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BRIEF REVIEW OF GOOD AND BAD PUNISHMENT!!!

As parents we often are uncertain whether a punishment is working or is effective or we are uncertain whether a threat of punishment or threat of withdrawal of a privilege will work. Ways of punishing are many and you should refer to books for detailed information on the subject. I highlight general reasons why punishments can be effective and why they sometimes are not.

My young son threw a loud temper tantrum in the supermarket when the family went shopping and I immediately physically carried him out to the car and had him calm down. When he did calm down I asked him whether he was ready to go back in and behave. We went back shopping and everything was fine again.

This is just one example of immediate effective punishment for young offspring which is nonviolent and does not involve loudly shouting “no!” or “stop that!” in a public place.

 

 

PUNISHMENTS ARE MOST EFFECTIVE WHEN THEY ARE-

Appropriate and thoughtful:

Consistently enforced:

Enforced immediately following the behavior:

Helpful in teaching what to do:

Not sources of additional wanted attention:

 

Appropriate and thoughtful:

This should mean that the punishment

is adjusted to the severity of the misbehavior timewise and/or

is (emotionally impactful and/or harsh) to the right degree and/or

is a consideration of the effectiveness of previous similar incidents and/or

is the right time, place, or circumstance to be enforced

Appropriate: v. to add and/or to subtract a subset(s) necessary for a different subset(s) and being normative and acceptable for the circumstances

 

Thoughtful or Thinkad: adj. silently and mentally verbalizing and trying to make correspondences between the subsets of one’s own knowledge and/or experiences and using as much logic as possible

Harsh: adj. unpleasantly intense and/or shocking to the senses

 

Another general statement which can be made is that the punishment fits the crime and/or misbehavior.

This means that the length of time the punishment lasts can be short, medium, or long depending on the circumstances.

The emotional intensity felt by the offendor can be extreme, medium, or low intensity hatred and/or mental pain or anguish and/or unpleasantness.

You should consider whether the punishment should be changed if previous attempts a dealing with the misbehavior have not been effective and the misbehavior continues to recur.

The kind of punishment can be

forceful,

withdrawing a privilege,

demanding a repetition of corrected behavior more than once,

demanding completion of an unpleasant task,

a threat of future punishment, or

a loud threatening order to cease misbehaving.

 

Consistently enforced:

Consistently: adv. repeating at different starting points in time

 

Repeat: v. to do an event(s) more than once with or without duration(s) in between

 

If the punishment is not severe enough then we may be consistently punishing the same way but the punishment itself is ineffectual. If this is the case then the punishment must become more severe since consistency is not enough to guarantee successful obedience. More severe punishment means that it is made to last longer, is more repugnant or devastating to the offendor, and is a privilege removed which is more highly valued such as the removal of cellphone usage.

As a parent you may not be present every time the misbehavior happens so poor supervision may be the real reason why a misbehavior continues to exist because the misbehavior is done frequently when we are not looking or supervising. We may think that we are being consistent when in fact our assumed consistent punishment really seems and is ineffectual because it is really inconsistent.

 

Enforced immediately following the behavior:

Immediate punishment which can merely be a loud “no!” is desirable for very young offspring. Delayed punishment is bad for very young offspring because they are much more impulsive in their behavior and must immediately be disciplined for maximum impact or effectiveness. With older offspring some delays are inevitable because it may be the wrong time, place, or circumstance and the punishment will have to start at a later or delayed time.

 

Helpful in teaching what to do:

Teaching the right behavior by an example to be imitated is one approach to constructive punishment. Giving a reason why it is appropriate behavior beyond saying it is just the correct behavior is another approach to constructive punishment.

Reasoning, you can say that yelling or shouting is not right in this circumstance because it annoys, disturbs, or shocks other humans or it steals their right to a peaceful, calm environment without unnecessary stress. It steals their right to a secure and predictable environment free of potential danger or threats of danger since shouting sometimes causes fear reactions. It is not the right time, place, or circumstance to be loud or yelling.

 

Not sources of additional wanted attention:

Some offspring are starved for affection of some kind which is rarely given and prefer punishment to no attention at all. Others just like to be noticed or be the center of attention. For these among other reasons offspring may misbehave to attract the attention of other siblings, parents, peers, and hopefully not law enforcement officers.

Daring one to misbehave is sometimes viewed as a brave or courageous act of rebellion against behavioral norms and is valued by gangs, cults, and deviant individuals. Of course a dare can also be a means to get another human into trouble with authority figures so it can be a plan to harm or injure someone intentionally.

