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GOOD RELATIONSHIPS!!!

Most young adults were asked what would make them happy and a popular response is to have money or be rich and famous. In a longitudinal Harvard study beginning in the 1930’s and still going on about 75 years later the conclusion seems to be that GOOD RELATIONSHIPS are the key to a happy life. We will investigate what a good relationship is and how you can optimize the chances that you will have good relationships throughout a lifetime.

There are many kinds of relationships which can even be called forms of friendships which are very close, close, casual, and rather remote or what could be called acquaintances.

There are minimal or borderline relationships where the contact between a human is minimal or even nonexistent. We are talking here about the relationships which you may have with national politicians, celebrities, writers, or hero like role models which you mostly just view, listen to, or read about but they still impact your life and choices to some extent. Most of these interactions are almost a one way street where you view, listen, or read but don’t actually have physical contact with the human beyond just voting for a politician, attending a celebrity gathering,  just viewing a video, listening to a podcast, or reading about someone in an article or book.

Our primary focus will be on adult relationships because parental relationships between parent and child have a different dynamic since most parents are in charge or are responsible for supervising their offspring or adopted children. If you want to learn more about parent child relationships then read my book MODERN PARENTING by Uldis Sprogis on Amazon.

Perhaps a good starting point to understand what a good relationship is, we should briefly cover what bad relationships are so that you can try to avoid them.

In a bad relationship the human lies much and can’t be trusted, is immoral, the human is not dependable, is incompetent, has bad addictions, or is not a good conversationalist.

In a bad marital relationship the spouse may be verbally and even physically abusive and argues most of the time about even rather trivial things. At the other extreme a spouse may be non communicative and basically ignores the partner most of the time. This too is a bad relationship.

Not so obvious is the fact that bad relationships should be terminated as soon as possible. If it is a bad spousal relationship then divorce is a very real option and if it is a bad friend then you should seriously consider ending the friendship since it will handicap you in the long duration.

Trust is the bond which keeps good relationships going and if you can’t trust someone then a good relationship is not possible. If a relationship without trust exists then it is a highly dysfunctional one with a lot of misery associated with it. Some spouses stay in a bad relationship because they believe it is best for the children or out of financial necessity but this is a fallacy because if you are in a dysfunctional spousal relationship then you are a terrible role model for the children who will grow up and also probably be dysfunctional in their marital relationship. So integrity or being honest and moral is vital to a trusting good relationship.

In a nutshell if you have integrity, are trustworthy, dependable, competent, sincere, friendly, a good conversationalist, and empathetic then you have the potential to be respected and maybe even admired by others. Yes, you can be admired for just being rich but if you don’t have the above good personality then you will not be respected by most humans.

Some humans complain that they don’t have interesting friends whom they can interact with. The truth is that if you want interesting friends then you YOURSELF must also be interesting so that you can share mutual satisfying interests. If you are looking for a friend who has a great personality, is friendly, is optimistic, and does interesting things and has the time and money to do those things then you too must have a great personality, be friendly, be optimistic, and have the time and money to pursue those interesting things.

Not commonly realized is the basic fact that the more interests which you have in common in a relationship, the chances are that you will have a better relationship since it won’t become that boring very soon. So basically if you are an interesting human with many interests then the chances of meeting someone with one or more similar interests is more probable.

Before you go out looking for good relationships make sure that you have one or more important things to offer someone. If your personality is not that great then make an effort to improve it before you try to enter relationships. Similarly, if you have almost no important interests to talk about then start finding some interests to make you more of a magnet in a relationship.

Sometimes you find out that a human is interested in something which you wish you knew more about. Take some time out to research the interest and learn the basics about it. Then get back to them and continue the conversation by showing that you did some research into the interest and have some unanswered questions. Most will appreciate that you really put in some effort trying to understand their area of interest and most will gladly share their experiences with the interest. This approach is especially valuable if you have a gut feeling that you like a human’s personality and would like to include them on your friend’s or networking list.

Ultimately you should put in much effort improving yourself first, before you start looking for someone that you may want to connect with. Become someone with an optimistic attitude and friendly personality for starters and then make yourself into an interesting human even though it probably won’t happen overnight.

To start a relationship you must interact with humans who potentially have similar interests and some of the best places to meet others is on the job, with friends of relatives, with friends of friends, at events which interest you and that you attend, at social gatherings like weddings, sporting events, religious services, community events, volunteering, political campaigns, and on the internet via social media, dating sites, and clubs or causes. Yes, you can also meet humans at bars, the coffee shop, movie theater, and in the supermarket but the chances that you will meet someone compatible are rather remote.

Knowing thyself is very important in life and if you don’t know or are unaware of your bad habits and good ones then you really will never consciously know how to improve yourself. In the book GOOD RELATIONSHIPS by Uldis Sprogis you will discover what good and bad habits are and then you can courageously proceed to decrease or totally eliminate some bad habits and replace them with more of your good habits and maybe even some good new ones.

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WHEN IT IS BEST TO BE SILENT AND NOT OVERTLY HONEST!!!

I would just like to start off by saying that for humans whom you trust unconditionally such as your spouse, close relatives, and close friends you can usually be even blatantly honest about almost anything and not run the risk of ruining your reputation or breaking up the relationship if it is a good one to begin with. For everyone else, here are some cautionary statements where it is often wiser to not say anything at all or make a noncommittal remark.

