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HOW TO DISCIPLINE KIDS!!!

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One of the most effective ways of letting kids learn about the wrong things to do is to let them suffer the consequences.

Buy a relatively fragile toy and warn them sternly that it is fragile and it will break if thrown around or dropped from a high height. Then let the child play with the fragile toy until they wind up breaking it. Then tell them that because they were not careful enough the toy broke and tell them that it will be a long time before they will be trusted with another fragile toy again.

Obviously if the child is too young to be trusted with toxic household chemicals, dangerous medicines, or sharp objects like knives and sharp forks then these objects should be locked away in a secure place inaccessible to the child. You would not want them to suffer the bad consequences of being poisoned, cutting themselves severely with a sharp knife, or poking out an eye with a sharp fork.

The swimming pool is very dangerous for very small children and it should be fenced off until the child is taught to tread water or minimally stay afloat.

When crossing a street it is wise to hold the hand of a child and teach them to look both ways before crossing the street. If the child is not old enough to follow you across the street without running out into it then you must continue to hold the child’s hand until the child follows you obediently across the street on their own.

 

Logical consequences can also be taught with consistency.

If a child begins to throw a toy around which is not meant to be thrown then it can be removed and placed on a shelf for the rest of the day. A toy which is meant to be shared can similarly be removed for a day if sharing does not occur. If the children are old enough to tell time then you can request that each child share a toy for 10 minutes at a time. Once again, if the toy is not appropriately shared then it can be removed for the day. Sometimes a toy can be shared on a daily basis and one child may have it on Monday and the other can have it to play with on a Tuesday, etc.

Before bedtime it is a good time to put toys away. If the child does not put the toys away then you can threaten to put the toys in a box and not make them available for the next day of playing. If the child still refuses to put the toys away then follow through with the threat and box up the toys and remove them to a safe place out of reach for the next day.

Bathing, brushing teeth, and putting dirty clothes into a laundry hamper is a good routine to get into before bedtime. Once again a threat to remove a favorite toy for a day or a few days may be used to get compliance. Not highly recommended but possible is to force a child to put dirty clothes in a hamper by physically making them go through the motions by grabbing the child’s hand and moving his or her body from clothes to hamper until all the dirty clothes have been dropped in.

If a child does not finish dinner then that is just fine but warn them that they will be given no food or snacks until the next meal time. Children these days are overfed and missing one or two meals is not a tragic or unacceptable circumstance. Our ancestors sometimes went days without eating and even fasted at certain times and frankly only ate when hungry.

Another technique used by parents to stuff their kids is to say that you will only get desert if you finish your meal. Frankly, desert should be maybe a once in a week event since overconsumption of sweets is a major cause of diabetes and other eating problems. Supermarkets are overflowing with sugar added to lousy over processed foods of all kinds and is a major reason why many humans no longer eat healthy well balanced organic food meals.

For children fighting scolding in a loud voice can help and if that fails separating them physically and carrying one off to sit in a chair in a corner by themselves for an hour or so is usually effective. If a child throws a tantrum in a public place then physically removing them from that location and getting them to quiet or cool down in the car or outside the public location usually works if reinforced with the words-are you now ready to go back and behave?

 

Withholding a child’s privileges works well for all ages.

Withholding a cherished toy, not letting a child play outdoors for a day, or not letting him or her play with a playmate are privileges which can be withheld for bad behavior or as a form of discipline. For older children taking away a cellphone or computer for a day or week and grounding them for a given time are ways to get compliance with household rules and good behavior.

Spanking is usually not recommended but there may be certain children who are becoming compulsive liars or stealers and adults can be severely punished for these behaviors. Explain first to the children that lying and stealing destroys the trust between humans and they can no longer be good friends or no one will believe them anymore and that adults are punished for stealing with fines and jail. The threat of spanking should first be done for serious lying or stealing and then a consistent follow through with the spanking punishment if the intentional lying or stealing occurs again.

 

Discuss the logical consequences or reasons why bad behavior should not be tolerated.

Parents are usually not very good at this.

