Tag Archives: jealousy

IMMORAL INEFFICIENCY AND THE 7 PERSONALITY FLAWS!!!

As part of a new modern secular moral code I claim that inefficiency is one form of immorality. So let us take a look at the 7 personality flaws and see if inefficiency is a major explanation of why they are bad for you to have.

Sloth or Laziness:

If you are overly lazy then you are being very inefficient with your time, wasting too much time, and wasting too much effort or not getting enough things done in your life and usually not in a timely way. Lazy humans also often tend to be procrastinators which means that they leave things undone until the last moment and then often fail at doing them properly or on time.

Yes, you can unjustly be accused of being lazy if you are relaxing and recharging your batteries but we are talking here about chronic laziness where you are being lazy or inefficient most of the time.

Gluttony:

Gluttony is eating too much or excessive eating which can lead to overweight in many humans and health problems later in life. Eating too much is inefficient use of food since most of the food is wasted, gets excreted, and goes into the manufacture of excess fat cells in the body. Not only are you wasting food inefficiently but you are wasting time inefficiently by taking too long to eat than is natural for your body.

Greed or Excessive Selfishness:

Excessive selfishness leads to hoarding of money and possessions, always wanting to be a winner or first and this includes trying to win every argument, wanting to be praised for everything that you do, and trying to take credit where credit is not due. You can even say that in some cases excessive selfishness leads to other forms of immorality such as lying and stealing to get to your selfish goals.

Excessive selfishness is fundamentally a very inefficient way to get what you need or want since you turn off many humans in the process. Humans just don’t like greedy individuals and you reputation will suffer. Especially in close relationships such as marriage where sharing and compromise is so important, being greedy will cause much dissatisfaction and misery in a relationship.

It is inefficient use of time and effort to try and be the boss in most social interactions where teamwork is often more important. Efficiency in relationships means discussing more and arguing less, sharing information and not hoarding it, and compromising in some situations so that there is a win win situation and no one leaves feeling that they are the loser in an interaction.

Almost any situation where you are wasting time and effort to get things done is an inefficient use of your time and effort and that is usually wrong, bad, or in this case immoral because it is not efficient use of time, effort, and even money.

 

Lust:

Lust is really excessive preoccupation with sex which can take the form of much promiscuous behavior before marriage and adultery after marriage. Your reputation and marriage often suffers if you are known as a womanizer or have a reputation as being a slut.

In the absence of a physical partner for sex some resort to excessive pornography to satiate their lustful desires. Being lustful is basically wasting too much time, energy, and money on sexual pursuits and excluding many other important pursuits in your life. So being lustful is being inefficient with your time, effort, and money. You could also say that you are being a sexual glutton.

Some may argue that being lustful is just having a bad habit and that it is just not immoral. However, having any bad habit to excess usually has some bad short and long duration consequences. Any excessive bad habit means that you have less time for self improvement, less time for healthy social interaction, less time for good habits, and that you are spending too much time, effort, and often money on the bad habit and basically wasting your life to some extent which should be considered immoral.

Wrath or Anger:

There is an old saying that you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

Anger is a form of verbal abuse or verbal attack which puts the victim in a defensive mode and is less likely to agree with your stated viewpoint. Discussion is often a more persuasive or efficient way of persuading someone to agree with you.

While anger with misbehaving very young offspring is sometimes a very efficient way to get them to behave in the short duration it usually is not that effective for teenagers and definitely not for grown adults in the long duration. Anger usually results in resentment, defensive outburst of anger, and is often an impediment to solving a problem which needs a solution. In conclusion, anger is not the most efficient use of time, effort, and often money to get your point across and gain consensus or agreement.

Jealousy not Envy:

Envy: v. to desire another’s (possessions and/or characteristics) and/or (luck and/or circumstances) without sensing angry resentment

Jealousy: n. envying with angry resentment

Envy is just a desire and is only bad if it motivates one to lie and steal to get what another human has. Jealousy is really the bad desire which is envying with angry resentment. A bad desire is only inefficient if obsessing with the desire leads you into inefficient or immoral behavior. Being overly jealous can lead to family strife and inappropriately bitching or expressing anger at someone’s success in life. To the extent to which jealousy leads to bad habits is the extent to which jealousy is an inefficient use of time, effort, and sometimes money.