If you say that you HATE something about a human or think that a human is ugly and there is little chance of that human changing one’s looks, beliefs, ideas, or behavior then it is best to keep silent about the subject. Nothing is more offensive to a human than to be called ugly because of a big nose, big breasts, big ears, little breasts, little penis, or some unchangeable handicap. Say that you HATE an adult’s beliefs, ideas, or behavior and you may irreversibly offend them and destroy the possibility of a closer relationship.

If someone puts you on the spot and asks if you think their nose is ugly then you can say nothing, say- no comment, or you can say- it looks normal to me, or other such kind phrase.

If a behavior is immoral then it is OK to hate it and say so but if it is a sincerely held belief, idea, or opinion then saying that you hate it is not a very diplomatic approach. Calmly discussing the belief, idea, or opinion is the best approach if you are asked your opinion of it. If you disagree with it strongly and you can’t convince or persuade them otherwise then you can end the discussion by saying we agree to disagree on the subject. Of course if you truly HATE something and don’t want to explode in an argument then you can say I don’t want to discuss it or talk about it now or ever.

There are other situations where silence or some tactful response may be necessary for a stranger, acquaintance, or casual friend. You may not want to reveal intimate sexual details about your spouse, your weaknesses or secretive bad habits, and private eccentricities very deviant from normative behavior.

Some feel that personal income is also none of your business and you may be surprised how many more things are none of your business mostly from pretentious humans. If you are not pretentious and have very little to hide then maintaining your integrity and credibility is of paramount importance so you should answer as truthfully as possible to almost any question which you are asked. Courage at being truthful is often rewarded with earned respect and sometimes even a bit of admiration.

If you are a businessman or businesswoman then there may be some trade secrets which you may want to guard against dissemination, especially to competing enterprises. As long as those secrets are not collusion with other companies or price fixing and other unfair monopolistic practices then trying to keep special recipes or manufacturing techniques is really acceptable business practice.

Even in business it is just a matter of time before your secrets will be revealed either by disgruntled employees or other covert spying techniques so don’t expect your secrets to last forever and don’t make your business dependent on those secrets in the long duration. If you have a devoted efficient business model then transparency in most matters is not such a bad thing but may even encourage desirable company loyalty.

In a tyranny or communist nation it is sometimes dangerous to reveal your honest opinions but in relatively free western democracies it usually is advantageous to be honest unless you have conservative views in a largely democrat corporation, democrat academia, or democrat organization in general.

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1457!!!

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1474!!!

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1447!!!

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THE POLITICAL CIRCUS IS JUST ANOTHER SYMPTOM OF MORAL DECAY!!!

So what has the United States to look forward to? I think it is a further decline into chaos resulting from moral decay which will only end in some form of ideological and actual tyranny to restore some semblance of order in society.

A democratic republic is not dead yet but polarization and an inability for Congress to reach consensus on many important issues has deadlocked the government into inaction. Executive actions to try and do something reasonable is being hampered in the courts and points to a stalemate or an inability to get things done such as the border crisis of illegal immigrants into the country.

Trumps amateur mercurial authoritarian style of leadership is not working very well in practice and there even is no consensus within the Democratic or the Republican parties themselves. Wherever you look there are serious problems.

A growing deficit, increasing healthcare costs, jobs lost to automation, a growing welfare class which includes many illegal immigrants, family breakdown, unfavorable trade balances, a dysfunctional educational system not adequately training for technological jobs, educational loan debt, and crumbling infrastructure all need more money to keep going and tax revenue is just not increasing.

More free health care, free education, and a guaranteed basic national income are the only new solutions which are being offered which all cost more money and really mean higher taxes. The quality of health care, the quality of education, and the quality of the workforce is lousy and no amount of money thrown at the problems will solve the poor health, bad education, and lazy ignorant workforce.

Yes, eating organic food with less sugar and toxic chemicals added could improve the health of pill popping Americans in the long duration. More technological education and getting teenagers to start working in their teens to develop a work ethic is a possible long duration solution but no one is proposing legal and financial incentives to bring about this desperately needed change. Throw more money at a problem which needs a solution first is no way to improve a bad situation which will only get worse with time. It seems the smart humans with real solutions and integrity are out to lunch and the lousy status quo reigns supreme.

Moral decay has resulted in much less trust in government, in politicians, in celebrities, the media, in the leadership of the deep state, and in the court system which includes the constitution. A sensationalist tabloid media and an ignorant amateur politician president have created a circus like atmosphere where it seems any crazy or deviant ideas and actions are televised for all to see.

Human reputations are destroyed at will with insults, put downs, name calling, ridicule, and humiliation. There seems to be no one in leadership positions with integrity intact but almost all have been mercilessly assaulted with slanderous and even libelous remarks which are grievances not redressed because it is the public domain where deceptions and lies are flourishing without prosecution.

Politics without a secular moral code to guide it is a circus of immorality which can only end in some form of tyranny to restore some semblance of order out of the chaos. A common consensus on moral principles is necessary for a nation to thrive. Without that moral consensus a well ordered peaceful society degenerates into immoral chaos.

Yes, it is time to include a secular moral code into the constitution and indoctrinate all impressionable young minds with it so that teenagers impulsively know what is right or wrong, moral or immoral. Eventually those moral teenagers will grow up to be politicians and leaders with integrity which is what our current crop of politicians and many leaders severely lack.

What is a secular moral code which every human with integrity can agree on almost anywhere in the world?

In non emergency situations-don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder. If you want the details then read my book Secular Moral Code on Amazon.

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