.
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Many humans are embarrassed at their bad memories for names and will sometimes lie and say “Oh, yea I remember you.” Instead say “You look very familiar but I’m afraid your name escapes me for the moment. What is it again?” This is a far more honest answer to an embarrassing situation.
If you are a respected leader in an important authoritarian position then you won’t last long with a bad memory for names and never stay in that important leadership position with this white lie approach.
How many times have you heard the expression “I love it!” especially coming from women and girls who exaggerate reality just to make someone feel good about themselves and their choices. I love that dress, jewelry, handbag, shoes, swimwear, etc. demonstrating a total lack of standards of quality. They also expect to hear those same words from the men in their lives who may not approve or have a dislike but are desperate just not to hurt the feelings of a significant other.
A dress is either OK, you like it, it’s sexy, like it much, and don’t like something about it. Almost no one falls in love with a dress, etc. for a long duration and it is just a momentary expression of extreme exaggerated lying approval.
What I like to say is something good about the dress or any other item which I am commenting on if it is not totally my favorite. I like the pattern, it has nice symmetry, the color combination is nice, the style is good, the cut of the dress is fine, it is sexy enough, or it has eye appeal.
But I never fail to point out what I may not like about it too by saying it is a little bit too busy, the color combination could be better, it is too asymmetric, it is not my favorite color, the style is too formal or informal, and the pattern is not one of my favorites, it is too sexy, the style is a little dated, the cut is too high or too low to be one of my favorites, I liked your previous dress better, it’s for an older or younger woman, etc.
Be honest but in a nice way and say in a discriminating fashion what you like about it the most and what you consider some of its flaws. It’s beautiful or ugly shows a lack of logical discriminating ability which is unfortunately rampant in this society so determined to be liked or so determined not to emotionally hurt someone.
“I am busy that day.” When your schedule is blank is another unnecessary white lie. Say instead “I have other plans that day.” Which is more honest because there is a high probability that if you like to do much and are busy on a moment’s notice sometimes then it is a totally believable more honest excuse and you may be making new plans for that time slot in a few hours or days.
“I totally forgot to do that thing you asked me to do.” If you didn’t forget then it is the sign of a liar who doesn’t fulfill promises and will not be liked for it and your reputation as a dependable person will begin to be destroyed. Instead if you honestly forgot to fulfill a promise then say “I am very sorry and apologize and promise that I will not let it happen another time.” If you don’t intend on fulfilling a promise then don’t make it in the first place and avoid having to make up some phony excuse for not fulfilling the promise.
Saying “I’m fine.” When you are not is another white lie not worth making. Humans can frequently sense by your tone of voice, body language, and facial expression that there is something troubling you and putting up a false front will create suspicions that you lie about your feelings and once again a suspicion of dishonesty will only hurt your reputation in the long duration. Say instead “I am not fine right now but I will get over it soon or by tomorrow.”
White lies are dishonesty in action and if you don’t get personally physically or emotionally scarred by lying then your reputation will definitely suffer in the long duration and almost no one will want to become a loyal respectful friend of yours in the long duration.
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Sincerity: n. an honest expression(s) which (is not brazenly and/or demeaningly communicated and/or is tactfully honest)
Being sincere is being honest but not in a bold and shameless way which will make others feel bad about an honest comment made about their looks and/or bad behavior.
You can have honest criticism but it should not be presented in a scolding, brutal, or demeaning way which embarrasses or decreases the dignity or respect of the human being criticized.
Being tactfully honest is what sincerity is all about. Knowing social etiquette in all its varied forms is helpful in knowing what true sincerity is so you can maintain a friendly respected relationship without personal offense becoming part of the communication.
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Marriage should be sharing the good and the bad times but sometimes you will have to give in, sometimes you will get your way, sometimes you will have to be controlling, sometimes you will argue instead of compromise, and sometimes problems or irritations will remain unsolved for long periods of time. Being supported emotionally and financially in the good times is easy but being supported emotionally and financially in the bad times is evidence that the marriage can last.
You also have to share the workload and if one brings home most of the money then the other will have to take over most of the workload of keeping the house in order and spending more time with the offspring. Where both spouses work then housework and offspring rearing will have to be a shared responsibility. Marriage is responsible hard work and working out a just share of the responsibility will frequently determine to a large extent the success and happiness in the marriage. The extreme of I have to do everything and you do nothing is not a viable option.
Frequently one member is more domineering or is better at making decisions and solving problems than the other or you may have strengths in one area such as finance and weaknesses in another area such as offspring rearing. Letting a spouse dominate at something which they are good at should be encouraged.
Marriage is trying to balance things or coordinating effort to reach common goals but it is also some independent behavior or pursuing your personal interests and getting support for those efforts from your spouse. Working together and sharing a business is rare and what makes interesting conversation possible is pursuing some independent goals, activities, or jobs and sharing those exploits with each other.
You are alike in many ways but also different in many ways and the dynamic interplay of these characteristics can make or break a relationship. If your communication skills are good, you are honest with each other and trust one another, and are good at sharing the load of responsibility then you will have a much more pleasant relationship than if you don’t honestly communicate and act irresponsibly.
A good marriage is a relatively safe intimate haven from a tumultuous sometimes crazy world but a stagnant marriage can also be quite boring so developing new or better interests, finding better jobs, and focusing on good long duration goals will help make the journey together more interesting and pleasantly challenging.
Bad times can really test a marriage and if you get through many of them successfully then your confidence that you will not be abandoned will be greater and you will know that you may have a lasting secure relationship and a truly best friend when times are tough.
When the offspring are leading independent lives and sex has ended then your major reasons for staying married may be challenged and unless you have maintained mutual respect and still enjoy being together and sharing your daily events with each other which have nothing to do with offspring, then a potential breakup is possible because you may find that you no longer have anything in common to enjoy.
Kindness, forgiveness, apologizing were appropriate, empathy, honesty, sincerity, dependability, competence, confidence, loyalty, optimism, caring, a common morality, mutual respect, mutual and independent goals, responsibility, good humor, and commitment are just some of the major characteristics which can make for a happy long duration marriage.
As long as you don’t lie to each other, are not adulterous, and are financially stable then you can have some personality drawbacks which won’t necessarily end a trusting relationship which is the bond which ultimately can keep you together despite your weaknesses and differences.
