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TRUST: THE BOND WHICH KEEPS CIVILIZATION TOGETHER!!!

Many things attract and repulse humans from one another but the most important bond or attraction is trust between two or more humans. If you lie or steal from someone then they will not trust you and any hope for a close relationship and peaceful interactions is lost or destroyed.

In a family if you can’t trust your spouse or offspring then there is no happy family life. If you try to salvage the relationship it will only result in much misery and dissatisfaction and result in more than just a dysfunctional relationship. In effect, no good relationship is possible.

If you can’t trust your leaders then respect and admiration for them is lost and humans will try to survive without the help of the leadership as best that they can. If you can’t trust the media then they are no longer respected and their advice is not taken as valid for your existence.

The United States is undergoing a moral crisis. Fewer and fewer politicians are trusted, many celebrities and liberal arts professors are not trusted, the establishment media is not trusted by most, and many business leaders are not trusted because most feel that they are out to make money at their expense and don’t deliver quality products and services.

The resultant moral decay is felt worldwide and fewer and fewer nations trust the United States as being an effective worldwide police force to protect them against violent aggression. Tyrannies and Islam are spreading in an absence of moral and political democratic leadership from the west and American influence is waning.

Once trust is lost it is almost impossible to regain and will take more than just one generation to recover if even that is possible. Historically once an empire has lost control or disintegrates then the empire breaks up into competing smaller units which may or may not be reconsolidated into another empire.

The globalists are trying to rule the world with money and are succeeding to some extent but will only be able to truly rule the world with a moral ideology and not a corrupt distribution of wealth only. I have tried to give the globalists a secular moral code to guide their financial redistribution of wealth and it is- in non emergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.

I predict a technological elite ruling the world in the not too distant future. Whether my prediction will come true is debatable but I think there is a great probability that it will happen if we don’t irreversibly and irresponsibly destroy biodiversity and the environment in the process.

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10 IMPORTANT PARENTING QUESTIONS ANSWERED!!!

My kids are frequently hitting each other. What can I do about it?

 

Most aggression results from a reaction to a toy being taken away or the destruction of what one has built. The basic underlying desire to be the dominant child in an interaction or selfishness is a contributory factor in most conflict situations. This reveals the necessity for teaching children that some toys are personal property to be respected and other toys are property which can be shared.

At first teaching how to share a toy needs adult supervision and you can introduce sharing by saying that one child can play with a toy for 5 minutes and then it is time for the other to spend 5 minutes playing with it. Harder to teach is a cooperative playing with a toy but in the case of a car it can mean shoving the car back and forth between two children along the floor or table top.

When building with blocks one child may want to destroy what was built so it is important to point out that this is unacceptable behavior to do and you must reprimand the offending destructive child.

Being a referee between two children of about the same age is hard enough but if you have three or more of about the same age then you have a handful of conflict on your hands if they all fight with each other. If the kids are all playing in the same room then you could instruct each one to pick a toy to play with and give them a space or corner of the room in which to play in.

When kids seem to be fighting for no reason at all such as pushing or shoving a lot then point out that this kind of behavior is mean and bad and that it shouldn’t be done.

It is not just important to find out who started a fight or who hit first but what was the underlying cause so you can always ask why did you hit your sibling? Sometimes aggression seems justified so you may just inform the victim child that he or she should complain to the parent about the situation. At other times kids may fight for no good reason at all and isolating them from each other for a time may be a possible partial solution. Whatever the situation be firm with a no fighting rule in the house and enforce the no fighting rule with punishment such as isolation for10 minutes or so for the offending aggressive party if you know with certainty who the first offender was.

Orderliness is very important and before bedtime all toys should be put away. Having toy bins with personal toys and shared toys may be one way of organizing a playroom or bedroom. Yes, at first you will have to instruct which toys go into which bins but once you succeed at this then cleanup will be less of a problem. An older child may be asked to show the younger one which toys go into which bins.

When there is an age difference of two or more years then fighting may not be a large problem. You can start teaching responsibility to your older child by asking them to teach the younger child how to do things like drawing, building things, reading to them, or teaching basic math.

A final important note is that you should try to teach or punish children fairly by not showing favoritism towards one child over another. Stress the fact that you love all your children equally and that there is no such thing as a bad child or a good child but merely good and bad behavior. When you get angry tell them that you are angry at the bad behavior and not angry at the child him or herself since you still love them.

 

How should I handle a situation where my child is being bullied?

 

Verbal bullying can either be ignored or you can teach your child to defend themselves verbally by responding with simple phrases such as “That’s your opinion not mine.”, “Grow up and act like an adult.”, “Pick on someone else if you want to feel superior.”, “Treat me like shit and I will never be your friend”, “Try being nice to people, you will have more friends.”, “You now have a reputation of being a big bad bully.”, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”, or ”To be respected you must treat others with respect.”

If it is physical bullying such as pushing, shoving, and punching then teaching your child self defense which does not severely injure the opponent may be necessary. Japanese Aikido is one example but Tae Kwon Do is another example where kicking and footwork, feet being the strongest part of the body, is emphasized. You can tell a child to warn the aggressor that if he or she does it again then they will get kicked if it is just a push or a shove. If your child gets punched or physically assaulted then one important key to defense is to trip them to the ground and proceed to kick them and maybe even punch them on the body but not head.

I personally was bullied by an overweight boy slightly shorter than me and I ignored his bullying until one day he pushed me off a fence that I was sitting on and I almost broke my neck. I was so enraged that I tripped him and proceeded to kick him and punch his head while he was on the ground. I slightly hurt my hand by punching his bony head so that was not a smart thing to do but he never bullied me again.

Another personal incident was where we were bragging about who was the strongest, got into a fight and I put him into a choke hold and he pass out and it scared me because I thought that maybe I had killed him. I made a mistake because he was bigger and stronger than me and I avoided him as much as possible after this initial incident for fear of being beaten up. We were never friends after that incident. This is not a bullying incident but just a lesson that fighting is not the best answer to successful conflict resolution and it is certainly not civil behavior.

 

When and how to talk to children about sex?

 

When a child is considered too young to understand the sexual act then simply saying that mommy got pregnant, you grew in her belly, and then were born as a baby. If the child is smart enough to ask further questions such as how did I get out of her belly then simply say through the vagina. If the child then asks what a vagina is then say it is an opening in the body between the legs. If the child asks how did mommy get pregnant then say daddy helped her to become pregnant. If the child wants more details then you have a precocious child on your hands who will probably understand further details.

Answers to very young children should be very general and not specific and they will usually be satisfied with the general answer that you give them and stop further questioning. When they ask for more details don’t lie to them but start giving a clinical truthful but brief answer. If you are embarrassed and don’t want to admit that you and mom have sex then show them examples of animals having sex and explain what they are doing.

 

How can I convince my children that smoking, drinking to excess, and taking drugs is not a smart thing to do?

 

Be good role model parents. Don’t smoke, don’t do drugs, and don’t drink to excess. If you smoke, do drugs, and drink to excess then the probability that your children will have the same handicaps is very great no matter how much you try to scare them out of doing so.

Drinking and driving is the greatest danger so if they are driving your car make it a strict rule that they can only have one or two beers or one or two glasses of wine and then drive. If they get drunk then tell them to call a taxi or get a ride home from a designated driver. Of course if you catch them driving drunk or high on drugs then revoke their driving privileges for a month or longer.

 

With a very busy schedule, how can I spend adequate time with my kids?

 

If you have more than one kid then schedule your time with each one of them personally on a regular basis and also schedule time with all of them together on family outings. Keep in mind that quality time is the most important and if you are not spending time teaching your child something new, sharing a skill or activity such as chess, tennis, or computers, encouraging their interests or praising them for good deeds or accomplishments, asking about how his or her day or week went, helping with homework and other tasks, discussing bad behavior, or sharing your work experiences then it is probably mostly wasted time together.

 

How can you change low selfesteem?

 

Some children simply don’t do well in school and have few or no friends and generally have a low opinion of themselves or low selfesteem. Your parental expectations may be too high and you may not have motivated the child enough with praise and encouragement for things done well.

Tell your child that not everyone can become an engineer, scientist, computer programmer, doctor, or lawyer and offer them the possibility of becoming proficient in some vocational profession such as a car or motorcycle mechanic, plumber, electrician, police officer, military officer, nurse, teacher, etc.

Every child should have long range goals if possible and selflearning vocational skills during the teenage years may be an ideal way to get a foot in the door and some useful vocational knowledge. Ultimately if your child learns a useful skill that pays relatively well then they should do rather well in life no matter how low their selfesteem.

Selfesteem originates from trying things and doing them successfully. You can insist that they help you with housework and praise them for doing a good job. Introduce them to interesting hobbies which don’t cost much money and generally get them interested in doing things or actively pursuing interests outside of school also. The more active that they are and do things successfully, the more their selfesteem will build up.

Teach them that failure is inevitable in life and the key to overcoming failure is to get up and try again or do something else which you don’t fail at.

 

What do I do when my child lies or steals?

 

Lying and stealing are immoral. Lying means that trust is broken and your reputation with others will hit the toilet. You will never have very close good friends or good friends in general if you lie to them. Without trust a relationship ends or is a very bad one.

Steal from someone and trust also breaks down. Not only is stealing immoral but society punishes thieves with prison since it is considered a criminal activity.

From early childhood you should severely stress that lying and stealing is unacceptable and the punishment severe. I caught my thirteen year old son stealing ten dollars from my wallet and proceeded to spank him severely across the butt with my belt in a rage. He never stole from me again.

For older teenagers compulsive stealing is often a sign of some drug habit which needs much money that they don’t have so be wary of a teenager who suddenly starts stealing from you out of the blue. Yes, peer pressure can also lead to stealing and if you find out that this is the case then your child is hanging out with the wrong crowd and you should put a stop to it as soon as possible. Your child must simply learn to say a fervent NO to lying and stealing. Both acts are severe character flaws which good society does not tolerate.

 

How should I discipline my children?

 

There is a slight difference in disciplining very young children and older ones but both basically entail taking away a possession for duration or taking away a privilege for duration.

Very young children throwing a tantrum can be disciplined with isolation or removing them physically from the tantrum location and making them sit in isolation in a room or car until they calm down. Ask them whether they are ready to go back and behave is something that you should do before you bring them back to the tantrum location which is sometimes a store or public place.

Warning or threatening your child with a threat of punishment is also a way of controlling bad behavior. Taking away a favorite toy, cellphone, rights to use a computer, right to go out of the home (grounding), etc. for duration is usually very effective but if you threaten a punishment then you should follow through with consistency or your threats will be ignored in the future. Also if you promise a reward or to do something like going to a sporting event or theatrical performance then follow through and fulfill the promise.

Discipline must be consistent, clear, and as close to the misbehavior as possible. Discipline delayed is not as effective and young children especially will forget what they are being punished for with poor results in the end.

 

How can I help my children form friendships?

 

If you have good friends yourself then children will learn from your role model example. If you don’t interact with humans that much then teach your children that the best friends are those with common interests in school or near home setting and at about the same age. Teach them not to lie or steal from others so trusting friendly relationships develop.

If your children don’t seem to be interested in much then introduce them to games, hobbies, and sports which they can share with others. Having a bicycle can also increase the range of your child and expose him or her to children farther away in the neighborhood.

 

How can my children learn to be independent?

 

Independence means doing things on your own so start early teaching them numbers, words, reading, and math which they will definitely need in school. As soon as possible have them do household chores such as vacuuming, cleaning, food preparation, laundry, yard work, taking out the garbage, etc.

Introduce them as early as possible to games, hobbies, sports, and tools. Teach them your job skills and how to budget money. If it is a suburban neighborhood have them wash cars, mow grass, walk a neighbor’s dog, or do other work suited to teenagers for money. In effect, keep them busy doing useful things on their own and they will learn how to be independent.

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A PARTIAL ANALYSIS OF BAD VERBAL AND/OR WRITTEN BEHAVIOR USING A SECULAR MORAL CODE!!

A secular moral code or any morality defines what bad behavior is or should be. Without a secular moral code or some form of morality there is no way to define bad behavior and it results in chaos or anarchy where no behavior is considered bad behavior. So with a consensus on morality there is bad behavior and without morality no one knows what bad behavior is.

With widely accepted ethical principles which is what morality is you have structure and order in society. Without an indoctrination and enforcement of these ethical principles or morality there is no order possible in society.

That said the hardest thing to do is to gain consensus or agreement on what those ethical principles or morality should be to optimize social cohesion. A consensus morality results in mostly peaceful interactions in society among its members. I have come up with my own version of what a universal secular moral code should be and feel that the world would be a more peaceful place if impressionable young minds were indoctrinated with this secular moral code.

Once you have a stated morality then you can proceed to define what bad behavior is in detail by analyzing the implications of those general moral or ethical principles.

A secular moral code which can guide your decisions about human behavior is- in nonemergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.

A serious verbal assault is often considered bad behavior. A verbal assault is not a physical assault or forced assault on someone but it can feel similar to a physical assault if done in a loud, angry, hateful, intense voice designed to make you feel defensive and perhaps bad about yourself.

Verbal assaults can be considered to be a form of STEALING – verbally willfully trying to take away something of value from an individual or group. A verbal assault is either punishment for some bad behavior or a verbal assault is trying to minimally steal something usually of some value such as one’s pride, dignity, reputation, self-esteem, happiness, sense of security, etc.

Verbally and willfully trying to take away something of value does not mean that the taking away will be successful, especially if the verbal assault attempt is ignored or doesn’t significantly mentally affect the intended victim. The victim of the verbal assault may be highly immoral and not feel that he or she has done anything bad or wrong so they remain unaffected by the verbal assault.

You can for example insult a human in an attacking or assaulting way and say- “You have the brain of an insect!” thus hoping to make someone feel inferior and trying to take away a sense of pride or selfworth in oneself. The victim of the assault may feel defensive and counter with an insult of their own but often such an insult is merely ignored and one’s sense of pride or selfworth in oneself is not mentally diminished in the least.

The attempted stealing by insult is minimal stealing but it really is consciously or unconsciously trying to steal or take away a little bit of your pride, dignity, reputation, self-esteem, happiness, etc. Realistically most humans will react to an insult by ignoring it and the insult really doesn’t permanently affect their pride, dignity, reputation, self-esteem, or happiness that much and is not considered a case or example of gross immorality such as a slanderous or libelous remark made in public or in print.