Excessive pride:

Having justified pride in one’s accomplishments is good but if excessive pride leads to too much boasting, arrogance, rude behavior, and disrespect then it is an inefficient use of pride. Too much boasting, arrogance, rude behavior, and disrespect are bad behaviors or habits which hamper efficient social interaction and create a lot of bad feelings which seldom disappear. Your social reputation suffers, your social efficiency declines drastically, and you end up wasting much of your time, effort, and even money on being excessively prideful.

 

FURTHER COMMENTS ON INEFFICIENCY AND DEGREES OF IMMORALITY:

Nature is very efficient and abhors inefficiency and nature’s sustainability is a perfect example of the efficient interaction of biodiverse species. Nature rewards efficient predation, efficient animal group behavior, and efficient reproduction.

Yes, humans have the luxury of being the most inefficient species in the short duration but in the long duration inefficiency leads to bad health, environmental pollution, destruction of biodiversity, social moral decay, family strife, and many dysfunctional individuals.

You could argue that there are degrees of inefficiency or degrees of bad behavior and there is some truth to this. It could be argued that being intentionally rude is not as bad as insulting, putting down, name calling, ridiculing, and humiliating someone. You could perhaps argue that ridiculing someone in most cases is not as bad as name calling or severely insulting a human.

So what does this degrees of inefficiency really mean? Can you therefore have degrees of bad behavior or degrees of immorality? Yes, and not only is immorality or bad behavior a function of what behavior you are talking about but where in the world that human behavior is being practiced is also important.

Fundamentally, most bad behavior is a function of acceptable social norms so what may be considered bad behavior in one culture may be considered good behavior in another culture. In parts of West Africa, Iran, and Iraq the thumbs up sign is bad behavior or equivalent to giving someone a middle finger in the west. In some East Asian countries bowing to someone is a good sign of respect and in the west it is a bad sign of unnecessary subservience.

Yes, you can often be an efficient thief or criminal and not get caught but in non emergency situations it is immoral to lie and steal so criminal acts are not only immoral but they are also bad and to a very large degree.

Yes, you can argue that taxation is stealing or theft by the government and it is true that there are at least 5 situations in life under which stealing can be justified and taxation is one of them. Stealing Can Be Justified Under 5 Circumstances.

A much more reasonable discussion of stealing via taxation is what percentage of your income should be taxed since promoting the general welfare via a safety net, protection from internal and external criminals, minimizing pollution and destruction of the environment, especially biodiversity, and building vital infrastructure is something which government has an obligation to do.

Making a mistake is something most of us do and it is a way of learning what not to do in life so you could even argue that making mistakes has some beneficial effects. Nevertheless, most of us feel bad about making a mistake and it really is an inefficient short duration behavior which prevents us from quickly reaching a goal which we want to achieve. So yes, making mistakes is not highly immoral but only slightly so since it is a waste of time, effort, and sometimes money at trying to achieve a goal(s).

Talking seems like a benign communication or behavior which most humans don’t consider immoral by a long shot. However, we do get annoyed or bored if someone talks too much, repeats themselves too often, or talks too long when we have more important priorities in mind. Interrupting and trying to change the subject sometimes works and makes a conversation less boring or annoying but fundamentally the reason we are annoyed is that the talking too much is wasting our time, effort, and sometimes money so it is inefficient behavior.

Yes, efficient behavior is a human ideal which most of us do not achieve many times in our lives but that is no reason why we can’t think logically about it and the consequences that it has in our lives in the long duration. How efficient was I today or this week is a smart question to ask ourselves if we have a desire to improve ourselves and the circumstances in our lives.

Will an efficient human achieve a goal(s) in life more readily than an inefficient one? The answer is usually in the affirmative so being efficient or trying to be efficient is the moral thing to do. You will waste less time, effort, and even money and that is a good thing.