Reasons against fighting can be physical pain or harm on another, causing aggressive emotions and actions in another or probable bad retaliation, parents don’t physically fight with one another because they love one another and want to live together peacefully, and finally adult fighting is called physical abuse or battery and aggression punishable by jail time.

Reasons against yelling indoors is that it disturbs or annoys others who may not be able to concentrate on what they are doing, it is usually done in emergencies such as an accident, and it is usually done outdoors to cover a larger communication distance and to signal danger such as a speeding car or bicycle, etc.

Reasons for being polite, kind, considerate, empathetic, and friendly is that most humans will like you more and may even become a friend.

 

Non negotiable arguments for younger children.

There are just times when something isn’t fair in the child’s mind or when the child asserts his or her stubborn self and refuses to do something no matter how reasonable it may be. These are time when the parent has to say “yes, it isn’t fair” or “I know” and proceeds to enforce the rules saying Me and Mom are in charge of the family and rule enforcement and we are the final authority in making decisions for the children in the family. When you have children of your own then you can be the boss over them when they are young.

 

Finally the most important thing is to be a good role model for your children since most children ultimately behave like their parents later in life and act the same way towards their own children also. If you want your children to not smoke, not drink, not do drugs, not curse, not gamble, not fight, not frequently argue and if you want them to be polite, kind, courteous, empathetic, friendly, and loving then be that way yourself and interact appropriately with your spouse and other humans.

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SHARING 50 ATTRACTIVE FEMALES!!!

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11 RULES OF LIFE FOR YOUNG ADULTS

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Rule 1: Life does not seem fair for many of us who have no job, a bad job, and bad relationship skills. Get used to it or do something about it and improve your skills!

Rule 2: The world will not care about your self esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will not earn $60,000 straight out of high school. You WILL NOT be a vice president with a car phone until you’ve earned both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait until you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping; they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parent’s fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes. Learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try de-lousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers but life HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and will give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to anything in real life.

RULE 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

RULE 10: Television is not real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

RULE 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one!

 

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TEACHING 10 MONEY MANAGEMENT TIPS TO OFFSPRING

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It is most important to teach offspring that food, shelter, clothing, entertainment and everything costs money. In effect even living and burning food calories in your body costs money and that money is the equivalent of energy or it is usually a form of stored energy in the form of mass or matter. You can teach that a bought object, mass, or matter usually loses value or money with time and it is called depreciation. Stress that there are certain objects such as rare coins or rare objects or limited editions which may increase in money value with time if they are maintained in unused pristine condition and can sometimes become valuable antiques.

 

Explain the concept of saving up to buy something where every penny and dollar counts and where a sales tax must be paid. Once offspring can count to a hundred it is time to teach money details such as it takes 100 pennies to make up a dollar and that $2.55 is two dollars, two quarters, and five cents. Teach them to use a calculator.

Dropping small change in more than one piggy bank can teach the concept of saving for the long duration such as a college education or a car and saving for the short duration such as saving for a bicycle, laptop, shoes, and football or baseball.

 

You can use your own money on a weekly basis to give to your offspring to deposit on a regular basis into your piggy bank for a bicycle instead of buying it instantly yourself and giving the bicycle as a free gift to your offspring. Show your offspring that you too must save to buy them a gift.

 

You can give your offspring an allowance but stress that it is for helping around the house and use real examples of chores which you expect the offspring to do on a regular basis. Examples are taking out the garbage, bringing groceries from the car to the house, vacuuming, cleaning the carpetless floors, washing the dishes and putting them back in the cabinets, putting the dishes and silverware into the dishwasher, washing the car, doing the laundry, hanging up clothes and putting laundry away in the cabinet drawers, preparing food and putting it on the table, shopping for food, mowing the grass, etc. In effect teach your offspring adult chores around the house and expect them to do it as soon as they are physically able to do so for a weekly allowance of 1 to 10 dollars depending on their age and what is permitted by the household budget.