Few of us have loyal true friends and a spouse can be that one true loyal friend so you don’t have to live life as a loner without dependable human support or relationships. When you have something to bitch about then you will have a confidential trusting concerned listener to support you emotionally if not in other ways and you will not have to stew in your troubles alone. Confidentially confessing your troubles to someone is frequently therapeutic and lessens the misery.
Living alone with or without friends is an option which you should not feel bad about because you can spend most of your life pleasing yourself. Being married is more challenging and you can’t always please yourself but it can also be more rewarding in the long duration and your relationship skills with humans can improve if you learn from and master the marital relationship.
Many modern men are not good conversationalists, aren’t very caring, have been brainwashed with much promiscuous behavior, and have led rather irresponsible selfish indulgent lives as offspring, and have bad jobs which don’t make them good potential husbands. If added to these basic facts a male comes from a dysfunctional family then the odds that a marriage will end in divorce are rather high and marriage should usually not be attempted.
Modern life no longer stresses important family values so your best bet is a husband who comes from a family which still values family values and a man who still gets along well with his family members. There are no guarantees in life that a good responsible childhood will mean a good responsible spouse but a messed up, carefree, or abused childhood and bad job are primary causes of messed up marriages and divorce.
Historically a husband who is a good provider, is moral, and has integrity was a great catch. Modern society’s values have changed and divorce has skyrocketed because the same basic historical values still apply to happy long duration modern marriages. Many modern women are good providers but unfortunately most men have not been taught to adjust to the new realities and few without the help of a nanny can do most of the young child rearing responsibilities well by themselves. Two working spouses with meager incomes and offspring is a recipe for disaster in the modern world.
In the modern world you can live together on meager incomes but whatever you do don’t get married, especially if that means offspring in your lives. Living together is an option while you are struggling to survive financially but once financial security is reached and you still don’t marry then that probably means that one significant other is hoping for a better partner to come along.
Marriage is a duty or responsibility to spouse and offspring and if you are not very responsible with your own life then don’t marry and ruin someone else’s life!
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Naivete: n. a relatively small quantity of real experience and/or knowledge with innocent simplicity and/or honesty which makes one seem foolish
Offspring can be considered to be naïve because they lack worldly experience and are frequently very honest and don’t hide their feelings and opinions the way that many adults do.
A naïve adult is really one who has been largely isolated from society and still reacts with honest spontaneity which seems foolish to a hardened adult who has been taught to be deceptive under many social circumstances to avoid social embarrassment.
A naïve adult will frequently criticize a bad gift, tell you honestly that your perfume stinks, say your excess jewelry is gaudy, say they don’t like your pretentious spouse, say that your offspring are brats if they misbehave, and say that you are fat if you are overweight. Naïve adults frequently don’t understand that we all have our egos and don’t want them to be hurt. Many naïve adults are more trusting then they should be in a world filled with social and economic predators.
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Integrity: n. having compulsive honesty and morality
If you are compulsively honest and moral then you have integrity and humans will respect and maybe even admire you, especially if you are in a leadership position.
If you find a significant other or a business partner who is honest, sincere, dependable, competent, friendly, somewhat caring, and a good communicator then they are a great find but if they have integrity which also means that they are moral and don’t lie, steal, or commit adultery then you have found a truly outstanding partner.
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The most important things which you can start doing is-
spending more time with the right humans and for the right reasons,
being honest with others and about yourself and expecting honesty from humans you want to care about in the present or future,
working towards your new and/or old goals almost on a daily basis,
and concentrating on the things which you can control or are within your power to change.
There are 25 more important things which you can start doing in this article by Mark Chernoff.
http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/18/30-things-to-start-doing-for-yourself/
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Reputation: n. the degree of respect and/or disrespect possessed which is an appraisal of the degree of respect and/or disrespect made by a subset(s) of humans
Not many of us have an excellent reputation because frankly few know that you need to be honest, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, caring, and competent to have an excellent reputation. If you sometimes lie, are not dependable, and are not competent in your job or as a parent then you may get by but you will definitely not have an excellent reputation.
If you are in a leadership position then reputation is very important. If you live a rather isolated life and don’t interact with humans that frequently then your reputation may not seem that important and you will get by as long as you show up for work and don’t screw up on the job.
Reputation may not seem important to you until you develop a bad reputation and then you realize how hard it is to get it back since almost no one trusts you anymore and generally does not want to have anything to do with you.
If your reputation is very bad then your only recourse is to move to another location in the country. You can begin with a fresh new start trying to develop a good reputation which will unfortunately take some time because a good reputation is earned over a relatively long time of demonstrating trustworthiness. A good reputation is not something which you automatically get by just asking for it.
Getting a good reputation back after losing it is almost impossible so the best advice is don’t lose it in the first place and behave appropriately.
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Internet customer reviews are BS in about 5% of cases so make sure you read more than a handful on a product and eliminate or ignore the glaring discrepancies or untrue deviant views.
Lying peaks at about age 12 so make sure that your young offspring do not get away with lying or it may become a lifelong handicap.
As many as 85 % of parents sometimes lie to their offspring to get them to behave or lie to them about Santa clause, the Easter bunny, tooth fairies, and angels. Religious mythology with supernatural events and fortune telling is institutionalized lying which many modern honest offspring can’t stand and frequently challenge.
Deceptive and lying advertising fools many and encourages more deception and lying in society.
Emails, text messages, and gossipy small talk has some lies but most of them come from humans with a greater lying frequency than the more honest ones.
If you cheat on a test and get good grades then you credit yourself with being smarter than you actually are and if you lie and get away with it or get rewarded in some way then you encourage yourself to lie again because of lying success. Undeserved ass kissing may get you desired short duration results but you will expect ass kissing from others too and you will never develop respect and admiration from those whom you are in charge of.
Lying about finances is frequent in a job poor society with many poor paying jobs and a desire to impress our dates with more financial power than we actually possess.
Past experiences are edited to fit current reality and this frequently results in lying about the past to make it fit current reality.
Not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings many frequently lie about bad looks, bad behavior, and inappropriate gifts with superlative undeserved praise.