I have defined some forms of verbal assault below:

Insult: v. to rudely communicate and/or behave intending to (upset and/or to offend) and/or (to harm mentally and/or to rarely distress) and sometimes the intention is to make you feel inferior

 

Rude: adj. showing unintentional and/or intentional minimum consideration for a human(s)’ sensing and it is frequently done by showing shameless disrespect and unacceptable social etiquette

 

Ridicule: v. to use communication intended to shame and/or to cause contemptuous laughter

 

Humiliation: n. causing a human to sense shame and/or decreasing the pride of a human for duration

 

Belittle: v. to communicate that a human is less important than one senses and/or is

(There is minimal difference in meaning between a put down and belittle)

Name call: v. to use an abusive and/or offensive word to describe and/or shame a human

Notice that most of the verbal assaults often have the intention of shaming a human and making them feel guilty about something such as a personal inadequacy. Obviously if a human does not have shame for a bad behavior then the verbal assaults will have no permanent good effect on the victim. That is why there is an old saying that “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” An immoral human would probably say-“sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never shame me.”

A morally confident human with integrity will also not be shamed by these verbal assaults because they know with certainty that they have not done anything bad or wrong and do not feel guilty. Yes, a moral human may make a mistake once in a while and do something bad but they will usually apologize for the mistake and go on with their lives.

Shame: n. sensing displeasure caused by (guilt and/or unworthiness) and/or (disrepute and/or powerlessness) to achieve a goal(s))

 

Repeated insults no matter how ineffective can have a cumulative effect on one’s psyche. If enough similar insults come from a wide range of humans and especially some humans which you respect then your sense of pride in yourself, your dignity, your self-esteem, etc. can be somewhat diminished or can decrease over time if you are basically a moral human.

Sometimes you may feel that insults are justified as in the case of a braggadocious buffoon filled with excessive unjustified pride in oneself. Trying to take away some of that excessive pride is probably desirable but an insult is not the moral way to do it. Instead factual statements designed to point out the undesirability of the excessive pride are preferable. “Nobody is right all the time and you seem to be in error this time”, “Other humans have different valid viewpoints on that topic”, and “What you did was adequate but not exceptional”, etc. are examples of factual statements and not verbal assaults which in the long duration may have an impact and reduce someone’s excessive pride to some extent.

Verbal assaults can be made on bad and even good behavior which can be changed and sometimes they are done on things which you can’t change or can only change with great effort on your part.

For example, you can be assaulted for being ugly, ignorant, uncoordinated, poor, or mentally handicapped. These are all things where genetics may play a major role in your status in life and can’t be changed very much if at all.

Insults and many other verbal assaults use exaggerated truths which are effectively lies so they are slightly or grossly immoral. Saying to someone that they are the “ugliest human in the world” is an exaggeration because there are probably many more humans in the world who are uglier. The exaggerated partial truth or lie is what often offends humans and rightly so because they feel that you have lied to them with your exaggerations.

The major things which usually are verbally assaulted are your looks, your brain power, your financial status, and humans that you interact with, especially offspring, spouse, and friends. You can be insulting or you can make factual statements which are usually not that insulting and I will give a few examples of this. The insult first, followed by a factual statement in most cases.

 

Looks:

When commenting on body looks that can’t be easily changed it is best not to say anything at all and avoid embarrassing someone. When it comes to insults about clothing which can be changed then rather than saying-  “You look like a whore in that dress”  it is best to say something like “You would look better in a less sexy outfit”. When asked for an opinion on an outfit you can respond to an ugly outfit by saying it’s ok but it’s not my favorite pattern, color, color combination, fabric, style, etc.

You can also be more honest and say that the outfit is too busy, too shiny, the colors don’t blend together well, too tight, too lose, etc. However, don’t go to extremes and say that an outfit is very ugly or lie and say that an outfit which seems ugly is beautiful.

“Do you wanna lose ten pounds of ugly fat? Cut off your head!” or “Losing about 50 pounds could improve your health”,

 

Here are some looks insults without a factual alternative statement:

 

“I would only wear that dress to a Halloween party.”

 

“You are wearing so much jewelry it is beginning to blind me.”

 

“Did you buy those cookies in a pet store?”

 

“You look like you survived a botched face lift.”

 

“Hey, you have something on your chin… no, the 3rd one down.”

 

“Looks like you traded in your neck for an extra chin!”

 

“I love what you’ve done with your hair. How do you get it to come out of your nostrils like that?”

 

“I may be fat, but you’re ugly, and I can lose weight.” (a counter insult, not recommended, if you are accused of being fat)

 

“I’m not saying she’s ugly, but if she was cast as Lady Godiva, the horse would steal the show.”

 

Brain power:

“I’ve known sheep that could outwit you.” or “You are not as smart as you think you are.”

“Your brain is so minute it would lose in a biggest pea contest.” or “You are not very smart or intelligent.”

“You’re so dumb you think that lions lay eggs”, “You’re an idiot”, “You’re so dense, light bends around you”, “If you were twice as smart you would still be stupid”, or “You did something stupid and made a mistake”

 

Competence:

“You are about as much use as a condom machine in the Vatican.” or “You are incompetent in what you do.”,

“You’re as useless as a screen door on a submarine.” or “You are not very competent.”

 

“You’re as useful as an ashtray on a motorcycle.” or “It doesn’t look like you can help me.”

 

 

Friendliness:

“I desire that we be better strangers.” or “I’d like to have to interact with you much less than now.”

“With a friend like you I don’t need enemies.” or “Don’t lie behind my back.”

 

Talking:

“Look, we all have something to bring to this discussion. But I think from now on the thing you should bring is silence.” or “You talk too much, try to do so a little less.”

“Your accent could kill roaches.” or “Your accent makes it hard to understand you.”

 

Egoism:

“Copernicus just called. You are not the center of the universe.”  or “You are trying too hard to be the center of attention.”

“I like small balloons but your pride is the size of a hot air balloon.” or “Your pride is often too excessive.”

 

Annoyance:

“You’re a pain in the butt.” or “Try to be a little less annoying.”

“Watching you work with others is water torture.” or “I look at the way you work and it annoys me.”

 

Change:

“Allow me to congratulate you. You have the most closed mind that I have ever met.” or “You are not very open minded.”

“You change partners like a rooster.” or “You are promiscuous.”

 

Family:

“Your family tree must be a cactus because everybody on it is a prick.” or “Your family tree has some notoriety.”

 

“Please tell me you don’t home-school your kids.” or “Your kids don’t seem to be learning enough.”

 

 

Laziness:

 

“I’m not saying you’re lazy, but you should try out for “American Idle.”” or “Try to do a little more for mutual benefit.”

 

“You would lose a speed contest with a slug.” or “Speed up your work a little.”

 

Verbal assaults on an individual or group are made with an insult, name calling, a put down or belittlement, ridicule, and humiliation. None of these verbal assaults are well defined in the dictionary and most humans often can’t tell the difference between one and the other. It is often hard to categorize which kind of verbal assault something really is because a verbal assault depending on the individual can have multiple effects on a human who might feel insulted, belittled, ridiculed, and humiliated all at the same time! In effect an attack on personal dignity, pride, selfesteem, reputation, and even happiness is something which does and would offend any normal moral human on many levels.

A verbal assault can be considered to be STEALING or taking away something of value without a probable cause or reason or stealing or taking away something of value with a probable cause or reason.

If there is no probable cause or reason for verbal aggression then it can be considered to be the STEALING of or an assault on one’s dignity, reputation, pride, self-esteem, happiness, sense of security, etc. even though the wrong justification may be the use of free speech rather than moral free speech. Free speech has no boundaries so it can be moral or immoral, just or slanderous and/or libelous.

Free speech is theoretically protected in the constitution of the United States but the reality is that it should have been written as moral free speech since freedom of expression can get out of hand and can be used to unjustly slander someone in private and slander can have devastating results when done in public or in the printed media.

Trump and the establishment media is a perfect example where free speech can get out of hand and verbal assaults on individuals are tolerated much to the detriment of civil responsible discussion. Reputations are smeared and sometimes destroyed with slander, guilt by association, statements taken out of context, and verbal assaults sometimes justified but often over exaggerated and harmful and therefore immoral. When free speech degenerates into lies and deceptions in public and the press, the very foundations of a Democratic Republic are in danger of being destroyed with malicious propaganda. Verbal warfare without moral rules to guide it is an ugly divisive destructive public display.

 

If there is a probable cause or a reason for the verbal aggression then there is still the attempt at STEALING a little bit of one’s dignity or stealing or violating the right to be treated with dignity. Just because there is a reason or probable cause, verbal aggression is not the best way to deal with bad behavior because it is still slightly immoral. Verbal aggression should be replaced with verbal discipline in the form of a just factual verbal punishment followed by actual punishment for the bad or wrong behavior.

Not trying to ruin or verbally STEAL or take away a person’s good reputation can also be a justification for not putting up with verbal assaults, especially if the insult, belittlement, ridicule, name calling, or humiliation is done in public with other humans present. Verbal assaults done in private are not as serious a transgression as verbal assaults done in public which can seriously negatively affect your reputation.

Stealing something of value from someone can to some extent be considered a form of injury. Thus you could also say that you are slightly injuring a human’s pride, dignity, reputation, self-esteem, happiness, sense of security, etc. with a verbal assault. Stealing dignity or injuring dignity effectively means the same thing and is bad behavior.

Injury: n. stealing health intentionally and if the injury is selfinflicted you are stealing your own health intentionally and/or ((personal and/or group) rights violation(s)) and/or (financial damage(s) and/or emotional trauma)

 

You could argue that you are minimally injuring the mental health of someone with a verbal assault on their pride, dignity, reputation, self-esteem, happiness, sense of security, etc. However, there are degrees of emotional trauma caused by verbal assaults with mostly minimal emotional trauma. In some cases major emotional trauma is possible by being verbally assaulted in public thus perhaps causing irreparable damage to one’s reputation.

 

Name calling by calling someone four eyes, mental midget, butt head, dick head, ignoramus, asshole, etc. is usually a partial truth exaggerated and becomes mostly a LIE that offends the victim and is often used as a form of bullying. If you exaggerate and call someone stupid and they are not stupid even though they may occasionally do some stupid things, then you are really mostly lying and that can be called slightly immoral.

Not all name calling is inaccurate or a lie so if you call someone smart who is not that smart and this is an attempt at praise then this is not considered a verbal assault and is considered good or positive behavior by some psychologists. However, it is still an exaggerated partial truth and can be considered to be a lie. This is why exaggerated ongoing praise for a child does not often bring good end results because you have really lied to him or her and given them a false sense of confidence or an inflated ego. Positive or negative name calling are both slightly immoral because they are mostly lies or exaggerated partial truths.

Name calling usually has a bad connotation, especially when used to bully kids. The reason is that it is either an exaggerated partial truth thus becoming a lie which can be considered to be slightly immoral OR the name calling is a verbal attempt at stealing a little bit of one’s dignity or self-esteem which should also be considered to be slightly immoral.

Verbal punishment is just if it is done with a probable cause of willful bad behavior. Unfortunately verbal aggression or verbal assaults are often used to try and punish a punishment deserving human. However, verbal assaults are not verbal moral punishments if they are not done in a dignified or polite manner. Also verbal assaults are not moral punishments if you erroneously verbally punish for good behavior.

Ridicule is really laughing at someone’s inappropriate behavior or persona and ridicule is a more subtle form of verbal aggression or assault sometimes designed to punish an individual or group for bad or inappropriate behavior. Merely laughing at something funny is not slightly immoral unless it is willfully done as an assault on one’s human dignity. Tone of voice, bad or inappropriate behavior, and circumstances under which the behavior occurs all determine whether it is serious ridicule or more flippant in nature and not to be taken seriously.

Judging from comedians jokes we can laugh at almost anything so it is important to differentiate between a human laughing at bad, stupid, or tragic behavior in general and laughing at a specific human involved in bad, stupid, or tragic behavior, belittling him or her for the behavior, and potentially offending him or her with the ridicule OR punishing with condescending laughing.

Can ridicule really be minimally immoral? Yes, it is a little bit immoral if it is a brutal verbal assault on the dignity or reputation of someone. Yes, ridicule is often merely a form of enjoyable banter without malicious intent between close friends who don’t get offended by the jovial ridicule. Even insults, name calling, put downs or belittlement, and humiliation are tolerated with the proper tone of voice among close friends. This is slightly tragic but unfortunately a fact of real life these days.

Yes, there is a difference between angry or hateful ridicule and seemingly innocent ridicule done in a mild tone of voice and done for minimally bad, stupid, or tragic behavior.

You can also ridicule someone without a probable cause or reason so this and other verbal assaults can also often be considered mean behavior. The meanness can sometimes just be attributed to a mean personality. He or she is mean just because they enjoy being mean or are habitually mean without an underlying reason or probable cause!

Humiliation is often used to make someone feel guilty about some bad, wrong, or inappropriate behavior. Humiliation done in a gentle tone of voice, in private, and for minor bad or wrong behavior is not as serious a moral transgression as is humiliation done in an angry tone of voice and in public where your reputation can be severely affected and thus the humiliation is much more than just slightly immoral.

Some may argue that my approach to verbal assaults is a form of moral relativism which is determined by tone of voice, type of bad behavior, closeness of the relationship, private or public verbal assault, and type of personality. Yes, to some extent I am a moral relativist in the sense that I believe that there are degrees of immorality from very minimal degrees to severe degrees of immorality.

Most can tolerate minimal degrees of immorality because that is just how real life is currently lived but very few of us will tolerate for long severe degrees of immorality with willful malicious verbal assaults which can potentially ruin our reputation publically for example or adversely affect our mental health with great emotional trauma which can lead to depression, desperation, and other dysfunctions which are socially undesirable.

Moral relativists often argue that the end justifies the means and that if a severe verbal assault ends bad behavior then it is justified. I believe that all verbal assaults are immoral but vary in degree of immoral severity. I don’t believe that verbal assaults really end some bad behavior but mere postpone the bad behavior for another time and place in many instances.

I have shown that verbal assaults have degrees of immorality and breaking many laws also can be considered to be degrees of immorality in many instances. For example, playing loud music after 11 PM can be considered as disturbing the peace or taking away the right of others to peaceful rest after 11 PM. Stealing or taking away the right of others to peaceful rest after 11 PM could be considered to be slightly immoral.

Yes, there are some exceptions to the law such as the 4th of July when private fireworks go off often past 12 PM but in general such a law is valid throughout most of the year and violating the law can be considered to be slightly immoral. This principle can be extended to other laws, some just and others not so just but I will leave this discussion to another article at a later date.

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WHAT ARE SOME REASONS AND EXAMPLES OF THE DETERIORATION OF MORAL VALUES???

An example of a modern secular moral code gives a sample of important moral values. In nonemergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder. The 10 commandments which have been the basis for Judeo Christian morality have been watered down to 6 with two new modern moral principles- don’t destroy biodiversity and don’t be inefficient.

