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CRITICAL THINKING!!!

Critical thinking is basically a doubting game where you question your fundamental principles or beliefs as being possibly wrong or you question the reliability or truthfulness of your authority figure or you question the truthfulness of your source of information or facts.

A successful result of your critical thinking may be finding a more plausible principle or belief which explains a circumstance(s) and/or event(s) or finding an authority figure(s) with a more plausible explanation of a circumstance(s) and/or event(s). Even a greater success may be finding a new set of reliable facts which then support your new principle or belief which explains the circumstance(s) and/or event(s) which preoccupies you. Sometimes your critical thinking will just reinforce your beliefs and they will remain largely unchanged even with new additional information which will often only reinforce what you already know or believe.

In subjective areas of inquiry belief usually overwhelms the facts which are often statistical norms with no clear cause and effect relationships and beliefs which themselves may be historical myths or lies presented as truthful or factual statements. Beliefs are harder to change than opinions and are often a barrier which impedes critical thinking about them since most humans are very defensive about their personal beliefs and seldom tolerate dissenting beliefs or views.

Polls are statistical norms which can be wrong or biased depending on the format of the questions asked and a sometimes inaccurate sampling of the questioned population. Thus the polls predicting a Hillary Clinton victory with an over 90% probability were inaccurate and failed to predict a Trump victory.

Statistics showing that on average women are paid less than men is flawed to a large extent because the statistics fail to take into consideration the equality of the work done. Women generally enter professions which are less well paid than other male dominated professions and a wage comparison is therefore inaccurate when statistical averages are compared between jobs. When women are compared to men salary wise in the nursing profession then the women do not make less than the men in similar job positions. Yes, women on average earn less than men but sex discrimination is not a totally valid reason for this assumption.

What may not be so obvious is that critical thinking in subjective areas of expertise is different than critical thinking in more objective and often mathematically based areas of expertise. In the latter thinking is guided by mathematical formulas and an analysis of observed facts about the natural world. You review old hypotheses and then make new hypotheses based new facts which sometimes don’t seem to fit the old hypotheses. The result is often a new hypothesis which explains the new facts and also the old facts of the historically incomplete hypothesis.

In physics relativity and quantum mechanics which theoretically explains the very very big and the very very small phenomenon are two distinct theories which don’t seem to overlap very well so it is like describing two different worlds of events which don’t seem to overlap very well. Thus there are theories for the very very small phenomenon and theories about the very very large phenomenon. It is almost a duality of worlds and not a single explanation or theory can be used for both.

In subjective areas of expertise an event(s) may be caused by two or more different causes depending on the time and circumstances. Thus a market crash or downturn may be caused by a liquidity crisis in money or it may be caused by overheated speculation in stocks where the current value of stocks is much too high when compared to the real value of the stock assets.

Things like unemployment figures, inflation rates, and interest rates can also affect stock prices as well as volatile international events such as borderline bankruptcies of relatively major economies of more than one country. Stocks go through boom and bust periods and very few are predicted ahead of time very accurately. Basically big money controls the stock market and it is more of an art than science in terms of predictability.

Critical thinking is supposedly observation, analysis, interpretation, reflection, evaluation, inference, explanation, problem solving, and decision making. What this doesn’t adequately cover is the inherent bias of opinions, beliefs, and unproven facts which populate the subjective world. The result is that some opinions, beliefs, and facts are false or untrue or partially false and drawing conclusions from them is filled with errors or falsity. Any inference, analysis, explanation, or decision making based on untrue information is bound to give untrue or false conclusions and critical thinking is useless.

Most important in any critical thinking is having very good definitions of the words which you are using. If your definition is vague, uncertain, or confusing then your critical thinking will be just as vague, uncertain, and confusing. Psychology is particularly filled with vague concepts or words such as aggression, open mindedness, hostility, tender-hearted, tough-minded, warmth, etc. which are verbosely used and attempts are made at explaining them with descriptions of examples of the words but no accurate true definitions exist which clarify their meaning. There is an old saying that if you can’t accurately define the word that you are using then you frankly don’t know what you are talking about or you are just beating around the bush.