Making promises and not fulfilling them is a form of lying about your behavior in the future. Although there are sometimes unexpected circumstances which interfere with promise fulfilling if you find that you are making too many excuses about not being on time or not keeping a promise then you are developing or have developed into a compulsive liar and not to be trusted.
If you have lying friends then chances are great that you lie more than usual too.
I am one of the few rare individuals on an anti-lying crusade but is quite rare and it is hard getting followers since comforting lies is what most prefer to the harsh reality of truth and honesty.
Finally, lying once intentionally starts to destroy trust or the bond which holds great relationships together. Lie intentionally and you create suspicion, distrust, and fear of being cheated about something and a good trusting relationship if there was one begins to disintegrate. After the first serious intentional lie a lingering question remains. What else is he or she lying to me about?
Intentionally lie and get caught which is inevitable given enough time and the chances for developing a good new trusting long duration relationship or friendship are impossible.
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The relationship is emotionally very compatible and each partner pays close attention to one another and gives tender and/or strong emotional support when needed for both good events and bad ones in each other’s lives.
You have an impulsive feeling that you have found or are living with a special human in your life.
Not only sexually but just holding hands long into the relationship still gives a considerable amount of pleasure so the good chemistry is obvious.
You have been comfortable since day one with your partner and have not been afraid to reveal your vulnerabilities and share your weaknesses with your partner. Your inner world of needs and emotions is shared without fear of rejection or insecure feelings.
You have difficult challenges in life and problems to solve but you both courageously confront them head on as a team.
You have differing opinions on things but your moral foundation is shared and you are basically honest, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, faithful, and caring with each other so your basic important values are never challenged.
CONCLUSION:
The above relationship is rather rare because most males are less in touch with their emotional feelings and that of their spouses and exhibit less caring behaviors than most women. Many men are emotional illiterates and seldom detect emotional nuances. If your husband is honest, sincere, dependable, faithful, and basically trustworthy then this is usually the best which you can expect or hope for from a marital relationship. Tenderness, fondness, an abundance of caring, and responsiveness to subtle emotional cues is frequently not his forte.
Expecting your husband to sense that you had a bad day or feel unhappy from your tone of voice or facial expression is frequently asking too much. Telling him outright about your bad day and unhappiness is the smartest thing to do if you want to make sure that he knows that you have had a bad day or that you are unhappy about something.
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Give sincere earned compliments and praise and a close friendship grows in strength, the potential for new close friendships grows, and your good reputation grows with acquaintances too.
Exaggerated compliments and praise may con the gullible and insecure humans in the short duration but the honest human will consider you an insincere dishonest BS artist.
A good reputation which has taken years to create can be destroyed almost overnight with intentional lies, intentional deceptions, incompetence, or fraud.
Name calling, put downs, ridicule, and accusations of incompetence frequently stereotype a human unjustly causing hurt feelings and a sense that one has been attacked verbally which causes that human to think less highly of you and it damages your reputation.
Hate, resentment, jealousy, revenge, anger, and fear can make your life miserable if you obsess yourself with those emotions. If you think that other humans are your enemy then your venom will spill over into your everyday life and affect it adversely. If you can ignore or avoid bad humans then do so but don’t let their misdeeds linger in your mind for too long. If you are the victim of abuse then make plans to escape it and if you are abused on the job then make plans for a better job.
A human who listens much, accurately reads your emotions, and responds briefly with appropriate comments will appear smarter and more likeable than one who talks much about themselves and almost always tries to impose their opinions on you or show you that their point of view is always right.
Interruptions are rude unless there is an emergency or the speaker is boring you to death and can’t seem to stop talking or is doing nothing of importance.
If you don’t understand what is being communicated or what is going on or aren’t sure of an emotional state then ask some appropriate questions before reacting impulsively and frequently wrongly to a confusing situation.
When in doubt then ask more relevant questions or gather more useful information about the subject matter or situation.
If logically thinking about a problem does not seem to lead to a response which must be made quickly or urgently, then go with your impulsive feelings if you have any at the time.
If you have nothing good to say about a human then don’t say anything at all unless that human is a threat to your profit margin or someone else’s profit margin.
The best friends are honest, sincere, dependable, caring, and trustworthy. Settle for less in friendships and chances are that they will only be friends when things are going good in your life but will be unreliable disappointments when you need some help in tough times.
If you are verbally attacked for doing or saying something first make sure that you don’t deserve to be attacked for doing or saying something inappropriate or wrong. Apologize if you are at fault and only defend yourself if you are not to blame for the criticism.
Charismatic leaders are confident, honest, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, competent, caring humans. For most of us being honest, sincere, dependable, and trustworthy will go a long way at bonding successfully with others. You can always work at being more caring and competent later which will increase your confidence and personal charisma.
Identifying your bad habits is the first step towards self-improvement but what you must realize is that without personal determination, persistence, and perseverance or self-control your chances of eliminating or greatly reducing the bad habits is highly unlikely. Getting support or motivation from others to change your bad habits can sometimes greatly help if you are willing to listen to them and take their advice.
Success in life largely depends on setting small and large realistic goals which you avidly pursue with unrelenting persistence despite many setbacks. The smart human thinks about and learns from failure and frequently makes new plans or different ways of getting to the same realistic goal(s).
Stuck in an unsatisfying lifestyle? Learn new useful skills, new useful knowledge, and talk to interesting humans who don’t seem to be unsatisfied and maybe they will offer you some useful advice on how to get out of your unsatisfying lifestyle.
Create a valuable product(s) with friendly service and you will have many customers. Create a paid membership with discounts and free services and you will create many loyal customers who shop more at your establishment.
Finally if you feel abused or oppressed by the system of government then share your views with as many humans as you can openly or secretly with like minded humans if your views are being censored by the government.
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Improve yourself by learning new useful skills and knowledge, learning from smart humans, and learning as many useful truths or facts as you can.
Improve your relationships with others by selecting honest, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, and competent humans to be your friends and role models.
Improve your job or career by getting better at it or planning to switch to a better one.
Improve your attitude by considering each failure a learning experience, considering and savoring each success no matter how small as just one in a series of lifelong successes, and nurturing selfmotivation and selfcontrol with ongoing optimism on a daily basis if possible.