 

It is significant to differentiate between moral values and about 50 core values or other ethical principles which vary in degree from situation to situation such as caring, empathy, friendliness, cooperation, sharing, discipline, courtesy, etc. which are also vital to maintaining wholesome helpful human interactions and are reflections of basic humanity and are mostly indicators of relatively peaceful human cohesion and interactive complexity. Moral values are basically cross cultural essentials  or must exist in most modern cultures and core values vary in degrees from culture to culture and from individual to individual.

 

To all those interested in pursuing and understanding the difference between moral and core values I refer you to my book SECULAR MORAL CODE which goes into the necessary detail for a better understanding of the difference between moral values and other ethical principles.

 

Perhaps the only important moral value which is not rapidly deteriorating in the west is don’t murder. The rates of homicide in the general population have basically stabilized, except in some big cities.

 

Crime rates have also generally stabilized with the exception of some metropolitan areas so we can assume that traditional stealing is also not increasing at an alarming rate. The high incarceration rate, surveillance cameras in many places, and theft protection devices may be contributing factors to the relatively stable stealing rate.

 

In the United States internet stealing or theft is about 1.4 billion dollars a year and probably increasing on a yearly basis so we are confronted with the challenge of a modern form of stealing which is not stable or decreasing.

 

Due to the promotion and more general acceptance of promiscuity, adultery is on the increase in the United States. Financial hardship is one major contributor to divorce but a second major cause is marital infidelity. Family life is deteriorating and there are fewer and fewer healthy financially and morally responsible two parent households, especially nuclear families.

 

A common shared morality is a major reason why males and females stay together in matrimony over the long duration. If a married male and female don’t lie to one another then there can be trust in the relationship, if there is no adultery then there can be trust in the relationship, if both parents try to raise offspring responsibly then there is another reason why couples can and probably will want to remain together in the relationship. Break this trust with lying, adultery, deception, and excessive selfishness and this immoral behavior will ruin any relationship.

 

If you immorally lie then trust breaks down and a relationship generally does not last and the feeling of security is lost with it. There is much deception and some lying in the media mostly in the form of biased opinions without a factual foundation. Add to this the ongoing deception of politicians and abundant deceptive advertising and this leads one to conclude that trust in the establishment’s ability to rule is being destroyed even more rapidly than in the past. The tabloid like establishment press, left wing biased dogmatic academia and celebrities are an indication that lying and deception has become institutionalized and is spreading throughout society and not getting any better with time.

 

Some studies have shown that average humans lie once or twice a day, usually about minor things. Whether this is intentional or merely results from ignorance in most cases is debatable. Some studies even claim that about 40% lie on their resumes which appears to be intentional.

 

Trump has been accused of lying over 4000 times by MSNBC so far and it is debatable whether these have been intentional lies, opposition to liberal biased opinion which is now considered a lie, or merely unintentional ignorant incompetent statements about personalities, foreign and domestic affairs. Over 4000 lies in about two years is about 7 lies per day so I strongly feel that MSNBC is lying or that it is another example of establishment media fake news.

 

Not so obvious is the bad effect that very bad habits and hedonistic or live for today behavior is having on morality. There is growing drug abuse, pornography, alcoholism, mental illness, gambling, eating of unhealthy food, living from paycheck to paycheck, and a general philosophy that you should do only what makes you happy. Live for today and don’t plan for the future creates many crisis situations in daily life and morality often suffers in the long duration.

 

How many humans do you know of who have integrity or are honest and moral? These humans are indeed becoming a dying breed throughout society, top and bottom.

 

An affluent nation with less emphasis on morality gets more corrupt, gluttonous, lazy, and hedonistic with time so prosperity is not always a road to long duration moral stability. Add to this popularized relativistic situation ethics which almost justifies many bad and some immoral behavior and you have a recipe for continuing moral decline in society.

 

Many psychiatrists and psychologists are morally flawed humans out to make a buck at the expense of patients, so mental illnesses in the form of depression, anxiety, etc. are increasing and not getting any better nor are the symptoms being cured with mere pill popping.

 

Addictive bad habits are incredibly hard to change with verbal persuasion so it is no mystery why supposed professional advice givers succeed so infrequently in curing dysfunctional lifestyles in wayward adults. Yes, mental rehabilitation sometimes succeeds but it is time consuming and expensive, luxurious treatment which the average human who really needs treatment simply can’t afford.

 

Moral decay is not even addressed politically since the constitution does not mention morality directly and blindly assumes that the majority of the population will remain moral in the long duration. A common shared morality which promotes trusting behavior amongst citizens and among family members is essential to the ongoing peaceful interaction of citizens and spouses in the long duration. Letting immoral behavior flourish nationwide without punishment inevitably results in social chaos and ultimate transformation into tyranny or rule by severe censorship and rule by fear and the threat of mortal punishment.

 

When moral indoctrination of impressionable young minds in elementary school and at home is no longer done effectively, social and interpersonal cohesion suffers and society becomes ever more unpredictable and chaotic. Students must respect their teachers and parents for proper moral indoctrination to take place and that means that the teachers and parents must earn respect by being  competent moral role models and proficient disciplinarians who enforce just rules of behavior.

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WAYS YOU CAN DIFFER WITH YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE!!!

Before marriage it is always important to make sure that your views on morality are the same or that you trust each other, don’t lie, and believe in a monogamous relationship during marriage. Other things which are very important are your spending habits and whether you want to raise children. Agreeing on these major points is necessary for a good compatible marriage but there are other areas where commonality is not so important and may even be an antidote for a boring marital life. If you differ in these 8 general areas then it is no great reason for being overly concerned and it can result in a rather interesting marriage and not a dull one.

Different hobbies and interests are acceptable and with time and the sharing of experiences you may even become more interested in those differing hobbies and interests yourself. I had a scientific background and a great interest in technology, tools, and science and my wife was an artist interested in crafts, knitting, sewing, and dress making which I considered at first to basically be a waste of time, not a money maker, and basically boring trivia.

Over the years I made aesthetic evaluations based primarily upon how close to reality and nature the artistic items were. I was surprised that with time my tastes and spouse’s tastes became more alike and I developed a good sense of color, texture, etc. and became much better at evaluating artistic expressions and was surprised how often she asked me for advice, I gladly offered it, and we often agreed.

Different political beliefs are possible because one spouse will basically think that government should get involved in helping out humans in need and the other spouse may basically feel that humans should behave more responsibly and government help should only be used as a last resort. Let’s face it, establishment Republicans and Democrats basically believe in growing government and passing laws often favoring the rich and special interests even though they may claim publically that they are representing and addressing the needs of minorities, the poor, and middle class.

Sexual turn-ons may slightly differ in spouses and some may seem rather unusual and kinky. With time and having sex the same basic way very often you may eventually try doing some of that kinky stuff as a change of pace and find out that it is not that bad after all and perhaps perfectly acceptable. After all, pleasing one another sexually can be important even though some of the desired variations may take a little effort and perhaps unpleasant sacrifice to fulfill.

It is not unusual for taste in movies, music, and TV to be different with women often liking love stories, family films, and romance a lot while men often prefer action films and sports related subject matter.

Different cultural, religious, and ethnic backgrounds can sometimes challenge a relationship if there is no common morality but often these differences can be accepted and even appreciated with the passage of time. Most conflicts which will arise can be ironed out if dogmatic relatives do not get too involved and start interfering in the marriage and trying to run it in one direction only or a direction which is opposed to the beliefs and practices of one spouse exclusively.

Of course if you are a dogmatic Muslim, Jehovah Witness, or Orthodox Jew then a different religion for a spouse will not work. Most religions are relatively flexible with liberal and conservative wings and a shared basic morality which is don’t lie, don’t steal, and don’t commit adultery if married.

Introvert and extrovert spouses can often make a go of it where the introverted spouse leaves most of the socializing to the other spouse and focuses mainly on family responsibilities and not social ones. I am an introvert without a close friend and let my wife take care of social connections. It has worked well this way for over 25 years. I am much more selective in the humans that I associate with than my wife who maintains minimal contact with about a hundred humans who have crossed her life but even here she only has a handful of a few good friends and her sister whom she stays in frequent contact with.

Cleanliness and orderliness can be an abnormal obsession with some humans who may incessantly nag if something is not clean or orderly. If the house isn’t cleaned on a regular basis, the dishes are not always washed, the laundry is not always done, etc. you can still lead a relatively clean and orderly life as long as you are not nagged about it on a regular basis.

A sense of adventure and desire to travel may differ in spouses and is usually a costly enterprise since traveling to distant places and meeting different humans is often time consuming and expensive. If you don’t like adventure then you can let your spouse do the adventuresome stuff alone or with other like minded humans.

As long as you are not going into debt financing the travel and adventure, it is not something which will ruin a marriage.

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HOW TO DISCIPLINE KIDS!!!

Crying boy being disciplined or punished.

One of the most effective ways of letting kids learn about the wrong things to do is to let them suffer the consequences.

Buy a relatively fragile toy and warn them sternly that it is fragile and it will break if thrown around or dropped from a high height. Then let the child play with the fragile toy until they wind up breaking it. Then tell them that because they were not careful enough the toy broke and tell them that it will be a long time before they will be trusted with another fragile toy again.

Obviously if the child is too young to be trusted with toxic household chemicals, dangerous medicines, or sharp objects like knives and sharp forks then these objects should be locked away in a secure place inaccessible to the child. You would not want them to suffer the bad consequences of being poisoned, cutting themselves severely with a sharp knife, or poking out an eye with a sharp fork.

The swimming pool is very dangerous for very small children and it should be fenced off until the child is taught to tread water or minimally stay afloat.

When crossing a street it is wise to hold the hand of a child and teach them to look both ways before crossing the street. If the child is not old enough to follow you across the street without running out into it then you must continue to hold the child’s hand until the child follows you obediently across the street on their own.

 

Logical consequences can also be taught with consistency.

If a child begins to throw a toy around which is not meant to be thrown then it can be removed and placed on a shelf for the rest of the day. A toy which is meant to be shared can similarly be removed for a day if sharing does not occur. If the children are old enough to tell time then you can request that each child share a toy for 10 minutes at a time. Once again, if the toy is not appropriately shared then it can be removed for the day. Sometimes a toy can be shared on a daily basis and one child may have it on Monday and the other can have it to play with on a Tuesday, etc.

Before bedtime it is a good time to put toys away. If the child does not put the toys away then you can threaten to put the toys in a box and not make them available for the next day of playing. If the child still refuses to put the toys away then follow through with the threat and box up the toys and remove them to a safe place out of reach for the next day.

Bathing, brushing teeth, and putting dirty clothes into a laundry hamper is a good routine to get into before bedtime. Once again a threat to remove a favorite toy for a day or a few days may be used to get compliance. Not highly recommended but possible is to force a child to put dirty clothes in a hamper by physically making them go through the motions by grabbing the child’s hand and moving his or her body from clothes to hamper until all the dirty clothes have been dropped in.

If a child does not finish dinner then that is just fine but warn them that they will be given no food or snacks until the next meal time. Children these days are overfed and missing one or two meals is not a tragic or unacceptable circumstance. Our ancestors sometimes went days without eating and even fasted at certain times and frankly only ate when hungry.

Another technique used by parents to stuff their kids is to say that you will only get desert if you finish your meal. Frankly, desert should be maybe a once in a week event since overconsumption of sweets is a major cause of diabetes and other eating problems. Supermarkets are overflowing with sugar added to lousy over processed foods of all kinds and is a major reason why many humans no longer eat healthy well balanced organic food meals.

For children fighting scolding in a loud voice can help and if that fails separating them physically and carrying one off to sit in a chair in a corner by themselves for an hour or so is usually effective. If a child throws a tantrum in a public place then physically removing them from that location and getting them to quiet or cool down in the car or outside the public location usually works if reinforced with the words-are you now ready to go back and behave?

 

Withholding a child’s privileges works well for all ages.

Withholding a cherished toy, not letting a child play outdoors for a day, or not letting him or her play with a playmate are privileges which can be withheld for bad behavior or as a form of discipline. For older children taking away a cellphone or computer for a day or week and grounding them for a given time are ways to get compliance with household rules and good behavior.

Spanking is usually not recommended but there may be certain children who are becoming compulsive liars or stealers and adults can be severely punished for these behaviors. Explain first to the children that lying and stealing destroys the trust between humans and they can no longer be good friends or no one will believe them anymore and that adults are punished for stealing with fines and jail. The threat of spanking should first be done for serious lying or stealing and then a consistent follow through with the spanking punishment if the intentional lying or stealing occurs again.

 

Discuss the logical consequences or reasons why bad behavior should not be tolerated.

Parents are usually not very good at this.

Reasons against fighting can be physical pain or harm on another, causing aggressive emotions and actions in another or probable bad retaliation, parents don’t physically fight with one another because they love one another and want to live together peacefully, and finally adult fighting is called physical abuse or battery and aggression punishable by jail time.

Reasons against yelling indoors is that it disturbs or annoys others who may not be able to concentrate on what they are doing, it is usually done in emergencies such as an accident, and it is usually done outdoors to cover a larger communication distance and to signal danger such as a speeding car or bicycle, etc.

Reasons for being polite, kind, considerate, empathetic, and friendly is that most humans will like you more and may even become a friend.

 

Non negotiable arguments for younger children.

There are just times when something isn’t fair in the child’s mind or when the child asserts his or her stubborn self and refuses to do something no matter how reasonable it may be. These are time when the parent has to say “yes, it isn’t fair” or “I know” and proceeds to enforce the rules saying Me and Mom are in charge of the family and rule enforcement and we are the final authority in making decisions for the children in the family. When you have children of your own then you can be the boss over them when they are young.

 

Finally the most important thing is to be a good role model for your children since most children ultimately behave like their parents later in life and act the same way towards their own children also. If you want your children to not smoke, not drink, not do drugs, not curse, not gamble, not fight, not frequently argue and if you want them to be polite, kind, courteous, empathetic, friendly, and loving then be that way yourself and interact appropriately with your spouse and other humans.

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BRIEF COMMENTARY ON- THE 12 RULES OF LIFE: AN ANTIDOTE TO CHAOS- BY JORDAN B. PETERSON!!!

I no longer have the patience to wallow through verbosity and storytelling to try to make sense of some of life’s principles. However, I would recommend this book to someone who is confused in life and is having trouble making sense out of a seemingly chaotic life. That said I selected 6 of Peterson’s rules with a brief commentary on them.

 

Rule 3. Make friends with people who want the best for you.

Try to make friends with humans who have integrity, are trustworthy, dependable, competent, friendly, and motivate you to be even better than you are. Beware of humans with good intentions who seem to want the best for you but have their own faulty views of what is best to have in life or have their own axe to grind.