In subjective areas of knowledge observation other than personal experience is often limited to authority figures who have processed gathered information and made their biased views known through articles, podcasts, videos, books, or personal presentations. It thus becomes important to assess the reputation and expertise, if any, of the authority figure which you choose to believe or trust.

What organizations or ideologies does that authority figure represent? What opinions do other opposing authorities have about that authority figure? Finally, how many years has the authority figure been prominently recognized in his or her field of interest? Yes, reputation, degree of trustworthiness, and length of experience are most important when observing and processing the views and facts presented by an authority figure who you hope to rely upon entirely or to some extent which is a wiser approach.

Analysis is breaking down a topic into it’s component parts or at least listing all the statements and facts about the topic and trying to eliminate any statements and facts which don’t seem to be relevant to the topic. What critical thinking omits is synthesis which is the process of rearranging statements and facts into a complete whole once irrelevant statements and facts have been eliminated and new relevant statements and facts have been included in the topic under consideration.

Interpretation is really just an explanation and it is really just providing enough statements and facts to make a communication understandable to an audience which you have chosen. Thus an explanation to a child is often overly simplified compared to an explanation to an adult and still more complex if it is an explanation to a professional group.

Explanation: n. communicating enough subsets to make a set(s) understandable

 

Reflection is merely seriously thinking again about your past experiences and accumulated knowledge to see if you can come up with some new insights or some new information which could be useful to the topic being considered.

Evaluation: n. judging the value of a subset(s) based on a subjective and/or objective (standard(s) and/or norm(s))

 

If you have any conscious standards and/or norms about the topic which you are considering then you will compare them against any new information which you have gathered and may want to add to the topic. If there is a correspondence or connection between the new information and your standards and/or norms then you may choose to add the new information to your understanding of the topic under consideration.

Problem solving inherently has a mathematical bias with the assumption that every problem has a solution. Unfortunately in the area of subjective disciplines or topics not every problem has an easy solution if one is even possible. Overpopulation is a problem in much of the world but how do you educate the very poor in family planning when they can’t even afford basic contraceptives or afford teachers who want to promote and teach contraception.

Human problems are often much harder to solve than math problems. Individual, social, and political change is extremely hard to engineer and the results of the engineered attempts often take a generation or more to show any tangible good results in the long duration.

Decision making is either a very personal skill for an individual or it can be making decisions which affect entire organizations or even countries where more than one human takes part in making the decisions.

Decision: n. making (an impulsive judgment and/or a judgment after some thought) and/or an inquiry and frequently doing and/or not doing a subset(s)

 

Decision making is really not an actual part of critical thinking but merely acting after all the critical thinking has been done.

It is one thing to say that there is climate change or extremes of cold and hot weather caused mostly by the sun or sun cycles. It is an absurdity to state that a fractional increase in CO2 levels is the cause of extreme cold and hot climate change. Similarly it is an absurdity to say that forbidding the use of plastic straws will greatly reduce plastic pollution since it comprises only a very small fraction of a percent of plastic usage in the world. Climate change is not primarily caused by humans nor is human use of plastic straws a major pollution problem.

Deforestation, wilderness destruction, factory farming, artificial pesticides, artificial herbicides, artificial fertilizers, antibiotics, GMO’s, over fishing, and manufacturing pollution are far greater problems to be addressed than climate change and plastic straws. Sustainable use of natural resources should be the primary goal and minimizing pollution by artificial chemicals and overly large use of non toxic chemicals is also important. Yes, human overpopulation is a never ending problem which has to be addressed seriously because a middle class existence by over 7 billion humans will destroy the environment even faster than it is being destroyed today.

Critical thinking is impossible if you base it on fake opinions, fake beliefs, and fake facts so the emphasis should be on finding valid opinions, beliefs, and facts to critically think about.

In political science, social science, and psychological science, which are all not sciences at all, ideological dogmatism reigns supreme. One assumes income distribution, equality of results, gender equality, race equality, and equality in general is a necessary good value or assumption to make whether or not the actual realistic facts support these assumptions.

Basic human genetic variability, educational inequality and financial inequality is totally ignored as possible causes for human inequality in society and the result is a dogmatic intolerance of any ideology which challenges a basically collectivist egalitarian left wing mindset. Critical thinking is not possible if your dogmatic ideology is no longer debatable as is the case for left wing ideologues in the media. If you don’t believe in the dogmatic ideology then you are insulted, name called, put down, ridiculed, humiliated, criticized, and even blacklisted from professions, the media, and society in general.