If married then improve your marriage by listening carefully, mutually caring what each other is thinking and doing, trying to avoid arguments and angry confrontations with calm discussions instead, and trying to raise educated, independent, socially competent offspring.
If you improve any or all of the above five things then you will be a winner in the game of life more than once and have more successes and happiness than most.
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Egoism: n. making largely impulsive judgments and behaving based on whether it helps a human’s self-interest first
Many of us are egoists and the smart egoists realize that to optimize benefits for yourself you also have to involve other humans whom you help and are friendly towards.
In order to get attention and desirable benefits you must give something of yourself to others who will then reciprocate and give back. Hopefully you will get more than you give them in the long duration although in the short duration you may actually have to give more to entice them into giving you something back eventually.
Once you understand that you need the respect and even admiration from others to get the most benefits for yourself then your ego will not run wild and you will include good relationships with others as part of your ego profile or behavior.
To be respected and even admired by others you have to be honest, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, friendly, and competent in what you do. Once you understand the importance of these fundamental principles your journey through life will have optimized your ego potential at personal benefits.
Con artists are numerous in society who will fake friendliness, honesty, dependability, and competence to get you to trust them and make you part with your hard earned money. If you are smart then you will learn to detect the fake human con artists from the real trustworthy humans in life and associate more with the latter.
Our ego is incredibly selfish at birth and some never learn that the world doesn’t just revolve around you but that there are other egos competing with yours and need nurturing too.
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Exaggeration: n. adding untruths to truths in a communication
In a highly emotional society exaggeration is commonplace. We say things are beautiful, great, wonderful, lovely, and super when they don’t deserve that lofty status.
Parents frequently exaggerate the praise given to offspring and the result is that the offspring develop an overly high, unrealistic appraisal of their selfworth, abilities, and competence.
Advertisers exaggerate the desirability of their products and frequently we are disappointed by the reality.
Exaggerations about yourself may make you feel more important than you actually are but it is self delusion which few humans will be convinced of in the long duration.
Exaggeration is emotional and factual BS so don’t do it if you want to maintain a reputation for honesty and want to be respected for your opinion.
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Advice: n. giving an opinion(s) and/or fact(s) about a problem and/or circumstance frequently by someone knowledgeable and/or authoritative
You can get advice from a “professional”, a boss, spouse, offspring, family, close friend, an acquaintance, and celebrity. How do you know who to trust for good advice and on what issues?
The probability that you will get good advice is greater if the source has a reputation of being honest, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, and competent and has been so for a relatively long duration.
If you don’t have a dysfunctional family life and trust your moral spouse and have close trusting relationships with moral family members or close friends then these are the humans whom you can consult for relationship advice the most. Chances are they will be honest with you and try to tell it like it is from their point of view and none of them should be from dysfunctional families themselves.
In this growing hedonistic culture with armies of dysfunctional human relationships even professional therapists are frequently not a good source of relationship advice because many have a myopic philosophy of -do what you like and with whomever you like and come back for more advice at a fee.
Very few will be honestly blunt with you and insist that moral behavior is paramount in any great relationship and that requires honesty, sincerity, dependability, trustworthiness, empathy, emotional support, and an ability to communicate well with a minimum of confrontations, arguments, intense criticisms, and name calling.
Professional advice is also sometimes suspect these days because many doctors are dispensing artificial sometimes addictive drugs with serious metabolic side effects which you shouldn’t be taking. Instead they should more frequently be recommending changing to a healthier lifestyle of eating more organic food, getting moderate exercise, and letting the body heal naturally which sometimes may take from a week to a month. Quick fix pills are frequently prescribed to mask symptoms and not cure the cause of the problem.
Many top lawyers represent the wealthy and the relatively inexperienced ones representing the poor are frequently looking for deep pockets to sue.
Stock brokers, media stock advisers, mutual funds, hedge funds can’t be trusted in the long duration because of a volatile rigged stock market favoring big money investments.
Politicians can’t be trusted to eliminate special interest laws favoring big money interests and balance the budget the way the rest of us are expected to do.
Advertisers of many beauty products, weight loss systems, food supplements, energy and mental boosters all deceive the public into thinking instant results are possible when in fact they are miracle promises or advice not based on any verifiable facts for large groups or populations of humans.
Whether it is an individual or organization, if you want decent advise then go with the trustworthy ones who have been trustworthy for a relatively long duration for best results. There is no guarantee of good advice in life because even the trustworthy ones sometimes believe in the deceptions, myths, and lies of others who are in fact not deserving of trust.
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Admiration: n. respecting and being attracted to and feeling a relatively large intensity pleasure because of (good and/or moral behavior) and/or professional excellence
We generally admire competent professionals who know what they are doing and provide us with a needed service. We also admire humans who are honest, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, friendly, considerate, and interesting to talk to.
If you want to be admired in life by others then you have to acquire the knowledge and skills to have a successful career or become a leader with excellent social skills and some expertise in the field that you are a leader of. As an admired leader who is respected by others you will have to be highly moral with a very good memory for names and that means not lying, stealing, or being adulterous if married.
Yes, some wealthy individuals are admired for their wealth alone and they may have done some pretty immoral things along the way to acquiring that wealth. However, chances are that you would not want to have them as a personal friend because you may not respect them for their immorality. You may admire their wealth but not respect them as good humans.
Tyrants are admired by many humans because they are powerful humans and they in some way usually benefit from the exercise of that power. Historically conquering tyrants were both feared and respected for their ability to expand territory through violent means. Many more fear opposing tyrants with negative comments or actions because of a fear of incarceration or even death.
A moral leadership is respected and admired by its citizens and immoral leadership corrupted by power and money is not truly respected by humans and frequently leads to tyranny which is the only solution to the chaos created by immorality.
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Honesty: n. being truthful and/or (without intentional fraudulent and/or deceptive behavior)
Honesty, telling the truth, or not lying is the best policy if you want a good reputation but that need not mean that you have to give honest answers to questions which are probing your private affairs. If you think it is privileged information then ignore the question or honestly say that you would rather keep the information confidential.
Brutal honesty should be avoided, especially name calling. If someone deserves criticism for doing something stupid, crazy, or incompetent then don’t say- You are stupid, crazy, or incompetent! Say that what you did was wrong or bad and maybe offer an example of what you would have done instead.