 

Rule 4. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

This just means continue to improve yourself with research, reading, thinking, and doing on your road to the achievement of short and long duration goals. Comparing yourself to others is fraught with error or danger since very often you, your circumstances, and abilities are very different than those of others and comparisons are often pointless.

 

Rule 6. Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.

Your house will never be in perfect order in the long duration so if you lead a relatively happy and orderly life feel free to criticize the world and especially make suggestions on how to improve it but don’t be too dogmatic about your criticism.

A good place to start the critique is with yourself. Can you honestly say? If most humans lived the way that I live my life, then the world would be a better place to live in.

If more humans lived the way that you live your life, perhaps in unhappiness and desperation, then your critique of the world would not be that relevant.

 

Rule 8. Tell the truth—or, at least, don’t lie

To maintain integrity and trustworthiness, being honest, moral, dependable, and competent is essential, especially if you are interested in maintaining a good reputation in society and hope someday to assume leadership positions. Most relationships crash and burn when dishonesty is detected or it becomes a very dysfunctional relationship with much misery, uncertainty, and lack of security if the relationship stupidly continues without trust.

Trust is the human bond which makes long duration relationships possible and without trust relationships eventually become very unstable, chaotic, and end.

 

Rule 9. Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t.

This is just a fact of life that even if you think that you know a lot, other humans will occasionally surprise you with useful knowledge that you never realized existed. Be a good listener but remember that it is OK to interrupt to change the subject or even end the conversation if it is boringly focusing on relatively trivial information.

Emotional intelligence is gotten by interacting with all kinds of humans, learning how to converse with them in discussion mode, and learning how to extract important information without sounding like an interrogator.

 

Rule 10. Be precise in your speech.

Speak efficiently is another way of putting it or be brief and to the point is another. I have spent a lifetime trying to define words logically since being precise is not a virtue of the English language with so many vaguely defined words and a confusing bonanza of multiple meanings, synonyms, antonyms, and dubious analogies.

 

Rule 1: Stand up straight with your shoulders back.

Rule 2: Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

Rule 5: Do not let your children do anything which makes you dislike them.

Rule 7: Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient).

Rule 11: Do not bother children when they are skateboarding.

Rule 12: Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.

If these other 6 rules of life which I skipped peaked your interest then buy and read his book. It seems he may even have a sense of humor which you might enjoy.

Frankly there is much more to life that is important than these 12 principles but he is a typical psychologist whose mind is not very analytical and logical but bases most of  his views on mostly subjective information which he has read about in his career and personal subjective experiences and values.

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13 WAYS TO HANDICAP OR SCREW UP YOUR LIFE!!!

You can screw up your life in more than 13 ways but here are the most important 13 ways:

Wait for the “right” moment to do important and desirable long duration goals or procrastinate about good long duration goals.

Keep complaining that you’re always the victim.

Feel bad about yourself and dwell on regrets.

Land a lousy job and keep it for a lifetime.

Have friends that you don’t like and who fail to motivate you to do better.

Stay with a spouse who abuses you and doesn’t respect you.

Have an entitlement mind frame or think that humans owe you and feel that you don’t have to earn anything yourself.

Have severe addictions to drugs, gambling, pornography, sex, shopping, etc. and don’t have enough courage and determination to overcome the addiction(s).

Realize that you have many bad habits and do nothing about them.

Live from paycheck to paycheck, go into debt, and never learn to budget your money.

Don’t learn to control your emotions and argue too much even about trivial things.

Lie to and deceive others thinking that they will never wise up to your immorality and give you a bad reputation.

Make too many excuses and almost always try to blame others for your failures and misfortune.

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PRELIMINARY SUGGESTIONS ON HOW A 6 POINT SECULAR MORAL CODE CAN BE PRESENTED OR IMPLEMENTED IN SECULAR GOVERNMENT SCHOOLS WORLDWIDE!!!!!!

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Don’t destroy biodiversity:  

Conserve and gradually expand wilderness areas and try to maintain preserves for regional wildlife. Minimize toxic pollution, promote sustainability, and promote organic food diversity locally and internationally.       

Don’t lie:  

Define and give examples of libel. Itemize punishments for private lying and deception such as exclusion from a profession, organization, or friendship. Emphasize that one big lie or many smaller lies and deceptions can ruin the hard earned reputation of individuals and organizations almost overnight when the public becomes aware of them.

Honesty or not lying and deceiving is the basic reason bonding occurs between humans who can then begin to trust one another and live in relative peace and security. Dishonest leaders and dishonest organizations are also not trusted by the public and their reputation is also often very bad.

Don’t be inefficient:

Promote sustainable manufacturing with an emphasis on recycling of garbage and waste.

Promote the use of computer software and robots to do time consuming repetitive tasks in government, business, and at home.

Give examples of inefficient human behavior and the bad potential consequences from human extremes such as too much talking, too much irresponsible spending, too much useless education, too much entertainment, too much arguing, too much drinking and eating, too much greed or selfishness, too many bad addictive behaviors, too much lust, too much sex, too much fear, too much pride, too much risk taking, too much envy, etc. etc.

Do research and studies to determine what are the best ways to optimize human communications and get the most done with the least amount of energy expenditure or effort.

Of course competence is a primary component of efficiency so attempts should be made in the educational system to graduate competent humans with useful skills, useful knowledge, and useful social behavior.

Don’t steal:

Define steal and promote its first basic understanding to young impressionable minds as the theft of personal information and the theft of the possessions of individuals and organizations.

There are five justifiable conditions under which humans and/or the government can steal and this can be presented to moral teenage offspring and moral adults. Taxation to protect the citizenry from immoral citizens and immoral nations is a primary justification with a secondary justifiable emphasis on the controversial taxation for the general welfare or infrastructure and a social welfare safety net for the unemployed and also destitute. 

Don’t commit adultery if married:

A healthy financially responsible moral family unit is the foundation of any social and national success. Next to

. money, adultery is the second most likely reason why divorce occurs and ruins good role models for offspring who themselves may choose to propagate at some point in the future and be burdened by the same parental dysfunctional relationship problems. 

Don’t murder:

Define the murder of humans and take into consideration the fact that an accident may result in death and that murder can be justified in personal and national and/or international selfdefense.

A personal reason for murder is as a criminal threatening to use violent force on you with a deadly weapon such as a firearm. In national and/or international selfdefense proven terrorists or verified true members of declared terrorist groups can be terminated in their country of origin or at a minimum temporarily arrested in a foreign country to determine whether they have been framed unjustly.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT UNSCRUPULOUS

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Unscrupulous: adj. using lies and deceptions to achieve a goal(s)

It is not often that a human is a psychopath and is unscrupulous almost all the time but if you are using lies and deceptions to achieve a goal(s) then you are not only being dishonest or lying but  deceiving also which makes it an unscrupulous behavior.

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10 VERY DESTRUCTIVE HUMAN BEHAVIORS!!!

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Very destructive human behaviors are lying, stealing, cheating, violence, bullying, gossiping, gambling, bad habits, stressing, etc.. Here is a link to livescience.com which explains 10 of the worst bad behaviors.

http://www.livescience.com/14152-destructive-human-behaviors-bad-habits.html

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LYING: AN IMMORAL SOCIAL SCOURGE!!!

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Trust is the human bond which makes successful close marital and friendship relationships possible. Without trust a good or great relationship is not possible and if one exists then it is highly dysfunctional filled with misery and trauma. Lie once about a rather unimportant thing and the transgression can be forgiven without dire consequences but develop a habit of lying about little things and soon it escalates into lying about important things and disastrous relationship results follow.

That being said deception and lying is escalating in western cultures, fly by night businesses victimize many with their miraculous deceptive promises, politicians tell humans what they want to hear and when they get elected it is business as usual and all their lying promises are forgotten, and humans lie to each other and then wonder why so many hoped for potential new relationships wind up in the toilet.

There are 7 basic excuses or possible reasons for why some humans lie and none of them are justifiable in the long duration.

Young offspring sometimes try to lie to avoid PUNISHMENT for bad or wrong behavior and sometimes adults try to avoid punishing social criticism or disapproval by lying about their unacceptable behavior.

Adults sometimes lie to EXPLOIT others or gain an advantage. Charismatic con artist are often pathological liars good at making humans feel good, good at creating an illusion of high monied status, and good at manipulating the basic greed of gullible humans. Ordinary humans also sometimes try to gain social advantage by exaggerated praise and kissing up to others, especially authority figures from whom they expect future favors.

Escaping ACCOUNTABILITY is a reason some lie to escape taking blame for unfulfilled promises and blame for irresponsible behavior or stupid mistakes.

Criminals lie to try and get away with STEALING something which doesn’t belong to them and students sometimes lie about cheating or STEALING information which they don’t have memorized. Bosses or coworkers sometimes lie trying to STEAL credit for something a worker has accomplished. Some men lie to STEAL sex from women who would not voluntarily give it knowing the truth.

Some humans lie about their fictitious accomplishments trying to “steal” admiration from others or to gain a COMPETIVE ADVANTAGE in a job application.

Some sadly lie to themselves about their real worth and potential trying to make themselves FEEL GOOD while living a rather mundane existence.

Some lie to inflict mental and sometimes physical PAIN. Being called ugly, stupid, being victimized by an untrue bit of gossip, and being told to do something illegal which we are assured is legal are just a few of the cruel ways that some humans lie to us to inflict pain and often cause pleasure in the cruel offender.

CONCLUSION:

Your lying will eventually destroy your social reputation and the only way that liars can make a living at it is to become a gypsy traveling the world looking for new suckers to take your lying bait.

The internet is making it possible to scam the world and do so from one general location so deceitful lying humans are here to stay on into the foreseeable future but hopefully their numbers will decrease and not increase.

What is really needed is a universal accepted secular morality where lying of any kind is considered an immoral transgression. Without that secular morality lying will continue to create chaos and plague humanity on into the distant future.

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WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BAD BEHAVIOR AND IMMORAL BEHAVIOR???

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Almost no one today speaks about behaving morally in public and humans make the wrong assumption that immorality is just another form of bad behavior and don’t realize that it is really very very bad behavior which needs a totally different reaction from you.

If someone lies to you, steals from you, or commits adultery then that is immoral behavior and you simply don’t forgive and forget and leave yourself open to future victimization. A close trusting relationship and friendship will never develop successfully if that human lies, steals, or commits adultery or is unfaithful to you in a nonmarital relationship.

There is a difference between intentional lies and unintentional lies which we can call bullshit. Society is riddled with myths (historical lies) and deceptions or hidden lies and what you may consider to be an intentional lie may actually be something which another human sincerely believes in and thinks it is the truth and so can be considered to be an unintentional lie. Be careful of accusing someone of lying because it may just be some bullshit that they actually believe in.

Language is also faulty and deceptive in its current form and humans have a tendency to say “you do that all the time” or “you always do that” when the fact is that you may only do it occasionally and it only seems that you do it always. The absolute black or white, yes or no, always or never bias in language usage does not kindly view exceptions to the general rule.

Maybe, sometimes, frequently, and probably are seldom used when they should be used for accuracy and clarity. The exceptions to the general rule may be why you think someone is lying to you. Language is an authoritarian structure designed for obedience and command execution. Do something always comes across as having to do it all the time when in fact you should only be doing many things some of the time when appropriate for the occasion. 

Bad behavior can be forgiven and an attempt can be made at trying to forget it because things like getting drunk at a social gathering, spouting profanities, forgetting a birthday or anniversary, anger at your mistakes or bad behavior, not being punctual occasionally, getting harshly criticized, name calling, ridicule, insults, and put downs are bad or hurtful behaviors but they are not immoral behaviors and can be forgiven if they don’t exist all the time but only exist occasionally.   

Bad behaviors are not very pleasant and can be the source for much anger and temporary misery but they are usually transient phenomenon which you can tolerate to some extent in your life and relationship.   Relationships have their happy and unhappy moments and unfortunately most fallible humans are not perfect and do bad things once in a while which we should tolerate even though they make us unhappy temporarily.  

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THE TRUTH ABOUT PROMISE+

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Promise: v. to communicate and try to create trust or confidence in another that one will or will not do something in the future and/or that a subset(s) will exist in the future.

If you make a promise then you should try to fulfill it to the best of your ability because if you don’t then it is equivalent to you lying about what you will do in the future. Your reputation will suffer if you don’t fulfill promises and humans will stop believing in your promises and act accordingly.

You can consider a promise to be a contract with someone to do something in the future. If you fail to do so then you have violated or broken the contractual agreement and faith or belief in you will be degraded.

Sometimes there are valid excuses for not fulfilling a promise such as getting stuck in traffic or a more important obligation may surface between the time the promise is destined to be fulfilled.

The danger is in starting to make promises and then depending on imaginary creative excuses to get out of fulfilling the promise. Unless it is a real and serious excuse, don’t depend on excuses to get you out of fulfilling a promise because the more excuses you make the less humans will believe in your promises and they will consider you to be a liar.

What are the results of not fulfilling a promise? The human to whom you made the promise will be disappointed and will frequently be justifiably angry at you. If you don’t fulfill a promise it is really a form of lying and the next time that you make a promise humans will be less inclined to trust you and it will decrease the quality of your relationship with them. If you want the bad reputation of an unreliable human then don’t fulfill your promises.

Not being punctual is breaking a promise and it can cost your employer time, energy, and money and even lead to a firing if it becomes a bad habit.

Showing up late for a party or social gathering and keeping your host guessing whether you will show up at all is becoming a common practice in society and humans begin to think that being late for a date or not being home when promised is also not a terrible bad habit. The fact is that it is a form of wasting someone’s time and your reputation for being reliable will be in the toilet with the human whose time you have wasted.

Promising to do something and then procrastinating about it or never doing it at all is not fulfilling a promise and a lie which more than upsets the humans who are affected by your failure to come through. If you do it too frequently then you will no longer have a trusting relationship and you will have the reputation of being a liar or a lazy good for nothing human.

Many in society promise easy money, beauty, weight loss, health, fame, and fortune if you buy or use their product or service and they are lies with disappointment and failure being the true consequences of believing those lies. The gullible or trusting public is the reason why so many untrue promises are made and many become unjustly rich with their deceptions and lies. Remember, that if it sounds too good to be true it probably is a total lie or a clever deception which you should not fall for.

Making a promise to strangers and not fulfilling them will not hurt you as much as making promises to your offspring, spouse, or close friends and not fulfilling them. If you promise not to make a mistake again or do a bad behavior again then make sure that you will follow through and make the necessary change but don’t make the promise if it is one of your bad habits and not likely to change at all.

Promising to buy a toy, go fishing, or attend an important school event and not fulfilling it will not only cause disappointment in your offspring but it will even cause them to doubt whether you really love them or not.

Historically being a man or woman of your word used to mean much in a relationship and sadly it is still one of the main reasons why modern relationships suffer when promises are not kept.