Critical thinking is not possible if differing opinions, beliefs, and facts are not tolerated or not made subjects of debate.

So critical thinking is finding truthful facts, statistics, opinions, and beliefs, trying to find relationships between causes and effects if there are any, analyzing and then synthesizing the validated facts using Venn diagrams if possible, comparing the opinions and beliefs of authority figures with opposing opinions and beliefs and trying to find areas of agreement, and finally incorporating any new information which you have learned with the information which you are knowledgeable about which is your personal opinions, beliefs, knowledge about facts, and experiences.

Critical thinking is not a simple process and just like thinking there are very few who excel in critical thinking or even know what it is. Most of us know what to criticize but few of us know how to criticize properly using the right techniques.

I have written a book HOW TO THINK on Amazon which should greatly help you if you are interested in becoming a true thinker. Once you have mastered the art of thinking about subjective topics or the science of thinking about more objective topics it is much easier to launch into successful critical thinking.

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WHAT DOES RESILIENCE MEAN AND HOW CAN YOU BECOME MORE RESILIENT???

Resilience: n. having an ability to recover relatively quickly from difficult personal consequences

An appropriate personal attitude, an ability to overcome personal mistakes and problems, and resourcefulness in getting help from researched useful knowledge and assistance from others is basically what creates a resilient human who can relatively quickly recover from difficult personal consequences.

A basically optimistic attitude, selfcontrol, selfesteem, and confidence, accepting and adjusting to one’s weaknesses and mostly using one’s strengths, a recognition or selfawareness of one’s and other’s emotional states all constitute an appropriate personal attitude.

An ability to set and choose to pursue realistic goals, having realistic expectations, an ability to gather relevant information or selfeducate, avoiding some serious problems with forethought and advance planning, a financial reserve or insurance for emergencies, and an ability to discuss and think about problems rather than argue about them will all help in learning from your mistakes and help problem solving.

Finally knowing how to selfeducate or use search engines to get relevant information and knowing what humans to consult or get help from on a relevant topic or situation will usually provide the knowledge and assistance necessary to get one out of bad circumstances in a reasonable period of time.

Of course you can ask- how do you develop selfcontrol and problem solving abilities? The answer is selfeducation and/or experience in disciplining oneself and knowledge about problem solving techniques or experience in solving problems. Resilience is not something that we are born with but is something which we usually acquire through the experience of confronting problems and solving them and making mistakes and then correcting them or learning from them so that the same mistakes are not repeated again in the future.

You can live and learn mostly through experience but the smarter ones amongst us learn from the historical experience of others who have confronted similar problems in their lives and solved them or have advice on how to avoid similar problems in the first place. Yes, it greatly helps if you have resilient role models to learn from.

Many humans are not very resilient and get out of their problematic circumstances sooner or often later, but a resilient human will get out of a bad circumstance relatively quickly.

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WHAT DOES BEING SMART REALLY MEAN???

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THE TRUTH ABOUT INTELLECT*

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Intellect: n. the mental ability to analyze and synthesize largely using impulsivity and occasional reason which has a mathematical foundation and the mental ability to largely impulsively and sometimes logically exclude useless and/or trivial information not relevant to the problem(s) being solved.

Intellect really means a wonderfully trained brain with good memory which is able to analyze and synthesize information largely impulsively and efficiently. What makes a superbly trained brain even more powerhful and useful is one which is also able to reason using a mathematical foundation which results in efficient logical thinking.

A powerhful intellect also has an ability to largely impulsively and sometimes logically exclude useless and/or trivial information which is not relevant to the problem(s) being solved.

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AN UPDATED CRITICAL THINKING WORKSHEET TO SOLVE  EXISTING PROBLEM(S) 13 WAYS!!!!!!

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Most of the credit for this blog goes to the American Management Association or AMA for my updated excerpt from The AMA Critical Thinking Toolkit.

 

Research the problem via other companies who have had or are having or have solved the problem already.

