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COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS:
Some humans compare themselves to others with more money or higher status in society and feel envious, less worthy, or frustrated by the comparison and it can be the source for some unhappiness. Compare yourself to the destitute and unemployed or the severely handicapped and you should automatically feel grateful or thankful that you are better off than them. If a comparison motivates you to work for a better job and more socially connected friends then that is a positive result but if you just wallow in frustrated envy and do nothing then the comparison will just be a source of ongoing unhappiness so stop comparing yourself.
WORRYING ABOUT THE FUTURE:
Some humans worry too much about what things can go wrong in the future and live with too much fear about a bad future. Taking out life insurance, health insurance, and property insurance should protect you against most disasters to some extent. Saving up about 10% of your earnings for emergencies is about all that you can do realistically to protect yourself from minor financial setbacks. Eat healthy and get plenty of exercise and sleep and you will feel as secure about your future as is realistically possible in this somewhat unpredictable world. If you can’t afford insurance then live a courageous healthy lifestyle and feel secure that government welfare will be your safety net if the shit hits the fan.
HOLDING ON TO ANGER AND RESENTMENT:
Holding on to anger and resentment for too long can also be a source for much unhappiness. Learn to forgive and forget the occasional mistakes, insults, put downs, name calling, ridicule, and bad behavior of others and conditionally forgive immoral behavior if you get a sincere promise that it will never happen again. If the source of your anger and resentment is a very bad family life and you can’t solve the problems by compromise and cooperation then you may have to consider divorce as the only possible alternative out of your dysfunctional marriage.
REPEATING THE SAME MISTAKES:
Repeating the same mistakes over and over again can lead to much unhappiness. Getting involved with bad humans or friends over and over again or falling for dysfunctional potential mates over and over again or going from one shitty job to another shitty one over and over again are repeated mistakes which are definitely a source for ongoing unhappiness and stress. You may have a bad personality which attracts other bad humans so it is up to you to reform yourself by acquiring new useful knowledge and skills and then choosing better friends, better mates, and better jobs.
LIVING IN THE PAST TOO MUCH:
Living in the past can be a source for unhappiness especially for older adults. A bad past life may cause you to live regretting what you did and a good past may be the source for boring humans with repetitive stories about your great past successes and thus having few if any interested friends in old age. Learn to focus on the present and future with new hobbies or interests. Volunteer to help others in greater need or surf the internet for interesting new useful material to read about and view if you are on a tight budget. If you can’t keep physically active then at least try to stay mentally active and learn about new interesting things. Stop dreaming about the past and do something active mentally and/or physically in the real world and in the relatively few remaining years which you have left in life.
BEING ADDICTED TO ONE SEVERE OR TOO MANY BAD HABITS:
Being addicted to too many bad habits can also be the source for much unhappiness. Lying, TOO MUCH complaining, criticizing, bragging, jealousy, procrastination, blaming, pessimism, gossiping, arguing, gambling, drugs, alcohol, pornography, shopping, etc. are all bad habits which if done to excess can cause terrible consequences and can be the source for much unhappiness in your life. I have listed about 32 bad habits and what you can do about them in three blogs which I published and you can refer to them for further enlightenment. Remember, if you don’t know what your bad habit is then you can’t correct it. Enjoy!!!
https://uldissprogis.com/2014/12/14/10-relationship-bad-habits-with-suggestions-part-1-of-3/
https://uldissprogis.com/2014/12/15/10-relationship-bad-habits-with-suggestions-part-2-of-3/
https://uldissprogis.com/2014/12/16/12-relationship-bad-habits-with-suggestions-part-3-of-3/
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Timing discussions during peak stress periods:
Trying to discuss problems and find solutions during emotional peaks of stress such as immediately after work, during work, after a stressful day, or during offspring health or bad behavior issues is poor timing.
Not all problems can wait until the family is gathered for a meal or until rest time but an emotionally charged human will not be able to discuss much rationally and calmly compromise or find logical solutions to problems.
Jealousy and resentment:
Some jealousy is a normal human reaction but too much can also turn into resentment which will make you feel miserable and unsatisfied with who you are and what you have.
It is a much better mental attitude to admire others achievements and good looks as symbols for success and something for others to try and imitate. Not everyone is equal in society and some are just more fortunate than others and it should be accepted as a fact of life.
Blaming:
When things go wrong it is tempting to make excuses and blame others for our misfortune. Often circumstances and others do share the blame and most realize their contribution to the failure of others.