Did you ever promise to show up on time, promise to do a household chore, promise to never make a stupid mistake again, promise to attend an important event, and promise to be faithful? Don’t fulfill a promise and someone will be hurt or offended even though you may feel it is no great transgression.

Not fulfilling a promise is a form of lying and humans have every right to become upset. Yes, there are times when you get caught in a traffic jam, have more important obligations to do, or just never had the time to fulfill a promise and these excuses are accepted by many because they are reasonable since the future is sometimes unpredictable and can wreak havoc on a promise.

Unfortunately breaking your promises with excuses each time can become a bad habit and you will soon be thought of as an unreliable and untrustworthy human to stay away from. Don’t show up at work on time too frequently and you will be fired and don’t show up for a first date on time and your reputation will be in the toilet in most cases.

Punctuality is no longer revered as it once was and humans frequently waste their time, energy, and sometimes money waiting on someone to show up and develop a very bad opinion of the offender.

Advertisements are filled with deceptive promises of beauty, health, longevity, good dates, sexual success, educational success, security, social status, and sudden great wealth which are all hidden lies. Society permits false promises or lying and it is no wonder that the common man and woman are also making many false promises to each other and don’t realize that the relationship is suffering from an absence of total trust which is what happens when you are not honest, sincere, and reliable in your relationship.

Don’t make a promise which you don’t intend to keep and you will become a more trustworthy and reliable human who is more respected and admired by others including your significant other.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT SELFDESTRUCTIVE+

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Selfdestructive: adj. causing personal injury to one’s body and/or reputation

 

Getting involved in a stupid accident, doing drugs, or injuring oneself in a high risk activity is bodily selfdestruction. Injury to one’s personal reputation can be even more devastating for some who have reached the pinnacle of social success only to have it destroyed with one or more moral blunders.

There are also selfdestructive personalities which are so bad that most attempts at socialization meet with almost instantaneous rejection or ostracism. Lying, stealing, and adultery are the major blows to a potentially good reputation.

There are also personality flaws such as gossiping, back stabbing, ridicule, insults, put downs, name calling, nagging, harsh criticism, etc. which can make humans avoid you as much as possible and you will find that any relationships which you may have will be severely handicapped.

Bodily selfdestruction is obvious except perhaps for drug or chemical addictions but not so many humans are aware of their selfdestructive personality tendencies. Rarely will you be offered constructive honest criticism for being an asshole unless you have close caring friends who will honestly point out your selfdestructive flaws.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT UNTRUTH*

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Untruth (General): n. a subset(s) which has existed with a minimal and inaccurate number of logical correspondences and/or has a relatively large probability of existing in the future with a minimal and inaccurate number of logical correspondences

 

Untruth (Judicial) (Unjtruth): n. not a relevant (fact(s) and/or concept(s)) and/or fiction(s) which may be used to prove beyond a reasonable doubt the (deceptive and/or lying) and/or fraudulent nature of something through evidence and/or testimony by (deceptive and/or lying) and/or fraudulent humans and it may include non-relevant unstruth or untrue testimony by (deceptive and/or lying) and/or fraudulent specialists in their field.

Unstruth may therefore be a subset of judicial unjtruth during a trial. The reputation of a specialist and his testimony is no longer the only information needed to convict a criminal nor is it just to force or use the threat of force to put one in a mental institution beyond a reasonable doubt. Relevant factual evidence, audio and/or visual, is now necessary to jail a criminal or to put one in a mental institution in the new world organization!!! A claim of violence on self is no longer valid unless supported by picture or video evidence since the reputation of many is questionable these days in the mythical existence of almost all people. If you have an abusive spouse or acquaintance install an audio visual camera in your home or get an audio recording device to prove what you are witnessing is true beyond a reasonable doubt!!!

 

Untruth (Scientific) (Unstruth): n. a subset(s) not proven by the scientific method

 

If it is true that about 31% lie on their resume and about 80% of women tell half truths then this is the primary reason why society is suffering from immorality and its consequential relationship breakdown in the modern western countries. The more truthful a society, the more moral and cohesive relationship wise it becomes. The more untruths that society suffers from the worst are its human relationships!!!!!!

It is time for a secular morality which is except in emergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, DON’T LIE, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder!!!!!!

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WHAT TO SAY INSTEAD OF THESE 5 WHITE LIES!!!

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Many humans are embarrassed at their bad memories for names and will sometimes lie and say “Oh, yea I remember you.” Instead say “You look very familiar but I’m afraid your name escapes me for the moment. What is it again?” This is a far more honest answer to an embarrassing situation.

If you are a respected leader in an important authoritarian position then you won’t last long with a bad memory for names and never stay in that important leadership position with this white lie approach.

How many times have you heard the expression “I love it!” especially coming from women and girls who exaggerate reality just to make someone feel good about themselves and their choices. I love that dress, jewelry, handbag, shoes, swimwear, etc. demonstrating a total lack of standards of quality. They also expect to hear those same words from the men in their lives who may not approve or have a dislike but are desperate just not to hurt the feelings of a significant other.

A dress is either OK, you like it, it’s sexy, like it much, and don’t like something about it. Almost no one falls in love with a dress, etc. for a long duration and it is just a momentary expression of extreme exaggerated lying approval.

What I like to say is something good about the dress or any other item which I am commenting on if it is not totally my favorite. I like the pattern, it has nice symmetry, the color combination is nice, the style is good, the cut of the dress is fine, it is sexy enough, or it has eye appeal.

But I never fail to point out what I may not like about it too by saying it is a little bit too busy, the color combination could be better, it is too asymmetric, it is not my favorite color, the style is too formal or informal, and the pattern is not one of my favorites, it is too sexy, the style is a little dated, the cut is too high or too low to be one of my favorites, I liked your previous dress better, it’s for an older or younger woman, etc.

Be honest but in a nice way and say in a discriminating fashion what you like about it the most and what you consider some of its flaws. It’s beautiful or ugly shows a lack of logical discriminating ability which is unfortunately rampant in this society so determined to be liked or so determined not to emotionally hurt someone.

“I am busy that day.” When your schedule is blank is another unnecessary white lie. Say instead “I have other plans that day.” Which is more honest because there is a high probability that if you like to do much and are busy on a moment’s notice sometimes then it is a totally believable more honest excuse and you may be making new plans for that time slot in a few hours or days.

“I totally forgot to do that thing you asked me to do.” If you didn’t forget then it is the sign of a liar who doesn’t fulfill promises and will not be liked for it and your reputation as a dependable person will begin to be destroyed. Instead if you honestly forgot to fulfill a promise then say “I am very sorry and apologize and promise that I will not let it happen another time.” If you don’t intend on fulfilling a promise then don’t make it in the first place and avoid having to make up some phony excuse for not fulfilling the promise.

Saying “I’m fine.” When you are not is another white lie not worth making. Humans can frequently sense by your tone of voice, body language, and facial expression that there is something troubling you and putting up a false front will create suspicions that you lie about your feelings and once again a suspicion of dishonesty will only hurt your reputation in the long duration. Say instead “I am not fine right now but I will get over it soon or by tomorrow.”

White lies are dishonesty in action and if you don’t get personally physically or emotionally scarred by lying then your reputation will definitely suffer in the long duration and almost no one will want to become a loyal respectful friend of yours in the long duration.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT PREPONDERANCE OF EVIDENCE*

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Preponderance of evidence or POE: n. a judgment by a jury and/or judge without trial on a dispute in favor of one(s) disputant(s) based on reputable persuasive probable cause evidence from a human(s) rather than from a relatively large quantity of disreputable and/or unpersuasive humans testifying in a (vague and/or confusing) and/or lying manner

 

Preponderance of evidence is frequently used in civil cases but there is no reason why a preponderance of the evidence could not also be used in an attempt to persuade a jury during a jury trial by claiming to have the preponderance of the evidence on your side. My side is reputable and persuasive with many facts on our side. The other side is filled with disreputable and unpersuasive humans with few facts who have testified in vague, confusing, and seemingly lying manners. Criminal or civil trials should have the same basic foundational principles for justice to prevail in most cases.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT PERJURY+

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Perjury:  n. willfully and fraudulently stealing the truth with lying after oath

If you have sworn an oath to tell the truth in court and lie instead then you are committing perjury.

Reputation is very important in court and the testimony of convicted criminals is seldom used as valid evidence in court trials. If you are being framed or accused of doing something which you didn’t do then it is basically your word against theirs and any witnesses which you can get to testify on your behalf are great pluses.

Very few in society have sterling reputations these days and frequently there is an attempt to discredit the veracity of an accuser by pointing out character flaws or immorality in the accusers in an attempt to discredit their testimony. Separating hearsay from fact is very difficult in court especially when supposed “experts” or professionals are brought in to testify on behalf of the accused or accusers.

Perjury is a much bigger problem today than it was historically when there was more respect for the courts and the general population lied less in their daily lives. Today, it is a statistical fact that big money and great lawyers can frequently get you off when you are guilty or at least plea bargain for a lesser sentence.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT COMPUTERS+

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Computers are primarily made up of two parts-memory and a processor. The memory stores information and the processor manipulates the information mathematically or logically.

Initial programming languages used simple logical or mathematical instructions which compared numbers and based on whether one was larger or smaller branched or went to another place in the code or program. Having branched or gone to another point in the program another logical question was asked comparing numbers and based on the result would branch to another location in the program.

One of the hardest problems was getting out of infinite loops which was a logical flaw in the program and was a situation where you repeated the same programming code over and over again without reaching an end or conclusion.

Fundamentally a computer just adds or subtracts numbers and makes logical comparisons of greater than or less than and then branches to another location in the program to do further calculations.

Letters can also be represented mathematically and so you can form words with the computer and make lists of information. These lists of information stored in memory can be accessed and processed almost any way that you want so we have computers translating from one language to another and even writing articles retrieved from much relevant information written about a topic or subject. Miraculously the computer seems to have an ability to think or do things similar to what a human brain can do.

With enough information in memory a computer can play the Jeopardy game or chess game and win. Pretty soon computers will also be able to drive a car on city and highway roads by being told what the destination is as the only necessary information to be inputted by hand or voice. Computer robots will soon be performing many of the tasks only done by humans. There is even a fear that computers will soon be able to think like humans and threaten to take over the world and not just do all the work or jobs which were once done by humans.

I don’t have this fear that computers will take over the world but I think that the most likely scenario is where humans and computers will work together symbiotically and help each other to solve problems in everyday life and do things which have to be done.

A computer is very good at logical thinking but is not as efficient as the human brain and is lousy at detecting or using human emotions. A computer can’t presently have a sense of humor or detect whether someone is being deceptive or is lying about something. It can’t sense whether you love something or just like it and it does not react to the environment or other humans in an emotional way.

Most humans react rather impulsively to the environment based on their prior experiences in life and unfortunately the computer does not act impulsively based on prior experiences. We are much better at adapting to changes in the environment which is so complex and it is very easy to fool a computer with faulty information input. We are much cleverer than a computer ever will be and there are still human capabilities which the computer will probably not have in the near foreseeable future. Humans primarily function emotionally and a computer will probably never become as emotional as humans are.

Yes, computers will ultimately do almost everything that we can do and better but they will not get the emotional thrill out of life which we are capable of. Computers may someday be able to fake love, happiness, laughter, grief, empathy, deception, lying, and sorrow but they will not truly feel those emotions the way that humans do.

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10 RELATIONSHIP BAD HABITS WITH SUGGESTIONS, PART 1 OF 3!!!

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Lying:

Honesty, sincerity, dependability, and loyalty is what creates trust in a relationship. Trust is the relationship glue and lying destroys a relationship and makes it a very bad one or practically no useful relationship at all.

Even white lies are unnecessary and there are tactful alternatives which maintain your honesty and continue a solid trusting relationship. Instead of lying about a dress to your spouse say it is OK but it is not your favorite color, color combination, style, pattern, size, length or is too sexy or too frilly.

Don’t lie and you won’t have to remember the lies that you told which get you into trouble sooner or latter.

 

Trying to improve him or her:

Adult personalities rarely change radically and what you see is frequently what you get and will get.

If you hate too many of a human’s characteristics then try to avoid them or try not to get too involved in the first place. Live and let live but keep your close relationships with human’s that you trust and like and don’t waste your time with what you consider bad, especially immoral humans.

An abusive, emotionally unstable, and lying human will not be rehabilitated no matter how hard you try so be realistic and avoid them.

 

Complaining or nagging too much:

There is plenty in this world to complain about but if you can’t change or control the situation or the human then avoid them as much as possible or stop complaining.

Change the situation for the better if you can but stop complaining or nagging about things which will probably never change and are outside of your ability to change for the better.

If you are nagging your significant other too much then you should consider replacing him or her with someone you won’t have to nag so much.

 

Lying to yourself:

Stop thinking that you should always be the center of attention, that you are never wrong and don’t need to apologize for anything, that everyone that you meet should admire and respect you, and that everyone should agree with your beliefs and opinions.

Excessive pride or an over inflated ego ignores the fact that most of us are imperfect humans with flaws and that we sometimes need the help of others to compensate for our weaknesses which we sometimes are unaware of.

Knowing yourself intimately as objectively as possible is the first step to being truthful about yourself and your abilities. Don’t be delusional and you won’t be handicapped with an unrealistic judgment of your abilities and potential.

 

Criticizing too much and inappropriately:

Harsh criticism, put downs, name calling, and ridicule feels like a personal attack, puts humans in a defensive mode, and they will do their best to ignore the criticism or defend their actions beyond reason.

Make tactful helpful suggestions on how a human should behave or solve a problem or mistake and there will be less resistance and potentially more cooperation and effective future actions.

 

Surrounding yourself with negative humans:

Surrounding yourself with bad, especially immoral humans is a terrible idea.

Interacting too much with a complaining, blaming, procrastinating, pessimistic, jealous, resentful, fearful, depressed, and abusive human is also bad and is what is commonly called a negative human with some or many of the listed bad characteristics.

Trying to associate more with optimistic humans is the solution to this bad problem.

 

Being secretive instead of telling humans what is bothering you:

Humans can rarely read your mind and good honest, sincere, trustworthy communications depend on full disclosure of what is bothering you so that humans can react appropriately without unnecessary misunderstandings.

 

Being secretive with humans you don’t know well may save you from embarrassment sometimes but if you want to maintain close relationships with a human then secrecy is not advisable because humans get upset if they feel you are trying to hide something important from them.

 

Arrogant bragging or trying too much to impress others with your wealth and/or accomplishments:

Almost no one likes a braggart and if you go around too much trying to impress humans with your greatness then they will think less of you and not give you the admiration and respect which you are hoping for.

 

Unfriendliness:

Smart humans know that the most progress is made with the help of other humans and a friendly attitude will frequently attract new useful humans and keep the friendships which you have already made.

