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JUMPING TO THE WRONG CONCLUSION OR IMPULSIVELY BELIEVING AN UNTRUTH TO BE THE TRUTH!!!

Most of us at some time have felt guilty, hopeless, anxious, depressed, jealous, vulnerable, rejected, hateful, inferior, stupid, angry, grumpy, fearful, etc.

If you are emotionally immature or have little emotional intelligence then you may often jump to the wrong conclusion about your feelings and that of others.

You may jump to a wrong conclusion based on insufficient evidence and react inappropriately emotionally.

Psychologists use fancy terms such as emotional reasoning, mind reading, and personalization to try and categorize different responses which are inaccurate readings of emotions or circumstances but they are all basically an impulsive, faulty, incomplete, wrong, or untrue reading of or reaction to reality.

If you sometimes feel a little guilty, moderately guilty, and very guilty then you probably have relatively good gut or impulsive guilt reactions but if you feel very guilty almost every time and frequently then your sense of emotional and physical reality may be bad.

Similarly if you have different degrees of anxiety or any emotion for that matter then you are probably emotionally healthy but if you feel very anxious or very emotional almost every time and do so frequently then your sense of physical and emotional reality for anxiety and other emotions is probably bad.

Another sign of emotional immaturity is if you see another human get mad, angry, hateful, grumpy, etc. and impulsively almost always feel that it is probably due to something that you did or said and it is your fault. Simply asking what made you mad, angry, hateful, depressed, grumpy, etc. will often get to the real cause of the emotional expression. Often you may not be involved at all and definitely you are not responsible for another’s emotional state or reaction.

If you feel insecure then you may have real justifications for it such as working at a job after working at 6 different jobs in a two year period. A feeling of insecurity in a relationship may be justified by a spouse who was promiscuous before marriage or had 3 prior divorces. A male may feel insecure if he marries a beautiful woman whom men are constantly hitting on or flirting with. Another major cause of justified insecurity arises from bad financial management which results in great financial stress and a feeling that you are always on the verge of bankruptcy.

Some are burdened with feelings of inadequacy and insecurity and may feel that they are stupid, boring, or are lacking in some personality department.

There are unfortunately few fast fixes and becoming better employed, more competent, more educated, more interesting, more sociable, etc. takes time and courageous determination to change your lousy circumstances and flawed personality.

Just making optimistic affirmations and thinking about your bad circumstances will not solve your emotional problems. What it will really take is some courageous determined action with selfresearch, selfeducation, expert advice, and actually changing your bad habits into better ones and developing better selfcontrol over your emotions.

Good parents and role models, other siblings, and much exposure to many different kinds of personalities or humans is the ideal way to mature emotionally. Leading a life largely isolated from other humans will handicap you emotionally but there are still many basically introverted humans who lead successful happy lives and aren’t overly concerned what others may think of them and don’t feel emotionally trapped or insecure. Introverts tend to be more selective in the humans that they associate with and are usually not concerned with being socially popular.

If you assume too much and have a tendency to jump to conclusions without actual complete evidence or often react impulsively emotionally by assuming what actually is not true or reality, then you have a serious problem where simple advice will not be enough such as just saying to yourself- don’t be so impulsive or think before you react emotionally.

Emotional immaturity takes long to overcome and the longer that you have been immature the harder it will be to eventually mature emotionally.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT SUBCONSCIOUSNESS+

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Subconsiousness: n. unconscious impulsive brain activity while awake which influences our behavior to a large degree, especially good and/or bad habits

 

Despite popular myth that the conscious mind determines most of what we do in life the truth is that the subconscious rules supreme and makes impulsive choices based on prior experiences in our daily lives which are really our good and bad habits repeating themselves over and over again.

Very little conscious decision making is part of the lives of most humans and most of us behave on the subconscious level unless there is a crisis or severe emotional experience which changes our subconscious behavior for good or bad.

To use a bad analogy, our conscious behavior is the iceberg which we theoretically see or can control and the huge subconscious is the iceberg below the water level which we theoretically can’t see or can’t control which is the major part of our behavior and decision making process.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT COMPUTERS+

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Computers are primarily made up of two parts-memory and a processor. The memory stores information and the processor manipulates the information mathematically or logically.

Initial programming languages used simple logical or mathematical instructions which compared numbers and based on whether one was larger or smaller branched or went to another place in the code or program. Having branched or gone to another point in the program another logical question was asked comparing numbers and based on the result would branch to another location in the program.

One of the hardest problems was getting out of infinite loops which was a logical flaw in the program and was a situation where you repeated the same programming code over and over again without reaching an end or conclusion.