Blaming is really a form of accusation which many will try to deny that all responsibility for a problem is on their shoulders alone. Honest blaming is acceptable but there is a danger that you will begin to feel victimized by humans and circumstances and start blaming everyone and everything for your problems and not admit to being partly or totally responsible for your behavior consequences.
The danger in blaming too much is that you will not make the necessary future changes in your own behavior to make failure less likely in the future.
Pessimism:
A feeling that your goals will probably not be achieved and that bad events will probably exceed the good is the general mental state of a pessimist.
Knowledge about the bad things which can possibly happen is useful in preparing for the future but it is not very helpful in your life if this general feeling kills your motivation to do your best to avoid the possible bad circumstances.
Many pessimists feel like victims of life rather than as optimistic participants in life and humans generally do not like to associate with pessimists who seem to have given up on living life to the fullest and with a happy mental attitude.
Forgetting to forgive:
Forgiving offspring for their bad behavior or mistakes comes almost naturally but we must realize that adults too behave badly and make mistakes for which they should be forgiven sometimes.
Not forgiving will make the bad behavior and mistakes fester in your mind and there is a danger that you will bring up these past transgressions in the future and poison, greatly annoy, or make calm future discussions and problem solving much harder to do.
Immorality should rarely be forgiven and if it is then it should be conditional that it never happens again. For rather unimportant transgressions it is usually smart to forgive and forget.
Procrastination:
Procrastination is nature’s attempt at conserving energy or trying not to get involved in situations which will drain much energy out of you. Humans don’t like procrastinators and frequently call them lazy or irresponsible.
Sometimes procrastination works for the procrastinator and the problem or task either goes away with time or someone else solves the problem or does the task.
Workaholism:
Workaholism just means being overly dedicated to a job and the bad consequences are that you frequently ignore or sacrifice family, friends, and opportunities to grow and enjoy things outside the work environment.
The key to a more well rounded lifestyle is to schedule time for other things in life than just your job.
Saying yes to everything:
Let’s be realistic. No one says yes to everything but there are humans who try their best to fulfill requests from almost everyone that they meet.
If you do that then you are in effect becoming an altruistic slave catering to the wants of others and probably ignoring or not having enough time to fulfill your own important needs and wants. Humans who almost always try to please others frequently fail to please themselves enough.
The key is to say no more frequently and do it in a polite considerate way. Sometimes “no, sorry” is all that is needed as a reaction.
Comparing yourself too much to others:
Comparing yourself to others is natural because most of us like to feel that we are in some way superior to others in personality and/or wealth.
Too much comparison leads to unrealistic expectations and the danger that our own lives will self-destruct financially and relationship wise if we begin to live extravagantly in our efforts to keep up with others whom we admire and desperately but unreasonably want to imitate.
Feeling worthless:
Loners, the severely handicapped, and some old humans sometimes feel worthless and depression is frequently a natural consequence.
The cure is trying to get involved with other humans which can be doing volunteer work, joining a club or organization, or surfing the internet and trying to find new friends.
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It is best to try and avoid shitty humans. If you can’t avoid them then ignoring them as much as possible may be a solution but you will have to learn to defend yourself and your loved ones against them if they become an inescapable part of your life, especially if they are trying to spread lies about you or your loved ones.
You learn to develop a thicker skin or learn to handle mistreatment without becoming too upset or giving in to abuse. You maintain your composure and hold on to your integrity when crap is being thrown at you.
You learn to defend yourself and those closest to you if they come under unjustified attack or attempted abuse. You courageously defend yourself and your loved ones against lies if they are being spread.
You learn that sometimes you may be victimized by mistreatment only because you were available and the bad human was just transferring their bad experience effects or dissatisfaction on you and misdirecting their venom.
You learn that some shitty humans refuse to be helped with advice or consideration and you should not pursue your goal of helping if the human refuses it.
You learn that some shitty humans are just rude, annoying, abusive, and gossip because they enjoy being jerks so you should not become depressed if you are surrounded by more than one such personality type.
You learn that if you live with resentment, hatred, jealousy, and anger at some of the bad things which humans do to you then it will handicap you emotionally. It is best to forgive and move on if possible or to forgive and remember forever so it doesn’t affect you adversely again or so that you can take appropriate steps to avoid future hurt.
You learn that shitty humans have shitty habits and that it is almost always wasted effort trying to reform them or get them to change those shitty habits.
You learn that shitty humans are all around and with time you learn to ignore or avoid them as much as possible so that they have minimal bad impact on your life and emotional well being.
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Resentment: n. sensing hatred and/or indignation which is the effect of a real and/or imagined wrong(s) and/or injustice(s)
We sometimes resent humans because we feel they have achieved success in an unjust way or feel that they have been promoted before us with less merit.