From another moral standpoint you could even say the if you are efficient then you will be stealing or taking away LESS of your time, effort, and money OR stealing or taking away LESS of someone else’s time, effort, and money. The net gain in time, effort, and money is your profit so to speak which you can then spend on more fruitful endeavors.

Morality or a secular moral code is really a standard of perfection which most of us fall short of in some ways but it is good to have a standard which we are trying to maintain in our lives and makes for more peaceful and beneficial interactions with our fellow humans. What is that secular moral code which should be taught to all impressionable young minds? It is-in nonemergency situations-don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 4700 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially EVERGREEN TRUTH, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

For a complete readily accessible list of blogs and titles go to twitter.com/uldissprogis.

Enjoy!!!!!!

If you enjoyed this blog then here is a list of my most popular ones which you may also enjoy!!!

https://uldissprogis.com/zlist-of-my-most-popular-blogs/

UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 480!!!

FotorCreated

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 3400 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially EVERGREEN TRUTH, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

For a complete readily accessible list of blogs and titles go to twitter.com/uldissprogis.

Enjoy!!!!!!

If you enjoyed this blog then here is a list of my most popular ones which you may also enjoy!!!

https://uldissprogis.com/zlist-of-my-most-popular-blogs/

UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 232!!!

FotorCreated

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 3100 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially EVERGREEN TRUTH, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

For a complete readily accessible list of blogs and titles go to twitter.com/uldissprogis.

Enjoy!!!!!!

If you enjoyed this blog then here is a list of my most popular ones which you may also enjoy!!!

https://uldissprogis.com/zlist-of-my-most-popular-blogs/

THE TRUTH ABOUT UNIFORMS+

images

Whether in a company or school a uniform is a necessary cohesive item to be worn by all. This greatly eliminates, jealousy, gossip about the latest fashions and accessories, envy, feelings of inferiority or superiority, and gossip about appropriate or inappropriate clothing.

Esprit de corps is maintained in a uniformed atmosphere with no trouble originating from human attire. Sure customers can dress fashionably as they wish but not company employees.  Creative jobs should stress more individuality in clothing but in general too wide a choice in clothing produces morale problems within the company.

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 1500 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially COMMON SENSE, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

For a complete readily accessible list of blogs and titles go to twitter.com/uldissprogis.

Enjoy!!!!!!

If you enjoyed this blog then here is a list of my most popular ones which you may also enjoy!!!

https://uldissprogis.com/zlist-of-my-most-popular-blogs/

10 RELATIONSHIP BAD HABITS WITH SUGGESTIONS, PART 2 OF 3!!!

Don't stay In Bad Relationship Because

Timing discussions during peak stress periods:

Trying to discuss problems and find solutions during emotional peaks of stress such as immediately after work, during work, after a stressful day, or during offspring health or bad behavior issues is poor timing.

Not all problems can wait until the family is gathered for a meal or until rest time but an emotionally charged human will not be able to discuss much rationally and calmly compromise or find logical solutions to problems.

 

Jealousy and resentment:

Some jealousy is a normal human reaction but too much can also turn into resentment which will make you feel miserable and unsatisfied with who you are and what you have.

It is a much better mental attitude to admire others achievements and good looks as symbols for success and something for others to try and imitate. Not everyone is equal in society and some are just more fortunate than others and it should be accepted as a fact of life.

 

Blaming:

When things go wrong it is tempting to make excuses and blame others for our misfortune. Often circumstances and others do share the blame and most realize their contribution to the failure of others.

Blaming is really a form of accusation which many will try to deny that all responsibility for a problem is on their shoulders alone. Honest blaming is acceptable but there is a danger that you will begin to feel victimized by humans and circumstances and start blaming everyone and everything for your problems and not admit to being partly or totally responsible for your behavior consequences.

The danger in blaming too much is that you will not make the necessary future changes in your own behavior to make failure less likely in the future.

 

Pessimism:

A feeling that your goals will probably not be achieved and that bad events will probably exceed the good is the general mental state of a pessimist.