Dare: v. to courageously do a subset(s) without permission and/or a legal right

 

PUNISHMENT DOES NOT WORK WHEN IT IS:

Mindless or inappropriate:

Sources of anxiety, pain, rage, or fear:

Inconsistently enforced:

Delayed:

Dependent on the presence of the enforcer:

Unclear or do not teach a lesson:

Sources of additional attention:

 

Mindless or inappropriate:

This is when the punishment

is not adjusted to the severity of the misbehavior timewise and/or

is (emotionally impactful and/or harsh) to the wrong degree and/or

has no consideration of the effectiveness of previous similar incidents and/or

is the wrong time, place, or circumstance to be enforced.

 

Sources of anxiety, pain, rage, or fear:

This is highly inaccurate since a fear of punishment to some degree is necessary for a punishment to be effective especially when a threat of punishment is communicated. If there is no fear of punishment then the badness or wrongness of the misbehavior does not register mentally to the degree necessary to effectively stop future similar misbehaviors.

Physical pain is only rarely necessary to effectively stop immorality or repetitive lying or stealing in very young offspring. If the child rages or has a temper tantrum then it is a specific individual reaction to a stimulus or circumstance and rarely the fault of the parent.

Rage: n. very intense anger which frequently includes a violent behavior(s)

 

If your offspring rages every time that you punish then there is something emotionally unstable or wrong with them. If your offspring fear your punishment then you are probably using abusive punishment tactics or maybe hitting them too hard or too often.

 

Inconsistently enforced:

Inconsistency can mean not punishing a misbehavior every time it exists or not being the same punishment in degree or kind.

As a parent you may not be present every time the misbehavior happens so poor supervision may be the real reason why a misbehavior continues to exist because the misbehavior is done when we are not looking or supervising. We may think that we are being consistent when in fact our assumed consistent punishment really seems and is ineffectual because it is in reality inconsistent.

Wild swings in the severity of the punishment for a given misbehavior or an unpredictable kind of punishment each time a misbehavior exists could be considered to be inconsistent punishment and can sometimes create confusion, uncertainty, misunderstanding, or irrational fear in the offendor.

 

Delayed:

Delayed punishment is bad for very young offspring but with older offspring some delays are inevitable because it may be the wrong time, place, or circumstance and the punishment will have to start at a later or delayed time.

 

Dependent on the presence of the enforcer:

It is a sad fact of life and human nature that the temptation to misbehave increases when not in the presence of an authority figure who can enforce the rules. This is why it is so important to teach moral behavior and cultural norms to young impressionable offspring so that they learn to impulsively behave the right way when they are away from an authority figure.

Neglected, undisciplined, misbehaving offspring are increasing in numbers because of bad supervision in their early formative years by parents. Teenage neglect by working parents is added to deviant peer pressure to misbehave and both are reasons for the increasing immaturity and irresponsibility of the younger generations when they become adults.

 

Unclear or do not teach a lesson:

Don’t teach what is the right thing to do is really all that this should mean. Unfortunately most parents do not often give rational explanations for why behaving is the right thing to do and misbehaving is the wrong thing to do.

Do it because I say so or because I am the rule enforcer and must be respected is good enough reason for very young impressionable offspring but the older they get the more important it becomes to start giving them rational or reasonable answers when they ask -Why should I do it your way? or Why is something which I am doing bad?

 

Sources of additional attention:

Bad behavior does attract attention as proved by some popular celebrities. They  would rather be talked about doing something bad or deviant then not talked about at all or ignored. Neglected offspring sometimes misbehave to attract parental attention, disapproval, and punishment which is apparently better than being totally ignored or neglected.

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LYING: AN IMMORAL SOCIAL SCOURGE!!!

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Trust is the human bond which makes successful close marital and friendship relationships possible. Without trust a good or great relationship is not possible and if one exists then it is highly dysfunctional filled with misery and trauma. Lie once about a rather unimportant thing and the transgression can be forgiven without dire consequences but develop a habit of lying about little things and soon it escalates into lying about important things and disastrous relationship results follow.

That being said deception and lying is escalating in western cultures, fly by night businesses victimize many with their miraculous deceptive promises, politicians tell humans what they want to hear and when they get elected it is business as usual and all their lying promises are forgotten, and humans lie to each other and then wonder why so many hoped for potential new relationships wind up in the toilet.

There are 7 basic excuses or possible reasons for why some humans lie and none of them are justifiable in the long duration.

