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TRUST: THE BOND WHICH KEEPS CIVILIZATION TOGETHER!!!

Many things attract and repulse humans from one another but the most important bond or attraction is trust between two or more humans. If you lie or steal from someone then they will not trust you and any hope for a close relationship and peaceful interactions is lost or destroyed.

In a family if you can’t trust your spouse or offspring then there is no happy family life. If you try to salvage the relationship it will only result in much misery and dissatisfaction and result in more than just a dysfunctional relationship. In effect, no good relationship is possible.

If you can’t trust your leaders then respect and admiration for them is lost and humans will try to survive without the help of the leadership as best that they can. If you can’t trust the media then they are no longer respected and their advice is not taken as valid for your existence.

The United States is undergoing a moral crisis. Fewer and fewer politicians are trusted, many celebrities and liberal arts professors are not trusted, the establishment media is not trusted by most, and many business leaders are not trusted because most feel that they are out to make money at their expense and don’t deliver quality products and services.

The resultant moral decay is felt worldwide and fewer and fewer nations trust the United States as being an effective worldwide police force to protect them against violent aggression. Tyrannies and Islam are spreading in an absence of moral and political democratic leadership from the west and American influence is waning.

Once trust is lost it is almost impossible to regain and will take more than just one generation to recover if even that is possible. Historically once an empire has lost control or disintegrates then the empire breaks up into competing smaller units which may or may not be reconsolidated into another empire.

The globalists are trying to rule the world with money and are succeeding to some extent but will only be able to truly rule the world with a moral ideology and not a corrupt distribution of wealth only. I have tried to give the globalists a secular moral code to guide their financial redistribution of wealth and it is- in non emergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.

I predict a technological elite ruling the world in the not too distant future. Whether my prediction will come true is debatable but I think there is a great probability that it will happen if we don’t irreversibly and irresponsibly destroy biodiversity and the environment in the process.

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10 IMPORTANT PARENTING QUESTIONS ANSWERED!!!

My kids are frequently hitting each other. What can I do about it?

 

Most aggression results from a reaction to a toy being taken away or the destruction of what one has built. The basic underlying desire to be the dominant child in an interaction or selfishness is a contributory factor in most conflict situations. This reveals the necessity for teaching children that some toys are personal property to be respected and other toys are property which can be shared.

At first teaching how to share a toy needs adult supervision and you can introduce sharing by saying that one child can play with a toy for 5 minutes and then it is time for the other to spend 5 minutes playing with it. Harder to teach is a cooperative playing with a toy but in the case of a car it can mean shoving the car back and forth between two children along the floor or table top.

When building with blocks one child may want to destroy what was built so it is important to point out that this is unacceptable behavior to do and you must reprimand the offending destructive child.

Being a referee between two children of about the same age is hard enough but if you have three or more of about the same age then you have a handful of conflict on your hands if they all fight with each other. If the kids are all playing in the same room then you could instruct each one to pick a toy to play with and give them a space or corner of the room in which to play in.

When kids seem to be fighting for no reason at all such as pushing or shoving a lot then point out that this kind of behavior is mean and bad and that it shouldn’t be done.

It is not just important to find out who started a fight or who hit first but what was the underlying cause so you can always ask why did you hit your sibling? Sometimes aggression seems justified so you may just inform the victim child that he or she should complain to the parent about the situation. At other times kids may fight for no good reason at all and isolating them from each other for a time may be a possible partial solution. Whatever the situation be firm with a no fighting rule in the house and enforce the no fighting rule with punishment such as isolation for10 minutes or so for the offending aggressive party if you know with certainty who the first offender was.

Orderliness is very important and before bedtime all toys should be put away. Having toy bins with personal toys and shared toys may be one way of organizing a playroom or bedroom. Yes, at first you will have to instruct which toys go into which bins but once you succeed at this then cleanup will be less of a problem. An older child may be asked to show the younger one which toys go into which bins.

When there is an age difference of two or more years then fighting may not be a large problem. You can start teaching responsibility to your older child by asking them to teach the younger child how to do things like drawing, building things, reading to them, or teaching basic math.

A final important note is that you should try to teach or punish children fairly by not showing favoritism towards one child over another. Stress the fact that you love all your children equally and that there is no such thing as a bad child or a good child but merely good and bad behavior. When you get angry tell them that you are angry at the bad behavior and not angry at the child him or herself since you still love them.

 

How should I handle a situation where my child is being bullied?

 

Verbal bullying can either be ignored or you can teach your child to defend themselves verbally by responding with simple phrases such as “That’s your opinion not mine.”, “Grow up and act like an adult.”, “Pick on someone else if you want to feel superior.”, “Treat me like shit and I will never be your friend”, “Try being nice to people, you will have more friends.”, “You now have a reputation of being a big bad bully.”, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”, or ”To be respected you must treat others with respect.”

