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My kids are frequently hitting each other. What can I do about it?


Most aggression results from a reaction to a toy being taken away or the destruction of what one has built. The basic underlying desire to be the dominant child in an interaction or selfishness is a contributory factor in most conflict situations. This reveals the necessity for teaching children that some toys are personal property to be respected and other toys are property which can be shared.

At first teaching how to share a toy needs adult supervision and you can introduce sharing by saying that one child can play with a toy for 5 minutes and then it is time for the other to spend 5 minutes playing with it. Harder to teach is a cooperative playing with a toy but in the case of a car it can mean shoving the car back and forth between two children along the floor or table top.

When building with blocks one child may want to destroy what was built so it is important to point out that this is unacceptable behavior to do and you must reprimand the offending destructive child.

Being a referee between two children of about the same age is hard enough but if you have three or more of about the same age then you have a handful of conflict on your hands if they all fight with each other. If the kids are all playing in the same room then you could instruct each one to pick a toy to play with and give them a space or corner of the room in which to play in.

When kids seem to be fighting for no reason at all such as pushing or shoving a lot then point out that this kind of behavior is mean and bad and that it shouldn’t be done.

It is not just important to find out who started a fight or who hit first but what was the underlying cause so you can always ask why did you hit your sibling? Sometimes aggression seems justified so you may just inform the victim child that he or she should complain to the parent about the situation. At other times kids may fight for no good reason at all and isolating them from each other for a time may be a possible partial solution. Whatever the situation be firm with a no fighting rule in the house and enforce the no fighting rule with punishment such as isolation for10 minutes or so for the offending aggressive party if you know with certainty who the first offender was.

Orderliness is very important and before bedtime all toys should be put away. Having toy bins with personal toys and shared toys may be one way of organizing a playroom or bedroom. Yes, at first you will have to instruct which toys go into which bins but once you succeed at this then cleanup will be less of a problem. An older child may be asked to show the younger one which toys go into which bins.

When there is an age difference of two or more years then fighting may not be a large problem. You can start teaching responsibility to your older child by asking them to teach the younger child how to do things like drawing, building things, reading to them, or teaching basic math.

A final important note is that you should try to teach or punish children fairly by not showing favoritism towards one child over another. Stress the fact that you love all your children equally and that there is no such thing as a bad child or a good child but merely good and bad behavior. When you get angry tell them that you are angry at the bad behavior and not angry at the child him or herself since you still love them.


How should I handle a situation where my child is being bullied?


Verbal bullying can either be ignored or you can teach your child to defend themselves verbally by responding with simple phrases such as “That’s your opinion not mine.”, “Grow up and act like an adult.”, “Pick on someone else if you want to feel superior.”, “Treat me like shit and I will never be your friend”, “Try being nice to people, you will have more friends.”, “You now have a reputation of being a big bad bully.”, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”, or ”To be respected you must treat others with respect.”

If it is physical bullying such as pushing, shoving, and punching then teaching your child self defense which does not severely injure the opponent may be necessary. Japanese Aikido is one example but Tae Kwon Do is another example where kicking and footwork, feet being the strongest part of the body, is emphasized. You can tell a child to warn the aggressor that if he or she does it again then they will get kicked if it is just a push or a shove. If your child gets punched or physically assaulted then one important key to defense is to trip them to the ground and proceed to kick them and maybe even punch them on the body but not head.

I personally was bullied by an overweight boy slightly shorter than me and I ignored his bullying until one day he pushed me off a fence that I was sitting on and I almost broke my neck. I was so enraged that I tripped him and proceeded to kick him and punch his head while he was on the ground. I slightly hurt my hand by punching his bony head so that was not a smart thing to do but he never bullied me again.

Another personal incident was where we were bragging about who was the strongest, got into a fight and I put him into a choke hold and he pass out and it scared me because I thought that maybe I had killed him. I made a mistake because he was bigger and stronger than me and I avoided him as much as possible after this initial incident for fear of being beaten up. We were never friends after that incident. This is not a bullying incident but just a lesson that fighting is not the best answer to successful conflict resolution and it is certainly not civil behavior.


When and how to talk to children about sex?


When a child is considered too young to understand the sexual act then simply saying that mommy got pregnant, you grew in her belly, and then were born as a baby. If the child is smart enough to ask further questions such as how did I get out of her belly then simply say through the vagina. If the child then asks what a vagina is then say it is an opening in the body between the legs. If the child asks how did mommy get pregnant then say daddy helped her to become pregnant. If the child wants more details then you have a precocious child on your hands who will probably understand further details.