Avoid using vague superlatives such as ugly, hate, disgusting, weird, vulgar, loathsome, creepy, and yucky. If you must criticize then say that you dislike something a lot or that it is inappropriate and give your reasons why. If you give a reasonable reason for the objection then the human will not feel personally offended and think that you are calling them an ugly, hateful, disgusting, weird, or creepy human.
Deception is also a form of lying or not being honest and means that you are only being partially honest with hidden lies or hidden bad consequences.
Sincerity is honest communication with a respect for another’s feelings so if you are being honest then take into consideration the fact that feelings may be hurt if you give brutal honest criticism.
Be honest, sincere, dependable, and without deception and you will have a great reputation and most humans will respect and maybe even admire you!!!!!!
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You sense that you will have to change too much to make your partner happy.
You are finding that making yourself a mirror image of your partner’s activities, opinions, and beliefs is the only thing which seems to make your partner happy.
If none of your family members approve of your partner then it is an indication that he or she will clash with your fundamental values latter in the relationship and you will probably eventually be unhappy with the relationship too.
You can’t trust your partner to be alone and are always suspicious of what they may be up to that you don’t approve of. You basically don’t have an honest, sincere, and reliable or trustworthy relationship.
If your partner is censoring all your relationships with others and gives you little freedom to make your own decisions then you may have entered a tyrannical relationship and it is even worse if they try to control what you do or say.
You can’t seem to get a good balance for “me” and “we” time.
Your partner is always chronically unemployed.
Your partner has a serious addiction or compulsive bad habit such as compulsive shopping, gambling, pornography, alcoholism, drug abuse, lying, or is promiscuous.
You argue frequently and even fight about both unimportant and important things and almost never seem to resolve, solve, or compromise on any of the things which you argue about.
You are sexually incompatible.
Your partner has mostly bad friends or a bad family which you intensely dislike.
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Leadership: n. (recommending and/or directing) and/or (commanding and/or inspiring) and/or showing what is to be done
At one extreme a leader can be authoritarian or dictatorial and at the other extreme it can be one who always tries to get a consensus or majority vote. The truth is that some jobs or tasks require an authoritarian style and others more teamwork or cooperative effort. Many successful leaders combine both leadership techniques in different combinations to produce acceptable results or use different motivational techniques to reach goals.
A willing competent dedicated worker filled with personal self-motivation is the most desirable. There are many mistakes which a leader can make to disrupt these good vibes. Not giving credit for doing a good job, backstabbing, gossiping, making unreasonable demands or not giving enough time to do a job well, not providing workers with the information, tools, or materials needed to do the job, and ridiculing, being rude, and insulting are all things which can lead to dissatisfied workers and bad job performance.
Finally the most trusted, respected, and admired leaders are those who are competent, confident, passionate, demanding, good listeners, give feedback or communicate well, are honest, sincere, reliable and trustworthy and are very good motivators or have much emotional intelligence or human skills.
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Is he or you going to be a good provider moneywise?
Will he be honest, sincere, dependable, and one who fulfills his promises?
Does he believe adultery is immoral or something definitely not to do?
If he or you are not going to be a good provider then don’t plan on having offspring and if you decide to do so anyway then at least keep your finances separate and secretly save up some money for an inevitable divorce at some point in the future.
If he lies to you during the relationship, is not dependable with his promises, and is not very punctual when he promises to be so then don’t marry under any circumstances because your marriage will be an untrustworthy emotional hell on earth.
If he has a series of failed marriages due to adultery or if he has been very promiscuous during his single years then don’t marry because bad sexual habits last a lifetime and are almost impossible to change in this hedonistic western culture.
CONCLUSION:
If you find a good provider who doesn’t lie to you, is dependable, is not the cheating kind, and is not afraid of commitment then go for it with all of your feminine charms and get married!!!!!!
These are rather high standards for marriage material and few modern males these days will qualify. Remember, it is BEST TO REMAIN SINGLE then to marry in haste or marry a financially poor, unreliable, untrustworthy mate. Marry a scum bag and you will regret it the rest of your life and so will your offspring if you make the mistake of having any by him!!!
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YOU KNOW MANY INTIMATE DETAILS ABOUT YOUR PARTNER
You can name one or more of your partner’s FAVORITE books, songs, childhood pets, food, TV programs, celebrities, athletes, politicians, relatives, childhood friends, etc.
You know your partner’s best friend and know the friend’s best and worst qualities or characteristics.
You know your partner’s goals and/or aspirations in life,
the most embarrassing moment in childhood,
the proudest moment in childhood and adulthood,
and the characteristics and/or personality traits gotten from parents.
If you have offspring then you know what personality traits your partner has passed on to the offspring,
you know your partner’s flaws in detail and you don’t use stereotypic descriptions.
YOU NURTURE YOUR PARTNER’S GOOD GOALS AND INTERESTS
You support your partner’s good ideas and dreams,
frequently when you disagree you acknowledge the sensible points,
you offer praise or are enthusiastic when something good happens to your partner,
you mutually remember and relive major moments of happiness such as great vacations or important happy family events,
you remember new and mutually challenging moments in life,
when you argue you care about your partner’s feelings and opinions and don’t resort to name calling and profanities.
YOU MUTUALLY CARE ABOUT ONE ANOTHER
Your partner basically cares about you or tries to nurture or support you and tries to protect you from bad influences and bad humans.
You frequently express appreciation and admiration for one another,
you feel that you are teammates working towards common goals,
you are physically affectionate with each other and especially in the morning before departing to work,
your partner reacts kindly to your traumatic or fearful moments,
you don’t refuse to talk about important topics that your partner cares about, you care about your partner’s relationships with family, friends, acquaintances, boss, coworkers and respect them,
you have mutual fun together,
you value many of your partner’s suggestions and are willing to try them out, you enjoy spending time together,
when you are stressed or upset you can go to your partner for emotional support,
you rarely condemn, show contempt, hatred, cuss, or use a stereotypic name such as crazy or stupid,
you know that if you have something important to say then your partner will listen to you attentively,
and you have your own personal love gestures, signs, or affectionate words.