A friendly attitude towards strangers or a nice communication with them is useful to find out if they may make good potential new friends or acquaintances.

It is even wise to be polite to assholes who frequently like to abuse humans with their bad behavior and sometimes even get satisfaction from emotionally upsetting other humans.

 

Worrying and fearing too much:

Some worry and fear is natural and frequently motivates us to behave in certain ways or to change the way we react to circumstances.

Too much worry about past and future failures and a fear that the worst will happen can stress us out emotionally beyond realistic necessity.

The courage to get up from failure and try again and again, perhaps a different way, is what makes improvement in our lives possible and is the antidote to too much worrying and fear.

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THE MOST IMPORTANT HUMAN DESIRES WHICH CREATE SOCIAL COHESION!!!

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As humans most of us basically desire or want to be liked or admired, respected, and treated morally by other humans.

Most of us desire moral behavior from others or do not want them to lie to us, steal from us, or harm us in any way. If humans treat us morally then we assume that we are respected and maybe even liked.

Leaders not only want to be respected but also admired for their character and achievements or competency and sometimes even desire to be loved by a devoted following.

Morality creates the possibility for a trusting relationship to develop not only between humans themselves but also between leaders and their followers.

It is also possible for a tyrant to develop a devoted following among some of their supporters but a majority of the population will mostly obey out of fear of punishment and may not actually admire the tyrant leader at all if asked truthfully despite an onslaught of propaganda.

Morality is usually also expected among the members of a criminal organization even though they may act immorally and deceptively on many outside groups or individuals.

We basically desire moral behavior from most humans and approval and caring from humans who really matter to us.

Finally there is an intense desire for sexual orgasm in the male and a desire for women to have offspring, especially if they come from happy families.

 

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10 SIGNS OF BAD MANAGEMENT!!!

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The bad manager tries to manage through fear and frequently threatens to fire an employee and has a high turnover rate with many firings.

The bad manager lies to customers and employees and is not respected or admired because there is no trusting environment established.

The bad manager does not know how to motivate employees with earned praise and appropriate rewards and privileges.

The bad manager creates a bad political atmosphere pitting one employee against another thus creating more conflict than cooperation in the organization.

The bad manager always complains that employees are not working hard enough when he or she themself put forth very little effort.

The bad manager publicly humiliates employees and puts them down thus ruining morale.

The bad manager micromanages employees and interferes in the work process more than necessary.

The bad manager ignores or does not listen to complaints, suggestions, and differing opinions or ideas and doesn’t value employee feedback.

The bad manager assumes an arrogant stance that he or she can do no wrong or never makes mistakes, takes credit for all successes, and blames others when things go wrong.

The bad manager gripes about his or her dysfunctional personal life and just proves that not only is he or she disliked at work but that humans in his or her personal life also dislike him or her.

CONCLUSION:

A good manager can be respected and feared if he or she is honest, competent, and just in the treatment of employees. A lying, incompetent, and unjust manager who just tries to manage through fear alone will almost always be a failure and there will be terrible morale among the workers.

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7 BEHAVIORS WHICH CAN AND SHOULD END A DEVELOPING RELATIONSHIP!!!

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You’re unfaithful:

Adultery frequently ends a marriage and cheating on someone before marriage will frequently destroy a developing relationship too.

You’re a liar:

Lying will end most developing relationships unless someone is incredibly desperate for a relationship on almost any terms.

You’re financially irresponsible:

If you are in great debt and a lavish spender then you may fool some into thinking you are overly generous but anyone interested in a long duration relationship will not like this financial irresponsibility.

You’re abusive:

Coming from an abusive family you may find physical abuse and verbal abuse in the form of harsh criticism and unreasonable demands normal but it is definitely something which will destroy most normally developing relationships.

You can’t empathize:

If you can’t empathize with your partner then chances are great that you will never apologize when you’re wrong or when you hurt feelings. You will probably be rudely demanding and selfish in most of the things you do and basically intolerable.

You are too demanding:

You are clingy and not willing to give the other person some time off from you. Acting like the world revolves around you and always demanding to be the center of attention will suffocate a two way relationship.

You have compulsive addictions:

You have bad drug, alcohol, gambling, or shopping addictions which are priority number one in your life. Few happy long duration relationships can tolerate compulsive addictions which are not eliminated or cured and you are foolish if you feel that you can tolerate them and still find happiness in the relationship.

 

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT MANIPULATION***

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Manipulation: n. deceptively changing a human(s)’ mind(s) and/or behavior(s) frequently for personal benefit

Politicians, advertisers, brokers, and spouses sometimes cleverly manipulate the emotions of a human(s) for personal benefit. Making promises that they don’t intend to keep or feeding misleading information can cause someone to change their mind and/or behavior to their detriment later on.

A politician may get you to vote for them but not keep his promises, an advertiser may get you to buy a product which you regret having purchased later on, a broker may convince you to buy or sell a stock just to get a commission, or a spouse may convince you that they were not unfaithful when actually they were.

Manipulation is frequently deceptively feeding you half truths which sound plausible but will actually hurt you in some way if you go through with their suggestions. Most successful manipulations manipulate your fears and basic desires to get you to do something which you frequently regret later on.

You can also be rarely deceptively manipulated into doing something which benefits you or is good for you but that is the exception to the rule and is a rarity. Parents sometimes try to manipulate offspring with promises that eating something healthy will make them strong or beautiful and it sometimes works on young impressionable believing offspring.

If something sounds too good to be true then chances are great that you are being manipulated and will regret it if you follow through with it. The media and society is filled with manipulators and the probability that most of your opinions and beliefs are actually products of manipulation are great.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT LIBEL***

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Libel: n. willfully and fraudulently stealing the good reputation of a human(s) and/or organization with an untrue recorded public communication(s)

If someone untruthfully writes that you are a liar, a thief, an adulterer, a fraud, or a drug addict and publishes this then they have committed a fraud and can be punished for it in a court of law with a fine. Organizations are sometimes also falsely accused of being liars or frauds and the cases have been brought to court and adjudicated.

Scandal publications can print untruths, lies, or hearsay about public figures and politicians and sometimes get away with it because libel laws sometimes exclude untrue publications about celebrities. Some lies are so outrageous that no one takes them seriously. One scandal sheet published that Dick Cheney is a robot on the front page. The lie is so outrageous and maybe even entertaining that no one takes it seriously and it does not constitute libel.

Defamation or slander can also be verbal lying but frequently a public apology, retraction, or an admission to making a mistake frequently gets the offender pardoned and they are not prosecuted in a court of law for lying.

Businesses, organizations, and corporations are also interested in maintaining a good reputation and if a major publication libels them and it severely affects their reputation then they are frequently sued in a court of law.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT DISHONESTY***

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Dishonesty:  n. intentional (fraudulence and/or lying) and/or deception

Lying is an obvious form of dishonesty but failing to fulfill a promise is also dishonesty or lying about the future. Frequently contracts or promises to do something in the future for mutual benefit are not fulfilled and this is also a form of dishonesty or in effect fraudulent behavior.

Lying is immoral fraud which is not criminally prosecuted by law but in an ideal world should be. Social ostracism of liars or a bad reputation is frequently the only punishment that a liar gets.

Deception is a form of partial lying or partial dishonesty and not revealing the whole truth necessary in a communication or agreement. Deception is dishonesty too and it is frequently evident in cosmetic and supplement advertisements which promote products with desirable characteristics or results which are in fact not very accurate or even almost totally untrue.

A deceptive human is a clever liar who frequently gets away with the clever lie but he or she is a liar nevertheless. Society is filled with myths and deceptions or clever lies and it is my mission in life to try and reveal as many of them as possible for your benefit. The truth about these deceptions is not always pleasant to hear because many of us prefer to believe in soothing  or comforting lies and deceptions rather than in harsh truths or realities.

Total dishonesty or blatant lying is worse than partial dishonesty but one should realize that almost any degree of dishonesty is bad unless it is an emergency situation and you must lie or be dishonest to save a life or avoid severe injury.

Most of us would like to be healthy, attractive, happy, and successful and there are plenty of predatory deceptive charlatans who are offering us their bogus friends, information, goods, and services to fulfill those basic human desires.

What is the antidote to dishonesty? Being honest, sincere, dependable, competent, somewhat caring, and trustworthy. If you find a friend with those characteristics then you will have found a true friend indeed!!! Your social reputation will be outstanding too and you will be respected and maybe even admired if you chose to have a large following.

What is the difference between an intentional and unintentional lie? Usually an intentional lie is someone claiming to have done something when in fact they have not done it. If the lie is unintentional and you get a sincere apology then forgive and forget but if the lie is intentional then start doubting and prepare for more lies if you decide to have further dealings with the human.

The hardest lies to detect are the deceptive ones where there seems to be some truth in what someone is saying to you but you have some impulsive doubts. This is where reputation comes into play. How reputable is the human giving you the information? If they have a history of deception or lying then don’t trust them but if they seem fairly reputable then cautiously proceed and assume that some of what they are saying is in fact truthful. Some BS artists are so good that you will not detect them for who they really are and not realize that they are playing you for a sucker.

Finally don’t be too impulsive and accuse others of lying because chances are great that they have been deceived or believe in untruths which are ravaging societies and their lying may be unintentional. Their opinion on something may be totally opposed to yours but don’t assume that the opinion is a total lie or untruth. You need much useful education and experience with humans to read their body language, listen carefully to the tone of voice which they are using, and to judge the truth of the information which they are communicating to you.

Accusing someone of lying without proof or reputable witnesses runs the risk of a false accusation which will begin to ruin your reputation in the long duration.

Be cautious about new relationships and keep an eye out for deceptions and lies. My advice is live and learn because there is so much BS floating around in society that you are probably being deluged by it and have been brainwashed by much of it. If you want less BS in your life then start reading as many of my blogs as possible.

 

 

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A BRIEF REVIEW OF LYING!!!

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Internet customer reviews are BS in about 5% of cases so make sure you read more than a handful on a product and eliminate or ignore the glaring discrepancies or untrue deviant views.

Lying peaks at about age 12 so make sure that your young offspring do not get away with lying or it may become a lifelong handicap.

As many as 85 % of parents sometimes lie to their offspring to get them to behave or lie to them about Santa clause, the Easter bunny, tooth fairies, and angels. Religious mythology with supernatural events and fortune telling is institutionalized lying which many modern honest offspring can’t stand and frequently challenge.

Deceptive and lying advertising fools many and encourages more deception and lying in society.

Emails, text messages, and gossipy small talk has some lies but most of them come from humans with a greater lying frequency than the more honest ones.

If you cheat on a test and get good grades then you credit yourself with being smarter than you actually are and if you lie and get away with it or get rewarded in some way then you encourage yourself to lie again because of lying success. Undeserved ass kissing may get you desired short duration results but you will expect ass kissing from others too and you will never develop respect and admiration from those whom you are in charge of.

Lying about finances is frequent in a job poor society with many poor paying jobs and a desire to impress our dates with more financial power than we actually possess.

Past experiences are edited to fit current reality and this frequently results in lying about the past to make it fit current reality.

Not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings many frequently lie about bad looks, bad behavior, and inappropriate gifts with superlative undeserved praise.

Making promises and not fulfilling them is a form of lying about your behavior in the future. Although there are sometimes unexpected circumstances which interfere with promise fulfilling if you find that you are making too many excuses about not being on time or not keeping a promise then you are developing or have developed into a compulsive liar and not to be trusted.

If you have lying friends then chances are great that you lie more than usual too.

I am one of the few rare individuals on an anti-lying crusade but is quite rare and it is hard getting followers since comforting lies is what most prefer to the harsh reality of truth and honesty.

Finally, lying once intentionally starts to destroy trust or the bond which holds great relationships together. Lie intentionally and you create suspicion, distrust, and fear of being cheated about something and a good trusting relationship if there was one begins to disintegrate. After the first serious intentional lie a lingering question remains. What else is he or she lying to me about? 

Intentionally lie and get caught which is inevitable given enough time and the chances for developing a good new trusting long duration relationship or friendship are impossible.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT RUTHLESSNESS

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Ruthlessness: n. pitiless and/or merciless and/or unsympathetic and/or frequently cruel and sometimes murderous in the achievement of a goal(s)

A totally immoral or totally ruthless human will lie, steal, and murder to achieve power or to maintain it once in a leadership position. Organized crime and gangs are examples of ruthless behavior in an otherwise peaceful society.

Tyrants are ruthless but ruthless politicians and business humans will sometimes lie, deceive, and bankrupt humans to gain or maintain their power. Whistle blowers are bankrupted or labelled mentally insane and their lives are destroyed for all practical purposes. Political opponents are labelled racist, homophobes, radicals, or fanatics by character assassinators. Vicious untrue rumors are spread by some in the workplace to try and get you fired or deposed from a prestigious position in an organization.

Ruthlessness is not only a characteristic of tyrannies but is alive and well in democracies too although short of murder in most cases. The powerful monied interests can make your life a living hell if they decide that you are a serious threat to their power. Almost no one has gone to jail for wall street corruption and none for bank corruption. There is a great likelihood that this deplorable trend will continue until whistleblowers are protected physically and financially from disclosing evidence of corruption.

The more immoral a society becomes the less the leadership can be trusted to rule justly without the use of force or the threat of force. This is why it is of utmost importance to teach young impressionable minds a secular morality which preaches against lying, stealing, and murder without any ifs ands or buts.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT REMORSE

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Remorse: n. sensing guilt and badness after having done a bad and/or wrong subset(s) which is frequently an immoral behavior(s) and/or offense(s) and wishing the behavior had never existed

Most of us have a moral sense of what is right and wrong and feel bad, guilty, or have remorse if we lie, steal, or commit adultery.

There are psychopaths and humans who do not have much of a moral conscience and do not feel remorse after lying or an act of adultery. Some even don’t feel remorse after stealing and getting away with it.

Remorse is something moral humans feel and it frequently prevents them from doing an immoral act again if they make a mistake and do something bad or immoral. Remorseful humans feel guilty and try not to repeat bad or immoral mistakes the next time around.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT COURTS

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If I was rich and could afford the best lawyer(s) then I would conclude that the courts are indeed just and even biased in my favor.

If I was poor and couldn’t afford an excellent lawyer then my only hope would be to maybe plea bargain to a lesser criminal count and be found guilty for a lesser crime. In fact about 90% of all convictions are plea bargains partly due to the extremely large number of caseloads and it is an attempt to reduce court costs by not having to appear in court and use up precious time and money.

If you do wind up in court then good witnesses, professional opinions, and lawyers who can present facts and events in an emotionally compelling way give you the edge you may need to escape a guilty verdict.