Answers to very young children should be very general and not specific and they will usually be satisfied with the general answer that you give them and stop further questioning. When they ask for more details don’t lie to them but start giving a clinical truthful but brief answer. If you are embarrassed and don’t want to admit that you and mom have sex then show them examples of animals having sex and explain what they are doing.


How can I convince my children that smoking, drinking to excess, and taking drugs is not a smart thing to do?


Be good role model parents. Don’t smoke, don’t do drugs, and don’t drink to excess. If you smoke, do drugs, and drink to excess then the probability that your children will have the same handicaps is very great no matter how much you try to scare them out of doing so.

Drinking and driving is the greatest danger so if they are driving your car make it a strict rule that they can only have one or two beers or one or two glasses of wine and then drive. If they get drunk then tell them to call a taxi or get a ride home from a designated driver. Of course if you catch them driving drunk or high on drugs then revoke their driving privileges for a month or longer.


With a very busy schedule, how can I spend adequate time with my kids?


If you have more than one kid then schedule your time with each one of them personally on a regular basis and also schedule time with all of them together on family outings. Keep in mind that quality time is the most important and if you are not spending time teaching your child something new, sharing a skill or activity such as chess, tennis, or computers, encouraging their interests or praising them for good deeds or accomplishments, asking about how his or her day or week went, helping with homework and other tasks, discussing bad behavior, or sharing your work experiences then it is probably mostly wasted time together.


How can you change low selfesteem?


Some children simply don’t do well in school and have few or no friends and generally have a low opinion of themselves or low selfesteem. Your parental expectations may be too high and you may not have motivated the child enough with praise and encouragement for things done well.

Tell your child that not everyone can become an engineer, scientist, computer programmer, doctor, or lawyer and offer them the possibility of becoming proficient in some vocational profession such as a car or motorcycle mechanic, plumber, electrician, police officer, military officer, nurse, teacher, etc.

Every child should have long range goals if possible and selflearning vocational skills during the teenage years may be an ideal way to get a foot in the door and some useful vocational knowledge. Ultimately if your child learns a useful skill that pays relatively well then they should do rather well in life no matter how low their selfesteem.

Selfesteem originates from trying things and doing them successfully. You can insist that they help you with housework and praise them for doing a good job. Introduce them to interesting hobbies which don’t cost much money and generally get them interested in doing things or actively pursuing interests outside of school also. The more active that they are and do things successfully, the more their selfesteem will build up.

Teach them that failure is inevitable in life and the key to overcoming failure is to get up and try again or do something else which you don’t fail at.


What do I do when my child lies or steals?


Lying and stealing are immoral. Lying means that trust is broken and your reputation with others will hit the toilet. You will never have very close good friends or good friends in general if you lie to them. Without trust a relationship ends or is a very bad one.

Steal from someone and trust also breaks down. Not only is stealing immoral but society punishes thieves with prison since it is considered a criminal activity.

From early childhood you should severely stress that lying and stealing is unacceptable and the punishment severe. I caught my thirteen year old son stealing ten dollars from my wallet and proceeded to spank him severely across the butt with my belt in a rage. He never stole from me again.

For older teenagers compulsive stealing is often a sign of some drug habit which needs much money that they don’t have so be wary of a teenager who suddenly starts stealing from you out of the blue. Yes, peer pressure can also lead to stealing and if you find out that this is the case then your child is hanging out with the wrong crowd and you should put a stop to it as soon as possible. Your child must simply learn to say a fervent NO to lying and stealing. Both acts are severe character flaws which good society does not tolerate.


How should I discipline my children?


There is a slight difference in disciplining very young children and older ones but both basically entail taking away a possession for duration or taking away a privilege for duration.

Very young children throwing a tantrum can be disciplined with isolation or removing them physically from the tantrum location and making them sit in isolation in a room or car until they calm down. Ask them whether they are ready to go back and behave is something that you should do before you bring them back to the tantrum location which is sometimes a store or public place.

Warning or threatening your child with a threat of punishment is also a way of controlling bad behavior. Taking away a favorite toy, cellphone, rights to use a computer, right to go out of the home (grounding), etc. for duration is usually very effective but if you threaten a punishment then you should follow through with consistency or your threats will be ignored in the future. Also if you promise a reward or to do something like going to a sporting event or theatrical performance then follow through and fulfill the promise.