Fundamentally a computer just adds or subtracts numbers and makes logical comparisons of greater than or less than and then branches to another location in the program to do further calculations.

Letters can also be represented mathematically and so you can form words with the computer and make lists of information. These lists of information stored in memory can be accessed and processed almost any way that you want so we have computers translating from one language to another and even writing articles retrieved from much relevant information written about a topic or subject. Miraculously the computer seems to have an ability to think or do things similar to what a human brain can do.

With enough information in memory a computer can play the Jeopardy game or chess game and win. Pretty soon computers will also be able to drive a car on city and highway roads by being told what the destination is as the only necessary information to be inputted by hand or voice. Computer robots will soon be performing many of the tasks only done by humans. There is even a fear that computers will soon be able to think like humans and threaten to take over the world and not just do all the work or jobs which were once done by humans.

I don’t have this fear that computers will take over the world but I think that the most likely scenario is where humans and computers will work together symbiotically and help each other to solve problems in everyday life and do things which have to be done.

A computer is very good at logical thinking but is not as efficient as the human brain and is lousy at detecting or using human emotions. A computer can’t presently have a sense of humor or detect whether someone is being deceptive or is lying about something. It can’t sense whether you love something or just like it and it does not react to the environment or other humans in an emotional way.

Most humans react rather impulsively to the environment based on their prior experiences in life and unfortunately the computer does not act impulsively based on prior experiences. We are much better at adapting to changes in the environment which is so complex and it is very easy to fool a computer with faulty information input. We are much cleverer than a computer ever will be and there are still human capabilities which the computer will probably not have in the near foreseeable future. Humans primarily function emotionally and a computer will probably never become as emotional as humans are.

Yes, computers will ultimately do almost everything that we can do and better but they will not get the emotional thrill out of life which we are capable of. Computers may someday be able to fake love, happiness, laughter, grief, empathy, deception, lying, and sorrow but they will not truly feel those emotions the way that humans do.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT REACTION***

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Reaction: n. causing an action(s) by a subset(s) after impacting by samer subset(s)

All of us react to our environment and the humans around us in rather impulsive intuitive ways most of the time and it is only occasionally that we take a few seconds out of our time to think about what we will do next.

 

Reactions are a fact of life in human behavior and we react almost instantly to most of the things which happen around us. Delayed reactions are underrated and it is one way that we can analyze whether our daily reactions really benefit us or trap us into behaving with many bad behaviors which we should try and eliminate from our lives.

 

How many times have we really stopped and asked ourselves. Is what I am about to do really necessary or am I just doing it out of unconscious habit?

 

Before you buy anything have you really asked yourself- do I really need it or just want it and can I wait a few days or weeks before I purchase what I impulsively think I want? If you can wait a week or months before buying then don’t buy!

 

If we more frequently stopped to ask a question about what we will do next then we can become more aware of our impulsive behaviors and be in a position to maybe modify the behavior into a better one.

 

Stop and think before you act is good advice if you want to improve on your behavior in a conscious logical way. Know thyself. If you analyze what you do and why you do it then you will be more aware and in a position to then improve upon yourself and your reactions in the future if you want improvement in your life.

 

Always thinking or asking questions before reacting is rather unnatural and can be a real pain in the butt but do it occasionally and you may be surprised by what you can learn about yourself.

 

Before you purchase food or eat, once in a while ask yourself-could I be eating something more nutritious or healthier that may be just as tasty? This may lead you into deciding to eat more and more organic food in your diet and a healthier you will be the payoff.

 

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10 EMOTIONAL SKILLS NEEDED TO HELP YOU BECOME A GOOD COMMUNICATOR!!!!!!

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Can you maintain a trusting bond after arguing and hurting feelings?

Call someone stupid, an ass hole, crazy, nuts, or a profanity such as motherf**ker or bitch. After such a careless outburst can you properly apologize and retain a trusting bond or do you get lasting resentment and wanting revenge for hurt feelings which weakens a trusting caring relationship.

 

Do you get violent and/or cruel during an argument and/or after it?

Abuse is frequently verbal but it can also be physical. If you plan to have offspring then it is definitely not a good idea to have a violently abusive spouse.

 

Are you emotionally addicted to impulsive irrational spending or shopping?

Getting emotionally high on impulsive spending is something you should definitely try to control or correct before making a marital commitment. Bad money management is the leading cause of divorce.

 

Do you persist beyond frustration?