If it is physical bullying such as pushing, shoving, and punching then teaching your child self defense which does not severely injure the opponent may be necessary. Japanese Aikido is one example but Tae Kwon Do is another example where kicking and footwork, feet being the strongest part of the body, is emphasized. You can tell a child to warn the aggressor that if he or she does it again then they will get kicked if it is just a push or a shove. If your child gets punched or physically assaulted then one important key to defense is to trip them to the ground and proceed to kick them and maybe even punch them on the body but not head.

I personally was bullied by an overweight boy slightly shorter than me and I ignored his bullying until one day he pushed me off a fence that I was sitting on and I almost broke my neck. I was so enraged that I tripped him and proceeded to kick him and punch his head while he was on the ground. I slightly hurt my hand by punching his bony head so that was not a smart thing to do but he never bullied me again.

Another personal incident was where we were bragging about who was the strongest, got into a fight and I put him into a choke hold and he pass out and it scared me because I thought that maybe I had killed him. I made a mistake because he was bigger and stronger than me and I avoided him as much as possible after this initial incident for fear of being beaten up. We were never friends after that incident. This is not a bullying incident but just a lesson that fighting is not the best answer to successful conflict resolution and it is certainly not civil behavior.

 

When and how to talk to children about sex?

 

When a child is considered too young to understand the sexual act then simply saying that mommy got pregnant, you grew in her belly, and then were born as a baby. If the child is smart enough to ask further questions such as how did I get out of her belly then simply say through the vagina. If the child then asks what a vagina is then say it is an opening in the body between the legs. If the child asks how did mommy get pregnant then say daddy helped her to become pregnant. If the child wants more details then you have a precocious child on your hands who will probably understand further details.

Answers to very young children should be very general and not specific and they will usually be satisfied with the general answer that you give them and stop further questioning. When they ask for more details don’t lie to them but start giving a clinical truthful but brief answer. If you are embarrassed and don’t want to admit that you and mom have sex then show them examples of animals having sex and explain what they are doing.

 

How can I convince my children that smoking, drinking to excess, and taking drugs is not a smart thing to do?

 

Be good role model parents. Don’t smoke, don’t do drugs, and don’t drink to excess. If you smoke, do drugs, and drink to excess then the probability that your children will have the same handicaps is very great no matter how much you try to scare them out of doing so.

Drinking and driving is the greatest danger so if they are driving your car make it a strict rule that they can only have one or two beers or one or two glasses of wine and then drive. If they get drunk then tell them to call a taxi or get a ride home from a designated driver. Of course if you catch them driving drunk or high on drugs then revoke their driving privileges for a month or longer.

 

With a very busy schedule, how can I spend adequate time with my kids?

 

If you have more than one kid then schedule your time with each one of them personally on a regular basis and also schedule time with all of them together on family outings. Keep in mind that quality time is the most important and if you are not spending time teaching your child something new, sharing a skill or activity such as chess, tennis, or computers, encouraging their interests or praising them for good deeds or accomplishments, asking about how his or her day or week went, helping with homework and other tasks, discussing bad behavior, or sharing your work experiences then it is probably mostly wasted time together.

 

How can you change low selfesteem?

 

Some children simply don’t do well in school and have few or no friends and generally have a low opinion of themselves or low selfesteem. Your parental expectations may be too high and you may not have motivated the child enough with praise and encouragement for things done well.

Tell your child that not everyone can become an engineer, scientist, computer programmer, doctor, or lawyer and offer them the possibility of becoming proficient in some vocational profession such as a car or motorcycle mechanic, plumber, electrician, police officer, military officer, nurse, teacher, etc.

Every child should have long range goals if possible and selflearning vocational skills during the teenage years may be an ideal way to get a foot in the door and some useful vocational knowledge. Ultimately if your child learns a useful skill that pays relatively well then they should do rather well in life no matter how low their selfesteem.

Selfesteem originates from trying things and doing them successfully. You can insist that they help you with housework and praise them for doing a good job. Introduce them to interesting hobbies which don’t cost much money and generally get them interested in doing things or actively pursuing interests outside of school also. The more active that they are and do things successfully, the more their selfesteem will build up.

Teach them that failure is inevitable in life and the key to overcoming failure is to get up and try again or do something else which you don’t fail at.

 

What do I do when my child lies or steals?

 

Lying and stealing are immoral. Lying means that trust is broken and your reputation with others will hit the toilet. You will never have very close good friends or good friends in general if you lie to them. Without trust a relationship ends or is a very bad one.

Steal from someone and trust also breaks down. Not only is stealing immoral but society punishes thieves with prison since it is considered a criminal activity.

From early childhood you should severely stress that lying and stealing is unacceptable and the punishment severe. I caught my thirteen year old son stealing ten dollars from my wallet and proceeded to spank him severely across the butt with my belt in a rage. He never stole from me again.