Discipline must be consistent, clear, and as close to the misbehavior as possible. Discipline delayed is not as effective and young children especially will forget what they are being punished for with poor results in the end.


How can I help my children form friendships?


If you have good friends yourself then children will learn from your role model example. If you don’t interact with humans that much then teach your children that the best friends are those with common interests in school or near home setting and at about the same age. Teach them not to lie or steal from others so trusting friendly relationships develop.

If your children don’t seem to be interested in much then introduce them to games, hobbies, and sports which they can share with others. Having a bicycle can also increase the range of your child and expose him or her to children farther away in the neighborhood.


How can my children learn to be independent?


Independence means doing things on your own so start early teaching them numbers, words, reading, and math which they will definitely need in school. As soon as possible have them do household chores such as vacuuming, cleaning, food preparation, laundry, yard work, taking out the garbage, etc.

Introduce them as early as possible to games, hobbies, sports, and tools. Teach them your job skills and how to budget money. If it is a suburban neighborhood have them wash cars, mow grass, walk a neighbor’s dog, or do other work suited to teenagers for money. In effect, keep them busy doing useful things on their own and they will learn how to be independent.

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When first meeting someone it is wise not to ask very personal questions but to be very general in the questions which you ask to determine whether he or she may make a good friend or even a potential mate. It is important to find out quickly whether you have some mutual interests upon which you can build a further relationship.

What kind of work do you do?

Are you married?

Do you have children?

Do you have any hobbies?

What do you do in your spare time?

Where do you live?

If you do find out that you have some things in common then you can continue to ask more detailed questions.

How long have you worked at your current job?

Are you happy with your job?

Do you intend to move up the ladder or will you be switching companies?

Where do you think you’ll be ten years from today?

What will you be doing in your retirement?

What do you like the most?

What do you hate the most?

What do you get angry about the most?

What do you do for entertainment?

Do you follow any sports?

If you could live your life over what would you change?

What characteristic do you most admire in others?

Once you have asked these questions and any others which popped up during the conversation you can further ask more intimate questions about family and friends and specifically what the spouse or friends do for a living. After asking the 18 or more questions you will be in a pretty good position to know if you have enough mutual interests to pursue the relationship or to merely categorize it as a casual acquaintance or relationship.


Does free will exist?


Most of us are free to set short and long duration goals for ourselves and try to achieve them to the best of our ability. We make choices on a daily basis and proceed to follow through with actions. So it seems that we are free to lead the life that we choose or have free will.

Unfortunately we have physical and moral boundaries to the choices that we make in life and we have been brought up with certain opinions and beliefs which limit the free choices which we make. We are a product of our environment which also shapes our approach to life so free will is not that free after all. We are “programmed” throughout life which affects the choices which we make impulsively and otherwise.

We usually are not free to rape, pillage, and murder so we choose alternate lifestyles that are socially acceptable. You could say that we have free will to choose to do things but that the things that we choose to do have limits or boundaries to them both mental and physical.

You have the free will to become a serial killer or mass shooter if you chose but the probability that you will actually do so if you are mentally healthy is miniscule or almost zero.


What is the meaning of life and how does it differ from animals?


For animals it is survival of the fittest and reproduction or survival for those who can best adapt to environmental circumstances and for those who can reproduce. For humans those who best adapt to environmental and social circumstances usually reproduce and their genes survive into future generations.

You could say that eating, drinking, sleeping, setting goals, achieving goals, and conservatively reproducing along the way is the meaning of life. I say conservatively reproduce because overpopulation if not reduced can mean the end of humanity as we know it.

Yes, you can further elaborate and include sacrifice, smart hard work, a useful education, a moral personality, integrity, love, creativity, etc. in your description of human characteristics and activities which give meaning to life in greater detail. So  the meaning of life can be simply or generally summarized by describing what humans think and do in the world. What you think and do is the personal meaning of your life no matter how shitty or tragic it may sometimes seem or be.


What should be the goal of humanity?


You can describe many goals of humanity but probably the main goal of humanity is to survive maybe even beyond the death of the sun and survive with the conservation and even expansion of the wilderness with its plant and animal abundance. It is my belief that humanity will perish or become extinct much sooner if it destroys or poisons the environment and that includes wilderness and wildlife.


Will religion ever become obsolete?