 

You can encourage their long duration savings by adding an extra 50 cents for every long duration dollar saved in the piggy bank. When the amount in the long duration savings bank gets big enough then open up a bank savings account in their name and deposit their long duration savings which should not be spent on current desires. The concept of compound interest can be taught which is money that makes more money if invested properly.

 

Explain brand name and generic purchases with the same ingredients and tell them that they can save money by buying generic brands and get the same value for a purchase. When they are old enough introduce them to the game of Monopoly, Life, and Cashflow 101 which is a game which teaches accounting, finance, and investing at the same time. The more financially literate your offspring become the more intelligent choices your offspring will make in life.

 

When they are old enough explain that buying with credit cards and not paying the money back on time means an additional cost to the purchased item. This additional percentage makes it more expensive to buy in the long duration. Encourage your children to learn to budget their money with the help of a debit card where they do not learn to live beyond their means with the credit card philosophy. Except for a house mortgage, stress that all debt where you are paying interest of 5% to18% a year, such as on a credit card, is bad debt.

 

Don’t encourage offspring to invest in the stock market. It has become a gambling crap shoot where you will only lose money in the long duration most of the time. The stock market has become an unpredictable volatile pricing system where hedge funds, big money, and billionaires are responsible for most of the moves in the market. Prices no longer accurately reflect the fundamentals of the stock and the risky new companies which rise quickly in price are soon absorbed by larger companies once they are successful and reach a certain size. The big businesses or virtual monopolies have very little growth potential unless they are international in scope and the value of the stock will barely keep up with yearly inflation if even that much. The new stock market with its emphasis on risky short duration gain is no longer a good long duration investment in most cases.

 

Teach your offspring the value of the environment and make them contribute some money to the World Wildlife Fund, The Nature Conservancy, the Sierra Club or some other reputable wildlife conservation society.

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NURTURING EXERCISES FOR OFFSPRING WHICH TEACH RESPONSIBILITY AND INDEPENDENCE AS A BONUS

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There are many things offspring can do inside and outside the house which will exercise them and teach responsibility and will help them to lead independent lives sooner, especially when they start living on their own as adults.

The added bonus is that if both parents are working the offspring will be able to take care of themselves and household responsibilities no matter what their gender and will get enough exercise doing so.

All of the following exercise skills can be taught before they become teenagers and if they can’t do so you are not being responsible good teaching parents but overprotective fools.

Walk and/or running with the dog and feeding the dog

Cleaning and refilling the cat litter box and feeding the cat

Taking out the garbage and removing the trashcan from the curb

If you have a yard pulling weeds, raking yard trash, planting flowers and herbs and vegetables and older children can mow the yard and trim bushes

Vacuuming or cleaning floors

Washing windows and provide them with a ladder if necessary

Wash the car exterior and clean the interior (a stepladder can be used to wash the roof of the car)

Preparing and plating frozen food and/or certified organic food and favorite family recipes if there are any

Putting and removing the dishes and tableware into and out of the dishwasher or having them wash everything by hand

Have them put food on the table and then clear the table when finished

Teaching them to shop for food for the whole family in the supermarket and/or health food store

Cleaning kitchen cabinets, kitchen appliances, and the bath room

To gain access to a high microwave, stove, and high refrigerator shelves provide them with a sturdy non slip foot stool, custom made if necessary

Doing the laundry and put away clothes where they belong

Cleaning and organizing their rooms

Supervising younger offspring if there is more than one offspring in the family

Doing individualized exercises like pushups, jumping jacks, squat thrusts, sit ups, aerobic exercises, yoga, martial arts, and family agility training with cotennis as explained in my evergreen book COMMON SENSE.

For those that have the luxury to go out have offspring do swimming, snorkel diving, canoeing, skating, skiing, rollerblading, skate boarding,  and bicycling.

As adults offspring will frequently not have the luxury of playing team sports so individual sports are much more beneficial for a lifetime of healthy personal exercise which can be done anywhere and anytime.

If you teach your offspring all the above skills you won’t have to worry about them living on their own as adults and you will have peace of mind knowing that they will not be living messy and disorganized lives and will be getting plenty of exercise on their own.

 

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