For older teenagers compulsive stealing is often a sign of some drug habit which needs much money that they don’t have so be wary of a teenager who suddenly starts stealing from you out of the blue. Yes, peer pressure can also lead to stealing and if you find out that this is the case then your child is hanging out with the wrong crowd and you should put a stop to it as soon as possible. Your child must simply learn to say a fervent NO to lying and stealing. Both acts are severe character flaws which good society does not tolerate.

 

How should I discipline my children?

 

There is a slight difference in disciplining very young children and older ones but both basically entail taking away a possession for duration or taking away a privilege for duration.

Very young children throwing a tantrum can be disciplined with isolation or removing them physically from the tantrum location and making them sit in isolation in a room or car until they calm down. Ask them whether they are ready to go back and behave is something that you should do before you bring them back to the tantrum location which is sometimes a store or public place.

Warning or threatening your child with a threat of punishment is also a way of controlling bad behavior. Taking away a favorite toy, cellphone, rights to use a computer, right to go out of the home (grounding), etc. for duration is usually very effective but if you threaten a punishment then you should follow through with consistency or your threats will be ignored in the future. Also if you promise a reward or to do something like going to a sporting event or theatrical performance then follow through and fulfill the promise.

Discipline must be consistent, clear, and as close to the misbehavior as possible. Discipline delayed is not as effective and young children especially will forget what they are being punished for with poor results in the end.

 

How can I help my children form friendships?

 

If you have good friends yourself then children will learn from your role model example. If you don’t interact with humans that much then teach your children that the best friends are those with common interests in school or near home setting and at about the same age. Teach them not to lie or steal from others so trusting friendly relationships develop.

If your children don’t seem to be interested in much then introduce them to games, hobbies, and sports which they can share with others. Having a bicycle can also increase the range of your child and expose him or her to children farther away in the neighborhood.

 

How can my children learn to be independent?

 

Independence means doing things on your own so start early teaching them numbers, words, reading, and math which they will definitely need in school. As soon as possible have them do household chores such as vacuuming, cleaning, food preparation, laundry, yard work, taking out the garbage, etc.

Introduce them as early as possible to games, hobbies, sports, and tools. Teach them your job skills and how to budget money. If it is a suburban neighborhood have them wash cars, mow grass, walk a neighbor’s dog, or do other work suited to teenagers for money. In effect, keep them busy doing useful things on their own and they will learn how to be independent.

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A PARTIAL ANALYSIS OF BAD VERBAL AND/OR WRITTEN BEHAVIOR USING A SECULAR MORAL CODE!!

A secular moral code or any morality defines what bad behavior is or should be. Without a secular moral code or some form of morality there is no way to define bad behavior and it results in chaos or anarchy where no behavior is considered bad behavior. So with a consensus on morality there is bad behavior and without morality no one knows what bad behavior is.

With widely accepted ethical principles which is what morality is you have structure and order in society. Without an indoctrination and enforcement of these ethical principles or morality there is no order possible in society.

That said the hardest thing to do is to gain consensus or agreement on what those ethical principles or morality should be to optimize social cohesion. A consensus morality results in mostly peaceful interactions in society among its members. I have come up with my own version of what a universal secular moral code should be and feel that the world would be a more peaceful place if impressionable young minds were indoctrinated with this secular moral code.

Once you have a stated morality then you can proceed to define what bad behavior is in detail by analyzing the implications of those general moral or ethical principles.

A secular moral code which can guide your decisions about human behavior is- in nonemergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.

A serious verbal assault is often considered bad behavior. A verbal assault is not a physical assault or forced assault on someone but it can feel similar to a physical assault if done in a loud, angry, hateful, intense voice designed to make you feel defensive and perhaps bad about yourself.

Verbal assaults can be considered to be a form of STEALING – verbally willfully trying to take away something of value from an individual or group. A verbal assault is either punishment for some bad behavior or a verbal assault is trying to minimally steal something usually of some value such as one’s pride, dignity, reputation, self-esteem, happiness, sense of security, etc.

Verbally and willfully trying to take away something of value does not mean that the taking away will be successful, especially if the verbal assault attempt is ignored or doesn’t significantly mentally affect the intended victim. The victim of the verbal assault may be highly immoral and not feel that he or she has done anything bad or wrong so they remain unaffected by the verbal assault.

You can for example insult a human in an attacking or assaulting way and say- “You have the brain of an insect!” thus hoping to make someone feel inferior and trying to take away a sense of pride or selfworth in oneself. The victim of the assault may feel defensive and counter with an insult of their own but often such an insult is merely ignored and one’s sense of pride or selfworth in oneself is not mentally diminished in the least.

The attempted stealing by insult is minimal stealing but it really is consciously or unconsciously trying to steal or take away a little bit of your pride, dignity, reputation, self-esteem, happiness, etc. Realistically most humans will react to an insult by ignoring it and the insult really doesn’t permanently affect their pride, dignity, reputation, self-esteem, or happiness that much and is not considered a case or example of gross immorality such as a slanderous or libelous remark made in public or in print.