YOU HAVE A TRUSTWORTHY RELATIONSHIP
You are confident that your partner won’t cheat on you or jeopardize your financial security.
Your partner is honest, sincere, and reliable.
If your partner lies then hopefully it is because there is fear that feelings will be hurt and it is mostly white lies about relatively unimportant things since your partner probably hasn’t learned to be diplomatically honest when it comes to comments about a substandard gift, new clothing, or the quality of a homemade meal.
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Wait long enough and bad humans will reveal their badness.
You may not know whether a new friend will be a good one or whether a potential spouse will be what you are looking for based on first impressions. Continue to interact and time will reveal whether they are indeed good choices without any serious drawbacks because few humans can maintain a good reputation for long without making a mistake and also revealing some of their bad characteristics.
When opportunity strikes seize the moment.
If you have prepared yourself and opportunity knocks then speedily take advantage of it.
You can’t teach someone who won’t listen and learn.
Sometimes no matter what you try to tell someone, if they don’t listen and are too narrow minded to take good advice they will never learn to be better or make the necessary changes to improve.
Very few humans stay the same for a lifetime.
Aging teaches many humans not to repeat the same old hurtful mistakes over and over again and most get a little wiser as time goes on. Most humans change with time and changing circumstances which is a law of nature.
Smile and chances are that that human will smile back at you.
Optimism is frequently contagious.
Don’t accuse someone of a character flaw if you have it also.
If you are guilty of a human imperfection then fix it before you go and start blaming another human for the same flaw. Lead by example and not just with words.
Only one selfish passion in life is overly restrictive and you won’t live a full and rewarding life without regrets.
Too narrowly focus on one passion in life and you will regret not paying enough attention to other things in life such as family and close friends and maybe even traveling to experience nature or other cultures too.
Try to be kind even under adversity because someone else may be going through something worse.
When we are under stress due to bad circumstances we may be angrier and less empathetic to others who may indeed be going through worse circumstances and may really need more optimistic emotional support than you.
Most humans are selfish.
Offspring are selfish and many of us don’t learn to channel our egomania into more mutually advantageous experiences and behaviors.
Optimistic happiness is your responsibility.
Happiness originates from within and humans can only encourage and praise you so far but when you are away from them all alone then happiness is up to you and your self-motivating optimism.
Never hire or marry out of pity.
Feel sorry for the bad circumstance and past experiences of a human and hire them or marry them and you will frequently end up just as unhappy with mutually unacceptable bad experiences.
Rushing or haste is frequently inefficient and wasteful.
Trying to do things too fast will cause you to make more mistakes than usual and you will regret the time, effort, and even money wasted.
What you do will be noticed much more than what you say.
Leading by example is much more impactful then just trying to lead by words alone.
Be honest, sincere, and reliable and you will be admired and respected by most.
If you don’t lie and are punctual and fulfill your promises then you will be admired and respected by most others.
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
If someone lies to you or deceives you and takes advantage of your money or good personality once then the chances of it happening again a second time increase because a liar lies more than once for personal gain.
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Honesty is the best policy.
If you are honest it means that you are truthful and sincere and this is the kind of person others want to associate with. You can translate this into success in life with added effort, reliability, and achievement. A good reputation means trustworthiness and reliability which is impossible without honesty as a foundation.
A man who has never gone to school may steal from a freight car; but if he has a university education, he may steal the whole railroad.
This just means that immoral people in greater positions of power have the opportunity to steal much more than an immoral common man or woman.
If it’s too good to be true, it probably is.
If someone tells you that you have suddenly won much money, especially from a stranger, it is probably not true. If someone tells you that you have gotten a valuable gift or valuable tickets for free, it is probably not true.
Many scams sound temptingly inviting, but they are almost all untruthful cons. If something can be gotten with much time, effort, and money and someone suggests that you can get it for free or almost for free-beware!!!!!!
Better to give than to receive.
This is untrue propaganda widely spread by altruists and social do-gooders who want people to dedicate their lives to helping the unfortunate in society. The truth is that it is better to both give and receive in most human activities.
At the beginning of most human relationships it is probably better to give more than you receive but as the relationship matures there should be more giving and receiving for both parties or the relationship will remain very lopsided and dysfunctional master slave relationship.
Words once spoken can never be recalled.
This is just a statement of fact but it also implies that sometimes words are said in anger or under stressful circumstances which we later come to regret. Calling your wife an idiot or a bitch in a fit of anger can haunt you for a long time even though time is supposed to heal all wounds.
Birds of a feather, flock together
This is a general fact of life that humans with similar opinions, interests, education levels, and economic levels tend to associate with each other more frequently than with humans that are very different from them.
Forgiveness is an important key to happiness.
Forgiveness is only one of the keys to happiness but without it there can be unnecessary long periods of resentment for a personal wrong or mistake that has been done.
Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.
The pleasant memory of kind words recurs in the brain long after the kind words are said and the enjoyment of those words also recurs in the brain.
If a million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing
This is just a statement of the fact that if a million humans believe in something stupid then it is still stupid or if they believe that a lie is the truth then it is still a lie.
An optimistic attitude means all the difference in the world
Being an optimist rather than a pessimist is indeed a big difference in attitudes and it will affect your life in so many important ways. Many more humans will be interested in befriending you if you have an optimistic attitude.
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Silence is better than arguing, insincere flattery, and random communication.
We should all learn to talk less and listen more. If you can’t calmly discuss something then it is best to remain silent until emotions die down or until you sense that there is a solution to the emotional topic. When you are at a loss for words or can’t say anything nice and sincere about a person’s behavior then it is best to say nothing. Instead of engaging in much random conversation it is best to listen much and respond appropriately in a short and concise manner or to say nothing at all if the conversation is of a very trivial nature.
Be honest, sincere, trustworthy, and reliable and you will be respected and admired and extend that respect and admiration to humans who are also honest, sincere, trustworthy, and reliable.
Being truthful and fulfilling your promises as frequently as possible is a sign that you can be trusted, respected, and even admired. If you can’t trust someone then you don’t have to respect them and if you are the lying deceptive type then don’t expect to be trusted and respected by others.
Don’t spend all your money on material possessions, especially if it means going into great debt to satisfy your material wants.