What can I learn from comparing other similar industries which are having the same problem and try to determine the potential causes of their problems as they see it from their perspective.

Make a list of plausible causal assumptions which you have made trying to solve this problem(s).

Evaluate data and/or experiential evidence which supports/debunks your plausible causal assumptions.

Make a list of desired results and/or solutions.

Brainstorm the possible solutions personally and with others with a personal vital participation in the problem solving results and/or solutions.

Research the resources and costs needed to implement the potential solutions, and make a cost analysis after each step which needs resources purchased as well as a list of pros/cons for each potential solution.

Get feedback from diverse human groups including customer service, line managers, a focal group, as well as your team. Based on their feedback on your pros and cons re-evaluate and update your pro and con list.

What is the best solution(s) based on the data and experiential evidence that you have gathered. Make an outline or procedural and/or serial course of action to get to the desired results and/or solutions.

The financials should be evaluated along the way during the problem solving procedure and not just at the end to see if the solution makes business sense because during the problem solving analysis you may instantly determine that the course to the potential solution is not financially sound and that you have quickly exceeded your budget sometimes about half way through the problem solving procedure. You will save much time, energy, and money doing financial calculations along the way or during each step which requires expensive new resources.

Create a quality test product which optimally fills the needs of the customer but also take into consideration subjective wants which maybe a majority of potential customer’s desires but something which they don’t really need.

Test the functionality of a product on potential customers and get feedback on whether it is solving the stated problems.

Update the information and/or goods and/or services or revise and/or redesign based on potential customer feedback.

 

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UPDATED CRITICAL THINKING SELF ASSESSMENT!!!

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Circle whether you agree, somewhat agree, or disagree with the 20 communications.

  1. When considering a problem, I question my assumptions and make sure they have worked in the past on similar problems.

agree    somewhat agree    disagree

  1. I seldom question seemingly obvious assumptions

agree    somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I sometimes ask others for suggestions and opinions.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I ask a diverse group of humans for their perspective if they have some expertise or experience with the problem whether they are male or female, from a different department, or different ethnic origin.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I try to evaluate customer needs as objectively as possible for possible solutions to the problem.

agree    somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I do research if possible to gather relevant information if there is considerable uncertainty in the decision which I am about to make.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I do intimate research on what the customer really needs first and wants second using focal groups, interviews, and customer product feedback.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I sometimes consider ideas and suggestions that other humans present if I am not desperate to solve a problem even if my intuition says it probably won’t work.

agree   somewhat disagree   disagree

  1. When considering someone else’s idea, I realize it is their personal point of view and try to guess whether possibly their opinion is biased by their circumstance, prior experience, or background education.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I search for patterns and possible solutions based on existing data but supplement it with new researched data if it doesn’t seem relevant to the problem solving.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. Emotional bias is a given but I try to overcome it and be as objective and rational as possible.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. If I sense the emotional bias of other humans and feel it is obscuring an objective view of the problem then I don’t take their solutions very seriously.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I ask questions where there is some doubt to make the desired outcome or solution to the problem more certain.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I look at how my industry and similar industries are handling similar problems to get insight into whether my solution is current and competitive.

Agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. Look carefully at the experiential evidence which supports a decision to make sure it isn’t biased, especially emotionally.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I don’t randomly apply solutions to circumstances much beyond experiential evidence suggestions and/or examples.

Agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I would choose a solution that I was uncomfortable with if the experiential evidence from other similar sources strongly supported it.

Agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. Once a course of action is determined for the best solution, I make sure to monitor the most critical task of the solution procedure.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. When a circumstance changes, I sometimes adapt my initial assumptions to make sure that the solution will still be the right desired outcome.

agree   somewhat agree   disagree

  1. I recognize the need for emotional intelligence in successfully motivating those under me which means appropriate rewards, punishments, motivating language, and a generally friendly and considerate demeanor.

Agree   somewhat agree   disagree

 

Total agrees _____ Total somewhat agrees_____ Total disagrees____

A candidate who totally agrees with all or most of the good problem solving techniques is a liar to some extent because no one is perfect and he or she is afraid to reveal underlying weaknesses. That human is  potentially a good yes man or woman but not one who will be very good at realistic leadership skills in problem solving.