I have defined some forms of verbal assault below:

Insult: v. to rudely communicate and/or behave intending to (upset and/or to offend) and/or (to harm mentally and/or to rarely distress) and sometimes the intention is to make you feel inferior

 

Rude: adj. showing unintentional and/or intentional minimum consideration for a human(s)’ sensing and it is frequently done by showing shameless disrespect and unacceptable social etiquette

 

Ridicule: v. to use communication intended to shame and/or to cause contemptuous laughter

 

Humiliation: n. causing a human to sense shame and/or decreasing the pride of a human for duration

 

Belittle: v. to communicate that a human is less important than one senses and/or is

(There is minimal difference in meaning between a put down and belittle)

Name call: v. to use an abusive and/or offensive word to describe and/or shame a human

Notice that most of the verbal assaults often have the intention of shaming a human and making them feel guilty about something such as a personal inadequacy. Obviously if a human does not have shame for a bad behavior then the verbal assaults will have no permanent good effect on the victim. That is why there is an old saying that “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” An immoral human would probably say-“sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never shame me.”

A morally confident human with integrity will also not be shamed by these verbal assaults because they know with certainty that they have not done anything bad or wrong and do not feel guilty. Yes, a moral human may make a mistake once in a while and do something bad but they will usually apologize for the mistake and go on with their lives.

Shame: n. sensing displeasure caused by (guilt and/or unworthiness) and/or (disrepute and/or powerlessness) to achieve a goal(s))

 

Repeated insults no matter how ineffective can have a cumulative effect on one’s psyche. If enough similar insults come from a wide range of humans and especially some humans which you respect then your sense of pride in yourself, your dignity, your self-esteem, etc. can be somewhat diminished or can decrease over time if you are basically a moral human.

Sometimes you may feel that insults are justified as in the case of a braggadocious buffoon filled with excessive unjustified pride in oneself. Trying to take away some of that excessive pride is probably desirable but an insult is not the moral way to do it. Instead factual statements designed to point out the undesirability of the excessive pride are preferable. “Nobody is right all the time and you seem to be in error this time”, “Other humans have different valid viewpoints on that topic”, and “What you did was adequate but not exceptional”, etc. are examples of factual statements and not verbal assaults which in the long duration may have an impact and reduce someone’s excessive pride to some extent.

Verbal assaults can be made on bad and even good behavior which can be changed and sometimes they are done on things which you can’t change or can only change with great effort on your part.

For example, you can be assaulted for being ugly, ignorant, uncoordinated, poor, or mentally handicapped. These are all things where genetics may play a major role in your status in life and can’t be changed very much if at all.

Insults and many other verbal assaults use exaggerated truths which are effectively lies so they are slightly or grossly immoral. Saying to someone that they are the “ugliest human in the world” is an exaggeration because there are probably many more humans in the world who are uglier. The exaggerated partial truth or lie is what often offends humans and rightly so because they feel that you have lied to them with your exaggerations.

The major things which usually are verbally assaulted are your looks, your brain power, your financial status, and humans that you interact with, especially offspring, spouse, and friends. You can be insulting or you can make factual statements which are usually not that insulting and I will give a few examples of this. The insult first, followed by a factual statement in most cases.

 

Looks:

When commenting on body looks that can’t be easily changed it is best not to say anything at all and avoid embarrassing someone. When it comes to insults about clothing which can be changed then rather than saying-  “You look like a whore in that dress”  it is best to say something like “You would look better in a less sexy outfit”. When asked for an opinion on an outfit you can respond to an ugly outfit by saying it’s ok but it’s not my favorite pattern, color, color combination, fabric, style, etc.

You can also be more honest and say that the outfit is too busy, too shiny, the colors don’t blend together well, too tight, too lose, etc. However, don’t go to extremes and say that an outfit is very ugly or lie and say that an outfit which seems ugly is beautiful.

“Do you wanna lose ten pounds of ugly fat? Cut off your head!” or “Losing about 50 pounds could improve your health”,

 

Here are some looks insults without a factual alternative statement:

 

“I would only wear that dress to a Halloween party.”

 

“You are wearing so much jewelry it is beginning to blind me.”

 

“Did you buy those cookies in a pet store?”

 

“You look like you survived a botched face lift.”

 

“Hey, you have something on your chin… no, the 3rd one down.”

 

“Looks like you traded in your neck for an extra chin!”

 

“I love what you’ve done with your hair. How do you get it to come out of your nostrils like that?”

 

“I may be fat, but you’re ugly, and I can lose weight.” (a counter insult, not recommended, if you are accused of being fat)

 

“I’m not saying she’s ugly, but if she was cast as Lady Godiva, the horse would steal the show.”

 

Brain power:

“I’ve known sheep that could outwit you.” or “You are not as smart as you think you are.”