Living frugally or being thrifty, saving about 10% of your income for a rainy day and retirement, and investing much of your time, energy, and money on family, close friends, and worthwhile causes such as the conservation of biodiversity will reduce your desires to boast about what you have and increase your desire to boast about what you are doing to make the world better for family, friends, humanity, and biodiversity or wildlife.
Learn to accept change and strive for improvement
In a fast changing technological era many traditional jobs are being replaced by computer software and robots. Accept the fact that you will probably lose your job in your lifetime or have to constantly reeducate yourself and train for a more complex job in the future. A liberal arts college education is no longer going to be a guarantee of a good paying job or career.
Think before you act
We are creatures of impulsive behavior and that includes many bad habits. Instead of impulsively buying something ask first do I NEED it or do I just WANT it? Instead of impulsively buying an expensive brand name product ask yourself can I get the same value with a cheaper generic product? Instead of impulsively buying food ask first is it a healthy food or am I just buying it to satisfy a craving for a taste sensation? Instead of impulsively arguing stay silent and ask yourself is it worth the emotional bad feelings?
Think much more before you act and that means asking yourself whether what you are about to do is the most efficient way of doing it or is there an alternate way of doing it which will save me more time, energy, and money?
Don’t be envious of others
Many humans like to brag about their lifestyles and possessions and if there is a human who seems to be leading a more exciting life than you then he or she is probably paying through the nose and is in great debt financially and his or her happy relationships with other humans will probably not last long. Many modern lifestyles with profligate spending and marginal relationships with other humans is frequently a lifestyle which is not worthy of envy or imitation.
If you are envious and trying to get social approval for your lifestyle from almost everyone then stop it because everyone will never agree with everything which you are doing and it is much more important to try and please the humans close to you such as family and close friends than the general public with its lose morals and bad behavior.
Surround yourself with good humans
Surround yourself with optimistic, honest, sincere, trustworthy friends and your life will be much happier than if you associate with pessimistic, unreliable, and untrustworthy friends. Birds of a feather flock together so don’t flock together with humans who will add misery to your life, especially if you are optimistic, honest, sincere, and trustworthy.
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1. Humans lie and deceive for personal benefit and/or to benefit or to hurt others.
Rarely does a human lie to hurt themselves which is a form of masochism or a desperate attempt to get pity or sympathy from others and hopefully gain personally by manipulating another’s emotions. Beggars are sometimes real life examples of humans manipulating human emotions for personal benefit.
2. If a human is a member of a group then they may lie and deceive for mutual benefit. Doctors frequently deceive or do not report on the bad medical practices of their coworkers or fellow doctors and the result is hurting their profession as a whole.
3. Language with its one word emotional generalized descriptions is structured to make lying and deception inevitable and frequently unintentional.
Lying for personal benefit may be to maintain a good personal reputation or trying to hide an embarrassing, wrong, or immoral personal action which frequently deserves punishment. Lying about another human is sometimes done to maintain that human’s personal reputation for doing something embarrassing, wrong, or immoral which frequently deserves punishment.
Lying for personal benefit to be praised and/or rewarded for something they personally did not do which may hurt another who deserves the praise and/or reward.
Lying and deceiving may be done to hurt another’s reputation or to get praise, a reward, or a material possession from another which is frequently done for personal gain or vindictiveness at the expense of another.
Humans sometimes lie and deceive for personal short duration protection or benefit which they also erroneously hope will be long duration protection or benefit. Humans lie and deceive to protect, benefit, or hurt others.
Language structure lies and deceives. Language is structured to give yes or no, love or hate, like or dislike, approve or disapprove, beautiful or ugly answers to questions but reality is frequently much different and there are seldom absolutes or generalities which convey the whole truth. Saying that a human is stupid is frequently a lie because that human does not do stupid things all the time.
You may love something about a gift but hate some aspect of it, you may think a dress has the potential to be beautiful if only it did not have one or two ugly features, and you may want to answer that it is yes most of the time but that there are exceptions to the rule and the answer is sometimes no.
An archaic language forces us to lie because of its absolute or general concepts and that is why prejudice prevails because stereotypes of ethnic and political groups are made which are seldom true in all cases for all members of an ethnic or political group. Blacks are lazy and Jews are stingy, Republicans are conservative and Democrats are liberal is the kind of bias which language structure is mostly to blame because of its tendency towards absolute or general one word emotional descriptions.
Offspring frequently try to lie to avoid punishment or condemnation for doing something bad, wrong, or immoral. If offspring hit their sibling or another offspring or steal some toy from a sibling or neighborhood offspring then they may lie to try and maintain a good reputation with their parents and avoid deserved punishment.
Adults are just like offspring and sometimes lie to maintain their reputation and avoid condemnation by others for doing something bad, wrong, or immoral. More frequently adults lie and deceive to get rewards and material benefits from others which they would not be able to do if they told the truth or behaved in trustworthy ways.
CONCLUSION:
Lying and deception are programmed into language usage and it is a struggle trying to use it logically in an unbiased non deceptive way. If you consciously or intentionally lie and deceive it is just a question of time before your lies and deceptions are revealed and your reputation will hit the toilet.
Trustworthiness is a history of being honest, sincere, and telling the truth reliably and that means that if you want an excellent social reputation and want to become a trustworthy leader someday then you should never intentionally lie or deceive.
Personal relationships with other humans, especially family and close friendships will also suffer if you intentionally lie or deceive.
Humans lie and deceive to get rewards that they don’t deserve and to avoid punishment because nature tries to be efficient and lying and deception sometimes seems to be the most efficient way of getting what you want or need, especially if you don’t feel that you will be caught in your lies and deceptions.
Deception is really a hidden lie which language promotes with its irrational, illogical, emotionally biased structure.
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The major key to a closer and better relationship is the ability to build a trusting relationship and always telling the truth is the fastest way of getting there. Always being honest and sincere is the key but there are 4 other things to also consider and do.
Stop silly arguments:
You will not always have the same opinion on things and will make mistakes along the way no matter how perfect you think you are or would like to be.