 

A candidate with more than a handful of somewhat disagrees can be further questioned on why they somewhat disagree and you may find a truly thinking human who has useful and even workable but different opinions from perfection in all areas.  If the somewhat disagrees seem plausible and convincing then you may have a great problem solver as an employee.

A candidate with some disagrees is also useful information because you can follow up and ask why the disagreement and how would you handle the circumstance differently. Some reasons might be totally stupid but it might also reveal a personality that is intolerant, tyrannical, unable to deal with all kinds of employee personalities, has bad problem solving skills, etc.

 

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4 THINGS A GOOD LEADER MUST LIKE!!!

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A leader must like responsibility.

A leader must like responsibility and know how to surround him or herself with responsible workers. A leader must like honesty, dependability, competence, efficiency, and trustworthiness which makes responsible behavior possible. The buck stops at the leader and he or she gets most of the credit for success or most of the blame for failure. Rewarding or punishing workers appropriately for success or failure is vital to responsible leadership. Sometimes the punishment can be as little as saying -“I know you can do better next time.”

A leader must like communication with humans.

A leader must have emotional intelligence and be able to effectively communicate with workers and motivate them on both the emotional and physical level. A leader knows how to listen carefully to what the workers have to say and gets feedback from them before a job, during the job, and after the job by asking appropriate questions which monitor work performance. You must know how to provide your workers with proper emotional support, material support, and personnel support to get each job done properly or successfully.

A leader must like to solve problems.

Having the right skills, knowledge, and experience with similar problems is vital to leadership and liking to apply these skills to new problems is a sign of competent leadership. Planning ahead and anticipating problems before they happen will frequently save much time and money and maybe avoid many relatively minor problems in the process. Being skilled at researching an issue which is new or unusual and may need a different approach is sometimes vital. Problems are solved with the right skills, knowledge, and experience and the solution is to acquire them or to find humans who already have them in abundance and let them do some of the problem solving for you.

A leader must like learning from and correcting mistakes.

Some leaders make mistakes and don’t learn from them or don’t learn how to correct them by trying again and doing the same thing a little differently. I will not change because I have done this successfully for the past 20 years without failure is a narrow minded philosophy which few innovative leaders can afford in the fast changing technological 21st century. A good leader who makes a mistake will not try to hide from it but openly admit to making it, learn from the mistake, and try to change his or her behavior so that it doesn’t happen again. A good leader views a mistake as a challenge to do better the next time.

 Finally a confident leader is a good leader but one with a confident workforce is a great leader!!! Developing a competent and confident staff is an outstanding accomplishment.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT SMARTNESS

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Smartness: n. a human having complete logical reasoning skills and successfully applying them to solve political and social and economic and scientific problems and/or having emotional intelligence

Many humans confuse intelligence with being smart. Although intelligent humans are frequently also smart there are plenty of intelligent humans doing stupid things which are not so smart to do.

Intelligence is really having a very good memory for facts and information which may not necessarily be used in a smart way. Being smart is having the reasoning or logical ability to find practical solutions to problems and an added bonus is having emotional intelligence which helps you to successfully deal with human emotional states.

There are many smart humans with relatively little book learning who have had extensive contact with humans and have learned important information on their own or with personal experience. It can help in many instances to have good grades and a college degree but there are plenty of very smart humans who have become very successful without the formal education. Very smart humans are frequently bored by formal education and learn most of what they have to know on their own.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT PROBLEM SOLVING

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You can solve some problems by letting others solve them, you can solve some problems with the help of others, you can solve the problem yourself, or you can ignore a problem and hope that it goes away on its own.

If you are a scientist then solving a problem may be very complex. You will have to analyze a situation, gather data by experimentation, and maybe come up with a verifiable hypothesis which explains accurately what is going on. You will effectively be using the scientific method with appropriate analyzing and synthesizing.

If you have a common problem then gathering all the information needed to solve it is important. Once you gather the information you can then use your previous knowledge or expertise to organize the information logically and solve the problem using known techniques.

Come up with more than one way of solving the problem if possible and call it plan A, B, C, etc. If one approach to solving a problem doesn’t work then you should be ready to use plan B or C to try and solve it.