“Your brain is so minute it would lose in a biggest pea contest.” or “You are not very smart or intelligent.”

“You’re so dumb you think that lions lay eggs”, “You’re an idiot”, “You’re so dense, light bends around you”, “If you were twice as smart you would still be stupid”, or “You did something stupid and made a mistake”

 

Competence:

“You are about as much use as a condom machine in the Vatican.” or “You are incompetent in what you do.”,

“You’re as useless as a screen door on a submarine.” or “You are not very competent.”

 

“You’re as useful as an ashtray on a motorcycle.” or “It doesn’t look like you can help me.”

 

 

Friendliness:

“I desire that we be better strangers.” or “I’d like to have to interact with you much less than now.”

“With a friend like you I don’t need enemies.” or “Don’t lie behind my back.”

 

Talking:

“Look, we all have something to bring to this discussion. But I think from now on the thing you should bring is silence.” or “You talk too much, try to do so a little less.”

“Your accent could kill roaches.” or “Your accent makes it hard to understand you.”

 

Egoism:

“Copernicus just called. You are not the center of the universe.”  or “You are trying too hard to be the center of attention.”

“I like small balloons but your pride is the size of a hot air balloon.” or “Your pride is often too excessive.”

 

Annoyance:

“You’re a pain in the butt.” or “Try to be a little less annoying.”

“Watching you work with others is water torture.” or “I look at the way you work and it annoys me.”

 

Change:

“Allow me to congratulate you. You have the most closed mind that I have ever met.” or “You are not very open minded.”

“You change partners like a rooster.” or “You are promiscuous.”

 

Family:

“Your family tree must be a cactus because everybody on it is a prick.” or “Your family tree has some notoriety.”

 

“Please tell me you don’t home-school your kids.” or “Your kids don’t seem to be learning enough.”

 

 

Laziness:

 

“I’m not saying you’re lazy, but you should try out for “American Idle.”” or “Try to do a little more for mutual benefit.”

 

“You would lose a speed contest with a slug.” or “Speed up your work a little.”

 

Verbal assaults on an individual or group are made with an insult, name calling, a put down or belittlement, ridicule, and humiliation. None of these verbal assaults are well defined in the dictionary and most humans often can’t tell the difference between one and the other. It is often hard to categorize which kind of verbal assault something really is because a verbal assault depending on the individual can have multiple effects on a human who might feel insulted, belittled, ridiculed, and humiliated all at the same time! In effect an attack on personal dignity, pride, selfesteem, reputation, and even happiness is something which does and would offend any normal moral human on many levels.

A verbal assault can be considered to be STEALING or taking away something of value without a probable cause or reason or stealing or taking away something of value with a probable cause or reason.

If there is no probable cause or reason for verbal aggression then it can be considered to be the STEALING of or an assault on one’s dignity, reputation, pride, self-esteem, happiness, sense of security, etc. even though the wrong justification may be the use of free speech rather than moral free speech. Free speech has no boundaries so it can be moral or immoral, just or slanderous and/or libelous.

Free speech is theoretically protected in the constitution of the United States but the reality is that it should have been written as moral free speech since freedom of expression can get out of hand and can be used to unjustly slander someone in private and slander can have devastating results when done in public or in the printed media.

Trump and the establishment media is a perfect example where free speech can get out of hand and verbal assaults on individuals are tolerated much to the detriment of civil responsible discussion. Reputations are smeared and sometimes destroyed with slander, guilt by association, statements taken out of context, and verbal assaults sometimes justified but often over exaggerated and harmful and therefore immoral. When free speech degenerates into lies and deceptions in public and the press, the very foundations of a Democratic Republic are in danger of being destroyed with malicious propaganda. Verbal warfare without moral rules to guide it is an ugly divisive destructive public display.

 

If there is a probable cause or a reason for the verbal aggression then there is still the attempt at STEALING a little bit of one’s dignity or stealing or violating the right to be treated with dignity. Just because there is a reason or probable cause, verbal aggression is not the best way to deal with bad behavior because it is still slightly immoral. Verbal aggression should be replaced with verbal discipline in the form of a just factual verbal punishment followed by actual punishment for the bad or wrong behavior.

Not trying to ruin or verbally STEAL or take away a person’s good reputation can also be a justification for not putting up with verbal assaults, especially if the insult, belittlement, ridicule, name calling, or humiliation is done in public with other humans present. Verbal assaults done in private are not as serious a transgression as verbal assaults done in public which can seriously negatively affect your reputation.

Stealing something of value from someone can to some extent be considered a form of injury. Thus you could also say that you are slightly injuring a human’s pride, dignity, reputation, self-esteem, happiness, sense of security, etc. with a verbal assault. Stealing dignity or injuring dignity effectively means the same thing and is bad behavior.

