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SELF IMPROVEMENT

Before improving yourself you first have to self analyze yourself and determine your strengths and weaknesses, what you want to improve, what your immediate and ultimate goals are, how you are going to go about improving, and finding the time and place to do the improvement on a scheduled basis.

Strengths and weaknesses are primarily mental ability, physical skills, a combination of mental and physical skills, and relationship skills.

Perhaps the best place to start is to broadly determine whether you are an introvert who likes to do things largely on your own or an extrovert to whom engagement with other humans is an important part of a daily routine. For an extrovert social skills are very important but to be respected and maybe even admired you have to have a good personality which means that you have to be trustworthy, have integrity, be dependable, and competent in what you do. Having integrity means that you are honest and moral or ethical.

If you are the pretentious type or like to break the rules if that gives you an advantage then it is time to do something about this weakness. Stop pretending to be someone you’re not and stop trying to outwit the social system by being immoral, behaving badly, or breaking the rules with dishonest behavior. In the long run you will not be respected by others if you are a rule breaker or unethical. The sooner you become a straight shooter and try to be a good human the more you will benefit a satisfying happy lifestyle and not be trapped in a dysfunctional lifestyle filled with tragedy and misery.

Trustworthiness, integrity, dependability, friendliness, empathy, and competence are important for almost everyone hoping to improve themselves. To gain and maintain respect you must be trustworthy and have integrity which basically means that you are honest, moral, dependable, and competent.

Organizational ability is a strength which is important in almost any task so it helps if you are disciplined and like to work in an orderly environment. If you are disciplined and orderly then your strength may be in task prioritization where you determine the importance of one task compared to others and then create a task completion schedule and proceed with dedication, determination, and enthusiasm to achieve it.

Being disorganized is a weakness which can only be cured by starting to clean up your room or house, maintaining good hygiene with clean clothes, and scheduling your time by sleeping, eating, working, and relaxing at regular times during the day. In other words set up an orderly daily routine where your behavior becomes a daily predictable set of good orderly habits.

In almost anything that you set out to do you will be making some mistakes along the way so it is important if you can easily learn from your mistakes and not repeat the same mistake over and over again. If you are a quick learner then this is a definite strength. If you are a slow learner then this is a weakness and you should shy away from areas where an ability to change or adapt to change is important.

Another strength is relationship, communication, or interpersonal skills often called emotional intelligence which is important in managerial fields, family, friends, and acquaintances.  If you are an extrovert then that can be a strength but even introverts can have successful relationships with important humans in their life such as a boss, child, spouse, or close friend.

If you come from a large family and had many friends in school then that can be a world of interpersonal experience which will come in handy in a managerial role where you are managing many humans. Of course an ability to remember names relatively easily and little details about a human is also a vital skill or strength for a leadership position.

Communicating well is a strength which really only comes from practice. If you are socially shy and not very confident with humans then let others do most of the talking. Don’t be afraid to be a good listener and brave enough to ask good follow up questions relevant to the conversation. If you don’t have much to say then let others do most of the talking and stay engaged by asking a lot of relevant questions. Humans that talk about themselves and what they are doing will feel important and sense that you care about what they think and do and will respect your attitude if not your persona.

It is hard to be creative or analytical if you don’t know much about your subject matter with which you have had little personal experience. Creativity and analysis are advanced skills which you gain once you approach mastery in some area or field.

Then there are many jobs or skills where creativity is not that important. If you are a stock clerk or auto mechanic creativity is not as important as it is in being a web or dress designer. If you are learning new skills such as the use a power tool or learning to play basketball creativity is not important. If you enjoy trying something new and experimenting with things then a creative field may be something you should look into.

Weaknesses are not having integrity, not being organized, not being a good conversationalist, not being friendly, and not being competent. Fortunately you can work on these weaknesses and improve them with time, effort, and dedication. If your weakness is that you have a poor memory or are clutsy then unfortunately you will have to live with these weaknesses and chose a job where these are not severe handicaps and associate mostly with other humans who have poor memories or are clutsy.

If you want to improve one of the most important things is to begin setting short and long duration goals to achieve. It then becomes important to realistically assess your ability to reach these goals. The most tragic thing in life is to set such high and lofty goals for yourself and then realize through repeated dismal failures that you were just not talented enough or don’t have enough natural ability to reach them.

If you have a poor or average memory then don’t dream about becoming a celebrity, doctor, scientist, president, CEO, systems analyst, programmer, etc. where outstanding mental ability is a necessity. If you think that by hard work you can achieve anything you want to be then you will be severely disappointed or suffer from premature burnout if you try to push yourself much beyond your natural abilities.

The wise human makes a realistic appraisal of his or her brain power or natural abilities and makes them match the goals which they would like to achieve. If you have poor or average coordination or muscle memory then don’t dream of and try to become a sports superstar. You will fail miserably and live with bitter resentment the rest of your life.

For many skills that you want to improve it is usually a matter of working hard at it or spending a lot of time, energy, effort, and determination on it with practice and more practice until you reach the level of competence which you desire.

If you want to improve your personality or change your bad habits then that is one of the hardest things to do since you need self awareness, desire, courage, enthusiasm, planning, and doing. You will have to research and find out what bad and good habits are and which ones apply to you. Then you will have to determine which of your bad habits you want to eliminate or reduce considerably and replace with some of the good habits which you already have or would like to have.

You will need courage, enthusiasm, and a desire to set up a schedule for your good habits and then follow through with determined action on a daily or weekly basis. Of course it helps if you become aware of what your worst bad habits are and work on them first by replacing them with your best good habits first. Later you can concentrate on eliminating bad minor bad habits and introducing some new good habits which should help you to become a better human.