Most problems have a solution and the key to solving them is prior experience with similar problems and understanding that sometimes there is frequently more than one way of finding a solution.

If you have the luxury of much time on your hand then you can keep trying to solve a problem in a casual way without much stress but unfortunately most problems need speedy solutions and you will frequently be under stressful time constraints.

Some problems are not as important as other problems and you should learn to prioritize the important problems so that you can spend more time trying to solve them. The little problems may not go away but you can frequently not solve them or ignore them and sometimes they go away on their own with changing circumstances.

Solving problems at home and not on the job require parenting skills and relationship skills which frequently get easier to solve with prior experience. Trial and error is a bad but sometimes necessary way that problems get solved at home when prior expertise or knowledge is inadequate or absent.

Sometimes solving a big problem like poor grades means solving many little problems first. It may mean getting adequate sleep, setting aside dependable time for studying, eliminating distractions during study time, motivating by promising rewards for conscientious studying, and even getting tutoring help during study periods.

Some problems like an overly emotional spouse have no solutions and you may be forced to adapt and live with the problem if divorce is not an option.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT DISCUSSION

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Discussion: n. communicating much about a subset(s) which may or may not lead to a goal(s) and/or judgment(s)

Discussion is definitely preferable to angry confrontation when it comes to solving problems or just talking about an important subject.  Some subjects are relatively easy to discuss because there is no emotional commitment or strong opinions but it is frequently not easy to discuss subjects such as politics, religion, and sports where we may have some strong differing opinions and may get terribly upset if our views or opinions are challenged.

Discussion also means that you are a good listener and pay attention to what the other human is trying to communicate and successfully reading his or her attitude or emotional commitment to the subject being discussed. 

Another important aspect of discussion is being able to ask questions and gaining a deeper understanding of the point of view of the human whom you are discussing with. 

Empathizing with another’s point of view and frequently praising the point of view if it has merit will increase the probability that the human will also empathize with your point of view and hopefully listen intently. 

If the subject is a highly emotional one then it may be advisable to wait until the emotions die down and then try to discuss the subject with a cool head. When emotional outbursts have run their course or have died down then that is the time to start discussing what caused the outburst and whether there is anything which can be done to prevent future outbursts.

When trying to discuss problems and find solutions it is important to state the problem in words, communicate one or more ways of possibly solving the problem, and then mutually agreeing on a course of action to solve the problem. If the problem seems to have no solution then a little research into the situation may be necessary or an opinion from an expert or third party in the field being discussed may help.

Facts backing up an opinion, prior experiences, and opinions from other humans will frequently help a discussion proceed successfully if there seems to be a deadlock and neither side seems to know what to do.

Group discussions are more difficult  to control and can end in confusion if no one is in charge of leading the group discussion. Everyone should be given an opportunity to contribute something to the discussion and a leader is frequently needed to break up deadlocks when and if they occur. In groups there are frequently one or two leaders who want to do most of the talking and offer most of the suggestions on what to do so the main leader has the responsibility of managing the ego’s of the participants and giving each one just representation in the discussion.

Discussion is a learned skill and you frequently get better at it as you age and have a wealth of information and life experiences to rely upon when making decisions in life.

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MEN’S OVERALL HAPPINESS SEEMS JUST AS IMPORTANT IF NOT MORE SO THAN WOMEN’S IN A MARRIAGE!!!

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Here is an updated and increasingly valuable article about spouse relationships. The only point that I disagree with is that you have to create a mythology or tell stories about the way that you first met and this is totally unnecessary for a happy long duration marriage.

Also no marriage is the ideal 50/50 relationship and the reality is that many are out of balance slightly with 30/70 relationships also being functional or workable ones because one partner may contribute more to the marriage in more ways than the other spouse does.

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5 STEPS TO HOUSEHOLD OR FAMILY PROBLEM SOLVING

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Perhaps one of the most difficult things to do is problem solving where you frequently don’t know where to start or how to start.

1. IDENTIFY THE PROBLEM:

You may have an overspending problem but neither one of you know how to budget money or stop much of your impulse buying which is a bad habit and feels like the logical or natural thing to do. If you spend when you feel like it or as long as there is credit on your credit card and budgeting doesn’t even surface as a potential way of solving your problems then you will probably wallow in your old bad spending habits and never find a solution to them. Frequently an inability to find a solution to the problem results in mutual blame. You are spending too much money and the other spouse replies that no, you are the one spending too much money and an absence of problem solution results in the blame game and nagging complaints which never get resolved.