If you are suing someone then make sure that they have deep pockets or much money because if they are poor you won’t get a dime from them and you will have to pay your lawyer for the time and money spent prosecuting.

Suing very wealthy individuals or corporations is almost impossible to do successfully and even class action suits will probably net you no more than a thousand dollars because at least a third of the money will be spent on lawyer fees and you will almost be waiting forever for a guilty verdict.

Next to money the next important factor in court cases is the reputation of the prosecution and defendant witnesses and the jury. In a modern age with so many with bad reputations for adultery, promiscuity, drug use, and lying it is getting increasingly hard to get someone to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth and the net result is many sham convictions.

Testimony can be fabricated, evidence can be fabricated, professional testimony may be faulty, witnesses may have bad reputations, and you can easily become the victim of a fraudulent prosecution.

In a largely moral society justice will prevail most of the time but in a modern increasingly immoral society the court system can’t be trusted to give just verdicts in many cases.

A return to an updated secular moral code which is taught impressionable young minds in elementary school is a must if the court system is not to further disintegrate into an unjust scam for talented liars and the powerful with much money. If humans are not conditioned from an early age not to lie, not steal, not commit adultery if married, and not deceive then I only predict the court system will become more unjust with each passing year.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT HONESTY

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Honesty:  n. being truthful and/or (without intentional fraudulent and/or deceptive behavior)

Honesty, telling the truth, or not lying is the best policy if you want a good reputation but that need not mean that you have to give honest answers to questions which are probing your private affairs. If you think it is privileged information then ignore the question or honestly say that you would rather keep the information confidential.

Brutal honesty should be avoided, especially name calling. If someone deserves criticism for doing something stupid, crazy, or incompetent then don’t say- You are stupid, crazy, or incompetent! Say that what you did was wrong or bad and maybe offer an example of what you would have done instead.

Avoid using vague superlatives such as ugly, hate, disgusting, weird, vulgar, loathsome, creepy, and yucky. If you must criticize then say that you dislike something a lot or that it is inappropriate and give your reasons why. If you give a reasonable reason for the objection then the human will not feel personally offended and think that you are calling them an ugly, hateful, disgusting, weird, or creepy human.

Deception is also a form of lying or not being honest and means that you are only being partially honest with hidden lies or hidden bad consequences.

Sincerity is honest communication with a respect for another’s feelings so if you are being honest then take into consideration the fact that feelings may be hurt if you give brutal honest criticism.

Be honest, sincere, dependable, and without deception and you will have a great reputation and most humans will respect and maybe even admire you!!!!!!

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THE TRUTH ABOUT PARENTING

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The goal of parenting should be to raise moral, hardworking, dependable, independent adults without very bad habits such as alcoholism, drugs, and gambling and hope that they will somehow find success and happiness in their lives.

Raising offspring who don’t lie, aren’t deceptive, don’t steal, are not promiscuous, and are dependable is a hard job in a world filled with lies, deceptions, promiscuity, and irresponsibility. If you raise moral offspring they will also have to learn that many others lie, deceive, are promiscuous, and are irresponsible and that this applies to organizations as well as individual humans.

Teaching your offspring to be honest, sincere, and dependable in a sea of lying, irresponsible, deceptive humanity is not easy and if you are a close to perfect moral role model there will be plenty of role models in society not to imitate because they are morally corrupt and are leading dysfunctional lives.

Teaching your offspring to successfully navigate through those bad social role models and seek out the good role models is not an easy task but it is your job, especially for young offspring, to expose them to as many good role models in society as possible and that is basically monitoring the friends which your offspring associate with.

Teaching your offspring to become independent adults is not easy in a technological world where liberal arts is increasingly job poor. You should encourage them to embrace as much technology as possible and motivate them to pursue technological careers but not stress out too much if they choose a liberal arts field, especially if they excel in it.

You and your spouse are the most important role models in your offspring’s lives. If you are not moral, hardworking, dependable, and independent then don’t expect your offspring to become much better or have more success in their lives than you.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT TRUST

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Trust: v. to have confidence that one will rarely be disappointed and/or victimized and/or defrauded and/or deceived and/or lied to by another

Trust is the human bond which makes relatively peaceful human interaction possible.  Without trust human relationships would degenerate into chaos which would soon be replaced by the threat of force and the use of force to restore some semblance of order in society.

A measure of the health of a human society is a measure of the trust which exists between citizens and between the citizens and their leaders. The breakup of families and an abundance of bad relationships between humans is a testimony to the fact that trust is breaking down in society to no one’s benefit except the monied and powerful in society.

The way that you get and maintain trust in society is to get the society to impulsively follow a just moral code which almost everyone believes in.  No secular moral code is being taught to impressionable young minds and the result is an increasingly immoral society where lies, deceptions, stealing, and adultery are beginning to reach epidemic proportions.

Psychological situation ethics is just not a workable replacement for morality and is making the situation worse and worse with more and more dysfunctional lifestyles being permitted and condoned by psychologists and psychiatrists to no one’s benefit.

When honesty, sincerity, and reliability or the fulfillment of promises are no longer promoted by society dishonesty, insincerity, and undependability or breaking of promises flourish and begin to create a very unhappy unsatisfied society.

In a corrupting society at least try to retain a personal oasis of trustworthiness and reliability with your offspring, spouse, and closest friends by not lying to them and fulfilling your promises, not stealing from them, and not being unfaithful to them for your own and their peace of mind. If the humans which you come into contact with are not trustworthy and dependable then try to end the relationship as soon as possible because all they will become is a source of turmoil and unhappiness in your life.

If you want humans to trust you then here are some things which you should be doing and Depak Chopra’s list is what I used as a guide:

Your actions are consistent or you don’t do one thing in one situation and another thing in the same situation latter on.

Your words match your deeds or you do what you say that you are going to do.

You make promises that you can keep or you fulfill promises to the best of your ability.

You take responsibility for your decisions or if you make a mistake then you own up to it and maybe even apologize.

You don’t backstab or undercut those around you or you don’t try to cleverly manipulate humans and take credit for their good actions and don’t spread harmful rumors about humans for personal gain.

You don’t focus on yourself or don’t spend time bragging about yourself or your accomplishments or walking around with a haughty “I am better than you” attitude.

You monitor the success and welfare of your cohorts or notice how well humans who are important in your life are doing and guide or motivate them on to even greater success or wellbeing.

You tell the truth in an honest sincere way avoiding harsh criticism, put downs, ridicule, and name calling.

Finally, it is better to live alone than to associate with untrustworthy undependable humans.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT FORGIVENESS

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Forgive: v. to not punish someone for reaching the wrong goal(s) and/or doing a bad behavior(s) and saying to the offender “I forgive you”

Unconditionally forgive an immoral or very bad human and they will continue with their immoral and very bad behavior and you will become the unhappy miserable victim over and over again.

With strangers and casual acquaintances the general principle is fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Don’t become a sucker for false promises no matter how good they may sound because if you have been fooled once the offender will want to do it again and fool you more than once for his or her benefit.

On the job, being late too frequently, lying to the boss about something very important, or stealing from the business are all good enough reasons not to forgive and fire you for your immorality. If you catch a coworker seriously lying about another worker or stealing from the business then it is your moral responsibility to tell the boss who will then take appropriate actions because developing and maintaining a trusting relationship in a business is priority number one.

Adulterous behavior without real remorse, without feeling guilty, and without sincerely promising never to do it again is also a behavior which should not be forgiven, especially if it occurs more than once. Intentional lies without remorse, feeling guilty, and promising not to do it again is also behavior which will ruin a trusting relationship sooner or later and if you are not married yet, then don’t marry a liar under any circumstances. Unfortunately adultery and lying are two immoralities under which a healthy and happy relationship is not possible and the more times that you forgive the worse the dysfunctional relationship becomes.

With offspring who are learning to behave properly you will be doing a lot of forgiving but keep in mind that important misbehaviors such as stealing, lying, and dangerous physical aggression should be quickly addressed with guaranteed punishment which is the removal of important privileges or even spanking to stop the bad behavior and not let it become a bad habit which will devastate the parent offspring relationship in the long duration. With offspring who do a moral transgression the first time there should be a strong conditional forgiveness offered. Make a sincere threat to the offspring. Do it a second time and an important privilege will be removed or I will spank you so it hurts and then follow through with the threat. If you make threatening promises and don’t follow through with the punishment then your offspring will just feel that you are an overblown windbag, will ignore you, and your role as an authority figure will disappear to no one’s benefit.

You can wallow in revenge and bitter resentment for a long time if you don’t forgive conditionally or unconditionally. If forgiveness is not working in your favor then the best policy is to break off the relationship and move on to a better one. You have the power to forgive and not forgive and if you are wallowing in revenge and resentment and it is making you terribly unhappy then it is your fault that you are not doing anything successful about it. Marriage and close friendships are hard to abandon but abandonment should be seriously considered if it is making your life and your offspring’s life miserable with too much immorality going on.

CONCLUSION:

Forgiveness is not divine if it is done unconditionally for immoral behavior such as intentional lies, adultery, and stealing. As a responsible adult you should not tolerate immoral behavior in the family or with close friends. It is also your responsibility to not get involved in dysfunctional immoral relationships with other adults. If you do let immorality slide in your relationships, it will just bring you much unnecessary misery and unhappiness in your life!!!!!!

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THE TRUTH ABOUT LYING

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LYING:   Willfully and fraudulently stealing the truth with untrue speech and/or untrue writing or willful and legal deceptive stealing of the truth with untrue speech and/or untrue writing.

All lying should be fraudulent or illegal someday in the distant future.  Unfortunately the human condition is such that society is filled with lies many of which are believed to be the truth.

Religions are filled with untruths and there is an abundance of social myths that people believe in.

Many businesses lie about their products especially when it deals with highly subjective personal beauty and health products and services.

We would be calling 100% of the population liars if our standards for truth were objective and absolute.  So many people are being deceived by untrue information and untrue opinions. They honestly believe those untruths so they aren’t really liars but they are promoting many untruths which have to be addressed and combated wherever possible.  Hopefully someday in a perfect world lying and untruths will be outlawed but for the time being most lying is still legal deceptive stealing of the truth and permitted.

The deception is perpetuated by those in leadership positions of power and the people are merely sheepish followers who don’t know any better.  There is also the problem of a leadership that has been deceived by historical deceptions and they too largely believe that they are in possession of the objective truth.

My books are really not designed for the masses but are designed for the political and social and economic future leaders that should be fighting ancient myths and untrue ideas and unjust laws to make this place a better world to live in.

People aren’t really willfully lying all the time because they believe those lies to be the truth and society accepts this reality.  That should not be a reason to be complacent about the situation and not continue the noble fight to exclude as many lies and untruths from society as possible.  We should all try to be myth busters because it is the right and good thing to do and it should only benefit society and the world in the long run and guarantee a more peaceful world.

Trust is the glue that keeps families and friends and organizations and society functioning smoothly.  Remove trust and human relationships and society start to decrease.  Trust basically means that honesty and sincerity without much lying is being practiced by people.

Dishonesty or lying or telling untruths can also mean that promises are made and never fulfilled and that bad deceptive actions are kept secret in close human relationships.  Beware of adults who don’t fulfill their promises and replace them with excuses and beware of adults who seem to be keeping too many secrets with avoidance answers to important questions.

People shouldn’t and frequently don’t trust a liar or a thief.  A liar who tells many intentional lies or untruths destroys a good reputation and is frequently socially ostracized.  A thief who is caught goes to jail.  Unintentional lies especially by offspring can be forgiven but many intentional lies should be punished by a loss of privileges.

Intentional stealing by small offspring should be severely punished even by physical spanking with a belt if the intentional stealing can not be cured by a loss of privileges or severe scolding which emphasizes that thieves go to jail.

Lying by a spouse about not being home on time due to working overtime or a meeting with some friend for entertainment reasons is sometimes done to hide an affair so become suspicious if a spouse is using too much time away from home and is found not to be working at a job.

Finding drug paraphernalia in a messy room or car is evidence that legal or illegal drugs are being used by your offspring or that he or she is associating with people who are using drugs.  If your offspring denies using drugs it is probably a lie although there is the remote possibility that the drug paraphernalia was planted by friends that wanted your offspring to get into trouble.  If actual drugs are found especially the illegal kind it is time to take severe steps to stop the use if it hasn’t reached the point where only a drug rehabilitation center is the only solution to the problem. In modern society there are many synthetic legal drugs which are even more dangerous to your offspring and they should be made illegal as soon as they appear on the market and are being manufactured here or in a foreign country. For example all dieting drugs which suppress appetite and change your mood should be illegal!!!!!!

If you lie very little or have a photographic memory and can remember all the lies told you may get away with lying but most compulsive liars are soon caught in their lies and their good reputation lands in the toilet.  This is especially true of dates that you may have who may claim that they are in love with you.  Sometimes the truth is that they are really after your money or some privilege which only you control.

In every new relationship give the person enough time to prove to you that they are really honest about their lives and about their interest in you.  The longer that the relationship lasts the greater is the probability that their true intentions and beliefs will surface and they will be caught in their lies if they have told any.   If you catch someone in a single important intentional lie there is a great possibility that he or she has been telling you many more lies which you haven’t caught.  Stay away from liars because they can’t be trusted and are immoral people and this will only lead to many future disappointments or even heartbreak.

There is a very important place for honesty and a good reputation to play in modern jury trials.  If perjury is committed then true justice is not possible in democratic republics.

If the truth and 100% of the truth and nothing but the truth is not demanded by law of the vast majority of its citizens then there is no justice possible.  A society filled with liars can’t exist for long before tyrannical rule must be enforced with force and the threat of force.  A free society with too many institutionalized lies or untruths and successful liars can’t long exist.

There are many lies being told in society that are believed to be the truth so realize that not all lies which are being told to you by adults are actually intentional lies meant to deceive you.

There are many products on the market especially drugs and inflated money making schemes and weight loss products and lopsided single or multiple food supplements and cosmetics which make untrue statements about their merits.

Educate yourself on these products by going on the internet and getting truthful opinions from people who have actually used them and are not being paid to make good testimonials on those products.

Finally if it sounds too good to be true it probably is not true.  Watch out for miracle claims for a product and remember that the buyer should always be suspicious of untrue claims.

Laws should be passed which limit the right to make non objective claims for products and services which are not truthfully advertised.  Buyer beware is not a just legal principle but is bad socially since it just rewards clever and deceptive liars.

Almost all lies are immoral and there are a few cases where they are criminal or fraudulent in the form of libel or public product misrepresentations.

White lies such as saying that you are busy when you are not to avoid an unpleasant conversation may not be considered immoral.  It is best to remain silent and communicate nothing at all if honesty will get you in trouble such as severely and honestly criticizing your boss and risking being fired.