Accepting another’s opinion even if you disagree with it is being open minded and understanding that there may be another way of looking at the world in some or many cases. Instead of attacking an opinion which you disagree with and trying to force your opinion on another the proper approach is to discuss the opinion calmly and offering any counter evidence or facts which may disprove the opinion and support the one which you have.
Realize that when it comes to politics you can even disagree on general principles and still mostly agree on how to run family life in more agreeable detail. Realize that personal tastes and opinions which minimally affect family life are different and need agreement and acceptance and not argument.
Learn to apologize if you realize you have made a mistake or have attacked a relatively insignificant opinion in a highly emotional argumentative way. Making mistakes and relatively illogical emotional outburst are common in most relationships and a sincere apology is the best solution to the problems which it creates. An apology permits you to be much more open and not secretive in future communications.
Eliminate jealousy:
If you are not lying to each other and trust each other then jealousy should not even enter the picture. If one or both of you lie then jealousy can become a serious problem which refuses to go away. If one of you is a habitual liar then it is best to end the relationship sooner rather than later because it will inevitably destroy the relationship, frequently in a jealous rage.
Learn to communicate:
A strong relationship means that you can talk about any subject matter and neither partner has to feel defensive and keep opinions and facts a secret for fear that they will be emotionally attacked and not discussed in a rational calm way. If you are afraid that you will be shouted at for revealing a controversial opinion or fact then it is a question of a lack of trust which should be addressed. The more you conceal the greater will be the explosion once the truth or secret surfaces and the explosion can be avoided by constant revelations or truthful communications which hide nothing but discuss anything.
Pay attention or listen:
Listening to your partner and opening up takes much work and selfcontrol, especially if it is a frequently repeated topic which is beginning to bore you because it sounds like nagging. Controlling personalities will frequently nag much if they don’t get their way so be prepared to live with a nag. If it gets too annoying tell them that it is hurting the pleasure that communicating should be and that you may not communicate as much in the future if it persists to the detriment of both of you.
CONCLUSION:
Always being vulnerable to attack by always telling the truth and revealing your inner feelings and opinions takes courage but without such an honest strategy a trusting relationship will not develop and there won’t be a close and better relationship which is needed for a long duration marriage.
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Lying that you don’t care how much money he is making or will make. The truth is that most women crave financial security which is a prerequisite for a stable family relationship. You may want to emphasize that you are not a gold digger but you may get a man who wants to live off of your income instead and not feel responsible about contributing his fair share to the relationship.
Lying that you don’t care whether he looks at other women. Exclusivity and trust is the glue which keeps relationships together for the long duration and if you don’t consider it important then you may later turn into a jealous psycho chick filled with fear of abandonment when and if he starts eyeing other women.
Lying that you can’t wait to see his family, especially if you find out that he comes from a dysfunctional one. Inlaws trying to run their offspring’s lives can become a nightmare for you and your significant other, especially if inlaws are the controlling kind and have serious addictive (drugs, gambling, and alcohol) and abusive personality flaws.
Lying that you like his friends if you don’t. If you sense there is a chronic need to hang out with friends whom you don’t like then don’t be surprised if he doesn’t look for better ones in the future and spends much precious time with them. Admit that you think he can improve his friendships and that you would prefer it if he would spend most of his free time with you.
Lying that you are in no rush to get married. If you are looking for a good time and someone to spend much money on you then this would be the truth. For most young adult women they should be honestly trying to establish an enduring relationship with a good potential mate as soon as possible so that they don’t lose a good mate to another marriage hungry woman. The older an unmarried woman gets the greater is the probability that she will meet more divorcees, unhappy or adulterous men, flawed male personalities, and older men who may not want any offspring in their lives. Most of the good male mates will already be married.
Lying that you like him just the way he is. Most women will find a few things that they would want to change in their potential mate so it is important to bring those things out into the open and discuss them before a relationship continues. If you try and keep it a secret it will eventually become a topic of conversation with great unpleasantness and disappointment.
Lying that you love sports. Truly loving sports is a rarity and most of us wind up hating and complaining how much time is spent on sports and not family life eventually in the relationship. Watching TV sports can be annoying enough but if you find that he likes to attend them in person in an addictive way and gambles on sports too then you should seriously consider ending the relationship if you hate his compulsive habit.
Lying that you can keep a secret early in the relationship. Before you establish a long duration trusting relationship it is highly probable that you will gossip about the secret to your family or girlfriends so don’t make promises which you will break because your boyfriend will eventually find out that you have broken his confidentiality and will not trust you with further secrets or confidentialities. The future probability that he will trust you or want you as a mate will vanish.
CONCLUSION: Honesty and sincerity is the best policy if you dream of or hope for a trusting adoring family relationship. If you intentionally lie in the relationship your date will not trust you or want to confide in you about personal feelings and plans and the relationship will selfdestruct soon and certainly later. Most lies surface given enough time and no one likes to be lied to unless they come from a dysfunctional family where lying was an ongoing problem with bad consequences.
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Leaders creating trust in an organization make it operate more efficiently and here are 13 ways which can accomplish this.
Using simple truthful honest language eliminates doubt about what your goals and requests are.
Genuinely caring or appropriately nurturing and protecting your workers is respectful and creates respect in return. Nurturing can take the form of encouragement and giving one the opportunity to learn new useful job skills and protection can mean not violating confidentiality is there is any.
Don’t obscure your information, real goals, or needs so they can be truthfully verified by disclosure.
Right wrongs by apologizing quickly and making restitution where possible.
Show loyalty and give credit freely to people when speaking of or to them even though they may not always be present themselves.
Deliver results completely and on time without overpromising and underdelivering and don’t make excuses if results don’t come in on time or are incomplete but take steps so that it won’t happen again.
Try to improve and get better by thanking and using valuable feedback.
Confront reality and deal with it boldly even if it seems unmentionable or undiscussible.
Truthfully state goals and expectations so they can be discussed, validated, and renegotiated if needed and expect them to be fulfilled once assumed.
Practice accountability if it is your responsibility but take steps to make others accountable too if they are largely the reason why goals or expectations were not met.
Listen first to others and don’t assume what their priorities have been because they may be different than the ones you had in mind.
Judiciously make and do your best to keep commitments or promises and don’t violate confidentiality.
Extend trust to those who have earned it and extend it conditionally to those who are trying to earn trust.
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