Historically religion has been used to tame the human aggressive beast into a moral human who can relatively peacefully interact with members of his or her own tribe. Science is also a kind of religion or belief system which is a powerful tool to use in solving and often creating new problems. Science will never prove experimentally the need of morality for humans but it can be useful in pointing out the exceptions to any absolutist moral code or morality.

Morality will never become obsolete but it should be transformed into a modern secular moral code such as- in nonemergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder. This secular morality has worldwide application and if accepted as a standard worldwide it could facilitate more peaceful interactions amongst nations.

Religion someday may be close to obsolescence but some sort of morality or ethical principles will continue to exist as long as humans populate the earth.


Is suffering a necessary part of the human condition?


Suffering is really a punishment for doing something wrong or having the wrong beliefs and opinions. Suffering can vary from culture to culture but it is punishment for living an unhealthy, uneducated, financially irresponsible, disobedient, and irresponsible life in general. Break the rules of society and you usually suffer or get punished for breaking the rules in some way.

Destroy or poison the environment and you will also suffer or get punished with bad health and even death.

Yes, suffering for many is inevitable as a fact of living in a changing society always trying to avoid chaos in a relatively chaos prone world. A world where the new generation always challenges the old generations ways of thinking and doing.


Is it more important to help yourself, help your family, help your society, or help the world?


All four are important but of primary importance is yourself because only when you land a good paying job or start a successful business can you hope to support a family and contribute money towards social causes and world causes such as wilderness protection or even expansion.

Of course you can also set aside time to participate in social organizations promoting certain causes which may at minimum only be a political party. So help yourself first and then you can better help a family, society, and the world.


Can you become anything which you want to become?


Yes, you can set rather mighty goals in your life but we are all born unequal with different looks, abilities, and social and financial status. While the handicaps of average looks and low social and financial status can sometimes be overcome with a lot of smart hard work your average mental and physical abilities may handicap you if you are hoping to become exceptional in complex professions or high leadership positions.

It often requires an exceptional memory or superb physical strength or coordination to reach the top and excel in science, politics, and national and international sports. You will often become a frustrated, disappointed, and miserable human if you aim too high and your natural abilities are just not good enough to reach your lofty goal(s). So unless you are gifted at birth, you often can’t become what you want to become in life, especially if your goals exceed your natural ability.

How good your genes are often determines what your optimal potential is in life. Yes, you can have good genes and waste away opportunities by being lazy and not learning much of significance. There is a saying that talent without working smart and hard is wasted.


Does absolute power corrupt absolutely?


Yes, human power not limited by morality and just laws is impulsive, coercive, destructive, corrupt behavior. Historically caesers, emperors, pharaohs, and tyrants with absolute power became very corrupt, especially if they were corrupt to begin with. Yes, there were some great leaders in history but most of them were relatively moral and lawful with their own flock and imposed relatively just laws on those that they conquered or expected tribute of some kind from the conquered.

In an age of powerful monopolies and monied international big banks, international big corporations, big international organizations, and big government,  the temptation to be corrupt is great.


What would you genetically change about humans to make them a better species?


Healthier humans free of most debilitating diseases, humans with more efficient brains or better memory and processing ability, and finally and least important, better looking humans which is a very subjective choice.

Some may feel that making humans less genetically aggressive or violent and making them more compassionate or empathetic is the way human genetics should be modified. All that I think this would do is make a nation of obedient sheep with the more aggressive ones at the top anyway.

Still others feel that humans should be made genetically less emotional but I think this can best be done with a logical language which has less emphasis on emotional words. An example of a more logical language is LOGICAL ENGLISH DICTIONARY which I authored.

Since humans remember intense emotional experiences longer than other experiences I think that reducing emotions genetically will adversely affect human memory so I am not for reducing human emotions genetically.


What should you know about yourself?


You should realize how good – your memory is, your coordination skills, your conversation skills, your math and verbal skills, and your social skills or emotional intelligence? Those are the keys to knowing thyself rather well.

You can improve your coordination skills by learning to use tools and participating in sports, you can improve your conversation and social skills by interacting more with others, especially those with diverse backgrounds, and you can improve your math and verbal skills with practice and reading.

You can slightly improve your memory with word association skills or mnemonics which will make it easier to remember certain things. What you probably can’t improve much is your brain efficiency or how fast you think and how much you remember over a long period of time.