There are plenty of frustrations in family life and on the job and persistence is frequently what you need to overcome the problem. Can you continue to pursue a frustrating goal despite much failure or are you one who easily gives up and accepts permanent failure rather quickly? Having no courage to overcome important frustrations is a great handicap in a relationship.

 

Are you willing to courageously discuss difficult problems or do you ignore or try to avoid them?

Difficult problems are very emotionally stressing and if you are the type who tries to always avoid or ignore them with silence then the relationship will not endure and the problems may even get worse with delay.

 

Do you have the patience to wait or delay impulsive gratification or are you one who needs to act on an impulse immediately?

Impulsively buy a cheap product now or wait until you can afford a quality product later by saving up. Impulsively eat a snack right away or wait for the main meal to eat. These are two examples which require waiting or delaying gratification which has a greater reward with patience and waiting. Excessive credit card debt is an example of not delaying gratification enough and frequently bordering on imminent bankruptcy as a bad end result.

 

Are you emotionally too defensive when confronted with a mistake?

Some emotional egos are so large that those humans will almost never admit to a mistake and even lie with implausible excuses to avoid blame. Being easily offended by blame leads to many undesirable arguments and bad feelings.

 

Can’t detect or identify low intensity emotions such as anxiety, affection, sadness, loneliness, sincerity, and liking?

Failure to note low intensity emotions means that one may fail to communicate emotional support for emotional hardship. You may not be able to verbalize empathy with minor failures or bad events which personally affect a human and need to be noticed or acknowledged frequently with emotional support. Most men are currently very bad at identifying low intensity emotions and disappoint women frequently by not picking up subtle emotional cues.

 

Do you give praise or emotional support for successes in someone’s life?

Financial support for worthwhile important goals is essential but you should should be able to also praise and give emotional support when one achieves those desirable important goals in life.

 

Do you know how to regain optimism by interacting with good friends or activities which increase your morale when needed?

Ultimately happiness is something which you are personally responsible for and if you are unhappy then you should have enough self-motivation to get yourself back into an optimistic happy mood if it has been temporarily decreased by a bad personal event or personal failure.

 

 

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INFATUATION MAKES YOU DO SOME STRANGE THINGS!!!

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Infatuation: n. a mostly unreasoning lovin for a subset(s)

Infatuation or “falling in love” makes you do some unusual things because the reasoning part of your thinking process gets overridden to a great extent.

Infatuation makes you less able to focus on what you are doing because thoughts of your loved one keep interfering with your work and/or thinking process.

Infatuation makes you high emotionally and it is similar to a cocaine high.

Infatuation can override small feelings of mental pessimism or depression and physical pain.

When infatuated you tend to ignore the need to probe for character flaws or bad habits which your loved one may have.

If you are infatuated then you are more willing to take unnecessary risks for your partner.

Your pupils dilate somewhat when experiencing the emotional high that infatuation gives.

CONCLUSION:

When infatuated the reasoning part of your brain gets severely interfered with and your actions become more impulsive. What this suggests is that you should wait until the infatuation dies down before you commit to a marriage because you may have overlooked some very important facts about your potential spouse which may make the marriage less desirable from a rational point of view.

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ARE YOU INEFFICIENT AND PAYING FOR IT WITH MISERY?

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Nature is efficient. It communicates efficiently, distributes resources such as food and territory efficiently, and rewards the smart and healthy with successful reproduction.

Most humans in civilization are inefficient communicators, don’t budget their time, energy, and money wisely, and have to frequently struggle to eat healthy and have offspring whom they can be proud of.

Do you make many promises and don’t fulfill most of them?

Do you talk too much and don’t solve many problems?

Do you have many casual friends and few if any close ones?

Do you argue much and solve few problems?

Do you spend too much time goofing off and find little time for the important things in your life?

Do you have great debt all the time?

Do you pick up after your offspring and let them lead messy lives?

Do you drive around town much visiting friends and impulsively shopping?

Do you date frequently and find no serious ones?

do you not set priorities in your life consciously,

Do you not have any serious long duration goals?

If you have many of the above characteristics then you are being inefficient with your time, energy, and money and you probably have a good share of misery in your impulsive problematic life.

I can write a book on inefficiency and have devoted many of my evergreen blogs to thinking rationally and being efficient but in a nutshell:

Set priorities and goals in your life,

Schedule your time,

Budget your money,

replace what you don’t now feel are impulsive bad habits with better ones,

acquire new useful knowledge and skills constantly,

and in summary: devote most of your time, energy, and money to the most important things in your life once you have prioritized them with conscientious thinking, planning, and doing. Get off your impulsive emotional butt!!!!!!

 

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