Admit your error in making a promise that you couldn’t fulfill rather than making up a untrue excuse.  Remember honesty is still the best policy if you want to maintain good relationships with family and close friends and especially if you are aspiring to positions of leadership in organizations or politics.

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12 WAYS TO GET DISLIKED OR EVEN HATED BY YOUR COWORKERS!!!

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Being a slob with a messy desk with food, drink stains, and leftovers is a bad start. Add to this bad personal hygiene with bad body odor and breath and a disheveled appearance and you can become an office pariah.

Being condescending or talking down to fellow coworkers by feeling that only you have all the right answers, telling everyone else that their ideas will fail, and criticizing them at every opportunity. Many of your ideas may actually be good but give others a chance to work on their own ideas too or you will soon have the entire staff hating you.

Stop communicating too much personal information and especially personal problems. Excessive talk about personal health problems, marital arguments, your offspring’s latest accomplishments at preschool no one cares about, and private phone calls are all detailed information which will bore and annoy almost everyone.

Being lazy and doing the bare minimum of work and sometimes trying to get help from coworkers will generate much hatred especially if you accept credit for the work that others have mostly done.

Being a backstabber and claiming credit for another’s work may get you temporarily higher in the corporate ladder but you will be hated by most of the humans which you have backstabbed and other workers will know about this too.

You are too noisy and just plain rude, inconsiderate, and annoying if you whistle, sing, hum, chew loudly, or play your music for all to hear. You are interrupting the quiet atmosphere needed for concentrated work efforts without interference by others.

Lying to your boss can get you fired and lying to your coworkers will ruin a trustworthy relationship and any hope of being respected and admired by them.

Procrastination on a team may mean that others will have to do some of the work for you and will cause much resentment and annoyance.

Tardiness will upset your coworkers because it is a sign that you don’t value their time and is another valid reason for being fired by your boss.

Lack of manners like being rude and thoughtless and not saying “please”,  “thank you”, and “I’m sorry” will make smooth communication with your coworkers impossible and they won’t enjoy talking to you.

Bad email communication by being too abrupt, rude, and adding to that long windedness will guarantee that you will have bad communications with coworkers and a bad reputation in the office.

Being a busy body will annoy many who don’t want to reveal the minutia of their personal lives.

 

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6 IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP BAD HABITS IN A MARRIAGE

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Most bad habits deal with bad emotional control, lying, trying to change the hard or impossible to change, and letting external humans or events adversely affect the relationship.

TRYING TO IMPROVE YOUR SPOUSE’S PERSONALITY WITH NAGGING:

If your spouse does not take out the garbage, doesn’t like to cook, will not vacuum, and do household chores in general then it may be possible to gradually change this in the relationship eventually.

If your spouse is shy or not sociable, is a poor communicator, is not funny or humorous, is unreliable and doesn’t keep promises, is overly selfish, or is not interested in disciplining offspring then it will be almost impossible to change these basic personality types. If you do try to change your spouse’s personality then you will probably meet with failure and have to go through much nagging or complaining and fruitless arguments.

GETTING IN-LAWS INVOLVED IN RELATIONSHIP ISSUES:

Nothing is worse than engaging in-laws who take sides in a marriage and almost always find fault in one spouse and not the other. Ganging up on a spouse with in-law backup will only heighten the anger over an issue and not resolve any problem. Borrowing money from in-laws and not being able to pay it back later is also a major source of added problems in a relationship. Let the in-laws give affection and gifts to offspring but don’t get them involved in relationship problems.

FIGHTING AND EXTREME AFFECTION IN PUBLIC:

Nothing is more embarrassing than demonstrating bad communication in public by openly arguing or fighting in public. Extreme displays of affection in public are also embarrassing where modest affection is more acceptable.

TOO MUCH ARGUING AND FIGHTING AND TOO LITTLE DISCUSSION:

When there is a clash of opinions it is very easy to get emotionally angry and get into an adversarial mode instead of a calm discussion which may lead to compromise or one side deciding to not push an opinion on the other any further. A calm discussion may bring out the reason for the underlying angry emotions and reveal the important details in a problem which is begging for a solution.

Too much angry and hateful exchanges reduces the feeling that you still love one another despite your disagreements on many minor relatively unimportant issues. If the arguing is over important issues then the probability of them being resolved in anger is minimal and you should seriously work on asking questions and finding answers in a calm and controlled manner which will increase the probability that you will solve the problem or problems.

TIMING DISCUSSIONS BADLY:

Trying to calmly discuss important issues, especially financial matters, when feeling tired, stressed, or after an argument is not the right time to do so. Set aside a time, such as an hour before bedtime or a few hours after work, when you can discuss important issues in a calm and collected way without much external tension interfering with the communication.

ALLOWING JEALOUSY TO DOMINATE A RELATIONSHIP:

If your partner was promiscuous before marriage and lied to you and was not dependable then it is your own fault for marrying him or her and feeling jealous. If on the other hand you have married a reliable, honest spouse and have developed a trustworthy relationship for over a year then there is no reason why you should be consumed with jealousy.

If you have a predictable relationship and suddenly he hangs up on a call and doesn’t answer, does not answer promptly who called,  suddenly there is a drop in how frequently he wants sex, or you have an impulsive feeling that he or she has changed in some unusual way then spying may be a solution to your impulsive doubts. If you have developed a mutual trusting relationship in your marriage and everything is going along smoothly then spying should not be necessary and it will only increase your doubts and keep you in a state of terminal jealousy.

LYING TO YOUR SPOUSE OR LYING TO YOURSELF:

Nothing destroys a marriage speedier than lying because it destroys a trusting relationship which is necessary for a strong bond in the marriage. Lying to yourself that honesty is not important will not make things better.

Little white lies like lying about liking a homemade meal or a dress which you don’t like may encourage you to lie about bigger things too. You may become unreliable in the promises which you make and start making stupid excuses instead. Anger, suspicion, jealousy, unsatisfaction, disappointment, and unnecessary stress all grow and can explode in an untrustworthy relationship and even end it.

 

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3 DOMINANT REASONS WHY OFFSPRING AND ADULTS SOMETIMES LIE AND/OR DECEIVE

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 1.     Humans lie and deceive for personal benefit and/or to benefit or to hurt others.

Rarely does a human lie to hurt themselves which is a form of masochism or a desperate attempt to get pity or sympathy from others and hopefully gain personally by manipulating another’s emotions. Beggars are sometimes real life examples of humans manipulating human emotions for personal benefit.

 2.     If a human is a member of a group then they may lie and deceive for mutual benefit. Doctors frequently deceive or do not report on the bad medical practices of their coworkers or fellow doctors and the result is hurting their profession as a whole.

 3.     Language with its one word emotional generalized descriptions is structured to make lying and deception inevitable and frequently unintentional.

 

Lying for personal benefit may be to maintain a good personal reputation or trying to hide an embarrassing, wrong, or immoral personal action which frequently deserves punishment. Lying about another human is sometimes done to maintain that human’s personal reputation for doing something embarrassing, wrong, or immoral which frequently deserves punishment.

 

Lying for personal benefit to be praised and/or rewarded for something they personally did not do which may hurt another who deserves the praise and/or reward.

 

Lying and deceiving may be done to hurt another’s reputation or to get praise, a reward, or a material possession from another which is frequently done for personal gain or vindictiveness at the expense of another.

 

Humans sometimes lie and deceive for personal short duration protection or benefit which they also erroneously hope will be long duration protection or benefit. Humans lie and deceive to protect, benefit, or hurt others. 

 

Language structure lies and deceives. Language is structured to give yes or no, love or hate, like or dislike, approve or disapprove, beautiful or ugly answers to questions but reality is frequently much different and there are seldom absolutes or generalities which convey the whole truth. Saying that a human is stupid is frequently a lie because that human does not do stupid things all the time.

 

You may love something about a gift but hate some aspect of it, you may think a dress has the potential to be beautiful if only it did not have one or two ugly features, and you may want to answer that it is yes most of the time but that there are exceptions to the rule and the answer is sometimes no.

 

An archaic language forces us to lie because of its absolute or general concepts and that is why prejudice prevails because stereotypes of ethnic and political groups are made which are seldom true in all cases for all members of an ethnic or political group. Blacks are lazy and Jews are stingy, Republicans are conservative and Democrats are liberal is the kind of bias which language structure is mostly to blame because of its tendency towards absolute or general one word emotional descriptions.

Offspring frequently try to lie to avoid punishment or condemnation for doing something bad, wrong, or immoral. If offspring hit their sibling or another offspring or steal some toy from a sibling or neighborhood offspring then they may lie to try and maintain a good reputation with their parents and avoid deserved punishment.

Adults are just like offspring and sometimes lie to maintain their reputation and avoid condemnation by others for doing something bad, wrong, or immoral. More frequently adults lie and deceive to get rewards and material benefits from others which they would not be able to do if they told the truth or behaved in trustworthy ways.

 

CONCLUSION:

Lying and deception are programmed into language usage and it is a struggle trying to use it logically in an unbiased non deceptive way. If you consciously or intentionally lie and deceive it is just a question of time before your lies and deceptions are revealed and your reputation will hit the toilet.

Trustworthiness is a history of being honest, sincere, and telling the truth reliably and that means that if you want an excellent social reputation and want to become a trustworthy leader someday then you should never intentionally lie or deceive.

Personal relationships with other humans, especially family and close friendships will also suffer if you intentionally lie or deceive.

Humans lie and deceive to get rewards that they don’t deserve and to avoid punishment because nature tries to be efficient and lying and deception sometimes seems to be the most efficient way of getting what you want or need, especially if you don’t feel that you will be caught in your lies and deceptions.

Deception is really a hidden lie which language promotes with its irrational, illogical, emotionally biased structure.

 

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8 LIES WHICH WOMEN TELL MEN AND THE PROBLEMS IT CAUSES

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Lying that you don’t care how much money he is making or will make. The truth is that most women crave financial security which is a prerequisite for a stable family relationship. You may want to emphasize that you are not a gold digger but you may get a man who wants to live off of your income instead and not feel responsible about contributing his fair share to the relationship.

 

Lying that you don’t care whether he looks at other women. Exclusivity and trust is the glue which keeps relationships together for the long duration and if you don’t consider it important then you may later turn into a jealous psycho chick filled with fear of abandonment when and if he starts eyeing other women.

 

Lying that you can’t wait to see his family, especially if you find out that he comes from a dysfunctional one. Inlaws trying to run their offspring’s lives can become a nightmare for you and your significant other, especially if inlaws are the controlling kind and have serious addictive (drugs, gambling, and alcohol) and abusive personality flaws.

 

Lying that you like his friends if you don’t. If you sense there is a chronic need to hang out with friends whom you don’t like then don’t be surprised if he doesn’t look for better ones in the future and spends much precious time with them. Admit that you think he can improve his friendships and that you would prefer it if he would spend most of his free time with you.

 

Lying that you are in no rush to get married.  If you are looking for a good time and someone to spend much money on you then this would be the truth. For most young adult women they should be honestly trying to establish an enduring relationship with a good potential mate as soon as possible so that they don’t lose a good mate to another marriage hungry woman. The older an unmarried woman gets the greater is the probability that she will meet more divorcees, unhappy or adulterous men, flawed male personalities, and older men who may not want any offspring in their lives. Most of the good male mates will already be married.

 

Lying that you like him just the way he is. Most women will find a few things that they would want to change in their potential mate so it is important to bring those things out into the open and discuss them before a relationship continues.  If you try and keep it a secret it will eventually become a topic of conversation with great unpleasantness and disappointment.

 

Lying that you love sports. Truly loving sports is a rarity and most of us wind up hating and complaining how much time is spent on sports and not family life eventually in the relationship.  Watching TV sports can be annoying enough but if you find that he likes to attend them in person in an addictive way and gambles on sports too then you should seriously consider ending the relationship if you hate his compulsive habit.

 

Lying that you can keep a secret early in the relationship. Before you establish a long duration trusting relationship it is highly probable that you will gossip about the secret to your family or girlfriends so don’t make promises which you will break because your boyfriend will eventually find out that you have broken his confidentiality and will not trust you with further secrets or confidentialities.  The future probability that he will trust you or want you as a mate will vanish.

CONCLUSION: Honesty and sincerity is the best policy if you dream of or hope for a trusting adoring family relationship. If you intentionally lie in the relationship your date will not trust you or want to confide in you about personal feelings and plans and the relationship will selfdestruct soon and certainly later. Most lies surface given enough time and no one likes to be lied to unless they come from a dysfunctional family where lying was an ongoing problem with bad consequences.

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HOW TO ANSWER CASUAL ACQUAINTANCES AND STRANGERS AND NOT LIE

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Answering vaguely but honestly is the best policy when answering private questions from acquaintances and strangers. The more remote the relationship the more tempting it is to lie because we think we will get away with it without being caught and maintain an over inflated ego or exaggerated sense of self. If the acquaintance or stranger is not someone you want to get to know better then you can simply answer that it is a secret if you don’t want to answer and leave it at that.

I am selfconfident with few casual acquaintances and am not a salesman so I never feel an urge to deceive, lie, exaggerate, and give vague replies. If you are very sociable and frequently meet with casual acquaintances and strangers then here are some suggestions of what you could do instead of lying outright to private questions.

If you are a woman and don’t want to reveal your age to boost your ego then answer that you are in your twenties, thirties, or fifties. Unless you have had cosmetic surgery if you lie about your age by more than 10 years you will be caught, especially if you put it in writing.

Instead of bragging about how much money you are making which is more than your true income answer that it is a middle class salary or much more than minimum wage.

If you are a woman your ego is on the line if asked about your weight. Pick a pound over your true weight and say that it is less than or below that amount. If you lie by more than 10 pounds on a dating profile you will just disappoint your date once you meet and they will wonder what else you are lying about in your profile.

If asked about your whereabouts you can answer at work, home, shopping, or downtown. Only if you are cheating on your spouse will you be tempted to lie about your whereabouts.

If your favorite pastime is bar hopping then you will probably not want to answer and if you don’t want to reveal your passions you can answer that you have many favorite pastimes which is true for most humans.

If asked about your favorite music and it is acid rock you may not want to answer truthfully so just answer rock and roll.

If asked about how many followers or friends you have on the internet say that you are interested in quality not quantity in your friendships if you have few friends or followers.

If asked about your relationship status you can answer that you are not currently dating or are in an ongoing relationship if that is the truth. If you must answer that you are single then you can add that you are not interested in a serious relationship right now and it will be the truth.

The most lying exists because humans are frequently not punctual and don’t realize that you are wasting another’s time, energy, and money if you don’t show up on time. Even though humans will sometimes be relieved that you finally showed up they will still feel offended that you are not a human who fulfills his or her punctual promises.

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