There is truth to the saying that practice makes perfect. Keep in mind or realize that if you are practicing a new complex skill 5 or 10 times more than someone else your age practicing a new complex skill then chances are that you will probably not excel in that complex skill at the highest levels. Yes, you will acquire many complex skills with practice but you will probably never reach celebrity status or world renown in that complex skill.

Your parents are a fairly good example of the skills which you may excel in if there are any at a high level. Whatever the situation do the best that you can at any skill but realize that you may just be handicapped, average, or above average in most skills and not exceptional. Choose your life’s profession accordingly so you don’t suffer from premature burnout or trying to do the impossible. Choose your role models and professions wisely so that they better fit your natural or inborn abilities.


Was the universe created or has it always been around and always will be?


The problem with a creator is that you can always ask who created the creator and nobody knows the answer to this question. You can also ask what created the universe and try to answer infinite energy located at a point in space but this still doesn’t answer what existed before the infinite energy creation.

I like to think of the universe as something which always has existed and always will exist. Sure, galaxies, suns, and planets are created and then die or are reformed into other galaxies, suns, and planets but the universe in its entirety still exists on into an infinity of time and through an infinity of space.


Will humans ever know everything there is to know?


Probably not because we still have not invented accurate tools to explain the very very small and the very very big. Both extremes are still a mystery and probably will be until humans and machines evolve with greater sensing ability. Our best tools so far are light or electromagnetic radiation and gravity which we still don’t entirely understand.


How do we perceive reality?


Our senses and scientific instruments perceive reality which is spread from human to human through words and mathematics. Most thinking is done verbally, visually, and with audio.

Yes, thinking can be delusional and based on false opinions, false beliefs, and fictitious concepts or fiction and fantasy but perception of the reality is mostly through our senses such as eyes, ears, smell, touch, etc.


Is philosophy dead or has morality or ethics and science replaced it?


Science is an experimentally proven philosophy of words, mathematics, and facts about nature. The only real philosophical realm left to historical philosophy is morality or ethics. Morality and ethics can’t be proven mathematically so it is subject to some biased subjectivity which is a philosophical approach.

Morality or ethical principles vary from culture to culture and if you were to consider a modern universal secular morality applicable across most cultures then one would be- in nonemergency situations- don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.


To what extent is government philosophical?


The ideal government should reward its moral law abiding citizens and punish the immoral or criminal humans or at least reduce criminality to tolerable levels. Government is the eternal struggle of its moral citizens against its immoral ones which unfortunately often includes the leadership or politicians.


What is the ideal government?


The reality besides a moral or philosophical question is to what extent should there be individual rights, minority rights, and collective or majority rights? Since an individual is the smallest minority how should the individual be protected against the oppressive tyranny of the majority and the government itself?

This is a governmental question with pure communism at one extreme and pure capitalism at the other extreme. My opinion is that there should be a bill of rights for the individual with mostly capitalism for the working class and socialism for the destitute and also unemployed. Call it Capsocialism if you want.

Yes, a governmental constitution of laws is necessary which often keeps evolving with time into more and more of a monopolistic and tyrannical structure from an original democratic republic of many relatively small economic units or businesses.

What an ideal government should also try to do is make sure is that humans have somewhat of an equal opportunity to succeed in society despite the fact that there will always be the very rich and the very poor at the other extreme. Since everyone is born unequal with differing natural abilities and looks, the ideal government should provide the possibility of advancement in the social structure and professions based mostly on merit rather than purely on ideology, nepotism or social status of parents.

What is the best protection against a tyrannical government? The right of every moral law abiding citizen to have guns or deadly weapons as part of a written constitution as well as free moral speech, right to assemble peacefully, and other legal defensive rights to avoid becoming the victim of oppressive acts by the government and immoral individuals and groups.


Should there be a limit on what science and technology can create?


Probably creating high frequency wireless cellphones and computers is not a smart thing to do because it can have bad effects on human health and brain health specifically. Altering human DNA is probably also not a smart thing to do because these resultant mutations might not be beneficial to human health in the long duration.

That is why we should be very careful with new science and technology creations because they can potentially have long duration bad effects on human, animal, and plant health and survival.

Artificial chemicals and drugs are already badly affecting human health and creating more toxic chemicals will just exacerbate the situation.


Finally, all philosophical answers with the exception of proven scientific facts are biased and subjective and there can be more than one answer which is deemed acceptable. If your philosophical answers are different then while free moral speech is still protected you have a right to your own opinion, belief, or answer. Best wishes. Peace!

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