Injury: n. stealing health intentionally and if the injury is selfinflicted you are stealing your own health intentionally and/or ((personal and/or group) rights violation(s)) and/or (financial damage(s) and/or emotional trauma)

 

You could argue that you are minimally injuring the mental health of someone with a verbal assault on their pride, dignity, reputation, self-esteem, happiness, sense of security, etc. However, there are degrees of emotional trauma caused by verbal assaults with mostly minimal emotional trauma. In some cases major emotional trauma is possible by being verbally assaulted in public thus perhaps causing irreparable damage to one’s reputation.

 

Name calling by calling someone four eyes, mental midget, butt head, dick head, ignoramus, asshole, etc. is usually a partial truth exaggerated and becomes mostly a LIE that offends the victim and is often used as a form of bullying. If you exaggerate and call someone stupid and they are not stupid even though they may occasionally do some stupid things, then you are really mostly lying and that can be called slightly immoral.

Not all name calling is inaccurate or a lie so if you call someone smart who is not that smart and this is an attempt at praise then this is not considered a verbal assault and is considered good or positive behavior by some psychologists. However, it is still an exaggerated partial truth and can be considered to be a lie. This is why exaggerated ongoing praise for a child does not often bring good end results because you have really lied to him or her and given them a false sense of confidence or an inflated ego. Positive or negative name calling are both slightly immoral because they are mostly lies or exaggerated partial truths.

Name calling usually has a bad connotation, especially when used to bully kids. The reason is that it is either an exaggerated partial truth thus becoming a lie which can be considered to be slightly immoral OR the name calling is a verbal attempt at stealing a little bit of one’s dignity or self-esteem which should also be considered to be slightly immoral.

Verbal punishment is just if it is done with a probable cause of willful bad behavior. Unfortunately verbal aggression or verbal assaults are often used to try and punish a punishment deserving human. However, verbal assaults are not verbal moral punishments if they are not done in a dignified or polite manner. Also verbal assaults are not moral punishments if you erroneously verbally punish for good behavior.

Ridicule is really laughing at someone’s inappropriate behavior or persona and ridicule is a more subtle form of verbal aggression or assault sometimes designed to punish an individual or group for bad or inappropriate behavior. Merely laughing at something funny is not slightly immoral unless it is willfully done as an assault on one’s human dignity. Tone of voice, bad or inappropriate behavior, and circumstances under which the behavior occurs all determine whether it is serious ridicule or more flippant in nature and not to be taken seriously.

Judging from comedians jokes we can laugh at almost anything so it is important to differentiate between a human laughing at bad, stupid, or tragic behavior in general and laughing at a specific human involved in bad, stupid, or tragic behavior, belittling him or her for the behavior, and potentially offending him or her with the ridicule OR punishing with condescending laughing.

Can ridicule really be minimally immoral? Yes, it is a little bit immoral if it is a brutal verbal assault on the dignity or reputation of someone. Yes, ridicule is often merely a form of enjoyable banter without malicious intent between close friends who don’t get offended by the jovial ridicule. Even insults, name calling, put downs or belittlement, and humiliation are tolerated with the proper tone of voice among close friends. This is slightly tragic but unfortunately a fact of real life these days.

Yes, there is a difference between angry or hateful ridicule and seemingly innocent ridicule done in a mild tone of voice and done for minimally bad, stupid, or tragic behavior.

You can also ridicule someone without a probable cause or reason so this and other verbal assaults can also often be considered mean behavior. The meanness can sometimes just be attributed to a mean personality. He or she is mean just because they enjoy being mean or are habitually mean without an underlying reason or probable cause!

Humiliation is often used to make someone feel guilty about some bad, wrong, or inappropriate behavior. Humiliation done in a gentle tone of voice, in private, and for minor bad or wrong behavior is not as serious a moral transgression as is humiliation done in an angry tone of voice and in public where your reputation can be severely affected and thus the humiliation is much more than just slightly immoral.

Some may argue that my approach to verbal assaults is a form of moral relativism which is determined by tone of voice, type of bad behavior, closeness of the relationship, private or public verbal assault, and type of personality. Yes, to some extent I am a moral relativist in the sense that I believe that there are degrees of immorality from very minimal degrees to severe degrees of immorality.

Most can tolerate minimal degrees of immorality because that is just how real life is currently lived but very few of us will tolerate for long severe degrees of immorality with willful malicious verbal assaults which can potentially ruin our reputation publically for example or adversely affect our mental health with great emotional trauma which can lead to depression, desperation, and other dysfunctions which are socially undesirable.

Moral relativists often argue that the end justifies the means and that if a severe verbal assault ends bad behavior then it is justified. I believe that all verbal assaults are immoral but vary in degree of immoral severity. I don’t believe that verbal assaults really end some bad behavior but mere postpone the bad behavior for another time and place in many instances.