For self improvement to be successful you have to find out WHAT you want to improve and then determine HOW MUCH time, energy, effort, and money will go into the improvement based on a planned schedule. Following through with the planned schedule is the hardest part because it requires desire, courage, enthusiasm, and determination to achieve the plan. If you have the right attitude and a written down plan then doing it should be a lot easier to do.

Without self improvement an average life will probably remain rather mundane and even boring. If you improve then your life should get better in some small or big way. If you are burdened with many bad addictive habits such as severe drug use, alcoholism, gambling, pornography, promiscuity, hedonism or thrill seeking, then your life at some point may become a living hell.

I did not write this article for humans with bad severe addictive habits because if you have them then you really need real professional advice and action to rehabilitate yourself if rehabilitation is even possible.

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5 IMPORTANT THINGS TO IMPROVE IN YOUR LIFE!!!!!

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Improve yourself by learning new useful skills and knowledge, learning from smart humans, and learning as many useful truths or facts as you can.

Improve your relationships with others by selecting honest, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, and competent humans to be your friends and role models.

Improve your job or career by getting better at it or planning to switch to a better one.

Improve your attitude by considering each failure a learning experience, considering and savoring each success no matter how small as just one in a series of lifelong successes, and nurturing selfmotivation and selfcontrol with ongoing optimism on a daily basis if possible.

If married then improve your marriage by listening carefully, mutually caring what each other is thinking and doing, trying to avoid arguments and angry confrontations with calm discussions instead, and trying to raise educated, independent, socially competent offspring.

If you improve any or all of the above five things then you will be a winner in the game of life more than once and have more successes and happiness than most.

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DO YOU DESIRE OR NEED SELF-IMPROVEMENT?

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Not all of us desire to improve ourselves. We may have a good job, good close friends, a nice family, and interesting pastimes which make our lives seem happy and fulfilling and relatively secure.

For every successful happy human there are probably 9 who WISH that they had a better or more secure job, who would like a quality friendship, who would like to have a nice family someday, and who would like to participate in interesting pastimes if only they had the money.

Having a “normal” acceptable social lifestyle requires investing much time, energy, effort, and money on a daily basis and frankly most of us are trapped in our old habitual ways and are always short on cash so it seems to us that progress in our lives is almost impossible to achieve.

Most of our daily lives are filled with activity just trying to survive another day and few of us are not selfmotivated enough and know how to set aside the necessary time and money for improving ourselves and improving our surroundings.

With the internet, living life can be very cheap and entertaining without having to participate in the “rat” race of struggling to survive in a technological changing world which is creating fear, dissatisfaction, depression, and financial instability in many common humans.

Make enough money in a poor paying job or get on welfare and surf the world on the internet getting all the entertainment and marginal friends that you have time for! If you are basically a lazy unmotivated human, and don’t mind remaining single, then a computer lifestyle, eating healthy food, and exercising moderately is not a horrifying way to spend a lifetime!

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It will hopefully make your life more happy and fulfilled and not as boring.

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4 REASONS YOUR BRAIN AND BODY WANTS TO STAY WITH BAD HABITS

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Your impulsive unconscious self frequently overrules your conscious future projection of self:

You may consciously know that you have to study to get a good grade tomorrow but you stay up later than usual watching a good movie first before starting to study. You know that you should eat healthier but if presented with chocolate or a favorite sugary treat then you will probably eat it without a second thought. Immediate impulsive actions which are bad habits frequently overrule any good habits which you are consciously planning to switch to in the future. Procrastination is also impulsive bad habits which most of us constantly struggle with and delay good conscious behavior.

Many neophyte bloggers without a previous history of disciplined writing start off with a handful of articles and that is as far as most of them get. All their great blogging plans fail and they revert back to their impulsive selves.

 

A bad habit can take as long as 10 weeks of conscious effort to stop:

A bad habit is an addiction which your body prefers because it is the most efficient way to deal with life which is in automatic mode. It can take as long as three months of conscious effort to replace an inactive lifestyle with an exercise routine each day or every other day. So many humans have tried joining a gym or a health club filled with initial ambition and good thoughts and much before the three months are up have reverted back to their inactive former selves and don’t attend.

A body with automatic motions and/or inactivity tends to stay in old automatic motions and/or inactivities.

 

Willpower frequently is a limited resource:

It has been scientifically shown that willpower decreases with each application. This basically says that staying motivated for repetitive tasks becomes more difficult the more of the tasks that we do.  Willing your body to do something is forcing it to do something which is something your body does not like to prolong. Forcing or willing yourself to do a new behavior on your own is more difficult than having a personal trainer or coach motivating you to do a new behavior.

Other humans who motivate and other humans who participate in behavior modification with you can produce better results than you trying to modify your behavior on your own without external motivators.

 

Selfindulgence rather than selfimprovement is what your body subconsciously wants and it can even be failure that your mind wants:

If you have a bad habit of failing much your body and mind adjusts to the failure and effectively tries to stop trying to improve. You may make up excuses for your failure or start to accept it as a fact of life and not motivate yourself towards any future improvement.

Staying unemployed or not making advances toward the opposite sex because of a fear of failure or a subconscious feeling of imminent failure is what keeps many humans from improving themselves consciously.  Your body has a tendency to accept things as they are rather than fight for the way things ought to be in your idealized mind and body.

 

CONCLUSION:

Your body is subconsciously addicted to and loves your bad habits and will hold on to them tenaciously. Only a fear of imminent death is sometimes what will motivate you long enough to quit very bad addictive habits such as smoking, drug use, alcohol, and severe obesity.

Changing bad habits on your own is almost infinitely more difficult than finding some continuing motivational support from another human or humans.

 

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