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HOW TO MAKE HUMANS LIKE YOU IN THE SHORT AND LONG DURATION!!!

Become genuinely interested in humans and keep improving your emotional intelligence with interactive human experience.

First impressions are important so smile when introducing yourself and remember a human’s name which are the first 2 signs of genuine friendly interest.

Be a good listener and only politely interrupt to change the subject if the human is getting too verbose or uninteresting.

Encourage others to talk about themselves and ask relevant follow up questions which show an interest in what they are saying and doing.

Talk in terms of the human’s interests or focus on the human’s loves and likes when interacting.

Make the human feel important by sincerely complimenting when a compliment is deserved and sincerely agreeing with an opinion if it seems to have merit or is plausible.

Share your views on a topic if there is a resemblance but rarely discuss highly controversial topics such as religion, politics, and sports unless you become close friends or are of similar persuasion.

In the long duration humans will like and maybe even admire you if you have integrity or are moral and honest, are trustworthy, are dependable, are competent, are friendly, or generally deserve to be respected.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT CHARM

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Charm: v. to arouse pleasantness and/or admiration by being visually attractive and polite and friendly and likable

A charming human can arouse pleasant feelings in another by being visually attractive, polite, friendly, and likable. A very charming human can arouse admiration in another by being very visually attractive, very polite, very friendly, and very likable which really means lovable.

Your charm can range from the likable to the lovable and it is up to you whether you want to be just liked or loved by someone. Charming an audience may be getting them to just like you and charming a potential spouse means added slightly different behaviors such as hugging, kissing, and touching such as holding hands and pats on the back.

Yes, many humans marry uncharming humans who are not that friendly, not that polite, not very likable, and borderline attractive. Many eventually end up in divorce because truly charming individuals are a rarity in society and there is no proof that charming individuals have longer duration marriages, especially in overly promiscuous societies. A charming individual is really an idealized human being with an abundance of good human behaviors and unfortunately in the real world most humans fall far short of this idealized state of charm.

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6 PRINCIPLES OF EFFECTIVE PERSUASION!!!

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The provided link gives an excellent presentation of the 6 major keys to successful persuasion which have been validated by science.

Very briefly if someone likes you, if you are an expert or authority figure, if you do them a favor first, if many have been persuaded already, if they have made a commitment, and if scarcity is emphasized then you are more likely to persuade successfully. Enjoy!!!

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6 WAYS TO PERSUADE OTHERS PROVEN BY SCIENCE!!!

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Very often you would like to persuade someone or get someone to say yes and agree to a suggestion or offer which you are making. There is an excellent link at the end of this blog which explains this very well in a video presentation.

If you want to view the excellent video at a later time then here is a brief and somewhat dry introduction to the topic.

RECIPROCITY: Humans are more likely to reciprocate, give back something, or be persuaded better if you do them a favor in a nice way first or give them something useful free as a token of your potential generosity.

SCARCITY: If humans sense there is a scarce service or product available which seems to be in short supply then there is a tendency to want to get it right away for fear that it will no longer be available again.

AUTHORITY:  An opinion, advice, or guidance from an authority figure with years of experience or expertise in a job is viewed more favorably than a generic or doubtfully qualified individual’s advice or guidance.

CONSISTENCY: Humans like to be consistent with what they have done in the past and if you can get prior commitment to something then chances are greater that they will follow through when asked again.

LIKING: If you share something that you like in common with a human that you are trying to persuade which may be as simple as a mutually liked food then there is more of a tendency to be persuaded or liking what you have to offer. Humans like others who are similar to them, pay them some nice compliments, and have a cooperative attitude in reaching future goals.

CONSENSUS: If you suggest or present evidence that as many as 75% of humans  who have much in common with the one whom you are trying to persuade  are buying or doing the same thing then the probability that they will also want to buy or do that something increases. This is an example of the herd instinct or wanting to become part of the same crowd of similar humans.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT AMOROUS*

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Amorous: adj.  loverelating with a predominant emphasis on sexual love

Lovrelate: v. to sense much lovin and affection and liking for a subset(s) but not simultaneously

How frequently have you rejected amorous approaches by a human(s)?

Amorous means that the human expressed some loving and affectionate and liking behaviors towards you but most of the expression had sexual implications and when the behaviors are totaled up the experience of an amorous approach could almost be described as bordering on sexual obsession.

In most cultures more males are guilty of amorous approaches because so many have sex on their minds at a high frequency due to their inborn predatory sexual nature and far too many view females as sexual objects to be used or dominated with sexual relationships being the impulsive motivating desire.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT PREFERENCE+

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Preference: n. liking one subset better than a different and/or similar subset which is frequently chosen from the same set

A preference is usually a preferred choice between two or more similar subsets such as apples, food, clothes, cars, or houses. Occasionally the preference choice is between two very diverse activities such as reading and listening to music.