Some of us resent others merely because they are rich or seem to have better status than us and it stems from a general belief that life is not fair and we are not at the receiving end of good fortune.
Social inequality is a fact of life and if you are living life resenting others with much anger for their status then you will probably lead a relatively miserable and unhappy existence. You probably fail to realize that your absence of success is largely your own fault unless you were born into a dysfunctional family or are handicapped both mentally and physically.
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Envy: v. to desire another’s (possessions and/or characteristics) and/or (luck and/or circumstances) without sensing angry resentment
Envy is just another word for jealousy unless you take out the angry resentment which jealousy should have but envy should not.
You can be envious of another without feeling resentful or thinking that what another has is unfair or unjust and feeling angry about it.
Envy is to desire what someone else has but not feeling that what they have is unfair or unjust and that they don’t deserve what they have. Envy is jealousy without the angry resentment.
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Jealousy: n. envying with angry resentment
Jealousy can ruin a career, ruin relationships, and most important of all make you lead a miserable unhappy life filled with anger, hatred, resentment, pessimism, and feelings of incompetence and worthlessness.
When someone gets promoted to a position which you felt you deserved then you may justifiably feel hurt and start feeling jealous of their achievement. You may not be able to hide your jealousy if it is intense and you may intentionally or unintentionally start saying nasty things about the promoted human which will make you look bad in front of your boss or your coworkers.
You may secretly have pent up anger, an urge to get revenge, or feel great resentment for the perceived wrong and may start doing some very bad things yourself. You may begin spreading bad gossip which will ruin your good reputation and kill any further chances for your promotion in the future and it will ruin your relationships with coworkers too who will no longer trust you.
If you have feelings of inadequacy in looks or achievement and don’t have a trusting or honest and sincere relationship with your significant other then you may feel jealous if a member of the opposite sex flirts or shows an interest in them. If your significant other does not have a history of promiscuous behavior or adultery and your jealousy continues after marriage then it can lead to divorce with too much distrust and attempts to monitor his or her every move out of jealousy.
If you are very jealous of your significant other before marriage then it will get even worse after marriage with the possibility of offspring who will suffer after the almost inevitable divorce. Before marriage check out your significant other’s family and closest friends to see if there will be any rational reason for being jealous and for fearing possible adultery. If the family is not adulterous and the friends are not promiscuous and all single then you should have nothing to be seriously jealous about before or after marriage.
Sometimes merely talking about your jealous feelings with your significant other may reassure you that there is nothing to be jealous about and you may get reassurances that your jealous feelings are unfounded. It is of course possible that your jealous feelings will be reinforced by a significant other who is insensitive, non-empathetic, or proud of his or her superior position in the relationship with very attractive looks and high achievement compared to your lack of similar characteristics. If your significant other makes you feel inferior then your grounds for jealousy are accurate and you should seriously consider another relationship and move on.
Being jealous of an exciting affluent lifestyle may turn you into a profligate spender trying to keep up with a lifestyle which you can’t afford and will eventually lead to your own financial ruin and even divorce if you are married.
The antidote to jealousy may need competent therapy or learning to praise rather than envy and learning to approve of another’s success, looks, and basically good moral character and not put another down for it.
If you can’t learn to be honest, sincere, and dependable with others and expect the same behavior in return from all your closest relationships then you will never cure your jealousy and you will probably be stuck in a miserable doubting lonely existence for the rest of your life.
Trust and dependability is the glue which keeps relationships healthy and lasting and jealousy is one of the greatest destroyers of a trusting relationship. Be grateful for what you have, overcome your feelings of inadequacy as much as possible, and admire others for their good looks and good achievements and jealousy should no longer have a bad stranglehold on your life and relationships.
Overcoming feelings of inadequacy is hard but one way to overcome them is to associate with other humans who have similar feelings of inadequacy which stem from not being so attractive or not being very successful in life. If you lower your standards of what you are looking for in relationships but still demand a high standard of moral behavior then you will be much happier and not jealously stressed out about your feelings of slight inferiority.
If you are a morally sound individual then you should feel equal in worth to most other good humans on the face of this earth because you are fundamentally a good human personality wise. You may not have great wealth and great looks but you will have a great wealth of character and be respected and admired for it by others.
Life is not fair and just since it rewards some with great looks and great ability which the common human does not have but that is no reason why you should live a life of desperation poisoned by jealousy at every turn. Be morally good and try to surround yourself with morally good humans and you can live a happy optimistic life free of jealousy.
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