Knowledge about the bad things which can possibly happen is useful in preparing for the future but it is not very helpful in your life if this general feeling kills your motivation to do your best to avoid the possible bad circumstances.

Many pessimists feel like victims of life rather than as optimistic participants in life and humans generally do not like to associate with pessimists who seem to have given up on living life to the fullest and with a happy mental attitude.

 

Forgetting to forgive:

Forgiving offspring for their bad behavior or mistakes comes almost naturally but we must realize that adults too behave badly and make mistakes for which they should be forgiven sometimes.

Not forgiving will make the bad behavior and mistakes fester in your mind and there is a danger that you will bring up these past transgressions in the future and poison, greatly annoy, or make calm future discussions and problem solving much harder to do.

Immorality should rarely be forgiven and if it is then it should be conditional that it never happens again. For rather unimportant transgressions it is usually smart to forgive and forget.

 

Procrastination:

Procrastination is nature’s attempt at conserving energy or trying not to get involved in situations which will drain much energy out of you. Humans don’t like procrastinators and frequently call them lazy or irresponsible.

Sometimes procrastination works for the procrastinator and the problem or task either goes away with time or someone else solves the problem or does the task.

 

Workaholism:

Workaholism just means being overly dedicated to a job and the bad consequences are that you frequently ignore or sacrifice family, friends, and opportunities to grow and enjoy things outside the work environment.

The key to a more well rounded lifestyle is to schedule time for other things in life than just your job.

 

Saying yes to everything:

Let’s be realistic. No one says yes to everything but there are humans who try their best to fulfill requests from almost everyone that they meet.

If you do that then you are in effect becoming an altruistic slave catering to the wants of others and probably ignoring or not having enough time to fulfill your own important needs and wants. Humans who almost always try to please others frequently fail to please themselves enough.

The key is to say no more frequently and do it in a polite considerate way. Sometimes “no, sorry” is all that is needed as a reaction.

 

Comparing yourself too much to others:

Comparing yourself to others is natural because most of us like to feel that we are in some way superior to others in personality and/or wealth.

Too much comparison leads to unrealistic expectations and the danger that our own lives will self-destruct financially and relationship wise if we begin to live extravagantly in our efforts to keep up with others whom we admire and desperately but unreasonably want to imitate.

 

Feeling worthless:

Loners, the severely handicapped, and some old humans sometimes feel worthless and depression is frequently a natural consequence.

The cure is trying to get involved with other humans which can be doing volunteer work, joining a club or organization,  or surfing the internet and trying to find new friends.

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 1200 so far, or read one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially COMMON SENSE, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

For a complete readily accessible list of blogs and titles go to twitter.com/uldissprogis.

Enjoy!!!!!!

If you enjoyed this blog then here is a list of my most popular ones which you may also enjoy!!!

https://uldissprogis.com/zlist-of-my-most-popular-blogs/

common_sense (1)

THE TRUTH ABOUT ENVY

envy

Envy: v. to desire another’s (possessions and/or characteristics) and/or (luck and/or circumstances) without sensing angry resentment

Envy is just another word for jealousy unless you take out the angry resentment which jealousy should have but envy should not.

 

You can be envious of another without feeling resentful or thinking that what another has is unfair or unjust and feeling angry about it.

 

Envy is to desire what someone else has but not feeling that what they have is unfair or unjust and that they don’t deserve what they have. Envy is jealousy without the angry resentment.

 

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them, about 800 so far, and one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially COMMON SENSE, rays of truth in a human world filled with myths and deceptions.

Enjoy!!!!!!

THE TRUTH ABOUT JEALOUSY

jealousy_by_annabelcusenza

Jealousy: n. envying with angry resentment

Jealousy can ruin a career, ruin relationships, and most important of all make you lead a miserable unhappy life filled with anger, hatred, resentment, pessimism, and feelings of incompetence and worthlessness.

When someone gets promoted to a position which you felt you deserved then you may justifiably feel hurt and start feeling jealous of their achievement. You may not be able to hide your jealousy if it is intense and you may intentionally or unintentionally start saying nasty things about the promoted human which will make you look bad in front of your boss or your coworkers.