Preferences are very subjective and even though humans tend to choose what is the most popular there are many divergent preferences even among close friends or relatives.

Human preferences in the opposite sex and friends varies greatly but as a general rule the more attractive and good personalities are usually preferred over the unattractive and bad personalities.

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THE MOST IMPORTANT HUMAN DESIRES WHICH CREATE SOCIAL COHESION!!!

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As humans most of us basically desire or want to be liked or admired, respected, and treated morally by other humans.

Most of us desire moral behavior from others or do not want them to lie to us, steal from us, or harm us in any way. If humans treat us morally then we assume that we are respected and maybe even liked.

Leaders not only want to be respected but also admired for their character and achievements or competency and sometimes even desire to be loved by a devoted following.

Morality creates the possibility for a trusting relationship to develop not only between humans themselves but also between leaders and their followers.

It is also possible for a tyrant to develop a devoted following among some of their supporters but a majority of the population will mostly obey out of fear of punishment and may not actually admire the tyrant leader at all if asked truthfully despite an onslaught of propaganda.

Morality is usually also expected among the members of a criminal organization even though they may act immorally and deceptively on many outside groups or individuals.

We basically desire moral behavior from most humans and approval and caring from humans who really matter to us.

Finally there is an intense desire for sexual orgasm in the male and a desire for women to have offspring, especially if they come from happy families.

 

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WHAT IS LOVE?

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Love: v. to sense a very intense pleasure for a subset(s) one cares about and the behaviors which exist with it and frequently desiring to (possess and/or interact with) and/or experience samer subset(s) for a short and/or long duration

Subset: n. a thing

Without a definition of to love, love is just an intuitive philosophical concept open to a million and one interpretations. With a definition you can either argue that it is incomplete, partially wrong, or that it is absolutely right and exact.

If you love something then you care about it, you sense very intense pleasure and behave a certain way, and you frequently desire to possess, interact, or experience that something for a short and/or long time.

When you are getting very intense pleasure from a human it is called love and when your pleasure is not that intense then you are experiencing affection and liking and not love.

Some of you will argue that loving also means that there are times when you feel affectionate or have fond and tender feelings towards the love object. Well, you are talking about a loving relationship which needs a new word or new definition called lovrelating.

Lovrelate: v. to sense much lovin and affection and liking for a subset(s) but not simultaneously

 

Being in love means that you are lovrelating  or experiencing moments of lovin, affection, and liking but never simultaneously or that all those feelings are not felt at the same time. What the world really needs more of is more lovrelating and not lovin!

Yes, there are more definitions needed for all you perfectionists out there and here they are.

Affection: n. sensing medium intensity pleasure for a subset(s) one cares about and the behavior(s) which exists with it

Like: v. to sense low intensity pleasure for a subset(s)

Lovin: n. sensing a very intense pleasure from a subset(s) one cares about and the behavior(s) which exist with it and frequently desiring to (possess and/or interact with) and/or experience samer subset(s)

Lovrelationship: n. sensing much lovin and affection and liking for a subset(s) but not simultaneously

Thing: n. one subset and/or set of matter and/or energy which existed in the past and/ or will exist at some point in the future and/or will continue to exist in the future.  A thing is usually classified as a subject and/or verb. Human beings are things which are lifeforms.  An event(s) is a thing.  A thing is a set and/or a subset.

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SHOULD FOND AND TENDER FEELINGS BE CONSIDERED LOVE?

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No, fond and tender feelings are examples of low intensity pleasure or a little pleasure which is not love.  Love must be very intense pleasure and does not happen in a relationship as frequently as fond or tender feelings.  Fond and tender feelings are really examples of affectionate and liking behavior which is not love nor loving behavior.  Fond and tender feelings are frequently examples of affectionate and liking behavior which is very important in long lasting relationships especially marriages but those medium and low intensity feelings are not loving emotions and definitely not loving behaviors.

There is a fundamental difference between the concepts “I love that woman” and “I like that woman” or “I love my motorcycle” and “I like my motorcycle”.

subset: n. a thing

Liking someone shows that you care for that person and in a close relationship it increases the probability that you also love that person. Affectionate behavior is a subset of liking behavior and loving behavior is a subset of loveall behavior. Liking and loving behaviors are both independent subsets of attracting behaviors.

loveall: n. loving everything

We are saying that we love a subset(s) if we like it very intensely.  If we say that we love a subset(s) with low intensity it is more accurate to say that we like that subset(s) or are affectionate towards that subset(s).