These days there is no excuse for not solving problems because all you have to do is identify it or put it into one or more words. “Overspending problem” can be Googled and you are on your way to solving your problem with continued searches with other key words and Google suggestions.

Once you have identified the problem then you have to find possible solutions.

2. FINDING SOLUTIONS:

Find solutions by asking the questions who will solve the problem, what are the solutions to the problem, when the problem can be solved, where the problem can be solved, how much it will cost to solve the problem, and how the problem can be solved. All of these questions can be inputted as a Google search. For example, “what are the solutions to overspending” can be Googled and you will start getting answers to your problem.

If you have offspring and are having discipline problems with them then Google “discipline problems” and you will be on your way to finding solutions to them.

If you are not happy with one search engine then try another one such as Bing and you will even find age appropriate suggestions for disciplining offspring.

Another way of finding solutions to problems is to find a website which has articles about solving household problems. Moneytalksnews.com founded by Stacy Johnson is an excellent website which offers many solutions to money problems in family life which are usually the reason that you are having problems in family life in the first place. Manage your money wisely and if you have compatible personalities then your married life should be successful.

3. SELECT OR DECIDE WHAT THE BEST ALTERNATIVE SOLUTION IS:

If there is more than one solution to your problem then you will have to decide which is the best one to choose. The best solution will probably be the one which takes the least amount of time and the least money and a solution which can be scheduled into your busy or not so busy lifestyle.

4. IMPLEMENTING THE SOLUTION:

Nothing gets done unless you follow up a problem with actions designed to solve it so WHEN you are going to start to do something about it becomes a very important decision. If the solution is long and complicated then you will have a tendency to want to procrastinate or put it off as much as possible so you will have to learn how to set aside some time and apply a little selfdiscipline and get off your butt and DO something about the problem. My recommendation is to start as soon as possible or you will probably never find the courage to start to do something about it.

Getting reeducated for a better paying job is frequently a potential solution to your problems but so many of us never get around to it because it requires so much of our time, sometimes money, and we never have the courage or selfdiscipline or selfcontrol to start on the difficult path to improve skills and knowledge and actually do something constructive about our poor finances.

5. FEEDBACK OR MONITORING YOUR PROGRESS:

If the solution to the problem is rather complex and lengthy then you should monitor your progress to reassure yourself that you are making progress toward your goal of solving the problem. If you are not making progress fast enough you may consider devoting more time or money to the solution of the problem to speed up the process of solving it if you are starting to get a little impatient.

Sometimes problem solving is a simple matter of addressing a complaint and deciding whether to ignore it, eliminate the source or cause of the complaint, or deny that it should be a complaint in the first place.

You never help around the kitchen or house is sometimes a nagging complaint by a busy wife who sees you lounging around the kitchen or house and not helping with any of the work in preparing the meal, setting the table, washing the dishes and silverware, or vacuuming the carpet.

Traditionally men would just simply say that meals or vacuuming are women’s work and ignore any complaints about not helping. These days with many a working wife it is just not fair to ask a woman to do all the traditional female housework tasks without helping out a little.

I usually help set the table and do the cleanup and dishes after the meal is finished. I have also participated in sharing some of the cooking preparation or actual cooking itself but that requires a little finesse because your wife probably has set ways of preparing a meal and if you try to deviate from her plans you will get resistance or complaints. The old adage about too many ideological cooks in the kitchen is true to some extent and it is sometimes a real challenge to put up with being dogmatically ordered around during meal preparation.

In the beginning my wife was very dogmatic about the way that she prepared her meals and wanted very little deviation from her old way of doing the meal but she has slowly come around and agreed to some of my recommended changes to make a meal more tasty for all concerned which may simply mean a little less salt and pepper and a little less spices or different spices or added ingredients for the meal.

If meal preparation is not an option because it takes too long then you can order a takeout meal for all family members and satisfy their individual taste preferences when they are old enough to make good healthy food choices.

 

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