You may secretly have pent up anger, an urge to get revenge, or feel great resentment for the perceived wrong and may start doing some very bad things yourself. You may begin spreading bad gossip which will ruin your good reputation and kill any further chances for your promotion in the future and it will ruin your relationships with coworkers too who will no longer trust you.

If you have feelings of inadequacy in looks or achievement and don’t have a trusting or honest and sincere relationship with your significant other then you may feel jealous if a member of the opposite sex flirts or shows an interest in them. If your significant other does not have a history of promiscuous behavior or adultery and your jealousy continues after marriage then it can lead to divorce with too much distrust and attempts to monitor his or her every move out of jealousy.

If you are very jealous of your significant other before marriage then it will get even worse after marriage with the possibility of offspring who will suffer after the almost inevitable divorce. Before marriage check out your significant other’s family and closest friends to see if there will be any rational reason for being jealous and for fearing possible adultery. If the family is not adulterous and the friends are not promiscuous and all single then you should have nothing to be seriously jealous about before or after marriage.

Sometimes merely talking about your jealous feelings with your significant other may reassure you that there is nothing to be jealous about and you may get reassurances that your jealous feelings are unfounded. It is of course possible that your jealous feelings will be reinforced by a significant other who is insensitive, non-empathetic, or proud of his or her superior position in the relationship with very attractive looks and high achievement compared to your lack of similar characteristics. If your significant other makes you feel inferior then your grounds for jealousy are accurate and you should seriously consider another relationship and move on.

Being jealous of an exciting affluent lifestyle may turn you into a profligate spender trying to keep up with a lifestyle which you can’t afford and will eventually lead to your own financial ruin and even divorce if you are married.

The antidote to jealousy may need competent therapy or learning to praise rather than envy and learning to approve of another’s success, looks, and basically good moral character and not put another down for it.

If you can’t learn to be honest, sincere, and dependable with others and expect the same behavior in return from all your closest relationships then you will never cure your jealousy and you will probably be stuck in a miserable doubting lonely existence for the rest of your life.

Trust and dependability is the glue which keeps relationships healthy and lasting and jealousy is one of the greatest destroyers of a trusting relationship. Be grateful for what you have, overcome your feelings of inadequacy as much as possible, and admire others for their good looks and good achievements and jealousy should no longer have a bad stranglehold on your life and relationships.

Overcoming feelings of inadequacy is hard but one way to overcome them is to associate with other humans who have similar feelings of inadequacy which stem from not being so attractive or not being very successful in life. If you lower your standards of what you are looking for in relationships but still demand a high standard of moral behavior then you will be much happier and not jealously stressed out about your feelings of slight inferiority.

If you are a morally sound individual then you should feel equal in worth to most other good humans on the face of this earth because you are fundamentally a good human personality wise. You may not have great wealth and great looks but you will have a great wealth of character and be respected and admired for it by others.

Life is not fair and just since it rewards some with great looks and great ability which the common human does not have but that is no reason why you should live a life of desperation poisoned by jealousy at every turn. Be morally good and try to surround yourself with morally good humans and you can live a happy optimistic life free of jealousy.

 

If you liked this evergreen blog read more of them and read one or more of my evergreen books, especially COMMON SENSE, which is rays of truth in a world filled with myths and deceptions.

Enjoy!!!!!!

STOP DOING THESE 30 DYSFUNCTIONAL THINGS WHICH YOU MAY BE GUILTY OF!!!

slide_311205_2953807_free

Are you spending time with the wrong humans, are you getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons, are you blaming others for your troubles, and are you jealous of others? Stop doing these things and 26 others in Leslie Carter’s blog which may apply to your life and are things which are handicapping your lifestyle which could be much better without them.

http://bucketlistpublications.org/2013/09/03/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/

If you liked this evergreen truth blog then read more of them and one or more of my evergreen truth books, especially COMMON SENSE.

To read a list and access any of my over 400 evergreen truth blogs follow me at twitter.com/uldissprogis and I am sure that you will find more than a handful of evergreen truth blogs which will interest you.

Enjoy!!!!!!