Being loving and affectionate and liking someone in a relationship is being attracted to someone and is not loving them. This is to avoid a serious logical paradox that loving, affection, and liking mean the same thing. I love you really means that I like you, I am affectionate towards you and I love you intensely at times and a new word for this kind of a loving relationship is necessary.

To avoid logical confusion the concept of universal love should be replaced with the following two new words:

Lovrelate: v. to sense much lovin and affection and liking for a subset(s) but not simultaneously

Lovrelationship: n. sensing much lovin and affection and liking for a subset(s) but not simultaneously

It should be obvious that a new logical definition for love is also necessary.

Love: v. to sense a very intense pleasure for a subset(s) one cares about and the behaviors which exist with it and frequently desiring to (possess and/or interact with) and/or experience samer subset(s) for a short and/or long duration

Lovin: n. sensing a very intense pleasure from a subset(s) one cares about and the behavior(s) which exist with it and frequently desiring to (possess and/or interact with) and/or experience samer subset(s)

CONCLUSION:

I lovrelate you is the new replacement for I love you and this logically means that in a traditional loving relationship you display moments of love, affection, and liking in your lovrelationship. The world does not need more love but it does need more lovrelationships or more love, affection, and liking, especially in marriages and human relationships.

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6 GOOD HABITS OF LIKEABLE HUMANS

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Nonthreatenchad: adj. not seriously threatening by not largely and intensely challenging a human’s beliefs and/or intense opinions

Maybe you are shy and a little introverted and generally feel uncomfortable in social interactions. Here are a few suggestions on how to be more confident and become better at interacting with other humans.

Walking purposefully and shaking hands with a firm grip is more important in business relationships to imply a strong and trustworthy personality but with casual acquaintances a medium strength handshake is adequate and many times you don’t need to shake hands but merely acknowledge the other person with a genuine smile that implies that you are really interested in them and happy to meet them. Move closer to them and don’t wait for them to come to you and you can add to your short greeting of only “hi” followed by a nonthreatening question with a slight nod of the head. “hi it’s a pleasure to meet you” is another personal greeting which you may use.

Physically touching another person decreases the natural barriers or space between humans and humans are comforted by minimal touching and not threatened. Passing from the back a simple gentle tap on the shoulder is a friendly gesture and touching the forearm gently with the nonshaking hand while shaking with the other helps to decrease the psychological distance which is felt at most first meetings.

In general humans who are liked let you do most of the talking by being interested in you and being polite and asking nonthreatening questions with how and why and who and sometimes what and where and when. It implies that you respect a human’s opinions and are willing to use time listening to them. The liked humans usually make relatively short communications and factual relevant ones if they do talk. The less you talk randomly and the more concisely you speak the more respected you will become. Humans like to have their opinions respected and will more probably respect you back if you show genuine interest in them.

Minimize the hard charging and goal oriented and always selfishly wanting something attitude. Try to help a person who has a question or a problem or needs a small favor and in general try to please the other person with helpful conversation and then start gradually introducing your wants or needs especially if it is not a business interaction or relationship.

Making a parting good impression is as important as the first impression. Say “it was a pleasure meeting you” or “hope to see you soon bye” or “ I liked talking with you” and add a genuine smile. “nice to see you” is archaic and sounds and is insincere.

The above suggestions sound simple enough but the shy communicator may fear to go beyond the normative standard “Hello and how are you and good to meet you and good seeing you” but it won’t make people like you unless you show some genuine interest in them. It means taking little risks and being more vulnerable and a little more genuine and a little more complimentary and more respectful and basically having the courage to investigate in an ethical manner peoples likes and perhaps some minor dislikes and their opinions on relevant topics.

I asked my wife plenty of appropriate nonthreatenchad questions which basically means that I didn’t challenge or argue with her strong beliefs and opinions before we got married and tried to show a general interest in her which she obliged me by doing most of the talking. I knew more about her life and smart educated type A controlling giving personality than she knew about mine when we got married. I may have sounded a little boring to her by not revealing too much about myself but I also did not make the mistake of talking too much and perhaps revealing too many of my faults early in the relationship. My friendly probing technique worked and we have been happily married for 22 years so far. I continue to let her do most of the talking around the house and socially and only inject an appropriate short relevant logical comment when I can add some factual or relevant information to her talking topics. I showed and continue to show a genuine interest in her and we have an honest respectful relationship which is a pleasure to be in. The bonding in cloose friendships is very similar if you want a lasting long duration relationship.