Young offspring sometimes try to lie to avoid PUNISHMENT for bad or wrong behavior and sometimes adults try to avoid punishing social criticism or disapproval by lying about their unacceptable behavior.

Adults sometimes lie to EXPLOIT others or gain an advantage. Charismatic con artist are often pathological liars good at making humans feel good, good at creating an illusion of high monied status, and good at manipulating the basic greed of gullible humans. Ordinary humans also sometimes try to gain social advantage by exaggerated praise and kissing up to others, especially authority figures from whom they expect future favors.

Escaping ACCOUNTABILITY is a reason some lie to escape taking blame for unfulfilled promises and blame for irresponsible behavior or stupid mistakes.

Criminals lie to try and get away with STEALING something which doesn’t belong to them and students sometimes lie about cheating or STEALING information which they don’t have memorized. Bosses or coworkers sometimes lie trying to STEAL credit for something a worker has accomplished. Some men lie to STEAL sex from women who would not voluntarily give it knowing the truth.

Some humans lie about their fictitious accomplishments trying to “steal” admiration from others or to gain a COMPETIVE ADVANTAGE in a job application.

Some sadly lie to themselves about their real worth and potential trying to make themselves FEEL GOOD while living a rather mundane existence.

Some lie to inflict mental and sometimes physical PAIN. Being called ugly, stupid, being victimized by an untrue bit of gossip, and being told to do something illegal which we are assured is legal are just a few of the cruel ways that some humans lie to us to inflict pain and often cause pleasure in the cruel offender.

CONCLUSION:

Your lying will eventually destroy your social reputation and the only way that liars can make a living at it is to become a gypsy traveling the world looking for new suckers to take your lying bait.

The internet is making it possible to scam the world and do so from one general location so deceitful lying humans are here to stay on into the foreseeable future but hopefully their numbers will decrease and not increase.

What is really needed is a universal accepted secular morality where lying of any kind is considered an immoral transgression. Without that secular morality lying will continue to create chaos and plague humanity on into the distant future.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT CONFINE+

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Confine: v. to not be free to move external to a boundary because of punishment and/or circumstance

You may be confined in prison or confined to live in a house due to a severe handicap. In either case there are certain physical boundaries which confine your movement and you can’t freely move beyond those boundaries.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT DETERRENCE*

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Deterrence: n. unmotivating and/or frightening an animal(s) with a subset(s) which frequently is a punishment(s) and/or source of punishment(s)

How do you deter aggression, especially from a potential enemy? Historically greater military force and the certainty of punishing retaliation was the solution.

Today with the internet the source of cyber aggression can come from your own country internally and potentially take out a vital electrical grid which paralyzes as much as a third of the nation. Businesses are more vulnerable with internet access. How do you deter such actions with the certainty of punishment when the aggressor can be anywhere in the world?

In the case of a power grid takedown human intervention is necessary at vital switching points to monitor potential criminal software attacks and prevent them from jumping automatically to all other points of the grid. Decentralization of the power grid is vital to it’s survival during a cyber attack.

For businesses connected to the internet secured information storage not accessible from the internet cloud is vital. A secure storage bank of vital information must be kept in reserve free of Trojans, malware, viruses, etc. and a totally different secure backup system should be in place which can be activated if the ongoing system is compromised.

Is this technically possible? It’s not my job to know the answer but it is clear that systems must be devised which may lose a few minutes or hours or day of information transactions but maintain the secured integrity of most of the historical information stored. This way instead of your whole system going down only a fraction of a percent of the system will be lost due to software cyber intrusion.

Offspring are deterred by the threat of punishment and/or privilege removal and most criminals are also deterred by the almost certainty of punishment for criminal activity. Some humans are not deterred by anything and will give up their lives trying to promote their goal(s) so the certainty of deterrence is never 100% in the real world.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT EXECUTION*

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Execution: n. officially killing as a punishment for a crime which discourages many but not all criminals from committing samer crime

Execution by lethal injection, by firing squad, and beheading are all punishments for committing a crime against a legal authority. Tyrants love executions because it terrorizes humans and prevents much dissent from repugnant ruling dogma.

I personally don’t believe in executions in civilized countries because being framed or set up is relatively easy with the clever placement of doctored circumstantial evidence. If you are innocent of a brutal crime frame up then you still have a lifetime in prison and your friends to try and prove your innocence. If you are innocent and get executed then there is no way to ultimately reverse the death decision in your favor at some point in the future.

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