I have shown that verbal assaults have degrees of immorality and breaking many laws also can be considered to be degrees of immorality in many instances. For example, playing loud music after 11 PM can be considered as disturbing the peace or taking away the right of others to peaceful rest after 11 PM. Stealing or taking away the right of others to peaceful rest after 11 PM could be considered to be slightly immoral.

Yes, there are some exceptions to the law such as the 4th of July when private fireworks go off often past 12 PM but in general such a law is valid throughout most of the year and violating the law can be considered to be slightly immoral. This principle can be extended to other laws, some just and others not so just but I will leave this discussion to another article at a later date.

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WHAT ARE SOME REASONS AND EXAMPLES OF THE DETERIORATION OF MORAL VALUES???

An example of a modern secular moral code gives a sample of important moral values. In nonemergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder. The 10 commandments which have been the basis for Judeo Christian morality have been watered down to 6 with two new modern moral principles- don’t destroy biodiversity and don’t be inefficient.

 

It is significant to differentiate between moral values and about 50 core values or other ethical principles which vary in degree from situation to situation such as caring, empathy, friendliness, cooperation, sharing, discipline, courtesy, etc. which are also vital to maintaining wholesome helpful human interactions and are reflections of basic humanity and are mostly indicators of relatively peaceful human cohesion and interactive complexity. Moral values are basically cross cultural essentials  or must exist in most modern cultures and core values vary in degrees from culture to culture and from individual to individual.

 

To all those interested in pursuing and understanding the difference between moral and core values I refer you to my book SECULAR MORAL CODE which goes into the necessary detail for a better understanding of the difference between moral values and other ethical principles.

 

Perhaps the only important moral value which is not rapidly deteriorating in the west is don’t murder. The rates of homicide in the general population have basically stabilized, except in some big cities.

 

Crime rates have also generally stabilized with the exception of some metropolitan areas so we can assume that traditional stealing is also not increasing at an alarming rate. The high incarceration rate, surveillance cameras in many places, and theft protection devices may be contributing factors to the relatively stable stealing rate.

 

In the United States internet stealing or theft is about 1.4 billion dollars a year and probably increasing on a yearly basis so we are confronted with the challenge of a modern form of stealing which is not stable or decreasing.

 

Due to the promotion and more general acceptance of promiscuity, adultery is on the increase in the United States. Financial hardship is one major contributor to divorce but a second major cause is marital infidelity. Family life is deteriorating and there are fewer and fewer healthy financially and morally responsible two parent households, especially nuclear families.

 

A common shared morality is a major reason why males and females stay together in matrimony over the long duration. If a married male and female don’t lie to one another then there can be trust in the relationship, if there is no adultery then there can be trust in the relationship, if both parents try to raise offspring responsibly then there is another reason why couples can and probably will want to remain together in the relationship. Break this trust with lying, adultery, deception, and excessive selfishness and this immoral behavior will ruin any relationship.

 

If you immorally lie then trust breaks down and a relationship generally does not last and the feeling of security is lost with it. There is much deception and some lying in the media mostly in the form of biased opinions without a factual foundation. Add to this the ongoing deception of politicians and abundant deceptive advertising and this leads one to conclude that trust in the establishment’s ability to rule is being destroyed even more rapidly than in the past. The tabloid like establishment press, left wing biased dogmatic academia and celebrities are an indication that lying and deception has become institutionalized and is spreading throughout society and not getting any better with time.

 

Some studies have shown that average humans lie once or twice a day, usually about minor things. Whether this is intentional or merely results from ignorance in most cases is debatable. Some studies even claim that about 40% lie on their resumes which appears to be intentional.

 

Trump has been accused of lying over 4000 times by MSNBC so far and it is debatable whether these have been intentional lies, opposition to liberal biased opinion which is now considered a lie, or merely unintentional ignorant incompetent statements about personalities, foreign and domestic affairs. Over 4000 lies in about two years is about 7 lies per day so I strongly feel that MSNBC is lying or that it is another example of establishment media fake news.

 

Not so obvious is the bad effect that very bad habits and hedonistic or live for today behavior is having on morality. There is growing drug abuse, pornography, alcoholism, mental illness, gambling, eating of unhealthy food, living from paycheck to paycheck, and a general philosophy that you should do only what makes you happy. Live for today and don’t plan for the future creates many crisis situations in daily life and morality often suffers in the long duration.

 

How many humans do you know of who have integrity or are honest and moral? These humans are indeed becoming a dying breed throughout society, top and bottom.

 

An affluent nation with less emphasis on morality gets more corrupt, gluttonous, lazy, and hedonistic with time so prosperity is not always a road to long duration moral stability. Add to this popularized relativistic situation ethics which almost justifies many bad and some immoral behavior and you have a recipe for continuing moral decline in society.

 

Many psychiatrists and psychologists are morally flawed humans out to make a buck at the expense of patients, so mental illnesses in the form of depression, anxiety, etc. are increasing and not getting any better nor are the symptoms being cured with mere pill popping.

 

Addictive bad habits are incredibly hard to change with verbal persuasion so it is no mystery why supposed professional advice givers succeed so infrequently in curing dysfunctional lifestyles in wayward adults. Yes, mental rehabilitation sometimes succeeds but it is time consuming and expensive, luxurious treatment which the average human who really needs treatment simply can’t afford.

 

Moral decay is not even addressed politically since the constitution does not mention morality directly and blindly assumes that the majority of the population will remain moral in the long duration. A common shared morality which promotes trusting behavior amongst citizens and among family members is essential to the ongoing peaceful interaction of citizens and spouses in the long duration. Letting immoral behavior flourish nationwide without punishment inevitably results in social chaos and ultimate transformation into tyranny or rule by severe censorship and rule by fear and the threat of mortal punishment.

 

When moral indoctrination of impressionable young minds in elementary school and at home is no longer done effectively, social and interpersonal cohesion suffers and society becomes ever more unpredictable and chaotic. Students must respect their teachers and parents for proper moral indoctrination to take place and that means that the teachers and parents must earn respect by being  competent moral role models and proficient disciplinarians who enforce just rules of behavior.

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WAYS YOU CAN DIFFER WITH YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE!!!

Before marriage it is always important to make sure that your views on morality are the same or that you trust each other, don’t lie, and believe in a monogamous relationship during marriage. Other things which are very important are your spending habits and whether you want to raise children. Agreeing on these major points is necessary for a good compatible marriage but there are other areas where commonality is not so important and may even be an antidote for a boring marital life. If you differ in these 8 general areas then it is no great reason for being overly concerned and it can result in a rather interesting marriage and not a dull one.

Different hobbies and interests are acceptable and with time and the sharing of experiences you may even become more interested in those differing hobbies and interests yourself. I had a scientific background and a great interest in technology, tools, and science and my wife was an artist interested in crafts, knitting, sewing, and dress making which I considered at first to basically be a waste of time, not a money maker, and basically boring trivia.

Over the years I made aesthetic evaluations based primarily upon how close to reality and nature the artistic items were. I was surprised that with time my tastes and spouse’s tastes became more alike and I developed a good sense of color, texture, etc. and became much better at evaluating artistic expressions and was surprised how often she asked me for advice, I gladly offered it, and we often agreed.

Different political beliefs are possible because one spouse will basically think that government should get involved in helping out humans in need and the other spouse may basically feel that humans should behave more responsibly and government help should only be used as a last resort. Let’s face it, establishment Republicans and Democrats basically believe in growing government and passing laws often favoring the rich and special interests even though they may claim publically that they are representing and addressing the needs of minorities, the poor, and middle class.

Sexual turn-ons may slightly differ in spouses and some may seem rather unusual and kinky. With time and having sex the same basic way very often you may eventually try doing some of that kinky stuff as a change of pace and find out that it is not that bad after all and perhaps perfectly acceptable. After all, pleasing one another sexually can be important even though some of the desired variations may take a little effort and perhaps unpleasant sacrifice to fulfill.

It is not unusual for taste in movies, music, and TV to be different with women often liking love stories, family films, and romance a lot while men often prefer action films and sports related subject matter.

Different cultural, religious, and ethnic backgrounds can sometimes challenge a relationship if there is no common morality but often these differences can be accepted and even appreciated with the passage of time. Most conflicts which will arise can be ironed out if dogmatic relatives do not get too involved and start interfering in the marriage and trying to run it in one direction only or a direction which is opposed to the beliefs and practices of one spouse exclusively.

Of course if you are a dogmatic Muslim, Jehovah Witness, or Orthodox Jew then a different religion for a spouse will not work. Most religions are relatively flexible with liberal and conservative wings and a shared basic morality which is don’t lie, don’t steal, and don’t commit adultery if married.

Introvert and extrovert spouses can often make a go of it where the introverted spouse leaves most of the socializing to the other spouse and focuses mainly on family responsibilities and not social ones. I am an introvert without a close friend and let my wife take care of social connections. It has worked well this way for over 25 years. I am much more selective in the humans that I associate with than my wife who maintains minimal contact with about a hundred humans who have crossed her life but even here she only has a handful of a few good friends and her sister whom she stays in frequent contact with.

Cleanliness and orderliness can be an abnormal obsession with some humans who may incessantly nag if something is not clean or orderly. If the house isn’t cleaned on a regular basis, the dishes are not always washed, the laundry is not always done, etc. you can still lead a relatively clean and orderly life as long as you are not nagged about it on a regular basis.

A sense of adventure and desire to travel may differ in spouses and is usually a costly enterprise since traveling to distant places and meeting different humans is often time consuming and expensive. If you don’t like adventure then you can let your spouse do the adventuresome stuff alone or with other like minded humans.

As long as you are not going into debt financing the travel and adventure, it is not something which will ruin a marriage.

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